How to Say No to an Addict or Alcoholic

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How Do I Say No To My Addicted Child?
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@sammy2840 9 ай бұрын

All the arguments in the world couldn’t heal me! I had to go in patient 30 days, and to a sober house for 365 days! Recovered now for 15 years! It was miserable being an addict! The obsession has finally gone away! Thank God!

@steph5494 8 ай бұрын

God bless you! Congratulations! ❤

@annkamau6729 12 күн бұрын

Glory to God.

@nailsdeb Жыл бұрын

My son is very sick 😢. Not a minute Not a single second do I have peace. Thank you for this 🙏❤️

@dawnmchenry9451 10 ай бұрын

I am SO very sorry! Me.Too! My "boy" is 38!!!

@eliane5080 10 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry. Its so difficult to disconnect. I'm trying to put my worries in prays. God bless your family.

@conniescher3359 9 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry you are going through this. My daughter is an alcoholic. I feel like it’s killing me.

@TheMabes69 9 ай бұрын

I feel your pain.

@carolburnette2019 9 ай бұрын

@@conniescher3359My son has Schizoaffective. I understand. I am so sorry 🙏

@darlasmith5049 4 ай бұрын

I’m going to watch this everyday till it sticks in my head

@deelux59 2 ай бұрын

I feel you on this one

@objectperson Ай бұрын

Amen

@sky2461 Жыл бұрын

"Honesty without compassion is brutal. Compassion without honesty is enabling."

@donaw1 Жыл бұрын

I have been through hell for years and at 68 I’ve decided I want to enjoy my own life free and clear of chaos of my adult childrens’ addictions. They are not asking for help, but they don’t appear to want to fix their addiction either. I love all of them very much and it’s so hard to stand back and watch them destroy their lives. However, I do believe they have a choice to get help or not. It seems a lot of focus is what the parents can do to help their children. I love what you say Karen about putting our own oxygen mask on first… Finally.

@flawlessstrategy9972 10 ай бұрын

When I have to tell my soon-to-be homeless brother that he can't live with me. Because I MUST have a chaos-free life. I will not sacrifice myself for his addictions!

@TheMabes69 9 ай бұрын

@@flawlessstrategy9972 I'm in the same boat with my brother. Middle of the night calls from hospital ERs, the landlord, random nurses and social workers for the last 4 years. When I see his number pop up I feel triggered. I cannot do this anymore. On Tuesday I am taking my first vacation in 7 years and there will be no phone calls answered. After that, his number will be blocked except for a chosen 4 hr period weekly. I'll call him back if I feel like it. In the meantime...Alanon.

@carolburnette2019 9 ай бұрын

@@flawlessstrategy9972How are you doing?

@amandawhitis8788 5 ай бұрын

These comments could help you sis

@marciahill7016 2 ай бұрын

I'm 74 n ill. I'm going through he'll. So pleased I've discovered this channel. So alone in my private hell

@alexandrefrappier989 9 ай бұрын

I find that saying no is easy, the hard part for me is remaining calm and respectful when people have no respect for my bonderies

@amandamasarik1047 3 ай бұрын

My 24 year old son has a drug addiction. Last summer he got clean and was great until a week ago. He relapsed. It totally changes his mental state. He sounds psychotic. He was living with us and got verbally abusive and made our home unpeaceful. A few days ago he left and is living on the streets. We see him and it breaks my heart. We have tried to get help for him and the police and courts won't or can't help because he is an adult. Telling him no and knowing he might sleep in a ditch or worse is torture for me.

@Blue-in3ec Ай бұрын

Sorry

@bernadettefuhrmann1545 28 күн бұрын

It was for me too... I got so sick because I had to leave him on the streets. And he is 47! A mother's need to care for and protect her child never ends. It is so much a part of who we are, especially when they are in trouble. And we will do over and over again, and at all costs! I finally got too sick to do it any more, so I reached out to the outreach workers and I put him in God's care. This video is a life saver for me. So is the one on Codependency and Addiction. I highly recommend it! She understands us.❤

@youareIndenial981 Ай бұрын

I feel for the people with sick children.

@montanagal6958 Жыл бұрын

"You are dealing with an addiction that is not reasonable", LOVE THAT! "Compassion without honesty is enabling". WOW!

