family & close friends are usually the biggest haters.

A JEALOUS FRIEND IS A DANGEROUS ENEMY

I was abused by my family for most of my life. My father consistently put me down so that I would not succeed. There was no love and light, no connection, just abuse. When I left them, I found myself not knowing how to connect with others, but I wanted to learn. I was healing from abuse. I am now slowly starting to rebuild my life and noticing that these are people out there that feed off other people's insecurity or goodness to try and keep them from being happy, being connected to others, from shining. There is hatred in their eyes and it is scary how many people have destroyed my from achieving my goals out of bullying and hatred. I am trying to learn skills on how to deal with these evil people. Better late than never.

timestamps 1. you're disliked for no real reason (4:03) 2. they undermine you in any given opportunity (4:42) 3. they covet what you've got (5:36) 4. their vindictiveness & toxicity is suffocating (6:40) 5. they often fit the description of narcissism (7:13) 6. they are often forceful and impulsive (7:56) 7. they are destructive & sneaky (8:20) 8. they are unauthentic (8:34) as an empathetic person, i know it's fairly easy to understand a person's history or sob story as to why they are this way BUT sometimes a person is just plain evil. pls stay away from them socially & physically as much as you can

And when that jealous person is your own mother… 😔

I had a friend that was jealous and toxic. Every time I shared something with her she would immediately run out and try to get something bigger and better. It was awful. Now I think she stalks me on Linked. I just ignore her and keep going.

From my own female family members I suffered undue character assassination, also vicious intent to destroy my personality while they emulated my personality they were destroying in me . Their alienating me.bers of my social circle while they themselves entered my social circle, their emulating my hair style and clothing style and cosmetic application. My preferences in music and art. This is only the tip of the iceberg.

I'll tell you one thing. I'm not jealous or envious of you. You are beautiful. Wow!

The face says it all when it comes to jealousy. Also compliments, I hate compliments even from my family. What makes jealousy so sinister is that they will be so sweet toward you with the fake smile and the kissy kissy thing and at the same time they will be grasping hold of a butches knife ready to plunge it in at the appropriate moment. My husband and I would have a flexible Monday off work and we would watch the B grade midday movies that were on TV. My husband who passed away about nine years ago loved Psychology and I love it too. Anyway we were watching this movie and most of these movies were of male and female stalkers who were full of jealousy or girlfriend or boyfriends who couldn’t move on after the breakup, or divorcées who were jealous of the new wife or husband or jealous friends , coworkers or strangers. My husband would say to me you know what the acting in these movies is bad however there is truth in these stories, people do these hideous things to one another, it is true. In my opinion and by what I have personally experienced growing up with five jealous sisters and two Narcissistic jealous parents that jealousy would have to be the most prominent trait in all of us. I don’t think people realise just how powerful this emotion is and there is nothing good about it, all murders are based on some kind of insecure jealousy. I don’t read my comments when people reply to mine even when my comments are lovely because of jealous people, jealousy is insecurity and if jealousy is not controlled it can have detrimental effects both mentally, emotionally on the victim and can lead to physical harm and murder. If you see the look of jealousy in peoples faces get the hell away from that person and cut all connections with them. Displays of jealousy are dangerous, that means that person has the potential to do anything to you , your family or property. I had to cut my entire family out because of out of control jealousy on their side, the type that will say I love you while plotting your murder. I had a lot of people that were jealous of me when I was a practicing Catholic at a particular parish church, one woman in the church office who is a deranged bunny boiler. Jealousy is the most ugliest look and the most sinister trait.

I had a friend who was jealous of me but at least he admitted it to me and he did get over it. It is the ones who would never admit it that you have to watch out for.

I've had a problem with rental condos and ending up living in the same building as women who were extremely jealous and I moved twice in order not to be subjected to outrageous behavior from these toxic individuals. Its insane. If your pretty, successful, and friendly, watch out. I still have a hard time wrapping my head around the insanity these women were living in.

I had a family member that I had to CUT OFF COMPLETELY. Everything you said in this video describes HER to a "t". You never disappoint, thank you!

