How to Spot & Stop a Paedophile

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How to Spot & Stop a Paedophile

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7 жыл бұрын

www.chrissybshow.tv
31.05.17 - EP056
NOTE TO VIEWERS: If you need to ask Marilyn Hawes a question or for some free support documents, you can contact her here: marilyn.hawes@freedon-abuse.org
(NOTE TO VIEWERS: At 3.00 a tweet from Patrick says that educators are mandated reporters of child abuse. They are in Drake, Saskatchewan where Patrick lives - but not in the UK (Excluding Northern Ireland). In the home nations we have ‘discretionary reporting.’)
We explore a very sensitive issue that many, particularly the parents amongst us, don’t like to think about. There are currently over 57,000 children identified as needing protection from abuse here in the UK, yet still there is little to no adequate training for spotting the signs and behaviours and preventing abuse before it is too late.
Founder of Enough Abuse UK, Marilyn Hawes openly speaks about how her three sons were sexually abused by their Headmaster, who was also Marilyn’s boss and best friend and the massive impact that had on her mental health when she found out. Then Marilyn gives some key points from the training programme that she delivers up and down the country. Whether you’re a parent, teacher, sibling or friend - what Marilyn teaches is vital for keeping our younger generations safe and free from abuse.
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@lexydoli9912 4 жыл бұрын

If a judge lets a man off with a fine for abusing three boys for most of their lives , someone should look to that judge as being one too .. my god ..do the right thing judges or lose your job ..common sense tells me and should tell the rest of you .. a judge has a duty to educate himself on how devastating it is for a child who will be scared for life. We need some guidelines that send a clear message to anyone even considering harming a child in this way .. 20 yrs in jail might help deter them from harming children again .. we call ourselves a civilized society ..but we dont protect our own children ???

@beckyweaver5981 4 жыл бұрын

Agreed! Or paid off!

@heidivernathorbjornsen475 4 жыл бұрын

My thoughts too- there are pedophiles as judges & places of authority throughout this world- amongst organizations too that claim to care for children. Awful.

@Riverdeepnwide 4 жыл бұрын

Alverthorpe Castration does not stop the mind, hands nor mouth of an abuser. The intent however is well understood and appreciated.

@momogrand6789 4 жыл бұрын

Riverdeepnwide: I agree. Chemical castration is not enough. They can still do a lot of damage.

@queenbee5594 4 жыл бұрын

Alverthorpe nope they go on to rape with objects....only death penalty works.

@kellymcintyre8080 4 жыл бұрын

My now adult son has multiple disabilities, he couldn't speak very much when he was little. I had a former Lutheran Priest who took a special interest in my son, after my husband left us. At first, I felt that it was completely harmless, but one day I just had a feeling, I did not stick around long enough in that Church for a few reasons, but that day, that I had that feeling, was the last time I allowed my son around that man alone. I am a severe abuse survivor. I didn't want to project this onto this man, but regardless, I was not taking any chances, these predators are EVERYWHERE, and years later I heard others who also felt weird around this priest with their children as well. MANY men prey on single mothers with children. My son's inability to communicate made him a very easy target whether anything happened or not was not important. I felt better safe than sorry was the best mind set to implement.

@Ida-Adriana 3 жыл бұрын

better safe than sorry... my mother had to put me in foster care when my father abandoned us, and I was abused sexually by the man and verbally and emotionally by his wife, who was jealous! I was 7, they were in their 50s

@laurawalsh2829 3 жыл бұрын

Good on you Kelly for trusting your instincts. Your son will be proud of you -- and safer for your foresight.

@ZahraFajr 3 жыл бұрын

My maternal grandfather had a dream shortly before my mom and uncle were to go on a church picnic with the pastor. He woke up and said they weren't going because he had had a premonition in his sleep. Shortly after, the pastor ended up getting charged with sexual assault on children.

@Vikingshop 3 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU for taking ACTION Kelly! 🙏

@Vikingshop 3 жыл бұрын

@@ZahraFajr.... Amen 🙏 God wants to protect us. We just have to listen.

@gryl.4030 4 жыл бұрын

Be carefull of people pretending to be goodhearted and empathetic wanting you to tell them your abuse story. Some are pedophiles "feeding" from the horrible things victims have been through. Just an advice. Be carefull on who you can trust.

@whoswhoo 4 жыл бұрын

Very true .....

@nadinescott5454 4 жыл бұрын

True

@rineaguirre4768 4 жыл бұрын

They also like to give hugs or be touchy from my experience and use any chance to grope you 😠

@patricemarie2960 4 жыл бұрын

The trouble ....with too much of anything including these public sharing, meetings & recovery programs .... They can defeat their purposes ..... with too much public identification .... with the past, ... problems & the need to think this space .... is alway, an adequate, safe place to share! ..... Not necessarily! ....

@lyndayates7533 4 жыл бұрын

Trust no one.

@whoswhoo 4 жыл бұрын

If your e a woman on your own with young children or even teens be very very careful of any man you bring into your children's life that includes a married man who is a neighbour or any man who is very helpful .

@Lara-xu3yc 4 жыл бұрын

Agreed, but did you miss the part on statistics? 60%-70% of perpetrators of child sexual abuse are immediate or extended family members.

@EBUNNY2012 3 жыл бұрын

That's right. Helpful men should be avoided. Only invite unhelpful men into your life. Makes sense. Or just no men at all. There you go. Let's all fall to fear.

@Mar-yl9pz 3 жыл бұрын

Also women and in general anyone.

@theofficialbillindagates4441 3 жыл бұрын

@ciaran perry true. But alot of them making. Are making it because pedos coaching them on what they want to see. And then they hold these pics over there head for more pics othewise they show everyone at school or parents

@kimkolody2438 3 жыл бұрын

I was abused by family an neighbors at 8-12 yrs old! I did blame myself, an only at 52 yrs old did I finally forgive myself! I always said it wasn't my fault! Deep down I didn't believe that! I HOPE no child ever goes through what I did!! An I'd love for the statue of limitations to NEVER END for the perpetrators!! Thankyou for someone finally bringing awareness to this horrible depravity!! Good for you Marylynn, from the USA

@simosc2 4 жыл бұрын

Please, Lord God, use this video to rescue children and destroy the devils who abuse them, in Jesus name

@oldbrasso808 4 жыл бұрын

God could end all evil in the world if he wanted to.

@gabrielimmanuelgoldmann6276 4 жыл бұрын

@@oldbrasso808 .Yes starting with you. Eph 2. 1.5 kJV BIBLE.

@Riverdeepnwide 4 жыл бұрын

simosc2 get out your pitchfork, your lord's justice may rest upon your shoulders.

@dorothyrench6355 4 жыл бұрын

Amen

@A-Grammie-On-the-ROCK 3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@yenig2140 4 жыл бұрын

I applaud your channel for addressing this ‘taboo’ topic because of its creepiness and yet it must be talked about for the health of everyone’s life

@patricemarie2960 4 жыл бұрын

I am sickened by how common ... this ugly issue is today!

@pmck7903 4 жыл бұрын

It's always been here coming to the light.Trust God and the plan

@indriadrayton1132 3 жыл бұрын

This is my fear on the whole lgbtq movement. Notice the focus on gender knowledge and sexuality towards children today. Why do they need to know about their sexuality? And who is teaching them about being gay? Fill in the blanks....

@BEAUTYnIQ 3 жыл бұрын

@@indriadrayton1132 be Careful is right .. oBidens latest DOE nominee('rachael' levine) is pushing for legislation to allow MINORS to decide hormone treatments, dbl mastectomy etc while pre-pubescent .. this means girls who elect for this may stop reproductive development, can grow a beard etc .. this will affect their entire lives ! (can't hav kids, etc) its Insane !! we don't allow minors to drink a beer til 21 .. decisions like this are on the LGBTQ trans-gender agenda .. !!

