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How to Artfully GIVE HER SPACE in a Relationship (GET HER BACK)
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@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
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@zozoperry4220 3 жыл бұрын
Wow as we speak im going through this and married i havent enter the house for three weeks i do see the kids but she still holds a grude n anger.
@zozoperry4220 3 жыл бұрын
Hey at the end of the day,,,,,ARE U DOWN...REMEMBER ME....
@_Hunar_ 3 жыл бұрын
I'm in a long distance relationship. We've known each other for 12 years. I'm scared some guy might hit on her because she is so vulnerable and feels alone as I cannot cime meet her. I'm scared to loose her. I am highly talking in terms of emotionally as she feels like there is no hope of us meeting any time soon.
@NewEnglandGaming413 3 жыл бұрын
I'm in this situation, i knew I loved her before, but I didnt realize just how much till she was gone, we didnt specifically say it's a break but we didnt end on a bad note, she has depression and bi polar, I'm serious when I say our relationship could not have been better, we have never even had a fight or called each other a bad name, last week her dad was arrested and she cares about him alot, I asked to see her and she said she needed time to process things, that's when the calls and text slowed, her mood towards me got more dull, and she didnt wanna make any more plans to hang out, then after a week of that she said she doesn't wanna be in a relationship, she had a really tough time saying it tho, I could tell it hurt her to do, she said she wants Space, over the past 6 days iv tried to but a few times iv failed, trying to start conversations or asking her meme how shes doing, her birthday is in 2 days and yesterday I drove over and dropped off gifts outside and left, I know I invaded her space when I did those things but trying to not talk to someone who you love so much and had such a amazing relationship with hurts, shes left me on read but still opened the few text I did send, did I ruin it, can I fix this, I'm scared she won't come back. Iv decided tomorrow I send a video stating happy birthday and apologizing for me failing to give space, saying I need to do better and I will do better. And that I love her and always have, I always will, if you see this and have advice it would be much appreciated, any questions about the situation that would help just ask
@beyondmindsprison 3 жыл бұрын
What if I am out of the house? How do I get the trust to get back in there together?
@connerowens8831 4 жыл бұрын
You’re saving me from anxiety attacks, I’m in this situation and it’s really hard. Thank you for giving me hope.
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
No problem man. Thanks for taking the time to let me know this :)
@Jocoseman 4 жыл бұрын
Same boat, felt like my world was ending when my girlfriend of 4 years asked for space. She doesn't want me to contact her for like 3 weeks (which includes our upcoming anniversary). I even got physically ill for a bit after hearing her ask for this, but watching your videos has really put me at ease and helped me to see things differently.
@BARRYCARRY 4 жыл бұрын
Jocoseman did u get her back bro ?
@anthonyaaron4332 4 жыл бұрын
Any update on your situation???
@trentc4576 4 жыл бұрын
@@Jocoseman how are things working out?
@alexukzx 10 ай бұрын
thanks bro, my girl asked for space just a week ago, and i’ve given her that space, and she’s already starting to come back, initiating conversation out of no where, asking to play games together online. it was a rough week but it was eye opening and helped me improve myself and habits
@noahmoreno1301 4 ай бұрын
Mine is doing the same thing I we got into it, I said some mean stuff and we had been arguing all last week and as of Friday she’s wanted space, hasn’t talked to me, blocked me on social media and just keeps saying she wants space. Tbh idk if she’ll come back but I’m just gonna trust that if I give it time and improve myself I’m hoping she’ll come back.
@juanyanez755 4 ай бұрын
I wish mine was diong that
@morlockk 9 күн бұрын
@@noahmoreno1301 what happened?
@debbiethompsoncoaching 4 жыл бұрын
As a woman, I can vouch for these being the right things to do! I know that out of fear it's natural to want to grasp harder when someone wants space, but either way she's gonna get her space even if that means leaving you for good. When you give her space as she needs it (maybe she's just introverted!), she learns that you are respecting her needs, preferences, and wants.
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Yes! Appreciate you watching and commenting!
@jjn411 3 жыл бұрын
How long after she says she needs space should I just reach out her to let her know that I’m thinking about her
@tonykrohn717 3 жыл бұрын
John Neely I’m in the same boat
@imkrispi9616 3 жыл бұрын
John Neely same here
@debbiethompsoncoaching 3 жыл бұрын
@@jjn411 I'm not the expert but my thoughts are: 1. When she's first telling you she wants space, you can ask & listen carefully to why she says she needs it (is it about you at all or is it something she's personally going through that has nothing to do with you). 2. Ask, listen to and talk about the type of contact she is ok with. Does she literally want none or just a decrease or different type? 3. If she's asking for no contact at all for awhile, you can let her know that you respect this & her boundaries completely because you care about her, and you'd like to know now if she would like to be the one to reach back out when she's ready or if she'd be ok if you check in with her in a few weeks? Or some other amount of time?
@acutiff7125 2 жыл бұрын
As a woman, I like this guy. He gives really solid advice. Every video I have watched of his I thought to myself “yup, that would work on me.” I like that he actually encourages men to actually fix the problem rather than manipulating.
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Keen Escapes, What I teach is something that we all want and desire on a very basic human level. So this content applies to all people. Thank you for your support.
@noland3147 7 күн бұрын
Why do men always have to fix relationships😂
@rramanauthor2992 4 жыл бұрын
there must be so many people in this situation. thank you for sharing this with other people!
