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It's Papago. I use it for translation of different languages. Google translate is terrible for proper grammar and translation.

I agree with you, the mother has issues and the daughter is too anxious to please and receive what she missed for so long! I give it 6-12 months and then the mother moves out again, this cannot end well!!

I see where you're coming from, and I can definitely agree with a lot of what you're saying. But I want to explain things from a korean adoptee perspective, even though I myself am not in reunion. Single mothers in Korea are extremely despised and stigmatized. When people find out you have children and don't have a husband, you are seen as inferior, like a subhuman. And it doesn't matter the circumstances in which you became an unmarried single mother. Mothers especially back then, did not have any rights on their own. Everything was patrilineal, and you had to use the fathers name to register children into the national registry. so her perspective was probably that she didnt want her children to suffer even more because of her, and the only way to help them was in giving up her rights as a mother. But also, she definitely seems to have trauma from the abuse. A lot of her "denial of love" seems to come from the fact that she never was loved herself. I myself have been in an abusive relationship and can completely understand how that messes with you mentally. You may feel like you need to be a recluse because you dont think youre deserving of love, or perhaps dont even understand it. Now, Jamis desire for affection is something that most if not all adoptees struggle with. Especially those with a strong longing for that biological relationship. But even more, for her, she has actual memories of living in Korea and being with her mother. For me, I was adopted basically at birth so its different. But I cant imagine what carrying those memories would make her feel. Adoption is technically a loss in itself. Many of us experience abandonment issues and feel like we have to overcompensate for the emptiness in some way. It seems Jamis way of doing it is to please her mother and do things for her and with her, but also, suppressing her own feelings and needs. Many adoptees do this with their birth families, and yes, it is extremely frustrating especially because we didnt choose to be adopted. Ive heard stories where adoptees were told to learn korean, and their parents not understanding why thats so difficult and frankly, unfair to ask of them. We have to constantly suppress our own feelings because we want our birth family to accept us, we dont want a double rejection. but i have heard of many adoptees who just couldnt take it anymore and cut off contact eventually. Asking the child you abandoned to change their life for you is definitely messed up. However, i can to somewhat degree understand it may be more than just us being adopted. As adoptees we tend to project our own feelings of rejection onto others. Culturally, I know Koreans especially old koreans are very set in their ways and there are these same types of conflict among biological Korean families that arent adopted as well. Koreans in general also expect respect to elderly and can be quite xenophobic, including younger people. They all kind of have these expectations that you should learn korean, and act culturally Korean, especially in Korea. A good example of this is a scene in the kdrama Move to Heaven where an adoptee who was deported tries to get a job and is turned away because he cant speak Korean and they say nasty things about asian looking foreigners who dont know korean under their breath. I have personally experienced this myself. The thing about calling her omoni was interesting to me too. And the prospect of my own mother saying smth like that would probably make me feel a bit hurt too. Like she said, "she doesnt understand my heart". I'm not sure how common it is for korean mothers to ask this of their kids, but this i guess is just another example of the adoptee having to suppress herself. Likely I'm guessing since she was denied that childhood with her mother, saying omma feels like its bringing that childhood back. but perhaps since the mother doesnt truly see how her lacking that childhood affected her, she doesnt understand. and i do agree, likely the reason why the mother is distanced from jami could also be related from her reminding her of her abusive husband and the trauma she went through. and maybe jami not doing things her way makes her feel like she has no control again, because in an abusive relationship, its all about the abuser denying the victim control over their own life. but its wrong to project that onto her daughter. its unfortunate that therapy is still stigmatized in korea, especially for older people. because i think she could really benefit from it and could help resolve that underlying trauma she has. its also not really fair that korean society is nondiscriminatorily outcasting all single mothers, even widows and abuse victims, because its not really their fault for having to go through that. historically, this stigma worsened as the country developed, which you'd expect to be the opposite. however, koreas process of economic development was very rapid, and did not allow social development to keep up. they never had any civil rights movements to help improve things. and the social movements that did exist were suppressed by the previous dictatorships. for the single mother stigma, it was park chunghees campaign against "undesirables" like them as well as economic incentives that drove the international adoption industry in korea. private adoption became big business because of demand, not supply, thus putting even more pressure on single mothers to abandon their children for the sake of the country and economy. they do have agency, but that agency was constantly taken advantage of and exploited because the government was being lobbied by the private adoption agencies. most mothers want to keep their children. but in korea, they often felt they didnt have a choice in a patriarchal, economically driven society.

