“People hate when you treat them the way they treat you”
@neonflashsparkotron54353 жыл бұрын
And also some people attack you for telling others the truth for some reason
@y4nd3re3 жыл бұрын
Your ugly -me to me
@ianwallace163 жыл бұрын
Exactly….n they don’t like it one bit.
@bakarah4953 жыл бұрын
@@y4nd3re lol
@johngrear65062 жыл бұрын
Absolutely! Good insight.
@G.DD3SS4 жыл бұрын
"Sorry you're feeling bad but I've got some work to do." That is some savagery, right there.
@dotdashdotdash4 жыл бұрын
try doing that if its your boss. enjoy unemployment?
@G.DD3SS4 жыл бұрын
@@dotdashdotdash Yeah, I would never dream of doing that to my boss. Boss wants to share their life story and drama, I am all ears.
@smallstudiodesign4 жыл бұрын
I agree. The maker of this video offers great advice on how to be a jerk
@BarbaraMishkov4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 yes yes indeed I agree!!!!!
@dotdashdotdash4 жыл бұрын
@@retro6991 I kind of like the ability to pay the bills, mortgage, and buy food
@WildHorizon2 жыл бұрын
“You think you’re being nice but you’re not living true to yourself.” (Being a people pleaser.) This is completely true and I’m 21 and just now learning this because everyone- especially jobs, will encourage these people pleasing behaviors and make it feel like a positive quality.
@lindac69192 жыл бұрын
They make it seem positive, because it works well for their agenda when you give them more than they pay you for.
@furg Жыл бұрын
Better learned at 21 than 35. I know people in their 40s and older who still haven't learned. You're doing great!
@Agent-ie3uv Жыл бұрын
In antm show, girls who's mean to others usually made it up to the finale, but they never win.
@tax2700 Жыл бұрын
@@furg hard to accept still now huh? I get that a lot
@nisakini8762 Жыл бұрын
FACTS- niceness can be used as a mask to "use" people
@Ra1ph Жыл бұрын
This video showed me that I could be the drama queen sometimes and that's why some people ignore me sometimes. Thank you for this video, I wanna change myself for the better. ❤
@Congestednose Жыл бұрын
Same
@tsaimadrid Жыл бұрын
Hi, congratulations for your waking up. Good for you.
@FNC8411 күн бұрын
It's take courage to accept one's fault. You got this.👊👊
@frankv.26814 жыл бұрын
The older I get, the less I care what people think about me. Therefore, the older I get, the happier I become!
@omegasbathtubgangshitposti92754 жыл бұрын
My life right now is the exact opposite. I go back to old memories that I honestly didn't care about when they said them to me but, now I think about them and I just feel depressed and shed some tears.
@lanceholsonbake42544 жыл бұрын
Frank V. Yep
@missmygamergirl4454 жыл бұрын
@@omegasbathtubgangshitposti9275 thats because your depressed eat right get sun and exercise stop using cheap highs like drugs and you wake up one morning soon thinking wow Iam so happy I forgot what it felt like.
@omegasbathtubgangshitposti92754 жыл бұрын
@@missmygamergirl445 Well first of all I don't do drugs (I'm literally in middle school lmfao) and second of all I'm not always depressed it's mostly when I'm alone and I have nothing to do and all I do is just get stuck on my thoughts. I just seem to be happy and laughing half of the day and the other half feeling gloomy and I just switch between the two constantly (Idk read some stuff online, might be manic depression).
@kellypawspa4 жыл бұрын
So freaking true! Lol and the oldet I get, the more other people should worry what I think about them, as well. ☺ With age comes wisdom... Getting better all the time at spotting the ppl I want to avoid pretty quickly, at last.
@kevgh38695 жыл бұрын
"It's better to be disrespected for who you are than respected for who you are not."
@mariamistretta38605 жыл бұрын
Lol so he disrespectful himself and brags about it lol.lamf negetitive man manipulate men druma man. Druma queen Paris Jackson lol.lamf Don't need anyone approval either way. They manipulate anyone. Still ingore them either way. Set boundaries standards privacy and avoided them. Not dont rewards them. Dont have time for negetitive people distance myself need time for me. Dont waste my time on dating sites and not a person pleaser anymore. Living on the life that better without negetitive people online so I cut them out. Yes they have a problem with everything else. Dont care to please anyone either way. My protorties come Frist. And want them to stop bullying me around push bossy me around stop abusing me harrassment and Naysayer Keith Martin narrastic Andy Murray Paris Jackson who are that yes I need to ingore them. No all of them. Not look for there input there annoying eleimated all of them. The manputior men online Keith Martin narrastic Andy Murray and David Cameron are Anderson cooper dump them cut them out of my life. Don't accept there bad childish behavior. So proud of myself dump all those posers and those mean girls who are not good for me and those who harrassment bully or hate himself or his mother who doesn't know what they say bullshit about innocent people online and not childish comments about it. Cut them out of my life. Close the doors in there face. Rise above them. Be my own hero im my own supergirl 8 🙂😁
@aaliyahdouglass21665 жыл бұрын
@@mariamistretta3860 u wrote this for what
@kwarrior28955 жыл бұрын
So good.😊
@tylerdurden51505 жыл бұрын
Bullshit
@traceylennon12045 жыл бұрын
I was checking that one out too..facts!!! @The Bro
@katethegreat8235 Жыл бұрын
I just want to thank whoever put the time into creating this masterpiece. I recently just broke it off with my best friend of 4 years. In reality, she is extremely manipulative and a toxic person in general. I felt guilty and blamed myself for HER behavior. I was afraid I made the wrong decision until I came across this video. Thank you for this 💕💕
@eastside0434 Жыл бұрын
I use to have people I thought were my friends,now I call them frenemies.
@maricarurmeneta621610 ай бұрын
I'm glad you're free now hehe
@brysonlandry24862 жыл бұрын
One of the best perspectives that I’ve found this far. It’s difficult to allow yourself to ignore your own parents even when it’s better for you.
@tidepod133 жыл бұрын
“The sun is all alone too but it still shines” -Buddha
@6wade2 жыл бұрын
pod tide
@kasia72042 жыл бұрын
Buddha??? HUH
@PeakHealthTypicalLiving2 жыл бұрын
That one was simple yet profound
@cummy_milk_shake32352 жыл бұрын
@@6wade kzfaq.info/get/bejne/eZOmqaefld-lpoU.html
@5446isnotmynumber2 жыл бұрын
Can you cite this quote?
@felixetcetera4 жыл бұрын
"Ignoring negative people doesn't mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it just means you care about your own well-being" I found this concept impressive. Perfect for people-pleasers, and I think their description was quite accurate too. They suffer because of the toxic relationships they create themselves and someone needs to tell them. Thanks for having done that.
@KhaldunQaysi3 жыл бұрын
In my community, pleasing people is given importance. People should hear about you what they think it is good and right even if they are wrong and you do not.agree with them
@CottonCandy-xk6ts2 жыл бұрын
I'm too much "people pleasers" from childhood and now I'm suffering from that.😩😩
@Jackgritty282 жыл бұрын
Is it a fact of life, why then bother, if you fail, ignorance should be used, is it selfish to not care, blame society, avoid drama, do you distance yourself, demanding attention makes you unlikable, unforgiving people won't feel pleased, if your insecure you'll disappoint others, remind people that your only human, and nobody's perfect, nothings impossible, don't let people steal your life from you, annoying habits deserve to be punished✅⛔🆘💲🈵🚩
@justsomeonewhosseentoomuch14012 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!!! Someone said it !!💯
@cookies26132 жыл бұрын
Well the second one is true, i do want and wish them harmed or getting bad luck
@SS-yj2le Жыл бұрын
I did this as a kid and I actually got bullied even harder. They would repeat it over and over again in my ear and I would tell the teacher and the teacher would say to simply ignore despite me explaining to them what I did. I also got hit a few times trying this as well and I was in trouble as well due to the “middle ground”. I did nothing to them and the few times I insulted them, it was an insult back.
