Grief "appropriately"? It is not our job as a griever to make others around us feel better, or comfortable! That's just one more stress put upon us. If someone around us is being insensitive and acting like a jerk, the grieving person should not be expected to "be nice" or "be appropriate" when they are in the intense stages of grieving. As time goes on they will be better able to be "appropriate". If you have grief issues on top of PTSD, it is cruel to expect a griever to "behave". PTSD doesn't allow you to "behave" all the time. These videos are OK, but they are for those who are not dealing with PTSD on top of grief. I know of what I speak! If you have grief with PTSD I suggest to look at websites and video that are specifically geared towards this type of situation. Especially, if you were a long-term caregiver to the one you loved (or didn't particularly like or love, such as an abusive parent).