@kathleenmorris9309 8 ай бұрын

Never bring your kids down.. Lift them up.. Show them love.. Pray to Jesus.. My son is set free..

@jtsays429 Жыл бұрын

it's the yelling and bullying and name-calling until he gets his way... that's so hard, and he won't move out.

@TreeHouseRecovery Жыл бұрын

You should definitely give us a call. We can help. (855) 202-2138

@iamjane9628 8 ай бұрын

This was immensely helpful. I grew up with an alcoholic parent. My adult brother is an active alcoholic, currently being enabled by my parents. There is not a day that my life is not affected in some way by this. Thank you.

@tommybootlegger 7 ай бұрын

Ma'am if I was in the same room as you, I would hug you. This was a big help for me today. Thank you, and God bless.

@user-ju4xf2yi4i 9 ай бұрын

I'm in the same boat. Peace is something scarce for me. I feel like I'm living in a dark deep hole!

@stacymandarino2765 Жыл бұрын

My son is an addict with severe mental illness . I have been in this codependency hampster wheel. It’s heart wrenching the pain is so deep. I’ve been enabling him for 16 years . I run whenever he’s in crisis he has no food I bring food he needs money Bc he owes people and there going to hurt him. People I’ve kicked out of his apartment that shouldn’t be there. His apartment is not even livable for a human. I’ve advocated for him with drs etc . Called adult protective services they did nothing . I’m afraid of all the things if I don’t help him . He’s been hurt by people. Idk what to do anymore I’m literally physically ill I have all kinds of medical problems extreme anxiety depression. I think about him all the time . I’m a shell of myself to the point I feel like such a failure I have two other children and my attention is always on my addicted son . He actually just called5 times in a row and I didn’t answer. Now I’m crying Bc I’m thinking of all the horrible possibilities. He goes to the store to use there phone he doesn’t have a cell phone Bc he sells them or the people he lets in his apartment steal them . I need help to and I feel selfish for that .

@katherinequesada7382 Жыл бұрын

I hear you loudly with 3 sons of my own. It will kill you mama, you are paying the consequences for his choices. Everything youve done so far hasnt helped right? Are you in a program? You need a lot of support while you are growing through this. Ive been there Mom and it does get better when you change tbere no sense in you you both drowning. Prayers and hugs. Its the most difficult thing to go through my heart hurts for you.

@sharonendler1467 Жыл бұрын

Oh precious Stacy! So much like me and so many other mammas out there.

@keepmeposted Жыл бұрын

🙏

@Karenmariew5431 Жыл бұрын

I feel for you! I am in the same exact boat for the past 19 years.having a Son that's an addict and has a mental illness is the most difficult, stressful thing i have ever had to deal with! It's a complete nightmare! Big hugs! I understand! 😢😢😢😢

@nancystinger7393 10 ай бұрын

I just read your comment on this video. It is almost identical to my situation. You are not alone and I can feel your painful heart because I know the pain very well. We live in Los Angeles my son was homeless for five years and a year ago was stabbed and hospitalized. He was granted housing after he healed. I go to see him and bring him food and always clean his apartment. There have been times I asked people to leave because they don’t respect his place . I come back home and cry and I’m so deeply sad . It’s small steps at a time for us mothers . Our children become our own addiction. I am now doing small things for myself each day one day at a time. This may be your only child as my son is my only and I was a single parent. He is now 34. I am finding that we must give them a chance if just one thing to show them we trust them to take care of it even if it’s s phone call. If they don’t do it we can’t feel guilty and torture Ourselves . I also believe they need to see us living a life I think enabling them makes them feel they are incapable and don’t trust in their abilities. It is the hardest thing ever but I know my son wants to see me happy living a life that is rewarding as it is being who we say we want them to be. I wish you the best in this journey healing for you and your son .

@valerieshepherd6823 2 жыл бұрын

There is no half way with addicts. You have to draw a line in the sand and say don't cross it. The consequences are dire... you'll die.

@harpgal9950 7 ай бұрын

Just had to do the "no" to request for money a few days ago. There was no conversation, just plunged right into the request after not communicating with me for 9 months. I know I sounded harsh, but the "no" had to cut off son's lies and manipulations. Result - he promptly hung up without a word. That told me all I needed to know. Despite double digit rehab stays, he is not really in recovery.

