How to Control the Conversation in English & Avoid Uncomfortable Questions

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Knowing how to control the conversation in English will help you avoid uncomfortable topics and questions. This Confident English lesson will give you 3 ways to do that.
For example, if someone asks:
- So who are you going to vote for?
- Why don’t you have kids yet?
- Why did you move here?
Or maybe you felt uncomfortable because the conversation turned to gossip. And you didn’t want to be part of it.
If you’ve ever felt stuck or unsure of what to do in an English conversation, you’re not alone.
Whether you're an advanced-English speaker or just starting your language journey, today you’ll learn 3 practical strategies to boost your conversation skills and know how to control the conversation in English.
This means you’ll know how to answer the question if you want to, how to change the topic with ease, how to be assertive if necessary, and how to simply end the conversation.
Get the full lesson at the Speak Confident English website: www.speakconfidentenglish.com...
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Chapters:
00:00 - Intro
02:54 - 3 strategies to control the conversation
03:22 - Strategy 1: Use curiosity to better understand the intent
05:00 - Examples of how to use curiosity
07:05 - Strategy 2: Redirect the conversation
09:20 - Examples of how to pivot or transition in the conversation
10:40 - Strategy 3: Communicate your boundaries
11:45 - Examples of communicating boundaries
14:00 - A note on using humor
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Hi, I’m Annemarie - an English teacher whose expertise is in spoken communication, confidence-building, and fluency. Everything I do at Speak Confident English is designed to help you get the confidence you want for your life and work in English. On my KZfaq channel, I share weekly lessons with strategies, skills, and resources to help you:
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@Speakconfidentenglish 10 ай бұрын

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@victoriaa7634 11 ай бұрын

Wish I had mastered this 20 years ago.. thank you!

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

You're very welcome!

@daniels. 11 ай бұрын

What I love about these videos you're doing lately is that they're much more about General Communication than about ESL only!

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

I'm so happy to hear this was helpful on multiple levels.

@claramoreno6119 10 ай бұрын

As always you are so assertive in choosing topics for teaching us to improve not only English speaking, but in our personal life! Thank you so much Anne Marie.

@Speakconfidentenglish 10 ай бұрын

Thank you! I'm so happy to know my lessons are helpful to you.

@wilcharly5037 11 ай бұрын

Your lessons are always helpful and they deserve more than a click on the like button. Thank you so much Anne Marie !!!

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for the kind comment!

@josephaboudeeb5665 11 ай бұрын

Great lesson. Thank you!

@almaugarak 3 ай бұрын

Thank you:) 😀

@fatihonge1041 8 ай бұрын

Super!❤

@sheikhiqbal6348 6 ай бұрын

Great ideas from a great person

@nadezhdazaichik1190 11 ай бұрын

As always, absolutely brilliant! Great topic and great explanation with advanced English! Thank you, AnneMarie, for everything you do! ❤

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

@rowaidash4346 11 ай бұрын

You are the best thank you 🙏 teacher

@eustaquiozambrano2974 11 ай бұрын

Thank you very much Have a good Day 👍

@jaysoncostales8056 2 ай бұрын

Thank you mam Annamarie many people like me learn from your KZfaq channel you are a good teacher

@yaziedyazied3319 11 ай бұрын

I love it ❤

@georgea3356 4 ай бұрын

Fantastic

@kikitantan4223 11 ай бұрын

I started to watch your channel to learn English But I realized that I am learning how to respect others and my self as well as English ❤ I love the way you Speak English and your choice of words ,,, I will imitate you ❤️ From Japan

@johnibat 11 ай бұрын

Thanks... Great tips...👍

@americaninstituteofenglish2012 11 ай бұрын

That's really helpful for those who are caught on the hop. 😊

@candidofinda7819 11 ай бұрын

very good your class of english

@mayuree_jasmin 18 күн бұрын

Very very helpful.

@Speakconfidentenglish 17 күн бұрын

I'm glad it was helpful!

@ceciliaromia 11 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for this super helpful lesson, Annemarie! You are awesome! Love from Argentina!

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

You are so welcome. I'm glad it is helpful.

@nataliya2641 11 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

You're welcome!

@vidyashankar9616 11 ай бұрын

This lesson covers a relevant topic. Many people tend to ask questions about one's personal life and do not care whether one is comfortable with such discussion or not. Some such people need a training in etiquette, to understand why we refuse to answer them.

@ruthhoyos931 10 ай бұрын

As always. Very helpful video. Thanks ❤️

@Speakconfidentenglish 10 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

@arivasklein 11 ай бұрын

Love this lesson. Very useful in the Family and Corporate world.

