how to master ✨quiet confidence✨

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EXIT your shy girl era
📌 timestamps
0:00 - intro
2:47 you don’t need to 'be more'
7:03 embrace your quirks
9:56 act like you’re correct
11:37 don’t rely on people to believe you
13:28 create your own identity
16:07 say no more
18:25 master the deep convo
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@raider394 Ай бұрын

This is what an introvert actually is not the antisocial people in today’s time have deemed it to be 🤝 great video

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

FACTS

@Jojo-mc7ku 16 күн бұрын

It can be both

@Jojo-mc7ku 16 күн бұрын

@@raider394 my point is you can be both.

@emeeeeyy 15 күн бұрын

@@Jojo-mc7ku You can be both and you can be one or the other. The original commenter is just talking about how people use introverted and anti social interchangeably when they're not the same thing :)

@Jojo-mc7ku 15 күн бұрын

@@emeeeeyy alright got it. My bad I guess I was being defensive

@phs15 23 күн бұрын

I saw this quote that's something along the lines of, "Fools speak because they feel like they have to say something, wise people speak because they have something to say."

@ellouisebadger849 Ай бұрын

This video! I've grown up to feel I'm not enough. Not funny enough, not loud enough, not interesting enough. I'm tired of it because quiet people do bring value to the table

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

literally me, it's exhuasting

@princess_zulica 15 күн бұрын

i personally love quiet ppl. used to dislike them but thats only cus i hated my iwn quietness. now i love them the mostttt.

@dannyadvice 12 күн бұрын

Yes they bring the greatest value that everyone.

@catherine.rezzuto Ай бұрын

i've found with quiet confidence comes this subtle leadership skill. once you do a certain action people will notice and follow your example. sometimes being the observer, whether that's at work or in your friend group, can help build up natural leadership qualities because you will know when to speak up, when to advocate for others, and have a firm grasp on how others communicate and in turn that helps you communicate better with that individual.

@Delulu_Charm 23 күн бұрын

I love throwing stuff away too, I feel much cleaner when my room is like empty, someone gets me😭😍❤

@AmiMistry 17 күн бұрын

me too right now i am cleaning and throwing stuffs 😭

@crow1628 8 күн бұрын

@@AmiMistry me three haha :D

@trapicheena726 28 күн бұрын

I still have trouble with the “act like you’re correct” because even though I know something I say is right, I still add “I think” at the end. I honestly hate that I do this, but ig I’m just scared to be seen like an arrogant person. I’m an indecisive person and have low self confidence, so I tend to act submissive to the other person I’m talking too. This was a bad choice to do because when I do better than a coworker, they become competitive and try to bring me down. Watching this video made me realized that I’m not forced to talk to my coworkers when work is slow.

@annekrusova 12 күн бұрын

yeeeess me too

@stella.thursday Ай бұрын

literally found ur channel 5mins ago and I FEEL SO SEEEENNNN w this vid 😭 omg

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

when my channel finds the right ppl >>>

@Sxyin 18 күн бұрын

this video resonated with me so much omg every single point ESPECIALLY THE ENCYCLOPEDIA i will literally be scared to say anything if i’m not confident in being 10000% correct also i have a deeper monotone voice sometimes and i’m scared if i don’t sound bubbly and high pitched that people are gonna think i’m uninterested or being mean 😭😭

@97hanabi 16 күн бұрын

omg same and heavy on the second paragraph !! i feel you

@evazts1379 Ай бұрын

I relate so much to your quirk about throwing things away. I'm always on a quest to chuck things out of my room even though it's almost empty, and I've done a declutterung on my clothes like 10 times there's literally no more thigs that i can throw away😂😂

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

FINALLY someone who gets me 😭😭

@lessthangraceful Ай бұрын

Me too 😂🥰

@ellouisebadger849 Ай бұрын

You're just a minimalist if you like an empty space. I love having a clear out too 😊

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

that's the word! i just love the aesthetic

@moonchild5799 Ай бұрын

I love this ❤ I have the feeling that a lot of people think that you can only be confidence when you're extreme loud, extravert and talkative, but I think most confident people are in fact more on the quite side because they know that they are worthy and don't feel the need to impress anyone. Confidence is a feeling of accepting yourself just the way you are

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

that last line >>> 'confidence is a feeling of accepting yourself just the way you are' i couldn't agree more!