@keepmeposted Жыл бұрын

I realized I have to wait to respond with a family member who only texts me when they are drunk, high... It's not perfect, but responding right away just makes it way worse and digs a hole. This is helpful.

@lg6041 3 ай бұрын

This was so helpful for me. My daughter has been an alcoholic who seems to be addicted to abusive men too. She has lost her children and doesn’t seem to have a “rock bottom”. Thank you for letting me know I am doing the right thing now.

@Teriyaki-vj8ny Жыл бұрын

Working on my codependency for a long time and this video was a blessing today 😢 My Son is a 31yr old alcoholic and his Aunt thinks it's "my turn" to let him stay here just for a night poor Dad at wits end ETC....Then it went into a tit for tat...... SO frustrating when all are not on board. This helps me REFOCUS! Just remembering to BREATHE and come from a place of intelligence not emotions. Because I reacted in defense today Ugggh. Even though I think I'm on the right track, 💥 I'm not working my program. ALWAYS learning. Coming from ACOA brings it's own challenges. I'm not in therapy right now because I've been unwell. Thankful to find videos like this. 🕊️❤️🕯️Breathe Teri. This too shall pass. 🙏✝️🙏

@evonne315 8 ай бұрын

Exellent tutorial thank you!! My problem has been enabling toxic behaviour, which is also an addiction. My ex was highly narcissistic, my friends just used me. I been dealing with it since childhood to the point I cant trust myself around people. I just give myself away. I ended up sick with a bunch of things at once, basically severe chronic fatigue, malaise, anhedonia. Its not worth it. Had to detox from people and heal 3 years now. Begin life again with strong boundaries and self care at the upmost. This video is really helping I have someone hounding me with an "emergency" right now that I already told I am too sick to help her right now. Now I know what to say.

@Jeangrey567 Ай бұрын

Wise and wonderful presentation. My qualifier is clean, but "fixing" my own codependence is an ongoing project. There are lots of gems in this talk. Totally worth re-watching.

@lynncarlson1543 4 ай бұрын

My nephew did DIE of a heroine overdse but by God's Grace I have Peace and Thank The LORD that he is with Our LORD now. ❤ This is to encourage anyone who faced this loss just to Know that the Creator Loves them more than we do. THANK GOD

@heatherclocher8795 7 ай бұрын

I listen to this video after I have talked to my Mother who is in her 80's and has been addicted to pills her whole life. She also lives with my alcoholic brother that is in his 50's and never got sober. Today she called to ask me to go to the pharmacy and I said no unfortunately it was the angry no she talks about in the video. It helps to watch this so I can be easy on myself and hopefully do better next time. Thank you for sharing your experience strength and hope! Really saved me again today from the downward spiral in my thoughts. Thank you.

@momione11 3 ай бұрын

Both my parents are addicts. That's how it is in the bone marrow. I became like an adult to my parents at the age of 7. I, in turn, late. When I start dating. I'm then drawn to addicts. I don't know anything else. But I do know the actual chaos in my stomach when I encounter this. So drawn to the energy in this. Only now in 50 years old seen what happens. When I encounter this. Is it that I automatically start servicing and become a doormat. My body knows before me. It remembers. But finally got the whole puzzle of life in front of me. But a painful journey to remove my father from a pedistal. See my parents for real. Is not judgmental.But can see them as children.But so glad I broke a pattern.This goes way back.Lived the same pattern as my parents but as a co-dependent.Falled together.But life has started to brighten.Seeing something different ahead. Also to never again become an abandholic and serve to my death. No more ever.

@aliciahasler4856 27 күн бұрын

Wow this story is totally like mine

@victoriaoshea4865 Жыл бұрын

" I love you. I care about you. NO "

@susanvansteen1315 2 жыл бұрын

Using Karen's wisdom has given me so much strength in dealing with myself. I found that I crippled my son with my constant pin-balling in dealing with him in the past. Thank you for sharing her wisdom in these videos, and for sharing her with The Addict's Mom™ group.