@penguingalorigin6341 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, most bullies don't get phased by you ignoring them, worst case situation they get more angry. You actually have to beat the living crap out of them. If they can touch you, you can touch them. I don't understand why a more hands-on approach is being scrutinised by the society and the law. Your best bet is avoiding these people... which I have no fucking clue how is one supposed to do. Society sucks.
@Cosmophage1 Жыл бұрын
The best thing you can do is not self defence. It is only going to bring attention and get both the victim and the bully the same punishment. What you can do is bully them back, don't even wait for them to hit or disturb you. Hit them for no reason if you feel like they deserve it.
@em-rj1cc Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear that :(( I hope it gets better soon
@bituinl Жыл бұрын
@@Cosmophage1 no that’s absolutely not okay. Yes physically fight back, but only when it’s necessary like when they threaten to hurt you or something. Bullying is wrong all the way. It doesn’t matter if you’re bullied back it’s still wrong. Also I’m not saying not to fight back, but it’s extremely unnecessary to start a fight. /lh
@moyoh Жыл бұрын
yeah unlucky. the only solution back then was to clock the bullies in the face, sadly, we only know now :/
@kotic00710 ай бұрын
Ignoring people is very important - it's one of those subtle things that dont really make sense because it seems so simple. Until it just works itself out.
@RaidenMustDie35944 жыл бұрын
It hurts even more when you start to wonder if you are the negative person
@mikeycrispy51694 жыл бұрын
Nagetive people are always course by depression and family problems and that's why they are always rude to others everyday they will become unhappy everyday.
@rowill29684 жыл бұрын
We all take turns at being every one of these so called 'negative' types. It's perfectly natural. It's doesn't mean you're a terrible person it just means you're a human.
@sevastos21684 жыл бұрын
why it should hurt? Just axept it and work towards it. Also your avatar says a lot about you
@RaidenMustDie35944 жыл бұрын
@@sevastos2168 like what does it say about me?
@sevastos21684 жыл бұрын
@@RaidenMustDie3594 you know damn well
@ivannaivanova85424 жыл бұрын
Sum up: 1) Avoid people that dramatize too much 2) Avoid people who you can never please 3) Avoid people that try to push you down by laughing at you and your goals 4) Avoid manipulators 5) Avoid people who complain that you have changed over the years
@introvertreed60094 жыл бұрын
You just summed up 70-85% of the human race. This is why I wish more than half the world's population will disappear. Just imagine how much better life would be without dramatic, controlling, arrogant, narcissistic, stupid, manipulating, greedy,non sympathetic, backstabbing, war loving, disgusting, filthy, rotten people. When they ask me why am I so quiet,or they tell me I need to be more social and go to social gatherings. My response is "what's so fascinating about humans?" "Why should I get to know humans?" The fact of the matter is,most people are trash,so I choose to walk alone.
@ancestrall7942 жыл бұрын
6) End up alone 7) Find new friends 8) Repeat all over again
@eden95362 жыл бұрын
@@ancestrall794 So youre the number 1 situation
@thalukesta21122 жыл бұрын
@@eden9536 damn, you got him there XD
@eden95362 жыл бұрын
@@thalukesta2112 😅
@TheReigenplush Жыл бұрын
One story I never forgot hearing about from my mother was when I was in elementary school and I got left out from our class and when I told my parents, they asked me if I wanted to change my class and I’d always refuse and say “if they don’t want to be friends with me then I don’t care and I won’t let it hinder my academic progress in school or my happiness in life” and I used to get 90-100% in every exam which would make me happy enough at school as well as at home. I still have that type of mindset, if a person I know is obviously uninterested or toxic, then they aren’t worth my time.
@KingdomJustice11 Жыл бұрын
👍You are so going places. . I'm learning to not bother myself with toxic people anymore - I either don't tolerate their schemes straight out on their face or just avoid & ignore them completely - it's sooo freeing 🎉😆 Some folks learn this late in life. . but it's never too late 🙏
@JazzoBeat Жыл бұрын
I always felt social insecurities because I don't like having to deal with people complaining when I don't agree with something. But this video does help me remember that "If they actually cared, they would see why I disagree" and I don't need people to always like me lol
@toastchair97022 жыл бұрын
I’m kind of a gloomy person but I’ve found hanging out with negative energy people can really bring you down to a really low point
@ilyxdexter2 жыл бұрын
that should be common sense brah
@sarahjudith84332 жыл бұрын
@@furtywelsh3482 Honestly sometimes that actually works haha
@elberryjuana Жыл бұрын
@@furtywelsh3482 lmaoooo
@Aquahonoredhi Жыл бұрын
@Medieval Mushroom and once they start sticking around you, they will not stop.
@WHAT_1907 Жыл бұрын
@@Aquahonoredhi u suck
@sweetnuna45895 жыл бұрын
It's very hard when negative people happens to be the close ones in your life such as your family,you can't get rid of them.
@afb83705 жыл бұрын
That's the issue, when your immediate family is toxic, its hard to manage them. Best is make new associates networking and make that a constant process so you never feel left out. And people who will value you will keep in touch, else they self filter.
@alphalimi45915 жыл бұрын
Yeah u r true, i also hv 1
@kydrikezagrint78025 жыл бұрын
I know how that is hope things get better for you
@dogukanaydogdu22605 жыл бұрын
same
@Allen-eq5uf5 жыл бұрын
śwěêť ñøùñà Your friends are God’s way of making up for your family.
@kirbydouglas11912 жыл бұрын
I literally did this in high school. I ignored everyone and everything. It kept me sane. Socializing, simply for the sake of being deemed as "normal," just wasn't worth it to me. The best part is when insecure people talk behind my back, shaming me as a serial killer or something like that. People who lack strength, need others to make them feel "secure." I'm secure in myself. And this troubles most people I deal with, because they can't feel secure in themselves. They need others to hold their hand. They shame me, because I'm stronger. They fear me, because I'm better. Normies are babies that need to be coddled. lol
@chumcity2 жыл бұрын
exactly
@kimmson63562 жыл бұрын
It is a good thing that you do what you do but the last one sounded a little arrogant. I am not saying this to bring you down or anything, it is just arrogance is a major cause of downfall
@kirbydouglas11912 жыл бұрын
@@kimmson6356 You're right, arrogance can lead to negative outcomes. But I'm careful not to let myself become arrogant. I think that everyone should have a healthy amount of Narcissism. It's good to love yourself, regardless of what people think. I'm not overweight. I'm average looking. I'm short for a dude. (Just for context) There were times when I would give in to the pressures of social expectations, for the sake of trying to "fit in." It would backfire every-time. Nowadays, I simply value doing things my way, regardless of how people perceive me. It keeps me sane. Conforming to societal pressures for the sake of "being normal," always lead to me being easily manipulated by others. I would constantly worry about how others perceive me, and would constantly correct my behavior, or over-correct myself (which would be very awkward) due me trying to "fit in." For me, it simply wasn't worth it anymore. I'm self-aware enough to pick up on social cues, but when I try to put it in practice, it never goes smoothly. Now, I no longer worry about what people think about me, and it's a breath of fresh air. It may sound arrogant, but it works for me. I have one life to live, and I'm not going to spend the rest of my days, trying to "be normal." It's too much of a hassle. I'm not giving up, I'm setting myself free.
@kimmson63562 жыл бұрын
@@kirbydouglas1191 You sound like an average guy. There is nothing wrong with self love, self awareness, self respect, self confidence and all the other positive self's out there. Where I live it is normal to do so. If you aren't happy by the people that surround you then the world is a big place, move anywhere suitable. My religion Islam teaches us how to live a life of moderation and a happy life is to do little with people and not be materialistic. Humans are social creatures. I really hope you find someone who is similar to you and become your good friend. You are kind of like me tho,I am free bird myself and I deny any social norm or trend that I see as baseless or a hassle.
