I thought being lonely was painful but after being in relationship with a narcissist,being lonely feels like heavenly freedom!
@sophiedan53295 жыл бұрын
Deepa Lall OMG me too!!!!
@melaniereeder74815 жыл бұрын
You are absolutely righ!
@prtcgv51055 жыл бұрын
Great to hear that!!! I'm about to break free from my cheating narc, but I want to catch them in the act... I will expose them, and will go out with a BANG!!!
@smokeycat69545 жыл бұрын
Deepa Lall Good for you! It's heaven isn't it?
@shadysteve65795 жыл бұрын
Right
@SLynch0075 жыл бұрын
Avoid at all costs. A conversation with a narcissist is like giving them weapons to harm you with.
@joelee58755 жыл бұрын
Good one
@mtlicq5 жыл бұрын
t is in the Bible, Matthew chapter 10, verses 12-16. Be discerning, be harmless, and eschew evil Don't cause harm, but for your own good and for God's sake, avoid anything to do with a Narcissist like the plague. That is the way to "love your enemy" so to minimize their harm to you without you becoming like them.
@heatherwatterson5905 жыл бұрын
When I saw the title, "How to Speak to a Narcissist," my 1st thought was, 'Don't. And don't walk away. Run. Run like Hell is one step behind--because it is.
@4knewt5055 жыл бұрын
your statement terrifies me...that's my husband!
@asiasinclair38635 жыл бұрын
4Knewt my boyfriend. It’s a scary thing
@JeffreyBuchanan84 жыл бұрын
Never argue with them Never tell your problems or weaknesses
@ks57094 жыл бұрын
Yeah i did that during my marriage as I thought I could trust them but they use those things against me still to hurt me.
@zaitoonqamar25674 жыл бұрын
So true
@jackofalltrades31394 жыл бұрын
ABSOLUTELY NEVER! Your secrets are their ammunition! It has taken me many years and many horrible experiences with narcissists to figure out what has been happening in my life! For years I thought it was me but I thank God for gaining some insight. I'm a work in progress but I'm safer for it.
@blackcotton22884 жыл бұрын
Now I found this out....
@ThrivingWithValerieVicars4 жыл бұрын
I noticed that !!!! When ever I would be open and honest or even telling him I'm struggling with something. He would make fun of what I said or made me feel worse for having feelings. It is like I'm not allowed to have feelings only him.
@empresszoe93513 жыл бұрын
One thing I've noticed especially with the covert narcissist is that they diagnose everyone with some psychological disorder except themselves.
@AprilHare3 жыл бұрын
And if you want to know what they are doing when you're not around, they will simply accuse you of doing it.
@koolbeans82922 жыл бұрын
Yep, Always pointing out other’s faults.
@SLynch0072 жыл бұрын
My husband tried to ‘’Gaslight’ me. How cliché. That’s a 60 year old movie!
@rosyrose46202 жыл бұрын
Yes, TRUE.😆
@rosyrose46202 жыл бұрын
If you even HINT that their crazy they FLIP OUT!😆
@mattrader49104 жыл бұрын
A Narcissist only knows and cares for three things: ME, MYSELF, and I
@Ronnymikkonen26863 жыл бұрын
It's like Jeesus! He him and for him! And if you don't obey? Go to hell!
@estherselvarani883 жыл бұрын
@@Ronnymikkonen2686 he never said go to hell though
@Ronnymikkonen26863 жыл бұрын
@@estherselvarani88 he has never said anything, because "he's is non-existing!
@estherselvarani883 жыл бұрын
@@Ronnymikkonen2686 and how do you prove that? Who told you he didn't exist? It is historically proven that he was alive and still lives in many people's hearts. Period.
@Ronnymikkonen26863 жыл бұрын
@@estherselvarani88 There is no trueth to any Religious claims period!
@marysylvie20125 жыл бұрын
2 characteristics: it is all about themselves, and they lie constantly.
@willieboy87985 жыл бұрын
i am under NO legal obligation to tell the trueth on anything so why do you demand it.
@healingdiscovery44365 жыл бұрын
Yup! Yup! Yup!
@maryshoemaker13345 жыл бұрын
OMGOODNESS my boyfriend is a narcissist 😯😮😥💔🙏
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@agnese22154 жыл бұрын
Yes i agree😘
@deemac82315 жыл бұрын
After 1.5 years of being confused and neglected by the narcissist, I sat down, looked him in the eye and tried to communicate my thoughts to him and he could not sit still. He kept walking around doing things, and trying to change the subject, but I kept bringing the subject right back to him, asking him to sit down and looking him in the eye. I could see he was very restless and uncomfortable, but I finally got him to sit down and listen and we had an effective talk... so I thought, until the next day when he told me I came over to his place making demands. After that statement I was done. That was July 5, and I've been done ever since. I learned that there is absolutely no way to reach them. Their thinking is abnormal and distorted.
@beautyforashestv59595 жыл бұрын
Arguing with a narcissist is like walking through a mine field. Its only a matter of time before something blows up. Walk 🚶 away
@deba.fisher17015 жыл бұрын
It sure does feel great to be away from the Narcssisstic men that I accidentally became their victim.. Now I'm learn n just to not be codependent & be there for myself a lot more
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@marissalee74904 жыл бұрын
Ugh
@sukilove51406 жыл бұрын
They don’t listen. Just talk over you...
@bgdream245 жыл бұрын
Yup cant get a word in, as soon as you start forming a logical point hey lemme just talk over you.
@sukilove51405 жыл бұрын
William Contreras 100% right!!
@Mary-jz9vr5 жыл бұрын
suki love I respectfully disagree. That sounds more like a person who is trying to intimidate you. I had an experience with a person {male} from our local hospital. Nothing mattered what I said. I ended the conversation abruptly, with the thought that he must be compensating for a little Johnson. No way was I going to let him treat me that way.
@sukilove51405 жыл бұрын
Mary you did the right thing by ending the conversation abruptly. People like that are not easy to converse with.
@cliffkonkle34675 жыл бұрын
SO TRUE
@wakefieldyorkshire6 жыл бұрын
You forgot one thing, to get their way they will lie, lie, lie and lie.
@alvaroakatico91886 жыл бұрын
Not only that, they will make the masses believe it. It's some type of mind control they love to inflict on people.
@klausrain1116 жыл бұрын
They also accuse other people of doing what they do. Hillary Clinton is a great example, implying that Trump is corrupt and a narcissist.
@carvercapitalequitypartner1226 жыл бұрын
Richie B - that is called projection
@Amy-ms6wj6 жыл бұрын
@@klausrain111 trump IS a narcissist, though...weather you support him or not...you can't really deny that fact..
@ipeeinmysinkimafraidtocome71276 жыл бұрын
but he is
@bgaineshunter5 жыл бұрын
They tend to be insecure and envious. Best to get away from them,
@truthseeker63845 жыл бұрын
Brenda Gaines Hunter -- I wish I could have, but unfortunately she was my birth mother.
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@pandoraw2594 жыл бұрын
nah they just don't care
@ve3xtr4 жыл бұрын
I have two family members like that, insecure and envious yet they brag big time about money and possessions. When I questioned them about their behaviour I got, "We're proud of what we own". See, ya can't win because they think it's 'normal' but if YOU were to brag about money and possessions they would say you have a problem. Can't win, stay away.
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@WatchThisCruelVideo5 жыл бұрын
There's no point in trying to talk to a narcissist. They're nothing but a headache and not worth your time. Always always always go no contact if you want true happiness and peace. Find a new job, make a new family for yourself. That's what I did and the world is blossoming before me now that I no longer have to deal with these headaches. In my situation the narcissist were a couple people in my family. They succeeded in turning the whole family against me. It was hard but I recognized defeat and walked away from my family. I built a new family for myself with friends, met an amazing man from a wonderful family that embraced me as their own, and we have a beautiful baby on the way! I crawled out of hell and if I can do it, anyone can do it. I was so broken for so long before I went into therapy and found the strength to respect myself enough to walk away.
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@jeffj3184 жыл бұрын
God bless you!
@TCFan304 жыл бұрын
John Simeone - Are you providing advice or surreptitiously spamming us?
@jamoriah5 жыл бұрын
How to deal with a narcissist: RUN
@namastewellness5 жыл бұрын
JMK that's more of how to deal with a sociopath. Narcs are adult toddlers, sociopaths are insatiable beasts who feast on manipulating for the sheer pleasure (and perceived power) it brings them.