@TreeHouseRecovery 2 жыл бұрын

karen also runs a parent group that is open to the public. IF you would like more information you can message admissions@treehouserecovery.com

@theresaosburn7986 2 жыл бұрын

I am so grateful for program ... I am suffering.. I am in constant flight mode... my youngest son of four boys ... now men .. is an addict .. and things have gotten so bad... and I have done everything wrong for yrs ... I live in constant fear for my son ... I'm just so happy to find this talk ... ty.

@TreeHouseRecovery 2 жыл бұрын

How can we help?

@PurpleReels 7 күн бұрын

I love your voice and I came on this channel after being directed to another channel. I appreciate your delivery. No, is a complete sentence. I needed to hear this.

@TreeHouseRecovery 5 күн бұрын

We are happy to hear this video is helpful.

@beasaroseco5840 Жыл бұрын

No is a complete sentence. Exactly!

@victoriaoshea4865 Жыл бұрын

This truth hurts, but I will do what you ask as I want my son to live.

@rosemaine648 11 ай бұрын

What the consequences are if they refuse to accept boundaries? Is it okay to cut them off from coming to our home as a consequence? When it becomes dangerous and they refuse treatment for 20 years is it okay that you love them from a distance? We make sure they are safe, but how to communicate if they are drunk it is a waste of time.

@AsiaGuy2025 6 ай бұрын

Very wise advice "let me think about it" then construct a "no". Thank you.

@kelavallee Жыл бұрын

THANK YOU SO SO MUCH FOR SHARING THIS BECAUSE I AM GOING THROUGH HELL WITH MY SON'S ADDICTION I HAVEN'T SLEPT PROPERLY IN YEARS I TRY AND BE STRONG AND TRY NOT TO ENABLE BUT AS SOON AS HE IS REALLY IN A BAD WAY I COME TO HIS RESCUE AND ALL THAT HAPPENS IS WE ARE AT ODDS AGAIN ANOTHER HOLIDAY IS NULL AND VOID CHRISTMAS WAS RUINED AND NOW EASTER MY MOST PRECIOUS HOLIDAYS THAT BOTH OF MY CHILDREN ENJOYED PRACTICED AND SHARED WITH ME I HAVE CAVED OVER AND OVER AGAIN

@benetina 11 ай бұрын

My story also….. just trying to figure it all out and what to do. It’s an emotional roller coaster. I pray for strength & peace!

@julie0060 3 ай бұрын

This is the most painful thing in the world. It’s made me sick with anxiety/depression. I feel that witnessing addiction in my own son now will kill me. 🙏🙏🙏

@charlenebercillio8065 Жыл бұрын

Ty I really needed this video. I have son on fentanyl, meth. 😢

@lisafinch3006 3 ай бұрын

Your talking my Mommy mind heart and soul..broken and making changes in MY LIFE DAILY..BREATH WORK. I've REACTED WRONG FOR 60YRS..lost my 31yr old Son to drug addiction..losing my 38yr old daughter to disease of addiction and my 40yr old daughter trying to understand..I'm destroyed. Y shame guilt..I myself suffered from addiction....no is a complete sentence..I love my 600 +++ days of Alcohol Free choices and living. The disease of addiction has destroyed my family unit but never my Love ..Today I've Changed..God knows my Journey Pain Joy..no more guilt shame sadness. It's ok to let go.

@katherinequesada7382 Жыл бұрын

I've been I. Program for 5 years now. Still struggling but definitely helps to cope. Let go of son 3 he's doing awesome you'd think that after that I'd be ready to let go of his brother, son 2 but no, it was harder. It was easier to deny because he, when sober, seemed so normal. Now son 4 seems even more normal but he's not he has 3 addictions he's dealing with and not getting better. My heart is so sad as what im facing in letting him go. I'm exhausted going through these exhausting exercises of letting go. It's scary even with my higher power holding me. We are worth it and deserving of peace joy serenity and they deserve to be free from addictions. Be well and prayers for all of you.

@Teriyaki-vj8ny Жыл бұрын

Lifting you up in prayer 🙏✝️🙏

@kimpalmer4294 2 жыл бұрын

Man! She knows exactly what goes on in my head! Thank you Karen! I think I may need to replay this .. like daily. Your calm manner helps me make sense out of the "senseless". We here at The Addict's Mom™ benefit so much from these videos!

