"Go outside and crack a whip" definitely sounds like some kind of Aussie drug slang, lol.
@vigilantcosmicpenguin87214 ай бұрын
I assumed it was until the video showed someone actually whip cracking.
@sirtra4 ай бұрын
"You wanna take a crack at it go right ahead mate.." - common aussie phrase
@66127704 ай бұрын
...Give the past a slip Step on a crack Break your mama's back...
@thatotherguy42454 ай бұрын
Dealing with life is easy on paper and brutally difficult in reality
@demoncloud61474 ай бұрын
Sadly many people are unwilling to discuss this difficulty and shut off conversation on this as 'rant' or 'whining' instead of being compassionate and helpful
@HeyLetsDoAThing4 ай бұрын
It isn’t easy on paper either
@LuisSierra424 ай бұрын
It gets easier if you detach completely
@Munchausenification4 ай бұрын
I dont know. life seems to get easier and easier with age. atleast for me
@leelarson19524 ай бұрын
Agreed, in principle. But paper has befuddled me. I like origami. I'm not great at it.
@TimRobertsen4 ай бұрын
Your openness is refreashing. The internet is so full of "life perfectness". I helps to know that people on the internet have the same bumps and struggles in life as the rest of us. Naomi seems like a bundle of joy, good friends are top tier important:)
@ThatMakesSenseToMe4 ай бұрын
I read about 8,000 pages of fantasy novels in the first year of grief. I haven’t gotten to a place where I can talk about it publicly yet. But my heart was with you when you said google was reminding you about your dad’s birthday. Sometimes I’ll click an instagram profile and see it was someone they were following. Grief in the digital age is so bizarre. Sending you solidarity and care.
@vanTersec4 ай бұрын
This... this hits home. Google fotos making stupid and beautiful collages... I save them. I star them. I close them.
@Nonamecritic4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for providing support - I've been having a rough two years and this video came out at the best time possible. I'm struggling and some of your suggestions will ideally help me through this rough time!
@TreesPlease424 ай бұрын
My life has gotten worse for the past 4 years. Tried to go through recovery last year and couldn't manage it. This year has been going better so far. It's an uphill struggle. We need more compassion for each other!
@Zappyguy1114 ай бұрын
I will absolutely agree with exercise. After my father passed away, I went into a deep pit, left my girl friend and eventually got exploited by a psychiatrist. But in the midst of all that, I started working as a removallist and driver, the work didn't pay the best, but the physical activity absolutely boosted my mood and I will confidently say that getting that job was the point my life started looking up.
@zaphodbeeblebrox11304 ай бұрын
agree !! at one point it was the smallest bit of thing that I had set myself up to do; and could do . . . . . . so that part was a boost.
@spliter884 ай бұрын
Same, I noticed this a couple of years ago that even during deep depression if I force myself to go to the gym a few days in a row I return to almost normal.
@drapakdave4 ай бұрын
Thank you. You literally helped me to get out of bed and go for a walk today. I am grateful that you made this video.
@MariposaRedimida4 ай бұрын
Nessy, I´m so sorry. I also lost my dad 4 months ago, it was completely out of nowhere. Grief has been awful. Luna was adorable, hugs! Thank you for sharing your story and coping skills!
@Farimira4 ай бұрын
I like seeing Sydney in the background of this video, the familiarity is comforting
@vigilantcosmicpenguin87214 ай бұрын
I've never been anywhere near Sydney yet I find it comforting. It's just nice seeing some friends go on a normal walk in their normal city in their normal lives.
@Leo999294 ай бұрын
I'm sorry for your losses. It feels like so many people are going through tough times these days. We will get through it though! You just keep going, especially when it gets hard. It's okay to ask for help. Be kind to yourself.
