All introverts watching and taking notes.

you know you are antisocial when you see this in your recommendations

as someone who has been the new kid 6 times and moved countries here are the tips i've come up with (I used to have extreme social anxiety) - tip 1: whenever I talk to someone new I always feel judged and pressure to say the right things so they like me, remember, they are people too and are most likely feeling the same way. They are just flesh and bones walking around each day until one day they will decompose and die. I know that sounds scary and deep but once you have that mindset its easier. -tip 2: no one actually cares about you!! "I wanna say this but they will think im weird", "I want to sit with them but they will find be awkward". bro nobody goes to sleep at night thinking "that girl I talked to today was so weird". they are all too busy thinking about themselves. and so what if they think you're awkward? if they have weird thoughts about you and express it then its a sign you shouldn't get closer with them anyways. Honestly (im a new kid this year) If i didn't approach people are say anything to them I would have NO friends right now. -tip 3: the three second rule. I personally, don't usually just approach a group of people, instead I approach people alone because it is so much easier to connect that way. If I see someone lining up in class and I want to say something I count to 3 and say it, and every single time I've said something they happily respond back. -tip 4: the rules of conversations: when you first meet someone and you want them to like you there is a way to win them over: ask questions about themselves!! people are obsessed with themselves and they want to feel important, so do exactly that. compliment something you like about them, ask them questions and / or respond with an interesting story you have. actually listen to their answers instead of thinking about what your going to say next. BUT if the conversation sounds like your giving them a boring interview (they reply with one or two word answers) then its a sign to back off. - tip 5: STOP WORRYING ABOUT THE CONVO!! I used to be terrified of awkwardness and silence, but every conversation has silences. I also used to excessively try to carry the conversation. conversations are 50/50 so instead of spending the whole conversation worrying about what your going to say next just see where it takes you. If it's your first time talking to them then of course conversations will be awkward just give it time. -tip 6: KNOW YOUR SELF WORTH!! You need to walk into the room knowing that you are a fun and interesting person and people should be lucky to get to know you (don't be cocky though). Once you approach a convo thinking of the other person as an equal it becomes a lot less stressful -tip 7: LAST TIP, life is short, we are floating on a rock in the middle of nowhere and time flies. We will never be in highschool, middles chool, college etc again so I wouldn't want to spend it all alone just because I wasn't brave enough to talk to people. You only live once so make the most of it (I know this sounds cringe but take this to heart)

1. Remove the filter: speak your mind out without hesitation . Stop thinking whether to say it or not. Just say it! 2. Threading: ask questions related to the answers that the other person is giving you to let the other person know you are actively listening to them. 3. The pratfall effect: dont try to be a perfectionist. People will approach you more when they see that you are not perfect and you have flaws too.

*trying to start a conversation* Me:how was your trip to London Her: I never went there Me: ok :)

Im an overthinker that's why im anti- social. I don't like thinking about what a person think of me after a conversation. I'd rather not talk at all.

As an autistic person with social anxiety, this is exactly the video that I was looking for. I need patterns to focus on, cycles that make sense to me, etc. I've been scouring the Internet for something like this for hours. Thank you for this - it is truly so helpful.

I remember the one time when I had talked to a fellow classmate of mine for the first time , idk how but we ended up talking for about an hour straight about so many random topics and it was amazing. The best part was that she was equally enthusiastic to keep the convo going and we just found so many things to say so naturally and at the end of it we felt like we knew each other for years. It was awesome

*walking into that cute girl that i like* -"wassup man" *girl leaves*

The person: "say whatever's on your mind" My mind: "ratatouille is actually the pope."

I followed the advice with the filter and now I’m constantly surrounded with other people 24/7 for another 10 months! Thank you! 😊😊😊

Honestly, i was an extroverted person when i was a child, but due to being bullied at school,family problems and any kind of verbal abuse, i lose the ability to talk more and became introverted like person, came here to learn to talk again✌️

I feel like a robot learning how to become a human

I genuinely don’t understand how people do this naturally

I've honestly been socializing better these days and what this guy said is really true I've let go of my filter and started staying/doing things when I feel like it. One thing to say though is that you still have to be mindful of the timing and your words.

My issue is with filtering. I filter too much because I’m scared to just be me- which is why I act completely different in different social situations. If I’m at school (hs), I’ll naturally be more awkward+ filters, and when I’m alone with a friend or anyone really, I’m much more confident because I feel less judged.

pov: you grew up with parents who taught you not to speak unless you’re spoken to, and now you’re a crazy introvert.

some people really need a filter though. LMAO

Another tip: if the person in front of you is talking, give them your undivided attention (no phone in hand for example). Being a good listener will always make you a better speaker.