@mytinyvignette2 3 жыл бұрын

It starts at the very top of government OUR GOVERNMENTS ARE FULL OF IT; right down to sex trafficking; breeding children for sex only; satanism; terrorising children with sodomy whilst bloodletting them. It’s all out there people. It’s no conspiracy. And DC is the top of the heap for it all. Those tunnels underneath DC have & were being used for the trafficking of children. Washington has fallen. Look up Andrenachrome. This goes WAYYYYYY beyond what you even think it is.

@marie-on5yj 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a first grade teacher in the US. I've attended trainings on how to look for the signs of child abuse in children. ., but after watching this video, my eyes have really been opened. Thank you for giving such detailed information on a topic that is not talked about enough!

@maryamrashid4091 3 жыл бұрын

A+

@foreverNwonder 2 жыл бұрын

👏 👏 👏 Kudos to you for trying to further your education on how to identity and help children in bad situations ❤️ Good teachers like you are the reason I made it thru my childhood…

@susanmercurio1060 3 жыл бұрын

There was a young man in North Dakota, USA, who shot his father, who had been battering his mother for years and then started threatening to sexually abuse the boy's sister. He was found guilty and I thought it was a travesty of justice.

@bobsaturday4273 2 жыл бұрын

you are correct ...maybe , remember that is extreme action , shooting can easily cause death . was the man killed ? was the son sentenced to prison ? depends on the details , if there was a suspended sentence for non lethal wound that would be ok . why didn't the mother leave , theres a lot of support these days

@susanmercurio1060 2 жыл бұрын

@@bobsaturday4273 : Yes, he killed his father and was sent to prison. You need to educate yourself about domestic violence. It's a lot easier to sit in your armchair and say, "Why doesn't she just leave?" than it is for the victim to do it. What if she has no job skills and is financially dependent on the abuser? What if he poses as a "good guy" in public and has the community's support? What if there are no battered women's shelters in her area (this was in *North Dakota* ) Read Why Does He DO That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft.

@beelzemobabbity 2 жыл бұрын

@@susanmercurio1060 they’re not saying the father was in the right. They’re saying that no matter what, killing a person is a drastic action, a VERY drastic action. One that can admittedly add to the trauma, so it’s really the very last resort if you’re in danger in that very moment. If he went up to him before anything had happened and shot him, then I can see why he was punished.

@sarakhaldi5085 4 жыл бұрын

Parents pay attention to how these monsters in disguise look at your child. There is a disgusting overly happy gaze, “like you’re next”, and make ZERO eye contact with you, as the parent.

@bluefan651 3 жыл бұрын

Well, what If a person really feels sorry for a child because their single mom is so crazy. Sometimes I just cannot even look my next door neighbor in the eye because she is so nuts and I just want her daughter to know that she will be ok and not everyone is like her mom. But with clusters of behaviors, that's spot on.

@morningsong8077 3 жыл бұрын

My husband exhibited some grooming behaviors toward my teenaged daughter before I moved us out. It was disgusting, and he was doing it right in front of me.

@Harlem55 3 жыл бұрын

Sure, Keep thinking that if you want to. Fucking Nazi.

@annafirth6738 4 жыл бұрын

Thank God for that police officer who helped her and for Marylins strength.

@9290SC 3 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@Eden519 4 жыл бұрын

Deeply disturbing; especially when she gets to the whispering part of the grooming methods. But actually really effective. More programs should be as clear as this.

@marilynhawes4238 4 жыл бұрын

thankyou it is only be demonstrating it people actually begin to understand . I have a document on the behaviour of a fixated paedophile should you be interested. ALL parents need to know HOW they operate. You cant put a price on lived experience

@patricemarie2960 4 жыл бұрын

Grooming ?? ..... My behind! ... Perverted creep!

@donthate.create 4 жыл бұрын

Yes the part with the Teddy bear was very disturbing but helpful in a way that words could never really explain.

@robbiestoly5795 3 жыл бұрын

@@patricemarie2960 I was groomed right in front of everybody.

@mytinyvignette2 3 жыл бұрын

BIDEN

@carolsimpson5293 3 жыл бұрын

Lord heavenly father, please protect our children from these monsters. I pray they are all punished and put away.amen

@lindagrizlby9708 3 жыл бұрын

If a person is convicted of a sexual crime against a child, with irrefutable evidence, they should receive the death sentence to be carried out within 24 months. You cannot give me back my childhood innocence! I cannot unknow those things, cannot forget and I suffer again every time I hear another child's story... as every single one of us do...

@lindagrizlby9708 3 жыл бұрын

@Diss Raps the article was speaking about a pedophile. My comment was directed to that. I would be a hanging judge. I have no patients for mean, cruel or abusive people and would be vicious in sentences if I were judge.

@Harlem55 3 жыл бұрын

Is that right? That sounds like Nazi propaganda to me: “The State must declare the child to be the most precious treasure of the people.” Hitler, Adolf. (1943). Mein Kampf, P. 403, (R. Manheim, Trans.)

@Harlem55 3 жыл бұрын

@@lindagrizlby9708 And you would be de-benched rather quickly in this country, as well as face possible charges of your own. The judiciary is tied down by sentencing laws that the people passed through the legislature. Federal sentencing law is quite restrictive- The judge has to follow the federal sentencing guidelines and these federal guidelines pretty much have an exact answer for just about every conceivable set of circumstances for any given crime. At the state level, each state has a similar set of procedures that the trial judge has to follow, otherwise, the appellate courts will reduce the sentence. Rather, the only thing a judge really has much discretion on is how the law should be interpreted- and even then the trial judges are limited by the rulings that the higher courts have already handed down in the past.

@lindagrizlby9708 3 жыл бұрын

@@Harlem55 and if I were in a seat of power, I would change it and do my part to rid my little part of the world of the blight of pedophiles, period. If Hitler boxcarred all the pedos, I'd help the man!

@fritzjackson4336 3 жыл бұрын

You're just killing a victim who is no longer a child.

@TrinityRedOrBluePill 4 жыл бұрын

Two years late and just came across this. I must say thank you for the courage, kindness, and teaching.

@marilynhawes4238 4 жыл бұрын

please spread the word every parent and adults is responsible to protect children from harm and our training does just that ! we are now www.freedom-abuse.org

@kristinatidwell6563 4 жыл бұрын

@@marilynhawes4238 will you travel to do seminars in USA? I've got a friend who is going to DC to start new laws to be rewritten across the states so that children in foster care aren't released back to dysfunctional family who end up killing the kids. My friend is Dr. John DeGarmo in Georgia, he's started a nonprofit transitional housing for boys aged 16 to 25 ending with their training in a tech school. His nonprofit is called It's Never Too Late! You can find it on FB. He's out of town next 2 weeks before he's back to Georgia. He's also got a change.org petition asking for support. You can message him on messenger if you like. I'd really like for the boys to be trained as well. I want to stop this insanity!

@marilynhawes4238 4 жыл бұрын

@@kristinatidwell6563 hi Kristina great to hear from you hope you are well? I would go anywhere if I had the money to fly BUT I can train anyone anywhere over Teams which i what we have been doing here in UK it works really well . We also have cops here who are part of the probelm they infiltrate everywhere in society whichis WHY the best way to OREVENT the harm is to understand the BEHAVIOURS of those who pose the risk ! Just wish parents would step up and realise the real enemy is often in our living room !!!!!

