How To Help Clients Take Responsibility

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In therapy we have to be on our client's side. But what do we do when working with them is actually working against their best interests? What do we do when our clients will not take their share of responsibility for their situation?
One of the consequences of blaming others for everything is that it removes your client’s sense of control. In this video I'll share some tips on how we can help our clients blame others less and see their own part in situations more
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Пікірлер: 38

@carolineprenoveau7655 Жыл бұрын

What happened to me isn't my fault, but it is my responsibility. Formulating it that way feels noble.

@tatianahawaii13 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark. You are like a kind wise father most of us didn’t have. Thank you for your work

@mrssomeone2143 3 жыл бұрын

a culture of blame is a culture of dependency.... eye opener

@tatianahawaii13 2 жыл бұрын

Right

@syzygy4365 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for making this video. I'm a deep hearted person, and Ive always been there for others. These past 3 year's have seriously become a shock to me. Seeing people I've always been there for poorly put in an effort to help, and others like family become so drained I'm a burden. There's no easy solution, but this seriously helps me see where my power lies, and it's not my responsibility to be there for people who deflect blame rather than help put out the fire. I'm giving them too much power allowing them to step in that role apathetically. 🤔💡🔮

@emilyb5557 9 ай бұрын

Very interesting and so well explained how you introduced the concepts and shifted the mindset without direct confrontation of it.

@michellegaylord6142 2 жыл бұрын

WOW. I just stumbled into your material this morning and ALREADY having breakthroughs with myself (and others) that I’ve been struggling with for YEARS. 😱🤩

@tatianahawaii13 2 жыл бұрын

♥️

@cherisun1 3 жыл бұрын

I've have been on your KZfaq channel all day! You are a wealth of information and wisdom... Thank you for sharing this with the rest of us ♥ priceless!!

@zigtgut1 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for what is a very relevant topic, not only with clients but within my family. Watching relationships atrophy due to blame, unforgiveness and the unwillingness to reflect on how our behavioral patterns may have contributed to current circumstances is quite painful. This video was insightful. Many thanks.

@lukeyduke9732 Жыл бұрын

Mind suitably expanded. This guy is great 👍

@charlottekirby328 2 жыл бұрын

Very informative. Lots of great ideas to put into practise. Love the change analogy👏🏻

@leilaw8331 3 жыл бұрын

Best lesson of my life I’ve ever heard! Feeling so blessed, inspired and grateful Mark! Many thanks 🙏🌺

@gladyswilson6479 4 жыл бұрын

I love your videos. I am currently an Intern and I am glad I can learn from seasoned Therapists.

@StepheBrown 3 жыл бұрын

Very valuable insight. Thank you so much.

@SusanRossBirthRight 4 жыл бұрын

Brilliant! thank you Mark.

@thelmakuria9913 3 жыл бұрын

This is really helpful and practical. Thanks for your advice, it is inspiring and easy to apply.

@katherinecalacday2620 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark for this video. This is very helpful.

@josweemaes3822 4 жыл бұрын

thank you , great insight.

@vachkiri2 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot for those very useful videos!

@lisacurtis8162 3 жыл бұрын

What if you can't remember very much at all but when triggered become afraid,sad and dissociate?

@joelteixeira902 4 жыл бұрын

That was Great ! Thank you very much Sir for all of your work .

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@rehabilitatingbuzzy3281 2 жыл бұрын

"Nowadays the term abuse might be stretched beyond recognition..." I guess so.

@cairosilver2932 Жыл бұрын

If there is a police force to actually enforce the blame then it might do well to blame - and for some types of blame there is indeed an actual police force. For other things, like parental neglect ('they meant well' is not exactly a falsifiable statement), there isn't any force that will deal with it. But just shrugging about it doesn't help those who went through it.

@tatianahawaii13 2 жыл бұрын

7:23 we depend on those we blame 16:45

@r011ing_thunder6 3 жыл бұрын

Internalizing negative experience. What is that? 6:41

@tannerhagen774 3 жыл бұрын

Something bad happens to you and you create it as part of yourself.

@rafeeqwarfield9690 2 жыл бұрын

@@tannerhagen774 Thank you for this succinct explanation

@valgag0 3 жыл бұрын

Difficult to hear......i am the kind that has rolled with waves trashed and sometimes abandoned..........in paradises. My father’s cruelty and immense need of attention was my nemesis. Still is. I di blame him.