Does anyone else feel that if you were born in a different generation, or different part of the Earth you'd be happier and have more excitement in life? Edit 3 years later 2020! Since making this comment I have learned that you have to make the best of ANY situation you’re in, we are here for a reason. So find a higher purpose and you’ll never be lonely

the fact that 1,200 people liked this video makes me feel a little less lonely and more connected with you guys.

It's hard bc in school you see everyone having fun and being happy while you stand aside its rlly hard

the comment section made me feel like i have 2000 friends. thank you, i hope you all find happiness soon.

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy;)...And never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.

I get jealous when people say they went to eat/movies with a group of friends bc I wish I was too. Or at least find one true friend where we match. I'm not looking for a lover. But I do thank you for the video bc a big part has to do with the negative thoughts about myself :(

I wish parents were this compassionate.

why do these type of kind hearted people which I can see in comment session never met me in real life 😥

I have really struggled with loneliness ever since primary school, and as I got to my early 20's its got so bad, because I don't have friends or a partner, its really effected my life and I've bee to counselling so many times and spoken to people and Its just got to a point I felt so tortured inside because no one understands, but this video is literally how my mind works, FINALLY someone understands, and it gave me a reality check and literally changed my life. thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.

I dont know what my problem is im just tired of living

It's hard being single when everyone has someone one but you

I am incredibly proud of everyone in the comment section just for being brave and vulnerable. It’s a beautiful thing to see humanity in this light. I’m struggling to let go of so much pain from being in abusive relationships, friends that just ask to borrow money, my family not being healthy and me knowing the best thing to do is be alone but its hard and makes me sad. I cant stop trying though I’m just hoping one day I can be happy and at peace.

When you have this feeling like you've lost everything, here's what you'll always have : - Books - Kindness from strangers - Languages to learn - Music - Animals to pet - Voluntary work - Good nights of sleep - Season changes - Endless new things to learn - Thousands of people to meet and love - Thousands of people who'll love you back.

I came here from typing "lonely" because yeah I AM lonely. I've been struggling with it since I was a kid. I do have several friends but most of them changed because they have found new friends which are more likely to give happiness more than I do. It's not that they forget about me but still, they made progress in their life while I'm still stuck in the same spot. I feel like I am left behind. I think that's what makes me lonely. It's so painful even more because nobody can understand this feeling. But after seeing this video (actually reading the comments) I feel better and not to miserable. I know I just have to try more. It's hard but I hope one day I can be successful. Anyway thanks :):):)

I don‘t know how many times i‘ve watched this video... whenever I feel lonely I watch this video and then feel better and when the loneliness comes back I watch it again

I feel tortured by my presence

not having people around you makes you feel like you're unworthy of being loved. feeling loved makes you happy.

I just want to say to all the people who feel the same, I give you a huge hug. You are not broken ♥ I've always felt lonely... it's really horrible esp when you have depression and anxiety. But I promise you're not alone, you're not 'pathetic' and it's not your fault to be feeling this way. You are not alive to only feel like you're loved by a lot of people. You are the only one you have, so start by feeling comfortable with yourself and you'll start building more relationships as time passes. good luck

I’m just wasting so much of the prime of my life because I can’t make any real connections with the people around me.

You don"t know what what loneliness is. It's very real. I was married for 30 years when my partner suddenly left the marriage. I been alone for 8 years now. Have no family or friends. The loneliness I feel everyday. Loneliness is very overwhelming.

You have a hypnotic calmness in your voice, expressions, body language... I don't know whether its temporary or permanent BUT I am feeling better after watching this video... and for that THANK YOU! ........

I'm mentally incapable of being happy while alone. I absolutely believe life isn't worth much to me if it isn't spent with good company.

Not lonely anymore since watching your videos Noah.

I'm not lonely but I feel lonely and I feel like nobody cares

Noah Elkrief. Your rational thinking is simple, precious and unique. Most of us look far away while they can't see what is in between their legs. Honestly ur videos worth billions of dollars.