@TreeHouseRecovery 2 жыл бұрын

Kim, karen also runs a parent group that is open to the public. IF you would like more information you can message admissions@treehouserecovery.com

@carolburnette2019 9 ай бұрын

@@TreeHouseRecoveryYou were recommended by my therapist. Thank you

@vickyhollingsworth9595 5 ай бұрын

Oh my gosh. Karen's videos have changed my life. Literally saved me from insanity.

@dpglasser 2 жыл бұрын

Your a really smart lady.

@TreeHouseRecovery 2 жыл бұрын

Karen is vary wise. We are glad she is on the Tree House Recovery team. Thanks you for your comment.

@HonorJustice-Davis 25 күн бұрын

Happy to have found this. Thank you.

@allisona9490 Жыл бұрын

This is one of the best videos I've seen on this❤️

@beckym6751 Жыл бұрын

In the moment that my alcoholic starts asking why is this happening to me, is when he is under the influence. If I say, “Let’s talk when your sober”, then that conversation never happens, or if I gently bring up at the sober moment, I get shut down to further conversation. Currently I move on. Is that ok to do? I don’t move on angrily, I just know that he’s not really ready.

@montanagal6958 Жыл бұрын

blame game, the world is against me, give em a reason to drink/use, for the rest of us that face life sober, it's disgusting

@annettegamble9642 Жыл бұрын

I am exactly the same with my partner. He dosnt see that it's hurting his family. I can't talk gently with him abt this when sober either. However sometimes he does appear to be genuine but I feel he just does to keep the peace. I get the same excuses all the time. I'm sorry I love you im trying my best everyday. When he does have a break he gets the shakes. Hie has high blood pressure and over weight. His been told to CUT DOWN by his dr but binges after a few days off it. I've told my son who is 13 that if dad asks for help and decides to reach put would you support him with me he said absolutely I will. So in a few days time I'm going to randomly start the conversation infront of our son and say to his dad that we will support you when you decide to reach out for help all the way. Until then from this day when you ask me to purchase alcohol or money for it Wether it's yours or mine to buy it the answer will be know. I'm not responsible for your reaction to that.

@lizychacko6778 7 ай бұрын

My motherinlaw doesn't understand all these dynamics,many mothers are doing this... Daughters in law try to explain,but they have intervened to disrupt the whole process of addiction. Codependency of wives on husband,mothers on sons. Thank you so much for this insight.

@laurelb290 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this. You are brilliant. I have to say no today and it’s been tearing me apart. You helped tremendously. Thank you again. Best wishes to you and your sons!

@jaesapapillon2801 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this!!!

@flawlessstrategy9972 10 ай бұрын

Stellar video! Thanks!

@WanderingNature Жыл бұрын

Thank you!❤

@rosarioquiroga8300 11 ай бұрын

Thank you ,🕊🙏

@karenbegeman2912 2 жыл бұрын

So helpful!

@Mebbe308 9 ай бұрын

Every thing you’ve said is exactly right. Thanks

@drjsauber2879 7 ай бұрын

Incredibly helpful. Thank you so much!

@tomatlanta2665 Жыл бұрын

Well done ~ well said ‼️

@mommafinch3754 2 жыл бұрын

Wow!!! That was powerful

@serafinamauro9264 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video, you explain things so well and clearly.

@traceysakals6359 Жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@PH-hw5nx Жыл бұрын

Thankyou so so much

@TEPO-- 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, for sharing your insights, approaches, etc. Thank you.

@g.3735 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much

@charlottesank9260 11 ай бұрын

❤ Thank you so so much for sharing.

@mindfulmarie- 3 ай бұрын

This is amazing thanks so much for sharing your personal knowledge x

@Alexis33EE 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! This is extremelly helpful!

@oliviaacosta6239 Жыл бұрын

Thank you very much. This helps a lot

@flowingstrings Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@edercamargo4844 10 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤

@robertafierro5592 3 ай бұрын

Very good video. Theres alot of really great info here. In fact, im listening this a second time!

@anne-yo3mc 10 ай бұрын

This was such a good reminder. So affirming. And you’re right. We don’t have to do this alone. ❤️

@maureenmellott5738 8 ай бұрын

many thanks.

