Be willing to let go and walk away from people and things not meant for you. It'll hurt, no doubt, but hanging on, chasing, and hoping will hurt a lot more.
@funnygirlever3 ай бұрын
Amen!
@PeterWhite719 күн бұрын
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
@DarylSimpson5819 күн бұрын
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@PeterWhite719 күн бұрын
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
@DarylSimpson5819 күн бұрын
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
@PeterWhite719 күн бұрын
You wont regret it
@montecrucis72473 ай бұрын
If you seek external validation, you make yourself depend on these types of toxic people. Have a purpose in life, pursue it and derive self esteem from that. You'll attract different people as a result.
@rebeccaconn3893 ай бұрын
So good !!!!
@lucymoreno52223 ай бұрын
Listen, sometimes is luck, sometimes is love and sometimes is both, don’t over analyze, just love yourself, work on yourself, and if it’s so hard go to see a professional. Please don’t forget to love God first , don’t become your own idol, don’t let seeking for a relationship to become your idol. Balance in life is the key 🔑!
@alexandrapomeroy80503 ай бұрын
Lisa is a pocket rocket. Absolutely gorgeous, intelligent, funny and comes over as really warm and authentic.
@manpip13593 ай бұрын
The way she communicated with her husband is incredible. I wish more people, not men, not women, EVERYONE would go to these lengths to appreciate, communicate and acknowledge each others effort...this is mind blowing.
@asavestergren2283 ай бұрын
Matthews emotional intelligence is so profound.
@Mushroom321-3 ай бұрын
Yes!!😮😊😊
@pegbuckner5074Ай бұрын
His wisdom is brilliant!! How the heck does he do it?!! He was born that way!!
@jane777223 ай бұрын
I appreciate the transparency of both of you. Some valuable takeaways, in my opinion: - So important to know yourself. - Hold to your values. - Know how you want to be seen and appreciated (treated). - What do you accept and not accept? - How you want to show up? - Try to understand others. - What do the words MEAN that you are both using? Why is that meaning important to you/them? - Remember everyone wants to be appreciated! (:
@tasleemlaila14783 ай бұрын
I love what Matthew said about a partner appreciating how hard it is to unwire the pattern of overworking. That there is a reason for it. And understanding where that comes from is so important. That made me think of family members and friends with more compassion as well.
@butterflyairways31563 ай бұрын
The gap between desires being met is rooted in the shift that’s occurred with women who now value themselves and can provide for themselves. We used to value the things but now we can get those things ourselves so it’s the turn of men to realise then have inherent value in who they are not what they do. It’s a painful transition but fascinating. His worth IS. Her worth IS and then together they get to choose what they work for (not validation from each other). Interesting times that need time and a much higher ongoing perspective that some have the privilege to spend time in and pave the way for others still logically caught up in survival. ❤❤❤
@karolinah123 ай бұрын
People see glimpses of good & v good, as well as bad behaviours. But they hope the good times might increase. It's the cycle of an addiction. Our mind is programmed to seek pleasure and cope with hardship. It is this toxic cycle that keeps them addicted
@JustanotherrandomTom3 ай бұрын
Wow, this just popped up! I got extremely lucky today. Glad to see you guys doing so well with the books.
@alexandrapomeroy80503 ай бұрын
Love Lisa, and really like the way Matt makes interviews like having a coffee with a mate. Really loved the content and have ordered the book.
@moriahpaige13 ай бұрын
Great convo on communication, values, and keeping your love on.
@arianacuriel68273 ай бұрын
Such great insight! I love when they spoke about appreciating your partner but also not dismissing your needs.
@Ingrafre3 ай бұрын
Lisa is soooo sweet! Love how she alsways looks when Matt reveals something new.
@Calida3 ай бұрын
WOW i have learned a LOT in this episode, and you guys really not only gave me new perspectives, but the language to even explore these concepts. Thank you so much!
@HeatherSchlemmer14 сағат бұрын
So great! This is so complex even in a close healthy relationship
@dk18283 ай бұрын
Really loved this conversation. Thank you, both! 🙌
@MinaDV53 ай бұрын
Another great duo episode AND another great book to add to my collection!!📚 TyBoth!🙏💕 Looking forward to that added chapter as I can totally relate & know I made the right decision in choosing ME over his BS & chaos.. . I chose "peace & love for self & life" 💕
@karolinah123 ай бұрын
People in general want to feel appreciated . And we also need to place the relationship at the core ,rather than fighting to be right and have your own opinion at the top. It is about making sure you are BOTH valued and heard. In the past i found that when a man is shown appreciation, he takes it for granted. It 's almost like they want to fight for it ,but once they have it ,they dont value it anymore.
