"Trying to focus on decreasing loneliness would just make me anxious, so instead i try to focus on increasing my sense of purpose." really needed to hear that

I’d rather spend all my time alone than spend a second with jerks

You worded it so perfectly. "When you don't have the other three steps taken care of in your day. Then relaxation is a form of procrastination or avoidance." This spoke heavily to me because I've been relaxing way more than I should. Therefore, I feel guilty for relaxing and not completing what is important to me during the day. I'll be taking your advice and slowly implementing it. Thank you so much for sharing this valuable information!!

I was literally thinking about how you have not uploaded in a while and this showed up. Thanks!

I love that you’re okay with the idea of spending 10 years on becoming really good at something. Loved this update!

"Even when we're alone, we're not really" is such an ominous positive thing to say, it made me want to go say hi to the old lady that lives in my bedroom mirror lol

I've been living alone and single for the past 3 years and I am weirdly loving it 🤔

Never clicked so fast, you were missed 🙂

That expression - I do not push myself too hard⚡⚡⚡😁🦾

My issue is the opposite. I have gone from having some alone time that is completeY silent to having a house full of 5 total people almost all of the time, I am very introverted and have found the past 5 or so months very difficult.

I'm a loner anyway. I listen to music, get.outside and watch KZfaq videos ( Yours is a favorite). I like to see real people doing real things. Thanks, Lefie!

i literally jumped on my phone as soon as got the notification that you uploaded LMAO

Create first, consume later, the best advice in these days of overload of content. Love you.

The most comforting channel I subscribe to x

That "get outside in the morning" tip was a good one. I do feel better when outside. But not near a busy street. That makes me panic.

That is so interesting, the idea that the relaxation without work feels more like avoidance rather than reward for a successful day is that I concluded after coming home from work taking intentionally time to not consume anything yet to hear what are the thought os this part of the day. I am really appreciating your videos at this time of my life when I am living alone for a month when my partner is away and being alone time increases while I don`t want to be afraid of feeling alone sometimes.

While I don’t live alone, I live with a partner who has a lot of solo projects going on (we both work very part time from home, so “alone time” is also how we don’t get on each other’s nerves), so I often end up trying to find ways to fill my own time during the day. Lately with everything going on I’ve felt aimless, but I like what you said about honing a new skill day by day. If I start things now, where will I be in 2, 5, even 10 years? Making a sort of schedule for myself I think will help immensely. Glad to see another video from you!

Welcome back. I've retired and passed time in idleness since you've been away. Finding returning to playing classical piano in a serious way in just the last month has been a life saver and set me upon a new-old path of growth and happiness.

I love how your cupboards close. Having a dog really helps me get outside! This happened as a side effect and I love that this has helped me. I like how thoughtful you are with your ideas in general, like oh I'm going to make a habit of reading the comic and watching the film. Honestly, my way of going about relaxing is watching waaaay too many youtube videos, especially debates. I think I should be more thoughtful of how I consume, like only watching my subscribers content.

"Growing a skill is also a great way to recognize the time that's passing" HOLY FUCKING COW! One of those things we all "know" but never actually "notice". Great insight, even though it's so obvious... *Thanks for that!* Keeping that one thought in front of your mind is probably more efficient than any book about habits out there. Loved that one, Lefie

I've been living alone for almost 2 years. I'm loving it although sometimes I feel lonely.

We’ve been missing you! This was fantastic! Thank you.

I've been needing a video like this for a while now. Thank you for your wisdom Lefie :) I love your videos!

Thank you, Lefie. Your insights have been greatly helpful to me. I've been struggling with solitude lately, and this was like a breath of fresh air. Wishing you well in the betterment of yourself. Cheers from Montreal, Canada!

Ughh...so good to see you again on a new update!!!

Love your suggestions. It's really nice to watch a new post from you. Always worth the wait. 💙

Yay - another Lefie video. Thanks. Really needed this! You have been missed

Just reading through the comments, it's so obvious how well liked/loved your channel is. Never ever stop being Lefie, I wish the world had your outlook, things would be so much better XXX

Lol title pretty much sums up my intj existence. Always a pleasure when you post 🙂👍

This felt like it came from a very genuine place and and so far my favorite of your videos. Well done!

Love listening to you! You put a smile on my face. Thank you.

Oh my gosh I NEEDED THIS

I've missed you! Glad you are back!

you said it perfectly! Expressing your feelings through words is indeed a great talent.

Love this 😍😍 Love your honesty and am inspired by your skill practicing. I totally get the whole relaxing but feeling like you don't deserve it and feel guilty thing

Idk why but your videos are very comforting to watch. The way you express yourself is very pleasant and it makes me feel seen? It’s hard to explain but I’m really glad you’re posting again!