@anacoutinho72665 жыл бұрын
👋👋👋👋
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@blessOTMA4 жыл бұрын
JMK indeed!
@hninoowai14314 жыл бұрын
Leave them and Run😂😂
@depthoffield47448 жыл бұрын
Many people have no idea how dangerous pathological narcissists are, they wreck havoc on peoples lives.
@martindavis17028 жыл бұрын
No, they don't know. They are dangerous lunatics. One day, they will be recognised for what they are, and will have to be rounded up and dealt with.
@sandrahendricks75537 жыл бұрын
I had many narcs in my life from parents, family, coworkers, husbands etc. I can tell you that I have been drugged, and my life threatened many times. They are dangerous.
@reesedaniel58356 жыл бұрын
Joe Davis: They know exactly what they are doing. Don't be deceived.
@skidamarinkadinkadink95805 жыл бұрын
Had to get a restraining order against my NPD mother. I get you.
@bijaseed5 жыл бұрын
How to speak to a narcissist : Don't. No contact with my Father for over a year has been the best thing I could have done for myself, I am 40 years old.
@StephenDoty845 жыл бұрын
Good for you. Protect your peace and personal power.
@brittanyolson31125 жыл бұрын
My mother in law was trying to destroy my marriage. we tried for many years but finally had to walk way from the relationship as well. has improved our life so much... sad...But true!
@StephenDoty845 жыл бұрын
@@brittanyolson3112 Good for you! I know a mother who pretends she's married to her son not to her husband. The husband feels replaced and sad. The son is stuck without a girlfriend even though he's in his 30's now. Some moms cling. She probably still wants to give him a bath and change his diaper. ;)
@brittanyolson31125 жыл бұрын
Stephen Doty Thank You! I know it was extremely hard on my husband she most definitely is /was jealous of me just for being his wife. She even went as far as being disrespectful to my child ... he is 6. I could never understand why until I started doing research into this topic.
@StephenDoty845 жыл бұрын
@@brittanyolson3112 Good move. I am constantly amazed at the amount of human sorrow and misery that comes from trying to get along with "family" just because they are "family." It's a trap. I cut off relations with backstabbers and bad-mouthers and envious, negative influences, whether they are related to me or not. And I encourage others to do the same. Your own private role models are your own inner peer group, I think. They feel more like family too. ;)
@Sasbie654 жыл бұрын
Asking narcissists to 'walk in your shoes' translates as weakness. They'll go for the verbal kill. They're predators, we're prey.
@NANOGOODdisc2 жыл бұрын
They are truly
@stellaspeacegh Жыл бұрын
Very well said
@bobsidog6 жыл бұрын
How to speak to a narcissist? Read a letter over their grave explaining their abuses - it would have the same affect on them as telling them in person. But at least this time you would know why they were ignoring you.
@auntyabby10516 жыл бұрын
Wow for reals? That hopeless
@Love4life5275 жыл бұрын
😁😂😃😄😅, sadly you are right.
@BrunaX55 жыл бұрын
Best comment!
@joelee58755 жыл бұрын
lol
@damienokane78385 жыл бұрын
bob si dog so true...ive said this to people before. ...At least if their dead they finally would have to listen to me...we could have a conversation .
@Ashleyroseheart8 жыл бұрын
Every. Single. Time. Turns every conversation around to themselves. Lack of empathy is so apparent if you have the unfortunate experience of knowing them well.
@quondamchoir66158 жыл бұрын
Yep
@greghammond74168 жыл бұрын
+Gabby Richards wife of this guy above so sorry for you!
@nicoaramarcel21777 жыл бұрын
Anonymous Follower Exactly
@richardsalazar24757 жыл бұрын
Anonymous Follower I totally agree.
@DerrickthePinecone7 жыл бұрын
Always, always, always!
@momozuke27575 жыл бұрын
My dad is a narcissist. Growing up with someone who lacked any empathy was very difficult, especially during times when I would get bullied at school instead of empathizing with my suffering he would blame it on me. "I bet people don't like you because YOU'RE the one who's an awful person." "It's your fault that person kicked you and called you ugly because you didn't kick them back." The advice in this video is very sound, and has been the only way I can ever communicate with him without feeling like I'm losing my mind.
@sarge6283 Жыл бұрын
My egg donor is a narcissist and it has been the most damaging thing ever.
@nobullshiit56824 жыл бұрын
Having a conversation with a narcissist always ends in the conversation being about themselves ..
@fumarate12 жыл бұрын
or in an argument
@voxnihili70976 жыл бұрын
Mine is always nice to other people, just mean to me.
@Pumpkin0_06 жыл бұрын
That's exactly what they do. I discovered recently that my father and older brother are heavily narcissistic. Father passed on the traits to his older son. Whenever someone from outside the family appears, they turn into angels with melodic voices who act like they're victims of their own created circumstances. Then behind closed doors, they show their devil sides like professional Olympians, and NO ONE outside ever knows who they are without the mask. They even put on their masks to other people right in front of you, not caring that you know exactly who they are, you're just not telling the person anything. They're amazing actors. But try to make them look bad in front of those people, which I've done before with a heated head, and that's when you finally pierce through their stone hearts.
@TheMaoverbaugh6 жыл бұрын
Abusive narcissist.
@TanTan-ni4mg6 жыл бұрын
Hmmm... The way you say "mine is..." with emphasis on "MINE" leads one to think you may be projecting.
@Pumpkin0_06 жыл бұрын
Tan Tan One thing I think everyone should learn is not to interpret what other people are saying unless it's obvious through their tone of voice or they say it themselves. Way too many people these days analyze what others say as if they can read minds and look for hidden meanings in their words for some odd reason. Don't bother doing that, because you don't know what that person meant by "Mine," and there's no emphasis on "Mine," otherwise that word would be written in all Caps. That comment doesn't actually lead anyone to think anything but what is written on it. Never make a movie in your head that doesn't exist.
@missesraisin6 жыл бұрын
Clinical Psychopath, That's a difficult one because you cannot be to blame for everything the world does to that person. We are the punching bag.
@mariekelly11756 жыл бұрын
They’re liars and always say they’re victims. They’re like zombies with no souls. Serious. They have no feelings but only for themselves.
@skidamarinkadinkadink95805 жыл бұрын
Dead on correct
@susiecam10335 жыл бұрын
Wood chippers would work just fine for these mind bending fu* ks!!! It's ALL about them always.
@inspirationalimpressionsin4655 жыл бұрын
And, this is why I hurt them every chance I get. You wanna play? No problem, let us play! I frustrate them, because at some point I stop giving a damn..." Plain, and simple!"
@Digitalhunny5 жыл бұрын
My EX-husband, does see why he should pay child support... there's nothing in it for him! Has never purchased gifts for his children (2 of them), claims he has no money. However, he _does_ go out & spend hundreds of dollars on cocaine to make _himself_ feel better?? Wonders why his children hate talking to him on the phone. It's all about him. *sigh
@chall53355 жыл бұрын
Digitalhunny Then take this advice on how to speak with them.
@addisonstar1414 жыл бұрын
Narcissistic “personality” is literally how I imagine a demon would behave if it were just released from Hell and manifested itself as human. Even the “way” he teaches you to “deal” with them (looking them confidently in their eyes, not being passive, avoiding their tricks [wtf?], etc.) is exactly how someone would expect to deal with a demon...think about it.🔥👿😆
@ks57094 жыл бұрын
that is very true cause when I was married to a narcissistic husband the one time we were intimate and the last time we were I looked at him and all I could see was the devil in his eyes and soul peering down at me. I said get off of me and never were we intimate again or slept in the same bed.
@Katlick4 жыл бұрын
Hahah, this is so spot on
@Josee20303 жыл бұрын
Amen to that! That's the way I used to see my ex husband. Like he was possessed by a demon 😈
@Despeville3 жыл бұрын
Very true and these people are in fact frequently demonized.
@kathrin96743 жыл бұрын
interesting. I efer to my narcissist sometimes as " like a demon", too.
@RKWWWW5 жыл бұрын
Unless you have a strong, committed familial tie to the narcissist, the best way to handle them is to completely disassociate yourself from them just as soon as you discover that they are narcissistic. They can be very vengeful, so make this break from them in a subtle, non-confrontational way.