@avo.avocado2 жыл бұрын
r/iamverysmart
@bunheezju Жыл бұрын
Thanks. I'm an introvert that used to be a big extrovert, and when people notice how much I changed, they think it's strange and that I should go back to how I used to be. I've been pressuring myself to make friends, and because of that I tend to please people. I was certain that I was a strong person, and that I wasn't a people pleaser, but it turns out that I am one. I did ridiculous things people asked me to do, and in the end when I did what they asked they laughed at me, and embarrassed me. Tbh I thought they were laughing because they thought I was a funny friend. I never thought people could be so mean. I didn't believe it when people said they were evil. Turns out people can be really, really mean, I don't even know if these people have consciousness or guilt anymore.
@waitwhat68823 жыл бұрын
It’s not just drama queens, there are many drama KINGS as well.
@Prince_Yonte3 жыл бұрын
Right bruh?
@Jademp23 жыл бұрын
So many drama queens
@Akshay-uq5uq3 жыл бұрын
Drama Queens outnumber Drama Kings
@mankuqhapaqii47983 жыл бұрын
Emotional men are femenine
@tiariapotaka69813 жыл бұрын
@@mankuqhapaqii4798 not necessarily unless you were trying to point out the problem with that
@visionlit37373 жыл бұрын
A man with positive attitude cannot be stopped A man with negative attitude cannot be helped...
@EzequielMartin55vf3 жыл бұрын
True...
@Luv4Jay12 жыл бұрын
Yeah
@johngrear65062 жыл бұрын
I personally think being a critical thinker is the most positive thing you can do. Yet critical thinkers are often seen as negative. To understand the world as it really is rather than how you want it to be. I know many so-called "positive" people who are miserable because they are often really just pretending, and the reality is not matching their positive view and they really have no idea why.
@phenomenalmusic50342 жыл бұрын
@@johngrear6506 negative idiot spotted
@vop48132 жыл бұрын
@@phenomenalmusic5034 negative maybe but idiot not. The negativity and positivity is more like what you focus those things that are good or those that are bad. You can be critical while you are in positive or negative mind set.
@cohenthompson3405 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the advice! Now I know that if someone tells me not to pursue my dreams I'll *eliminate* them!
@realcupojoe Жыл бұрын
I almost spat out my drink when I heard the raw delivery of "Eliminate them!"
@hannaheliza3954 Жыл бұрын
This actually helps me deal with how toxic my grandma can be. When people say just ignore her or something I didn't know the best way to do it. Now I have a better understanding.
@MoFoDaRoad5 жыл бұрын
It’s interesting how all these people can sometimes be just one person.
@blossom62355 жыл бұрын
so true
@nancystewart26865 жыл бұрын
Yes indeed, that's exactly what I was thinking
@vsatonthebeat41015 жыл бұрын
Maybe they are fake
@drjrich2225 жыл бұрын
It's called NPD; a cluster-B personality disorder.
@mrs.camillewarrenempress31155 жыл бұрын
@@vsatonthebeat4101 I was thinking the same thing .I have a so called friend we live in the same city . She has a kid I am have 5 kids. But unfortunately I am just trying to keep an distance from her. Because I felt she wasn't a friend to me
@Junokaii5 жыл бұрын
Forgiving yourself really IS harder than forgiving others.
@dohaaymoon40965 жыл бұрын
Yes so true
@KevinSmith-tq3gm4 жыл бұрын
@Ink blobs Have fun with your loneliness.
@marketinsights_4 жыл бұрын
yea because you always feel like you can do better than what you did
@plumeria664 жыл бұрын
Not for me. It’s one and the same.
@amiraqistina7704 жыл бұрын
I know. You have to live your entire life with regret and guilt. even if you forgive yourself, u know that its still your fault.
@P_4BKM772 жыл бұрын
As a philosopher, i would like to add up that if you had friends that you shouldn't have made, and even if you ignore them as possible and still get caught up on you on a daily basis like school, work, etc..., just keep ignoring, if they act socially hostile to you, keep ignoring, do not let them take you down by words, you need to become emotionless when it comes to these things, but if the "bullying" becomes physical, then you know what to do, do not seek for trouble, but when trouble seeks for you, then you'll just have to put an end to it
@StoicWei2 жыл бұрын
Run-on sentence of this magnitude is painful to read
@P_4BKM772 жыл бұрын
@@StoicWei what can i say? You cannot escape from reality, as much as you want, you can't, however, it doesn't mean the world is bad or anything, you just got to self-adapt to the enviroment and mind your own bussiness, either way, stay in your houses, and enjoy the peace
@SunShine-ml7hx2 жыл бұрын
Well i think it's little much difficult to ignore your classmate who are fake and talking with u in face gd and back bad when they needed you.You are there from they but when you needed them they are not there. It so sad sometime i get the pain from them I can't even ignore them cause when am absent in class on that day I ask qns from them they give me so for that it hard to ignore.
@P_4BKM772 жыл бұрын
@@SunShine-ml7hx it is true that we are somehow dependent on others, afterall, a country is a sociaty where people work together to develope it, but it all depends in your will, remember why they are fake to you, of course they get easy on you and may ask you some stuff or something else, but in the end, it all goes to the same, sociaty might be depended from the people but people are depended from themselves, this applies both for a school and a country individually
@SunShine-ml7hx2 жыл бұрын
@@P_4BKM77 thank you for the gd advice i love it.. 🙂🙂🙇
@liveuRlife2thefullest Жыл бұрын
this just made me realize I'm such a toxic person I'm really glad that one person cut me off, now that I have learned my wrong doings I will now apply it to my self and change that. I will try as well not to be with the toxic people, I will go and ignore them as much as I can.
@SangeetaGupta-ov3rq4 жыл бұрын
I loved the sentence "it's better to be disrespected for who you are than to respected for who you are not and feel hollow inside"
This is exactly what I'm doing, that’s why there are a lot of people that hate me, but so there are a lot of people who love me. I Can be so rude at joking, but I deeply care about people who I think is good for me. (Not for me, but for society. I do respect.)
@chadsatomicdustbin9516 Жыл бұрын
@Sangeeta Gupta This line sounds a lot like what Kurt Cobain said. “I’d rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not” I don’t know if that’s the exact quote, but pretty close.
@OnyinyeOfunwa Жыл бұрын
Oof thats me then i get disrespected for who i am all the time at school lol i get called annoying a lot but it doesnt rlly bother me haters can hate!🤷♀
@terencejay88454 жыл бұрын
'If you lend someone £20 and you never see them again, it was probably worth it.'
@immortalcross3 жыл бұрын
That helped me make peace about a c*unt I lent 100 pounds once and the n disappeared. Cheers for that. Still want my money though
@dorismahoney14403 жыл бұрын
Ha ha ha yes
@caveman30213 жыл бұрын
Its worth that amount to get rid if them You save in the long run ; )
@brachiosaurus65413 жыл бұрын
sadly most of the times it's a lot more than 20 pounds
@billh.19403 жыл бұрын
It is worth more. If you put your foot, they can't beat you for more. Learned this the hard way!
@marwald8358 Жыл бұрын
It is always better to be disrespected for who you are than respected for who you aren’t
@pareeshaslaughter679811 ай бұрын
But then it's better too so people don't think they know your every move 😂😂😂😂
@jsscaaaa3768 Жыл бұрын
Number 5, people who use to know you and label you as they know you (or not) is the one I lived under for way too long. It's amazing to feel free.
@agentblack94474 жыл бұрын
I needed this 4 years ago. Better late than never I guess.
@pashtet_vyacheslavych4 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this. Finally, I've found a key to freedom
@melanatedwarrior66533 жыл бұрын
I be trying to ignore people but not be rude
@WeTryYouWin3 жыл бұрын
@@yahirib1534 I swear same here!! I'm 35 What the hell?