It's sooo good to see you again!

Glad to see you back. You've been missed!

just discovered your channel and i’m loving the content. subscribed :)

Great to see you back, Lefie!

I'm sooooo happy to see that you are ok! Learning to be alone it's a form of art! I appreciate it a lot.

I guess i'd been thinking about the same thing for a couple of months but got stuck. Your thoughts helped me realise that i have a problem with part three. A big one. But now I know it's there and gonna kick it in the ass. Thank you! 🖤

Lefie! I just looked you up yesterday because I was thinking I hadn't seen an upload from you in so very long! Glad you're doing well in this hard, sad and strange time we are living through! *Tongue click* back at you. I enjoyed this video very much. It's a nicely streamlined version of messages from the world at large, and I feel especially struck by the idea of ensuring I am creating and consuming in roughly equal measure, and refreshed by the discovery that I'm not the only person on the planet who recognises that being outside to get fresh air and vitamin d doesn't have to involve moving to get exercise too. I've been starting to feel like it's really time to pull my life out of the vague blurred thing it has become, and I think your advice will really help me do that.

So glad you are well. Thank you for giving us another glimpse into your life.

The Creating before Consuming thing is definitely something I need to integrate. Thanks Lefie. Wishing you the best

Thank you for posting this! I’m quarantining with a partner, but I’ve still been struggling to find purpose and structure in my daily routine, especially since I am looking for work. I love your advice about how acquiring a skill helps you measure the passing time. Keep up the great content!

the new table is dope, great to know you're up and kicking!

Love your videos so much ❤️

Was just about to ask if you’re ok as it’s been so long, then I saw you’d posted this and stupid YT didn’t notify me 😤 Excited to watch! ♥️

I'm definitely in this type of boat. I can see my family during this quarantine period, but it's not really enough, much as I love them. I spend most days alone, and you're right: it's like everything becomes this big blob of pointlessness in terms of time. I need some sort of structure, and was wallowing in despair for a while. I decided today (yesterday? I forget) to try to overhaul my life, because i feel like I'm just sitting in a foggy area in my life, and going nowhere. So it's funny you posted this today, as I definitely needed it. Congrats on your new place, Lefie! And the comic idea is great. I don't watch movies or tv often, but it sounds like a fun thing to compare the original to the screen adaptation. Although, that could also be frustrating. Depends on the viewer I guess.

I badly needed this, thanks.

Love to hear from you...Missed your reflections😊

I love your videos, please keep making them

How can you pack so much meaning in four minutes? It's all I needed, just sorted out neatly! Thank you Lefie, I missed you a lot ❤

You are just great. Always what i need to hear and wonderfully thought out ideas... missed your presence in my subscibed box. Thanks :)

Hi. I’ve missed your voice (as in perspective). It’s so needed. I like your new place - it definitely looks warmer. Hope you are well, kind human!

i needed this so much..thanks

Glad to see you back with a new video! ♥️

Lefie! Awesome video! :-) I started keto back in March, found your video on the topic very helpful and I’m down 45 lbs! Cool new apartment and standing desk and getting into a good routine.

Thank you. The things you said , I am sure are going to be a significant help to many of us.

So glad you posted, I was a wee bit worried that we hadn't seen you in a while. We love you Lefie!!!!

Watching from Australia 🌏 thanks Love your channel. Minimalist in slow progress!

Oh I am so stoked that you posted again. I checked last week randomly, but this is cool. As I get older, and settle into a sort of really quiet life, structure like this is good. I like the reminder about learning something, I feel in a lot of ways I have stopped learning. This was a good reminder. Thank you.

im living with my grandparents at the moment and have been here since february, i keep thinking about going home all day, i keep wanting to fill time talking to other people, even if i have literally nothing to say. maybe now i should stop that and actually start focusing on myself and start doing things. love your videos. i kept checking your channel to see if i had missed a video.

This was an insightful video. Thank you 😊

Oh my goodness...I haven't heard from you in forever. I am glad you're back

Hay I was wondering what had happened to you! Great Vid! Although you forgot to mention getting a cat (or may be even a D O G) but hay as usual the gift of a visual and mental dolop of perfection to brighten up my day THANK YOU! !!!!

I wanted to say that amongst my subscriptions you and another made it to "notifications on" .. :) i don't care how often will you upload a video yet i always welcome and watch them hehe i guess i like that subtle sense of humour and the effort you put into trying and be real.

I’ve missed your voice! Might be a weird compliment but as soon as I hit play and you started taking I was like “ahhh contemplation with Lefie” and felt cozy. 😅 A lot of what you were talking about echos much of what I’ve been reading about currently in Atomic Habits! I would highly recommend it, I’m about 3/4 through at the moment and it’s super digestible/practical. A friend and I are working together individually to get our routines in order and what you discuss here felt similar to stuff we’ve been discussing as we read the book. I know times are weird right now to say in the least, but hope you’re as well as life allows! 💛 I’d love to see a video on your art progression eventually, but if that’s a habit just for you, then obviously disregard the unsolicited request haha.