Thank u so much... I spent almost 15 yrs of my life being alone... The fact that I started living with the loneliness and I even enjoyed that.... But when she came to my life I felt like I can live a life with someone and I cant be alone anymore and now when she has left me. its very difficult for me to concentrate on everything and I am feeling like I cant live a life alone any more. But thanks to U that U have just showed me the way to live again and I dont need anyone to be happy... Seems like I m born to be alone..... I just have to accept it again that I can be happy even without having a love interest in my life.... Thank u so much... I am feeling better now....

I have friends but I'm alone most the time and I feel like that's what gets me. I feel like no one would blink if I died tomorrow, no one would visit me if I was in a coma. I feel like everyone would forget me or never recognize me. I also realized that I don't love anything or anyone and I want Someone to Chang that.....

This is one of the best videos I think I’ve ever watched in my whole entire life. The immediate relief of sadness is indescribable. I just woke up and not feeling great at all just laying here silently with tears heavily flowing out of my eyes down my face and all over my pillow. I really am not up for today. No one’s knows because I NEVER ever talk about it I’m busy making sure I’m a positive person at all times. I’m sort of relieved now. I will watch this every morning …and while I’m My daily walk. I’m about to go head on my walk . I’m going to go head on my walk now. Thank you. I hope everyone here Finds peace . We ALL deserve it and will be at peace one day. ❤️

Almost started crying when listening to this... This calm and friendly voice and that friendly caring face saying words of wisdom... thank you for this video, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I feel very lonely too. I've locked myself up in a room for almost a week untill today I finally found the courage to go out for a walk in the city. One of the first things I noticed was there were others sitting alone on benches, terraces, etc... It made me feel a little bit less lonely and more at ease with myself in less then 30 minutes. The sun was shining, so that felt good too. I kept walking and tried to force myself to smile at other people, make eye contact, or just say hello to someone. But I couldn't do it because I have so much social anxiety and low self esteem and I couldnt look at other people's eyes for over a second. Plus most of them just avoided eye contact. But then something weird happened. All of a sudden, out of all those people walking around in this shopping street, this older women which I had never even seen coming, stops me dead in my tracks in front of me and she says 'hello'. So I'm like, euh... yeah? hello...and I smile at her. She smiles back at me and walks away and that was that. Then this wave of pure happiness came over me. Somehow that 2-3 second event completely made my day. Out of all those people out there this women picked me out to say 'hello' to. It's hard to describe what I felt next, but it almost felt like God does exist, and he saw how I was struggling with my loneliness and he sent her my way to acknowledge me.

Noah - Your videos have opened up my mind in a way that no therapy or medication ever has. I'm blown away at how powerful and effective what you are saying has been for me. Thank you so much!

When I went to 6th grade I felt loneliness because my friends would always do stuff without me and I would find out from social media.i would just stay at home crying my eyes out.I'm still doing this to this day.😰😭

his voice feels healing and calming...so steady and assuring.

In my view, this is the most insightful and helpful video anywhere on KZfaq. I purchased Noah's book and it resonates personally with how I think -- or overthink things, especially in the area of loneliness. I now spend part of every day reading Noah's writings and watching his videos. He is a gentle genius who knows exactly what to say to help you.

If your reading this. You are loved. You are of value. May god bless you

I think I'm depressed,and all I wAnt in life is freedom(not suicide) I want to go on long walks outside maybe at evening or go expire because it makes me happy but I can't,then I get pushed back to being lonely and depressed I'm stuck in an endless cycle and all I want to do is be saved......i have been fighting for years and I'm still trying,it's hard...i just want be saved

Just want to come in here and say after watching the video I felt like he was speaking directly to me because I have always dealt with negative thoughts about myself. 2020 has been one hell of a year for us all. For me personally my wife decided to separate after 16 years of being together we were high school sweethearts and for the first time in my life at 33 I'm having to navigate life without a partner. It is videos like this that give me hope! To everyone out there I want to say you may be alone such as I but we are not alone in this struggle of life, May we find peace and happiness!