@ransbarger 5 ай бұрын

This is good stuff coming from a vet. Thank you

@johnnyalexander7910 Жыл бұрын

You’re increíble, I have made every mistake you’ve pointed out. This helped me a lot, thank you.

@6rubies 11 ай бұрын

Thank you!!!!

@staceysakkinen1270 8 ай бұрын

Your video by far has been the most helpful and practical video I've seen. Thank you!!!!

@OurBlessedHope1 2 ай бұрын

You are a blessing! Thank you so much! No is no👍

@kizzymulcaster6057 Ай бұрын

Thankyou for sharing this video its been Very insightful

@BARF_FACE_9000 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for your insight. The bit around 9:02 onward about the dread that starts to creep in after setting boundaries or refusing to enable or be manipulated through whichever avenues is something I struggle to address properly… or the worry about … what the person may do. To themselves or others when in an extreme state… maybe I am projecting somewhat.

@Godschild52909 10 ай бұрын

You make so much sense. I have to startvsaying no.

@sharondioguardi7167 9 ай бұрын

I am from Canada and wish you could help my family. I really loved your video. My daughter and her children live with my husband and I. Two nights ago we dropped her off at detox. She never went in and left her bags in the foyer at the detox center. We are being bombarded with text messages and phone calls. I am devastated

@ZFern9390 4 ай бұрын

😢

@ajfortmyers 2 жыл бұрын

Very powerful.. thank you…!

@TreeHouseRecovery 2 жыл бұрын

Glad you getting value from this information!

@pantherinae_art Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. I have one close friend who is an alcoholic and another is a heroin addict, and I struggle with setting my boundaries and protecting myself. I want to help and support them as best I can, but giving them money etc isn't the answer. I've had a boundary crossed recently and I found it very hurtful, and I've been researching how best to move forwards. I love my friends so much. It scares me seeing them hurt themselves, but I know I can't fix it, they have to do it themselves. It doesn't help that I have my own mental health issues too 🙈

@marcysikes 11 ай бұрын

I cannot emphasize too much the importance of Al-Anon for learning how to love without enabling! I am so very thankful that a counselor suggested that Al-Anon might help me! I’m not perfect but I am making progress.

@the_review_lady_channel 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your hard won wisdom. We see your strength and hard won love and caring help for us.

@TreeHouseRecovery 2 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome.

@cocoann7681 5 ай бұрын

I'm sick to my stomach I'm scared my grown son and daughter are going to die

@heathershabits 7 ай бұрын

8:47 this hits me so hard… apologizing for wanting someone to be sober and healthy… second guessing everything. The breathing exercises have really helped!❤

@jcastro91235 6 ай бұрын

Omg this is so true I go through this and lately I have been seeing that in me like I’m the problem cuAse I escalate so much becuase I know what they are going to ask

@PatriciaDAngelo-io2jz 22 күн бұрын

Thank you for this….. I’m going to try very hard to use all this information the next time that call/text comes

@TreeHouseRecovery 19 күн бұрын

Good luck!

@Jackiemycat 8 ай бұрын

Same boat as everyone on here. Alcoholic son, bright had a great job, lost it. Spends money out of control and we’ve bailed him out so many times out of fear! I feel like such a loser, super codependent I guess. I keep watching reading etc. I know what to do and now I have to. It’s so hard, the fear is awful but what I’m doing is not working period. I’m 63, my marriage is stressful (he’s not his biology father) I don’t blame him. He try’s hard also. I feel like my life is over and this is my lot in life😢so tired of this. Hopefully o can make the changes I need to help my son and myself.

@savedsealed1079 8 ай бұрын

My heart goes out to a friend of mine whose son has been arrested this week for a substantial amount of drug possession. He’s 20 & 2 yrs in with his addiction. My husband is a recovering addict and we know the pain all to well after years of fighting this battle. My only child lost her biological father to an overdose 14 yrs ago. Learning to love the addict with loving boundaries are essential and I appreciate this channel so much. So much valuable insight and guidance that is priceless. I’ll be sharing this channel with my friend! I wish y’all were here in Alabama!