@merryOproductions3 ай бұрын
Thank you for this beautiful episode and your insights. It made me a bit sad, though. reminding me of my last relationship attempt. I wanted to learn her, meaning I was doing my best. she didnt really open up so much. She did take good care of me and also appreciated me being around and then just ran off out of nowhere. :/ I think we were a pretty good match regarding our value systems.
@guitarsz3 ай бұрын
Loving Lisa’s new hairstyle. she is so sweet and adoreable
@BeingMotionIS2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Matthew for your sharing about attention on empathy and the sense of validation. Very precious intervention!.. Feeling reassured and touched knowing that some men are offering this level of commitment to Self to their partners 🙏🏾 exactly what she was saying initially, love oneself first as it's the only reality I'm a unique responsible receiptor and creator
@chinmaywagh11353 ай бұрын
25:57 smart answer Matthew 😂😂the reasoning did crack me up
@bellesebastian0123 ай бұрын
Great title!!!
@alenaadamkova76173 ай бұрын
If people embrace their problems or weakness.....its actually the moment they solve the problem, they no longer look at things as problem but opportunity to think differently....and scientists explain that as you think differently (not as the tv media tell you) the body also behaves and feels differently, it feels healthier younger,..not so tired, the immunity of body increases, because every problem is temporary but possibilities are unlimitede in quantum physics.
@chrystelelacroix4681Ай бұрын
I think she was lucky in finding her husband because she chose him first for very superficial reasons. It turned out he was a very open minded man and ready to work on his relationship as much as her.
@michaelbiber3 ай бұрын
This is one of the best talks I’ve seen from you both! Thank you so much for this ❤
@tigre77393 ай бұрын
Fantastic podcast!! So much truth and insight! Even though I'm not even thinking about dating at least in the immediate future, it gave credence to a lot of thoughts and beliefs that I have in my mind, as well as things to consider. One thing that Lisa said that I think is very valuable, is to understand the words that you use with someone, so that they understand the words being said and what they mean.
@xiaomei31373 ай бұрын
Wow, this is a fascinating subject! I also believe there are hard-working women (naturally engineered) who would love their partners to understand and appreciate (to be seen) all their hard works! 'Cause that's part of their identities and make them who they are too to feel happy and satisfied in life! I
@rajshreerathore3693 ай бұрын
So beautiful ❤️ May God bless you both with lots of love and happiness 🙏🙏🙏 Sending lots of good vibes and positive energies 🥰
@shawndahennesayd.c.74992 ай бұрын
38:00 + Yes!!! I want to cry. Absolutely beautiful @
@fun2speakenglish4313 ай бұрын
Being a female I fell head over heels on someone very charismatic, i literally chased him and after few talk he told me straight he thinks it won't work out. I feel devastated!! And the problem is the men who show interest in me i don't find them that good that I fell head over heels over them and I don't feel the same passion!!?
@mo_62983 ай бұрын
Maybe you can look for a pattern in the way you choose men. They ones that attract you might not be the best fit for you. And charisma might be misleading, sometimes it is very superficial.
@fun2speakenglish4313 ай бұрын
@@mo_6298 i don't know about pattern but the difference is looks and charm in the man I chase is far greater than those who approach me and that's what I dislike. If someone with charm and looks would approach me i would fall for them as well. What the hell is this I am experiencing (sigh)?!
@fun2speakenglish4313 ай бұрын
@@mo_6298 how to settle for less and not being resentful towards the man ( as in the heart i beleived i deserve more in terms of look and charm)?
@Skarrier3 ай бұрын
@@fun2speakenglish431I think you just need to become more attractive yourself then, if it comes to attraction for you. It is the only sane way if dealing with this situation, and it will work out for sure
@vickig60803 ай бұрын
Interesting and valuable discussion. Thank you
@LylaHaggardАй бұрын
What came to my mind is the Platinum Rule. Rather than “Do unto others as you would have them do onto you” (the golden rule) you were really discussing “Do unto others, as they would like you to do unto them. (The platinum rule) what do you think?
@LoraG3 ай бұрын
I love Lisa! ❤️
@gabyambrosi3 ай бұрын
Such a super smart conversation! Thank you!