@jaspertuin20734 ай бұрын
One thing that helped me trough a few years of depression was acknowledging and reminding myself that the visceral feelings, just being sad, tired, or just done with it all is okay too, in its own twisted way. It sucks... yes, but depression is a valid emotion just like any other, and thus deserves respect and attention simply for existing. But with todays mentality of having to fix EVERYTHING asap (and individualism telling you it is YOUR OWN responsibility to feel good) you are at the risk of feeling rushed to get better, or getting annoyed/overwhelmed when people/resources around all tell you to get yourself together. (also if they do care and say this in a positive way, it can still be annoying to constantly deal with) The way modern society looks at fixing mental health in itself can be draining in such a vulnerable time, where all scarce energy counts. It is important to remind yourself every once in a while there's (most often) a reason you feel bad, and it has a corresponding physical state with it that influences how you feel. (depression actually changes the brain's structure for one thing) These emotions are real and valid, so you have no choice but to respect them and work WITH the feelings to eventually start feeling better. Putting all negativity in damnation is not the solution, it is instead looking away and not facing what you have to go trough, whatever it may be for you. All the best to anyone who is or has suffered from depression - a random Dutch fellow in his twenties
@slighwentwalking20244 ай бұрын
I found your channel a few years ago. It was during recovery from a TBI. My brain felt like an empty cup...few memories about my life or what I had done before. There are many parks where I live and I began to reconstruct a life with a new focus. I want you to know how much your videos helped me move beyond my brain injury....your dog helped too. Thank you. I have stopped trying to recover old memories and work on creating new ones. Again thank you for making content that is helpful and practical that I can use in my own reconstruction project...my life after a TBI.
@mekky82304 ай бұрын
April last year I found my dad dead in his bed, I tried to resuscitate but failed. A couple of months after that I had to have a critical surgery done and after that I had a really big health scare. All in all I had a pretty terrible year but it's strange, A month or two ago I just started appreciating my life and somehow got a second wind and felt terribly motivated. Now I'm sitting here kind of happy to be honest. I'm working out like crazy and am focussing on my mental and physical health. Science really helped me cope. After I found my dad, the first thing I did when I got home is watch a lecture from a neuroscientist on how to cope with grief which helped me tons. Thanks for your video, it's always bittersweet to hear someone else going through difficult stuff but coming out stronger at the other end. Great job!
@Mattchudon4 ай бұрын
The hardest part of the journey of self-healing is starting it.
@MammothBehemoth4 ай бұрын
Yup, acknowledging it, and facing self-healing. As much we want the people around us and the environment we liv in would help us in our healing, it still boils down at the core to self-healing...until we are willing to help outselves. One side of me is still retaliatory, but I sure hope the healing side wins
@javiernajar14574 ай бұрын
When my dog died 2.5 years ago, I spent several months feeling really sad. I started having panic attacks so I started seeing a counselor and taking some meds for anxiety. Spending time with him was part of my daily routine so it was hard for me to live without him. I'm sorry that you lost part of your family.
@sethdavis43824 ай бұрын
I say it like that Star Trek character's name, because I grew up watching Star Trek.
@AndrewWorkshop4 ай бұрын
Ditto
@DanielSolis4 ай бұрын
"One is my name, the other is not."
@MarkGovier4 ай бұрын
❤ Love the data-data discussion at the end. UK “DAY-TA” speaker here. Wishing you well. Sometimes “things” stack up. Thankfully we’re all different and must remember that “averages” are not targets, plus there’s no right or wrong for most of these things.
@Tom_and_Lulu4 ай бұрын
Wonderful timing for me. High school science teacher, currently off work with 'burnout'. Feeling like I have been emotionally and physically sandblasted by the kids and school processes, so looking for ways of getting back to myself in a regional town where I am alone and so far from the people I can comfortably share with.
@falconerd3434 ай бұрын
That being alone is such a huge factor. It makes everything 10 times harder. I saw a statistic recently that said loneliness is as bad for your health as smoking.