@manoelavasques6263 жыл бұрын
Oh I searched this up
@lindseyohara37063 жыл бұрын
that's right
@funmitalabi96073 жыл бұрын
I don't know why I'm here, I've mastered the art of ignoring people ever since I've had to sit and listen to my mom go on tangents everyday about how crappy of a person I am.
@gigachad21083 жыл бұрын
teach me
@Dude-cf8hb3 жыл бұрын
Plz teach me
@funmitalabi96073 жыл бұрын
@@Dude-cf8hb It's easy? If you are being screamed at you could daydream. Don't take it heart too, and respond back however you want in your mind if you aren't in the wrong. If it is just someone annoying you, focus your attention on something else and their voice will fade to background noise. (Read a book, do homework, draw, watch something, etc.)
@brendazempel22943 жыл бұрын
Your the positive example my friend learning and moving past that trauma. Good for you! Keep sharing 😊
@Andrew-ws4ls3 жыл бұрын
@@funmitalabi9607 I'm not sure if you're implying your mom is abusive, but mine was so I'm leaving this in the comments for anyone else who has to put up with it: The only thing you can do in that situation is get out. Being around her fucked my social life up so bad, but when I got away all my problems basically disappeared with enough time.
@colorfulshow33 Жыл бұрын
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re going through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤😍🥰
@YokoshimaOfficial2 жыл бұрын
I struggle with insecure bullies in public for barking this or that because I'm a guy who looks very feminine, but from now on I'll remind myself that they're as insignificant as trash. Truth is, and always had been, as soon as I stand up for myself and start a mature argument they put their tails between their legs and diminish in size, which is something so pathetic that I hold myself telling them about, because that’s how much I genuinely care about people’s feelings. Trust me on this, challenging them is really fun. I started seeing them as lab rats to practice with, observe with utmost curiosity, and learn more about.
@joshuaduca55273 жыл бұрын
sitting alone and enjoying your own company is better than being surrounded by fake people 🤗
@tannyglover39294 жыл бұрын
Had an ex like ALL of these types. Left her years ago and now I’m finishing my Master’s. Amazing how that works.
@Lott0Jay4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful job
@spacelyman94824 жыл бұрын
Much respect, love, and congratulations to your accomplishments.
@steviehabbe80654 жыл бұрын
Positive Vibes 🧘♀️💯
@mrs.w81934 жыл бұрын
Tanny Glover how can someone be ALL these types? That’s insane.
@hannahowen18014 жыл бұрын
I'm currently trying to get away from someone who is all of these. I'm sick of being put down and walking on eggshells.
@chazlyle412 жыл бұрын
The greatest gift my father ever gave me was a lack of worry what others think, and an inclination toward the concept that if nearly everyone thinks one thing it is likely best to investigate the other way.
@mybraineatseverything74045 жыл бұрын
I used to do something I called, pulling a disappearing act. When I had collected too many toxic people, I would just move and not tell anyone where I went. Fortunately, I am much better in choosing my friends now so I haven't had to do that in decades, but when I was young I was a magnet for all six of these types of people!
@houstontexas97305 жыл бұрын
MyBrainEatsEverything One of the best comments I’ve read If I could like this again I would I got rid of toxic people went as far as deleting all social media account all I have now Is Sc and I rarely post
@houstontexas97305 жыл бұрын
So I guess most social media lol but the ones that people can keep tabs on you like Fb Ig got deleted It was hard getting rid of them but once you do you feel so free
@catherinebirch23995 жыл бұрын
Same here!
@karishort75615 жыл бұрын
I've done it myself and cut off my toxic family 3 years ago! I'm like Waldo.... and now if someone sees me, it's a "Kari Short" sighting..
@BattleAngel205 жыл бұрын
@@karishort7561 how is it not having close family?
@Jay-bt4xu4 жыл бұрын
I am completely lonely now. I had many friends in High school like 15-20 close friends. Half of them were completely negative and others wanted attention. I am starting my own business and I don't need any negativity. I have started networking with people I want to be around with and be friends with them. Life is so easy when pricks are not around.
@iameatingursnack4 жыл бұрын
It's even easier when no one is around
@u-thix24364 жыл бұрын
@Deliq shut
@patriciastewart25374 жыл бұрын
I honestly, am finding more rapport with people who comment on videos on topics I like than people nearby.
@patriciastewart25374 жыл бұрын
@Deliq , no it is not.
@ilovebutterstuff4 жыл бұрын
Jay--- Most friends are the "fair weather" type, no matter where you go, or what you do. Society has taught the past couple generations to be completely isolating, even more so now in 2020. There is good news, though. The hyper individualism that creates all that loneliness in the 3d realm can be cured by delving into the 4d realm of consciousness and oneness. I suggest picking up a couple books by the Dalai lama, to get started.
@somenerdygirl46962 жыл бұрын
I loved these, you have no idea. The naysayer one really woke me up and made me laugh. It's great that you're not just listening and explaining problems, you're giving really helpful advice along with it, thank you.
@mr-jon2 жыл бұрын
i would encourage people to say "yes" to a lot of things. even if it takes you out of your comfort zone a bit you may find you end up enjoying it. if you always say "no" eventually people will just stop asking you and you'll get left out on activities you may actually want to be a part of.
@karolinawww683411 ай бұрын
That's true in part, but pushing yourself too often to do something just for the sake of FOMO is not the way to go either. That used to be my mistake, and after a while you don't show up fully anymore and end up exhausted, even a bit bitter. It gives you opportunities, but you don't enjoy them as much, you're never comfortable - it's just too much. It should be more about finding the right balance and listening to yourself, not others. Only then can you consider expanding your comfort zone
@sgt.grinch32993 жыл бұрын
I instinctively knew this as a child. As I aged, parents, teachers, and other adults told me I needed to engage with others. I had to concern myself with other’s problems and feelings. Now I’m retired and studying Stoicism. I lost 40 years of my needs.
@userm1802 жыл бұрын
u ok?
@NightMystique132 жыл бұрын
We need to do so much better with raising our kids to have strong boundaries. I am also delving into Stoicism. Its a relief to not be focussed on others all the time.
@shenanigun55762 жыл бұрын
Sgt Grinch I feel you on a spiritual level.
@cummy_milk_shake32352 жыл бұрын
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@angelicasysnila54762 жыл бұрын
Same, when it's your own parents and close ones who tell you to do this & this, you can't really do anything about it, you can't simply say "no I am gonna do it my way, let them say whatever they want". You follow it while barely questioning it. It really takes some loses to realise you have been obeying the wrong people.
@afghandiamond12253 жыл бұрын
Man removing toxic people from my life is one of the best choices i ever made, even if that person was me being toxic to my friends.
@golgapa35702 жыл бұрын
I hope those those toxic people were not Taliban because.... Your name says it all
@sallylemon58352 жыл бұрын
@@golgapa3570 your comment reflects the toxic person you are.
@rat40562 жыл бұрын
ayyy I found another Afghani brother/sister
@cummy_milk_shake32352 жыл бұрын
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@ainzaida4772 жыл бұрын
@@golgapa3570 seriously🤦🏻♀️
@NancyKodan Жыл бұрын
I am 18 year old and want to work more on myself and these series are helping me to achieve a new version of myself. Thank you sir.
@mi-chan7357 Жыл бұрын
just realized i havent ignored a single negative person in my life and this video saved me from my misery
@user-fj3fk9mw9k4 жыл бұрын
*jealousy is the highest form of flattery and the lowest form of creativity.*
@jimmyj40444 жыл бұрын
nope
@MsPhuque4 жыл бұрын
This video is about avoiding you Jimmy.
@jimmyj40444 жыл бұрын
@@MsPhuque Bahaha, loser
@MsPhuque4 жыл бұрын
@@jimmyj4044 why so miserable? Did your priest force his hands on you long ago and now you hate everything and everyone? Rhetorical question, I predict it'll go over your head kiddo.