@thesecretsheholds Ай бұрын

HERE IN 30 SECS AND TSYMM NEEDED THIS ILYSMM

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

you were quicker than me lmaoo

@Tapy0ka545 Ай бұрын

You’re growing so fast :o!! I only subbed a few weeks ago and you were around 16k and now you’re already over 25k, keep it up

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

ikr!! it's crazy 😭 i didn't realise this sort of stuff resonated with so many ppl

@mutiahnoorm.j.1143 Күн бұрын

I just started uni in a very differrent part of the country from my family. I dont have any family members here, just some friends of my parents. I've been pressured by my family to make friends, and I'm really trying to. When actually, I'm really comfortable with myself. But because of their pressure, I have been trying really hard. I've been watching videos of how to socialize, how to make convorsations, and pretty much every social skill video. I've been hard on myself because I cant keep a conversation with people, because I feel that I'm not interesting. But this video made me realize that I could just be myself again, my quiet self with imperfections that needs improvement. Thank you very much for making this video, it helped me through this difficult time🥰

@Jiminsboost Ай бұрын

Thank you for this video and also as an introvert myself i feel like it’s not so hard for us to be confident when we are with the right people but than when we are around people we don’t know it’s like we shut down because we don’t know what to say or we feel that we won’t fit it. And sometimes we don’t and it’s okay to remove yourself from the situation or the group. But when I was in middle school I was antisocial and shy but then when I was around my friends I would be talkative so I think the older I got the more introverted I became and the less talkative I became as well. And by the way I love your accent 💕

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

exactly!! we become so animated and bubbly around the right people, and then the opposite around other people. imo all that matters is you keep those people close, bc it doesn't matter what acquaintances or strangers think, only what you think and the ppl close to you! 💕

@Jiminsboost Ай бұрын

@@ChristinaAaliyah thank you and so true 🥹💕

@catharsis3083 22 сағат бұрын

I so get the wanting to wear the same thing every day lol but yeah, the one of throwing things away is giving major sk vibes 😭 but perhaps it's because I'm the opposite and I always save things "because it could be useful later". my own sk trait (as my friend called it) is my bed placement, in the middle of my room or right next to the stairs LMAOOO

@user-ng2es5fy7b 24 күн бұрын

i love your advices please don’t die

@binggo3740 13 күн бұрын

I think it’s because my manager called me out for saying “like” so much so I’m more aware that you’re saying too many “like” also 😅

@zamcorcuera 23 күн бұрын

i automatically subscribed 10 mins in, girl u just described my problem rn😭

@nicoledlugopolski4621 9 күн бұрын

ive been reflecting on it lately but watching this video definitely brought to the forefront of my mind just how truly scared i am when it comes to social interactions and relationships. i honestly think im the type where when i feel very confident im more on the loud side so i dont thknk quiet confidence is exactly something i strive for but i appreciate this video to look into the mindset of a person who is confident.

@nellajoensalo2316 Ай бұрын

As an autistic person I find your friends comment super funny, because I totally wear ”the same” outfits all the time, lol.

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

haha it's just so reassuring to know i don't have to worry about what i'm gonna wear

@asapbaby9275 23 күн бұрын

Its insane you pinpointed EVERYTHING in my life. I am in utter shock. Thank you for this video.

@ChristinaAaliyah 12 күн бұрын

You're so welcome!