As an introvert I’ve been alone for the past 3 years in high school. This year I’ve joined courses where I made friends. I judged them first based on what kind of character they were. We all seemed really introverted and we were all similar cultures and upbringings, also same interests. I found myself talking a lot and it’s the most I’ve talked throughout all 3 years. My advice is don’t inquire about yourself all the time. When I’m talking with my new friends I hardly don’t ask about their personal life’s or I don’t seem that interested but when they talk about something that I experienced myself, I will talk and make the whole conversation about me out of excitement. Frequently indulging in conversation and using reactions by expressing ur thoughts on that topic is wat I have started to do. I feel as if our relationship is getting better.

I'm actually a reallyy talkative person.. WHEN the other person ACTUALLY shares at least ONE of my interests-

"You want to be good at conversations ? Just disagree with everything the other person says" --TheOdds1Out

“Say whatever’s on your mind” My mind: goes blank

I watched this a couple months back, not gonna say this video single-handedly made talking easier for me but I have realized that after pushing myself more I’ve been doing this subconsciously more and more

i just can’t think of ANYTHING to talk about. it’s like my brain just goes blank. i try my best but it’s impossible for me to even start a conversation.

As a tip: just listen to what the other person is saying! Don’t spend so much time thinking of what you’ll say next. You’ll find that you naturally think of questions about or additions to what they are saying. Just listen and relax.

I'm really social, just the *other* person doesn't talk much, so now I think it's sort of luck to find your true best friend

I actually have better conversations when I don't use TOO MUCH filters and just embrace the awkwardness of the situation. What I mean is that I don't try to be overly confident and just be myself. What I've been doing lately is not shying away from making someone to know that I'm quite awkward, makes me become less intimidating and makes the conversation be more natural.

"Remove the filter! Say what's on your mind!" Oh I'm sure that's gonna go well at the Thanksgiving table.

I'm not shy or have social anxiety, the problem is that I'm always awkward 💀

bro this is actually very helpful. im usually very shy and tend to overthink things so when i meet new people i tend to have more blanks. im glad this video came up on my recommended.

I operated that way most of my life. For a time, I had lots of friends and lots of trauma. I then ended up with more enemies than friends and lots of strangers that like me. When I managed to properly filter, people began respecting me. One woman even became obsessed with me. The biggest idiots I ever met had no filter. I would say this video is great if you don't want any friends. I'll take respect and limited conversation over no respect and lots of conversation any day. The real secret to conversation is taking control of how you respond to silence. You can make it awkward by trying to force conversation or you can simply acknowledge it as soon as it happens and do something else. These days I view small talk as a doorway to comfortable silences. Small talk is meant to be small. You acknowledge the person's presence so that there is no uncomfortable silence and then you go back to doing what you were doing in silence. Simple. No discomfort. To me, the constant need for conversation demonstrates a lack of emotional maturity. It means the person takes no time to self-reflect, is not comfortable with their own thoughts, does not respect other people's personal space and is short on self-control. A real friend is someone who can enjoy the silence with you as much as the conversation.

But my problem isn't the filter, it's literally having NOTHING to say.....no words in mind, so I just resort to, (after long awkward pauses) some crap about food and snacks, or some bs opinion I made on the spot about the wheather and seasons.....

Me: *talks about random things to crush* Me: *remebers the video* Me: i wanna marry you Crush: wow you really need a filter

As an introvert who wants more social interactions I found this video incredibly helpful

For those with little time, let me summarize this video: the secret to being able to talk about more stuff is… to talk about more stuff, and make mistakes while doing it. Brilliant!

ONE MORE TIP: If you're an awkward mess like me who can't think of *anything* to say, here's what I like to do. I go through the alphabet and pick a specific letter, then a word that starts with the letter. Then at least I have a word. So you might pick b, then book, then go off about your favourite book. Works every time, except when it doesn't : )

so I disconnected my filter and accidentally called someone ugly

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS PLAYLIST💗 These kinds of series help me a lot! Pls do more friends/social skills playlists🙏🏻

-simple -straight to the point -not clickbait -actually works

I’m an extrovert with social anxiety, I love meeting and talking to people but the feeling of “am I boring to them?” “maybe they don’t want to talk” are always chasing me so yeah this helps a lot

I’m fine at keeping a convo going except when the other person doesn’t keep it going like they rely solely on you to come up with topics

Being present and actually listening to the other person instead of thinking of what to say next helped me out a lot. Sometimes I overthink and that be the problem but now I can catch myself doing it and bring myself back

This was perfect for me. I am extrovert with social anxiety and this helped me so much. I want to talk to people but I never have anything to say and I panic about saying something or sounding weird

I guess I'm perfect... nobody wants to talk with me

We have grown so disconnected that we need to watch tutorials on how to converse. Sad.

