How to beat procrastination when you have ADHD

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@victoriadayes Жыл бұрын

And then the executive dysfunction comes in and every task is urgent and important 🙃

@DwayneTheMomJohnson Жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I came here to say

@alyandias9740 Жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@_Ginger_Tea_ 10 ай бұрын

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@_Ginger_Tea_ 10 ай бұрын

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@hamedneu320 8 ай бұрын

Tell me about it!!

@moonhunter9993 Жыл бұрын

"normal" prioritizing doesn't work for me and many ADHDers

@anyadarlingg Жыл бұрын

With practice it helps. I usually have to genuinely think about what is higher priority tho, or else I will forget to get it done in time. And have stickies on my computer with the numbered tasks. Checking them off when they are done motivate me to keep pressing! 🙌

@dianneclou456 Жыл бұрын

So true I was overwhelmed just listening to this approach. What works better for me is to start with a specific number (like 5) of random things. This seems to help overcome anxiety and inertia. Can be as simple as putting a cup in the dishwasher to get myself going.

@dianneclou456 Жыл бұрын

@@anyadarlingg those stickies would drive my anxiety into high gear, but a great idea for many people! Good ❤ for you and I am glad you are getting things done ✔ 😊

@moonhunter9993 Жыл бұрын

@@dianneclou456 I sooo agree. I used to just have a motto, like: get 3 things done per day. If it gets really bad, I would just go: 1 thing per day.

@Catlily5 Жыл бұрын

@@moonhunter9993 That is what I do also.

@clarencedixon8242 Жыл бұрын

Great advice I'll get started on it tomorrow

@Scam_Likely. Жыл бұрын

My grandpa had a saying that really helps me, basically it's "once you start something, it's half finished". Realizing that for me and other procrastinators the biggest obstacle and energy sink is actually putting things off and not the task themselves, so once you've started it you've broken the seal

@aspiring.creative.person6092 Жыл бұрын

Oo that’s good. I’ll have to remember that

@relaxolotl834 10 ай бұрын

Youre right but for me it often doesnt work. Even if i managed to sit at my desk in front of the task and already read the instruction my brain refuses to go on focusing whenever i realize that i first have to somehow understand the whole topic. And understanding the whole topic means reading and memorizing a lot of boring and difficult stuff. My brain hates that and it often takes me hours until i understand enough to go on. Often happens with reading and research before actually starting a task. Any helpful solutions for me? Becouse it is a real pain every time and it takes me hours and a lot of energy which i waste on fighting against my brain

@Jonathan_Doe_ 5 ай бұрын

Yeah but once I start something, it ends up half finished, because I get distracted and start something else.

@Miawallce80 Жыл бұрын

I've got that book.... Had it for over 18 years.... I still haven't read it 😂😂 I was diagnosed with ADHD last week (I'm 43)

@candytwiggytwist3506 Жыл бұрын

I have impression that ADHD caused procrastination is different that the one anxious people struggle with.I find anxiety provoking fear of starting a task, while adhd based is rather a long, 'painful' work and struggle to complete it. Anyone've realised it too, or it's just my impression or a singular case?

@designdoctor247 Жыл бұрын

hum that is very interesting ...i am anxious EVERY time i go to my masters swim class ...when i face the anxiety n fear and GET in the water ...then i complete the class seldom feeling more fear or anxiety and i feel GREAT feeling of accomplishment once i complete each workout... i compare that w painting the outside of my home. i know how to do, i have the supplies, i just continue to AVOID it! ???

@dianneclou456 Жыл бұрын

Some neurodivergent people have both. ADHD, with or without hyperactivity, combined with anxiety is a challenge to say the least.

@DaveE99 Жыл бұрын

Are you missing a what how and why, or are you avoiding it because of anxiety

@Player-fp1xg 11 ай бұрын

Bold of you to assume I'll sit down and do these tasks, cards, and priorities. I'll just procrastinate this as well

@reginadavis6370 Жыл бұрын

My office had a Covey class (it lasted a few days). They purchased all the material to go with it. I loved it. I learned alot. 1 being that everything CANT be priority.

@Kristoferwitha_k Жыл бұрын

Right but we people who have ADHD also have a huge problem prioritizing things because everything coming into the door seems like it's in Big Red letters

@cwright821 5 ай бұрын

'Now' or 'not now' thinking is a danger here too...'not now' can mean it gets filed under 'never' 🙃

@AlisonCrockett Жыл бұрын

The one about a priority but not urgent is the one that keeps me from my goals. Labeling it that way immediately helps my mind because when everything is urgent, I can’t think and avoid the one that I want because I have so many other things that have to be done now…

@ElliLovett Жыл бұрын

what if every task is urgent cause the deadlines were all last week and every one of them is hugely important ...* cries *

@farisroy_ 10 ай бұрын

Thanks! Please make a longer video of this topic.

@DrTraceyMarks 10 ай бұрын

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@farisroy_ 10 ай бұрын

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@beahappy1today Жыл бұрын

Great tips! Breaking painful tasks into smaller steps helps. Then all you have to focus on is the next small step, and everything is already organized and planned out. Going to try other tips here

@viralbuthow000 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for making this a short, because, you know.