Another aspect of this dynamic: you’ll feel confused all the time. My friend coveted my life from day one, but I didn’t notice until she started imitating every big life decision I made, my university major, my hobbies, everything that made me ME. That changed a bit when I called her out and told her how uncomfortable it made me to share a goal and then have her come back and make it about how she was pursuing the same thing all of a sudden. When we’d interact it would be constantly hot and cold and riddled with passive aggressive, defensive reactions. I felt insanely confused and anxious during conversations because anything I said seemed to trigger a reactive response. She would make everything into a performance and a way to prove how great she was to me. I’m ashamed to admit I fell into it as well and let my own competitive side come out…but I firmly believe she initiated that dynamic first because I have seen her do it with other friends. It included contradicting and trying to argue with me about the smallest things. I felt this tense energy from her even during the most innocent topics of conversation. She was always working an angle to be smarter, wiser and more mature than me. To top it all off, she acted as though she was such a compassionate and selfless person, but let me tell you I have rarely met such a self involved, tactless person. For a period of time a few years back, I don’t think she asked me a SINGLE question, I’d just sit there while she went on about herself and interrupted me when I’d try to get a word in. She behaved in ways that completely went against the claim that she was a compassionate person. It was exhausting to feel so confused about what her actual feelings were.

Tamara, you're right on point. The evil toxic behavior is the one that scares me the most. When the jealous narcissist person used their flying monkeys to get to you. I have lost my job, apt because of someone's jealousy. I call it jealousy because I don't know nor do they know me. QUOTE: IF YOU DONT LIKE ME AND WATCH EVERYTHING I DO. AAhh , YOU ARE A FAN ....

I experienced this with other employees at my jobs but what really annoys me is the fact that I'm not competing with them neither am I showing any real passion or interest in the job so I don't really understand where their jealousy is coming from or why.

Whether it's family or so-called friends. PUT Space between you and them!! This is an excellent presentation.

THIS IS 1000000% my ex girlfriend. She copies my physical appearance, my college choices my careers choices my hobbies. After we broke up she went to all my ex friends or ex partners and smear campaigned me. She then called the college of social workers and my work place snd trying to get me fired/ in trouble. Watching this made me feel SOOO GOOD & VALIDATED. THANK YOU💗

I have a cousin who nearly ruined my entire life because of her jealousy, she made up so many non-factual, false stories about me and told them to her parents who were sponsoring me for college. I was very naive and bought into her fake persona. It was the worst thing that happened to me but I have distanced myself from them physically and mentally!

I actually had attempts on my life due to insane jealousy

Támara, thank you again. I have Cluster B family members, and they seem to hate happiness, period.

My own Narc Covert aunt tried to sabotage my career goals, copied my personal appearance, and spread lies about me to my family. To everyone in my family, she is perceived as a "saint". I have also witnessed her pathological lies, controlling our conversations n minimising my problems. She played the vulnerable victim n me as her aggressor.

Thank you for helping me to understand why I'm being treated this way.

Amazing I’ve just stumbled across this video - explained what I’ve been going through my whole life - family members/partners/work colleagues. Something is seriously wrong with me that I attract such people? I need to figure out what is wrong with me. Great video, I also feel a sense of relief. 🙏🏻

My sister in law is so hard to trust. She cut me out for 4 years for dating her brother. She was my best friend and I asked if it was okay. She seemed thrilled. Then she cut me off. I didn't understand why. I wasn't allowed to see my now husband's family for 4 years for holidays or anything at all because of her jealousy. She told people I wasn't good enough and that we were sinning for living together. She told me later that she was jealous but she still displays these signs now. It was a huge betrayal. I still see her because my husband wants to see her and it hurts. It still hurts so badly.

Thanks again for making this video. I would like to add on that unless you too have been jealous at some point in your life, you won't know the signs or what to look for. I've dealt with my own jealousy at different times when I was younger and it has helped me identify when someone is being jealous. This is specifically manifested with JEALOUS SIBLINGS.

You're the first person who talks about this topic. This is the true virus of our era. Turns people into really shitty human beings.

