How To Help An Alcoholic Friend or Partner Who Doesn't Want Help with Peter Sage

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How To Help An Alcoholic Friend or Partner Who Doesn't Want Help with Peter Sage

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Inside Addiction

Күн бұрын

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@djonfonsteen6331 13 сағат бұрын

Time and environment is key. Seriously. Give time, change environments. Also, public funding is being stolen in light of defence spending by our government. Care not Conflict. It's really simple.. but our government wont allow it!?

@JeniferXO 7 ай бұрын

This is gold! Thanks❤

@lisainsideaddiction 7 ай бұрын

Glad you like it!

@seekgodfirstallways8798 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing video guys. 👍🏽🙏🏽

@heatherhurry1011 5 ай бұрын

Very good and quite accurate!

@PsiloFoxVR Жыл бұрын

its a great interview, thanks for making it. What Peter says rings true on so many levels...it hurts to hear him speak out the hard truth,but ik he's right and everyone who is trying to help someone needs to be mentally prepared for failure and protect themselved from the consequences...like he says "if you want more for someone else than they want for themselves, you're wasting your time." And like he says, your environment is a big part of what you become, and changing someone's peer group is damn difficult/impossible unless they want to do it themselves...

@lisamarie3465 7 ай бұрын

Ok I have one conflicting thought. You say you become who your surrounding yourself with.....then why don't I have a drinking problem after being with an alcoholic for 9yrs?

@lisainsideaddiction 6 ай бұрын

often that happens because you learnt different coping mechanisms from your parents

@nancydrennan7122 11 күн бұрын

I think you need to think about how your life has been affected, you might not become an alcoholic but how your quality of life has been affected. For me, I can't think about my needs or wants,

@seekgodfirstallways8798 2 жыл бұрын

So we have to literally take on a new possitive habit. Recondition the brain...! 😁👍🏽

@lindaruss3772 5 ай бұрын

I cannot tell u how tired I am of hearing talk after talk after talk supposedly about alcoholism and drug addiction, and who gets BLAMED? Their loved ones. Family, friends, etc. in what other situation is “Caring for someone” considered the Problem? Isn’t addiction an illness? That’s what the Big Book SAYS! But do you blame the spouse, parents, etc , when u get arthritis, cancer, Fibromyalgia? Huh? Right?

@mollycule2792 5 ай бұрын

It’s mental illness so it’s different. Not letting the addict feel the consequences of their own actions keeps them in their denial and delusion that everything is okay

@saralynndunkerson2509 4 ай бұрын

Thanks.

@lisainsideaddiction 2 ай бұрын

I hear what you are saying and thank you for leaving a comment. I agree with you that it is unfair to blame everything in the addict's life onto their loved ones. In reality that is not the case and that point of view does not help anyone. Regarding the "Big Book" - there are many "Big Books" about addiction and its causes and the whole approach to addiction will vary based on which book you resonate with. For some it's illness, for some it's weakness, for us it's a trauma response and a response to an emotional dysregulation. Our families and loved ones do play a role in one's addiction whether we like it or not. They also play role in one's recovery. However, it is not their sole responsibility to make that addict recover. But it should be their responsibility to recognise how they contribute to the cycle (which is what Peter mentioned in the video), to set up healthy boundaries with the addict and to maintain a healthy self-care for themselves.

@lisamarie3465 7 ай бұрын

Who is Lisa? Lol

@lisainsideaddiction 6 ай бұрын

Lisa was Luke’s mum (our founder) who died because of alcohol and drugs when he was 10 years old