This is perfect, i wanted to talk with my crush about something, but i am affraid of saying something silly, but knowing that imperfect are perfect in social situation i have more confidence now talking about whatever in my head about her

Usually I don’t have problems communicating with anyone (I’m an ambivert) but when it comes to extremely introverted people who aren’t engaging in the conversation as much as I’d like them to, I think of stuff like “what should I say next” or “how should I make this conversation interesting to them” and after some time “are they even interested in this convo?” Despite them reassuring me and saying that they don’t mind me blabbering away. And when I dig into the deep corners of my brain to find new topics, I accidentally blabber about stuff that I don’t even realise till much later. So this video has been super helpful in my dilemma

When someone tells me something interesting like “I went to the beach last week!” or just anything I just automatically respond with “Oh.” And there goes the awkward silence. 😭😭😭

The person: "say whatever's on your mind" My mind: "sussy balls and more nonsense that no one will be interested in"

It’s definitely a great point to just take an interest in what others are saying by asking questions

I have social anxiety, It's so hard to study, play, to do my best every day.. I've been so worried about my life. I wanna do something cool, and study (at least) four languages. As long as I don't stop. I cant stoping right now! I'm on fire. Unless someone kills me of course

Another tip from an introverts perspective. Read the room and know when to end a conversation. While you could find 30 different ways to continue a topic it’s not always the best choice to do so.

*You know your sad when you searched up "how to be more social"*

As an Introvert, over the years it really helped me to listen to my Social Battery and dont socialize alot when its low. But these tipps then really help in forming deeper friendships with people you like and feel that they vibe with you aswell

I am not afraid of the silence, others are. I only speak when I have something to say. I don't need to talk for hours and hours. That's why people dislike me.

Lol I randomly got recommended this, as someone who could talk pretty well, I’ll give you all some tips - don’t think to hard - be confident when you are saying a joke or punch line don’t waver and push through it - It’s ok to be slightly dirty minded/mean/weird, just make sure they are comfortable and well timed (people actually like it when you act this way because they find you more interesting) - Go with the flow, ask questions, listen, add to the conversation, - Do not be scared to share hobbies, if you play games tell them, you watch anime tell them, if you write books tell them Final note: If you are trying to talk to people, once you get in the conversation just roll with it, you will be surprised on how common you both are to each other and if you are different even better cause you can ask tons of questions

You know, I used to be good at socializing, but after the events of 2020 my ability to talk just… disappeared.

Being knowledgeable solves 80% of this problem

i don't talk a lot but when i get comfortable with you and you talk to me with a high level of energy i will literally not going to stop talking to you

My every day conversation -hi -hi -Lessons are interesting -yeah -so how are you? -fine -that’s good -yeah Then conversation ends...

My problem isn't filtering things I want to say but having literally no things to filter in the first place. I wish I could say everything that appears in my head but the problem is that my head is absolutely empty

When I was 14 I was so socially awkward that all my friends slowly drifted away from me, and I started eating lunch alone and when one of my old friends sat with me again I panicked and I didn't know what to say so we sat one whole hour in an awkward silence until it was time to head to class again and since then I spent the rest of the school year hiding myself in a lonely hallway during lunch starving myself because I didn't want to eat anything by myself anymore and I'm scared for what I will do next year

One of my "nervous ticks" is rushing what I say when I have the urge to filter myself. Often times others can't make out what I'm saying. It can be demoralizing when you muster the courage to say something, and then you feel self conscious because of the way you said it. The good news is I've done a better job as of late catching myself doing it, and slowing my words down.

Me turning off my filter: So, Isn’t it weird how toilets are build up?

Me: Uhmmmm *Removes filter* Me: Wow, I really need to poop right now.