Hi Lefie, I just noticed and subscribed to your channel. You are sooo funny😃 now binge watched all your videos over two days! Moooorrreeee please!

Wonderful to see you!!

Yes, I live alone also, don’t have many friends, enjoy my own company and have a fairly minimalistic outlook /environment. I’ve really taken these kind of steps over the last year and my focus and productivity on my artwork has improved no end. Occasionally a little lonely but not much and really feel i’m getting somewhere with my art goals. And yes if I do produce in the day, the chill and night Is guilt free! 😂Great video 👍

This was so lovely and precise, absolutely helpful. Grateful for you. Hope you're doing okay. Stay safe ♥

I’m in the same boat as you and also very introverted (I do have 3 cats but the conversations are quite shallow) and agree this is still really hard. Thank you for sharing. This might get me to push myself to workout in the morning - the evening thing is not happening. Hang in there!

I really missed your content. Thanks for the video 😊

Its nice to see youre uploading again

Always love hearing what you have to say Lefie!

I was worried a lot about you and I was checking your channel so many times. Anyway, I'm happy to see you again. Much love❤❤❤

I can’t watch your videos anymore because I can’t stop watching them, and I’m going to run out of the binge soon. And then be super grumpy.

Wow, Lefie...good to see you! Thanks for sharing this message. Stay well, be happy and “keep in touch!” 😉

Love your videos Lefie, missed you -)

Yay another video! Thank you!

Also this procrastination feeling during resting time is so true. I wish no one get to experience it for more than couple of times, i wish to get rid of it. Life is too short for being unhappy

I work in my garden first thing until it gets too hot, then work online for about 4 hours, not longer. I moved my TV to the bedroom because I wasn't watching it, now I have a nice way to relax in the evening. I live with my husband and a lodger. We're all introverts so it's great to have someone to hang out with for a while, then we all drift away when we need to. It's a perfect life for me.

Know thy self! That is something I really really admire and see so rarely.

I've missed your videos. My ex and I split literally yesterday after a year together. Thank you for this.

Omg i missed you so much i always visit your channel for new uploads, yey!!!

I wonder if you’re an INTP (Myers-Briggs Personality test) like me. I’m an INTP female -sort of a rarity- and there’s a lot to your personality (laid back, quiet, no fuss/frills) style (minimalist, wearing black/neutrals), and interests (even down to being artistic, creative, philosophical, and wanting a Wacom Cintiq w/standing desk) that is SO MUCH LIKE ME it’s scary! Welcome back btw 😉

i didn't realise how much i have missed you and your videos until this one showed up! hope you are doing well

Great video! Huge fan

I love ur channel!

Hey there. Nice to see you. :) (I'm waving but you can't see that). Even though I work from home anyway this has been hard on me. For some reason being told to stay at home has me thinking I have to stay in the house - or more precisely, in my room. I've forgotten how to go outside. And that's not good. But I have forced myself to learn some new things during this time. The company I contract with had installed a new program which I've avoided like - well, COVID. But I finally took the time to learn how it works, to find out how it doesn't work and to make it work for me. I have daily headaches when I'm done working but I also feel like I've had a good mental workout. Those old brain cells are tired but full of new knowledge. I do find I'm tracking time and more so tracking each individual item of work I do during the day. My job is very much efficiency-driven and so tracking how long it takes to do a thing and move to the next helps me not only feel productive but actually earn more money.

Was just thinking about you and wishing you health and happiness through this pandemic. ❤️

Thank goodness your back! I have missed my dose of Lefie.🤓

Needed this.

Thanks so much for this vedio I needed it.

Thanks to Matt D'avella. I've got link to your channel. And I've got these vital words for me. Thank you for this inspiring video - my brain had come to its stady position. I got divorced recently and I suddenly discovered that I'm too anxious about the fact that I'm alone at home (literally not - my fluffy cat still needs my attention :D). And needed these words.

I'm shockingly bad at drawing humans but this is a reminder to go back to the 15 mins a day I was doing, it all adds up :-)

Missed you!

I agree! I'm a loner who lives with another loner, and routines help me to thrive! I go outside on walks as much as I can with chronic pain. Art and indoor/balcony gardening, as well as keeping a tidy home with loads of natural light and negative space keep me feeling good. Oddly, collecting rainwater for my plants is wonderfully calming. I did join an online dating application, so that has been a difficult and painful process that has helped me grow in wisdom. Great video! Love from The Hague!