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⚠️ Here is the CRAZY thing about getting power back:
It's all a negotiation 🤝
There should be boundaries in place and then both parties should try to get to a win/win situation. For that to happen both parties have to agree on things.
When you're in a healthy relationship, the negotiation seems fair and most of the time, the couple can navigate over obstacles to get to the outcome they want.
However, when two people want different things, that is where you see games♟️played.
Let me explain.
I believe (to some extent) that power/respect is earned. People will give it to you IF they want you to have it.
Yes, people can take it forcefully or be in it but a lot of the time, that doesn't work long-term. If we take a king for example, he can be born into power and strike fear into the people. That may work short-term but that causes resentment and a small group to rise up and dethrone you with time.
It's not different in dating. A guy may want power for all the wrong reasons:
💰 Assets are cheaper
🙏 You give him more chances
🌀 You're easily manipulated
🥳 Less responsibilities
Someone still has to pay the cost💲of this though. That person is you!
This means from the beginning, you need to establish two things:
👊 Your boundaries
📃 If you're on the same page
If those two things are a match, things should be easy. From there, if you have power, you want to do three things:
👍Build trust that power won't be taken advantage of
🚗It will transition (no one is holding onto it)
⭐He will also benefit from you having power.
In the example of him having power, you can see how that doesn't benefit you or the relationship. it won't last. If you're talking to a man in his masculine💪and cares for your needs and wants, you will have no problem letting him have it.
This means if you have it, no playing hard to get, playing games, and so on.
if you do this and there is still a problem, it only means one thing: He wants the assets. Not the relationship.
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