Someone once said to Me, "You know you are almost pretty. It's a pity you are not pretty because you have nothing else going for you"

Sounds like a few people that I know. Unhappy people. So sad. Poor things!

That’s my next door neighbor toxic against me because of my car

I dont let neighbours into my home..i always think its dangerous for neighbours to know how your home is truly set up...we talk across garden fence

I am a devout Christian ✝. Jesus ✝ Is Real & so is the devil. This type of behavior is working for the adversary. &, I want u 2 know how much I personally appreciate ur inclusion of the word "evil" in this informative video. I will b praying that God ✝ Bless you & help u in helping others.

💯 Accurate, I see a lot of this at work...

This was a wonderful video. You hit the nail on the head. Must mental health professionals can not address jealously this clearly an adequate. Thank you for going below the surface with this topic.

Ok. I agree. With what you say about neighbors. However nothing was said about family members. Unfortunately many people including me were such victims of jealousy siblings and a parent.

Thankyou for this video im going through these things you are talking about and also they try to get other family and people that know you to hate you and follow them and form somewhat of a cult ,so people watch out and be careful .

" AND THY COUNSELLORS AS AT THE BEGINNING " ( ISAIAH 1:26 ) THANKS!

I know so many people like this....

Well done. Thank you!

This is the best video ever !! Thank you

Incredible and spot on. Thank you.

Great video! These type of ppl are everywhere. New subscriber :)

love it.ill keep watching and getting my therapy fix ,thx.

Wow, this is spot on... I wished I knew this a couple years ago... I was hexed because of this... Someone actually was trying to kill me due to jealousy and wanting my life... Stupid people...

Brilliant input. Thank you.

Wow! Your amazing. Thank you so much for sharing this information. 😊

Thanks for the helpful content!

These people are so dangerous 😫 sick part when it is your mother and sister. They almost made me lose it all had me locked up but God flashed that light on them had to cut the. Offf and fix my life awful people better be careful 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Amazing ❤❤❤❤❤💯 great presentation. Thanks for sharing ❤

Sounds like spiritual warfare.

💯 Thank you for this!

Thank you for the information , See you on Friday,For your next video God bless.😐

Wow great video's Thanks for inspiring the world

Great Content!

Great channel I am so glad I found it. Thank you. I'm 59 yrs. old and 18 months ago I realized my dysfunctional family was actually extremely toxic and narcissistic. It's still unraveling and the damage to me devastating. In this video I see both my parents as well as my sister... informative. Yet I am profoundly sadden😞. Thank you for your help as I feel as my therapists I have had several don't know anything about this type of trauma and continuely gaslight, trigger me and minimalize my experience and on going trauma. My father passed away in March and my brother and I were excluded from the service and all my therapists can say is you need to be on meds??? No other acknowledgment??? Thank you for your validation.

This was very helpful I recently had to let go a friend and he's everything u describe in this video and thank u

Everything you said describes this “friend” I have. Is it normal to be in somewhat denial even though the description perfectly matches their actions/behaviors? This person is literally the only person that I call “friend” that is mentally exhausting for me to be around because of the traits mentioned by you.

So true my sister

Thank yooouuuu💗💗💗💗💗

Thank you

I have an alternative way of dealing with them, turn up the heat! Thats right their weakness is jealousy so make them jealous. Don`t avoid them, interact with them. With all the conversations you have with them make sure there is a hidden catch - that being I am better than you. They will react badly to it, you need to reframe its effects on you, work yourself into a place in your mind where you can feed off it to feel great. What will happen after a few weeks is they will disappear fast. Thats right, they will cut you off!

I agree with this fully

Hi Tamara, Enza from Italy here! :) When you say that someone is holding back and give you just crumbs or someone seems checkered and give you... crumbs (crumbs again ;), why would they do that?? I can't see the connection between them being jealous of you and the holding back/crumbs thing? Both my brother and 2 friends of mine are like that and I I find it really frustrating even though I'm learning not to be hurt by it anymore. Can you explain? Thank you! Ciao xx

Wow i know quite a few people like this thanks for the headsup!!!