@borissanam9940 3 жыл бұрын
Hope this turns things around for me I really love my girlfriend with everything in me
@demetriuswilliams7166 9 ай бұрын
Man your videos helped me realize that I was the issue the whole time me and my wife been separated for 3 months and I’m blessed to still have her in my life because we share 2 beautiful kids so we still work as a team at first I was coming at the situation with anger,frustration,desperation,and confusion but watching and learning from your videos made me realize that I’m destroying a good thing and now we are reconnecting stronger than ever and we are not rushing to bring our all back to the relationship because remaining best friends plants seeds that will eventually blossom
@michaelshatto4078 2 жыл бұрын
This video changed a lot for me. I'm currently in a seperation and have massive anxiety. This video gave me hope and allowed me to calm myself and be patient. So far it's working. Thank you so much!
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 жыл бұрын
Love it Michael! What did you find to be most eye-opening about this topic?
@TheChrisHobsonProject Жыл бұрын
Did it work? I'm going through this right now man..
@thestartupguy3975 9 ай бұрын
@@TheChrisHobsonProjectme too bro. any luck? i just feel so alone
@TheChrisHobsonProject 9 ай бұрын
@@thestartupguy3975 unfortunately not mate, turns out she was a bit of a narcissist and not the person I thought she was, true colors and all that. Hope you do well though and hope your outcome is different to mine
@Dylmark 2 жыл бұрын
I was super anxious/depressed the first few weeks. But I got my bearings and I’m good, nothing to worry about. Stay strong boys and girls
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 жыл бұрын
Love it Dyln. Check out this video too if you have not already. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/grFgmq1o1KzHmXk.html
@rosettagrows3315 4 жыл бұрын
Yes! So good. It's definitely important to have space. No one wants to be suffocated. Plus, I think it makes people more interesting!
@malibongweduma6883 4 жыл бұрын
We’ve been together for almost 3 years and she said she wanted space. She said she had mentally already told herself she wanted space in the relationship but just couldn’t vocalize it to me. I started to see her detaching and sharing less with me. We have a small 6 month year old daughter and that was one of the biggest things I feared. Losing her and the relationship with my daughter but I realized we both needed space before we completely lost for each other. I’ve already seen what I need to work on on myself. I fear her moving on for good and getting with someone else but that’s just life indeed. We win some, you lose some.
@lorrainystef8661 3 жыл бұрын
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@magaleans Жыл бұрын
Hey friend, how are u? How is that situation going?
@ubee959 Жыл бұрын
she cheating.
@robbieakroman2448 Жыл бұрын
"Biggest things I feared". Dude, no one accompanied by insecure, condependent, and low-esteem individual. You abuse her. You are not afraid of losing her. You afraid you're not good enough for her. Thus, you act clingy, needy and condependent. You even fear of her moving on beside all of this. Therapy can help
@Catholicways 3 жыл бұрын
This is gold!!! This is helping me alot through this hard time. In my circumstances, the roles are reversed. My husband needs space, and all your advice to men is literally the same things I need to hear.
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 жыл бұрын
Awesome! Yes -- this applies to both men and women!
@michaelvargas82 3 жыл бұрын
The best video on KZfaq that describes what to do when your partner asks for space. It is her choice and only her choice. Respect her by giving her the space she wants and needs.
@danielkallsen2023 Жыл бұрын
Really helped my state of mind. My girlfriend of 2 years had some really bad things happen in 2022 (death of a friend and pet, laid off of a job). I wanted to be there for her but she needed space to figure herself out again, she felt that she could not be a girlfriend. I left a door open to her and agreed to work on my own life for a bit. It has been hard without her but this gives me hope that she can find her way back to a good state of mind and that I did what I could to be supportive and respectful. Thank you Geoffrey!
@joeysauce Жыл бұрын
Awesome. How's it going so far?
@kris13iam 25 күн бұрын
@@joeysauce his silence says it all
@heinhtet8956 3 жыл бұрын
you are my hero. you calm my emotion down. Before watching your videos, I was pissed. "How could this happen to me! I gave her everything". now I understand. Any woman would be lucky to have you haha
@thor_the_defender 2 жыл бұрын
I've been watching and re-watching all your videos, its definitely been a long 6 weeks since my wife asked me for a divorce and kicked me out the house. But in the last 4 weeks she went from zero contact to sending me small messages (mainly about our son) and wanting to be friendly. She currently says we will never have a "marriage relationship" but also saying we could build a friendship. This has definitely been hard for me, but has allowed me to see all the things I've done almost to a T and learn how they hurt us and learn what i need to do to better myself. Thank you soooo much for making these videos.
@_multiverse_ Жыл бұрын
Hearing that is heartbreaking, but its best for your son to rebuild somewhat of a relationship for the good of your son. I grew up with a mother and father who hated eachother and it scarred me emotionally, this being the main reason I lost my partner of 6 years.
@ryanmedows6072 11 ай бұрын
Update
@carlhansen4837 Жыл бұрын
this is gold. I battle with this. I fear rejection and overthink changes in her behaviour
@IntentionalMarriages 4 жыл бұрын
The best thing I've learned is for the couple to (pre)agree when one person needs a "timeout" is to agree on the space and time alone. Looking forward to your masterclass. Congratulations!