@akent63935 жыл бұрын
What if one of them is your parent? 🙄😐😫
@lindagarcia63275 жыл бұрын
RKWWW Good thing i don't have a strong familial tie with my Narcissistic sister ( 7 years younger than me) I left home when i was 14 y/o for an entirely different reason and never looked back. Found out my now 51 y/ o sister is a covert Narcisisst. She is TOXIC and avoid her lkke a plague since 4 yrs ago now
@zoehill37945 жыл бұрын
When you have a strong familial tie, it’s harder to “cut them out entirely”. But it’s still up to you - if you have to do it for a time, no one can tell you you can’t- they will try though. It’s an opportunity to learn boundaries. But it’s really hard. Worth it to learn personal boundaries. Helps in all aspects of life.
@ks57094 жыл бұрын
my former is vengeful
@l.m.f.g.60154 жыл бұрын
Unless what? CONTACT CERO to all of them. This is the way without doubt
@jackinthebox61438 жыл бұрын
How to speak to a narcissist: DON'T.
@Anna-ql9gl8 жыл бұрын
lol
@ben_s738 жыл бұрын
True. CUT THEM OFF. They are ALWAYS looking for a way IN in order to subjugate and massage their own ego.
@smurfmama20208 жыл бұрын
NO CONTACT.. grey rock. silence..
@LynASullivan8 жыл бұрын
I agree however this is great advice if you are working with one
@5winder8 жыл бұрын
Amen... once they show you their demon(s)... stay away from them.
@lisarice44026 жыл бұрын
You simply avoid them at all costs. Malignant narcissists are extremely dangerous. You can very easily tell once you have been damaged by one - it is nothing you forget.
@roberthearne31336 жыл бұрын
Lisa Rice you and you are Narcissus
@carlabunn11346 жыл бұрын
Lisa Rice , exactly. No matter how you speak to a narcissist, they will turn everything around to be right. I know, my sister is a narcissist and the less I have to do with her, the better.
@BrickShitHouse-kn5pm6 жыл бұрын
Carla Bunn amen to that. My sister is an evil narcissist. She treats her husband like trash.
@meggi80486 жыл бұрын
its so convenient to call out everyone a narcist to just not have to handle the argument. when you call others narcists chances are very big you are yourself a big one!
@Midnight_Metro6 жыл бұрын
meggi Chances are very big? Based on what?
@bluesageful5 жыл бұрын
An older gentleman once told me: " If you want to know what kind of person you're dealing with, whether on a date or a business meeting....watch how they talk to their server in a restaurant, or in any service related industry, in that setting people tend to reveal their 'true selves'"
@molightandlove5 жыл бұрын
Facts!!!
@bradhornbuckle9935 жыл бұрын
That's interesting
@foolishcoyote.5 жыл бұрын
Wow!!! Excellent observation.
@lindahandley52675 жыл бұрын
I would call them out on it.
@cherrytop96165 жыл бұрын
That is so true, if they're rude to a server, DEALBREAKER!!!!
@zoehill37945 жыл бұрын
Also, thank you for recognizing the less sensationalized narcissist. It’s validating to hear about levels of narcissism that are not overwhelmingly abusive or malignant. Over time or being raised by a covert narcissist has very demoralizing affects and the loss of self is hard to recognize because the abuse is not as obvious.
@n233916 жыл бұрын
There is no conversation with a narcissist. They dominate everything.
@GaryMcKinnonUFO6 жыл бұрын
Absolutely, if they look down on everyone elses opinions then there's no point expressing opinions to them.
@vickibuoy96546 жыл бұрын
Narcissistic people do not want to have a conversation, they Lecture.
@Cupcake406 жыл бұрын
Yes, Everything!!!! Even sex.... this gives me chills! Now, I get it
@sensitiveone83056 жыл бұрын
They believe that they are never wrong and have no respect for other people’s opinions.
@lilkittygirl6 жыл бұрын
That's completely untrue. Everyone here needs to re-evaluate themselves and instead of attacking others perhaps they can take a moment to actually learn and understand how to deal with people. There is no conversation if you are an idiot. Simple
@kellystone15357 жыл бұрын
I'm no doctor but my personal experience of these types is that the only empathy they are capable of is self-empathy.
@planetlizz6 жыл бұрын
They lead a miserable life. They were shunned as children. Robbed of a happy, healthy chilhood. They resent you if you have fond memories of yours. As adults ... no, as children living in grown-up bodies, they feel so cheated, and are so unhappy that they cannot stand to see others happy. They ascertain who is the weak & make their move, and the life-cycle of the narcissist starts again.
@crystalheart96 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh, you said it. My mother was cold hearted and cruel to me and hurt me constantly. The smallest thing anyone would say to her she would cry and want pity for her hurt feelings. I thought how can you come to me for comfort when you treat me in such a horrible way?
@dogzentraining6 жыл бұрын
*Self-pity :P
@cherylstevens9766 жыл бұрын
poppycock
@musicman597533986 жыл бұрын
There is no such thing as self empathy, by definition! Empathy: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another
@tracey67685 жыл бұрын
I have several narcissists...family!! My mother, brother and daughter.....dear Lord...I've had to extricate myself from their lives....i miss them but I don't have the stress in my life. ..
@neverwhere13914 жыл бұрын
Tracey Mixon same! A family full of Narcissists is a blasted nightmare. I cut some out 16 years ago and it’s GREAT! They are twisted souls, with no remorse. And they love to play games. No contact has been wonderful.
@debbierabe17564 жыл бұрын
I know what you mean. How sad. I just realized today that my son is a narcissist. Ive done so much for him and when i stopped helping him out he treated me like dirt.Thought I'd give him the tough love thing. Talking to me in such hurtful ways. I feel like i have a knife in my heart, and the hurt just doesnt go away. He never apologizes. My older sister has been this way for years never taking blame, or never admits any wrong doings. I walked away from her, but its hard to do that with my son. : (😥😔
@mandybarlow4 жыл бұрын
@@debbierabe1756 😪 let him go, its best for both of you. Not your fault. He will be okay. And so will you. If not, seek counselling ❤
@renukannan44404 жыл бұрын
Yes same here now I hv my daughter in law added to the list n I find my son is also little bit same where to find peace it's difficult I find so many of them in this world now being with these ppl I feel I m also going to include my self to the list for dealing with for so many years u hv had the opportunity to run but I can't not possible
@marumonogatari18404 жыл бұрын
@@iniubongnkanga9390 I wouldn't disply his personal info like that while also mentioning that he's a hacker doing probably not 100% legal stuff all the time. Plus he could get prank calls etc, I'd really delete that and just say that people can ask you for his info. :)
@gretagarbolini87214 жыл бұрын
I don't know how I managed to live so long having never encountered, or spent enough time to recognize, a narcissist. To those on this thread who have successfully extricated yourselves, bravo. To those still trying, I send you hope and comfort and prayers you will soon be free and happy.
@zenman59108 жыл бұрын
This will work with people with inflated egos, but any conversation you have with a true narcissist will only be used against you later. Refuse to deal with them and delete them from your life, they are broken, dangerous, and not real human beings.
@oppressednolonger14978 жыл бұрын
Spoken like a boss. (Or someone that gets it better than some of the "professionals" ... )
@blondego568 жыл бұрын
*sigh* i married one four years ago... at the time it seemed as if he is just quite opinionated.... dont want to separate... must bite the bullet, pray alot, and learn 😯
@zenman59108 жыл бұрын
blondago56 I was married to one for nine years, that was ten years too long, and it took twenty years off my life. just sayin...
@Stellabyestarlight8 жыл бұрын
AMEN
@Mr13wonderboy777 жыл бұрын
you can't delete your boss when you've been with a company for 10+ years. The techniques described in this video have worked efficiently in allowing me to stay employed with even the worst of employers. In other cases, yes I agree, no contact is the best path to your salvation, but that isn't always an option.
@creekwoodjoe16076 жыл бұрын
What a trap to love someone dearly and feel empathy for them; when out of the blue, they crush you.
@susiecam10335 жыл бұрын
Yep, going through that right now. It's devastating.
@ASJacob5 жыл бұрын
My fckn mother! 😕
@mineduck30505 жыл бұрын
Yes sir. That's exactly what happened to me. Goddamn.
@goodpuss37125 жыл бұрын
@@susiecam1033 yea.. My partner...It hurts we have 2 kids together.
