Thanks for sharing!!

I think youll be surprised how many men have similar values and wants as you. Just give one a chance

@@qwertpoo1 They don't want to date someone who is 40 though

@qwertpoo1 I did meet someone about 2 weeks ago. He's also divorced and a single father. We want similar things and share core values. It's early, but we're communicating and being honest about what we both want so we are going to see where it goes. I'm optimistic ☺️

@Whoeverwhateverwhenever a real man will date women around his age. I'm not interested in men who act like they need a 25 year old bimbo. I'm a good wife. I want to take care of my man and my family, and I'm uninterested in boys looking for games.

@@katiedid1983 that's awesome good for you guys. I hope I can find a relationship like that

I am 40 and definitely there. I have stopped waiting for my hypothetic Person to craft my future with him. It's all about making what suits me now

It's not the stories we tell ourselves, its the real ones we live day to day. After 40 years of trying to make a largely unhappy marriage work, I too have been on dating apps but for over 8 years. Years of tortuous dates and a few disastrous relationships and I'm still alone. Change does happen but every change seems to be for the worse each time, so maybe I should just stick with the current depressing situation. I've already worked out the life I want, and it's not available to me.

I’m 62…twelve years divorced….one fairly serious relationship that I couldn’t fully commit to, going to watch this video and hopefully get some insight.

Love the way you put it!

Great perspective... Bravo! 👏👏

@@Yeodoongiiie no I disagree. Life is what you make it. Many people live quality and exceptional lives but make compromises. Having perspective and accepting what it is enables you to appreciate all that life has to offer. Having a partner may bring additional joy but being content within yourself is the prime driver for enjoyment. No one else can make you happy. 🤷‍♀️.

@@2dogsahooman677 no. No one else should be solely responsible for your happiness. But we need each other. Life’s no fun without each other. I mean even Matthew have said that many times. He even says he wants us to be “happy ENOUGH” single… but would he ever himself be fully happy had he not met Audrey ? I just think SURE. I’m can be happy right now. But never as much as I know I could be if I had kids and a man. (In that order 😄) I think we harden our hearts because we feel like we have to. We say YOU MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY. Not anyone else. To me, that’s armor. When you are 70 and look back on your life and you never got a family. Will that not be a grief to you? If not… good for you. Truly. But it will be a forever loss for me.

@dinahn6955 are you schizophrenic or something??? you're literally the one insulting me and i'm saying sarcastically thanks for being so rude..

omg same exact thought the second I saw this video😧

I’m glad you’re here!

I felt the same!

@@thematthewhussey thank you, always! Much love! 🤗🤗

God will certainly help.

We have different jobs, I'm 46, & I haven't had a real relationship since 2014, but otherwise I sooo resonate with your comment and feel the same. All the best to you💙

@voice_of_a_little_lady , all the best to you, too. It's a true and real hurt - it's the disappointment of something you never had. But that doesn't mean we can't hope for it still

Yes. I feel the same as you.

​@@voice_of_a_little_lady Many women are choosing to become single mothers by choice these days before it's too late. Why is it so hard for people to find a partner, I do wonder. It's scary and sad. I'm "only" 34 years old and my path I want to be on is one of foster parenthood and adoption, maybe step parenthood. I'm queer -- I'm a sex-averse asexual -- so my dating pool is about the size of a puddle, even though I'm open to dating people of any gender. Most aces don't want kids so it's really shrunk and it's just. It would be easier maybe to mourn something that's truly impossible now to happen than to keep living in this limbo of hoping for a co-parenting partner and a life path that I really do desire.

I feel the same too and just 2 days the person who I was hopeful for this time, said he can't take this further as he's a vegetarian and I won't be able to cope with not eating non vegetarian food I don't eat non vegetarian food on a regular basis just once a fortnight or so) in his house and other rituals that are followed in his home since I am.not brought up that way. This was discussed in our initial days and we did come to a conclusion. But then 2 days ago he just called off everything.

Thank you for sharing. You have a good outlook, very important to remember to focus on the things we can control, not the things we can’t :)

Thanks 4 being vulnerable..i felt the same

Not everywhere, it's purely a western issue. Who's to blame for this? Which gender is hypergamous, always looking for something better, never happy with what they have, always complaining? Which of the two has always remained the same and which one has changed since pretty much the past ~70 years? It's women and all because of feminism. Your own empowerment, caused you to be more unhappy in dating, because your standards keep getting higher and higher until the point you will never be content with any men, because you're chasing the men in a fairytale. In reality no men exist that check all the million boxes women have selected. And at the same time feminism has also feminized men. Take accountability and deal with the consequences.