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Good to see you here Danielle! So honored to host you for my masterclass!
@Blamjack Жыл бұрын
I'm always skeptical about these types of videos but I'm thoroughly and pleasantly surprised by how mature and down to earth all of this advice is. It feels natural and reasonable to do this, thank you for your work and free advice!
@UCVoltageNumber3 3 жыл бұрын
Going through this right now, and want to thank you Geoffrey Setiawan. I do have so much to work on for myself and she, I don't want to make her feel the way living with me has made her feel anymore. I will use this time to focus on myself and no matter what, I will be a better person on the other end.
@deathscythe213 3 жыл бұрын
your not alone man im also going thru this right now
@magaleans Жыл бұрын
Hey bro, how is it going?
@joshjones1628 Жыл бұрын
My wife decided that she was moving out, and suggested divorce, I’ve been praying that me giving her space, and the time to heal, and working on myself will be enough for her to see I’m capable of being the man she wants. I wish I could’ve found you before I made some of the mistakes you talk about in other videos. I pray I can find a way to save my marriage…
@tb87670 Жыл бұрын
How is it going?
@TheresaTruong 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing! Don't invite me back to a house that isn't decorated, great analogy.
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
#SayNoToUglyHouses :D
@vaporwave2345 4 жыл бұрын
For me, the fear is definitely that if she slipped away, all our years together would become wasted time and bad memories.
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
That's the fear A LOT of people have!
@Eric-ps5un 3 жыл бұрын
If you stay for the wrong reasons, it will be more wasted time and bad memories.
@moneauxje 2 ай бұрын
I’m trying to give her space, it’s just so hard. Love this woman so much, I did hurt her in the past, but it was never intentional and we weren’t seriously together then, but I know she’s the one.
@luisescobar2367 2 жыл бұрын
I wish I saw this video sooner. 😔First off, I was the one that broke up with her in the heat of the moment (I'm working on myself). I tried to get her back and she said she needed space. I was calm and good for a few days, but then started the typical begging and pleading. Gave her space again after that for like a week in the meantime started seeing a therapist and reading books. I was so excited about what I was learning and uncovering that I hit her up again, with many texts about how I feel we could approach our problems mixed with saying how much I loved her and would do anything for her. She appreciated that Im working on myself, but still wanted space. Her last message in response included "I hope you continue to find insight and happiness. I need to respectfully ask you to limit these texts." I took that as she was saying it's over over and responded with a very loving farewell message. I'm not sure I made a mistake in doing that, but I know I need to give her space for a long while regardless. Her birthday is also this weekend and I had already ordered her 2 arrangements of flowers to be delivered to her mom's where she's staying! Geoffrey, please help!
@paulopimpao3309 6 күн бұрын
bro, I know its hard, but you are literally pushing her away
@leilaricciardo 4 жыл бұрын
As a woman I can say that this advice is very good! Great video
@arechiga08 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! We’ve done this before I watched this video. I cannot emphasize enough how much I appreciate your reinforcement of my choices. The healing process is going to be much better and greater now thanks to you!
@TonysSauceYT 2 жыл бұрын
I sent a text similar to what you said, put some different words into it & it took forever for it to deliver. My heart dropped because I thought she had blocked my number. I'm not going to to say anything else but that message, I'm still giving her her space. It's getting so much easier to to do so, thank you so much!
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 жыл бұрын
Great, keep watching and keep learning. Make sure you are applying what you have learned and would like to invite you to come join me in my free 90 min master class to learn even more. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
@LostWithinOfficial 4 жыл бұрын
I have absolutely no idea if what you're saying in your videos will help my current situation, but I have to say: I cannot remember a time in my life where I've had my way of looking at things changed so massively, and in such a short time. I'm sure there are plenty of others who have said what you've said. But the way you articulate things just resonates with me. I will definitely be better equipped for the future. Thank you so much!
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Haha awesome! Let me know how I can be help further!
@jayaurban3165 3 жыл бұрын
For me giving my wife the space she's asking for the fear I have is her finding out that she can live life without me. That she can do everything that needs to be done without the burden of me. For 3 years I begged my wife what was wrong I beg her to tell me what was wrong all she said was I don't know she was pushing me away and so finally I stepped away and then she told me she wanted a divorce we avoided the divorce but I'm terrified of the space she's asking for
@SocialConfidenceMastery 4 жыл бұрын
Creating space is so important for a relationship to thrive!
@Cuebix 3 жыл бұрын
Great advice, I read self building books over a week and told her I’ve enjoyed our time together and all the best for the future. She said that I sounded like was over her already. Indifference for me has switched everything up.
@randymartosoewito7892 Жыл бұрын
These videos are needed even when you are in a healthy relationship. My gf just broke up after a 9 year relationship, and if I found these vids when I was in a relationship I would not be single now. But I will try to get het back by giving her space
@GeoffreySetiawan Жыл бұрын
Exactly Randy, these skills I teach are the ones that are need to create and maintain a thriving relationship.
@StephanieKremic 4 жыл бұрын
Great video! The house analogy is terrific. Patience is key. you bring so much value to your viewers.
@tylerfunk8695 2 жыл бұрын
This really helped me… I’ve been so paranoid and on the verge of having an anxiety attack due to the space and the ultimate fear of losing her. I now know how to go about it when she does reach out me
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 жыл бұрын
Hey Tyler Funk, If you liked that one, then you will really enjoy this one. Let me know what you think. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/grFgmq1o1KzHmXk.html
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching folks! What did you find most helpful or insightful in this video? Leave a comment below!