@joannaferrara58845 жыл бұрын
They always crush you
@richdiorio36504 жыл бұрын
Love your videos! I've realized that you can't even talk to a narcissist because they will turn everything around or lie so you can't even have a conversation with them.
@laurabower55774 жыл бұрын
having a conversation with a narcissist is like wrestling with an alligator.
@tiffanyyeh54624 жыл бұрын
Laura Bower lol so true!!
@jekpulido53434 жыл бұрын
I soooo relate.
@dontbelongherefromanotherp98074 жыл бұрын
They are not great listeners and speak over you when talking. They also deflect and jump from topic to topic. When trying to get clarification, they constantly ramble, leaving you more confused
@sallylemon58354 жыл бұрын
You can overrule them only once you earn Steve Irwins skills and strength.
@dontbelongherefromanotherp98074 жыл бұрын
Worst, I think
@solemgameinsights6 жыл бұрын
IF they're narcissists, asking them to "put themselves in your position" probably wouldn't work. Narcissists lack empathy and thus tend to say "That's your problem, not mine".
@alicegharibjanians14495 жыл бұрын
Since day one, every problem with his nasty family has been put on me! He has to share not part in it. Thank heaven I have faith, love and trust in the Lord, otherwise who knows where I could have been. Hang in there and keep strong. Don’t let them win. They are idiots. Even animals feel you, how can a human be so low...
@skidamarinkadinkadink95805 жыл бұрын
Trust me, it doesn't. It's either flat out ignored or completely DARVO'd to make them the victim.
@merrelltheperil5 жыл бұрын
@@alicegharibjanians1449 they sick in head I guess, forgive cos not their fault but protect yourself and others.
@merrelltheperil5 жыл бұрын
@@skidamarinkadinkadink9580 what's darvo'd, not heard of that expression.?..thanks
@martapiotrowska17015 жыл бұрын
True
@marleeshore13875 жыл бұрын
“Their suffering towers above anyone else’s” Word
@marleeshore13873 жыл бұрын
Oscar Williamson Omg thank you love. Fortunately no I am not
@oscarwilliamson12643 жыл бұрын
@@marleeshore1387 you are welcome my dearest 🌹🌷🌷🥀🥀🌹🌷🌷.I'm Oscar Williamson from the States ❤️.You?
@oscarwilliamson12643 жыл бұрын
@@marleeshore1387 which country are you from?
@tebafanthroughnthrough60894 жыл бұрын
To those commenters which speak to saying "goodbye" or leaving or getting away from the narcissist, please be mindful that this is not always possible! Its great advice if it works out like that, but not everyone is in a place to escape. Thank you for this video from those of us who aren't quite able to say "goodbye" to our narcissistic affiliations at this time! It is helpful!
@oscarwilliamson12644 жыл бұрын
TE BAfanthrough,you got a pretty smile ☺️ lol😁 🤙
@SouLightness7 ай бұрын
I live beside my ex in a granny flat in his property. Theres a huge housing crisis and i have parkinsons. Together with my old dog....i have to find strategies. Thank you for your information. Bless
@Jesscention4 жыл бұрын
I would say the best way to deal with a narcissist is to never talk to them, EVER. Leave them and never go back. End of story.
@nathaliedufour38916 жыл бұрын
Mother malignant narc. Father enabler. Brother golden child. I survived. 55 years old and slowly healing. A life wasted.
@mgal62346 жыл бұрын
Nathalie Dufour not wasted. You are young...go live. Be good to yourself.
@dinspired4606 жыл бұрын
Same here. Although my mom is the enabler, father narc. Brother is the “golden child.” I’m 41 and just beginning to educate myself about how to deal with all the trauma.
@rohinimalhotra69316 жыл бұрын
I'm in mourning too...6 weeks till my 40th birthday and I've just developed boundaries through mindfulness. Am out of the fog but so very sad at the waste and loss.
@johnscanlan63376 жыл бұрын
Nathalie Dufour Please don't consider your life a waste - that's what narcissists want. I had an extremely narcissistic mother who made a point of telling everyone at my brother's funeral that she was looking forward to watch the last episode of MASH on TV that night! People like our mothers are highly destructive but you can choose not to be destroyed by them - it really can be done!!!
@mimilikankkunen48656 жыл бұрын
Our worth doesn't come from people, but God the father. He created you, and only He can heal you. My husband is a son of narcissist parents, and it hasn't been easy. Healing takes time. But none of us is a mistake.
@rc92726 жыл бұрын
U can't have a relationship w a narcissist. One of the best moments in my life was when I told my narc sister that I really didn't care what she thought about anything...
@damienokane78385 жыл бұрын
Rob C exactly! ! Took me awhile but when I finally realised what had been going on my whole life..."I've seen your true colours GET OUT OF MY HOUSE!!"
@tomaskuli1775 жыл бұрын
I just stopped talking to mine. My life has improved greatly. No more hurt feelings. Took me decades to realize she doesn't love me, her mother, her brothers. Finally, came to understand why they including her mother, were always angry with her. I thought it was just me. She loves her daughter and grandchildren but I'm guessing as possessions. Perhaps the closest she can feel to "love". Nothing that happens to you can she relate to unless it happens to her later and then she gets it. No empathy. Frankly, I think she's a sociopath, but when she's pulling something she actually seems nervous about it (getting caught), so she doesn't quite fit the definition. On the other hand I think all she could think about with our terminal cancer brother was why didn't he just die already, for the insurance he left her daughter. Too far to visit (30 miles) when he was alive, but in his house looking for the insurance policy while the corpse was still warm. Narcissism with a little sociopathy thrown in???? That was when I was done. Oh, and she raided his house for all the stuff. Loves money and stuff over people.
@davebander97305 жыл бұрын
Yeah, great!!!
@kaarenlewis18205 жыл бұрын
Damien Okane e q
@eileenhey.21215 жыл бұрын
What was her reaction?
@puffkitty0075 жыл бұрын
1,5k narcissists disliked this video.
@86thislove5 жыл бұрын
Or the advice wasn’t helpful.
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@M60gunner19715 жыл бұрын
Lol
@crystalmarriott5004 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@averagebodybuilder4 жыл бұрын
@@iniubongnkanga9390 oh that's not narcissistic
@blossom62355 жыл бұрын
once a narcissist always a narcissist they will never change
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@rickyrickardo49135 жыл бұрын
Very true! In fact I believe they get worse with age!
@TheSean75644 жыл бұрын
Several psychologists who treated my ex-wife, who we made every attempt to "rescue", told me the same thing
@neverwhere13914 жыл бұрын
Grace Jegels absolutely true! They will exhaust you if you try to help them. Just walk away.
@teresap.59916 жыл бұрын
You can't win a conversation or argument with them and walking on egg shells around them constantly can get very old. That is a codependant trait. I will avoid talking to them at all. Be careful they will pump you for any and all information about you and your life. Twist it and use it against you in a shocking moment of anger. Best to completely pull out of the relationship when possible. Even if it's a family member.
@nikir91776 жыл бұрын
Teresa Pedicone Yes. I agree. After a lifetime growing up with a narcissistic and sociopathic mother, I FINALLY freed myself for good. I had to move out of state to do it and get away from her. Then I had to block her on the internet and phone/cellphone. I tried everything I could for years to mend the relationship and make it respectful/equal, but nope. She enjoyed controlling and emotionally tearing me (and many other people, both family and friends). I grieved that I never had a mother, and I never will. What I've had to do to make it a little easier when my emotions/thoughts come up, is pretend that I'm an orphan. I felt like that all my life, so it was easier to think of things that way. I wasted too much of my life with these failed attempts that ended up with her emotionally (and when I was a kid, physically) abusing me. I'm living away from everything and everyone I've ever known now. Just me and my cat. Trust has been broken so much that I struggle with it still. I mainly just keep to myself.
@lizachen59706 жыл бұрын
Man...My mouth just dropped open! You just completely described 'this person'.....thanks for the advice.
@walkingnarrow85746 жыл бұрын
Jora Kitty - Same, except the narcissist was my father. My mother was so codependent that she neglected me. I was extremely blessed to have had a grandmother, or I would have had no one growing up and likely would have turned more inward than I have. I, too, have found that coming to the realization that I am essentially living as an orphan does - without parents in their life - is better for my mental health. They behave as though I don't exist, so it's become easier to just pretend that they aren't there, either. Otherwise, I'd live like a broken-hearted person, which was how I did live until the last 10 years, and feel that I have no value. But I *do* have value, and so do you.