@kristinatidwell6563 4 жыл бұрын

@@marilynhawes4238 I just sent a message to Dr DeGarmo in case you contacted him directly.. And vice versa. I want everyone to get trained, even the kids! the more the merrier. This is an international issue, we need to bond together internationally to fight it. I've been asking people to train their kids how to do Kung Fu Fighting. The kids need to know how to self defend against attack. There's way too many people being killed these days. Yes. There's plenty of dirty cops Everywhere! Have you seen what's going on here in the states relating to the death of George Floyd? The policeman worked with Floyd for the past year at a nightclub/restaurant and they routinely butted heads. What I saw looked personal, I'm waiting for the trial to start. I can't imagine what made the officer act like that? Waiting for the details to be released. Chauvin's wife has filed for divorce asking for protection for herself, her kids and elder parents.

@ellieaquitaine6396 4 жыл бұрын

@@marilynhawes4238 Thank you so much for what you're doing. I was groomed as a child. You're spot on with the knee sitting, it's all come flooding back. I didn't tell mum until I was in my late 30's. At the time it was happening I was 9 and thought everyone knew and nobody was going to save me. I'm glad I didn't tell mum sooner as she said she saw him years later driving through Sydney. He was crossing the road with a broken leg. Had she known she would have run him over. Bless you. You're an angel for giving parents, teachers etc the tools for identifying the signs a child is a victim of abuse xox

@MaryJane-qq9mm 4 жыл бұрын

When I was little I was living with my dad for a while. He was a severe alcoholic, low income is an understatement, and grooming took place. When someone comes along offering free childcare, money, or just a little too generous with very little in Return, that's a huge red flag.. No1 wants to give you free money, booze, weed, or childcare..

@ElyssaM9899 2 жыл бұрын

@Redwood Rebelgirl my mom was always cautious with me and her other two kids.. I remember that I thought she was paranoid but you both are very right in keeping a close eye on your kid

@Witch-wz3lp 3 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate the detailed description of what the abuser does. Like how they label it a "game" like the tickling game, was done to me very frequently and the fact that it was never labeled abuse by my mom and grandma, they act like I'm making up the fact that my step grandfather did that tickling torture game to me. It was absolutely foreplay, no other way to describe it. He tickled me in a way no other adult ever would. It was horrific. For them to act like it was just tickling and I am making things up because I want the attention of being a victim does really hurt everyday.

@shebasekmet8992 3 ай бұрын

Sorry that happened to you.

@nicolemisner5337 4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely everything she said is true. When I found out my ex boyfriend was abusing my daughter sexually, everything from the past just clicked. I remember writing pages of weird incidents that I had to give the police and felt like a terrible mother for not knowing. My daughter was 4 and she told me a lot of things he did to her. Saying how he would kill me or cut her into tiny pieces with a sword. She told me he drew a picture of himself holding a knife and he drew her cut up into pieces with blood. 4 year old kids don’t create these sexual exploitation’s out of nowhere. She told me he constantly gave her medicine to make her sleepy and he would let his friends touch her. All of this happening at night while I was sleeping. I can to stress enough about how everything this woman has said is completely true. I am hyper vigilant, but i I never seen it coming. We are scarred but I refuse to let this be our ending. We have come so far and it has taken so much work and therapy. To anyone who needs to hear it: It is not your fault. Don’t let it define you.

@dr.weedtankwood3496 3 жыл бұрын

A traggic example of why you really have to get to know people!

@nasimakuji1164 3 жыл бұрын

My heart is breaking for you .Bless you both.i hope your daughter all the happiness of this world .

@foreverNwonder 2 жыл бұрын

🖤 really glad you and your daughter are away from that evil ped0… Hope you have the ability to give your daughter a lot of therapy and support… Wishing the absolute best for y’all 💗

@daissycy Жыл бұрын

omayghad why do u let that happen to your 4 yr old daughter??? shit! that's horrible! you're right, you're a terrible mother... I hope your daughter heals completely.. because she doesn't deserve what happened to her.

@fellowsfiona 4 жыл бұрын

This is by far the best information I have seen on how paedophiles groom children and their mind set. I wish every teacher parent and care giver had as much insight as you. I'm so glad that your faith kept you going and I know your children and grandchildren are too. I wonder if you know how many children you have saved and will save. I would like to see videos, books, teaching manuals Authored by you and others put into the hands of schools, law inforcement, care homes etc. You truly are doing Gods work keep shining the light on evil. Take care of yourself and your family, God bless you and may he continue to heal all those who are suffering.

@Mrslisamaree 4 жыл бұрын

In this day and age, we all know that an offence such as this warrants a serious consequence. But in the judicial system there are paedophiles in places that would astound you. ONE OF THEIR GIVEAWAY SIGNS is handing down lighter sentences to others in the game - YES, please interview this judge and prior cases!

@jocrain83 3 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely correct! That’s what so many people don’t realize. Pedophiles are in our governments, our churches and even our judicial systems.

@nikkid4890 3 жыл бұрын

Very true Lisa. 👍

@Frenchblue8 3 жыл бұрын

@@patricemarie2960 not every good person believes in God

@ainnochaim9450 3 жыл бұрын

I also believe that the judicial system goes light on paedophiles because others in positions of power may end up being charged. If they give other paedos light sentences they can justify it for everyone. I think most people would support life sentences for these perves, so we know it isnt what the People want.

@philmccluskey2063 3 жыл бұрын

i agree totally !!!!!!!

@terristobert1367 3 жыл бұрын

Had and uncle who I knew very young was an abuser pediphilie. My mothers family hid it and brushed it off. Shamed the girls when mentioning it. Which is a different form of abuse.

@indriadrayton1132 3 жыл бұрын

Terri Stobert The 2nd abuse is worse.

@louelaine3680 4 жыл бұрын

My heart goes out for this woman. I've witnessed so many times, the "partner" of a friend who is to my mind crossing boundaries with the other's children. This one friend who was also my supervisor at the time, was with a man who seemed to be all over her young daughter right out in the open. He would constantly be touching her, play- fighting, provoking her etc. all supposedly "in fun". It made me very uncomfortable to watch. The girl would protest but when she did her mother would laugh, etc, and made it part of the "fun". I did try to warn my friend, that this shouldn't be happening She didn't pick up on it or want to talk about it. It was one of those creepy things that put you on your guard.

@RT-kt4kv 4 жыл бұрын

I had the same situation, I called CPS for the sake of the child. I obviously did not need a friend like that. Our job is to protect children at all cost! Not to have the bystander effect. 😊

@littleme3597 4 жыл бұрын

Sounds just like Joe Biden!

@TheRealJohnHooper 4 жыл бұрын

Usually the mothers are enabling the abuse.. Predators pick these mothers and they are crucial part of the abuse.

@laurykristensen6239 4 жыл бұрын

@@TheRealJohnHooper I have witnessed exactly that

@junegerber4028 4 жыл бұрын

@@RT-kt4kv CPS is full of pedophiles just waiting to separate those kids from mom. DO NOT CALL CPS ever again!!! - just threaten to tell all the woman's friends and family if the moms are too stupid to listen.

@kimkolody2438 3 жыл бұрын

I'd like for the laws to change, so that the statute of limitations Never runs out!

@fredmckinney8933 3 жыл бұрын

One problem with that: Having no statute of limitations, while it seems like a good idea, does open the door for the possibility of one falsely accusing one of something from 30, 40, 50 years ago, making it difficult if not impossible for the accused to remember what they were doing at a given time that would debunk the accusations. And even if the accused does remember what they were doing at a given time that would prove them innocent, most judges would not allow such evidence to be admitted in court in the name of "getting tough on crime", and they don't give a rat's rear end what the FACTS are.

@dr.weedtankwood3496 3 жыл бұрын

What do you mean by that?