@jessicajovel5674 11 күн бұрын

Oh my god, THANK YOU, I literally always think "I need to say something interesting/funny and smile"

@SabrinaRizandya-ek6vs 16 күн бұрын

The problem that u expound in this video resonates with me, I manifest I could be like u in university! I just graduated highschool and wish to get into medical school and be a doctor just like u, it will be a long and life-changing journey pls root for me so that the experience would be positive, life changing, and does not go south....❤

@samtheham1280 Ай бұрын

LOLLLL having 9 of the same shirt is giving a bit of the tism ngl😭

@jadedpotato1574 16 күн бұрын

nothing wrong with that 🙏

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

what do we think of the new set up!!

@sofiachahbounia. Ай бұрын

strangeee but cozy❤

@Abroadgirl915 Ай бұрын

Without the mic it looks like I am having a conversation with my close friend / older sister and they are giving me advice lol ❤

@carolinlovelifecoach 9 күн бұрын

We need to accept others the way they are

@userfum Ай бұрын

this is literally what i've been looking for

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

we're made for each other

@Clxxdyyyyyyy Ай бұрын

You kinda remind me of a cartoon character. Same outfit everyday, almost empty room, ridiculously pretty. You just are a cartoon character

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

this made me laugh idk why 🤣🤣 thank you 😭

@kennedisuniah7119 28 күн бұрын

a good example of this is mimi vs. Samatha on love island, mimi has a lot of the quite confidence and sam is a bit louder and extroverted but not necessarily as confident.

@uiohfiuszohda Ай бұрын

i needed this, i can't be social even if my life depends on it, love you queen

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

here for u 🦋

@uiohfiuszohda Ай бұрын

@@ChristinaAaliyah 🤍

@millysmanifestations Ай бұрын

congratulations on getting your degree! So proud of you miss doctor!!! ahh that’s so big👩‍⚕️💚💚

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

thank you!! i can't believe it's all done, officially an adult now

@lolade6687 16 күн бұрын

I know right! Congratulations girl! The fact that Christina mentioned it so casually. I mean, being a doctor is a big deal.

@jessicajovel5674 11 күн бұрын

13:55 I'm having an identity crisis because in 1 year (I hope) I'll graduate, and I feel so lost with the idea of not studying anymore, but I'm also starting to see all the things I can do besides studying

@SleepySabASMR Ай бұрын

I love throwing stuff away and I love wearing the same things everyday 😭twinsies

@TrinityHopkins-bn2df Ай бұрын

Oh my goodness, I just discovered your channel and I'm in uni right now in nursing and I'm obsesseddd

@HoneyduckXD Ай бұрын

Tysm I needed this 😭

@taiyodesu9554 14 күн бұрын

Thank you, I am not feeling lonely now 🎉

@shalomchika5004 Ай бұрын

I appreciate your vulnerability. It's relatable, and i've done the needful(subscribed).

@defnelivass 24 күн бұрын

I found your channel 2 minutes ago and it's so good!! These are actually helpful videos

@lincolnmcloud8460 24 күн бұрын

Hey I really liked this video. I know I learned a lot of confidence and how to build it up. Ideally I would like to implement all of these different exercises to better improve my confidence; but the one I want to focus on the most is just saying no.

@sfmmmo7599 Ай бұрын

Thank u for ur videos girl! 🫶✨️

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

ofc

@specsinmotion Ай бұрын

i feel like we would be such good friends, i love your energy

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

we would for sure 😎

@electriss5111 Ай бұрын

You just described me in the first 40 seconds🤩

@Briianswrld Ай бұрын

The fact that I scrolled to see ur thumbnails is hilarious

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

hehe

@vrxIutz Ай бұрын

I love ur content

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

i love u 2

@LeticiaPessoaa Ай бұрын

great content, watching your videos makes me more aware and less emotional about the phase I'm going through and motivates me to continue!! I only ask that the next videos have subtitles, as English is not my native language and sometimes the lines are too fast, I still love your videos!!