@artworkfats6 жыл бұрын
Teresa Pedicone I like your profile picture.
@ehiskhaleradio6 жыл бұрын
Teresa Pedicone i have experienced it ..very through. You can't win them when it comes to argument.
@garyinmarz89385 жыл бұрын
so at the end of the day, a narcissist is like a young spoil brat that is use to getting it's way
@cheekychops18004 жыл бұрын
But evil and cruel and totally out for himself
@benski984 жыл бұрын
@@cheekychops1800 not always, I try be open and tell people, at the end, I don't believe I'm too different. Everyone does things that benefit them in some way.
@prachibhattarai38333 жыл бұрын
Young spoiled brats are not that cruel,n manipulative ...
@garyinmarz89383 жыл бұрын
@@prachibhattarai3833 lol,, maybe until they get a bit older once they’ve reached the point of no return
@kathrin96743 жыл бұрын
yeah sort of. But a brat will have empathy.
@TheSubygirl5 жыл бұрын
I used to describe interaction with my father was like trying to nail jello to a wall. When he started targeting my son I cut contact. Best decision I've made regarding him.
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@michelleburkholder25475 жыл бұрын
I'm sick of these messed up people who have no ability to love or be loved. I don't have to put up with them, my mother is a sociopath. No contact. They are soulless not human.
@rg2027x5 жыл бұрын
Like walking dead (with tombstones in their eyes). Though they can fake being nice and charming. It's all an act..pretending. Love is a tool they use to con people.
@radiojet14297 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your video. Individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder cannot be fixed. There is nothing to fix. They are a shell with zero inner workings. Everything is surface. There is no empathy nor compassion to be found within these types. They are relentlessly selfish and self-serving. The only effective way to deal with them is to remove yourself completely with zero contact in the future, unless there are extraordinary circumstances, like shared children. Leave your narcissist today and don't look back.
@StepsforChange7 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your comment. In my work with people, I have found that so many people have those "extraordinary circumstances" and can't get away.
@tiche7186 жыл бұрын
"Extraordinary circumstances" equate to excuses. You are doing your patients a disservice by encouraging them to continue to take the abuse. I hope you are not a narc and that you take all the comments left on this page, REAL LIFE comments, quit ignoring all these people who are victims of narc abuse and LISTEN. Not everything comes from books, there is a great deal to be said about life experiences of which you clearly have none in this area.
@jandrews62546 жыл бұрын
They dont need to be fixed, they are always right. Which means that everyone else is always wrong. If you’d just do what they tell you, there wouldn’t be a problem
@jenlove38666 жыл бұрын
Aztlan Mike I agree. No contact. Eliminate toxic acid
@skidamarinkadinkadink95805 жыл бұрын
@@tiche718 I can't like this enough.
@karen330998 жыл бұрын
Narcissists are a breed all by themselves. I am done trying. why would one waste their energy on them. I have for 64 years. And I am so done. These are cruel people who take pleasure in ones hurt. No thanks!
@snugbug50676 жыл бұрын
Karen Loeffler please don't give up ! Keep trying. Their are good people out their.
@TheGirlinTheMask6 жыл бұрын
Mine is my son! He is soon to be 35 years old. I was clueless until he had his son and then purposely made sure to bring me into his life, to take him away, just as suddenly and then sent me a CERTIFIED letter, to inform me that I am no longer family. Long story, but I agree - Do NOT waste your energy on them (even if it is your own child)!!!
@TheGirlinTheMask6 жыл бұрын
Awwwww thanks! It has been several years now. But, in the beginning it was like mourning a death. I suddenly came to realize that my son wasn't who I had fooled myself to him being. The signs were all there, but I choose to ignore them. My husband saw them, but he isn't his father, so it was hard for him to say anything. THANKFULLY I have my husband who treats me very well. I came to realize and understand that my ex-husband fed poison to my son and his relatives (who I foolishly believed was family to me). Just a few years ago, my ex-sister-in-law who I thought we were still always friends all these years, informed me (after I refused to give her son a few thousands dollars for his debt) that she NEVER thought of me as family and then suddenly informed me that I was a "deadbeat mother" and she literally had a dollar amount that she felt I owed my ex-husband (mind you, we purchased the home they lived in, I bought five cars for my son throughout the years, and we would hire my ex-husband if he was ever out of work, to make sure that he was making money). I never in a million years would have believed that if one treats others as they would like to be treated, that the exact opposite would happen. I was blind! I think I am finally at the acceptance stage, but I still break down and cry and sometimes think/hope that my son will come around (as all the outsiders insist on telling me will happen). I know with my head that it is a lost cause and I will never know my grandson. And, my son will certainly never be the same person to me.
@amyong46776 жыл бұрын
bob miller i think she married one.
@ellej69855 жыл бұрын
Hi there, I was wondering if you could help me with something. I'm trying to figure out if my father is a narc. I'm 80% certain he is but I can't seem to trust myself. However, the thing that got me searching was the realisation that he is constantly lying about things there's no need (in my mind) to lie about. Alcohol, for example. On holiday he gets tipsy to drunk 5/7 nights, but he next day will say he was poorly dehydrated. And my sister caught him looking through my phone so I went upstairs to confront him, and at first he actually tried denying it even though he had my phone in his hands. Later, he told my sister off for 'snitching' and 'making things up.' Does this sound like a narcissist to you? I just need second opinions please. Thanks
@desert_moon5 жыл бұрын
I once asked my husband to please put himself in my shoes and try to see where I was coming from. His response blew me away. He said the only shoes he was putting himself into were his own.
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@M60gunner19715 жыл бұрын
You just keep repeating that.
@marilyngriffin41834 жыл бұрын
sounds so familiar...
@christined9794 жыл бұрын
I hear that ALL the time ! I don't even bother to try to understand him anynore I'm married for 20 yrs now
@oscarwilliamson12644 жыл бұрын
@@marilyngriffin4183 hope you are not with a narc 🙄!
@Aekdoteenchar5 жыл бұрын
I'm dealing with a narcissistic family ! The whole lot of them are cut out from the same cloth. I haven't slept well in months. I'm so stressed for such a long time that I can't think straight. I was a sweet and loving person, sympathizing with people, thinking goodness changes people ... it doesn't Been 3 years nothing changed. Anything I saw is held against me. The "blame shifting" is a constant thing in every conversation. I have a toddler. I can't just walk out. I feel like their toxins are getting to me I'm constantly sad and my mind is fuzzy. I can relate to every word you say. I almost has a mental breakdown because of never getting heard and always every attempt I tried to have a conversation to sort things, was turned around into a blame . You can't simply walkout on your in-laws, can you ! Specially if you have kids. I wish I could disappear. Run away and never come back but my kid might blame me when she grows up.
@meleshenko37675 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. Greg for not endorsing a competition with the narcissist. I have to deal with one every day at work and want effective boundaries without losing empathy myself. The battle, it seems, is to not become like them.
@mettabee7 жыл бұрын
I was almost 40 before I learned how to set boundaries with my mom, these are impossible people to be around.
@sharonsOff6 жыл бұрын
Sharon truth...I'm 47 just started to learn
@rohinimalhotra69316 жыл бұрын
Sharon same situation as you at the same age as you
@888alp6 жыл бұрын
I had a nervous breakdown on my 40th and thats when i realised my mum is a narcissist. I learnt to set boundaries with my mum, i have no contact now with her 4 months now. She is very stubborn.
@rg2027x5 жыл бұрын
_"How to speak to a narcissist"_ *Don't.* Fart instead
@ciscocisco61193 жыл бұрын
Lol yes im goin to vomit.
@rg2027x3 жыл бұрын
puke is also extremely effective 😂 🤮
@dlyteeats38682 жыл бұрын
lol the loudest fart in the room lol
@robinburleson40992 жыл бұрын
Or belch
@pinkopallinu90842 жыл бұрын
LOL
@RicardoPicena5 жыл бұрын
I’m a narcissistic human BUT very empathetic & self aware of my tendencies as well. I do understand his way of explaining and being that language shapes perception you need a label to explain the characteristics of human tendencies. Being that we are the awareness, once we become self aware of that, the true change & characteristic of the individual will Come if they choose to. “The difference between a social path & someone who’s highly aware, is the intention behind this actions” -Rp
@fmills15836 жыл бұрын
look a narcissist straight in the eye and say, "I hey gotta go, bye".