@michelleobrien6996 3 жыл бұрын

@@fredmckinney8933 in reality what would happen is the victim would not have enough evidence and therefore the accused will not be found guilty

@SpiritHawk 4 жыл бұрын

Excellent comment about getting the right therapy. Psychologists and Counsellors have kept people stuck in the past, sometimes due to ignorance and sometimes just to line their pockets. If you are seeing a therapist for more than a year and are not living better, do yourself a favour and find someone who gets results. Therapy should not go on for years and years. I worked in mental health for 20 years and saw this again and again. In my opinion, it’s another form of abuse to keep people reliving trauma and not giving them the treatment and skills to move on with their life.

@janeholt9298 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this comment ❤️

@pamelawherey4583 4 жыл бұрын

So alarming but this needs to be brought out in every time zone! Keep your eyes open parents..

@shoshone1018 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for publishing. All predators are extremely manipulative, conniving and often charming. Hard watch, but necessary education.

@WHENtalentscout 3 жыл бұрын

creepy but I'm glad she's showing this. hopefully it will save a child from getting hurt

@thefoodnutritionist1823 7 жыл бұрын

OMG watching this is so scary. How frightening for the child, this is something every parent needs to know. Parents you need to watch this show.

@margaretphipps2494 4 жыл бұрын

Omg this lady is amazing I wish I known her or someone like her years ago I'm 68 now description hit a nerve with me I had a "favourite uncle" from the age off 3 to about 11-12 he was my dad's brother in law & he chose the most vulnerably time to move on me My 5 year old brother died ( he had a hole in his heart ) I was his shadow. The line he use on me, was god doesn't like little girls who tell tale & anyway no one will believe you,it when on the ever they came on holiday,I was always on his lap also his wife used too take me upstairs in the mornings. I was a bedwetter & I used to wet myself in school. I buried this in mind until I was about 45 then I started getting flashbacks then that's all that's in you head I did have councillor but like the lady said it doesn't heal it's just a bandaid. I've always said I've never grown up.. I've done the best I can.That was a short period off my life but the damage stays with you. A big thank you 😊 I am sure this ladies work will help stop ✋abuse,making more people aware. Thank you 😊

@ruthadams7756 4 жыл бұрын

Your favor uncle needs to be exposed for the deeds he has done do no other child will have to go through the same thing.I’d bet cash he has tried to molest another child since u.The cycle has to be stopped.U are no longer a child who can be intimidated.Shame on the in law.His behind needs to be confronted with the damage he has done.Ms. Adams here.

@margaretphipps2494 4 жыл бұрын

Eric Adams. he is dead

@susanr3717 4 жыл бұрын

@@margaretphipps2494 How did you started to get flashbacks?

@margaretphipps2494 4 жыл бұрын

Susan Rivers my marriage was going down hill My husband would never except no meaning no even if I was ill ( migraine/ sinusitis ) I actually told him I now know what it's like to be raped.

@dinglebarry528 3 жыл бұрын

@@margaretphipps2494 - I am so very sorry. These men should have treated you with the utmost respect that you deserve. I’m just so sorry that you had to endure such abuse. Hope you are well and getting help.

@patricemarie2960 4 жыл бұрын

"MAMA" PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN! ....

@EcoworksFL 4 жыл бұрын

Correct... Mothers put your child first before a man...!!!

@lovegodselfandneighbor421 3 жыл бұрын

WHY Mamas ONLY?

@patricemarie2960 3 жыл бұрын

@@lovegodselfandneighbor421 Decent, smart human beings .... protect your children! It's God's order! 💓

@kimkolody2438 3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes a parent can watch their kids all day an night, an the perpetrators still find a way to get to them! Just talk to your children about their areas where no one is allowed to touch! An teach them to tell or yell!! An parents, I plead with you to believe your children!

@patricemarie2960 3 жыл бұрын

@@kimkolody2438 A mother's intuition, and intentional protective nature, does help the child feel safer, and learn to cope in the world! A child does have to grow up, and realize mom, and dad .... cannot always stay .... by their sides! 💗

@janethompson4019 4 жыл бұрын

The worst thing is when you see someone behaving in ways that raise your suspicions, but you don't have any evidence that would stand up legally. There's a man on my estate who seems so normal and friendly - we warned him off bothering our daughter so he knows we suspect him but when I tried to warn another mother about his inappropriate behaviour with her daughter she just laughed and thought I was being ridiculous.

@thecove4770 4 жыл бұрын

So true! If you won’t go the extra mile for a child, leave education!

@TheOlivecat 4 жыл бұрын

Children need to be empowered concerning their own bodies and personal space. Get them used to being able to name their own body parts, all of them, even when they seem too young for this. If they can understand "this is my nose", "this is my elbow", etc. you can teach them about comfort around personal space, even people sitting too close. Also, tell the child that they are allowed to say no to anyone, including adults and authority figures, if that person makes any part of that child's body feel uncomfortable. Constant touching of the child's arms, legs, face, head, too much hugging, etc. are violations of personal space. Tell your child it's ok to say no to anyone who wants to touch them too much, even if it's just their arms. You can even tell your child that you, their parent, give them permission to "talk back" or "say no" to anyone who is touching them too much. Teach them safe and empowered ways to speak and name even when you're not there. If you teach them to speak and name, they will continue to be empowered to speak and name.

@mothgames9466 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a forensic psychology student so when I saw the warning saying this would be disturbing to viewers I just though it'd be the same stuff I've seen before. Holy shit I was wrong, this is so disturbing. I'm still watching because we all need to be informed on how to spot child predators but bloody hell is this creepy

@veryoledude 3 жыл бұрын

I am 74 a mother and in tears from the memories of my childhood experiences my Nanna was married to a younger man when I was about ten we went to dinner, I walked passed him to go to the wc and on the way back he pulled me onto his lap he proceded to put his hand inside my pants and touch me I started to wriggle and was told to sit still the only way I got away from him was to ask for a drink of water I stayed in the kitchen for a long while and Mum came looking for me I told her and she said don't tell your father as this disgusting pig of a man was a gutter fighter and he would have beaten my Dad never ever forgotten still hate this creep even though he is dead.

@thecove4770 4 жыл бұрын

Offenders can be other children, too. No matter who the perpetrator is, sexual abuse is something you NEVER heal from.

@karren7729 4 жыл бұрын

The Cove ....most abusers have been abused themselves.....who never heal totally, if at all, except through Jesus

@thecove4770 4 жыл бұрын

Karren , I don’t know about most but definitely some. I have known abusers who were introduced via pornography. And knowing the forgiveness of Christ is an immense help to forgive perpetrators, yes, but actual healing of emotional scars and PTSD is for the next life, I think.

@mayjones5573 4 жыл бұрын

@@karren7729 Are you serious? If a relationship with jesus will heal a pedophile what happened to all the filthy pedo priests??????????

@karren7729 4 жыл бұрын

may jones ...they’re not into Jesus, they’re wolves in sheep’s clothing.....though I did state I think it’s possible for healing in the name of Jesus, I feel it’s rare

@thecove4770 4 жыл бұрын

may jones Pedophile priests only love themselves and their own pleasure. They are immoral, impure liars and very far from God, who will damn them if they never repent.

@Msrojo1004 3 жыл бұрын

I told my Mum I was sexually assaulted and she said, you’ve always been good at making up stories.

@morningsong8077 3 жыл бұрын

😢

@michelleobrien6996 3 жыл бұрын

WOW!

@Te3time 3 жыл бұрын

God these stories about parents not believing their own children make me feel even more sick than the stories about the abuse themselves like how can a child even make smth like that up?? I cannot imagine a greater betrayal so sorry you had to go through that

@m.935 3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry:(

@foreverNwonder 2 жыл бұрын

😔 I’m so sorry 😣

@carolsimpson5293 3 жыл бұрын

Mothers put your child first of your feelings, listen to them.