I pray you find him too.

You are so welcome. And I’m so excited you received the book already! Feel free to post a story on Instagram and tag me and I’ll share it! ❤

@@thematthewhussey I'm not on Instagram but I can do it on Facebook. It'll be in French, I'm from Montréal ;)

The book is out????!!!

@@raniamohammed1437 I'd pre-ordered it and it was delivered to me yesterday!

@thematthewhussey I have been following you for years! We met in Boston in 2014 and in your first book you wrote Never Settle! I truly believed that and made sure I would stick to that! For almost 14 years of dating on the apps and dating events and went thru two short and toxic relationships, I thought that my life would never change. I was ok being by myself and not relying on any guy to make me happy but to add to my life and happiness. I truly thought that my life would keep me single. I also went thru very difficult jobs including one that I thought my mental health state would come to an end. Eventually, that job ended and I found a new one. As of almost three months I have been in a wonderful job where I feel secure and relaxed. I feel that I can finally be accepted for who I am and unexpectedly one night in March that all changed! I met and continued to date a wonderful man! I finally feel that I found someone who can accept me exactly who I am (the good bad and ugly) a sense of peace, and feeling with safety! I FINALLY feel that my life is where I want to be and knowing that all of my hard work to be the best in a relationship has finally paid off! He asked me to be his girlfriend this past weekend and I now feel that this special guy has added joy to my life and activities that I used to do myself; I now can add him! So, thank you for your videos all these years since they have helped me thru saddness, heartbreak, and to finally joy! We are even thinking about what our long term and life goals will be and one thing for sure is we see a wonderful and happy future together! ❤

Same girl same

You matter. See a therapist. Write me. Do not give up.

This is so true and it's a reality we overlook due to lack of awareness and lack of education on women's health. The reason I have awareness about hormones and my cycle is because I'm into fitness and female influencers try to educate about this. Bless them. Hopefully word will spread as even I get caught up in the lows of my luteal phases when they can be especially tough. Thank you for your important comment and this reminder

100%. I'm perimenopause so it's a different kind of ball game now, but before that I used to feel almost like a different person each of the four different weeks of the month because of hormonal fluctuations. It was crazy.

@voice_of_a_little_lady totally! Being a woman is a rollercoaster. We get testosterone ~5/28 days yet men get some every 15 mins?! Such different realities. I definitely feel so different week over week. I'm about to order saffron as I've been reading about brain and overall mood benefits for women

Thank you SO much for this, this is so important. Would you mind telling me the app please?🙏🙏

😂 of course not

I wish women would stop thinking like this. Its so lazy lmao why dont you just try instead of waiting?

Can’t wait for you to read it Anna ❤🧡. Thank you for being here.

Thank you for saying that!

I hear you Victoria. You’re not alone. We are with you. And I can’t wait for you to read the book, there are so many tools in there that are going to help with exactly this. Much love ❤

Same here 😢

We should start the 10 year club 😂; I'm right there with ya!

Same

​@@voice_of_a_little_lady Get out there and start living more if you really feel like NOTHING has changed.

@@VioletEmerald I hear ya, & I have. I used to date heavily, lived in multiple states, etc. Unfortunately 6 day a week job + now medical 💩 like chronic fatigue = getting out there a lot tougher. I'm always like, I'll try to do 1 thing a bit different today then end up in bed at 6pm 😆

I felt exactly the same (and I'm also in the exact same place - though I am already 35 since January). Every second of this video spoke to me. I felt so understood. Because I feel most people don't really get how much it hurts to be in this position.

*Happy Birthday!* 🥳🎉🥂 Keep the faith!

Happy Birthday 🎉🎉🎉🎉 Wishing you all you wish for yourself Fun starts now 😊😊

Never is too late

Hello! I wanted to share a story of my family. My grandfather met love of his life at 73, his lady was around 64 at that time. They met on a dating app, can you imagine? My grandfather was married twice, but true love came to his life in the late years. They are very, very happy together now. So, I really wish you best of luck. Don’t give up! I hope you will find the person you will be happy with❤

It's not over until it's over x

Might be worth pinning this comment, so everyone can see it :)

I'm a disabled woman. How can I navigate dating in a world hyper focused on looks?