@allisonhamilton94816 жыл бұрын
Literally this is the best way to deal with a narcissist. When my mother starts to act up, this is my "go to" sentence.
@annar.53416 жыл бұрын
F Mills i did that with my mom.
@annar.53416 жыл бұрын
F Mills btw I’m 46 and still trying to deal with her fallout
@rawreiki6 жыл бұрын
I have done that, it didn't work. I actually said "Well, time for some cycling".. He immediately put up a fight calling me crazy to want to exercise right after launch. No, a fight is not the right word, because I didn't even have a chance to participate, so it's actually an attack. He started shouting alone, out of the blue (because he knew he was losing his victim right when he needed it). He was literally screaming out of his lungs. To the point that my ears were ringing.
@oldgit42606 жыл бұрын
Never to return? That's what I done
@ctcarraway16 жыл бұрын
Hint # 1 They will NEVER say "I WAS WRONG" Only took me 44 years of hearing fake "I'm Sorry" Ask the person "Every believe you were WRONG?" Their Answer "Why?" And "NO!" Then Run for your life ASAP!
@sharonsOff6 жыл бұрын
Cassandra Todd Carraway if it's a parent and they come close to any kind of apology it's followed with a ...."but..." ALWAYS going to point the finger back at you, never take responsibility for hurting you, and will make sure to come out the victim and Victor every time
@kristinatidwell65634 жыл бұрын
I've got a daughter in law whose favorite thing to say is, "what will you do for me?" I've started asking her the same question just to show her the road is a 2 way street.
@disabledbabe4 жыл бұрын
This works too but you end up not liking the person you have become in the long run by trying to be on their level of deprivation, sadism and arrogance etc.
@Bea7683 жыл бұрын
@@disabledbabe That is the best idea, simply show people that they will get what they give. It also shows them that we see their actions and behaviour for what it is and it's empowering for us. As for not liking the person, we usually don't like people who make us feel disempowered so empowering ourselves is the key.
@silvastian3 жыл бұрын
@@disabledbabe that’s a fairytale sentiment.. the honest truth is yes you can stoop down to their level real quick and kill them at their own game.. then you turn it off and go back to being a normal person.. how tf are you going to tell me to run away from another human are you serious??
@misschievous50715 жыл бұрын
How about just NOT dealing with them? Being gracious to them means having to be strong as hell all the time. Nothing works. Not one damn thing except total avoidance.
@notafool31784 жыл бұрын
......And impeachment
@angellacanfora6 жыл бұрын
"...don't be defensive, don't be sarcastic..." Yes! I've learned this the hard way from dealing with my narcissistic parent all my life. I'd also add that narcissists don't do well with playful teasing. Most of us, when we feel comfortable with someone, will playfully tease them from time-to-time. It's a show of affection & trust. But in my experience, narcissists don't process playful teasing as such, they take it literally and get upset. If you explain you were just being playful they don't always believe you. Narcissists tend to be on guard, always eager to protect their ego.
@StepsforChange6 жыл бұрын
Very insightful.
@ta39706 жыл бұрын
They can dish it out but they cant take it. Monsters
@joelee58755 жыл бұрын
Angel La Canfora, this so true, it's as if you have to double think all the time, sort of like talking to a child except it just isn't cute God , they just don't get it, here's a quote I hear many times a day. Me: " You've got a point" etc. etc. - Narc. "Of course it's true, I said it" What a load of bullshit.
@carminad70375 жыл бұрын
Angel La Canfora ‘
@joelee58755 жыл бұрын
Absolutely right, I've had the same experience., it's like a mental shortcoming.
@goodwellinc6 жыл бұрын
Never ask them a question. You give them power when you do.
@realfresh85245 жыл бұрын
Give them facts, when replying. And keep iT short . Let them know youre not easy to just play around with..
@levinitabarlow18375 жыл бұрын
Thank you i needed this
@beachtraveller21545 жыл бұрын
Cuz they can't think to answer a question. It's the weirdest thing to think these ppl can't or won't converse to live a life of deep joy. Sad existence.
@Monica-iq6wk5 жыл бұрын
So true never , never
@StephenDoty845 жыл бұрын
Some talk about themselves int the third person, as in, "No, Jane Doe doesn't roll like that. I need to work on my brand, the whole Jane Doe enterprises idea, in case I get products to sponsor or sell in my name some day."
@theminimalistgirl4 жыл бұрын
My mother in law is a narcissist. I have been trying to say things more confidently and being indifferent about my feelings. Before I used to feel victimized now I know the problem is not part of me. This has helped a lot thank you.
@VideoAssociates4 жыл бұрын
I have found that traveling with a narcissist on a trip can be difficult. They seem to want schedules that suit their needs right through from dating needs to tourist attractions
@spark_ling13794 жыл бұрын
They travel especially just for the purpose of showing off and to make others jealous.
@VideoAssociates4 жыл бұрын
@@spark_ling1379 great point, show off factor of possessions to lifestyle and grandeur is a big facet
@fumarate12 жыл бұрын
and if your driving and start taking your own route they will say in sarcastic voice where! are! you! going!
@whynottalklikeapirat6 жыл бұрын
How to speak to a narcissist: "Bye now"
@rubystern66578 жыл бұрын
I do not believe they don't know what they're doing because much if not all of it is premeditated and well thought out. Also my brother and both parents are narcissists. 2 overt 1 covert. They don't care how u feel, u can talk till ur blue in the face. They don't care if they destroy ur life, the only one that matters to them is them. No contact is the best method.
@IdiosyncraticJourneys8 жыл бұрын
agree!
@jonahsuttles94398 жыл бұрын
No, his definition is spot on, your parents are sociopaths. THEY KONW WHAT THEIR DOING. A Narcissist can truly psychologically not. This is widely accepted in the psychological community.
@glassrune84658 жыл бұрын
I don't know. I think Narcs have some self-awareness. They just don't care.
@rayblue19438 жыл бұрын
They don't care about you, every situation they are in is about being on top, not just with you. That is their (sole) motivation.
@lindamazur61248 жыл бұрын
I agree ,they are aware of what they are doing . the goal is to control and if that doesn't work insert as much torture and pain as possible to the target . they aren't stupid ! they are crazy ,mean ,and toxic .
@alicialovesgaming5 жыл бұрын
"No I didnt" "No it doesn't" "That never happened" "I never said/did that" "Nuh-uh"
@aamm21885 жыл бұрын
Typical. Its no point in reasoning with them. Its almost impossible.
@alicialovesgaming5 жыл бұрын
...and when I have a weak moment of self doubt, I remember how floored I was when I discovered how EXACTLY SPOT ON these descriptions/testimonies were compared to my situation. Word? So ALLLLL of us jus feelin sorry for ourselves? FOH lol p.s. "nailing jello to a tree" made me giggle idk why specifically that one I think the visual in my head maybe 💁😂😂
@M60gunner19715 жыл бұрын
Jim Jones packed fudge.
@ninalukenich25584 жыл бұрын
Alicia Parker amen
@ScireMi4 жыл бұрын
That's called gaslighting. And djt is the king of gaslighting.
@stevepd14 жыл бұрын
How can you ask a narc to "put yourself in my situation"? This is impossible for the narc and exactly what they will ask of you.
@xander7ful8 жыл бұрын
A narcissist is incapable of putting himself or herself in your place. Not possible.
@flacisebulcivike84037 жыл бұрын
Xander Taylor wrong!
@dontworryaboutit82137 жыл бұрын
right this is bad advice
@lv3947 жыл бұрын
Xander Taylor That's right. When I catch a cold, my husband tells me, "I don't understand how you're sick. I didn't get sick. I never get sick." Oh geez. As much as I try to explain how we are ALL different, he doesn't understand. 🙄
@EmpressofChrist7 жыл бұрын
agree
@Coyotelover1007 жыл бұрын
so... who actually is the narcissist? Why should another even think about you in the first place? Afterall, they are wrapped up in themselves as much as you are wrapped up in yourself. I;m starting to understand what this Atifa stuff is about now. gimme gimme gimme ,,,, but don't take dont take dont take.