@morningsong8077 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Please believe your kids. Moms are often the only ones who are approached with the truth because they are the ones the kids trust.

@Harlem55 3 жыл бұрын

because Children NEVER tell a total LIE, right???? SURE. You need to be put on medication, Carol.

@carolsimpson5293 3 жыл бұрын

@@Harlem55 yep medication so I can tolerate un educated people like you. My life is none of your business but just to say that if my mother believed me my life would have been different. Do you think all children are liars? If so you have a problume.

@charlysteenstevens9314 3 жыл бұрын

I suffered two kinds of abuse as a child. One of my stepfathers was a pedophile and our sexual relationship began when I was about eight years old. The worst abuse came from my mother who had a violent temper and when she targeted anyone with verbal abuse she wanted to say the most hurtful things which can be said. No one would excuse the pedophile. But make excuses for a woman who verbally abuses her children? Many people do. "She's a woman." That was enough to get her a pass - her gender. "She's having a bad day". She knew just how to be thoroughly charming to adults and she was quite attractive. We hear a lot about the male abusers, pedophiles. My guess is that the amount of damage done by women to their children - because those women have never grown up emotionally - has got to be so big as to be almost inestimable. The damage done by the pedophile has never been addressed significantly because I have spent my life, and I am 70 years old now, trying to get over the abuse my mother did.

@HappyHawthorn 3 жыл бұрын

Signs of narcissism in your mother. Might be helpful for you to look into this. Take care♥️

@AC-87 3 жыл бұрын

9⁹⁹999999

@joepublic5469 3 жыл бұрын

Investigate the judge and everyone he knows. Everyone.

@sophiastrips8169 3 жыл бұрын

I know my neighbor is a pedophile. He saw my 3 year old and I (across the street) playing with a stray cat so he RAN across the street. His excuse was “I gotta see that cat” and my child was following the cat and he followed her, under the guise of the cat. I felt sick and got my child inside and told her dad that he’s not to be trusted. I’m very cold and standoffish to him. He knows I know.

@leesteal4458 3 жыл бұрын

If you can, move away. Some of these people rape and kill.

@pathetictroll7557 3 жыл бұрын

What if that neighbor was a female and the exact same thing happened, would you have had the same reactive feelings?

@maryronan9758 3 жыл бұрын

CALL HIS PROBATION OFFICER!!!

@ydteotico4581 3 жыл бұрын

Report him right away. What’re you waitin’ for‼️

@Elvis-guy1973 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe he's just a bit strange. That doesn't make him a paedophile.

@wolfie1027 3 жыл бұрын

Sad this lady had to learn the hard way but at least she's giving valuable info to others who assume all nice men have good intentions.

@jeanettehinds4253 4 жыл бұрын

We need to incorporate it into the school curriculum. It's still something very much taboo and we need to take the power away from the abusers and give it back to the children. We do this with education. Time and time again, you hear that children don't realise the abuse is wrong until they have sex education. By this time, the abuse could of been going on for years. And then the victim is still afraid to disclose because they have been threatened, bullied. So we need to pull the rug out from underneath the abuser. We blanket the parks, pubs,supermarkets,churches, mosques, libraries, sports centers,buses,trains,taxis. We put adverts on prime time and we teach. Not Just once but all the way up to 16. Compulsory. And then we need to make the laws tighter. No more slaps on the wrists. Whole life terms the first time they are caught, tried and convicted. This needs to stop, and it needs to stop now. No one can say my approach will not work, because it hasn't been tested.

@christineaygin6701 4 жыл бұрын

It has to be uncovered for the evil, sick , depraved behaviour that it is, " not nice" subjects need to be brought into the light to remove the power they have, we must stop being uncomfortable in order to save the children , thank you for sharing with us

@jeanettehinds4253 4 жыл бұрын

@@christineaygin6701 . Absolutely. Until we are comfortable enough to stare it right in the eyes and call it what it is, we can't expect anything to change. We are letting our children down and it's not good enough.

@christineaygin6701 4 жыл бұрын

We hate to shatter our childrens dreams of a perfect world , we want them to remain innocent of the horrors , BUT we have to keep them safe .

@christineaygin6701 4 жыл бұрын

@Tee Twetherlow I am SO sorry this happened to you, Big hugs and stay strong , stay safe xx

@alwaysthinking9713 4 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately - the priorities of day care, pre-K and grammar school systems are not that of child safety as far as sexual abuse. The focus is on recycling, any type of climate change, same sex couples, same sex attraction, gender issues, transsexuality, every body should be friends, must share, etc. Although the bullying issue has been addressed and even physical abuse has been touched on, and rightly so, they still do not want to deal with the sexual abuse of infants, children and teens. We all have allowed this to happen, so much so that the next extreme push is for the acceptance of just what you see here. The acceptance that it is ok for this to happen, that is normal for an adult and even another child to do this. The whole "these are your private areas and" - what follows? Only mom and dad or the doctor can touch etc.. Unfortunately those persons can be the ones hurting the children. If the curricula in all places that take care of children or teach them, whether private or public, would put this at the top of the list, we can have a fighting chance for them. Social media is disgustingly being used for the exploitation of children. Even one of the giants of short messages refused to remove images or comments because he called them art..yeah right. We see recently the deletion of a certain celebrity's messages to the count of 60k due to the disgusting sexual references made. The account was not removed, the person made it private and either removed persons or blocked them. Makes you wonder who those many closed friends are. Movies, tv shows, commercials all have contributed to sexual exploitation of minors. The music industry as well. Anyone see the 1/2 time show of Super Bowl with Jlo doing the stripper pole work with children around including her daughter..she was so proud of that. What are children listening to in your car? In your home? What music are you playing? What "kid" movies are they watching? Children are watching cute little movies in the theater or on dvd that are filled with all kinds of sexual innuendos FOR YEARS! and they are getting bolder with their message!! It is a huge fight, it is a big fight that must be fought...there are more of us who want our children of every age safe than there are of them. Open your eyes, ears, listen to your gut or as I call it spidey sense, pedodar, what ever you want to call it. And pay attention to what they watch..read reviews for "G" or "Family" movies that are not written by paid movie goer bloggers or critics but by true family organizations, including Christian ones because they alert the parent before going to the theater or renting a movie...remember the movie Shrek? I was horrified when the scene with the evil king or prince showed him putting his hand under the cover while looking at a picture of the princess -his face changed, the tone of voice even! How many molesters/abusers used that??? It is every where, but so are we.

@coffeelvnwmn8706 4 жыл бұрын

We need people like this lady here in the States; it was very uncomfortable to watch, but necessary to see the signs of these creepy entities trying to hurt our children. In this age and time AND technology, we should be a more ADVANCED people, but it seems we get behind more and these creeps know it. Too many men abandoning their children to their fate, mothers that are broken and just wanting someone to "love" them w/o REALLY seeing what they do to their children. These creeps THRIVE on the vulnerability of the mother to get to the child/children. I met these acquaintances(they are cousins) years ago, sexual abuse is RAMPANT in their family. Their parent's abuse came at the hand of the step father; the mother KNEW what he was doing to her children, but it was way more 'important' for her to have a male in the house that, she didn't care what happened, so long as he stayed w/her... to boot, he also cheated on her--young ladies, this is what "DESPERATION" looks like and in my opinion, a woman like her should have just given her children to an orphanage, they would've fared better. The abuse went on for YEARS! The males, in turn, began to abuse their own children and nieces and nephews. Thank God, these two broke free by accepting Jesus into their lives and they each, protecting their daughters from the same trauma. They broke the chain; yet, a lot of their other family members, still suffer this way. One of them was able to put her father in prison as she saw how he had groomed some relative's little girl, he was going to do his putrid thing to her and she caught him and called the cops. Her family was furious at her and stopped talking to her... she later told me she felt bad for making her family angry at her. I assured her she did them most important thing: she SAVED a child's life!!!!

