i want to recognize the emotional neglection in me, but something inside me tells me "oh it wasnt that much of a thing" but then i look at me and how i feel most of the time and im like yeah... im suffering it was a thing. I feel like im gaslighting myself all the time.

Too many will let a bad childhood keep them from success. Something I told my own subscribers this week. As I see this daily as a healthcare provider. People who are destroyed adults because they couldn't outrun a terrible childhood. Too many times this becomes the excuse to give up. The reason someone won't try. "Because this (fill in the blank) happened to me." Now understand I am not discounting terrible childhoods. I had one as well. What I am saying is that the world doesn't care. It is totally indifferent. It may owe you but good luck trying to collect. The only way to collect your due is to go out and seek it, pursue it and take it back from the universe. The stories of great triumph are rarely without great adversity--ever notice that? Most will lie down to bad circumstances. But those who get up and fight back will insure that their story is a great one. Hope this helps someone out there---keep being great---Charles.

Healing myself is impossible. Fear of failure in doing this will not let me move forward as it will end up reinforcing my own belief in being 'not worth the bother'. I watch so many of these types of videos here on yt but I am emotionally frozen and unable to move forward. I wish I could. I want my life to be worthwhile and enjoyable but I also know that I will fail at this and feel more empty than I currently do. I am happy for those those in the comment section who have recovered from CEN and I wish you all the best x

0:45 No demands can be even worse than overly high demands. I started to realize something wasn't quite right when I was told in my late 20s that my life was easy because I never had to work and always got everything I want (which isn't true) and was unemployed and just got out of a group home. Previously, I thought my "mental problems" had nothing to do with my upbringing, but now I think it does have to do with it, at least in part. Now in my 50s, I feel I missed out on so much.

Bro your video was the most clear reflection of my own life I have ever had and It helped me greatly to recognize the problem I was facing. Thankyou soo much♥️♥️

Im 33. Finally awakened and healing. She STILL neglects my emotions and as of lately is when it really hit me emotionally and made me accept and focus on grieving, healing and letting go.

Create in me a clean O God, and renew a right spirit in me...Psalm 51

Finally......After trawling videos, the best description for CEN outside of the 12 step framework. I feel validated. Thank-you

What you say resonates in my core, how you say it is completely void of ego, and there are no villains. For me, those three markers are how I find truth. Thank you for your work.

Perfect! You did an amazing job explaining these life-changing concepts! Thank you for sharing your transformational gifts and spirit.

I wish there were more than one like button. This animation helped me understand ,finally, one of the key points on my healing journey. Thank you so much for helping to understand and resolve ❤️

WOW!! This info is spot on! I appreciate you putting your wisdom out for others to learn from. THANKS Tom. Bless you. xox

Your videos are amazing, so sharp and to the point. Thank you so much for sharing such valuable information!

Thank you. what an amazing illustration and so easy to follow. 🙏

If parents even tried to ask us as kids, are you okay, and tried to investigate our emotions and feelings. .. we'd be world's better. my parents ignored me completely, kept me fed and clothed only. I wasn't heard, validated or recognized. I had no sibs. my dad never had anything to say and my ma was career only. my dad was a periodic binge drinker. my moms focus was his sobriety or the lack of it. I was a very lonely child forced into 50s catholic school brutality and more abuse. I became an argumentative kid who was beaten for talking back. I was considered incorrigible by nuns. There was no examing introspective behavior in the unsolved pain at home. I still carry the elements of the unsolved past.

Oh my god. This video is like nothing I’ve seen. Wow. Thank you for this, gave me hope.

i am so grateful for you that you put this video out here💗 it has been immensely helpful. Thank you.

wow. amazing. thank you for explaining so clearly

That's an amazing video. Very good format for easily understanding quite complex mechanics.

This was Beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

Bro I love you , you are the inspiration and example that you are actually born for

Awesome! Thanks for sharing this information. It was extremely helpful for me.

Thank You. This is profound info.

I agree the clean slate is there underneath. I felt it yesterday.