Noah is BRILLIANT! Clarification is effective! All I can say is, “Thank you for helping me in such a significant way!”

everyone yearns to have someone to share their life with them. I feel moments are incomplete because I have no one share them with, it's an unfulfilled moment.

I wish I could be a child again

74 videos in a nutshell: Don't believe your thoughts.

I am a "loner." I enjoy solitude. I recently decided that anxiety (fear) about certain situations was boring me to death. (It's like a friend who continually tells the same story.) You have helped me immensely, young man. Thank you.

my husband left, I am now disabled with an inoperable tumor in my brain, and left to raise my son, my only child, by myself while I try to live with my parents whom I really despise but try to hide that every day. But this morning I didn't burn the house down so that's good. "those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength" - #hisnameisYehoVAH

I enjoy being alone most of the time.

Wow you are opening my eyes THANK YOU

All i want is to have a lot of quality people around me all the time. There is so much potential for me in life which never ends up happening and coming through due to things i can't control. The thing is the reason i have no real friends or anyone to hang out with is because of external problems like other people themselves creating problems that don't allow for fun, happy and good things to happen to me. If it was my fault, i would know. I am literally finding anything i can blame myself for by being open minded and logical. Which i can't cause to it makes no sense to and doesn't add up in my situations. I see all these people that do bad in life and they get everything they want and things that i can only imagine of getting. While i try to be the best version of me and get bullshit handed to me when its not my fault. Life is unfair, it feels like im born to loose..

I reached the point of going to KZfaq for the answers

I'd give you a big hug if I could, Noah. First you calmed me when I was feeling extreme anxiety about a new job, and now you've helped me understand the feeling of loneliness that I've had for the past 13 years, since graduating high school. Thank you so much.

I am so damaged that when someone treats me nice. I dont know what to do. I love this video. One in a kind

I was recently diagnosed with perniosis and my girlfriend left me. I dont have any real friends and im extremely depressed, i wake up everyday with my hands and feet turning purple and it is very painful. But i would overcome the pain to just type in Noah Elkrief because truthfully these videos are SO helpful, and they make me feel alot better about myself. thank you noah your such a great person.

This video is literally the most realistic advice on loneliness I have seen on youtube.

When you become ill and you are alone, it is pretty scary though, so they can make you feel more secure. I've been pretty sick this last week and it is very hard when there is no one to help you.

God Bless you Noah, thank you so much for posting this video. I cried hard in the beginning because everything you said was so true and so relatable to how I feel. I never thought of it that way that friends can't make you happy, it's all from thoughts, it's so true. I'll be sure to watch your other videos as well, you seem like a very knowledgeable person thank you.

I have a lot of friends and a supportive family, but i don’t have someone I can call just to talk or to hang out with or do homework with. I feel like the loneliest person in the world.

To the end of the video I started to cry.. from feeling happy ant that I’m not alone.. Huge thanks for this video!

I`ve been alone for 3 years. I'm 26 now. Up until recently I would have someone to talk to, and occationaly do stuff with, but most of my time I was alone. Now however, I for some reason took a job as a night guard in a remote place. Had no other options. And I've never been this lonely. I've been social outside of work only 1 time, and some guy took me to a concert for the night. It wasn't that social cause it was overcrowded and I was standing in one place just listening to music. Other than that I only speak cassualy (not work related) with 1 or two guys who work as a guard during the weekends when our bars are open until 02am. But that's only about 1 hour combined on friday and saturday. Rest of the time I'm on my own. I'm getting depressed, and I realy realy need someone to talk to. For a moment I met a nice girl on-line and we could talk about anything, eventualy sending eachother pictures of ourselves and showing interest in one another. However, after she quit her job as a bartender to pursue her dreams, she hasn't been able to stay up for as long, so the ammount we talk now is bare minimum, and the conversations has gone from "oh my god I want to meet you" - to show lack of interest and just empty talks most of the time. That's sad, cause when we were talking I forgot all about my lonelyness. Now that we don't get to talk as much, it's all coming back. Just getting someone to talk to on a regular basis makes a world of difference for me, so I've been looking through the internet hoping to find someone like her again (we are as mentioned still talking though), but the internet is full of trolls. Therefore I was thinking that the people who can relate, are looking up videos like this. So. Anyone want to talk with me?

i love how u make me feel. thank you so much for existing

I don't have friends, man. I don't know, but the people look at me and simply create an antipathy. It's something like a preconception against me. Even when I smile. This make me so bad

Noah your all logics have power that make me so lighted and happy. You are genuine presenter. I love you!

One of the smartest approaches to loneliness, thank you for sharing... I feel every year so lonely and sad on the new year when you supposed to celebrate with friends...

This was a beautiful reminder to love myself. Your voice is also so calming and friendly. Thank you, I needed this right now. :)

simply thanks for being so postive and sharing it with others

This video almost made me cry. It hit so many things I've never been able to explain to people. I feel a weird sense of relief I haven't had before with this way of thinking.

Such a powerful and helpful video! ❤️ Thank you. That's basically what I've been talking about on my therapy, that it's not the situation that makes me feel a certain way, it's the thoughts I have and my reaction to them. I had a hard time today, forgot about everything I've learned, but you helped me to remember and notice how much I still have to learn! 💜

I'm glad I found this video again.... Ty

This video really helped me to understand what my problem is. Thank you so much

Noah, you have a great message and a compassionate delivery. Great food for thought. Wished I could afford your sessions. Keep up your positive contribution!

I love being alone but lately I’ve feeling bored and empty. I feel isolated and disconnected and I lost my Mom a little over a year ago and I also don’t have a vehicle at this time. I believe to a large extent what you are saying, however I do not deny that people and relationships with others as well as involved belonging and participation makes a HUGE difference in our day to day happiness. Thank you for all your help and thank you for understanding. God bless you!!! ❤

This was really uplifting and just what I needed to hear right now! Thank you for this wonderful video

wow this was on point

Thank you so much for this Noel!!! As you put in so succinctly, the solution isn't what the brain and society tells us. Solution is the error in our thinking and judgement. This was so insightful and helpful. I, too was thinking I needed to seek others to handle feeling loneliness, but became more clearer, that was actually causing more sense of loneliness. This is much appreciated.

This video is by far THE BEST VIDEO I have watched on this topic and I have watched dozens!!! Your seemingly genuine demeanor and delivery is very comforting !!!

your words are so conforting...

Really good , powerful n great messages!! Thx 1000 times

ALWAYS BE BUSY,NO TIME FOR FRIEND,IT THE BEST MEDICINE.

Rewatching a lot of your old videos and they are really helping me once again. Thank you for your journey and sharing the things that you have discovered along the way.

When I’m in class a girl always cries everybody goes up to her but when I’m upset nobody comes up to me as I think there my friend, I feel lonely

Despite having a loving partner, I still feel very much alone. I cried throughout this whole video. I am even more alone now that I am in a relationship, I worry if he is cheating on me, I am more body conscious, I have self esteem issues. It's not his fault, it's mine. Insecurity and jealously rule my life

You're helping a lot of people think correctly and maybe saving lives. Thank You!

Wow you hit it square on the head. I'm 57 years old and I've been suffering this my whole life. I wish somebody would've explained this to me back then. Thank God for KZfaq and the sharing of intelligence around the world. What a difference you're making for me and millions others,thank you so much. Thanks to you I can go forward and have a wonderful life, because I do love myself, I just want to share life with others. But life also is what it is and we must except what we get, but just not take it personally if we are doing everything in our power to be our best.