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

thank you Leticia! i can definitely upload subtitles in my next ones :)

@jesuislechat__ 13 күн бұрын

I totally get the "uniform" you wear every day ... even if everything around you changes, your clothing stays the same, so your reflection grounds you. Hope that makes sense 😅 Wearing he same thing every day doesn't necessarily make you autistic, tbh

@katherine5340 Ай бұрын

I love your videos, they are very helpful!

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

than you katherine, this means more than u know

@Duck_cheese-FOR-YOU Ай бұрын

Your content is amazing!

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

this means so much

@angelapina Ай бұрын

this video was amazing

@christinaregi3546 Ай бұрын

Another fab videoooo!!!

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

my bestie !! thank you 💘

@doveslizleskiss2956 Ай бұрын

literally was taking notes from that video, thanks so much for the advice. little question here: any tips on being respected by everyone? can i just delulu into it, and go in conversations with the mindset of ''i'm already respected''? xoxo

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

omg i'm literally planning a video on this. it's gonna be called something like 'don't aim to be liked, aim to be respected' or something like that. i've come to realise people respect you A LOT when you care more about approving of yourself vs seeking approval. but i'll elaborate more in the video. but yeah, like you said, defo walk in the room, confident af, you approve of yourself, you don't need anyone to validate you, win or lose, you always have your own back, you don't need anyone's validation 🙌

@user-fk4tt8no5l 15 күн бұрын

You speek in 1.75x speed 😭 But your videos are great , as a introvert i can feel each and every word u told

@Sxyin 18 күн бұрын

omg i feel like we’re so similar, i’m also only child parents divorced and likes to yap only when i want to 😭

@ChristinaAaliyah 18 күн бұрын

hey twin

@Jd1156 Ай бұрын

Wow dope content keep growing🔥🔥🔥

@acb3246 13 күн бұрын

🍇

@user-jd3fh3sq5p Ай бұрын

Your face and your speech is sooooooooo beautifulllll wow 🫂🦋

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

you're so kind, thank you 🦋

@kylie0110 18 күн бұрын

why tf did u EXACTLY describe me at the begginning

@ChristinaAaliyah 18 күн бұрын

bc i know u hehe

@eijustwannabehappy 11 күн бұрын

❤

@CYBER_FunkER Ай бұрын

Stoicism

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

amazing philosophy

@paomichibeadles 16 күн бұрын

🍇🍇

@2909XX Ай бұрын

I thought your "throwing away things" quirk was funny but why do you do that do you think? 🤔 I understand the clothes thing I identify with that it makes sense. Great video as always, glad you started a KZfaq channel.. valuable content 💪🏆🫡

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

i think i get scared having too much stuff, like my worst nightmare is being a hoarder 😭🤣

@2909XX Ай бұрын

@ChristinaAaliyah This is very interesting 🤔

@JhatemClaasen 8 күн бұрын

I like u because u are from England 🎉 10:36

@chrisaguilar2681 Ай бұрын

Imma shoot my shot here. Does anyone want to go out on a date soon lol? Los angeles local here

@hungrychat7304 Ай бұрын

Nah those girls were weird asf

@SuperMathsBeaver 6 күн бұрын

They sounded so rude! You don't owe anyone a friendship but small talk 2 weeks into uni wouldn't have killed them.

@Babygirl758 Ай бұрын

steve jobs wears the same thing everyday

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

right ?? if it's good enough for steve it's good enough for me

@Babygirl758 Ай бұрын

@@ChristinaAaliyah i read somewhere intelligent people do that to save time in the morning trying to figure out what to wear

@lifeisthisway Ай бұрын

you give me so much hope, you can’t imagine… it’s like i’m listening to a future, wiser version of myself. I’m in med school right now, and throughout first three years of it all my personality was literally studying. Only recently I discovered that i also have other things i like to do 😆 Great video, as per usual 🩷

@ChristinaAaliyah Ай бұрын

aw girl 🥹 you've got this !! med school has that affect on a lot of us 🥲 it's a slow process to unlearn but you can absoluelty thrive in your exams and irl too!