@starklingspars89566 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with this. You need to be confident, firm, direct, don't let them get off the topic, repeat yourself if you have to. They do not do empathy. If you cry beg plead ...you could die in front of them and they wouldn't care...it's like a game you need to cut through the bs. The attention span thing so true to. I've been coming to all these conclusions but having them articulated helps a lot.
@nealruth28025 жыл бұрын
It is incredible how many of my neighbors and relatives have just been described here. Trying to have a good conversation is worse than a rectal exam. And afterwards.... the pain from the interaction remains for some time. Thanks for the hints .
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@fumarate12 жыл бұрын
dealing with them is like having hemariods a pain in the ass.
@lisapolkinghorn75315 жыл бұрын
I stumbled upon this video and was so glad that I did. I've read through people's comments here and am grieved that there are so many that have given up on narcissistic people. Although, I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND! One of my son's is married to one of these types and it has caused so much pain in the family! This video helped me to see my very own son (not the married son) who is on the brink of adulthood. He can be the sweetest young man in the world, but, honestly, looking back, he was always a narcissist. Had I known more about this before he was even born, I could have changed so much of the way we raised him! I just had no idea that he had this 'disorder'. He is always kind and respectful to the public, but at home and among close friends, he is completely self-centered. I know he loves his parents very much, but he does not have an empathetic thought outside of 5%. This video has given me some ideas, some tools, to perhaps begin to help him before he launches off on his own. If we don't get anywhere, then maybe the US Marine Corps will help. :)
@LetArtsLive5 жыл бұрын
There is no point in talking to a narcissist you will get nowhere
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@irme89304 жыл бұрын
Imagine beeing in a family of narcissists. Quiet dinners turn into war fields.
@johnrobertson21503 жыл бұрын
@@iniubongnkanga9390 Alex Kidd in miracle world
@AprilHare3 жыл бұрын
It only goes on circles and before you know it, several years have passed you by.
@lumpyfishgravy6 жыл бұрын
Narcissists can become cruel when they imagine you have slighted them somehow.
@thereforeayam6 жыл бұрын
Mike Page ...several disorders have that characteristic, though
@reesedaniel58356 жыл бұрын
All those disorders originate from the same corrupt source.
@filobloomz6 жыл бұрын
Exactly Mike Page. They will obsess on you. You will become their number one enemy and their goal will be to completely destroy you
@tbranch746 жыл бұрын
@sasquatch1 **** yep.
@klausrain1116 жыл бұрын
@sasquatch1 **** Are you a narcissist? I don't recall this thread being about you. Believe it or not, nobody cares about your ex.
@michelleswanson90414 жыл бұрын
I’m not tiptoeing around some narcissistic person- They can kiss my behind-! If they want to be a Queen or King -they better go and find someone who wants to be with them because it’s not me-!
@kema10055 жыл бұрын
I found this video interesting and on point. Also found the comments on point as well. The 'talking over' in a conversation, always the 'me me me' conversation, changing the subject when we talk, the victim and tantrums, being nice when they feel like they have to, to get their way, lack of empathy. Overall very sad. I always say you can learn so much by listening ...
@ToyotaGuy19716 жыл бұрын
If you already know what a narcissist is, you can skip to the 4:50 mark.
@bjornhellstrom57166 жыл бұрын
Danke schön, as the germans say! (I'm not german)
@DulceN6 жыл бұрын
ToyotaGuy1971 Thanks!
@christoffer39496 жыл бұрын
thx
@conniemartinez31736 жыл бұрын
You da real MVP 🖒
@Respectations6 жыл бұрын
ToyotaGuy1971 Thank you
@3replybiz6 жыл бұрын
If you are saying that the sociopath is motivated to be cruel but the narcissist has no interest in doing the same thing, I'd have to disagree. Narcissists live to cause distress and generate supply for themselves that way.
@billg95026 жыл бұрын
3replybiz / Impossible to get her out . Nightmare for a empath, nightmare
@snowingsart45686 жыл бұрын
I agree. Narcissist that I dealt with was EXTREMELY cruel and abusive and wrecked havoc at work. THREE people, including me, left because of him! RUN!
@dturner93546 жыл бұрын
3replybiz TRUTH
@dturner93546 жыл бұрын
SNOW WINTER Yeah, i had a narc gf Now have another for the last week. She calls her “ex bf” who she breaks up with regularly in front of me... To see if it hurts me and if she is gaining control over me. She doesn’t understand how i am not hurt. It does hurt, but mostly I am just trying to observe a narc and see how they act. She really is VERY PREDICTABLE....
@garrycartwright30416 жыл бұрын
As a leader, we need to encourage people to achieve goals and advancement . Trump does the opposite . Sad and disheartening.
@sarahe41294 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the tips. My mother is a narcissist, and dealing with her has always been painful. I’ll have to try some of these suggestions.
@oscarwilliamson12644 жыл бұрын
Sarah Fraser,you got a pretty smile ☺️ lol😁 🤙
@Active0Bserver3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! This is useful and realistic advice for handling narcissistic people for those of us who either don’t have the privilege of going no contact, or opt not to.
@lizachen59706 жыл бұрын
"Empathy Deficiency Disorder"......I like that definition, very fitting for narcissists.
@kayadelarenta45545 жыл бұрын
Liza Chen That s a good one !
@alicegharibjanians14495 жыл бұрын
BUT when things go wrong in their lives, they sure beg and get empathy and sympathy everywhere... they NEVER give, they just get, and then forget they were ever needy of course.
@teleroiqueen6 жыл бұрын
Definitely get away from Narcissists... There is no reasoning with them!
@lmorris94364 жыл бұрын
Mine does that all the time. Forgets he actually starts it all every time. They make out you literally just walk up to them and start for no reason, when in reality, it's your reaction to what they deliberately started. It's a helpless feeling, because they also twist everything 🌹🌻
@oksills4 жыл бұрын
The wisdom in these comments is truly amazing This man would do well to copy and use them. This is a priceless compilation of experience and insight. You dear people have described my brother precisely! I am copying ALL of your comments. Thank you commenters, most sincerely. You have all been a blessing to me today. Maranatha!
@AprilHare3 жыл бұрын
You have nothing to prove to him. You know you're correct.
@memoryamethyst45816 жыл бұрын
"Put yourself in my place." "Well, I would never BE in your place" Narcissists know that they are so much better that they are above being in your shoes.
@amazingwonder48136 жыл бұрын
good one
@amazingwonder48136 жыл бұрын
good one
@justinlegault18428 жыл бұрын
I was in a relationship with a narcissist and it was the best but then worst relationship of my life. my intuition was going crazy everyday. trust your intuition and get out of that relationship as soon as you can.narcissists lie, cheat and manipulate and the list goes on and on. I have been discarded and I'm glad it's over. if you are with a narcissist get out now.
@petew98225 жыл бұрын
Interesting qualification: a narcissist will not empathise however a sociopath will. The one is blind to the welfare of others whereas the other deliberately abuses it. I've found that the best way to deal with narcissists is to always speak the truth to them no matter how much it hurts them and never protect them from the consequences of their actions -- allow them to suffer them. They'll probably bite at you for doing this but the crushed ego will benefit them.
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@janorth99864 жыл бұрын
They will only come up with another version to tie you up.
@supbitches70444 жыл бұрын
@@iniubongnkanga9390 mind if i asked you Is it free or payed? Your friend service?
@TriXorcist4 жыл бұрын
Fully agree, and as spiteful as it sounds to say, I'm finally in a position to not care about what the narcissist thinks of me and I ADORE knocking him off of his pedestal. Beautiful thing. Lol ♥️
@silvastian3 жыл бұрын
@@janorth9986 cut it out man these are human beings and they can be made to kneel...
@urbanguy11913 жыл бұрын
I have two narcissists in my life, one is a 50 year old uncle who’s still living with his parents and ruining their retirement as well as hurting everyone who tries to visit their grandparents, parents, etc. The other is a sibling who refuses to acknowledge that we as a family have tried our hardest to help and support them as well as give them advice that could save them lots of emotional pain. All this comes from a dark place of hurt and pain. I can empathize with anyone here who also feels hurt and I’m here for you as well.
@shemiahschene64946 жыл бұрын
Why are there so many narcs these days? I am surrounded by narcissist and sociopath person's. It's frightening.
@FutureChaosTV6 жыл бұрын
Shemiah Schene Change your circles. There are alot healthy people out there, but they don't mix very well with narcissists or sociopaths.
