Thanks so much for all your teaching ma , I'm so happy to at least pick up a one thing to go with , actually this is my first time of watching your videos and commenting , please help me ma ,I need this kigai paper ,I don't know how to get it or download the paper .

take your time, it will reveal itself as you continue to experience life 💕 wishing you the best!

bakEdskittLes14 hey girl!!! it doesn't even have to be the talents that are shown limelight only... like singing .... it could be... being an encourager.... being keen.... a listener..... or baking.... cooking..... whatever makes you HAPPY

I think the best way to find out is trying. Try as many things as possible, whether it be arts, or sports, or activities, just keep an open mind and there will be a moment when you'll feel confident and shining from within (my drama classes were a life-changing game for me, as at first I started doing this to fight my shyness and social phobia, but when you're on the stage, knowing exactly what to do, what to say, where to go, it was the first time for me to like being watched by many people. So don't be afraid of trying new things out ; Who knows? Maybe you'll get a nice surprise!

Im 20 and I still don't know what to do with my life. But I have to got to college, and since Ive "wasted" 2 years of my life already Im not allowed to change careers after I choose (moslty because college is expensive). So I have one chance to choose a carrer, and while I know that you don't need to live your dream through you work, I still have to choose a major... And I have no idea...

Isidora Espinoza don't worry...it all works out better than you even expect it to!!! No pressure Follow what your heart says

Aw that's beautiful to hear. Music has definitely helped me in tough times too. I don't doubt that music can be inspiring & empowering, I just personally had ideas that would be better communicated through words (videos, podcasts, books) than song! Imagine me trying to teach the concept of "Ikigai" and how to find your life purpose in a song... I would sound tacky because music isn't the right medium to teach those details haha. Thank you for the love!! 💕

I love her song Make it Happen

Daniel Ohana u

I dont think u get what she meant: itz in her case tht she thinks music is not the best way to convey her feelings/thoughts to influence ppl etc not that music itself is not influencial at all...

Yes! Music was one of the biggest factors in keeping me alive a few years ago. On top of that, music has always been a way of getting away from the world in a sense. All my life whenever I was down a song would be the answer. Daily, songs help me communicate even with myself, and music is my strongpoint in school by far. Playing two instruments by ear and starting on a third one, I think I can fairly say music has changed my life much for the better. I want to respect Lavendair, but I also respect music.

ha! what perfect timing 😊✨

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lotus maedchen she has a Artist of Life workbook.

I think I will bundle them and include them on my website for free :) I do also have the Artist of Life Workbook that I create yearly - lavendaire.com/workbook

hey lavendaire -- what is the font you use in your workbooks? specifically the curly cursive one? it's perfect!

Lavendaire this is great!

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idkwhatmyusernameshouldbe omg I feel exactly the same. It's like I'm hearing myself.

Take a deep breath, relax and bring up a smile on your face no matter how small or stressed out you are. You've got this! You already know you have potential and you're _aware_ That's what matters the most. You will make everything fall in their respective places. I believe that. So keep smiling!

Mmm, I guess you could just go with the flow and see what surprise will happen ;-))

Elizabeth Berg (“Eat Pray Love”) said you don’t have to wait till you find your passion to do something. What are you curious about? Use that as your starting point.

idkwhatmyusernameshouldbe I have the same problem. I’m good at a lot of things and have interest in a lot of things yet I feel as if I don’t have enough passion to pursue them or enough time to do everything I want to do. Quite the paradox isn’t it? You might want to search up a term called “multipotentialite” (there’s a great tedtalk covering this subject)

aww thank you love ✨

Cata Misson perfect English wow btw Spanish is such a beautiful language

Hay subtítulos en sus vídeos ☺️

Hola!!! Yo soy de Uruguay tambien, es muy raro encontrar alguien de aca en este tipo de videos!!!! Que genial!!!

Yo no sé inglés pero me gustan los videos, hago lo mejor para intentar comprender

vremeslova21 agreed!

aww thank you love! so grateful for your feedback. pls let me know if you have other topic suggestions!

I feel the same way!!!!!

Lavendaire GREAT VIDEO! very inspiring! continue to inspire! ☺

You will do it!