@feegreene1793 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so very much. Your channel has helped me tremendously. I accepted that I have ADD/ADHD; the coping skills and strategies from your videos have helped me become more productive in only a couple of months ❤

@TheSkyline5467 Жыл бұрын

I really appreciate you and your channel

@PhillyDjHook Жыл бұрын

_Got it!!!_ *Important* and *Urgent* *Important* but, _Not Urgent_ _Not Important_ but, *Urgent* _Not Important,_ _Not Urgent_ *Thank You so Much* I'm going to try this. I can't get anything done. And I'm not lazy. I'm just doing a little bit of everything and, not completing, anything. Just doing a whole lot of nothing. I'm going to try this. You are heaven-sent. ❤️

@ThruHannahsEyes Жыл бұрын

What is it when you are an adult and noticed you can't focus, and papers have been literally making you sick 🤢 and causing you to go into reptile brain. Like my brain stem starts to ache and than my spine and I all of a sudden i become exhausted and sometimes I get a migraine?

@M_SC Жыл бұрын

Anxiety

@ThisIsJexter Жыл бұрын

Just to say: Happy New Year, Dr. Marks! 😃🥳

@seannixon745 Жыл бұрын

Great video, I'll start tomrrow!

@DellaDykeborn 8 ай бұрын

I needed the time pressure that procrastination provides to get enough stress to get things done at the last minute

@delirious_z9987 7 ай бұрын

me on the exam knowing all the answers but not starting most of them because they seem to long

@renaissancewoman3770 Жыл бұрын

Dr Tracey Marks is the Goat. Thank you for what you do!

@rodneuer4600 8 ай бұрын

My adhd is so severe I feel pain (I don’t know how else to describe it) just by doing any task, as simple as watching a football game.

@ikanberapi2189 Жыл бұрын

But Ma'am theres no such thing as "rewarding task"

@s_sanny Жыл бұрын

I usually try to just start and then reward myself with music

@conman20000 Жыл бұрын

Usually, most fall into urgent for me still though.

@Thekeysfamily1 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr.

@ingrid5944 6 ай бұрын

I kinda play a game I did to myself that it's like "DO SOMETHING, ANYTHING! JUST DO IT!!!" 😂😂😂😂😂 Cause I have so much stuff to do that I kinda feel like I need to prepare myself to start doing it, but if I do this, I get stuck just thinking aboy I should do and I never do it, so I don't like thinking too much, I just need to DO SOMETHING FASTER THAN A SECOND, even grabbing a sock from the ground helps hahaha And then the magic happens. It kinda creates a chain reaction and when I'm aware of it, I'm cleaning my whole room now 😅 It works! And another thing is that: We need to have a routine!!! Keep our bodies moving! If we are too stagnant, it also creates a chain reaction that will lead you to be even more stagnant, on your phone watching videos non-stop. I really enjoy my vacations from work but at the same time I don't like it cause I know I'll get more lazy and stagnant than before.

@ilurvecooperanderson 7 ай бұрын

I procrastinate a lot with going to sleep at reasonable time, how should I reward myself for that task. being well rested next day and not dying between 8 am and 4 pm seems not enough.

@nura1627 Жыл бұрын

@Dr. Marks! I have a burning question, if you please! What is it about body doubling that lets me *magically know HOW* to do a task? A task I should know how to do, but something's just muddled - can't figure out what steps to take & in what order. Providing better "Accountability" is a go-to explanation for how body doubling works, but that just doesn't scratch deep enough to make sense of the dynamics in the experience. It's been my most effective catalyst for action, long before I heard of the phenomenon, but it's as mysterious to me as fairy dust. If you see this, Thanks for your time. 🙌 We're rooting for you!

@vma1234 Жыл бұрын

Thanks Dr Marks. Excellent video Happy New Year 🎈

@user-ms2ru8sc2u 11 ай бұрын

I have overcome my study related problem by going to library....

@peaelle42 Жыл бұрын

Hello Dr Marks, thank you for this video!! When you say 'pairing a rewarding task with an adversive task', do you mean do them at the same time (like have a cup of overpriced latte while coding or writing some difficult article) or do the task first, then reward myself? Cause sometimes, when I do the nice and nasty task at the same time, I kinda get distracted by the nice task and then I just give up on the nasty task. -facepalms-

@ntrlnwrmz Жыл бұрын

Let the rewarding task be your reward

@nireeburr Ай бұрын

Urgent tasks are when everything falls into a heap! Why do it that way.!!! Like now I’m selling my car..

@perpetualearner1 2 ай бұрын

Yeah but prioritizing is also impossible cuz everything seems important and urgent

@sharanya8008 5 ай бұрын

😊

5 ай бұрын

Yeahhh making that list is about as far as I’m getting with prioritizing things. The execution is the issue. I think for me it’s once I start something I’m not satisfied until it’s finished and I know it’s going to consume me so I wait until I have no choice but to do it and let it consume me for way less time than it would have otherwise. I would LOVE to be able to do my projects little by little and be satisfied with having an end to my day, a stopping point, and just being able to put it down without it being complete.