Seriously! Especially after finding out they have 4 kids and 7 grandkids! He must be a little lonely not really speaking the language and probably doesn’t have any friends.

She got adopted at age 11. Actually, I'm shocked. That rarely happens. It's very very rare.

They both did!

He looks 54. I honestly think that's a typo mistake. I very much doubt he's 64. I believe they're the same age..both in their 50s.

@@shannonoconnell8954 agreed. if the mom is 72. No way the daughter is 64 lol.

In my case, you never really forget it completely after age of 11 although the grammar and writing skills deteriorate a lot. The verbal skills stay, but not on fluent level. You could talk to me and I understand most of it, but it will be hard to have perfect speech.

From what I know, stigma surrounding single parents raising kids or kids born outside of marriage is pretty prevalent even today in Korea. Also adoption was a pretty big (and lucrative) industry back in the days, so I think a lot of parents felt that it was the only option and probably wouldn't have made that choice if they had been helped by the government and if there was less societal pressure.

Yes, there is a lack of governmental help in Korea. Many citizens are left without any support in all areas. Only the rich have a great life in Korea. So I heard. There has to be a change... The Chaebols seem to be the new kings in Korea, all others seem to serve their interest.... what a shame!

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At eleven years old, your language skills are pretty well developed and ingrained I think. Also, she may have had Korean friends or attended Korean school/church to keep up her language. But good on her for retaining the language as it allows her to get closer, faster to her Korean mom.

Most traditional older Korean families do not have adult children who call their father “Appa”. It’s considered immature and inappropriate for adults children. But younger modern families seem to be changing traditions slowly.

@@chaisepomme4070 I have a korean friend who was adopted at 14 years old. He's in his early 50s now and doesn't know barely any Korean.

@@NHJDT Yes, of course it's possible to forget just about all your first language even starting out at 14 from disuse. I wonder though if your friend if he actually started some Korean classes now may pick it up again a lot more easily than a non-Korean.

@@NHJDT I immigrated from South Korea to Canada with my family when I was six and I sort of retained a six year old's handle of the language even though I never took Korean classes (one in university) or had any Korean friends/contact growing up. I can pick up about 20% of a Korean show/movie without looking at the subtitles. I'm rapidly approaching 60 and even in my advanced age I think if I studied a bit more I can probably pick up more of the language and the writing.

Yes, and also she was fortunate to be adopted by a good family in the US. The circumstances could have been very different for her if she had gotten to live in an abusive situation. I think there is a documentary in this channel on the unethical/illegal adoptions that took place in South Korea in the 70s and 80s.

The video stated that Jami didn't dare to do this while her adoptive parents were still alive. I see nothing wrong with what she is doing... her children are grown and have lives of their own.

"leave everything behind" pretty sure her kids are full grown adults now with their own lives. why does it matter so much to you whether or not shes grateful? are you grateful you were born and not aborted? are you grateful you can use the internet? are you grateful you weren't a starving child in a poor country? why do you people ONLY ask these dumba** questions to adoptees when these are FULL GROWN adults with their own damn agency. not to mention this woman was ELEVEN YEARS OLD like she literally has full blown memories and obviously has a strong attachment to the woman who raised her for 7 years and then haunted for 4 more years after by the loss of her. adoption doesn't make her obligated to do sh*t or feel sh*t. thats simply something that HAPPENED to her, it doesn't define who she is.

I think she mentioned that she left Korea at 9 years old. It seemed that her adopted parents were also open to her keeping many aspects of who she was.

She wasn’t abandoned by her mother, her father chased her mom out by beating her. It sounds like he wanted a new wife and step mom for his children. This was common back then, as laws for child support and child custody were non existent back then. Even today, it’s not uncommon for the children to stay with father in case of divorce. Korean women do not change their last names, there is no such thing as married name. They are the “outsider” as children are given fathers last name. At 11, she must have remembered and had memories that she was loved by her mom. Her mother had a difficult life, it was a blessing for her to be adopted to to a loving family in the USA. Life in Korea would have been very difficult for her even if she had stayed with her mom instead of her father.

There is no right or wrong decision here. This woman's decision to reconcile with her birth mother would give her peace for the rest of her life. I'm sure she harbored the anger in her for many years. After her adoptive parents died, I think she thought it would be better living with happiness than anger. She knew her birth mother was struggling with poverty and had problems with her birth dad. Her adoption, in a way, gave her a better life that her birth mother could not have given her. Also, I'll play the devil's advocate in defending the birth mother. South Korea was extremely poor in the 1960's, not like what we see today of a developed and modernized country. The birth mother had a very difficult life and I don't know if this woman would be better off had she stayed. If the birth mother had abandoned her as a baby on the streets of Seoul, then this could be a different story how she reacted. If I were abandoned by my birth mother as a baby on the streets, then got adopted and grew up to be a productive member of society. I would want to look for my birth mother and ask why? The answer, good or bad, would give me a closure. I don't know if I would reconcile with her right away. But, I think with time, the pain would alleviate and forgiveness would take over for me to reconcile because after all this woman was the one giving birth to me that meant life. Each person has freewill choices to make. I totally understand why abandoned or adopted children never want to seek out their biological parents. In my opinion, a better choice is to seek out. I want to know why and live in peace instead of harboring that anger until the day I die.

and its funny how literally everyone who says stuff like this ISN'T ADOPTED THEMSELVES so how tf would you know what its like. how tf would you know the reason why adoptees search. and even if you did, she was fking eleven for christ sake. those memories probably HAUNTED tf out of her if she didnt do it. at 11 years old, you are almost at the point in life where you develop your own identity. that is a literal sixth grader. she called this woman "omma" for 11. whole. years. 7 years when she was with her, and 4 more years in the orphanage. and clearly her omma cares about her. childhood is when you develop an attachment to your family. that woman was the only person in her childhood who she may have had fond memories of from korea out of all the dozens of bad ones. who wouldnt search for her.

That's what you took out of this?? Uncalled for and rude. Quit generalizing too! Also, she and her mother even said she gained weight while being in Korea in part 2.