@JoeBob795694 ай бұрын
My cat died a year or two ago and it hit me harder than any human death ever hit me for some reason. Probably because I had to make the decision to finally get her put down. I was having that physical pain that you get in your chest from loss/mourning, which was fine; but as the days turned into weeks, one of the things I eventually realised was that I was randomly getting that "mourning pain" for no reason, and then my brain would immediately go and dig up a memory to match the feeling. And it would usually serve me up the most recent bad memories of my cat dying. It's really quite subtle how it happens. I didn't realise it at first, until one day it hit me because it took a fraction of a second for my brain to find a suitably sad memory, and I was like _"Why am I sad...? Hang on a feakin' minute, this is the wrong way around, the memory should come first, and then the pain!"_ It was like my body was so used to giving me that bad feeling after mourning, that it started randomly dishing it out to me, and my brain would politely oblige by serving up a memory to match it. After I realised this it made it much easier to deal with because I knew it was just a stupid automated response from my body. It kind of felt like the way our brain gives us cravings when we are addicted to stuff, and the physical feeling just pops up without warning, and then the brain says "Yes, give me coffee/cigarettes/etc!"
@owenmcdonald83424 ай бұрын
I know how you feel. My mother went through a 5 year ordeal waiting on hip replacements and being housebound because of cellulitis infections and COVID lockdowns. Then after physiotherapy she had two months of being able to walk again before getting a rare cancer and then passing away in 6 months. She never got to do any of the things she wanted to do. I also was also left with the burden of managing her affairs on top of grieving for most of last year. Everything felt so unfair. However like many things it was a learning opportunity and it made me take a hard look at how I was living my own life and make changes to be happier and healthier. It wasn't an easy climb out of depression but now I'm feeling much better.
@matchtrick4 ай бұрын
I'm really glad you finished this video with a YMMV caveat. I love that your dah-ta based approach worked for you: what a joy to find the algorithm that works! I'm in the middle of an extended period of grief and sadness. For me, the strategy has been to accept that I am unhappy, and I don't know when that will change, or how. So instead of trying to fight my sadness, I accept it, and instead of trying to be happy, I try to be useful. I've pivoted to helping other people. That way, while I'm unhappy, I can still contribute to my community's overall happiness. I spend my day helping, and then in the evening, when I'm unhappy, I can tell myself I helped today. Other people are better off because of me. It's the best virtue I can make of this necessity. It's a privilege I make the most of. Best wishes.
@C2C.4 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing this. I have also had a terrible year: loss of my cat after a long illness, loss of a close friend and colleagues, caring for my ailing mother (whom I almost lost), child's serial health issues, flooding in my home over the holidays, my own illness, and various other matters that have made the burdens seem incessant. From previous terrible years and losses, I learned to remind myself that there is more -- and better -- by trying to find laughter each day. If I haven't directly encountered it in the course of my day, I'll watch a funny show on TV or hop on KZfaq and watch a channel that I know is reliably funny. It doesn't mean that I laugh each time, but it does mean than I'm exposing myself to people who are in a brighter frame of mind. Through reminders or distractions, this helps pull me away from the constant weight, or at least show me that life isn't all heaviness. It's not an even path out of this, but this, along with the sound methods you mention in this video and good friends, help to smooth the path. I wish you and the viewers of this video good luck on your journeys. 🙏💗
@mehlover4 ай бұрын
Life has been getting rough for me gradually over the past couple of months. It was good to know I wasn't alone in suffering. Once I got my energy back, it surprised me how well exercising helped with maintaining my stress. I'm sorry for all your losses. Thank you for your vulnerability and for sharing what you learned. I hope life goes smoothly for you as much as possible.
@TheRealTobias4 ай бұрын
Merely seeing your positive vibes made me feel a bit better today too! - Thanks and all the best :)
@GlenHunt4 ай бұрын
You're one of the really, really good ones and you're never far from my thoughts. I think about you often. Keep being you!
@dylandubeau4 ай бұрын
My father also passed away suddenly and unexpectedly last year. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it has been really challenging to deal with, especially when compounded by everything else you are going through. Thank you for making this video, it has given me some ideas to try to try to cope better. I feel like I've gotten better, but everyday is still hard. I'm sure your dad was, and still is somewhere, very proud of you. ♥
@braincraft4 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear this - sending lots of love to your family. Losing a parent is awful and I hope you can find some ways to cope ❤️
@Friendship1nmillion4 ай бұрын
@@braincraftFound this video 3 days too late . YES you should delete your dad's birthday from google assistant . Stay Strong 🫂 . ♑️✍️🇳🇴🇦🇺
@indridcold49824 ай бұрын
I've been subscribed for a long time, and I intermittently have been watching your stuff for just as long. Thanks for the video, but also thank you for the life update! It was obviously a lot that you had to deal with very suddenly, and I'm glad to hear that you've personally been taking steps to fight back against depression and overall life pain. You couldn't be more right that life is just... hard. People don't acknowledge that enough I feel.
@SalsadArte4 ай бұрын
You are amazing and you have inspired me in so many ways. I’m following you since 2014, now it’s been ten years! I’ve seen Luna so many times, your travelling year, your grandma once, your statue, always admiring that delicate way you let bits of your private life leak out from your very professional videos. I’m so sorry for your losses and health problems. Please accept my hug. Take care of yourself Vanessa 💛 - Valeria (from Italy)
@AlexDainisPhD4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this. It feels so hard, in the depths of grief, to start these things. But they're all so important.
@matthewb31134 ай бұрын
Having studied about Positive Psychology for my thesis, I am aware that many of the healthy coping methods not only draw one out of psychological diseases but if practiced regularly even when all is psychologically well create the buffers to stressors. Of course, a challenge is consistently practicing these "exercises."
@eyesofnova4 ай бұрын
I've been a long time subscriber. I noticed your content was infrequent and the things you posted were often about dealing with anxiety which had me worried about you. I'm really glad to see you're doing better, I know that hitting a dark spot can often make you feel like you'll always feel like that. 76 days ago I started to journal before my day started in the morning. It was usually about things I was going to deal with, but also included things that happened the day before. I didn't realize this until a few days ago but I was using cognitive restructuring, essentially taking a situation that was happening or about to happen and changing the way I interpreted. I write in the 2nd person perspective by writing to myself much like a good friend would. It's had such an amazing change in my mindset in the slightly less than 3 months since I started this that I'm honestly blown away. Sorry, ADHD Rambles! Anyways, thanks for the update. Here's to hoping things continue on the upswing!
@papayacatproductions4 ай бұрын
This is so beautiful and important. So glad you (and everyone watching) have found your path or whatever. Life is so hard, and it's always so hard to know what to do. It's wonderful when we can help each other with stuff that helps. Just know we adore you when we get to see you, and we pressurelessly miss you when you're gone!
@martasmith59673 ай бұрын
Let's take a moment to appreciate your friend who's filming. They sound like an absolute legend! Sending you both lots of happiness. x
@NoopyP2 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear about the loss you've experienced over the year, I hope the future holds brighter things for you
@zen16474 ай бұрын
Thanks for this video. I'll put it in its own special Playlist and watch it more in the future.
@SteveJB4 ай бұрын
It really sucks to learn that you had a very challenging year. Like many of your videos' viewers, I'm glad you got through it. Hopefully your experience will make you more resilient should your life drift into similar turbulence later in life. I'm glad that quitting alcohol helped you. In my experience, quitting alcohol didn't seem to make things better for me, although it could be argued that maybe if I was still drinking that the difficulties in my life would have been compounded. To end with, it's great to see that you were able to push yourself to exercise when times were tough and that it helped you.
@gorgthesalty4 ай бұрын
I, too, have had 2 worst years of my life. Thank you, acquired chronic nerve pain! Trigeminal, of all things. Things that worked: - exercise when possible (pain did get in the way) - friends - support groups - small routines (tea in the evening, coffee when possible) - dropped alcohol and stimulants (e.g. decaf coffee only) - going out with family to restaurants more - routine walk while listening to podcasts - ASMR for sleep - games, movies, series, when possible (pain got in the way there, too) - work (as a distraction) - in the worst of it, anti depressant medication, but mostly to get you out of the very bottom where nothing else worked Still recovering, but hopefully, this crap pain will end soon.
@SpaceEngineerErich4 ай бұрын
One thing I find therapeutic is a game called Space Engineers. I can build ships, rovers, space stations using dozens of blocks. It takes me back to when I was a boy building with Legos. My imagination and design juices flow, along with critical thinking and mechanical thought put into functionality. It is pure bliss.
@mplsmike40232 ай бұрын
Glad to hear you found some pathways through your challenges and also have been willing to document and share with your audience. Great reminders for me when I’m struggling that we kind of know the general solutions, we just have to remember to do them.
@AthAthanasius4 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear about your recent life shittiness, Nessy. I hope you continue to find ways to cope with it all. Having a routine, any routine, definitely helps me with managing my combination of avoidance, anxiety and depression. I've actually gotten into a good run of exercise, sustained now since last August (so coming up 8 months). That was for different reasons (weight loss, especially my small belly that still pokes out), but I can see how it might be helpful in other ways too.
@compostboomtron90014 ай бұрын
I'm really, really sorry for your losses Nessy. But all the same I'm glad you're starting to come out of the other side. And it's pretty cool the way in which you're doing that, and sharing that with the world. There needs to be more acceptance that life can just be hard sometimes but there will always be at least some joy when we look in the right places
@Dudleymiddleton4 ай бұрын
Stay strong and try to enjoy life each day as it comes, like stay in the present tense, enjoy the moment, not reflect on the past or worry about the future. You have my deepest sympathy about losing your father - I lost mine last year and life has been quite challenging since, but one must fight the good fight and cope with it and deal with it. Thank you for sharing your strength against this Life thing!
@1seank4 ай бұрын
❤❤❤ thankyou for sharing Nessy, we often get caught up in our own struggles and forget that so many people go through hardships everyday and you feel as if life has singled you out , sorry to hear about your father passing and losing Luna as well. Always love seeing your content on youtube ❤❤❤
@marwan05114 ай бұрын
RIP to your dad.. I loved the video
@karlnowakowski78664 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. Something I have learned is sharing helps and it also makes you realise your not alone.
@TheGoblinoid4 ай бұрын
I'm sorry to hear what you went through. If it's of any help, your videos have been one of the few things that actually helped me through my dark times. I hope you had a BrainCraft of your own to find comfort. Anyway, thanks for all the hard work over the years. The world is a bit better because your content exists.
@ericac39934 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this - I really needed it. The moment where you said you're hyper aware it's your dad's birthday hit so close to home. My dad's birthday would have been a few days ago. Grief is awful. I'm so sorry for your losses. I'm glad you're taking care of yourself. 💛
@entropyachieved7504 ай бұрын
Happy to see you back and Im sure you will work thru everything and will continue to be fine.
@carbonrobot4 ай бұрын
I relate a lot to your video. My father passed away last year as well and his bday was just a few days ago. He had acute myeloid Leukemia and passed away one month after his diagnosis. Loosing a parent can really shake up your whole world. Change your habits, who you want to talk to, how you think… things will never be the same. I hope that as time goes by you can find a new normal that can give you joy ❤
@crezychameau4 ай бұрын
Life is terrible is how I permanently feel, so not really the same but i noticed what works for me are two opposites : the first one is doing something that i dislike but is nice for future me (doing the dishes, taking care of administrative things i procrastinate, repairing something that bothers me, etc.) feels awful when i do it, but when future me realize the benefit it never fails to improve his mood. An investment on mood. The other one is diving to the deep end of the destructive thoughts. It's unintentionnal but sometime I just can't restrain myself and I plummet. Sad music, ambiance, depressing memories and keepsakes that throw in my face the worst time i've been through. Gets me to the lowest emotionnal state I can. The distress gives me powerful emotions, makes me feel pressured, but at the same time completely erase the anxiety. I don't know how it works but after a while it goes away by itself, like sadness goes away after crying, like it had nothing to do here in the first place. And it leaves me kind of renewed, for a while. First one could be an advice, second one I think it's best to avoid but it fitted the subject "coping" so here i go Sorry for all the bad times you had to go through, hope the sun is finally coming from behind the clouds for you !
@Semmelein4 ай бұрын
Right now I'm in a really tough place in my life and I will also have a tough talk in a couple of minutes. This video was just what I needed, when I needed it.
@Enn-4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video - I appreciate your willingness to be open about struggles. We all struggle, and seeing someone be honest about dealing with life is refreshing. I was diagnosed with ME/CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) and have been ill since 2012. To say it's been terrible is an understatement. Common advice to lift a mood is exercise, which is really hard when even walking around the block can fatigue my body so much that it doesn't work for days.
@du_fox4 ай бұрын
I have been to the same place and it was pretty tough; my experience mirrored yours and I think you've given some amazing advice here. I also found that reducing the amount of caffeine I was consuming or consumer a lesser amount by switching to black tea or even green tea was pretty helpful. Ram Dass just published a really good audiobook about reducing suffering called "Becoming Nobody". I'm listening to it right now and it's really quite insightful on the struggle of being a human being.
@sm55744 ай бұрын
This past year has been the worst year of my life. I've lost so much, and still am. I still have my career and my health, but I've lost almost everything else that matters. Coping is difficult when it feels relentless. Thank you for posting this.
@AndreAlforque4 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing! Grief is uniquely experienced and handled, but foundational elements you mentioned are at the core of coping. Naomi does awesome camera work! …and pronounces “data” how I learned (based off the character Data on Star Trek: The Next Generation).
@parthkhanayat4204 ай бұрын
YOU ARE STRONG!! MAY GOD BLESS YOU 🙏🙏🧿🧿
@axatassabrae4 ай бұрын
Thanks for talking about the HPA axis
@pancakelegend4 ай бұрын
Difficult, difficult, lemon difficult.
@lp32184 ай бұрын
I had such a bad time in my life around 15 yrs ago. those days there were not many videos on internet or so. I didnt use any medicaments just try to meditate, no alcohol, a lot of sport (swimming, bike, hikes, saunas, cold water after showers etc) took me longer to recover than by using medicaments/sedatives etc but I stay stronger. I knew some ppl going through the same using medicine drugs. They recovered faster but I believe I am strong enough now to go any such problems/issues in my life easier as my mind strenghten by itself - fighting it. Wish u all the best. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I used to watch your videos a lot and I am sure they helped a lot of ppl to lear new things and I appreciate your great job. U seem to be very nice person :)
@heartofdawn23414 ай бұрын
The last four years have been tough. A mental breakdown in 2020 lead to the discovery of a mountain of childhood trauma. Then I discovered I'm trans and lost all of my friends and church family. Now I'm battling with crippling depression and burnout, along with a soul-wrenching grief over the childhood I never got to have. And it's so hard to move forward when a single household chore can mean the rest of the day is a write-off. I just feel stuck and I hate it
@StarfleetUnderground4 ай бұрын
I'm so glad you're back and you're okay!
@Laaaaaaaaaura4 ай бұрын
Glad to hear you are feeling more content. Thank you for sharing. ❤
@sarah37964 ай бұрын
I loved the moment when you and your friend gush over data. ❤ Friendship ❤
@julian_hesse4 ай бұрын
The covid time was very similar to me. I am still somewhat in the recovery phase. Thanks your honesty and tips :)
@bewster74 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing that, I understand how hard it must have been. I had an awful year too and struggled massively at times. I will take your findings on board and give them a go
@mattthecatania4 ай бұрын
I hope your medical issues are behind you now. My condolences on your losses. May your next year be a big improvement!
@harrisoctavius4 ай бұрын
Hey Vanessa, I just wanna congratulations of making it through all that. Life is hard, not infrequently unnecessarily so and it's good that this is being talked about more :)
@the1andonly4 ай бұрын
You really did have a tough year. But it looks like you're coping quite well now and "landed on your feet". Gratitude is healing, so is exercise. I have a tip for making exercise much more fun: Start doing your trips by bicycle. You may feel like it takes too much time, at first. But you might get hooked on it and start really enjoying bike rides. They're wonderful exercise that doesn't feel like it. All the best!
@MatthewTheWanderer4 ай бұрын
Right now, life is extra difficult for me because I have an infection in my right leg that doesn't seem to be getting better. It started last summer and slowly got worse until I was forced to go on "medical leave" without pay at work (I am only surviving thanks to help from my family, but I am constantly broke). The worst part is the pain, which makes it difficult to do anything. Now, I can't even exercise like this video suggested. One of my favorite activities was going hiking, now it hurts too much. I also can't sleep normally, anymore, and therefore I am constantly tired. So, being in pain and being tired makes me not feel like doing anything useful anymore. I live alone and have no friends, so all I do all day is watch KZfaq videos, even though the pain in my leg is my only serious problem (I have other health problems, too, but they don't make me feel worse). My life feels like it is on indefinite hiatus because I don't know when my leg will heal and I'll be able to return to work. I started my own KZfaq channel, but only only put minimal effort into making content, even though I upload videos, mostly shorts, several times every day. Somehow, I don't think I am depressed, though, despite wishing I was dead sometimes.
@KathBorup4 ай бұрын
I love this video. I have bipolar disorder so I've battled with depression and anxiety for most of my life and I have found the same thing with exercise and avoiding alcohol, these two things really make such a difference!
@tobilemoine96044 ай бұрын
Watching this video felt good. Take your time. We will all get there.
@Watch-0w14 ай бұрын
I sorry for your lost. Last month i also felt same. My dog die last month.
@tkoriordan4 ай бұрын
This means a lot. Thank you.
@dmarsub4 ай бұрын
As someone else who had by far the worst year of their life, and who unforfunatrly can't do most of the things in the video because of health reasons. Your openness was still very helpful, and i hope it gets better💜
@dripcode2600Ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing! Enjoyed the data vs data discussion. Cache vs cache is another pronunciation issue for us American's living in Australia. #BraveForSharing #VulnerablityIsAStrength #DangUrCute
@OLBICHL4 ай бұрын
I came in this year in a bad shape and it has been rough for me too... also lost a family member and before that, the depression that I thought I've gotten rid of came back swinging... lost my job because of that and it brought a whole different kind of problem... ufff but you seem to be on the right track, sports is a good way to release all that pent up frustration... I also started exercising body and mind, lifting weights and learning a new language to keep myself busy and to have a somewhat sense of normality (that's if one could call weighing all your meals and planning your diet strictly, a normal thing)... showing gratitude sounds like a good idea, I might start trying that app out... thanks for the tip ^...^ and keep fighting, you got this!!!
@JVDetmer4 ай бұрын
OMG! I did notice you were not posting as regularly as before but it never crossed my mind all this happened to you!!! But it's ok! You gave yourself a break and focused on yourself, which is the best anyone could do! Love your videos!!!! Cheers!!!! Keep doing you thing! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
@mattdangerg4 ай бұрын
Glad you're still kickin!
@JohnnyVent4 ай бұрын
What works for me is maybe kinda like something you alluded to. I have to put myself in the current moment and ask myself if this _particular_ moment is bad or if I'm just projecting things from _past_ moments onto this new and unique one. It gives me a sense of control in entropy because even though I sometimes can't control what happens I can always control how I react to it. Sometimes I negatively react to positive things just because I'm feeling bad about something unrelated or only related based on a correlation I myself created and sometimes I'm _creating_ a bad moment just because I'm repeating past patterns. This makes it easier to adjust my mindset and "move on" because I know that I do have a say in things.
@fios45284 ай бұрын
I'm just glad to hear that you're feeling better. I appreciate you having the strength to take this step and also for trying to make the most out of a really tough situation. On the positive, though, I feel like these changes will lead you to even further improvements in your quality of life. Sending lots of love your way
@nickmendens764 ай бұрын
I love that walkway from Central station down to Chinatown. Dumplings should also be part of any recovery plan
@vigilantcosmicpenguin87214 ай бұрын
Gonna have to remember to prescribe myself some dumplings when I'm depressed.
@richcolour4 ай бұрын
Nice when a video like this pops up, thanks for sharing
@zemoxian4 ай бұрын
I’m struggling with really low energy. I’m not sure how to add in a number of extra exhausting tasks when I can’t handle daily functioning already. 😢
@robin_birdie_4 ай бұрын
That might be cronical sleeping issues. Put all your attention and efforts to that matter. Don't listen to any psychological nonsense (except CBT) until you have your sleeping fixed.
@joninoj2144 ай бұрын
I had my own tough year 4 years ago. I'm really suprised on how similarly things worked for us such as low grade exercise (cycling) and gratitude journalling. Without an App at the time I wrote sort term and long term plans. I crossed out things I've overcome from the lists to build back self confidence and self value. I'm happy you're back making vids but take it easier this time.
@kendo8884 ай бұрын
thank you for sharing. this helps with myself, and I believe others who I will share this with as well! Please continue to thrive and keep making the world a better and happier place!
@MrsMonstargh4 ай бұрын
I love that you scienced this ❤ Also, totally giving Daylio another shot 😅
@sharonmckay28864 ай бұрын
As Queen Elizabeth II said, "Grief is the price you pay for love." Take care and there is no cure for grief except time.⏳
@PhilWalton4 ай бұрын
Those are some really hard things. 😢 Thank you for sharing your journey and the things that worked for you!
@christine19024 ай бұрын
I agree with your part about the mood scores. I did them for years (for my bipolar disorder) but because my default mood was depression, it was always "normal" or "slightly bad". Even in my darkest days. If I got out of bed and ate a meal, it was a good day, or at least I told myself. I didn't allow myself to give a day a 0 star because "it can always get worse". Even on the days when I was suicidal, I didn't allow myself a 0 star. I stopped doing them when I couldn't transfer the data (dayta!) from one phone to the other and didn't care anymore. xD
@TeaRex4 ай бұрын
How is her heart rate so insanely low, even when I was doing consistent cardio and running nearly sub 20min 5ks my average barely flirted with 60. 55 is well into trained athlete territory. Maybe this average is also with sleeping so that drags it down?
@sethsevaroth4 ай бұрын
I've always thought she has Marfan's and they prescribe blood pressure meds. She's also a vegetarian which probably helps keep the cholesterol levels low.
@None175554 ай бұрын
This is weirdly like an ad for religious practice/community. She states up top that we don't simply say life is difficult. However, that's central to a lot of religious ritual. (Confession, funerals, corporate mourning, theories about human nature, etc) The activities to get out of a slump (or at least mitigate a stress response) are also in there: routine, community, activity, 3rd spaces. Some 'spiritual' activities would help as well (lots of evidence for meditation, to a lesser degree prayer practice). However, the shortest version of this is that it's not enough to just understand how life might work. It actually has to be lived.
@PhokenKuul4 ай бұрын
Actually there is a whole group of philosophers that took this as their main theme. They were called Stoics.
@nicolasgodfraind42874 ай бұрын
Going full on exercise (or doing stuff outside) is also my way of dealing with stress when too many things go wrong for my taste. I'm also part of the "exercise every day team" when I find myself being overly stressed for long period of times.
@nielsvdc4 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing Vanessa. I wish you well. Having to say goodbye to someone is hard, when there's still a lot that you wanted to say to them or do with them. We're ruminating all those thoughts on and on and it's hard to let go. To my experience being in a bad period in life is a vicious circle, that you only can get yourself out of if you force yourself, like you mentioned, by starting another regime. But having someone who will drag out of the circle would also helps a lot. One of my Achilles heel is eating (to much) refined sugars. Yes, it's an short impulse on my dopamine levels, but makes me feel worse afterwards, falling back into the vicious circle of eating bad, not exercising and ruminating. I will try your tips and see if I can not only start to break out, but also keep out.
@LeoAngora4 ай бұрын
Very glad to see you better. I wish you a net positive for every day of your life. May your data show a strong bias towards greatness!
@kahazaba4 ай бұрын
This is a much-needed video - thank you. And I am happy for you :)
@rafaelmarques17734 ай бұрын
Awesome video. I felt like you were genuinely (trying to) talking to a friend. =)
@GrantButler4 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing this😊
@jhosioja4 ай бұрын
The daada-dayta thing could be something as innocent as really liking Star Trek The Next Generation.