Rebeckah how lovely!

that's a great point! self awareness is key. thanks so much & wishing you the best in your journey 💞

Your comment is interesting - you note how much you loved film production and movies, yet note "there were things about it that I hated." If you're searching for a career that will have no flaws or aspects about it that you hate, then you're ultimately going to be unhappy. I find it intriguing that in contemporary society we base majority of our life/career decisions on this idea of following your "passion," yet passion is so fleeting. It's human nature to get bored of the novel and exciting, and dislike aspects of something you originally loved; that's life. I don't think the key to a successful career is the intersection between what you're good at and what you're passionate about. To be successful, you can't base your motivation towards a career path off passion, as it's so nebulous and fleeting. Success requires discipline, and deliberate practice, even when it gets hard or you hate it. Throwing away your talents for the sake of boredom isn't called being "self aware" - to be honest, it sounds like you left when the going got tough. I don't mean any offence by this, I'm just a random on the internet and I may have interpreted what you intended, but I'm just being brutally honest with you. You seem like a really cool human being regardless. x

Natalie Elizabeth and I in return don't mean to offend you but you are wrong about me. I did not leave when the going gets tough. I currently work 100 hours a week on what I love to do. The going is definitely tough and here I am every weekend working away toward something that I love and am passionate about. Those things I hate were ethical matters (like how the industry is horribly misogynistic and also that it treats a large majority of the people with a meanness that I can't and will never subscribe to) and also for personal matters (I had horrific migraines everyday because of the kind of work it required). It was a difficult decision but the right one. I didn't have the passion for making films to ignore or put up with these matters. And yes, that absolutely is self awareness to realize that no matter the success I had (I raised over $40k for a documentary that was covered in every major news outlet), I would never be happy. I never said I was looking for a career without flaws. I don't enjoy waking up every morning after 5 hours of sleep but I keep doing it because I believe in what I'm doing and because it makes me feel purposeful and therefore joyous. I stick by my statement that we are lured into thinking that our talents should define our careers. If that were the case, I would have never become a writer. I wasn't born with the ability to write. I was terrible for many many years. But through an intense and rigorous level of practice I developed an ability to write professionally. If you're interested, I suggest you read the book Talent is Overrated. It's a thorough study of something called deliberate practice.

Wishing you all the best on your path! I've just graduated from high school and am thinking about career possibilities. What would you say is most important to become a writer?

Thank you so much! The most important thing you can do is develop a rigorous daily practice. I highly recommend you read about something called "deliberate practice." A really good summary can be found here: www.farnamstreetblog.com/2012/07/what-is-deliberate-practice/ Pay particular note of the exercises Ben Franklin developed to become a better writer. It's similar to things I did when I went from being homeless to published author and Columbia grad. Except even more intense. If you really want to be a great writer, put your head down for the next five years and develop this deliberate practice to your craft. You will see enormous results. You might also want to check out my latest video here on KZfaq in which I explain the 3 most effective writing tips I've developed in the last 6 years. Would love to talk more about writing if you have any more questions. Sending you

Thank you! I was so stressed with trying to find what I want, it gave me severe anxiety, your words made me feel so much better

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Lavendaire Before i forget, kisses and positive energy from Brazil. :)

you have a lot of time to decide :) enjoy your journey! 💓

Have you considered working in the wider gaming industry (including pen &paper games , increasingly popular board games and toys). It sounds like you would fulfill many of the aspirations you have by doing so. Illustration and children's book publishing might also interest you or working as a museum or community outreach worker using art (which would also fulfill your aspirations IMO). Teaching art in highschool or even nursery school/primary could also be for you since you like working with people. You could easily turn your love of play ,imagination and art skills to enhance your class teaching and make learning fun and innovative for young people! All the best and I hope it hel ps 🎆

Mole Shaman I'm debating on those popular board games/toys, it's something I don't have much knowledge on. My game knowledge has been mostly digital, so PC/Consoles etc, and even with that I might have to leave my country to learn it for real (no courses on the subject on my country and I have searched everywhere). I can't stand young kids for a long time and I hate how many don't care for what you teach so school is a big no for me unfortunatly, and because school only brings bad memories and I rather have a small class away from school that people go because they want to learn the subject.