@jimmyj40444 жыл бұрын
@@MsPhuque Nah buddy, I'm not religious. I just find your sensitivity to anything and everything hilarious.
@Ixarus6713 Жыл бұрын
I try hard to follow this. One day I just thought. I don't have to be how others want me, I can do whatever, their opinions literally do not affect me. And now I'm generally much better off. It's kinda like stoicism.
@EmKayFour444 Жыл бұрын
I love how the first 10 seconds automatically made me realize how genuinely stupid it is to listen to some people like their opinion is "gospel." That's groundbreaking, thank you.
@mcdove4 жыл бұрын
In a nutshell: AVOID NARCISSISTS
@zombiemachinery48684 жыл бұрын
That's every woman and a fair share of men.
@milkuu_x52404 жыл бұрын
In a nutshell: AVOID PEOPLE*
@francoisnel52534 жыл бұрын
Sadly it's a term used so broadly by people who have little insight to the real situation in many cases. Women often use that as a defining reason to break up with men. While most women live so far in their own world that they rarely see the need of and the actual man in their lives for who he is. It's a term that can describe many other things such as a person who is on the autistic spectrum or someone with ADHD that talks to stimulate their own mind, etc. It is like a joker card / blanket term and is used irresponsibly WAY too often. Instead people can be more supportive and understand in some cases. Too many run to friends and social media strangers and actually take the advice or diagnosis without even seeing half of the complete picture.
@beans90194 жыл бұрын
Zombie Machinery stop with that misogyny please. Really. If a whole gender is a problem in your eyes that says more about you than the gender. I didn’t ask to be born a woman but trust me not all women are narcissists. That’s just as bad as me saying all men are narcissistic; it’s not true and really doesn’t solve the problem you seem to be having.
@makemeajmod4 жыл бұрын
@Wesley Scherr nailed it!!
@JayBird2274 жыл бұрын
Alone time is such a blessing 🙏🏻💕 Cut the bond with anyone who threatens your peace of mind and all is well, you deserve it 👍🏻
@JayBird2274 жыл бұрын
Deliq elaborate?
@kevinvincent90234 жыл бұрын
@Deliq my thoughts exactly
@JayBird2274 жыл бұрын
Deliq I think it depends on the kind of person you are and what you value in life, I’m the first choice :)
@RT-xk4su4 жыл бұрын
So true!
@gameexplorer68744 жыл бұрын
@Deliq I just want to share my thoughts about this. When it comes to these things. I cannot confirm whether if god is true or not. Things will remain a mystery for me.
@ImaginaryIonut Жыл бұрын
One of my friends is almost all of these bad things and i still care for him and help him as much as i can,make me realise how much of a fool i am.However i dont want to let him bear all of his suffering by himself,even if hes being a bad friend i know how it is to suffer,to be alone,to not have someone to talk to.These are all things that happened to me and i dont want anyone else to experience,by helping people i find a bit of happiness in everyday little tasks.
@kingding9542 Жыл бұрын
Finally! When I learn how to protect my self esteem its over for you Fers
@Madhra2k245 жыл бұрын
Silence is the best medicine...get a pet...start eating well...enjoy sleeping more...😉
@foxiefair1235 жыл бұрын
Madhra AL If your pet (cat) lets you sleep, lol.
@Madhra2k245 жыл бұрын
@@foxiefair123 My pet is my hubby ! 😆
@traceylennon12045 жыл бұрын
Pearls!! (of wisdom) @Madhra AL
@kaym.h.35835 жыл бұрын
Madhra AL 🙋
@Madhra2k245 жыл бұрын
@@kaym.h.3583 😉
@TheMintsyrup4 жыл бұрын
Does anybody else feel like every person in their life fits in at least one of these categories?
@dotdashdotdash4 жыл бұрын
humans are all the same, basically
@BlackPanther-vk5ew4 жыл бұрын
@@Jackgritty28 ......You must be Young.....lol!?
@rollerbladinggeek55074 жыл бұрын
Or at least the authors category (selfish).
@landofrye4 жыл бұрын
The creepiest thing is identifying some of the behaviors in yourself
@davidkonevky73724 жыл бұрын
the person who is never pleased is def very common on my life lmao
@mylahdrexler1424 Жыл бұрын
"You suck" "I don't care" inspirational.
@tico360 Жыл бұрын
I've realized that at least one of these types of people to avoid applies to me, and it really makes me think about what my peers are dealing with because of it. I feel that I need to change these aspects of my personality not just for the people around be, but for my well being in general.
@iTydaa4 жыл бұрын
bad friends give me depression, they wired my brain into a loser way of thinking :( now i realised im trying to get to back to my old self :)
@rafipratama36384 жыл бұрын
Same here 😒 I need somebody to talk :(
@autumnwinter14624 жыл бұрын
Same 😕
@lonewolf2784 жыл бұрын
Keep your head up guys. Get rid of toxic people in your lives. Easier said than done but always worth it.
@iameatingursnack4 жыл бұрын
Drama queen alert
@blueberry-babe18404 жыл бұрын
@@iameatingursnack how? they are stressed due to bad friends
@carolyndonald99264 жыл бұрын
WHY KEEP WORRYING ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE SANITY WHEN YOU NEED TO WORRY ABOUT YOUR DAMN OWN.
@leenaseelawathi43553 жыл бұрын
That's very thoughtful 😍😍😍
@johnbockelie38993 жыл бұрын
There is only one of you. Be who you are, you are unique. Every one is different in some or many ways.they are unique too. Above else be who you are.
@ImSimplyAHuman3 жыл бұрын
Amen ❤️
@einnor50053 жыл бұрын
omg yas.❤️
@Sweetjunglequeen3 жыл бұрын
🎯
@darkinfernogamez4640 Жыл бұрын
I’ve found this very helpful: Whenever someone says something mean like “I hate you!” then I say “Thank you for sharing!”
@kanchi63332 жыл бұрын
all the asian, african, arabian kids here, YOU GOT THIS GUYS!!
@kanchi63332 жыл бұрын
also relevant to others but kids from these backgrounds tend to face this more commonly than others, not saying that only they need the support because everyone does
@stelharpwood57522 жыл бұрын
@@kanchi6333 Very true :) thanks man
@j68655 жыл бұрын
Better alone than in bad company. FTW
@thelegendkillersshittyduff13355 жыл бұрын
Can't be alone if you have schizophrenia
@quincysimpson29585 жыл бұрын
J what is ftw?
@foxiefair1235 жыл бұрын
J Definitely.
@bearlivesmatter63365 жыл бұрын
@@quincysimpson2958 Fuck that way
@traceylennon12045 жыл бұрын
Say that again!!! @J
@alpoter4 жыл бұрын
These traits generally come as a bundle on people with narcissistic personality disorder. They are people with deep inferiority-complex, mostly originates from childhood traumas. Whenever they feel that someone is superior, they use these methods to bring them down, so that they feel better for a short amount of time. They are impulsive, emotion-driven, self-focused, immature and cunning people with lack of symphathy and self-awareness. Don't try to heal them. Don't try to symphatize with them. They have practiced this for a life time, and mastered the methods. They will take you down without you even notice. They are masters of spotting people who are caring, loving, selfless with high empathy and generally low self-esteem (sorry guys, you need to work on that!). Ignore, keep your distance or remove them from your life as fast as you can.