@hellekimery9537 4 жыл бұрын

Coffee LvnWmn agree

@indriadrayton1132 3 жыл бұрын

The fact that the family was mad at her for doing the right thing... I would be like, DON'T TALK TO ME, THAT'S RIGHT!

@jackiewiliams1510 4 жыл бұрын

how did he get such a short sentence, confused by that. this woman is passionate and informative to parents, thanks x

@ValuedVintage 3 жыл бұрын

My twin girls when they were seven years old were molested by a 16-year-old neighbor boy on a play date with his mom and seven-year-old brother. I had an intuition about the teen boy and thus had his mother assure me he wouldn’t be home while my girls were there. Little did I know the mom was in on it all and had already set up another little girl in the neighborhood to be abused several times by her teen son. Luckily, my girls were not penetrated, but what was done to them caused them to lose their innocence, and they never giggled again. They used to giggle often. We all went through therapy, and it helped, but both still have effects they suffer to even now at age 40. I couldn’t forgive myself. It’s been 33 years and I’m old now. I still cannot forgive me. I know what Marilyn went through. Like her, my faith in God keeps me going. Always TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS

@ChrissyBShow 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Sherry. So sorry to hear what happened to your family. What happened to your girls isn't your fault. Humans tend to trust and it's only in hind sight we realise certain things. We learn through mistakes and experiences. If you don't mind us saying, it's time to forgive yourself. When Jesus taught us to forgive, it certainly included ourselves too. Guess He knew that we tend to beat ourselves up and feel so guilty about things. You don't need to carry this hurt and pain anymore. It won't help or change anything. Be at peace...

@TomTobin67 4 жыл бұрын

I was sexually assaulted by an adult woman when I was 11 years old. I told my mother and she just laughed in my face. When I told my dad, he pulled off his belt and beat me into a corner and thretened me to shoot me ( he had a collection of guns). So the abuse continued til I was 16. The abuser used to say to me in front of mom "Let's go play checkers". That was how she got me to be alone with her.

@EcoworksFL 4 жыл бұрын

I'm very sorry to hear about your experience..I hope you are healed and your life is filled with love..

@shaterahart2668 3 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry that happened to you

@tilywinn 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry. None of this was your fault in any way, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Thank you for your bravery and sharing your story. I hope this doesn’t trigger your trauma, but if you feel ok, I have one question. Are the signs of a female sexual predator generally the same or are there any differences/ additional things that weren’t covered in this program? Thanks and I hope you are doing well.

@hornbubxxx9494 3 жыл бұрын

do you know who she is?

@primabellas6856 3 жыл бұрын

Your parents are monsters who failed you in the worst way. They should have loved and protected you and they did just the opposite. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. You didn’t deserve that; No one does. I truly hope you were able to find healing and that you now have people in your life who show you the support and love you deserve.

@suetownsend1656 3 жыл бұрын

This woman is amazing. She is going right to the pointy end of the issue.

@Isabella66Gracen 4 жыл бұрын

That was SO powerful! Thank you for having Marilyn on the show. Please bring her back to talk more about trafficking and social media/chat room grooming. We need our attention everywhere these days. But of course spotting it in your own home and children is the most important place to start. I've never seen a demo or discussion anywhere near this quality anywhere here in the states.

@danialhowe9814 4 жыл бұрын

So glad my boys made it to adulthood safe and protected

@oracleshawty3192 3 жыл бұрын

how do u know

@d.o.9837 3 жыл бұрын

@@oracleshawty3192 exactly...

@dr.weedtankwood3496 3 жыл бұрын

Lets hope so

@Megdracula 3 жыл бұрын

Or so you think.... I’m just saying my mom doesn’t know

@Harlem55 3 жыл бұрын

Who said they made it to adulthood "safe and protected"? Do you think they're really going to tell you ALL their dirty little secrets? Truth is you will never know for SURE....XD

@Butterflybikergirl 3 жыл бұрын

Child molesters should get no bail..and the death penalty!

@mjperfume7907 3 жыл бұрын

And get there balls cut off!!!

@laniejuanitawhitehurst1624 3 жыл бұрын

Castration and prostrate removal and life in prison or execution

@dr.weedtankwood3496 3 жыл бұрын

I understand but it really wouldn't help at all

@MichelleB2b 3 жыл бұрын

This lady knows precisely basic methods of grooming and her passion for her chosen profession ought to be be emulated. BRAVO

@jennifertelfer3071 4 жыл бұрын

This is actually really informative and now it has been able to teach me more clues to look out for that stuff. I always get suspicious if strangers are overly friendly to my children.

@nasibdg 3 жыл бұрын

90% of abuses are by people close to the child victim. FAmily, friends, teachers, etc.

@NaDie-kw5hk 2 жыл бұрын

What an incredibly brave woman to tell her story. I am so touched by how much love this mother has for her children.

@10christypa 3 жыл бұрын

You’ve provided information in a clear and specific way. Every parent must see this.

@thecatwoman6496 3 жыл бұрын

Marilyn, it’s not your fault, I hope you know that now. My family was targeted by a church leader too. They groom the mother as well. Being indispensable, bringing gifts, being supportive, and seeming safe. Grooming is just another word for manipulating. And they are masters at it. I felt revulsion being tickled as a child, and still can’t bear to see it happening no matter how innocent it seems, and I’m in my 60’s now.

@1love108 4 жыл бұрын

These slimey rats are so sinister... three times a "good neighbor" of us tried o abuse me in basement, i did not understand the attemd of abuse at the time, later in life I realized that kind of strange talking to me and trying talking me into doing "funny things". Eeeww... funny she mentioned burning things down. I burned a lot of shit in my childhood...

@NenaSilva210 4 жыл бұрын

Piere Litbarski a similar thing happened twice to me as a child with different neighbors. It’s was awful, so traumatic, but it was even more traumatic the fact that when I told my mother she never did anything. In her mind she was afraid that if my father found out he would kill the individuals. This is why when I divorced 10 yrs ago and my two daughters were still young, I decided not date nor have any male friends. I completely devoted my life to them, to keep my two loves, safe from any risk. I was extremely overprotective. I never allowed sleepovers nor any wondering around outside without my supervision. I made sure I took them to school myself before heading to work in the mornings, and I was fortunate enough to be able to pick them up from school afterwards and bring them to the office with me till the end of my shift. Now days my daughters are adults and I am the grandmother of two beautiful boys and constantly fear for them too.

@1love108 4 жыл бұрын

@@NenaSilva210 God bless you and your family ♥

@NenaSilva210 4 жыл бұрын

Piere Litbarski thank you! Likewise 🤗

@indriadrayton1132 3 жыл бұрын

Pierre I really am sorry you went through that.

@bradscott3165 4 жыл бұрын

You can't just "rejigger the brain" after trauma. Trauma causes permanent harm. You can heal, but the scars are always there.

@joanneburns4343 4 жыл бұрын

She means managing your brain about the abuse

@bradscott3165 4 жыл бұрын

@@joanneburns4343 You don't know what you're talking about.

@lisebroder7876 4 жыл бұрын

I could not have said it better myself. That is a great analogy and so true

@acruxx763 3 жыл бұрын

When it comes to childhood trauma you can almost neutralize the effect if fast enough. Unfortunately I didn’t have this opportunity (I have severe ptsd... not due to sexual abuse)

@carolyneg3780 4 жыл бұрын

Wish I’d heard all this about 18 years ago when my son was first born....

@indriadrayton1132 3 жыл бұрын

Carolyne G 😪

@melissanielsen8215 4 жыл бұрын

Thankyou very much to both of you for being so brave. I will be brave too.