@YKSOFG 4 жыл бұрын
The most helpful information I found was getting to understand what needs that I had to work on. On top of working on my own self confidence. Also like your thought ,trust in her that she will notice the change you have made.
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
@@YKSOFG Right on Jason!
@JMPImages 4 ай бұрын
After 15yrs together, my wife told me she misses and wants her freedom. That she no longer wants to compromise on her wants and desires, that she misses being able to make decisions without having to discuss it with anyone else. When we first got married, she also had a tough time with her "freedom" and she felt initial resentment about having to involve someone else in her life choices. Now, after a particularly trying day, she took a look at me during the drive home and asked herself, "Why am I doing this?" .. and my life has been in a downward spiral since.
@bhepp344 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the tips! I’m trying to get my marriage back. My issue is that our past keeps coming up and messing up our good times. She does not seem to want to work and move forward or let it go. I can’t change the past or erase it, sure wish I could! Now I’m giving her the space she asked for.
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
You got this!
@seanp2601 4 жыл бұрын
the fear is as you mentioned they don’t come back or that they come back and don’t give you the chance to express and show your changes
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
This fear will kill you and suggests you're not in the right frame of mind to actually reconcile in the first place.
@elchulo956 Ай бұрын
Lately she tells me she appreciates the changes I have made. She feels I am finally a good father and I am now a good friend and that’s all she ever wants to be.
@giochavez7212 4 жыл бұрын
The thing that scares me the most is when she eventually gets back to me she says she's thought about it and ending the relationship is her final decision. But hey, can't force anyone.
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
No decision is ever final. Even a "final" decision isn't final. I've seen a lot of couples reconcile after years of divorce. The reality is that when you become the person who she just cannot say "no" to, they cannot help but say yes. Of course, this is different if they quickly re-marry or get with someone else -- but if your changes are really that valuable, then you should have any difficulties creating a wonderful relationship with someone else. Either way, you have nothing to be afraid of if you genuinely better yourself.
@giochavez7212 4 жыл бұрын
@@GeoffreySetiawan I'm definitely bettering myself. I always told this girl no matter what happens I will always prosper no matter what. I have a prosperous business and I'm the leader. If I lead my team with positive energy and they see as always a man with a vision everyone there will be fine. It's been already five days since she asked for time and I bravely and gently said yes. I still can't understand why the time off when I've been for this girl through heaven and hell in her life. I was in Italy in January and she said she was feeling hungry, and all the way from over there I ordered what she wanted to eat. I always told her that I never mix my money with our relationship, but small details like that I'd do them all the time. I always called her, sent her beautiful messages every day -because I genuinely cared for her. Now I'm here every night heart broken because I cannot find a reason why this time off. It's so sad.
@giochavez7212 4 жыл бұрын
Update: To whoever reads this. Geoffrey, good video. The truth is, time-off, space, a break, it's a "softer" way of breaking up. Once someone says to give them time, it's all over, don't make yourself illusions people. The best thing that probably happened, and not too exciting whatsoever, is that one begins to love themselves a little more and finally opens their eyes to see wrong things the other person did. Not everyone screws things up, I didn't, so after beating myself emotionally came a day that I said enough. I was a very good man, and that will never change. I'll just fly away and prosper alone!
@stealthman6617 3 жыл бұрын
@@giochavez7212 so you are saying she didnt come back? Have you even spoken to her? if you have was she cordial or did she straight ghost you
@giochavez7212 3 жыл бұрын
@@stealthman6617 Straight ghosted me. It've been over 9 months. I texted, called, nothing worked. She just ghosted me.
@MalloryMay 4 жыл бұрын
I really like the “decorate the house” analogy.
@CoachViva 4 жыл бұрын
This video is a need! I know people who tend get worried about giving space. Good job in explaining how to handle the situation. Thanks!
@Afrocyber2010 4 жыл бұрын
My partner of 14.5 years and with 2 kids wanted a break and space. I took her for granted and spend more time in the gym and with friends most of the weekends.I gave her anxiety and panic attacks but never realised. When she moved out 2 years ago we still friends and spent Xmas at her mum and dad, I used to sleep at her once or twice a week for about a year and had the house keys. I no longer sleep there anymore and she took the keys from me. She always asked me for the space but unfortunately due to being immature I never gave her. 3 months ago we went together to her mum for lunch with the kids. She now said again all she wanted is space and she is talking to someone. Your advice gives me hope and the motivation to live and not doing something stupid with my life. All those horrible thoughts coming into mind. I hope that I don't lose her forever. I will give her the space and leave in the hands of the almighty God and work on myself in being a better partner because she means the world to me.
@lorrainystef8661 3 жыл бұрын
There is this powerfulman who help restored back my broken relationship after many years of separation, he can help you too via his Whatsapp on (+ 2 3 4 9 0 7 1 2 2 8 0 9 7),,,
@A22208 4 ай бұрын
100000% agree. Dont pretend like it doesnt exist or keep it light and airy. That would turn a woman off. Dont ignore. Face. Work through the uncomfortableness. Talk about it. Fight for her.