@xrollthembonesx6 жыл бұрын
You’re one too, everyone is. This is sadness en mass people don’t have back bones anymore. Parents and teachers reward children for doing nothing. Everyone is too sensitive. The world is a vampire. People need to stop being such safe space feel bots and grow a pair. Rome wasn’t built by the wimps it was built by the narcissists!
@janedope23036 жыл бұрын
SOCIAL MEDIA
@orianna92006 жыл бұрын
2 Timothy chapter 3, 1 to 5.
@bobsidog6 жыл бұрын
the internet has unveiled them all hahaha it's about time they get their comeuppances
@johnrose64898 жыл бұрын
This world is getting more and more narcissistic people and it is pushed by tv,music,facebook,selfies ect
@Mllascelles18 жыл бұрын
Agreed 100%!!!
@GrumpSkull8 жыл бұрын
The USA are leaders in this field.
@johnrose64898 жыл бұрын
+GrumpSkull uk aren't far behind
@RhetoricalMuse8 жыл бұрын
Yes but some narcissistic behaviour (selfies for example) and NPD are not the same thing.
@duude58608 жыл бұрын
Thanks. Im thinking about this a few years now. Talking to them is like loosing dignity and personal values
@sharonstotts74935 жыл бұрын
Tears of sadness my daughter in law labeled him a,narcissist I have always known he,was different and extremely difficult I was always trying to figure out,his problem I never knew what was wrong. After listening to you in 100% he is what his wife said a NARCISSIST I never could figure out why I got all the blame i was harsh as a mother an blamed myself but never could undo the past. But I know this is not all me he's got problems. I hurt for him so much I hurt for his little girl I hurt for myself too. Thank you for your input.
@mariewilliams1945 жыл бұрын
By not respecting people feelings and being smug and laughing at people . Is a big sign they are narcissistic . Even if they make a big show of people nice . To impress people to feed their ego . How people treat people tells a lot about them .
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@melliness1238 жыл бұрын
But Narcissist do enjoy hurting others....they get their 'Narcissistic Supply' from hurting you.
@hotspark783 жыл бұрын
Right, energy transference
@janebowlin22575 жыл бұрын
The best way is not to speak with them. Just run and never look back.
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact Mike to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@oscarwilliamson12644 жыл бұрын
Jane Bowlin, you are absolutely right 🤙 🤙
@ANISTAZImetal-po4rz4 жыл бұрын
It is so painful to be the * recieving * end of it.
@SLynch0073 жыл бұрын
Yes, that's why you extridite them from your life. It's hard when it's a parent, but until you can physically get away, block them from your mind. I had a therapist recommend sitting them down and telling them their words hurt me and to please don't say them. I told him if I did that, they'll use it against me. He didn't believe me. The next time they used it, I moved out. That's the only way - remove them from your life as much as possible and never tell them they hurt you; that's like a sport to them. I don't have them, I just never have any real conversations with them. You must FEEL it in your bones that these people have a little something off about them, right? Never let your guard down.
@suzanvaughn45225 жыл бұрын
Histrionic personality disorder in the narcissist is so hard to handle. You never feel heard.
@akent63935 жыл бұрын
This is my mom... they're slightly worse, in my opinion, than your average narcissist.
@akent63935 жыл бұрын
@Majic C They fall apart more easily I suppose...I think you're probably correct more I think of it.
@akent63935 жыл бұрын
@Majic C yes, they're not refined in reserving the emotions whereas a true narcissist can feign emotional intelligence even though they're completely emotionally incompetent. That's what I'm inferring your replies as.
@akent63935 жыл бұрын
@Majic C you 100% correct.
@akent63935 жыл бұрын
@Majic C you're welcome. Dealing with people w/personality disorders is exhausting. My mother has always been faithful to my father. She's not like that, However, there are other issues but I'd rather not go into them out of privacy. But thank you! There are other family members, though w/similar issues and they weren't faithful to their partner/spouses.
@JoalHarding6 жыл бұрын
So spot on. Thank you. ‘Deficient in empathy.’ It’s like trying to get blood from a stone. :-(
@AnnInFL5 жыл бұрын
You have described a very MILD case. You have not described a true MALIGNANT narcissist-- Some of the traits of which are: 1. Excessive need for attention- they dominate every conversation and never show interest in anyone else for their own sake. 2. Lack the ability to love others 4. Lack the ability to self-sacrifice 5. Emotionally stunted at the level of a child or adolescent 6. No self-reflection or objectivity 7. Exempt themselves from rules and standards of behavior that apply to others 8. If they do agree to help you or do something for you at all (which is rare unless there is a clear payoff for them), you will pay so dearly, it is a huge NET LOSS for you, and you will have to thank them endlessly 9. They never sincerely apologize 10. They can accept no criticism because their bad behavior is not their fault 11. The only emotions they have are fear, envy, anger, and spite. 12. They seek only satisfaction, vindication, and revenge 13. They classify everyone they know into two groups: those who are FOR me and those who are AGAINST me. They can move people from one list to the other instantly based on their "utility" and "compliance". 14. Other people are treated like objects/tools or characters in a play with a given role to perform FOR the narcissist. 15. The narcissist is skillful at using many tricks and techniques to achieve their goals, including flattery, deception, goading, fake empathy, gaslighting, projection, gossip, pitting people against each other, throwing out false accusations to gather information, demanding loyalty, silence, and keeping secrets, etc. 16. If they sense weakness, they will go for their victim's jugular. 17. They have NO sympathy or empathy and don't think they need to have any. If you tell them you had a rough day, are tired, or have experienced ANY misfortune, they will tell you it is YOUR OWN FAULT. 18. They will mentally file away everything you say to use it against you later. If you are only nice to them, they will imagine something bad you did and tell everyone about it. 19. They secretly delight in others' misfortuns, in wasting other peoples' time, effort, or money, and in causing strife and chaos. 20. When they MUST be good to avoid being punished, ignored, or looking bad to someone they need to impress, it is a major effort that stresses and exhausts them. Fighting, in contrast, energizes them.
@rhondadavis76285 жыл бұрын
AnnInFL you are on the money in your post. I’ve had a narcissistic friend and what a nightmare it was. At first they come across sincere and nice, helpful. You soon learn that’s a front of there real self. For instance I needed her to take me to a doctors appt because I couldn’t drive. But in return she wanted me to buy cigs for her, help pay her bills, buy other things for her. I said it’s my car my gas and can’t u do it just to b a friend without anything in return? I’ve previously helped her many times before giving her laundry detergent letting her do laundry at my home letting her borrow my vehicle which I put gas in for her and so on. It’s always about them, their needs, their feelings, expecting something in return for every little thing. Rarely a thank you came out of her mouth. They weren’t poor just didn’t pay their bills then cried to anyone who would listen to their sobs stories which were lies. I was on meds for pain and she wanted me to share those too! Even if it meant me going without and would threaten me in many ways. I prayed for her because she needed help and have broken ties with her all together. They need help but can’t see that. I’ve tried to reason with her no luck there. My life is much more fuller and brighter with her out if my life but I still pray for her.
@heatherwatterson5905 жыл бұрын
That was the best compact analysis of narcissism I've read.
@jeannelyons8415 жыл бұрын
Don't forget the name dropping to make themselves appear important. After 40 years married to a narcissist, we are starting the process of divorce. He asked for it because I'm too difficult to live with. Gaslighting at its utmost! It's extremely difficult to agree to conditions that are fair to me. It's all about him regardless of how it screws me. I made the money, raised the 3 kids, kept the house clean and maintained (as much as he would allow), paid the bills, etc. A narcissistic spouse can totally break you down and leave you an empty shell. Others don't understand it because that's not the treatment they get. My advise after trying my best to have a loving marriage is run as fast as you can ASAP. It only gets worse with time.
@2001Stargazer5 жыл бұрын
Sweet Harmony, this is the best descriptive list of a narcissist I've ever seen.
@tracey67685 жыл бұрын
So true!!!! Ever one listed!#
@melissanoelle4105 жыл бұрын
My advice to anyone confronting a narcissist , never let them change the subject. Keep bringing them back to the subject at hand. It still may not work but don’t let them steer the issue
@winagain104 жыл бұрын
You cannot reason with unreasonable! Take a deep breath and let it go!
@oscarwilliamson12644 жыл бұрын
Julie Perkins,hope you are not with a narc 🙄 cause you are too precious 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌺!