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50 yr old woman here who has been in many relationships. My advice: Don't act, don't play difficult to get, don't make him jealous because whatever mask you decide to hide behind will eventually fall of, yes: you will get busted sooner or later. Be authentic, be yourself. Have a good life that doesn't spin around men, have hobbies, passions and goals. Pursue them. Be happy single, but if the right person comes along and makes your life more amazing grab him. If he ghosts you or play games he was never the right person to begin with, better you figure that out sooner rather than after 2 kids and a mortgage. Have boundaries. Finding a good man who you're compatible with is not that easy and you will kiss a few frogs in the way. Don;t be scared. Life is short.

Just IGNORE them. Go about your life. That works.

I wasn’t looking for another full time job

Women need to focus on themselves and not revolve their lives around pleasing men.

"Keep your social circle strong so you don't even have time to miss him." My social anxiety: "say what now?"

Good God, Imma stay single...

I did this and he started thinking I wasn’t interested so he left me 😂

It sounds like having a second job 🤣😩

If you want a long lasting relationship stop acting like an immature adult playing games. Be wise and treat others the way you want to be treated....just saying.

Men love the chase. Some women feel bad about doing these things, but the truth is, you’re doing them a favor. Men don’t enjoy relationships with doormat women. Always have strong boundaries.

Isn't that interesting that we do all this naturally, when we are not interested in a guy, and it makes him go crazy after us ?

Well....I’m looking forward to meeting my husband....in heaven! 🤲🏾 😩 😂

It seems a lot of work. Screw him

I need to stop watching these videos.. everytime I watch em I realize I eff'ed up all the steps! 🤦‍♀️ and now I feel crappy.

How To Make Any Guy Miss You- Ryan Patrick: Make yourself a rare commodity and prompt him to put in the work. 1. Don't initiate reaching out. 2. Be sparse with the details (not even in a long-term relationship; pull back on the things he doesn't need to know or none of his biz e.g. I'm busy NOT: I'm going out with my friends now but I can do Friday) 3. Don't be a yes girl (probably a doormat); say NO. 4. Showcase the goods, then remove them. Be totally present when dating him during first phase, but don't see him more than once a week for the first 6 weeks of dating him. 5. Host a group event, for him to see you socialise. Not to try to make him jealous, but just that you have other options when it comes to men. 6. Giving him the rare gift of intimacy (not sex the first 30 days; intimacy is not sex). 7. Be OK not missing him - don't idealise him; have him wondering whether he is missed. Keep your social life strong.

“This isn’t a game” “You need to have a strategy” 🤷🏼‍♀️😩

The thing is, I have tried this method of making someone miss me. Doesn’t work if he or she just doesn’t want to give a hoot. I think you have to live your life and let what comes come and what goes go. It is that simple.

I was about to join a dating site but this has exhausted me before signing up 😃😜🤣🤦‍♀️💁‍♀️🤷‍♀️ *taking a nap*

If this is how men work. I seriously can't be arsed

Well, if a guy is this complicated than I don’t even want him because I m a doctor and he should know that if I m texting him back I m interested oh him and please at 30 I so don’t need to play games with anyone. Just be honest and behave like grown ups and grow some spine because I have enough stress at work and don’t need that in personal life. It’s sounds so complicated to be honest and I wish I was into no one.

When a men really wants you it doesn‘t matter if you write him as soon as you see his message or say yes when you have time.

If you have to manipulate, he really isn't into you. That said, do be confident and stand strong in yourself. That's attractive to everyone.

Boys and girls. Just. Be. Yourself. Confidently. That’s the sexiest thing of you.

Jesus, this is too much hassle. Guess I'm gonna stay single 😿

I'm a doormat. 😔 I need to learn how to say, "No!"

No one I like wants a relationship with me so...

So all men like Scorpios, got it. 😂😜

"Seeing him only once a week for the first six weeks of dating" wow, that DOES seem counterintuitive...but makes sense at the same time.🤯

I am so happy that I didnt have to do this with my boyfriend. This is too much for me 😆. I was friends with my boyfriend for 12 years before we started dating so he fully knew and understood me. 3 years together so far and it's been the best!

I think it depends a lot on the man in question. If he has a healthy ego and good self esteem then all these things will probably work well. If he is low in confidence or traumatised then he will never advance himself enough to initiate anything. Not all men - especially as you get older are without flaws and a history that can make a person loose self confidence, that doesn't make them less valuable and your interest might be a game changer for them...

I seriously know my crush doesn't like me but still I watch these kinda videos lol 😂😂♥️

This sounds like a lot of work. Can't I just be myself and hope for the best? 😁

F*** these mind games! Whatever happened to just falling in love?

Sorry, I'm not the type of woman to wait around for something to happen by adhering to a set of rules. I listen to my female instincts and just say what I feel if necessary. If he likes you, he'll stick around. Some of these tips can backfire on you.

This video tells me to be the complete opposite of my personality and if these tips really work, I'd probably prefer to stay alone forever.

I think you have great ideas for new relationships. The only thing I would caution your viewers on is the being unavailable thing. It's important not to be to available, but my thing is if you don't have time for me, I don't have time for you. It's a balance and if it's off it could deflect a possible match.

Yep, everything that's easy attainable is simply boring and less interesting

Omg Ryan is saving you so so much time!! I'm surprised to see the whiny comments! I'm a single mom re entering dating scene after 10yrs, and I learned the hard way that everything he says is true. I would send good morning text every morning and be so predictable. Ryan, thanks for the content you put out there! So helpful!

Did all of the 7, he ended up thinking that I went out with other guys or looked for a chance to socialize with more guys Men ARE so complicated

How to make any guy miss you:... Move on or Find something important to do!

“Weeds out” the ones that aren’t that into you and you are left open for the right one, meant to be. Save you from drama, chasing (ew) , disappointment and wasting time. Sex: As my mom use to say “why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free.” That still cracks me up. She was right.

Met a guy on tinder and i really like him. Been watching a lot of your videos

In essence don’t give him your heart and don’t fall in love Wow they should scrap up all those fairy tale books we idealized love by

I never initiate anything, i do me if they want to follow then follow if not im still doing me regardless. BYE and NO

Yeah I agree , when someone sees u have spontaneous life, it’s good energy. And everyone wants to be a part of tht energy😍 it’s all about energy/good vibes. Like Chris brown said “let the energy flow” haha

This is so helpful thank you. I’m trying to date for the first time in two years after my seven years long marriage and I’ve found it very challenging and at times hard to understand men. They reach outs tons initially and get you very interested but then as soon as you show them that you are they go MIA . It’s the strangest thing to me and I can’t tell if it’s because they have completely lost interest in me now or what lol I hate the game of it all.

Imagine Ryan Patrick being your bestfriend

I don't know how to react😂I'm pretty much the girl who did everything he didn't want us to do

I would not want anybody who I have to play so many mind games to keep them interested. A healthy relationship should never be that much work.

this is a loooot of work😆im just gona be me,take me or leave me.

This is the best video I've seen on what The Rules authors (from the 1990s) counselled. Bravo Ryan! 👍

I'm old and married now, but excellent advice. Wish you were around when I was still dating.

Yeah I’m a needy lap dog! 🥺

Some men love you saying YES! like he would pay for my dinner when we go out or movie etc. but I will PULL OUT MY CARD /money and say “I got it” and I would say NO. THEN HE WOULD PAY ANYWAYS. Just knowing I can take care of MYSELF is turning him on. Men love a Independent woman. And I now that we are together now. I don’t mind splitting a bill. He still pay. Haha. I love ❤️ that man

All this is really great advice Ryan :). With my ex boyfriend I was answering and being too available for him, abandoning my own things. That was the most stupid thing to do

Amazing! I need to focus on myself and make myself better day by day and he'll end up fearing to lose the high quality of a woman that i am.

When texting, however long he took to text me back during a text conversation, I try and wait at least half that time if not longer. In the long run, it helps me calm down.

I love your facial expressions when you talk. It's adorably funny.

This information is true. Always play hard to get. Always be unreliable, unpredictable. My grand mother taught me this. Men are very visual, image IS everything. Never try to please him, that BORES him.

You're different from the other date coaches because they don't give you the word or words and if they do it's just- eh. But your videos actually make sense, and you even told us the word was 'no' without forcing us to watch the video (I will anyway) and your videos have actually been helping with my relationship!

No it isn't a game at all!and i agree 100% all Ryan's teaching..such an informative.thank you Ryan you never fail to amaze us regard all your Relationships ideas and opinions😁😁😁😁👌💞💕

Seems like a pathway to a shallow relationship that’s bound to fail eventually.

Be loyal but never let him forget you have options. Be safe for him to open up to, and encourage him but don't be afraid to call him out for dismissive behavior. Treat him important but don't make him the center of your universe and rearrange your whole day around him. Finish what you were doing before you text back, apologize for the delay if it was longer than a half hour. Men are not complicated, they don't like to be chased, and the awareness of a little competition will cause them to focus on winning you. Be up front about what you want and what you are offering then stick to your boundaries. Every now and then tell him you will be out for the day and be out for the day, not hugging your phone...wanna make him smile? Partway through that day tell him you are thinking of him. Most importantly dont ever let him get away with not treating you how you want to be treated! If he starts slacking, tell him you aren't feeling it right now. Never forget that for every guy out there willing to treat you bad, there's another wishing he had the chance to show that other dude how it is done ;)

I've been listening to a few of your videos of advice to women. I'm older now and been married 25 years. BUT you speak truth. After getting my heart broken a few times when I was young. I actually thot up much of these things as well. Never be too easy or to hard to get... be a mystery, let your secrets tricky out over time. Make sure you look him in the eyes in the bedroom and never let him forget that night. Anyway... I was proposed to at least 100 times before I got married and stayed married. You are helping women who want to find a good man... so many feminists don't realize they will want a marriage one day.. and it will be too late. Oh, also the 'fear of losing each other' just a bit, is a very good point. You did a really good job!