These are solid and helpful, but one of the biggest mistakes a lot of people make in conversation is requiring the conversation to just be an exchange of information. Practice is super important for all of these, and the more you practice, the more comfortable you are, but even more importantly, if you can get away from just getting the info from someone and giving them your info, your response to whatever they said or your input on whatever topic, and can start to have fun with them and the conversation, no matter what it is, you'll grow exponentially as a conversationalist.

This makes me feel better about trying to talk to people at school, because everytime I tried talking to people, or they tried talking to me, it just goes silent after 30-35 seconds. Thanks!

I'm so glad I live in a generation where this stuff exists

LMFAOOO I FEEL SO PATHETIC WATCHING THIS i'm literally watching a video on how to socialize. sad.

I love how I did this and they thought I was insanely obsessed with them and now I see that they were the problem not me.

I’m mainly just watching this before I go on a date tomorrow. Gotta make sure I’m ready for it

I am not from Earth and this video is really good for improving my human conversation skills.

one thing life taught me is that you don't NEED to keep a conversation going, matter of fact, you dont need to be perceived as likable and cool by everyone. Just do yourself and youre gonna find people who you can vibe with naturally

I learned to get over the filter by just saying something random but memorable, if they remember it enough we’ll get into a conversation again and I’ll hopefully have something more to talk about

I cm across this video again.. And months before, I started with threading technique and it still helps me a lot. Removing filter is smth I find difficult being an overthinker but atleast I hv started opening up more with people I am comfortable with, before it was like I am bottled up in front of them also cause I don't wanna lose them by saying smth which they don't like but now I think I hv understood the Pratfall effects' concept. Though, I'm still on my way to improve but ofcourse there's significant progess made. . One thing I would like to add is to take break from social media occasionally.. if not a complete break then atleast from the negative things or from social media influencers. This also had a great impact on me. . . It all started with COVID pandemic. Though, it didn't infect but surely affected me a lot. I was the teen who stayed inside for the complete lockdown.

“Never run out of things to say in a conversation” That is a problem but the bigger problem is starting the conversation

Honestly as an introvert it’s only hard to keep a conversation going when you don’t get along with someone and or have nothing in common.

Noted! It’s the best vod I have seen. I’m super excited to talk to strangers (girls) now cause I feel more safe and confident. Thx👌☺️

You erased my stress by putting words on this, thanks

I’m so horrible at conversation. People fluster me so much (+ I overthink everything) that my mind just goes blank. I can never seem to think of things to say without looking like an idiot. But if I didn’t use my filter, I’d end up sounding psychotic.

whenever i have a convo with someone,i overthink bout the conversation for the next 7 days

The "no filtering" hits. I remember once telling my teacher how a certain group of ppl don't care much being seen naked i have only realized it to be real awkward 3 months after I said that and still thinking what might my classmates think of me lol

omg finally stuff i can actually do that isnt just "be more confident in urself" or "don't worry" - I'm fine in that regard i just literally have no idea how to converse with others

Imagine trying to learn how to communicate with your own species

“Make sure to watch to the end” “You can stop the video here” *confused, antisocial screaming*

You literally explained this perfectly and I don’t fully know how to do said in the video but I will definitely try, thanks

that's is a great video my man! keep up the wonderful content!

Me with social anxiety: “oh cool…. Anyways”

the fact that youtube recommend this to me says a *LOT*

When I tried to do this, I always said the weirdest off-topic things making the other person look at me like I'm crazy, so now my anxiety tells me to just be quiet.

I have Asperger’s and I sometimes have trouble socializing with people. This video helped. Thanks a lot!

That akward silence when u both run out of things to say

As an Autistic boy with mild problems, I struggle to socialize with people. I began watching videos like these, and it has helped me increase my talking techniques. Thanks, you are really doing all of us a favour for our future careers!

Really cool video! I already knew about the first 2 tips and I regularly make use of them, but I wasn't aware of the pratfall effect. Now that I know that, I can use it more deliberately^^

What me helped a lot with the first problem (removing filter) is imagining what I would say to my brother in that exact situation for example or what I would say if he was present instead

I’m not going to lie KZfaq, part of me is offended that you recommended this to me, but the other part is thankful

It's not that I'm shy I just panic and go blank on what to say

I know some of you here need to hear this if Ur watching. Stop smoking so much weed and stop drinking so much! That stuff when off it really shells you up. I learned this the hard way.

extra tip: don’t overshare. in some contexts people will appreciate you feeling comfortable enough to share something intimate about urself. but NEVER do this too early in the conversation. i learnt this the hard way...