All your videos have helped me tremendously

Im lonely because im a truck driver and ive always had this deep desire to travel and i think about that constantly. Im married. We cant have kids. She controls all the money. I cant even buy a new toothbrush without begging for my own money. I feel like we grow more distant everyday. I use to wake up and go to bed with a text message from my wife. But now i hardly ever hear from her. My family never calls me so much so that i dont even have half of them in my phone contacts. Im a quadruplet. I lived in the same room as my 3 brothers until i was 18. We were close. As close as twins who finish each others sentences. But I became a truck driver to explore america. But all ive really ever wanted to do is grab a backpack a few small things necessary to survival and backpack across america become a true explorer of everything life has to offer But society says no! You must work! Live in a house! Raise a family! Your crazy to offer such notions. My wife thinks im crazy to. Is it so wrong that the idea of being a traveler taking odd jobs meeting new people learning their life stories discovering new things and Living off nothing is all i think about? Is there anyone like me? Am i all alone in this? Am i the only one that thinks when something bad happens and you overcome it that that is the best kind of memory? That to truly appreciate the world you must know what having nothing feels like? To travel see beautiful scenery up close and personal is to immerse yourself in the spirit of Gods green earth? To learn everything about a complete stranger on the sidewalk understand how they think, feel what they feel, see the world from their eyes is to know life? Everyone ive ever told this to thinks im insane. And maybe i am. But there has to be one person who feels how i feel. Thanks for letting me get that out internet.

This video helped me. It opened my eyes to my own feelings. I realize now that all this worry and loneliness i've been experiencing, is absolutely made up inside my head and not real life. Thank you for this! This video literally opened my mind immediately. It's insane how this helped me.

This video has given me hope for a better, brighter and happier future! Thanks for uploading this!

Skip to 15:50 for anyone that needs help and cant sit through all the blah blah and wants to know what his solution is, I grew very impatient watching this video waiting for the answer

It was so inspirative session.Thank you so much sir.feeing positive. So much relief also. God Bless 😍

The mind controls the entire body in a spectacular way. What a marvellous organ, a superve machine. Am grateful that there are people out there that help others understand how thoughts work and transform our daily lives. May God bless you Mr. Elkrief. Thanks for helping us remember how special and important we all are... thoughts are just thoughts

this helped me remove my misinterpretation of reality and so remove my loneliness, thank you for making this video!

loneliness is miserable. im lonely most of the time. no friends, no spouse. no human contact -my answer is " i want my girlfriend back" that wont ever happen. i want option 3... friends, romantic partner and no loneliness. right now, i feel lonely all the time. i cant distract myself from these thoughts

If i could have this guy talk me trough situations on a everyday basis, i would be so happy with my self

It is amazing what happens when you hear the right words at the right time. I have only just found this video but it was enlightening and exactly what i needed to gain a new perspective. Thankyou Noah.

Thank you Noah for your arc that is saving the earth's inhabitants that are drowning in a sea of lonely feelings.

Man this message was right on time...I love the internet. You didn't mention god, nor did you mention the myth of everyone having these so call friends we can depend on.

I don't want to die alone. I mean, it is good if you stop torturing yourself with thoughts, but living all the time alone is just sad. At least for me.

Hello Sir, Your amazing thoughts came as silver lining for me when I really needed it the most. I am thankful from the bottom of my heart.

Thank you. You have no idea how much I needed this.

But I feel like I don't feel bad sometimes because I'm simply distracting myself from the fact that I'm alone. Whenever my brother goes out with his friends, I get sad because I realize that I want that. I'm tired of distracting myself constantly to avoid the truth. You say "some moments" you don't feel alone, that's true but that's really like for an hour or two every week. I often cry myself to sleep because I realize that I don't have friends and that I can't connect with other people. Does anybody else feel like this?

im always feeling lonely i just carry on life with it

I love listening to you! Your voice and manner are very soothing, and you have great questions and ideas. I am actively in the process of awakening form all the incorrect thoughts I took on growing up, and it is always good to hear someone else questioning them too! Thank you!

I cant believe you can explain this, this well. Youre definitely one of the best relationship dudes on youtube.