@andrewpadzik99604 жыл бұрын
Yep, spot on
@TheMandylane14 жыл бұрын
. SO TRUE!!!! THANKYOU FOR SHARING... ITS TAKEN ME 6 & A HALF YEARS TO REALISE THAT MY NARCISSIST PARTNER WAS LYING AND CHEATING ON ME FROM THE GET GO... GAS LIGHTING TRAUMA BONDING, LOVE BOMBING AND DISGARDING ME FOR YEARS !!!! THESE VILE DRAMAS OF HIS HAD ME NEARLY LOOSE ALL BELIEF IN SELF AND IN THE INTEGRITY I USED TO HOLD SO FIRMLY TO... ITS TAKEN ME YEARS TO REALISE WHAT ID BEEN PART OF AND HURTS SO BAD ...BCOS EVEN KNOWING ALL THIS..IM THE ONE STILL MISSING THE MAN I 1ST FELL IN LOVE WITH.. THIS MAN EVEN OWNED IT CLAIMING " HES SUCH A GOOD LIAR..".. TO THE POINT THAT I HAD NO IDEA HE HAD BEEN MANIPULATING AND CONTROLLING THIS WHOLE SITUATION/ ORDEAL ALL ALONG!!! I FEEL IV LOST MY SOUL...& DONT EVEN KNOW MY FORMER SELF ANY MORE...IM SO BROKEN BY THE TRUE REVELATION OF IT ALL!! ID FOUND OUT THE TRUTH FROM HIS MANY LIES AND WHEN I CONFRONTED HIM HE REFUSED TO ALLOW ME ANY CLOSURE BY ACKNOWLEDGING THE FACTS.. WHEN I HAD THEM ALL IN FRONT OF ME...IN BLACK & WHITE etc.. SO I WAS LEFT TO JUST WALK AWAY FROM HIM.. WITHOUT ANY CLOSURE FROM HIM.. WHICH IS WHAT NARCS DO..AS THEY WILL NEVER ACKNOWLEDGE ANY WRONGS THEY MAY DO TO AVOID RESPONSIBILITY FOR HAVING DONE THEM IN THE 1ST PLACE & AS LEAVERAGE TO HOAVER YOU BACK IN.. WHEN YOUR ON A LOW ..OR SELF DOUBTING! SO THEY CAN STILL ABUSE YOU AS NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY..NOTHING MORE.. THEY HAVE NO REAL LOVE OR AFFECTION FOR YOU..BUT IF UR A GOOD SOURCE OF NARC SUPPLY TO CAUSE INJURY TO, THEY GET OFF ON THE PAIN THEY CAN STILL CAUSE YOU..IF YOU ALLOW THEM.. THEY WILL ABUSE YOU..I KNOW..I FELL IN AND OUT OF THAT WEB/ TRAP FOR YEARS BELIEVING ONE DAY HE WILL LOVE AND SEE MY WORTH..JUST AS HE APPEARED TO AT THE BEGINNING!!! PLEASE PEOPLE!!! DONT BE SCAMMED BY THEIR EMOTIONAL BULL SHIT. THEY CAN BE VERY CHARMING BUT THEIR LACK OF CONSISTANCY IS THEIR BIGGEST GIVE AWAY..AS TOO THEIR DIFFERENT PERSONNAS AROUND DIFFERENT PEOPLE!!!! REMEMBER THEY ARE F A K E.. THEY ARE SOMETHING DIFFERENT TO EVERY PERSON THEY TRY TO ENSNARE!!! BUT ONCE TRUTH HAS BEEN EXPOSED..THERE REALLY IS NO TURNING BACK THE CLOCK..BCOS YOU KNOW THAT YOU KNOW THAT THIS PERSON IS A SERIAL CHEAT LIAR..ABUSER ,BULLY MANIPULATER CONTROLLER.. + IN SHORT A' NARCISSIST' !!!!! WHOSE PLEASURE IS BREAKING DOWN A PERSON WHO IS CAPABLE OF LOVE,CARING AND FORGIVING... THESE ARE THE SORT OF PEOPLE THEY HOME ON IN..ie:- Empaths, vulnerable people..warm hearted & generous people etc etc .......... NARCISSISTS ARE INCAPABLE OF FEELINGS of the HEART ..OR GIVING EMOTIONAL SUPPORT OR REAL EMPATHY TO ANYONE!!!! THEY ARE 'ENERGY VAMPIRES' AND WILL DRAIN YOU DRY OF EVERY GOOD THING WITHIN YOU.. IF YOU BELIEVE IN THEIR LIES.. AS I DID..AND YOU ALLOW THEM TO.. THEY WILL SUCK YOU IN AND TGEN DEVALUE YOU UNTIL YOU BECOME A ZERO FORM OF YOUR FORMER SELF..WHILST THEY MOCK AND SCOFF AT THE SADNESS THEY THEMSELVES CRUELLY CREATED WITHIN YOU...TO PLAY THE ;... " IM HERE YO HELP YOU CARD!!" DONT BELIEVE THESE LIES!!!!.. THIS THEY WILL CONTINUE TO DO; UNTIL UR NOTHING MORE THAN THEIR EMOTIONAL PUNCH BAG. .. WHILST MEANWHILE THEY ARE HOOKING UP WITH OTHERS.. TO REPLACE YOU..+ THEY WILL HAVE MULTIPLE ...THEY WILL BE LOVE BOMBING & DECIEVING.. WHO HAVENT YET SEEN THRU THEIR MASK...TO KNOW WHAT SORT OF PERSON THEY REALLY ARE....BEHIND IT!!!! THEY WILL BE LAUGHING AT UR BROKENESS BCOS OF THEIR VIOLATIONS..& CONSTANT GAS LIGHTING!!! IF YOU ARE WIV A NARC!!! GET OUT AND AWAY FROM THEM AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!! 'THEY DONT WANT 2B HELPED!!' THEY WANT TO USE & ABUSE U! IV WASTED 6 & A HALF YEARS OF MY LIFE ON SOME ONE WHO WASNT THE PERSON THEY PORTAYED THEMSELVES 2B.. & ITS ME WHOSE BARELY TREADING WATER NOW... WHILST THEY ARE THRIVING & FULL OF LIFE FOR HAVING EMPTIED + DESTROYED ME + THE OPTIMISM 4 LIFE.. I ONCE HAD!!!!!! ' NOW GONE! ' PLEASE KNOW... YOU CANT HELP SUCH PEOPLE.. ¥ U MUST CARE, LOVE + PROTECT YOURSELF ...SO AS NOT TO BE TAKEN IN BY THESE TOXIC INDIVIDUALS!! ¥ Forgive Yourself ... THEN.... MOVE ON!!! 🖤 ¥ 'Peace Love & Light' ( 3▪6▪2020 ) ¥ I PRAY TO GOD THAT HE WILL FORGIVE & HELP HEAL THE WOUNDS CAUSED ME BY MY BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS NO CONCIENCE OR REMORSE 4 THE EVIL THEY DO UNTO OTHERS...+ TO BREAK ALL UNGODLY SOUL TIES FROM THIS MAN IN THE NAME OF ' JESUS ' A m e n ¥
@munchkineatsalotvent98994 жыл бұрын
@@TheMandylane1 preach !!!! I'm trying to get away from my mom, Dad n sister.
@userm1802 жыл бұрын
helping people is definitely not bad but we indeed must be careful about how we do that and whether they can accept the help or not. we should know when to give up
@martinburrows68442 жыл бұрын
Bingo!
@kadenwhiteaker Жыл бұрын
"you may be the sweetest peach on the tree, but some people just don't like peaches". Stop trying to be a people pleaser to be likeable, there is always the kind of people this man disclosed...
@donnapreston17462 жыл бұрын
Needed to see this today. If a person in your life isn’t enhancing it get rid totally draining
@divergentthg79255 жыл бұрын
It's a reason why I stay away from most people and have no problem of going somewhere else when things go bad.
@greenfairy5495 жыл бұрын
I should definitely do the same thing
@D-train695 жыл бұрын
I like the company of myself, a lot of people don't even know them selves and that's where it all starts
@richardjeffery5174 жыл бұрын
When I give up on caring . Everything allways worked out perfectly .My luck changed from bad to not so bad .
@dotdashdotdash4 жыл бұрын
Richard Jeffery from terrible to ordinarily unhappy
@FriedCuttlefish Жыл бұрын
I love how I click on this, and, without need of introduction, straight into what the title promised. Now THAT is content.
@memegalodon4522 Жыл бұрын
I used to be a “manipulator” when i was younger, i managed to better myself and get out of that mindset. I still have manipulative tendencies but i’ve grown quite a lot over the years. Just remember that the people described in the video can change and aren’t always just evil.
@richardcarr64934 жыл бұрын
UNFORGIVING , it s hard to forgive someone who repeats the same mistakes also keeps trying to take advantage of your kindness. Keep your distance from users.
@Sherirose14 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. Forgiveness doesn't mean reconciliation.
@rashmikasengupta87304 жыл бұрын
I was constantly told that i was good for nothing after marriage at 19, as I was not a competent housewife. One afternoon, i looked up the daily newspaper after finishing housework, applied for a suitable job, got selected for govt job, got promoted on merit, now retired after a satisfying career. Also, now am a good housewife, by the way! 🙂
@userm1802 жыл бұрын
why would they tell you you werent a good housewife?
@krissifadwa11 ай бұрын
I don't care about people. I just focus on my life.
@hendrasutika Жыл бұрын
6 people with need to ignore and how to ignore them : 1. hopelessness and drama queen people. set boundaries (limit the availability), try to minimize interaction, don’t reward their drama, replenish ourself, distance ourselves (keeping me time away from them) 2. people who always act bad no matter we are trying to be good stop pleasing that person, dealing with our feeling, speak up and don’t do white lies, learn how to say NO 3. Naysayer (demotivated people) Redirects them (politely saying that they don’t have opinions on us), answer their objections with facts, stop hanging out with them. 4. The manipulator we have to have a thinking that we are not the problem, keep distance from them 5. The stubborn who insist us to be someone else ignore their opinion 6. The unforgiving friends (those who refuse to forgive us) forgive ourself, try self love, learn from our mistakes and improve ourself (Ignoring negative people doesn’t mean that we hate them, we just care about our well being because when we get rid them off, we give more positivity space to ourself)
@amergingiles Жыл бұрын
Okay but Violence
@alibertylover5 жыл бұрын
Most people are walking excrement with an ego attached ; the less I interact with people, the better off I am
@Rosemarysummers24 жыл бұрын
I disagree, the nicest people are those who don't intimidate, friendly without expecting rewards.
@mathematicalninja27564 жыл бұрын
this struck hard
@zahariaandrei57564 жыл бұрын
Hahah Good one!🤣
@SuperKiddles4 жыл бұрын
i have my standard gaping red assholes with legs to describe people but i like walking excrement as well thanks
@beans90194 жыл бұрын
saganist why are you so against the other gender? Not everyone has some hidden agenda. Maybe women see how you approach life and run the other way. We’re not terrible and you’d be mad if I was spouting feminism bs about how men suck. Lets not. I see so many men hating in the comments and I cannot literally control the fact I’m a woman but I strive to be a good person.
@firerabbit8114 жыл бұрын
"you don't have control over what other people think about you, but you do have control over how you decide to internalize their opinions"
@eomaker9819 Жыл бұрын
“Forgive yourself” its so important
@pratishthabajracharya7 Жыл бұрын
I'm 16 and I haven't found any of these types of people thankfully. I feel like this video will help me in my upcoming life
@vidalongaesorte5 жыл бұрын
People should stop putting their nose in other people's lifes, because . . . it's none of their business.
@vidalongaesorte5 жыл бұрын
@Scott Swift Creepy
@reikaratnam5 жыл бұрын
Try telling that to the 99.9% of people with nothing better to do in their lives. Effing nosey
@dragonking37814 жыл бұрын
@@reikaratnam LOL! ikr... 😄
@yourdaddyonceler12394 жыл бұрын
I am an introvert, and trust me. I don't open up, what's mine is mine. It is a big "fuck you" to those who want to gossip. And even if, they still gossip of me. It is whatever to me. In order for me to take it seriously. I'll have to care first. Apparently, their efforts are lower than their personalities. I for one laugh at them. I could care less, if they want to know me or not. I'm not a People Person. I don't work Retail, Food Service, nor own a Business for that matter. I work around morons, yes. And can talk if needed if job related. But no personal shit.
@mochimochigod67424 жыл бұрын
Your Daddy Onceler My new goal in life is to become strong like you. :)
@ladysnake84494 жыл бұрын
Misery loves company, learn how to enjoy being alone.
@kimzastrow12684 жыл бұрын
We getting rid of union and other things like that so we can be assholes alone wow....that would be a first
@STMARTIN0094 жыл бұрын
@jel moram da imam ime a? we all do.
@michaelgray18034 жыл бұрын
@@STMARTIN009 we all say we do
@thefrustrateddoc4 жыл бұрын
That's not what that means though.
@jimmyj40444 жыл бұрын
you will be alone forever
@1ce_G003 Жыл бұрын
1:30 I don't have a desire to be a good person
@thunderbolt_gaming Жыл бұрын
Doom main theme start playing
@1ce_G003 Жыл бұрын
@@thunderbolt_gaming lol
@heavenlydusk2 жыл бұрын
My friend must have been watching the same video, crazy how she mastered it on me in just a few months!
@michaeldeth14855 жыл бұрын
When you view this as a game, it becomes fun to interact with them because you already know their playbook of negativity because after all, negative individuals are extremely predictable and one dimensional.
@lthompson67504 жыл бұрын
Very good. Learning 'People Games" helps deflect an attack so it doesn't touch you, because you Know what they are trying to do...get an emotional reaction out of you, belittle you, make you doubt your self worth, build up their inferiority problem, etc. When you realize what it is, it won't touch you. When you realize you don't need their 'approval' is when you can say "so, ok then" and walk away or just look at them and watch them back down. Once they pushed me to the point of 'l really don't care'... they have nothing to hold over me and their games didn't work anymore.
@cautarepvp20794 жыл бұрын
@@lthompson6750 well you can do that, but you can also turn the tides, turn their way of pissing people against them
@SinginBlackbird5 жыл бұрын
I personally really needed this vid. I’m both an empath and a HSP (highly sensitive person) so I often feel guilty even when I know I’m being taken advantage of/ or shame at being “selfish” when I want to be alone to figure myself out I’m always wishing the best for those who have the same trouble ignoring these sorts of ppl in our lives. We CAN focus on the positive and squeeze it on life❣️
@avarcake80935 жыл бұрын
I know everybody has their own struggles, but I think I have the same "Empath" thing. I can highly relate when people say they feel guilty when they can't help or even when they know somebody is being mean/taking advantage of them when they want to help. I hope you feel better about this stuff along with the others struggling with us ❤️
@SpicySpinach5 жыл бұрын
I have the same 'problem' I even feel bad for the people that did me wrong. I just can't help it even if it annoys me.
@NINATV_5 жыл бұрын
SinginBlackbird same here. I’m extremely sensitive so when somebody says something about me or my body online, I somehow take offence to it even though I know that they are the ones in the wrong. Even in real life I always feel bad
@ElizabethGonzalez-wc5if2 жыл бұрын
Don't care about the petty stuff and bring yourself to find and know love, self-care and happiness within no matter what is happening around you. Stay healthy and strong no matter the adversity being faced.
@TvHead10502 жыл бұрын
7:35 Step 4: ELIMINATE THEM
@indym3755 жыл бұрын
Jealousy is such a sad thing 😄
@halcioncocaine20965 жыл бұрын
Don't knock it,until you've tried it🌝
@stephaniesomer59345 жыл бұрын
Jealous people are miserable-Misery loves company. They’ll try to drag you down and make you feel bad about your self. My narcissistic ex friend unmasked herself by acting like a mean girl. Purposely not inviting me to party-I had talked to her the day of, and she never told me she was throwing a Halloween party. I found out and confronted her. I stared by telling her it hurt me. Then we got into it-she finally said something that woke me up-she said “you’re not that great” I realized she didn’t invite me because she wanted to be the center of male attention. I replied to her “ I never said I was.” Followed by-“You’re no friend. Stay away from me.”
@jasonfrederick12585 жыл бұрын
But people showoff and push their successes in every one's face. Then they openly complain that people are jealous of them.
@sayerslayer18545 жыл бұрын
@@stephaniesomer5934 Stephanie, give us some more juicy details; was there make-up sex the same night, did she beg and plead for you to come back, what happened. we need to know, and pronto
@noenaburnell32455 жыл бұрын
It's an awful thing...and we ALL have it! Don't pretend you don't have it. It's a perfectly normal human emotion. Like any other emotion it goes wrong if you have it in abnormal excess!
@barbthornell47863 жыл бұрын
When I finally cut off all involvement/contact (after too many years) with the most toxic drama king I've ever known, the quality of my life shot upwards like a NASA rocket - without me doing anything else. Its like waking up from a 20 year coma and discovering you're still alive. No question in my mind - just get rid of them. You will never regret it. (Still smiling and loving life 6 years later!)
@sophiechatterton43862 жыл бұрын
Sounds like someone had their heart broken 🤣🤣
@dreamer93752 жыл бұрын
@@sophiechatterton4386 How do you gather that from this post? It sounds more than a heartbreak to me.
@userm1802 жыл бұрын
@SCYTHE what?
@userm1802 жыл бұрын
im happy for you!!
@amiedelacruz9593 Жыл бұрын
@@scythe1898 ?
@amyj.49922 жыл бұрын
#1. Is how i Iosing a former close friend, during my birthday celebration. My goals to please people was to make them feel happy, and to help them feel cared about and less alone in their surroundings. And visibly appreciated. And I would speak about my needs and wants often. And I absolutely have no issues saying no when I needed to, and some would be accepting, and some who would explode on me or ice me out. And I would remove myself from the pressure and negativity with those signals instead of forcing my care on people.
@acceberyt48882 жыл бұрын
I had my fair share of dealing with a "hopelessly hostile drama queen" and once I knew that he was the problem with everything in my life like holding me back and his negativity spreading to others like myself. I got rid of him and FOR GOOD, that was like since Jan or Feb of this year and I have been more than my true self and happier than ever since then. I found the problem and took care of it the way I would, but ever since I got rid of him he has been saying stuff like "I want to them down a flat of stairs" and even told someone to slap me in the face but that person knew better as to NOT do that. This battle I have fought hard going against him and he's trying to "apologize" but I call bull crap on that, people like that just leave them in the dust.
@Axiomatic754 жыл бұрын
I just walk away from anyone who I feel isn't good for me. I'm not wasting time with these people.
@askcsuki22394 жыл бұрын
You got any good people left? I hope so, would like to hear you are enjoying the relationships with beautiful individuals better now you have more time... Take care my friend...
@Axiomatic754 жыл бұрын
@@askcsuki2239 My circle of friends is smaller now obviously but yes of course there are some left.
@nadineanne81064 жыл бұрын
For me, I can't really walk away cause I see their faces everyday
@Axiomatic754 жыл бұрын
@@nadineanne8106 There can be people you can't walk away from like work colleagues but with many people it's a choice whether or not you want to interact with them.
@CrimeVaultUK4 жыл бұрын
Same
@katarinatibai83965 жыл бұрын
Drama queen = energy vampir
@TheSkyhawk405 жыл бұрын
Katarina Tibai , now who sounds like a Drama Queen? hmmmmm.... how about an imagination and pretend it's just entertainment like when you binge on 24 hours of soaps :-)
@MediaEnslavedNation5 жыл бұрын
Energy vampire has a clinical name, it's Narcissistic Personality Disorder. There are a ton of useful videos on the subject.
@deborahbeattie91035 жыл бұрын
@@TheSkyhawk40 binging on TV soaps = drama queen ....of a different kind lol
@TheSkyhawk405 жыл бұрын
Solidsilenceful Imao.Bizarre toxix projection. You should leave.
@OrehBelich925 жыл бұрын
@@MediaEnslavedNation is it possible for a person with this disorder to change? Because the author in the video makes it look like they are hopeless
@fuum2258 Жыл бұрын
What people seem to not remember is that everyone around you are as human as you. They breathe they think, they smile they cry. They have their own experiences, feelings, and thoughts. This is what people should realize. We keep treating the person infront of us like NPCs undermining the fact that they have their own lifes.
@sierushest19918 ай бұрын
Thank you for this healing message. I was recently embarrassed and hurt by people I thought were my friends.
@johnparadise31344 жыл бұрын
6:04 Mahatma Gandhi on naysayers: “First they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you. And then you win.”
@melanie.l62824 жыл бұрын
i admire Mahatma Gandhi!! great man!!
@enriquesantos83984 жыл бұрын
I don’t wanna fight nobody tho, cause if I win then they’re gonna want to kill me
@melanie.l62824 жыл бұрын
@@enriquesantos8398 agree Enrique same here they have already try twice
@ohyouarenana91754 жыл бұрын
my ex 'bestfriends' they ignored me because they didn't want to be my friend anymore, they laughed and talked about me, I wanted to beat them up. I haven't fought with them yet tho
@zzzzeed33494 жыл бұрын
Goes for many things in life
@nickledimez40125 жыл бұрын
I use “ block caller” function on my phone. It helps a bit..
@annharrison39055 жыл бұрын
So do I, and Facebook, and messenger.........! No-one ever calls me!!!! Lol.
@anu79825 жыл бұрын
I lost my job 2 months before ,where I was drained in every way by a bunch of vampires at office ,I could not handle the drama and politics and also I am not a people pleaser ,but I had lot of frnds there and good memories too with them ,finally I gave up and thought need some time to find my way back ,do you think it's normal if I cut ties with frnds ,fb ,watsapp and just living with meditation and my plants because I am happy now with silence and solitude and with all what I have now 😊😊..now I use only KZfaq for some gardening tutorials .. is it perfectly normal ?
@chris18065 жыл бұрын
@@anu7982 where did you work
@smc19425 жыл бұрын
I just got a new phone, & phone number after I went NO CONTACT 3+ years ago.
@flickeringlight43074 жыл бұрын
I am utilizing that method now.
@AmberyTear2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad to report that I realized these things A LOOOOOOOONG time ago already and did all these things since then. It really does work wonders for your life.
@kellyrollins8308 Жыл бұрын
This video showed me I’m the person you should ignore and have nothing to do with.
@melonmalone63075 жыл бұрын
i disappeared on my family for almost 10 years when i was 18 years old because they were toxic i saved up money for 3 months and hitched a ride to the greyhound 50 miles away from my small hometown and got a ticket to Venice Beach
@mshill24065 жыл бұрын
Sometimes you have to do it!
@somchai90335 жыл бұрын
Melón malone now you’re homeless like everyone else there 😀
@melonmalone63075 жыл бұрын
nah i ended up working as a pipe fitter in texas
@melonmalone63075 жыл бұрын
and i never had to touch drugs
@donnajoseph-barford10765 жыл бұрын
I left at 18 for 6 months with no contact for the same reason. When I returned I refuse to let them treat me like shit or I leave. Made my life happy. I see them for short visits only. No Holidays.
@proto11324 жыл бұрын
I recently offloaded a toxic person, who I thought was my friend.
@spiritmatter15534 жыл бұрын
Congratulations!
@metalMARCUS14 жыл бұрын
Same here and I’m glad I did it!!
@kirschrot774 жыл бұрын
I did too and I am so much happier
@Jackgritty284 жыл бұрын
Toxic could mean different things to different people,fool🏳️🌈💲
@askcsuki22394 жыл бұрын
Felt like katabasis? I hope you're doing well my friend...