Love this so much thank you so much 😪

Wow that was great! Thank you very much 🙏🏼

This was a very clear explanation of whats going on inside... lately felt trapped inside this encasement of a complete stranger. I caught myself with this miserable twisted look on my face today & It was accompanied by 'a petulent confused little girl' feeling, I was shocked to notice it. Thankyou for the signposts.

Really, very helpful. Amazing job!!

A good start and foundation.😊

Thank you for details and support

Finally making the effort so seek help and begin to heal so I can start enjoying life

Excellent. Informative at a pace I enjoyed listening to.

this is everything gabor mate has been saying!! i need to stop repressing

Beautiful! As a counsellor, this is perfect. I will refer people to it as appropriate.

Beautiful share thank you,

First 2 minutes is so accurate i didn't even think if i told someone this would believe me I know it's true now and i hope found the path by the end of this video

Excited to start this thank you brother ❤

Thank you 💜

This was so unbelievably helpful. Thank you 🙏🙏💕

This is fantastic! Thank you so much. Brings me clarity in a way I had not considered. I've been distracting myself! My CEN would also explain the boredom I've felt/endured, thru much of my life. God has been utterly faithful, in His healing of my damaged heart and soul, and the latest is, I've begun experiencing emotions from childhood that were repressed: the little girls' insecurity of appearance (weakness, which was never shown or acknowledged in any way in the 'family') and today, I'm thinking that my recent thoughts about possible vocations are actually adolescent fantasies. I cannot recall having any! Have been numb for years. It could be those long-repressed fantasies are now 'coming out'! Wow - what an amazing journey! I am trusting Father God for His best - complete healing - and thank you so very much for this video of your input - terrific! another link in the (ongoing releasing of the) chain!!!

This was so good for me

Thank you so much for clearly explaining why I feel just so useless as an adult!!!

You got me!

In other words (in certain people) Depersonalization Disorder. Thanks for the video!!

Thank you

Awesome contact bro thanks

Thank You For Sharing ❤

thank you

He is simply matured, see how he sees it from a place of almost feeling bad saying it even though it is true. He has been able to turn it not only into his benefit but the benefit of his parents who themselves were simply suppressed and did not hate the children. But you won’t be able to feel this compassionate insight until you actually get past your garbage and reconnect with your compassion.

I always avoid action discharge mode of functioning and use inner child work and insight.

This is an amazing video that resonates more with me than any others I’ve seen. How can I get in contact?

This is how I pushed my baby father away

I mean you've explained what CEN is and what it does - but offered pretty much no advice on overcoming it tbh

Good video right on the spot but i didnt get to see the videos you mentioned at the end ... where can i find them ?

Thanks a looooooooooot❤❤❤❤❤❤

u saved my life

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I feel like I just cannot go there! I am afraid to open the flood gates because those emotions are scary and I cannot control them

I think all of us that live with this illness want a cure,because we usually have some kind of addiction which we are ashamed of ,but does give relief,i am 65 and still struggle with,i think a big thing is learning to love,for me anyway ,because we did'nt receive love its the one thing we don't feel,i hope that makes sense ,but learning to love i think is a big thing,because if you don't love you are a abuser,you don't care about anyone or anything.A job i do is next to a drug house and you see the people coming for there fix,i was thinking i am no better than them.

You will find the bad guy in the last place you would ever think of looking.

The emotional neglect by them continue throughout life

I grew up in a children home where I now realise that I was seriously neglected in this area I really need help I am now nearly 59 is it possible to get help at my age

Great description but do you have more information on how to go in right direction?

He has reached the pleasure supreme of the original Life Kernel buried underneath a thick wall. I have not 😂

I have recovered , everyone says I'm innocent guy despite being over 20 yrs old

8:00 Good list of covert victim behaviors

I'm soo ready to listen to him but he's too attractive

I dont understand this video explains why this happens BUT how do i fix it????

46 and still struggling

Hello I need help and heal. I am working to heal. I need help.

I can't forgive my absent siblings.

I hesitated to click on this video cause i saw a big, tough guy on the thumbnail but turns out youre very empathetic and not here to give me a lesson to stop being a sissy and toughen up. Im tough enough as it is.