@christinsambor 4 жыл бұрын
I'm currently staying with my parents...I might have to play this on the TV for them :)
@The_Robe_Guy 11 ай бұрын
I’ve watched a few videos from you and I’m starting to understand not only my weakness and what to improve, but also how to improve. These videos helped a lot so thank you.
@sockheadd Жыл бұрын
Great video! This one and others have really eased my anxiety. It’s been the hardest few days for me since she said she wanted a “no contact” exclusive break. Meaning we are still dating, but we just aren’t communicating. I’ve felt physically ill and have puked these last days, but i’m definitely trying to better myself for myself but also for her. I hope this doesn’t last forever. Much love!
@MrFujin Жыл бұрын
How is it going bro?
@sockheadd Жыл бұрын
@@MrFujin oh she broke up with me
@mcrouch2000 4 жыл бұрын
watched a lot of coaches on youtube. Your advice makes more sense and like how you break things down
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Michael! What has been the more valuable takeaway so far?
@banrngi8087 4 ай бұрын
I'm scared if she left me giving her space 😢
@Bashteo 2 ай бұрын
If she does bro just gotta keep moving on, giving space shouldn’t be something you do only for her, do it for yourself, find a new hobby, or something that takes up your life and is more important than her. It’ll always give her something to chase if she wants your full attention but can’t get it
@CaliforniaKonelio Жыл бұрын
Artfully giving her space was my insight. You gave me the right words to write her. Thank you for you videos.
@igorkoubek3545 3 жыл бұрын
I gave my wife 30 days space what she asked for but I am the most fearful that she comes back and she say I'm out without even giving a chance to work on our relationship.
@lenaschaef6714 3 жыл бұрын
I'd be happy to hear about how things went for you
@YesToTech 4 жыл бұрын
So true! These tips on how to give us space in a relationship are great!
@greekmamalife 4 жыл бұрын
I liked your analogy. You made it simple to understand.
@RD-hd6wd 3 жыл бұрын
My gf told me to not speak to her after a misunderstanding so im giving her space, having some anxiety attacks every now and then, your video gives me hope
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 жыл бұрын
Happy to help!🙂
@RD-hd6wd 3 жыл бұрын
@@GeoffreySetiawan it works, 🙂
@borissanam9940 3 жыл бұрын
Did you get any good results?Going through this exactly
@chew2237 2 жыл бұрын
I messaged someone after 2 days of space just to check in, she was happy with us staying in touch. It was amazing and we chatted quite a bit yesterday but I had to acknowledge that this wasn't exactly giving her space, she said it was just as much her fault as we get on so well. We agreed to not talk again for a few days, it is hard but I get giving her space as things felt nice yesterday and she said she'd missed me but that isn't what she needs at this time. I left it with her today saying I'm here for her if she needs me and the door is always open. Thank you for this video as it helped me get across in words what I would have struggled to do before and the analogy helped my brain see it in a clearer way.
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 жыл бұрын
Great! I love seeing how my videos can be so helpful to others. Be sure to watch this Fridays video to understand what it will take in order for you to restore hope in your partner once again.
@mRsToRrEs520 3 жыл бұрын
Been watching your videos as I go thru a hard situation of her wanting a separation and space and I wanna thank you for such good advices and your videos have give me confidence and knowledge on how to handle this current situation with my dearly beautiful wife... There's many things I'm discovering about myself with your videos and I'm so impressed on how I ignored many bad traits of me that it was actually hurting her and pushing her away. I'm doing my best to follow your advices even tho I'm torn into pieces knowing I'm close to lose the love of my life. We've been married 15 years and have two beautiful kids.. We currently live in the same house and sleep in the same bed because financially we can't afford to live on our own so I'm giving my all to give her space while living under the same roof. If you could respond to me or maybe make a video explaining what to do when we can't afford to live separate but yet finding a way to give her space I will really appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. I'm currently working on myself little by little while trying my best to give her the space she needs... Thank you so much!! You been really helpful
@blackwallnthesestreets7054 2 жыл бұрын
How did things work out?
@Luridmoirai 2 жыл бұрын
I would also like to know
@Xbox12469 4 жыл бұрын
This is the single best advice I have heard on this topic. Great analogy!
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Amlan! Glad it resonated. What's your main takeaway here?
@Xbox12469 4 жыл бұрын
@@GeoffreySetiawan to make house beautiful before calling inside. Anything other than that is taking away freedom. No one likes it.
@KimariEnzo Жыл бұрын
On these dates she does not want to talk about relationship problems, it’s too early trust me this back fired even when u allow her to express herself. I tried this again I allowed her to bring it up then just listened to her. That worked. But I’m afraid to give space because I’m afraid she’ll be too far gone
@shplorkshlunk2277 Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate these videos, I really hope that she comes back because there’s never gonna be anyone like her, I’d do anything to get her back
@VikingPerformanceTraining 4 жыл бұрын
This is great stuff man, and such a sensitive topic!
@IWantYoutoBeHappy4Ever 4 жыл бұрын
This is such a tough spot to be in. Thanks so much for this video!
@SnAkESkULLz34 2 жыл бұрын
Being without the person i put time and effort into, I have to become a better listener and be more understanding not just solution, your videos really help me out a lot
@conradmcbee611 Жыл бұрын
Currently giving my partner space. I did open the door for her to reach out. In the meantime I’m working on myself to make myself a better man. I do see the different things I can work on. I have also lost 20 pounds of body fat since she saw me last. I haven’t heard from her in a week. But we will see. I plan on working on my fitness so I can feel good about myself and also look good. Regardless of whether or not she comes back.
