Why does my hair look like I rubbed my head against a balloon? Anyway. How do you deal with overthinking?

Once I read a quote that said “worrying doesn’t mean you care, it means you fear” I’ve never seen anything more true

“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today." Matthew 6:34

"If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present." -Lao Tzu I made that quote my lock screen for AGES until it sunk in. There is no room to overthink when you are living in the present.

"It never worked for me.. not because the advice was necessarily bad but rather because I think I had a difficult time buying-into-the-whole-stop-doing-this mindset. I guess i don't really believe that you can Stop your thoughts, but rather you can learn how to deal with them". Wonderfully said Lana.

Overthinking is like a curse.

*Overthinking* can be a consequence of large information stream, wanting everything to be as we plan but becomes too difficult to control.

I think over thinking is a result of trauma..those experiences that have left us wounded and its hard to heal

It's crazy how a person you don't even know personally can make you feel so good and realtable. You have been a blessing to me. I really can't tell you how much it means to have the exact same mindset / overview on life as that of a complete stranger. You feel like a friend to me , like someone who I can come to for advice and someone who is not scared to share what's on her mind . Thank you so much for every video you make💗 sending lots of love your way 💗

Part of overthinking comes comes from judging others in ways that we aren’t proud of. Because of that, we assume people do the same to us and try to imagine what their criticisms might be.

When a woman is not just beautiful, but also intelligent that's more like divine beauty.

She just got me. Whenever I overthink things, I would also google search advices. It’s because I want to understand, learn or justify the thoughts in my head and even emotions. And yes, I also found myself getting just more unproductive and it wasn’t good.

Everytime i see her...i can relate myself of being introvert, sensitive, overthinking......

Lana is the calmest girl on KZfaq

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That's why it's called the present. Thus, live each day as if it were your last. ✌🏼

Sometimes we overthink to avoid worse things, like emotions we don't want to feel or traumas. Worry is more bearable than other intensely negative feelings.

Power of Now is the bomb! It helped me stop overthinking things well before I saw this video. Great recommendation Lana!

This channel litteraly is my life tutorial

I'm struggling with overthinking for 3 years already. It even got to the point when I started having panic attacks which is scary as hell. I can't say that I'm over it but a few weeks ago I travelled to another city (that I love) and on one evening walk I just realised that I'm so sick and tired of overthinking and that I stopped "living" and enjoying my life at all. As I returned home I started to be more present (which is hard) and doing some art or meditations. Hope to stay on this track :)

We overthink things bc of fear, don't let your fear destroy you

Whenever Lana's notifications pop up, I never overthink the situation. I press play right away.

I’m a professional worrier and it’s ruining my life 😞

One of the techniques that has helped me end cycles of overthinking that can last for a few days is telling myself "I am thinking this/that" or "I am feeling that...". By putting yourself as the subject and cause of your thoughts, and by taking accountability that it is you who are thinking them, you suddenly realize that they can just come and go, without changing the world or, more imortantly, without being caused by anything that is happening around you. Suddenly, you know that there is a high chance nobody else is thinking the same things and that they have not even noticed your insecurities. Usually, as soon as I say this to myself, I have a moment of epiphany kinda and I know the worries from the past few days have been foundationless. However, the important thing then is to learn not to beat yourself up for "wasting time" thinking unproductive thoughts. It won't take you anywhere.

Something i love about you is that you said how overthinking is different for everyone. Whenever it's olan overthinking video, i see them leaning towards a certain type of overthinking only. Mine is really a different overthinking, i overthink stuff that are out of my control and not even about myself.

Im a chronical overthinker.. Biggest fear is ending and dying alone. Im 33 and still single and everyone around me...yes are married and have children.. sometimes the lonelyness is killing me..☹️

Hmm. I overthink a lot, too. It' paralyzing. In the end, you feel like you'd rather not make a choice at all before you choose the wrong thing. I makes you feel overwhelmed with the responsibility you have for the decisions. It made me feel pretty helpless for a while. Now, I start to be a little more relaxed. I look at all the mistakes I made not with remorse but rather with sorrow. I accept that I cannot take responsibility for everything that goes wrong in my life. That I will make mistakes. And there's really not much I can do. I learned that I should to try to do things right. But I won't always succeed. That's life.

I love the way she talks with patience and love. She is mesmerizing.

just subscribed! I love your channel, and cant wait to binge on your videos! ♥

I overthink overthinking....I’m so glad you did a video on this. You are so inspirational 😅

I always thought in This world doesn’t exist similar prople to me until i found your channel.Good job :)

I have watched a few videos and I never thought I would find someone this identical to me. It makes me feel good that I'm not really weird. I'm me and they are might be people like me too. It's very comforting in a weird way.