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

Glad you think so!

@shamsunnahar6498 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Annemarie ! Very useful content everyone need this.❤🎉

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

You are so welcome.

@khandakeranjum8382 11 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot for this topic. i love the way you delivered.

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

I'm glad you liked it!

@SuSu-zd9vb 2 ай бұрын

Thank your for sharing.

@Speakconfidentenglish 2 ай бұрын

My pleasure.

@anjusrivastava149 11 ай бұрын

I love the way you told the different situation and by setting the boundaries correctly so that we could all manage the situation better together… Thanks for your valuable awesome advice ❤️😘

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

You're so welcome!

@yoputito 11 ай бұрын

So important to know this information, in our second language in particular since we might seem more vulnerable than a native speaker.

@sajianoorzai1 11 ай бұрын

Thanks that was fantastic, I really like this sentence that’s for me to know and you to never find out. 😊

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@chengxiaoxia8046 11 ай бұрын

Thanks, AnneMarie. I love your style, your content of teaching and your name. You don't just teach English; you also prepare us to face difficulties and maintain an active and positive mindset in challenging situations.

@Speakconfidentenglish 10 ай бұрын

You're welcome, moreover thank you so much for the kind comments!

@julissaturbibautista2644 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, Annemarie! I needed this. Sometimes I don't know how to deal with uncomfortable/personal questions or gossip, these tips are definitely going to help me.❤

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

I'm so glad to hear that! Thank you for watching.

@thilakasirispathiranage9981 5 ай бұрын

This strategies is helpful. Thanks.

@Speakconfidentenglish 5 ай бұрын

You're welcome!

@meguellatisabrina5631 11 ай бұрын

That's helpful, not just the English part of it, I usually don't know how to answer in situations like these😢

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

I know. These situations are tough. I'm glad this gave you some helpful options.

@paulocalado452 11 ай бұрын

thank you for providing such valuable content, I can see the applicability of it all in my daily work.

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

Wonderful. I'm glad it will be helpful to you.

@soniaaraujo8837 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Anne Marie!

@Speakconfidentenglish 9 ай бұрын

You're welcome. 🙂

@silesiaantracyt8311 11 ай бұрын

Thank you. Really valuable, diplomatic and intelligent advice.

@Speakconfidentenglish 11 ай бұрын

I'm so pleased it was helpful. Thank you for watching.

@silesiaantracyt8311 11 ай бұрын

@@Speakconfidentenglish it's my pleasure Your lessons are a spiritual feast for me.

@suanyangelaoliveira949 8 ай бұрын

Wonderful lesson. You are amazing. Sometimes is not easy to handle uncomfortable conversation, but I am working on it. Thanks.

@Speakconfidentenglish 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for the kind comments! You are correct, uncomfortable conversations can be difficult. I hope this lesson provided strategies that will be useful to you.

@redcherryblossomgrowing9901 11 ай бұрын

❤

@nataliya2641 11 ай бұрын

You know no age. Always enjoy your professionalism.

@chengxiaoxia8046 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for this lesson. It is so valuable for me, an adult student. I wish I had subscribed to your channel earlier. A few years ago, in a conversation practice class, one male student in my group asked an invasive and embarrassing question to female students: [how many sex partners do you have]. For anyone who gave a number bigger than one, he gave the next question: [ what do you think about having sex with anyone other than your future or current husband?]. Oh, my boy! At that time we were limited in English proficiency and preferred to be honest. So we got stuck. If now, it is so easy for me: 1, use curiosity to kick back the ball.: that's interesting, can I ask why you want to know? 2, change the topic, and redirect the conversation to a favorite topic: That's an interesting point. Speaking of which, have you prepared for the next English writing test? I was good at writing and I could absolutely beat him in my familiar field. 3, set clear boundaries: I don't feel comfortable talking about this in class. Can we talk about something else?

@Speakconfidentenglish 10 ай бұрын

Oh my, those are certainly invasive questions. I'm glad you found some useful phrases you could use to redirect the conversation. Based on what you've described here, I think your 3rd option would be the best choice as the questions asked were rather inappropriate. Thank you for sharing your examples.

@mariabarnes4094 11 ай бұрын

I like the idea of using humor to handle uncomfartable questions. Unfortunately, this method has a drawback: not everyone can take a hint. I've had several situations when some inappropriate questions followed my joke, and sometimes it perpetuated more unwanted curiosity.

@kevinciviclord 11 ай бұрын

One problem is that I soon forget what you have told me, the other is the people I encounter doesn't speak your accent mostly, so the result is that English to me is impossible