@solomonthomas3650 3 жыл бұрын
I’m fearful that she’s gonna find someone else. Her best friend just got out of a nasty relationship and now how has a new boyfriend. I’m just praying she doesn’t give my wife no ideas on how better it is to start over.
@mikekaissaofficial8491 3 жыл бұрын
That fear of losing her will make u look desperate and thats not what women want. Do it artfully
@808KINGSLAYER 3 жыл бұрын
Brother, I feel the same way as I'm giving my wife space/seperation. I know she's talking to her coworker, and I have some anxiety that she will truly end up leaving me. What gives me some relief is that she can't advance on him due to a no dating policy. I hope with my changes over the coming months she will become attracted to me once again
@solomonthomas3650 3 жыл бұрын
@@808KINGSLAYER MAN I’m in the same exact situation literally !!!! She told she’s not interested in anyone but I feel like her coworker is in her ear or something!! We gotta pray hard and stay focused on working on ourselves !!
@solomonthomas3650 3 жыл бұрын
@@mikekaissaofficial8491 That’s true man, I keep losing sight of that, thanks !
@808KINGSLAYER 3 жыл бұрын
@@solomonthomas3650 same here bro, she tells me that she doesn't have any feelings for him, but I noticed she's been dressing up for work now and I caught her last month with some flirty texts. Are you in the relationship revival program? I just started and feel more confident about my situation. Amen to that, I've been praying multiple times a day while I focus on bettering myself! I support you, my brother!
@YKSOFG 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for creating these video. Some really good information. Alot of your point is exactly what I'm going through right now. It is so painful but ever day is getting better. "Baby steps"
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Right! Let me know if I can be of any help!
@leiasnake8365 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve giving her space, she moved out, haven’t brought up getting back together, been respecting her, i really worked in my issues that pushed her away, and she has told me she has noticed the changes, she even asks me why I couldn’t be like this when we where living together, and now she gives me very mixed emotions and hot and cold treatment, but we have children and we have too see each other very often, it’s not like we don’t see each other, weird dynamic,
@johnsegui3616 3 жыл бұрын
My girlfriend of 9 years asked for space She asked for this because she feels empty when she lost her dad just recently.i understood that so i gave her the space she wanted I am super scared that in that space she will find somebody else I cant stop thinking about her Iam holding my self back from calling or texting or seeing her. Your videos calmed me down And she promised she will absolutely comeback Still cant but help feel scared
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 жыл бұрын
John, happy the videos have helped! Continue to stay strong and confident.
@bestbigbros1102 3 жыл бұрын
My biggest fear about this break is that she will find someone else during this time or already has and is using this break as an eventual way of breaking up with me. That's the toughest pill to swallow rn and I find it very hard to get through the day
@jamalcell8179 2 жыл бұрын
Yess brooo but dont be scaredd...make her think like that tooo ..she will say he might have someone else too yk? Stay confident and hope she will come back
@affiliatemarketingwithelke2420 4 жыл бұрын
This is very helpful. There is a lot of information about space that I can use. I love the idea of opening the door. That is a huge thing for me.
@DaltonCa18 Жыл бұрын
My girlfriend of 8.5 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago, due to my alcoholism, my control and obsessive behavior, and my general unhappiness. I did not heed any cautions where I should have given her space. She would reach out to me, and I would answer. I should have given her time to miss me because now I think she is finding involvement with other men, and it kills me because now I need to give her the space she needs. She is aware of my changes, and the improvements I’ve made in the past couple weeks, but I just want her back. I’m hoping it works for us
@davidgrieme9777 4 ай бұрын
I'm in this situation too. Thank you for putting this so clearly and understandably.
@AustinDrew23 4 жыл бұрын
The most scary thing for me is her possibly realizing that she can go along without me. My girl and I had been together 3 years and she recently broke it off and we haven’t been able to see each other because of the Covid-19 stuff. We’re planning to meet up to talk after it settles down some and she asked for space until then and I’m trying to give her that but I’m also trying to think of how I can get her back
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Austin -- don't fall for the illusion of action. We often think taking MASSIVE action is better than taking no action. But sometimes, taking no action and simply waiting is the best move you can make which gets you to your destination faster.
@AustinDrew23 4 жыл бұрын
Geoffrey Setiawan for me, I have felt like sending a text saying I know I’m supposed to be respecting your space but there is just something I need to say.... bad idea?
@niconasty21 4 жыл бұрын
I’m in the exact same situation and I feel the same way about wanting to text her, not sure what to do.
@301KYE 4 жыл бұрын
Same happened to me bro. Since being stuck in the house for 4 months, I haven't seen my GF. We got into an argument a few days ago and since then she said she "needs space". I don't understand this as we've been apart for 4 months and shes pretty much been able to focus on herself and I've been focused on me. What I don't understand is how you "need space" but you are still texting and talking to me like everything is normal.
@AustinDrew23 4 жыл бұрын
K D Gotta try to give her that space man, explain to her that she asked for the space and you’re going to try to respect that
@DrLaraZib 4 жыл бұрын
Haha, need to share this with my hubby! I do absolutely agree with all these points as well :-)
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Nice! Glad it was helpful!
