How To Speak: 3 Secrets To Increase Your Personal Impact | Richard Newman

How To Speak: 3 Secrets To Increase Your Personal Impact | Richard Newman | TEDxUniversityofBristol

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2 ай бұрын

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How can you increase your personal impact, influence and connection? Discover the science and secrets of storytelling, body language and heart led communication, which Richard Newman has been exploring for over 40 years. Learn about Richard’s journey from being an introverted, autistic child, to living in a Tibetan monastery, studying acting and creating unique research. Richard Newman is a communication coach, an award-winning speechwriter, and author of the books ‘You Were Born To Speak’ and ‘Lift Your Impact’. He is the Founder of UK Body Talk, coaching clients worldwide to enhance their business storytelling and personal impact. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@oilverdennison 29 күн бұрын

The breakdown of how storytelling, body language, and emotional presence can be merged to improve personal impact was very insightful. It's amazing how simple adjustments in nonverbal cues can drastically change perception.

@everybodyworksinsales Ай бұрын

As a fellow TEDx speaker, massive congratulations Richard. I remember reading the monk story in your first book, You Were Born to Speak which I absolutely love. This is a valuable talk and superb storytelling

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thanks so much Niraj! I appreciate your support!

@granmabecker Ай бұрын

One of my grandkids is Autistic and I'm glad for people like Richard who are paving the way for younger people to have less difficult experiences with it. He's in his teens now and the way he jokes about it and allows other people to have fun with it is such a relief compared to how we thought things would be for him

@liftretreat9821 Ай бұрын

Thanks! I’m glad you found this useful. It’s so important that we talk openly about these things, to help others.

@janetsplace1953 Ай бұрын

3:45 I get this, connection is everything🥰🥰🥰

@ThePizzaPriestess Ай бұрын

Thanks for emailing this JP, wonderful - means a lot going through what I am.

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thanks so much, yes connection is so important! We need this to thrive!

@ClusterofHope 11 күн бұрын

Loved how he talks about being open and brave and how it helps us make genuine connections. It's tempting to stay guarded and keep things shallow, but he's right - taking a chance on being rejected is worth it to feel fully alive and connected.

@richardnewmanspeaks 11 күн бұрын

So glad this resonated with you!

@immayasass 26 күн бұрын

Wow the bit about going to live with the monks and teach them english is actually so clever. So much of communication is non-verbal, makes sense that it was such a valuable experience

@zacgulbranson 2 ай бұрын

Richard Newman is the absolute man! Such an inspiration . A wealth of knowledge, and great mind . Next level Richard , killing it!

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thanks so much Zac! I gave it my all!

@VodkaByNight Ай бұрын

The personal story of overcoming communication barriers as someone who is introverted and autistic gives so much hope and inspiration to others facing similar challenges. Glad he was given the opportunity and platform to share his story and advice.

@richardnewmanspeaks 26 күн бұрын

Thanks so much, glad you liked it!

@katyabradova Ай бұрын

That moment when he described his first day at school was heartbreaking but so powerful in understanding his journey.

@liftretreat9821 Ай бұрын

Thank you Katya 🙏🏻

@katyabradova Ай бұрын

@@liftretreat9821 , you are so welcome...

@Gemmasnewman Ай бұрын

Such a brilliant talk 🗣️ that needs to be seen by everyone. I loved the tip on standing and especially the palms up and palms down concept. So simple yet crazily effective!!

@taylorpjansen Ай бұрын

Loved how he explained the Triune brain theory and how it relates to storytelling and communication. Making complex scientific concepts accessible is a true skill!

@liftretreat9821 Ай бұрын

Thanks Taylor! Yes my goal is to make everything simple and straightforward for everyone.

@hollytrichards Ай бұрын

His explanation of the head, hands, heart model is a game-changer for public speakers. Well done to him on going to such lengths to understand and improve himself.

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thanks Holly! Glad it resonated with you!