Boom you said it … outward display of hatred

Oddly enough, I'm a Clinical Psychology graduate student and much of this recently happened at my former practicum site. I was terminated.

Glasgow ,Scotland and I can confirm to the planet, jealousy is alive and rife in this parochial wee/ little country.

She was giving mean girl energy from the beginning ( I was very excited when I saw her and waved my hands excitedly but she just ignored me and I felt awkward ) but I gave the benefit of the doubt. Every encounter with her was awkward. I feel like she's just purchasing from me to make me feel like I "work for her" not because she likes my products. There were times when I felt like she was sabotaging my small biz. Picked up my fragile product while on a cramped up vehicle and guess what, it got ruined. Now she's suddenly liking things that I like while passive aggressively nitpicking my clothing choices and how I take my photos. They will try so hard to make themselves look superior but they aren't. I wish they would just focus on their own strengths and not covet what others have. Their lives would get better drastically.

My daughter was getting hit by roommate she was jealous of me so she tried to hurt my child who is autistic when I'm sleep or when I'm downstairs. I trusted this person. I wanted to fight her so bad but I gave the situation to God. But y'all gotta be careful it's some really sick people out here and if they can't hurt you they will try to hurt your kids.

what if its a mom doing these things to her own daughter, how does she deal with that ??

The coveting is a big one it's like a one-sided competition that you did not sign up for or even care about. It's like they're competing for the Olympic gold medal in their mind when it comes to their target. I noticed this with female relatives alot. I had a a sister who would literally mirror me and I mean down to the jobs I had or school programs she would do it right after me which was fine if I inspired her to do it. But the problem was she would make little comments like if she lasted at the job longer than I did she would make that a point. I wouldn't even care because obviously it's not meant for me to be there and on top of that I can qualify for much better jobs I'm always moving forward and upward. Because in her mind if if she lasts at a job that I used to be at longer than that would make her better or winning or something like that. The mirroring goes even more deeper such as style choices, of vernacular, talking points being hijacked or in front of people but she would disagree with my talking points in private. They act like defiant teenagers when it comes to people that they are jealous of. Same thing with other s****** relatives they will always try to project the mirroring on to me as if I'm doing it and they know damn well it's not true. They would not give me any credit for inspiring them or would not admit to mirroring me. If you give them any advice just like I did to this female relative they will undermine you like you said in the video really because they don't like you/respect you. They may even know deep down inside your vices right but they're jealousy and envy won't allow them to properly digest what you're saying. If you ever help a jealous person in a gym they're not going to give you any credit they're going to give credit to themselves or anybody else they will even make up lies in the story just so they can take you out of the equation like you didn't do anything. They will make snorky comments which will make you believe that they really do be clocking you and studying you mentioning things that you didn't even notice or care about. If you have the most social media they will mock yet mirror the way that you post (vernacular, jokes, memes pics, any interests, hobbies, you share) even down to the pictures that you take, to make themselves look interesting even tho they dragged you for it prior. If your spiritual then they want to be spiritual but they won't do the work they'll just cut corners so they can look like they're doing something on the outside but everything that they do has something to do with competing with you. I like to think that it would spark you to go on your own journey where it's no longer about me and it's about your own Ascension, but for the most part they are always in a one-sided mental competition with you. I hardly go on with any of the women in my family and looking back ever since I was a kid it's always been because of jealousy and envy. And everything to these people, never rubbed anything into their faces even try helping them in hopes of them finding love within themselves thus reducing the jealousy but it still didn't work. They will resent you for it either way. It's best to just keep your distance from now. Because I don't notice the mirroring me but it doesn't really bother me that much to point it out as long as you disrespectful towards me... but because they know they are not The originators they will always try to shade the OG. If you try to show them new things and new ways of living they will reject it but will turn around and do those things and say that they inspired you or if they hang around another group of people who do the same thing that you try to get them to do, they will act like they put them on game if that makes sense. They just never want to give you any credit or recognition even though they are totally inspired by every aspect of you it's very sick. I have female relatives even copy my hair color and don't get me wrong there's nothing wrong with being inspired by someone's style and doing something similar. But this person always makes it a point to say that somebody is jealous of her or mimicking her but I never say anything when she does it to me but I'm just sit there and look at her like she crazy. Now of course if you hang out with someone you might pick up on little things about each other and start doing the same thing but when you try to make it a thing like I'm the one that puts you up on game that's when I have a problem. They will even try to come at your romantic interests too secretly because they also covet the men that you may attract. They may not even be interested in the guy at all but just the fact that you have him or the fact that you are into someone they will force themselves to feel the same way. Or they will try to discourage you from being with that person by making bad character analysis towards them so that they can have a chance with them behind the scenes. I also noticed most of all of that when someone is jealous of you, they will constantly try to provoke you because they are energy vampires and they need to get that energetic feed. When you call them out for their snarky comments, they're always saying that they're playing or just joking believe you me they are not. Cuz remember everything in their mind is it meant a competition between you and them so when you make moves and level up in life, they think you're trying to quote on quote upstage them when you're really just focusing on making your life better. They're in a constant competition so they take your growth as a personal attack.