@miriamdavis2988 4 жыл бұрын

I was at the park and there were some street performers so a crowed gatherer around me and my kiddo. A man and a boy about 7 stood next to us and I could not tell if the man was his dad or an uncle of his. I just noticed he was super hands on with the boy and the boy seemed so uncomfortable and annoyed or intimidated by him that it made me feel uneasy. I also noticed that when they were sanding, he kinda pulled the boy to stand real close up agains his body. The man seemed energetic kept talking to him a lot and the boy seemed closed up. Looking back I feel guilty I didnt ask the man if that was his son or what but there were other kids around and Idk how to approach it and I also wasn’t sure if I was reading too much into it or not :( I feel bad now :(

@marilynhawes4238 4 жыл бұрын

Clearly you felt quirky and odd in your gut instinct which is good you cant put a price on it and IS your internal alarm . Next time I would ask a child are they OK ? the adult if inappropriate will close you down !

@louelaine3680 4 жыл бұрын

It's a very tricky situation, to witness something uncomfortable you can't be sure of. I think questions are fine. Might not be socially acceptable, but ask away. All they can do is walk away

@junegerber4028 4 жыл бұрын

I feel you. I have witnessed things and wanted to speak up but wasn't sure what to say. Don't feel bad. We need to educate ourselves on how to communicate to potential pedophiles. Any suggestions?

@RT-kt4kv 4 жыл бұрын

If it “feels” wrong; it’s wrong

@Stevie-steel 4 жыл бұрын

Listen to that gut... next time obey it. Dont try to logicize it away. The only way to learn to obey your still small voice us to neglect it.. and learn from the regret. Dont feel guilty!!! its just a lesson you needed to learn about following your gut. And don't ever let anyone make you feel in the wrong for simply questioning. Watching and being concerned. 💗

@jilllech9785 3 жыл бұрын

This by far the best and most informative explanation of grooming I have ever seen. I am a 75 year old female who is still trying to understand what was done to me. Thank you for sharing and giving me a piece of my puzzle that was missing. I had one wonderful therapist, ten years ago, who taught me how to move forward. She has retired and I am still looking for another. But you have also helped me know what kind of person to look for.

@EBUNNY2012 3 жыл бұрын

A lot of abuse comes from other children as well. A lot of it!

@giinnaaa123 3 жыл бұрын

I don’t understand your comment..

@Te3time 3 жыл бұрын

@@giinnaaa123 there is older children sexually abusing younger children as well

@foreverNwonder 2 жыл бұрын

This happened to me, my 2-3 year older cousin SA’d me for years… Worst part is, I figure HE was probably abused as a young child, as I don’t think most kids just do stuff like that on their own…

@UhtredOfBamburgh 3 жыл бұрын

When I was a kid i was taking the subway home from school one day and a fat old Indian man sat down beside me and put his arm around me and started asking casual questions which turned into trying to get me to come to his van at my subway stop. I was young and taught to be polite to adults and do everything adults tell me or else I would get yelled at. I was smart enough to escape when I had a chance at my stop but I remember sitting on the subway with people all around wondering what was happening to me and why other people were acting normal while I was processing the situation i didn't really understand fully at the time. Be careful of what you teach your children about obeying adults, it came close to getting 11 yr old me snatched.

@Te3time 3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!! This is actually a big problem for women in general like we get taught to be polite and submissive so a lot of times even as adults women will avoid to "cause a scene" which can lead to & attract all kinds of abuse

@UhtredOfBamburgh 3 жыл бұрын

@@Te3time Well I'm not a woman. I was a boy when that happened. Bad things happen to all kinds of people not just this group or that, dont listen to the media

@Tokyodogz14 4 жыл бұрын

I'm sus about the dislikers

@littleme3597 4 жыл бұрын

Yes. All the pedo's watching this.

@RT-kt4kv 4 жыл бұрын

Wolfieee!!! RighT !!!

@christineplaton3048 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for describing the need to " deal with the now " trauma therapy, and how the therapist speaks to the amygdala in the brain. We need to get beyond the blocks within...your descriptions and testimony are so crucial. I feel terrible about an event I will describe. I walked into a car parts store some years ago. An adorable little girl, in the middle of summer, was dressed in her Sunday best. Her hair was all braided and full of hair clips. She looked like she was going to a party. It was early in the day. I often smile at children. I held my purchase in my hand and smiled at her. A man was with her, he was requesting a car part over the counter. The little girl began to cry. I was shocked. The man looked down at her and said, in a stranger danger kind of voice, *what's going on? Barney's not here. Why are you crying when Barney's not here" I wish you could hear my rendition of his caracatured cartoon voice. I have to this day some twenty years hence never forgotten this young girl. Immediately , as a mother, my reaction was fear for this child. Looking back I should have called the police to check him out. To check her out. It wasn't a normal exchange. She was way overdressed, looking so pretty. And some ugly Barney ( we had a purple Barney on tv at the time. ) frightened and made her cry. What should I have done? It was before I owned a cell phone. Today I would get the plate number, get a picture and call police. We need ways to protect children. Thank you for being courageous and sharing your story. From the USA

@dotsyjmaher 3 жыл бұрын

This woman's ex-husband starved her and her kids into this...thieving ex spouses should be jailed

@tauresattauresa7137 3 жыл бұрын

If anyone would have told her, she would not have listened.

@mygoogle1482 4 жыл бұрын

Shocking story. Poor lady poor family. I hope the husband takes a good close look at himself. As a father, the law makers need to realise this lady reacted in an extreme way, she followed the law. Most men who are not abusers wouldn’t have her courage. I would take justice into my own hands and end up in prison. Poor lady she may be constantly blaming herself and never escape the abuse but she is doing something important for us all.

@laniejuanitawhitehurst1624 3 жыл бұрын

My younger daughter when she was on her on had friends that she found out that many were abused molested and she said thank you dad for not abusing us as she heard so many stories about family abusers is far more prevalent than the establishment authorities will admit. They are likely complicit in one way or another.

@yangosakurai7505 3 жыл бұрын

This is a hard topic to talk about but with how much this stuff is happening I think it's necessary to discus it so props to you. I think one of the most important thing a parent can do is talk to your children too, if not specifically at least make sure they know that they can always talk to you about anything. Open communication is so important

@robbiestoly5795 3 жыл бұрын

It screwed me up for life. But now I have Jesus. I love Jesus.

@gettenash3851 3 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏 it messed up my life too, but our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ fixed that. Vengeance is mine saith the Lord 🙌

@dr.weedtankwood3496 3 жыл бұрын

I used to have Jesus, truth is I created Jesus, Jesus was never real nor was God, the creations I convinced myself of helped me through my suffering and know I only have me and its bumpy ride ahead put it will be over soon.

@carrietatum835 2 жыл бұрын

It's so sad that you can't even take someone's kindness at face value. You have to constantly be on the lookout for people with bad intentions.

@karendiane5 3 жыл бұрын

33:37 Holy sh*t. When she demonstrates how the perp starts whispering in the child’s ear, I got cold chills down my back. She’s a brilliant teacher who vicariously brings you into the perp’s space!

@malas.7276 3 жыл бұрын

The grandfather of someone is "greeting" toddlers/kids a bit strange. He is really into physical contact hugging them, kissing them on the cheek for way to long, even if they show that they don't like it. I don't know but I think somethings wrong with it, but others find it normal?!