@PostNowIMeanNow 16 күн бұрын

You could tell this topic wasn't just something he thought about academically, but a lifelong journey that came from personal pain. There's just so much emotion in it, it makes the importance of his message come through so strongly

@richardnewmanspeaks 16 күн бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@actionfigure2191 12 күн бұрын

I really like how you talked about being a great speaker not just as a skill, but like it's a way to bring people together. It gives it a real sense of purpose beyond just personal success.

@kiankaskert7925 Ай бұрын

Really appreciate how he demystifies the art of communication with clear, actionable steps.

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thank you , glad you enjoyed it!

@bestnewtunes8363 16 сағат бұрын

The idea of conversations being like a 12-lane highway totally made sense to me haha. As an introvert, I could really relate to that. I'm happy he figured out how to join in and make himself heard, especially by using things like acting techniques, I thought that part was really clever

@camerongdowd Ай бұрын

From struggling to connect as a child to teaching monks and studying acting is very cool.

@colincampbell5068 Ай бұрын

His approach to communication as an autistic person really strikes a chord, it's good for people to have this kind of insight

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thank you Colin 🙏

@idimarus3278 21 күн бұрын

I appreciate the practical advice on storytelling and engaging an audience effectively.

@hazrexall Ай бұрын

The part where he talked about the emotional masks we wear and the importance of vulnerability in genuine connections really struck a chord with me. It's crazy how much closer to someone you can feel once you've shared a moment that's rooted in being vulnerable

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

So true! Thank you.

@thephilosopher59 Ай бұрын

Wow, I'm speechless in a good way. This has truly gone right to the heart of things. You may have heard these secrets before in different ways, though never like this. Definitely he walks the talk, exactly in what he's talking about. The best of all is his recommendation on what to drop. So worth watching, and more than once!

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thanks so much! I appreciate your message and feel grateful this connected with you.

@elisbrokli Ай бұрын

It’s incredible how small changes in body language can influence how others perceive and react to you!

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

So true!

@ThePizzaPriestess Ай бұрын

A simple practice for a complicated life, I needed this today; thank you, Richard!

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thanks! Yes my aim was to keep this simple and easy for everyone to benefit from.

@ThanhNguyen-pq4ky Ай бұрын

Thanks for such an inspirational speech, Newman.

@thedoctoryami Ай бұрын

Great talk from a dedicated speaker and teacher! So thankful for the work you’ve done to help us all be better communicators!

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thanks so much!!

@jordanbaslier Ай бұрын

Pretty awesome that he got to teach english in a tibetan monastery like that has to have been an epic experience

@granmabecker Ай бұрын

Yes! How amazing that would have been for him

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Yes - it was life defining for me!

@jemmajames5056 Ай бұрын

Love this! Thank you for sharing your insights Richard. Inspiring!

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thanks so much Jemma! I appreciate your support!

@raquel-mercedes Ай бұрын

The scientific backing really strengthens his points on body language and communication effectiveness! Well done on putting it all together in a way that makes sense

@richardnewmanspeaks 16 күн бұрын

I appreciate that!

@umadelecois 25 күн бұрын

Oh wow I can't believe he got teased so early on. I was also brutaIIy teased all throughout grade school and well into my teens but I remember the first couple of years of school were actually nice. Like everyone got along, there wasn't that mean kid buIIy vibe yet.

@IAmTheRealJoker Ай бұрын

Acting as a tool to learn communication? That's a fresh perspective I hadn't considered.

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

It was a game changer for me!

@judeblyth3606 4 күн бұрын

That shove experiment was funny! It showed how even small changes in posture can make you seem more confident and powerful. I'm definitely keeping my feet shoulder-width apart from now on

@thebespokedoctor Ай бұрын

I was fully expecting everyone to fall over with the shoulder push!! 😂

@jacquelinehogan3313 Ай бұрын

Oh boy when he talks about conversation being like a 12 line super highway I just had this memory of a guy I worked with who would very awkwardly jump into conversations exactly like that. It was only as he was leaving that I found out he had Asperger's and now here I am years later realizing what things are like for people on the spectrum.