Sorkary if you wanted to teach, there are schools that high-schoolers can go to take an elective class on something they want to learn. I think they are called Career Institutes, but they could be different in every country. there are also high schools specifically for artists/ people who are creative in many different ways. I go to a career Institute in the U.S. and they have classes on almost everything, even game design.

Sorkary or if u want to interact with people and make them laugh, u could start a KZfaq channel where u draw and play video games? it's just a suggestion, but you would be able to build an audience and entertain them while doing something you like. sorry if what I'm saying is wordy, I like writing. :)

No problem, is good to see people helping. I actually don't know much about Career Institutes, there are just a few in my country and none has what I like, mostly because here we focus more on product/publicity, overall those areas. It's suprisingly restrictive what we can learn and many face the problem to have to go abroad to learn what we personally want. I know in Europe some universities that have game design and I am trying to go study to one of them, one in particular it's exactly what I wanted and gives a solid fundation to work more solo. Drawing and video games KZfaq? I don't think I have ever seen that mixture, but it surely is a thing that I have been thinking on doing for a while.

aww good luck bb!! 💞

The HappyShishi I would say to save up a bit of money from your job to keep you going for a few months and then take the risk. Just in case. Or just go for it and put all your work into that.

Audriana Webber thank you for the advice. will do that! ❤😉

Haha no problem. And while you're saving I would say continue to work on that skill/hobby that you really like. Hope it works out. What are you leaving your job to do?

Haha no problem. And while you're saving I would say continue to work on that skill/hobby that you really like. Hope it works out. What are you leaving your job to do?

You derived out your ikagai wonderfully! If you see this, I'd love to know whether or not you got success on what you thought because it's been almost a year you wrote this comment. 😄

thanks bb 😘

just a fangirl if you know what you love, you can take classes to get better, or practice, read books, get someone to critique you or help you with whatever it is that u love. you can develop skills doing what it is that you love, but it might take time

just a fangirl I think a good idea might be to take a self assessment on multiple intelligences. Search 9 intelligences test, and that will give you an idea of what are you naturally good at, or can become good at easiest than in other areas. As an example if you have high Linguistic intelligence, then you will be naturally good at learning languages or writing. I think is a good start if you really feel lost.

just a fangirl i have the same problem...

just a fangirl you probably haven’t found or been exposed and had the chance to find that something you’re good at. World is a big place so go wild :)

I feel you, it was hard for me to identify this too. There are many reasons why it would feel like you are not sure what you are good at, for me it was that I am good at something I didn't think is a REAL skill. So, broadening your view and including even the small things can be a great start. I know this is an old comment, I wonder how you are doing now :) I help people who are stuck with finding their purpose move from uncertainty to clarity about who they are and what they want to do. I am doing my market research now, so if you have a few minutes, please fill out. You can book a chat with me in the end where I can help you identify what is holding you back and how to overcome it :) I am so happy to help, please book the session if you are interested, would love to hear from you :) forms.gle/LbQ3pMVezswodbsm6

I have a whole playlist on soul searching! kzfaq.info/sun/PL37ErCJmMWd26gGcvbUK7nNlBSKBi6T-P

I would recommend you to go out and try everything, even things you are not 100% sure about! Join classes, programmes and communities!

Rooftopdreams thank you for your answer! 😊

You might have close ones by your side...your parents or other family members..especially your friends. You can ask them to help you with it but yes at first, you should give yourself a chance at it again.

A late reply - but might help somebody else reading it. If you don't know what your talents or strengths are - try writing down answers to 'What comes easily to me?' 'What can I spend hours doing without getting bored/tired?' 'What am I curious about?' :)

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maybe one day :) love you!

love you 💞

you're right :) they can get fulfillment from hobbies, relationships, volunteering, etc. this video is just what the japanese ikigai concept is about

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I'm 15 going to turn 16 and I need to find my purpose because I don't know 🤔

Dear Aileen, I have been watching your Videos for some time. I find them so empowering and wonderful. this Video in particular is one of the best and i want to try this exercise today. You inspire me and not many people does. I am 35 my first degree is in Nutrition but I don't practice my profession right now. I am now trying to figure out what I really want to do and how to do it. Any way what I wanted to say basically is Thank you. :) Hila from Israel.

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so true

Aww well it’s never too late to start 😸