I am so glad that I found your channel. It made me realize that I am not alone. I really needed this. Thank you!

I don't know why, but I feel like she's speaking to me. Really fit in my situation right now. I wanted to change something in my life, also I kept overthinking what would happen if I do this, if I do that?

Power of now is my go-to, especially when I feel like I've fallen back to unconsciousness and my anxiety starts to come out. Its a never-ending learning curve, isn't it?

I'm 52, Irish and I've had 37 different jobs since leaving school in 1985. I was fired only once and enjoyed most jobs, I have also studied at 8 different College's. I'm a electronic musician now and very content where I am in my life. Don't overthink work or leaving a job too much, it gets easier the more you do it so just find and follow your true passion and keep on keeping on. Cheers CHON Dublin!

The reason. I like watching your videos Lana is that you make me think differently every time I listen. Love that you share your ideas and propel us to think more! God bless

I needed this right now, thanks Lana for being there on KZfaq. I feel like KZfaq needed this, channel like yours. There comes my life motto for everyone in need reading this - "Life isn't a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced". Have a nice day everybody, much love!

I wish I had a friend that could talk to me like this

Why didn't she have millions of subscriber??????she is an 👼 teaching me I'm so focused when she teaches.

I love your channel, your personality makes me feel calmer, like the world becomes more organized and the anxiety disappears. I think I overthought this lol.

I like listening to your voice , you put me to sleep.

This is something I've struggled with, and I think many do. Love the point on being honest with yourself, it's hard, but so important

Doing something is better than doing nothing at all. I really appreciate hearing that right now.

Thank you Lana, lately for some unknown reason I have been thinking terrible things. That I will never do. Thank you for this help, you just need to stay calm, and tell yourself your ok

So many thoughts in life can make you so ill and bring you down. 'Sometimes you need to leave it to the fate, what destiny and path you are going. Taking one path and striktly keeping that lifestyle, can make your life a living hell.

so helpful. You're my hero

I've watched hundreds of thousands of KZfaq videos and I feel like you're the most relatable KZfaqr. I just found this channel and am here to stay. Thanks for being you💜

Usually i do expressive art to let go emotional issues that leads to ruminating. It kinda helps. Emotions needs to be validated in order for them to be set free. Also being in tune with the needs of my body such as doing yoga, having a massage, and doing sport truly calms my mind.

It’s great to have people like you, Lana, who I could easily relate to. I was in denial of my true feelings for this girl for so many months, and what you described sounded very familiar with what I was going through. Please don’t stop making videos. Keep them going!

You need to upload more, I can’t get enough of your videos

You're like my classmate, very pretty and intellectual and quiet. She looks like you and talks like you too. Everybody loves her.

I completely relate to the stuck in an unfulfilling job thing, I've been overthinking my past and every decision I ever made for the last few years. Couldn't take it anymore and quit my job.

I've been overthinking a lot lately so I can relate so much. Drawing or some other hobbies helps me to deal with it. I love your videos ❤️

Why is this girl so mentally & physically pretty 🥰 I genuinely love your videos keep it up 👍🏼

0:05. It hit me. A video like this, shows that I'm not alone. It's keeping me sane.

My gf stumbled across your channel today and we played this video and how to stay calm videos. They really helped me and couldn’t have come at a better time. I left my job in retail as a grocery manager to work at etrade. Right now I’m studying for my licensing and I failed my first test by 4 pts. So I found myself scared and doubting if I should have done this. Leave my comfort zone and take on a high pressure situation. But you and her have helped me learn that it’s okay regardless of what happens. No matter what I will come out better because of this situation. I believe in myself but I also realize this isn’t my dream job and it’s okay to try things. If it works out great, but if it doesn’t I know I will be okay and I’m learning to accept that 😊 thank you

seems to me the more insecure my foundation is, the more stress and everything occurs for me. ty for your videos.

Wow sis, u always post videos exactly the time when i need it the most. It's like u can read my mind. Thank you!

i find myself in every video you put out. being an introvert isn't easy but your videos help me a lot of times. i really love how you edit and how you use your voiceovers.

I have solved this by using meditation. When i started meditating i became more compassionate and accepting toward myself and my thoughts. Now rather than saying no to any thought or dwelling on it i would say "you are welcome here too. " and feel it more fully and it automatically become less troublesome. 😇

Overthinking is my worst habit, and I’m so glad you made a video about it!! Without a doubt, your channel deserves so much more recognition!

