Excellent comment

So is it possible to pursue a bigger goal while still adhering to this mindset? The answer would be 'just focus on the act'?

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@@siris615 I wonder if the military knew about this long before recent research did. Green Berets, for instance, seem more brainy than SEALs in a sense, so maybe their training is super stressful on the brain, causing a bunch of new wiring to form, so they’re elite at taking over governments or something.

how to do that for instance when having fear of approaching a woman?

​@@awle easy answer but hard to actually execute: simply exposure. Confronting the fear. Having said that there's different "levels" to the goal of getting over the fear of approaching women. For example level 1 could be conceptualized as just showing up. Ie. You arrive at a setting with a deliberate intention of approaching women to get over that fear. By initially just showing up you will trigger a stress response. The stress response will get increasingly stronger the closer you get to that fear, ie. Actually eventually approaching the girl and saying words. But speaking to her can be broken down to levels 2-3. The whole point of splitting it up into levels is you can break the stress response into several smaller stress responses instead of a large one which would probably be extremely unmanageable. Just showing up will stress you out. But if you do it enough that is exposure and eventually your body will adapt assuming nothing bad happens and in this situation nothing bad will happen by just showing up. However you need to actually experience the experience for your nervous system to adapt and know this. No amount of reading or thinking will fix this issue because it is a feeling based response heavily tied to your nervous system and reptilian part of your brain. You simply have to go through the motions and get bio feedback so your body truly knows things will be okay. So practice level 1 first. When you've noticed that you're no longer as stressed as you were initially, ie. The stress response has died down and you feel more calm now, that's your signal to move to level 2. Approach the girl and be okay screwing up. Even at level 2 there's ways to split things up just for the sake of exposure. A good example is just saying hello as you pass by a girl without even trying to start a convo. Another would be then to ask for the time. As your body adapts and basically signals to you that these perceived scary experiences aren't as bad as you've imagined, the stress response will die down. Move to level 3, trying to start a convo. Then maybe Level 4, ask for her number. This is how you'd theoretically build tolerance to this fear through controlled exposure training. You could alternatively just throw yourself into the deep end as well by just skipping to level 4, but I wouldn't recommend it because screwing up and being rejected without having a lot of new exposure experiences might actually make you even more afraid. Once bitten, twice shy type of response. Biting off too much in the beginning might also de-incentivize you from doing it again due to doubling of the fear of you're rejected, or be too many unknown factors that can cause a more uncontrollable fear response. The method I'm suggesting is basically isolating and training almost individual factors, one at a time, so once you get over the fear of all of one isolated thing, it makes the next thing a bit easier. Hope this was helpful. This method can be used for anything btw. Exposure is indeed the cure to fear as Huberman has explained. The crazy thing is you can master this ability and truly triumph. You'll know so one day when you can ask a girl's number out with confidence, without stuttering, being nervous etc. But every guy who has gotten to that point had to overcome the initial fears and screw up a lot. If you can embrace failing and not internalize it and mixing it with your own identity you will go far in life. Because a man who doesn't fear failure will inventively move closer to success with every iteration and micro adjustment they learn from it.

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@@sauljahboi5965 do you have link to this story? I’m interested in it.

Saul Jahboi thank you

@@jayrideau why would my perception of things create fear and anxiety if it doesnt actually proove my point?

Look up PH94B, it is in clinical trials, you should also look into paradoxical experiments

There are pills for that. But you don't want that. "Anxiety is a dizziness of freedom" (without possibility there would be no anxiety)

@@GeorgeHennegar Thank You! Sounds promising.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has a robust evidence base for this

Don't take yourself too seriously and shit on the opinion of other (to a certain degree of course) , done.

you need to get MORE stressed or scared

I was born with extreme fear. Allow yourself to safely and gradually build up tolerance to the feeling of terror. Afraid of the dark? Sit in a dark basement for incrementally increasing times. Afraid of cold dark water? Practice jumping in with support and safety measures. Surrender fully to panic, and like playing dead with a bear, it might just leave you alone. Good luck! I believe in you.

Push forward anyway. If you fuck up, instead of beating yourself up figure out where you went wrong and do better next tome

The answer is voluntary exposure to fear

Because freezing/pausing puts you in a position where the problem is still in front of you. You didn't walk away or fight the problem. I guess

Keep going. Try harder

Keep going You have to change a lot of negative perceptions to positive outvomes and that is by facing facing fear over and over

@@produccionesdebajosrecurso7451 that only has positive outcomes for specific phobias. In the case of anxiety, it is completely counterproductive because the threat detection is happening autonomically.

जय सियाराम

Aum Aeem Bhreem Hanumate Shree Ram Dootaaya Namaha

I understand him perfectly fine. Many others also. Ask yourself why you do not understand him because it doesn’t seem to be an issue with most.

What he meant here is that a way to overcome fear is to expose oneself to it voluntarily