@kenfizu0198 3 жыл бұрын
My wife has given up on me, she says that she doesn’t love me anymore. I made changes on my life and she says that she doesn’t trust me and that is only temporary because I never changed in 18 yrs. I apologize for my mistakes with tears and she has been very angry and mean towards me and tells me that she needs space and that it will take her a long time to try to get back if there was a chance.
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 жыл бұрын
Great! Let's get started then :) Have you joined my masterclass to se if you've really made the right changes?
@kevrob1784 3 жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much for taking the time to put out these video's, they are truly life giving when you are in a world of hurt.
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 жыл бұрын
Awesome buddy! Glad to be of help!
@Ronintados 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this great video! It is very informative to me. To be honest I'm not in a good relationship with my wife right now. We are currently on LDR (long distance relationship) and she is not talking to me anymore. I really want to fix our relationship even though I'm far away. I'm watching all of your videos so I will learn to become a better husband for my wife. Thank you again for sharing your knowledge. I hope you can also make a video on how to handle long distance relationships (LDR).
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
I'll definitely touch on that topic soon. It's on my list! Thank you for supporting man!
@mumtazkhalick8573 3 жыл бұрын
Ronald in a similar situation do you have any updates
@Ronintados 3 жыл бұрын
@Mumtaz here's my update. She started to chat to me little by little, especially when the topic is about money. But it still good than nothing. Right now I'm focusing on improving myself and focusing on my dreams. I know it's really hard situation but I won't give up. Better days are coming.
@Ronintados 3 жыл бұрын
@@GeoffreySetiawan you're welcome man! Sure I will watch that one. Sorry for the late reply.
@mumtazkhalick8573 3 жыл бұрын
@@Ronintados thanks I was hoping we could swap notes as I would really appreciate it . You can email me khalick88@gmail.com. I need all the support I can get thanks
@marlonbowser9990 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you my brother I am going through this situation right now. Even know I don't want to but I know that in my heart that I have to do it even though it hurts. I have to see what happens
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Right on man. Let me know how I can help you!
@lorrainystef8661 3 жыл бұрын
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@kibosenny659 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, I've been pushing her away lately and she said she needs time but it just feels horrible that it's getting worse so thank you so much
@599Pacman 3 жыл бұрын
I’m currently giving my fiancé space because of my past transgressions and they are giving her doubt that change has came. It scares the crap out of me because I am wholeheartedly 100% in for the long run and I do not know if it’s too late for me. She continues to tell me that this for the greater good my separation anxiety flare up through the roof just thinking about not being something I want!
@remyd1984 Жыл бұрын
what's your update mate? basically in the same boat as you were!
@chriscostello7759 4 жыл бұрын
What scares me when they say the need space is that its my fault and that they wont come back. I always feel the need to know if i did something wrong or what i could do to fix/improve.
@lorrainystef8661 3 жыл бұрын
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@ZeeVonny 3 жыл бұрын
What’s the status of your relationship now currently going through same thing it’s scary as hell but these videos are helping me calm down
@normprice5566 3 жыл бұрын
I’m afraid she’ll leave me for someone “better”, or what she sees as someone “better because of the situation we’re in.
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Norm, once you become the BEST version of yourself with the right processes... She will not look elsewhere.🙂
@NexgenFinancials 2 жыл бұрын
My biggest fear of giving her space is that she will leave for some one else, but as you said the trick is understanding giving her space is my best chance as i cant control the outcome We have kids and she just moved out of our bedroom to get more space im doing my best to understand and respect this Thanks so much for your videos friend
@shiesty09carlos 2 жыл бұрын
Just knowing that I put my all into her , and then giving her space really scares me because I feel she won’t come back.
@DextMan897 4 жыл бұрын
As usual, your advice are really healthy and helpfull. It really resonate with my situation and watching your free guide helped me to understand where and what to focus on. As you said, working on ourself is good, but it doesn't gave the right solution. Its important to let your partner express him/herself (through the need space situation) in order to get clues about how he/she really feel. Only then, it became possible to work on our mindset and let our partner reach us slowly even if it take weeks/months. Thanks for our email conversation this week, it was really helpfull.
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Yes! This is exactly right Yas!
@dannycolwell8028 Жыл бұрын
I’m so scared. My girlfriend left me but never told me a firm answer on if it was done for good. It’s been a week of no contact. I want her back so badly.
@behnammalmir8138 10 ай бұрын
Did you win her back?
@dannycolwell8028 10 ай бұрын
@@behnammalmir8138 briefly.
@gonefishingisbad4758 2 жыл бұрын
I sent a message, and she have it a heart. That cheered my mood up. Now I just need to change, and better myself for her. I just hope she doesn't move on
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 жыл бұрын
Just make sure you are bettering yourself in the right ways, the massive ways, and make sure they are permanent or you will be back in the same situation.
@gamitha2213 2 жыл бұрын
the most frightening about giving space is that she may enjoys it a lot and starts considering that she has no more need of you anymore
@4k4zuhito 4 жыл бұрын
Hey! love the analogy. I want to ask if this just happened in quarantine situation, and I just think she needs a space because she change her reaction towards me. I know this is a difficult situation for everyone. So do you think I can apply this too in this situation?