@@worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010 thank you for taking the time to tell me your perspective. As I have longterm friends in Korea, and thus constantly had an interest in Korean history, politics and social standards for the past 15 years, I know pretty much everything of what you said concering single mothers, baby boxes, the trouble of bringing up a child alone starting with registrating the child (seems to be the same mess for single fathers in Korea these days sadly), and of course the discrepancy of comparably superfast tech and economic development, while many other developments just didn't happen, or just started in some cases. I am not an adoptee but I have a very negative and abusive family background nonetheless, and can relate to many things you described without being an adoptee. Abuisve families can create very similar traumas all without the adoption topic. So although it's a bit of a shift situationwise, I meanwhile (I'm mid 40) just know when I see hopeless child/parent situations. I went through this full force for 20 years, and it took me another 20 to get over all the trauma, - and that was only possible when I cut all ties with that family. There is often just two choices: 1. you bang you head at that very same wall over and over again, bleeding and all, and you always hope and expect a change, or different reaction from the other side. Or 2: you understand certain givens and mechanisms and the fact that no matter how hard you try you can not change another person who is caught in their own, often totally untouched traumworld, you just have no chance, and as long as you keep banging your head into that person, you will hurt, and that other person will hurt too, because they don't even have the means to understand what they are doing. It's like living in parallel universes but for some weird reason meeting in a room, but no matter how hard you try, you can't communicate with each other. After trying for a very long time I had to understand it's option 2 , and realising that is horribly painful and if one is willing to reflect and work on yet another huge trauma, it's constant work and it will take tons of energy and time to go through the motions. But having done that for 20 years now I can say it was the right choice as it was the only way my soul and spirit could get at least a chance to heal, and it took it and it was my right to take it. I have a comparably good life now, and I couldn't be more grateful for that as it is due to my own choice it is a good life now. And honestly, although I had to deal with stigma and awful judgemental people too (people who do not care what so called 'mothers' did to their children) who didn't have more to say than: what an awful person you are, leaving your 'poor mother' for 'no reason', when she is 'your mother,' etc. But there was a point when I just didn't care about it anymore, I didn't tell it anymore as most people have their mind set on this sugarysweet commercial 'mom is your best friend and loves you regardless' lie, and this whole idea of mothers being almost untouchable (as if anyone who gives birth to a child is automatically a mother, I'd strongly disagree with that notion) so they would not ever listen to how things are for actually many children in reality anyways. So that as an explanation for why I saw Jami's situation like I saw it. What I wanted to say is that in the end it doesn't really matter if one is an adoptee and feels totally lost and rejected or if you grew up in a total loveless, destructive and abusive home with your actual parents. In the end, if you can't reach the other person at all because of their own full-blown trauma active, it's just a waste of time, and everyone will remain unhappy until either the end or until someone cuts these destructive ties again.

The mother will never accept or even get used to the western life style of her daughter, Omoni has too many issues and old grief! I am afraid that Jamie will regret the day she moved in a house with her mom, mom has nothing left to give and will nag a wig in between all that is healthy in that family!!

i want to know too, the other updates for this series came faster, it’s been more than a week 😢

There's nothing wrong with being outspoken and standing up for herself, she has done nothing wrong through out this series, stop being such a Coward!

Kim is a much common family name in korea, hwang not so much so you may have better luck searching if you want to

Yes There are lots of Hwang in korea

Yes, she has two other siblings, it was mentioned a few times throughout the series.

It’s the same meaning…uma is a little more informal though

If you watch one of the other parts further back she explains why she calls her mom more formal.

the mother said she does not want to be called 'omma' by ger daughter