@hadiza13 ай бұрын
G'mourning! 🧡
@ew26453 ай бұрын
Lisa is great!
@alenaadamkova53223 ай бұрын
When person feels a pain or anxiety, the brain isnt able to to do two big tasks at once feeling his pain and at the same time feelk pain or anxiety of someone else... therefore our mind reacts in a way that we start to either be silent, or accuse each other of laziness.... or other thing is when they feel our pain, they are not able to feel their own pain and anxiety and solve their own pain. So the best resolution is some mediattion or therapy, where both people heal their traumas and anxiety, to calm the mind, and selfregulate, so they may use deep emphatic conversation with each other. and they should forgive each other for being ignorant to someones anxiety because brain isnt able to do two big tastks at once, feel pain and feel empathy at once.
@patriciaeverard65373 ай бұрын
Fascinating interview! ❤
@Coolman19853 ай бұрын
Matt bro you dosed off in min 32 😂 he had no idea what she was talking about
@carolewright64743 ай бұрын
Fabulous Chat Thank you both ❤❤xx
@krazimitzi3 ай бұрын
It’s very simple Lisa. He’s saying if you want me to show up as Tom your loving husband, I need to do this work to feel empowered enough to be able to be vulnerable for you. If you asked him to stop doing what is so much a part of his identity to spend more time with you, sure, he can do that physically, but his spirit will be somewhere else. If you want his full presence, this is his non-negotiable. Therefore, he’s doing it for the relationship. He’s doing what he needs to do as a man so that he can deliver what you need in the relationship. Does it mean he couldn’t use some help in defining his masculinity and self-identity? No, I think there is certainly room to grow in that area. But for now, it is what it is, and it goes back to do you accept this man for who he is and what he needs to do on his own time in order to show up for you in the way you want him to occasionally, or can you not accept that at all?
@bigcatenergy37073 ай бұрын
Amazing convo ❤ thank you ✨
@Msbritfit3 ай бұрын
Oh wow I didn’t know Lisa cofounded quest! I’ve always loved her!
@eva56372 ай бұрын
Okay, so here's the thing. My favorite colleague keeps coming to my desk for a talk. Most of the times he touches my arm or back when he is greeting me. We have a good laugh and are planning lunch together. My workbestie sits right next to me. When she is there, he will not come by for a talk. What does that mean? 🤔
@samex827510 күн бұрын
He’s either already dating her, is talking to her as well and doesn’t want you to know, or she was his ex. That’s what I can think of.
@maggiemaggie26853 ай бұрын
This man/ woman values problem is textbook. Read John Gray. 😅
@user-nq9qo2pe9o10 күн бұрын
Wow.thank you
@al50683 ай бұрын
I really love Matthew’s content but I kind of tuned out when Will Smith and Jada Pinkette were mentioned 🙄
@alaalfa88393 ай бұрын
Its not that she isnt pursuing a man, she just gives him a hint that she likes him, or his personality. as in ancient times they used to do. so as she gives him a hint, he dosen´t have to pursue anybody in wrong way, which destroys his charisma, if he uses wrong tactics, because not knowing who likes him for right reasons.
@rosswardrop4653 ай бұрын
Once again .Take it from me.Stay single.You lose every thing I have been there.I rather have my car
@hmmlemeeshink3 ай бұрын
WRONG!! A man works hard for his girl, not for himself! “Appreciating” individual points in your man is offensive to a normal man. You appreciate all of him or nothing. You don’t pick apart parts of a whole to appreciate. Your man’s patience is herculean if you actually do that. Can’t believe Mathew didn’t correct her.
@kepnerjia9471Ай бұрын
😅
@BbbbbPppp-zm7oe2 ай бұрын
I don't get it. I have a crush on a nerdy guy who is so sweet. I'm a pretty woman and very sweet and loving. We both flirt and have great conversations at work and on the phone while we are both doing our jobs in various locations. He is mostly talking about work , maybe some personal topics, and still doesn't ask me out. We gravitate toward each other. I don't get it. We don't call or text on our off days. Our coworkers come to me and tell me how they notice how genuine we are when we are together and that we should go on a date. Why can't I get even a nerdy guy to ask me out?????😂
@MinaDV53 ай бұрын
Question .. . If I buy the book on Amazon.. . Would it include the new chapter?🤔
@rosswardrop4653 ай бұрын
I always advise to stay single
@tomokosavelyeva40852 ай бұрын
Sounds kinda unfair. I really like Lisa and I bought Radical Confidence. And now it's the same book just with one more chapter?? Why do I have to buy the book again to read it. Really strange and doesnt feel right. Or I don't understand something??