@marcilk7534 Ай бұрын

My son is really mad at me because he was getting high on ketamine and stopped answering my calls. I told him I’ll have a wellness check if he doesn’t answer within a period of time. He told me never to call the police on him, what if he got arrested for drug possession, etc. He had no grasp of reality that it’s not normal to worry about this stuff. If he wasn’t doing something illegal, he wouldn’t have to worry, and that I’m not responsible for his poor decisions.

@vintagebabyseventythree6244 4 ай бұрын

Going through this with my brother.

@annettegamble9642 Жыл бұрын

My partner has an alcohol dependency and I have used some of the methods used such as deep breathing and removing myself for a moment. I find no very difficult. No mean no with no excuses or explanation. I think she said NO is a one word sentence and I also know that I have to learn to except that he will get angry and will not like my answer. Everytime I say no he says yes but just get 1 beer for me then however I know with time my no will be my strength and will slowly get easier to say. Thankyoy thankyou.

@TreeHouseRecovery Жыл бұрын

We can help you and your partner. Call us anytime.

@Maggied50 3 ай бұрын

I cried through this whole thing.

@michelledidio9006 26 күн бұрын

It’s difficult period, most of these are parents of adult children. What about a 13-14 yr old addict that runs away, for days puts the family thru hell. These are children, how does a parent deal with this?

@janeviscolosi6455 10 ай бұрын

Bix breathing ...Yes!! Thank you!

@bonniedavis9076 4 ай бұрын

You didnt cause it, you cant change it & you cant cure it. Show them what a happy life is by making your life smile.

@lindavezina6224 6 ай бұрын

My son is 42yrs old. He's a type 1 diabetic. He takes insulin 4times a day.He can't stabilize his sugar anymore. He's a bad alcoholic and he is on Crack cocaine and whatever else he can take..So smart such a hard worker..He lost everything. He doesn't come to see me anymore. He knows I would do anything to help him get sober.He doesn't ask me for anything. When I see him.he puts his arms around me and tells me he loves me.Then I end up crying. I always ask him.Is there anything I can do to help you.He always says No.I feel he has given up on himself and he doesn't want me to cry.But I'm losing him.He staying with my grandson and his girlfriend. My son doesn't have a girlfriend. And when he does it's only for a few days or weeks and it's always someone older than him..I feel that he loves me very much and he doesn't want me to see him like that.My son is suffering. He lost his eye sight. More than once.But he feels he can't stop.Too much has been lost in his mind..❤❤❤

@victoriadaniel1527 2 ай бұрын

Wow- I am sorry that you are going through this?

@Kimmie980 4 сағат бұрын

My husband is addicted to Coke I have tried so hard to help he's in denial he doesn't want help he has destroyed me and my boy's and I have started my divorce process

@robertafierro5592 3 ай бұрын

Whats so hard about this, is that our kids really dont want the help. Their struggle is really about getting their hands on your money or resources..theres all.sorts of HELP out there, and no one really wants it.

@mvas3469 9 ай бұрын

I went No Contact and I’m seen as a monster and I have a black heart 🖤

@WheresSummer1800TBIFIND 5 ай бұрын

I found My son od last week i found him in his truck started cpr and mouth to mouth called 911 found him with a needle in my bathroom kicked him out my home 10 min later he hit a tree head on had to cut him out of the truck and he crushed his pelvis 8 hour surgery yesterday im at the end i dont know what else to do PLEASE HELP ME IM SOOOO SCARED

@bonnenaturel6688 3 ай бұрын

I am so sorry about this. I know the fear.

@Mar--Mar Ай бұрын

It might sound like a cliche, but when all else fails try praying. It is simply a humble admission that you can't do it by yourself and you need some help from the Lord. "Ask and you shall receive". I will pray for you and your son too. 🙏

@WheresSummer1800TBIFIND Ай бұрын

@@Mar--Mar I do pray all the time also

@Jennifer-vz6rx 9 ай бұрын

@Vacays 2 ай бұрын

I have to say Alanon was a little help. But no matter where I was in the program I was not sufficiently ready to deal with his death at 36. Through texts and talks it sounded like he was trying to detox on his own.... I was extremely worried how he sounded and sent police for a wellness check when a few days went by and we couldn't reach him. They couldn't tell how long he was dead and his two little dogs were probably going nuts.

@jcastro91235 6 ай бұрын

I have a special needs son too and he is hard to deal with too