@thebespokedoctor Ай бұрын

What an amazing talk….. I learned so much..! Thank you for your vulnerability and expertise.. you’ve communicated your knowledge beautifully! ❤

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Thanks so much! So pleased that you liked it!

@shadyreginald Ай бұрын

Yeah I can relate to the group conversation thing and I'm not even Autistic 😅

@maryyouson4404 14 күн бұрын

The idea that storytelling is what makes humans the dominant species is so interesting... I've never heard or thought that.

@timmymckinley 17 күн бұрын

I'm wondering how much of what he taught would work in different cultures. Obviously, body language norms can be different, but the main ideas about storytelling and connecting from the heart seem like they'd apply pretty much everywhere.

@richardnewmanspeaks 16 күн бұрын

Yes body language varies from one culture to the next, but many fundamentals of communication stay the same!

@rubylcharlotte Ай бұрын

Had to laugh around the 6:35 mark, yes it's definitely all the same story

@andrewfarason Ай бұрын

Had to laugh at the way he talks about getting into acting, I can imagine it would have been a massive breakthrough in terms of the "how to" side of interacting.

@hamlinr Ай бұрын

What how old is this dude? Talkin about 40 years of this and decades of that but he doesn't even look 40...

@reaganmosher7769 26 күн бұрын

Damn 17 stages of a journey? I thought it was just, introduction, conflict, development, resolution 😂😂

@Usyard 27 күн бұрын

I wonder if he had to endure a lifetime of people saying, "Hello, _Newman_"

@YaniMulyani-cx5dl Ай бұрын

Richat pria yang berpendirian mutlak dan tidak berpengaruh terhadap perkataan orang

@jonathanrogerson2006 Ай бұрын

I did like it but I've got to be honest that there was very little new information for me. All the points he made I have both read about, seen (on TED talks - Amy Cuddy) and used over the last 25 years. I don't want to belittle Richard - I am sure he is a great communicator - but I did get the impression that he wasn't being totally truthful with what he was saying (on your knees, sobbing...really?). Also, and I know that this is a delicate point, but he seems a very functional autistic person.

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

Your response is disappointing. I shared openly and honestly. There were people in the audience who were with me on the day that I was on my knees sobbing and trying speak through the tears. I was reluctant to share this, but they encouraged me to be vulnerable about what happened. I wonder why you are so quick to be cynical? Perhaps my autistic delivery, simply saying it like it is, meant that you felt it didn't ring true to the way neurotypical people would explain this story? Regarding autism, every person appears different - it's important to avoid being so quick to judge. And yes, I have gathered together lots of information from various sources to bring them together in one place to help people who need this information, as well as sharing our own unique published research that will have provided new information for everyone. I encourage you to find a way to be more open, less cynical and more supportive of people in your life.

@jonathanrogerson2006 Ай бұрын

@@richardnewmanspeaks I am sorry Richard that I have appeared to be quick to judge and I am sorry that you feel I have questioned your honesty - and I suppose therefore your credibility. I honestly didn't mean to offend. I totally understand that there is a wide spectrum of autism (I work with some autistic people in the field of communication), I just felt your mentioning of it was a little throw-away. I am really sorry if this offended you. I get your newsletter in my inbox and I was really looking forward to your presentation so maybe my expectations were too high. Again, I am sorry. I have to be honest though that I don't appreciate your last last sentence...telling me that I have to be more open and less cynical and more supportive of people in my life!! I have 30 years of professional experience being supportive and a whole life experience of altruism with people I care for.

@jonathanrogerson2006 Ай бұрын

@@richardnewmanspeaks I do agree though that after reading my first comment I did sound a little catty! Ignore me and keep speading your great message - everyone can give powerful, persuasive and passionate public presentations!!

@richardnewmanspeaks Ай бұрын

@@jonathanrogerson2006 Thanks Jonathan, I really appreciate your response and your reflections on this! Thanks also for sharing about your commitment to altruism. That's great to hear. Wishing you all the best.