This is interesting, but question what If the narcissist is bold enough to talk down to in text but if they do it in person, they don’t hold eye contact and look down. Would that be some sort of inferiority complex or?

I have a cousin like this. More successful than me and older than me. But, in my family I am their scapegoat. I’m the weird one. I am introverted when it comes to phone calls and so I text but I rarely ever call people just to talk. I never saw my cousin calling me, and when she did I was either busy or sleeping. She convinced herself and the whole family that I disliked her and I never wanted to talk. She’s jealous of my body on account I have a more curvy figure and she points out my body every time we interact. My cousin is a shorter, more petite woman (which is nothing wrong she should love her body!). She tries every step of the way to convince everyone that I am a “mean girl”, “bully”, “bitch”, etc. She calls me a bitch and tries taunting me. I don’t feed into her narratives and just ignore her. She has been doing this while I was an preteen/teenager and she was an adult around 12 years older than me. Update: I just had remembered the same cousin had told me I shouldn’t be a godmother because she felt I wouldn’t be able to provide for my godson. She also insinuated that she would be a better fit than me even though my godson barely knows her or bonds with her as I do

Too accurate

I HAVE FEMALE NEIGHBORS THAT ARE DOING ALL KINDS OF EVIL STUFF TO ME, TO THE POINT THAT I'M READY TO GET A RESTRAINING ORDER.😒😏😑😐🤨🙄

Good fruit 🍉 and bad fruit 🐍

Can you do a video on narcissism. My family almost killed me with jealous. I told them they're jealous. But they all reply "what's there to b jealous of?" I am more attractive. Great body, have an architectural degree, i was a good student. I am very calculative, smart, n everything they're not. The one n only thing i fail at is social life. So they label me a "loser" "retarded" bla bla. My mother was going to friends, family n neighbors saying "she is crazy. She studied too hard, now she's retarded" so everyone thinks i am crazy. While um living alone in apartment, working eating. I don't know how crazy retarded person is able to do that tho 🤣😂. My mother is EVIL to me. Plz tell me why that is? Jealousy might b the root of it. But she destroyed my life, n i don't know why someone would ruin their own daughter's life 🤔 honestly. It's not logical.

OMGGGG THAT'S MY NEIGHBOR GETTING A RESTRAINING ODER😮

T.H. ❤

I would never give away my crown and I didn't know everything I now know. Much was revealed about Yolandae within the last 48 hours. When she was presented via KZfaq, I was initially excited because I thought she cared and was a genuine friend and thought she naturally inherited the royal title of Queen such as myself (as it relates to US line of success). I didn't know she was involved with the setup. I received back handed comments from her and her sister, but I decided not to pursue argument because it will get out of hand fast (my aunt watching). There is nothing she can say to mend the friendship, but as with anyone I don't hate her and I moved on. She only want a title from me. Request to submit this statement to the US Supreme Court.