@Expose_bankers_and_auctioneers 3 жыл бұрын

dont let their opinion make you go along with it as ok

@tinawilson2160 3 жыл бұрын

So true - I still remember when I was so young and learning to talk and the young lady looking after me was abusing me and doing so in front of her friend and she was telling her how I was safe as not able to talk yet - others followed over years - friends, child minders, adult party mates of my parents and for my cousins a great uncle also abused them and they and I were made to feel guilty for what happened to them and I - anyone who covers or makes excuses for this is as bad as the abusers and are just as guilty as abusers - even today many in family will not face the truth or make light of it or say I got it wrong - I have done all I can to protect my own children as they grew up yet just once trust I had in another child may of cost my children when his older brother visited and cops would not listen because kids were so young and person never been in trouble for this sort of stuff in past yet rap sheet 44 pages long I told later...listen to your children and look for the signs....

@karenkennedy6331 4 жыл бұрын

A step father abusing a12 year old girl with mom knowing, only got a 1 month house probation, did lose job, in the US.

@barrybark3995 3 жыл бұрын

anyone being overly helpful is to be watched

@matthewellis8025 4 жыл бұрын

Legit about the s-abuse and arson, I used to burn my toys and set anything i could on fire.

@EcoworksFL 4 жыл бұрын

I'm very sorry to hear about your experience ..I hope you are healed and on your journey to self love..

@brutallyremastered4255 4 жыл бұрын

Jesus; horrific. So difficult to listen and watch the methods as described. A brave woman.

@69minutes 3 жыл бұрын

I had to walk a 17 year old girl to her car the other day because of a creep, Even as a guy I was extremely scared. I hope everyone stays safe out here

@jojozepofthejungle2655 4 жыл бұрын

I can vouch for the teeth grinding. I still find it hard to stop that and I remember having panic attacks as young as 5, I'm now 50. I don't speak to my mother as she still cannot see any problems with anyone but me, yet it was her failure of duty of care, that made me a loner and a target for every pederphile on the block and at that damned parents without partners group. This woman is a good mum, acknowledging that her sons were abused yet it took two court sessions to wake her up, which is sad 😔

@HappyHawthorn 3 жыл бұрын

Sorry you went through this. Good for you that you're able to say 'No' now.♥️

@andrewc.2952 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for using your platform to bring awareness to this sickening blight on humanity. Those of us who are adults must be educated and not be hesitant to help if we are made aware of something going on. We also have a duty to children both ours and those in our communities to help protect them from monsters. It is vital to remember that these monsters can look like average clean cut people. Also if we are aware of something happening and we do nothing about it, we assist in allowing the cycle to continue. Full stop.

@gingerleegirl6697 3 жыл бұрын

I just looked online today and it says 2,800 children a day come up missing in the United States every single day and not even half of them ever make it back home. Today is Thursday February 25th. 2,800 children every day, every single day of the year.

@EmsheyOfficial Жыл бұрын

Horrendous statistics 😢

@lisebroder7876 4 жыл бұрын

This should be done in every school. Appropriate to the age of the child. My stepfather did this to me I remember the first time I don't remember I'm not going to go into detail but I remember asking does mommy do this and the answer was yes that's all I remember. It is so important to talk about this in school like the police come to the school and talked about say no to drugs. This is as important and more importance. Especially if the abuse goes on 4 years and they say why don't children tell because the child feels that they did something wrong that it's their fault. This woman is amazing. And we moved a lot I don't know if people knew something was going on or our house was dysfunctional but no one ever said anything I know there had to have been signs but I was too afraid I didn't trust adults they took me away from my mommy and put me in foster homes and as a little girl you do not want to be taken away from your mother unless you've been through this you have no idea no idea. I am 58 years old woman. I have been in therapy with the same therapist for over 20 years it's like peeling an onion and when you think you're done and you can deal with it something else pops up it remains with you and the rest of your life. This was so hard get out myself like this but it was not my fault I did nothing wrong. And at one time I wanted to have this person prosecuted and you know what the police told me first they didn't believe me then when they did believe me they told me the statues of limitations was up

@HappyHawthorn 3 жыл бұрын

Sorry you went through this. You might consider finding another therapy, because twenty years is a long time - as Marilyn suggested.

@aswithinsowithout 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, thank you for being so clear! I have tried to keep my kids aware and this will be really helpful.

@evelyncasto9627 3 жыл бұрын

Part of the problem, is the parents who refuse to prosecute the perverts. By not prosecuting the abuser, you are HELPING them continue to abuse children. Every child that the monster abuses after your child is YOUR FAULT for not stopping them.

@nicolekellington208 4 жыл бұрын

Good for you in telling your story!!such a brilliant video...I pray this helps many people...there's a lot of information out in the world now....not too many people can hide in this world...brushing things under a rug in regards to anything unsavoury these days is a thing if the past.....letter rip!

@junegerber4028 4 жыл бұрын

Actually the unfortunate thing is that people can and are hiding and getting away with it because Jesuits control the world and they control the pedophile/human trafficking/porn industries/secret societies/etc. - Jesuits control all positions of governments and all courts of law. All kids need a cell phone and turn on the camera for evidence.

@Stevie-steel 4 жыл бұрын

@@junegerber4028 can i ask what you mean by jesuits? Do you mean jewish people?

@junegerber4028 4 жыл бұрын

@@Stevie-steel Jesuits (of the Roman cult called Catholicism) created the fake Jews in Israel (who are not the Hebrews of the Bible). The Jews in Israel are Zionists and are actually Jesuits (who are called the AntiChrist and currently control the world). I've been researching for 10+ years so I don't expect you will understand...so do your own research. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/qL-olJdzx6rMnH0.html

@ShmeePadge 2 жыл бұрын

This is amazing that she has dedicated her life to teaching people about this. I have 2 young kids and I will keep an eye out for suspicious behavior.

@livmarlin4259 8 ай бұрын

Michael Jackson raped little boys.

@DrJJ001 Жыл бұрын

AN ABSOLUTELY AWESOME SHOW!!! Thank you both soooo much. I have forwarded this on to others including teachers.

@lhsclizdonnelly 4 жыл бұрын

This was a brilliant show! Many thanks! Learnt lots! Now will be much wiser!

@paolabueso 3 жыл бұрын

Outstanding episode! What an amazing woman. Thank you so much for sharing this incredibly valuable information.

@MsTee7475 4 жыл бұрын

The best help guide known to mankind. Bravo You did your job, and did it well, & I’m sure this will prayerfully open lots of ears & eyes. You literally shined a huge light on the darkness of this World. God Bless🙏🏻

@annew441 4 жыл бұрын

Just watched this, well done Chrissy on airing this subject, taught me a lot of things about past and current things which happen in my life. I have and still suffer bullying in my family. Really enlightened me.No sexual abuse thank goodness. Great show!

@znvorz 3 жыл бұрын

i think my dad was grooming me, he wasn't in my life especially when i was born. he started wanting custody later in my life he was a stranger to me when i started visiting him basically

@HappyHawthorn 3 жыл бұрын

Hope you're okay.♥️

@consciouswithcathleen 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this! I'm just finding out how often this happens.

@SayGriLa Жыл бұрын

This was extremely helpful and informative. It’s hard to listen to these things and talk about these things but every parent needs to push through and learn the signs.

@teararoaclapperton819 4 жыл бұрын

So grateful to find this. People please share this video everywhere.

@MrMadieu 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome interview, although uncomfortable in content. Has to be discussed & highlighted like this. Thank you.

@kaydonahue 4 жыл бұрын

So important! What is amazing with children, is how hard they try to get bullies to like them! I tried to teach bullied children to look for all the friends they have that do not abuse them. Collect non abusive friends! Fall out of "love" with abusive people. You can choose who you want to be close to you. You can choose who not to be close to you. As a child two girls invited me over, always to be brunt of a cruel joke. It was tremendously traumatic. I told my loyal best friend what they were doing to me. When they came over my friend, and her brothers excluded them from our games. They were all abused by both parents. I couldn't do anything about it. Fortunately, they could help me. I still love them for being supportive.