When you are overthinking you should write it down and reread this once the situation is over. I once got an opportunity to work in a team but were absolutely not sure if I could handle all this. Today I'm fully involved in much processes and have learned and grown alot through this. I always reread the chat with the team leader and sometimes have to smile a bit about how insecure I was then. I am still extremely insecure and overthinking but this helps to overthink a bit less in every situation.

Your aura is very positive and makes me very calm.

school system makes me anxious, thats why i overthink too much bcuz of homeworks, tests, and society’s pressure that makes us kids, who doesn’t know well what is life, like your success in life depends on how successful you are at school. moreover, the facts that every freaking ppl judge you, by what you do, and each of your mistakes are not available and will be noticed (thats also how the school systems works currently) destroys your self-esteem, and then you try to be perfectionnist which makes it worse, and thus you overthink more and more, to fall into depression and to slowly die inside...

I couldn't agree more. I can relate to everything you said in the video because I do struggle sometimes from overthinking, especially when it comes to making decisions about my future. I think the reason for that is because I love seeking out logical reasons and analyzing things, so If I couldn't find any valid reason to do something, I would just either leave it or overthink about it until I found a valid reason. However, over the past 3 years, I've been dedicating myself to take actions rather than think about them because I have realized that the amount of time I spend on thinking in comparison to doing is ridiculous. In short, one piece of advice I would give is to focus on productive overthinking because I believe that if overthinking is accompanied by a lack of productivity, it will make you less energized and more anxious.

The way I dealt with overthinking is by wtriting my thoughts, like a diary.

Watching this in 2022 and it has helped me so much. I noticed recently that I couldn't focus on one task for more than a minute without thinking about something else I needed or wanted to do and getting distracted. I couldn't work out why I was so distracted until I sat down to journal and realised my head was just full of so much stuff - too much to even write down! Focusing on the now was something I got really into doing towards the end of last year but have since abandoned so thank you for reminding me of that too! 💕

overthinking brings you to a state of fear that most likely you quit of what you've started doing something, anyway i love the way you explain and seems you have a lot experience about life. thanks for sharing

I came across your channel about a month ago, and wow. It’s crazy to me how every video you’ve made sums up my life, but you provide guidance which is super helpful and I’m slowly progressing myself. Thank you Lana

hello, everyone, here are my current thoughts on overthinking and going through fears and things we may not necessarily want, to create something we will eventually be proud of: I like this topic because I’ve recently learned that a big halt in personal development and success is letting our emotions being the sole provider and reasoning behind why we do things - even though we all know this shouldn’t be the case. Yes, we have emotions regardless, but most should be simply acknowledged as you would a bird and let it go, not every action we make necessarily requires emotional intelligence, especially considering you’ve done said action many times enough to know how to do it with your eyes closed. Keep your creative energy and emotions ready for new, intellectual input. Our human brain kills off our brain cells as we age for the purpose of making life easier! Eventually, things will feel like autopilot. The hardest thing is motivating yourself to go out there and keep learning and stretching what you already know. That’s how masters and gurus are nurtured. It’s self disciple and a solo journey. Perhaps what most of us can relate to is going to a job you hate, for example, and to stretch time you zone out emotionally. This is very harmful and neglecting your emotions makes way for an outburst and confusion later on down the line. In these moments, be mindful of the relationship between your actions and thoughts so you can identify your fears or true intentions. It sounds simple yet negates a lot of introspection and effort. I know this was long but I hope it helped a bit. :) p.s. beautiful video - it came at such a sound time in my life. Much appreciated, Lana 💕

This was in my recommendations today .. just saw my toxic ex today after years. Been through hell because of that person. I would've fallen into that shit hole of anxiety and depression all over again. Thank you universe for always taking care of us 💫💜

I don't know about over thinking, but I am over watching your videos. Keep this thing going, Lana. This is super, super and super amazing channel.

Overthinking is the worst thing ever! It brings on unnecessary stress and anxiety for no reason!

I've been always someone who'd overthink even the simplest things. Even when it comes to buying a certain item I'd watch a ton of videos about it, read about it more in order to truly know what I'm getting. Same applies to bigger things in life. Lots of times I'm puzzled about what future holds in hand, but one of the great ways to deal with something like this is to really take it one step at a time and not trying to solve everything at once. In a way honestly it's not a bad thing. For many of us it might even be some sort of a self defense mechanism from getting into trouble or some stupid situation. Guess it makes sense 😅

Overthinking can ruin your emotional and psychological wellbeing. Distancing from a situation and actually imagining the worst case scenario helps me

I can't stop overthinking about why I'm in love with this KZfaq girl I never seen before

Start the morning with grounding yourself it will lessen the overthinking and also think about the present moment because that's all there is, easier said than done.

Wow, you blew me away by alot of emotional feelings that I never spoke about but always thought about and you just threw it out there. It was almost a little scary, 43 years old and you just made me felt like a kid, lol. Going to need a little time to really absorb this and process.

I am one who tends to overthink things often. When I find myself doing it, I consciously force myself to just stop and think of other stuff, busy myself with something challenging to divert my thoughts.

she speaks really smart. the choice of her words are understandable for everyone but also they are the perfect ones to describe the situation.

What are your thoughts about doing some actions in "autopilot" mode, so that you can put more energy in other actions, like doing chores without any feeling just doing them so that later you can put more energy in creating art for example?

I know how painful it is to have kind of this thing. I tried to meditate, breathing in and out, trying to calm my mind and try to find something that keeps you from thinking about your worries especially listening to the sounds of the atmosphere or rain sounds. It will help the brain focus on the sound. So I try to remember what kind of sound I like and which one helps me. Until I started making videos myself in hopes of helping others. Please open your mind and listen. Let's have a good day and start a new life without it.

Overthinking is normal, let them down and have a choice to allow which one is productive for ourselves. Thank you so much, You're so beautiful.

Thanks for being here.

We have no way of knowing what lies ahead, we can simply try to make the best decision with the information we have at hand, and hope for the best! Lana, if you're reading this, I want you to know that you're my favorite KZfaqr!

I love you so much Lana you are such a model to me ❤️❤️ Thanks for helping me so much and many others , it’s like when you upload the video, all my problems are gone . I feel like you are my closest friend yet we never met... I look up to you always . Hope you are in a good health💜💜 forever I usually don’t comment even on the KZfaqrs I love, but you just win my heart every time because you give me such strength .

I listen to ur videos as my personal emotional tutor guide.Thank u for talking so calm and gentle.I see the benefits of being a person who speaks gently and slowly.Makes friends understand better.Wish u the best Lana

To be able to trust yourself to distinguish what is productive and unproductive thoughts is something that like a super rare social skillset that I can never achieve..

Very relatable problem. Something I struggle with every single day! And lovely filmography as well

New Subscriber as of today. Some of your videos have really made me look at my current situation in a new light. I have been self evaluating and coming to some of the conclusions you bring up in past videos. This one really resonates with me. It's one of the reasons I need a change in my life, overthinking. You can get to the point of no return by listening to your unproductive thinking, as you put it in this video. Becoming a new and improved, more positive, person is much harder with negative thoughts in the back of your mind. The Power of Now is going to be the next book I get from audible, for sure. Thank you, for these insightful videos. I never thought I would want to join a book club, but this seems like the perfect time to start something new.

Your voice is so soothing , within a minute or two into your video it feels like you'll put me to sleep very soon .

You are so good at speaking out those feeling which is so hard to pick appropriate words to explain. I just watch 2 videos of yours and it made me feel like I have sister who say things that make me have new ideas. So that I know what to do or what to think.

So wise. As someone who sometimes struggles with over-thinking, I use similar strategies. Ekhart Tolle is pure gold - changed my life. Meditation, journaling, gratitude lists, action lists with time & date, and taking action are key for me. I love your journaling tips about challenging the loudest thoughts. That helps as well. I try to recognize problematic thought patterns (B&W thinking, catastrophizing, ascribing meaning without evidence, for example). You are amazing. Your videos inspire, support, and challenge me! They are also my reward to myself after accomplishing daily or weekly goals, 🖤

Beautiful mind.

There are people who lift you up and Lana Blakely is definitely one of them. Very helpful content. Thanks a lot .

Overthinking can be horrifying, I normally have these thoughts at the night , I don't want to have these thoughts anymore. It's just a waist of time doing this, but of course I was sleeping and that dream I was unhappy with myself, with my surroundings, with how I am living, I woke up and I felt like I was in a hole that I couldn't scape. But now I know what to do when this happens. Thanks to you. ❤️❤️

Love U. You are amazing

i saw many videos of you and i learned more than i Expected....I love your thoughts ..Keep It Up..Moreover i am From Pakistan and i tell you it just for that your now listened by the people of many countries....

Thank you for honestly being the superhero of my day

This devastated much of my adult life and still is an issue. I mostly relate it with " sensitivity , not knowing what I want to be , regret - resulted from failing to have faith on the fact that the past cannot be changed , always feeing how I might be seen in the eyes of friends on most of my action , ... and all this persist to become part of my thinking pattern and I loop deep into thinking ... I see myself in most of the idea and experience you shared - but still this overthinking pull me back like a magnet - I like the part you referred as productive overthinking .. I will find my way out soon.