Of all the totally ridiculous things to get jealous of was my cat flap by my upstairs neighbour. Like wtf, my cat flap was what I bought and PAID FOR OUT OF MY OWN MONEY. Totally pathetic, I laugh about it now, but was one of many bigger issues with my bullying neighbour. It's a real shame I use to invite neighbours in my home for tea and chat. Sadly I have had to stop, I'm polite and say hello but no longer do I get myself involved it saves all the stress and heartache from people who just want to take all the time. Regarding with people with eupd and special needs THEY are more likely to be abused to be and taken advantage of by other people. I know my care co ordinator had to put a protection order on me as part of my recovery and because I am a vulnerable adult in law! It was part of the care plan and safeguarding and not up for debate or justification as to "why" from non qualified or untrained people.

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THOSE FEMALE NEIGHBORS ARE LIVING NEXT DOOR TO ME! 😐🤨😒

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Hmmm amen

Sounds like my mom frrr

Micro-Aggression & Hostility.

The made me think of my ex’s crazy ex freaking nanny. What psycho she was. Every time we posted pics of us out and about. She would contact my then boyfriend and fill his head with all of this crazy stuff regarding his children and ex wife. He stupidly believed every word that came out of her mouth. Thinking his kids were in harms way or being neglected in some fashion. The last day of my very first vacation ever which he took me on for my birthday. She messaged him to tell him of a phots his ex posted in social media claiming she looked like she was on drugs. The day after we got back from a romantic weekend in Atlantic City she sent him a photo of his ex wife in a bikini with the caption I’m embarrassed for you and your children 😑. Let me back track the week before she brought up in random conversation about nude photos she stumbled on the kids tablet of his ex wife. Then proceeded I follow that up to with bikini photos. I caught on to her pattern and was acted to post pics of us. He was so fooled by this girl and felt so indebted to her for all of her help during his divorce. He could not see what a manipulator she is. When I first met her day before Christmas Eve I gave her gifts of handmade soaps. I make it from scratch it’s a hobby I really enjoy. It’s time consuming and I made a set for her, her fiancé and mother. She did not look me in the eye when I handed it to her. Nor did she thank me! I had only 2 hours to spend there. I’m a single mother and needed to prepare as well for my child. She held me up and made me 2 hours late! No matter how many times I said I needed to leave. She decided plugging in the easy bake oven and making cakes was more important hen my time. Crazy crazy girl and the reason we are not together. He is literally the weakest minded man I have ever met.

Neighbors r the worse haters.

SORRY ORDER😁

Sounds like ur describing A evil person That should be locked up Scary

I got that feeling from a narcissist girlfriend

Attorney actor or musician 🤔 that is not delusional....it's not.

It's pure demonic possession. They can't help themselves. They need Jesus so they could scream and cry it all out of their system.

I have a much older cousin who exhibited most of these behaviors especially at family get “togethers” and unfortunately for me and a few other family members, none of the elders ever “checked” her on her lousy behaviors. They coddled her and protected her. One day, I simply had enough and began speaking harshly AT her on issues that she would inappropriately began espousing before her captive audience whom most of which are seemingly cut from the same dung soiled cloth. I think that I was the only one who I know of who has ever stood up to her. My own mother coddled and made excuses for this old woman’s Ratchetness telling me how hard she had it and has been through a lot. That was very disappointing because my mother as well and other elders in the family put their children last at times that were totally unnecessary causing some emotional strife. Whenever this old broad would see that one of us received something nice regardless of what it was, she would go on the war path of obtaining something greater and better USING our mothers to always try and show us up. Then have an attitude towards us and start spewing more trash from her loud mouth to try and embarrass her intended targets of contempt and bitter hatred for. She’s managed to keep her litter of children, grand children and great grand children within the same murky swamp that she lives as “Queen 🐝 “ Much of her offspring exhibits the same fecal matter personality traits. Needless to say, I stopped all contact with these people and wished that while my mother was still living and able to get around, I would’ve stopped any and all interactions with them 30+ years ago!

Sounds like ur describing Whites towards blacks