@dianakeinejad81723 ай бұрын
No disrespect but oh man this sounds like too much work! I think single sounds more peaceful lol
@iambiggus3 ай бұрын
Quick question for the audience: Asked a girl who kinda flirts with me if she wanted to go hang out. She seemed genuinely disappointed when she said she had to work, but absolutely did not attempt to figure out how to possibly hang out in the future (e.g. I can't tomorrow but give me your number and we can plan it out... etc etc). Is that a red flag? Should I try again? I don't particularly want to give up, but I don't want to waste my time and hers if possible, not to mention making things awkward.
@eutrepe033 ай бұрын
I think you could turn this around a bit like saying:it's pity we can't meet tomorrow, what do you suggest in this case? Something like that wouldn't be bad in my opinion.
@iambiggus3 ай бұрын
@@eutrepe03 That is a great idea for future interactions, thank you. I'm terrible at thinking on my feet like that, high functioning autism sucks for dating.
@eutrepe033 ай бұрын
@@iambiggusi am sorry, i can only imagine. I think, being simple honest without overthinking (or making it strange awkward) is mostly the best solution. Being direct is not bad but we stress ourselves too much sometimes. From my female perspective.
@iambiggus3 ай бұрын
@rajkhatri8131 Thank you, more great advice. I do much better if I have some kind of script, for sure. Not that I don't want to be myself, but I definitely need the help with the casual interactions.
@user-ey2wu2nt2g3 ай бұрын
Hello sir, I am regular viewer of your videos, please help me. Please guide me. i am from India. My partner ignores me from many days, he is acting distant suddenly. No idea why. I chase him I call him, text him.. Now he said he dont want to be with me. He dont want this relationship with me. I am not able to control myself so I call him every night. He always pick my call but talk very rudely. I am stuck. I am not getting how to proceed further. Please help me. Please help me. Please provide me some sort of advice to how to proceed further. Its feel like my life will end soon
@CalmFjord-uk6eq2 ай бұрын
How we download her e- version book
@rosswardrop4653 ай бұрын
I f you want get ripped offHave a relationship.Then your life will be ruined.I know i have been there.Honestly you cant trust.I got used once.Never got over it.25 years single.
@rosswardrop4653 ай бұрын
My advice.Stay single.Have s good car instead.
@MoriorInvictus14533 ай бұрын
That’s a bit cynical, don’t you think?
@ohok30753 ай бұрын
LOL she is talking about when she was 15, at that age girls should not be focusing on boys and enjoy life
@rosswardrop4653 ай бұрын
My woman these days .Is my car.More faithful.
@ohok30753 ай бұрын
I wonder if she feels the pressure on one side of her head due to that haircut
@hadiza12 ай бұрын
💜💜💜
@rosswardrop4653 ай бұрын
Dont bother.You only get ripped off.Women want to much.
@user-wj3bn1yi8f3 ай бұрын
But you can tell that Matthew's mind is racing regarding the secret conversation his new wife had with Lisa about him building what he's building for selfish reasons - and his new wife wanting more time with him. Lisa dropped a bit of a bomb on this newlywed couple....
@obiblooze59023 ай бұрын
I agree, that really had Matt thinking. Him and Audrey are sound though 🙂
@user-wj3bn1yi8f3 ай бұрын
@@obiblooze5902 Not convinced.
@rosswardrop4652 ай бұрын
God put us on this planet.To be loved.He made one mistake..He put Goldddiggers here.And ruined lifes .Like my was.Single 25 years .sorry i dont trust.
@rosswardrop4652 ай бұрын
Will there be a time .when Golddiggers dont exist.Relationships might work.To late for me.I will never trust .
@rosswardrop4652 ай бұрын
I don't want another relation ship.What have another woman rip me off .once is enough.Single 25 years now.Sorry I don't.trust.Never will.All they want is money.And ruin your life.
@rosswardrop4652 ай бұрын
Men dont waste your time.Stay single.You only get ripped off.And lose everything.My life is ruined. Irather have my car.Better off.
@jessicahitchens6926Ай бұрын
Shut up and seek help.. you and your bloody car. 💀🤡