Imagine always saying you’re busy and you both actually like each other, then he thinks you are too busy or playing games and he moves on lol smh

Yeah. I don't even have a social circle. 🤣

That awkward moment when he says don't be the first one to text/call but if your not yall are just not gonna text at all😂

What if he does the same thing to you?

Can you make a video on what to do if you showed too much interest and were an open book in the beginning and how to reverse it if it’s possible?

Make sure you tell them in the beginning that your just dating so it doesn't go into straight up boyfriend

Thank you Ryan I love your videos...I’ve stumbled across them at a time where they are so relevant 🙄 the saying “When the student is ready the teacher will come” is soooo true, thanks again 😊

Ladies I didn't do anything to get a diamond ring on my finger,the guy pursued me,he protected me,he make my problems as his problems,we solved the problem together.I can tell you just be natural and and the real love will come to you effortlessly Godbless you all ladies 😘😘

R u kidding me? I love a man who says yes to everything I say. I was with a guy like that for a few years and he has been hard to replace. Rare to find. Ha ha ha

How do you get them to miss when you are quarantined together?

So I don't need a dating couch but I love watching your videos. Good job Ryan.

Wow, i have really learned, the reason why i decided to look for advice is because i was married for only 3 years and he left me without any fighting, have been a lone for the past 13 years and now that my broken heart is healed I decided to look for a new love, thank you 👏👏👏👏👏

But when I say no they always complain and be like “wow you don’t wanna hangout with me”

I totally messed up on my latest experience it seems

I got ghosted by a guy after 9 months of dating, albeit very casual dating. Like he stood me up for a date, never explained why, and never responded when I asked to meet to discuss the relationship (when I was going to break up with him). I kinda figured by now he might miss me even a little but he seems happier than ever. I'm fine with breaking up because that's his prerogative, but I wish I had an explanation or any sign whatsoever that I ever meant anything to him 😒 We were friends before dating, too, so he just flushed 4 years of friendship down the toilet.

Nahh to many games, i’m honest on what i want and i’ll tell him if ok good if not byeee

Great video! Going on a girls trip & sending pics of you having fun is a way to have him miss you!

Why can’t we just be honest about how we feel geeezzzz

Nobody misses me it is why I tossed all over the place and people have walked out the door and never came back that is a sad truth

Hahah, the more of these I watch, the more I am convinced I will stay single.

Can you make a video on how to keep a long distant relationship going without face to face meeting or some techniques to make message not boring, please. Thanks

Like another lady said, I wish I had the guts to try dating a woman. Trying to date a man is just pointless.

Healthy to keep perspective and your own life going too. Aside from his reactions. Just to be your rational best self when you do interact.

All of these reasons are why guys we DON’T like, like us. 🤦🏾‍♀️ But honestly, ladies, step 1 is: he just has to like you. Because even if you do all this, IF HE DOESN’T like you, you’re playing yourself! Great video!

Look, I know these are meant to help us understand the way men think and react but they leave me feeling disgusted and hollow for the games that "need" to be played. I get that you say it's not a game but I feels like that. It's a dance but a little ridiculous at times to be honest.

Definitely games...regardless of how you want to call them.

Playing hard to get is a NO for me. If we like each other then GO, but if not then GOODBYE. Let's not waste each other's time, money & effort. Simple as that! 😏

I wish I heard this advice when I was young and single.

Head games, yes means no, no means yes. Totally confused. thank goodness I dont engage in these games anymore. Too hard to figure it out.

While you were advising us to be sparse with the details (which I also read as holding off on the story of one's life); keeping our lives full; having preferences and being able to voice them, etc, I thought - how safe you are keeping yourself if, in fact, he's really not as into you as you would have liked to believe he is. If he really is not that interested, then you've lost nothing, and especially not your hopes.

Great advice I was going through a difficult break up used this technique and now my bf and I are back together thank you soo much

Haha! my (now husband) asked me out three times before I said yes and said he loved me several months before I returned the words. I wasn’t unfriendly or aloof with him we had tons of fun, I just knew my value and wasn’t going to hand it over until I knew he was the right guy. Married over 15 yrs now ❤️ I think I also knew his worth at the time too and wasn’t going to string him along if I wasn’t sure. I had a lot of respect for him too.

I wish I found this channel earlier in my life

You ain’t lying cause I do this to men all the time and they won’t leave me the hell alone I just like being single don’t have time for relationships

I'm happily married and still like to watch your videos. I find them empowering :)