@johnpaulcatindig1073 4 жыл бұрын
The thing that is scaring me is that what if she chat other guys and be happy with that guy
@riverdaletales8457 3 жыл бұрын
Then you will have to move on bro. Life moves on with or without you so you might as well move on too.
@alternativefandotcom 3 жыл бұрын
In my case my girlfriend wants space because she isn't happy. She doesn't know if it's because of our relationship, stress from work or maybe both. We're on day 4 now and not knowing whether she wants to work on our relationship or end it is killing me. I have given her space since she asked for it and have tried to keep myself busy but being at home because of the pandemic isn't helping me at all. We've been together for 6 years and most of them have been the best in my life and this time is pretty much the worst. Honestly, I have been taking her for granted and I keep telling myself that I don't deserve her and that she would never take me back. I have watched a couple of your videos now and they have given some great tools to work with IF she wants me back.
@lorrainystef8661 3 жыл бұрын
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@IPrismatic 3 жыл бұрын
Almost identical to what I was going through this month.. I’m in the last week before we scheduled a day to meet up and talk. Can I ask how everything went or is going for you??
@savagevids8530 3 жыл бұрын
@@IPrismatic any updates?
@IPrismatic 3 жыл бұрын
@@savagevids8530 too much to update you on.. long story short we are trying to work on things however I feel I am putting in much more & in turn I feel as if I may be losing a part of myself. I’m honestly not sure where I’m at with the relationship now as the break in turn helped me realize what kind of person she truly is
@savagevids8530 3 жыл бұрын
@@IPrismatic is that your girl on your profile? You love her man there's nothing wrong with how you show but it's wrong to lose yourself. Self worth since day 1, man I hope you will be fine
@hannese3741 2 жыл бұрын
Hey! This video is gold,my gf said that she wants some space and think about it and when i watched ur video I understood and told Her that take all the time u need,the door is always open for her and she started crying because of Happiness. Thanks alot, this helped me alot, i can focus on myself And my problems and gonna fix it! And i told Her that i am waiting for her!
@Tom-ud8js 9 ай бұрын
Did you get back together?
@hannese3741 9 ай бұрын
yes man@@Tom-ud8js
@elijahgg7369 2 жыл бұрын
so she wants space but we go to the same schol and stuff so how do i handle that? she is different and truly one of a kind to the point i want her to be my highschool sweatheart honestly and she feels the same but, idk what to do to give it to her when i walk past her and stuff you know?
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Elijah gg, I have many videos on this topic and provide a lot fo advice on this topic. Of what I suggest do you feel you struggle with?
@majorhashbrown 4 жыл бұрын
Hey Geoff! I just saw your video on the 3 steps to win her back when she needs space, and it’s by far one of the best ones out there. I had a question, my girlfriend was the one who told me she needed a break to figure certain things out, due to a conflict we keep having. You mentioned we’re supposed to instill hope/leave the door open but she’s made it clear she won’t be talking to me from now on till she’s ready . So what do I do?
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Same approach I am saying here. Today, her emotions say that she doesn't want to talk to you. Tomorrow or next week, things might be different. And it's on your to continually and slowly draw her back in again and change how she feels. So simple give her space, let her know the door is open, and wait patiently :)
@danieldante3085 3 жыл бұрын
Update?
@Luridmoirai 2 жыл бұрын
Things ever get better?
@rixx9285 2 жыл бұрын
This hits the spot and i feel i have matured just from your content. Thank you
@GeoffreySetiawan 2 жыл бұрын
Love it Rixx!
@aaronsilver9765 Жыл бұрын
i have seen a few other videos of yours. this one here, REALLY was significant for me. thank you
@Sa1kou 4 жыл бұрын
How to apply this if you live in the same home and/or you think others may be influencing her decision or another guy may be trying to intervene? Good video nonetheless. I am at another place for a week to give her somewhat of a break but then I am heading home so I'm going to continue working on myself in the meantime. I appreciate your response and guidance!
@GeoffreySetiawan 4 жыл бұрын
Hey Jon -- I totally understand how concerning your situation must be, but this is actually a very common issue for men in your situation. When the relationship is in the rocks, it's always going to be her concerned family members, or other men, who are trying to whisper voices in her head. This is why you HAVE to be able to master the skill of leading conversations in a way that actually opens her up, heals her emotions, draws her closer to you, while at the same time allowing her to get to the most sensible decision by herself (instead of you imposing your ideas on her). As mentioned in the video, I am hosting a free masterclass on this that I think will bring some clarity to you. You can go ahead and sign up here... relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
@Sa1kou 4 жыл бұрын
@@GeoffreySetiawan Thank you for the valuable information. I have signed up for the masterclass!
@fragout1898 4 жыл бұрын
I fear she’s not coming back ...I panic and hurt in pain every morning
@lorrainystef8661 3 жыл бұрын
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@nehakhonjuju 3 жыл бұрын
So my guy and I were taking space as he wanted that. Today was the fourth day. As I watching this video I got a text from him saying “Let’s breakup” :)
@GeoffreySetiawan 3 жыл бұрын
Emotions can and do change. In the program we outline the processes to artfully deal with this with your partner. 🙂
@katongomulenga1163 Жыл бұрын
One of my greatest fears is that she will eventually want to date and cease to want to be with me. I haven't been the most faithful or attentive husband but I fear that after 13 years of feeling neglected; she will seek no horizons. But I am also aware that right now in this critical moment, she wants space...I need to give her space
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