i actually tried the "You have a face of an angel, sweet cheeks" On my bully and he was confused and never picked on me again i didnt think one phrase can stop a bully

Think of bullies as sandpaper. They might scratch you at first, but in the end, you're POLISHED, and they end up USELESS.

please note that bullying nowadays is very indirect and using subtle words and symbolic meaning. Bully are usually a narcissist and they never do direct things to you as they need to keep their images as the good people.

Clearly, this guy has never been in a call of duty lobby.

The girl's reaction when he starts singing "isn't she lovely"

I tried it It worked The guy was like “okay I’m bored with you bye” 😂😂😂😂

In Singapore, bullies were forced to sent out of the school if teacher's see them bully other people. Then when the bullies got sent out of the school, the principal sends their parents an email saying that your child can't come to this school anymore because he/she bullies other people. This is why not even a single student in Singapore would bully other people because they're scared of getting sent out of the school and get grounded by their parents because of bullying other students at school.

I taught a similar concept to my son when he was 4 years old, and the the neighbor kids were 5 & 6 and all brats. They invited him to play basketball with them, then only played keep away. He came in so sad and hurt. That night I talked to him about taking responsibility in any situation -- meaning, taking ownership of your own actions. That "responsibility" gives you "response-ability". You're not powerless. We talked about what they were seeking (to make him upset) and if he blew it off and didn't get upset, then they wouldn't get their pay off. I suggested that when the first started keeping the ball from him, he casually say "Look, are we gonna play ball? I'm here to play ball". He asked "what if they still do it?". I replied with "I thought we were going to play ball. Are we going to play or not? Because if not, I have other things to do". He asked but what if they STILL do it. My reply: "I've got other things to do. I'll catch ya guys later", and calmly walk back in the house. Call them on their BS. Stay calm. Don't stick around for the abuse. He's now 17 and so calm, strong & self-confident, and a great help to his friends when they are needing advice of any kind.

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I have watched this 13 times in my life, with 9 different teachers showing me yet I still love it

There is the ONE Problem dealing with Bullies that Video's like this don't show. In the 90's in secondary school I was bullied by this one boy and his friends. One day, he backed me to a wall... And the insults started. Everyone laughed WITH him; he'd gathered a crowd watching him destroy me, calling me names... To which I responded: "It so good you're expanding your Vocabulary and working on your People skills". Everyone laughed AT HIM and not with him. With that one line it was like I'd ripped his Soul out of his Body. And so he resorted to violence. I gotta give him this, that was one quick punch. That I sidestepped. And he hit the very wall he'd backed me into breaking some bones in his hand. Making everyone Laugh at him even more. It's be nice if that was where it ended. Bullies are Pack hunters... Unfortunately, one night he and his friends caught me outside of School. I had been studying Martial Arts for many years and held my own for the first 10 seconds... But with overwhelming Numbers they beat me so badly I was in Hospital for TWO Months. This predated Camera Phones and CCTV everywhere. And they said I had started on them. If it wasn't for HIS girlfriend backing me up on what happened I cannot imagine how the rest of it would have gone.

It sounds simple, but it is actually good. It doesn't however deal with being isolated by the group, which is a big part of bullying which can't be fixed by ignoring it.

I have been depressed from bullying and started to think I should just end it all. This video helped me so much. You are an angel sent by god. Thank you.

We watched this in class today

Best thing I’ve ever seen and I have seen fightclub.

Her: i hate blonde people Someone from the distance: WHAT DID YOU- ( 5:37 )

people in my school use me for racial abuse. this video really helps me to stand up for myself. thanks!

This works on narcissistic abusers too. I’ve used it on my mom plenty of times (who’s literally ripped me and my sisters apart). It’s something that everyone need to see.

"When someone punches your face" was *100%* of the interaction I faced as a child. And this crazy idea that a bully will leave you alone? Never happens. And you have all the elements to figure out why, yet you get the answer wrong. No bully "gives up" precisely because they _need_ to show dominance; it's a Compulsive/Obsessive Disorder. Failing to establish dominance on _any_ triggers narcissist collapse; any failure proves that their core identity beliefs are false. Every bully I grew up with acted like stalkers; they *never* gave up trying to dominate and enslave me - even at the risk of their own lives. I don't know what "amateur hour" bullies you are thinking of, but my bullies were of professional quality. And there was no help for me as a child. Everyone sided with my assailants - including my parents and the school faculty.

This guy came to our school today and it was insane. He ended up wrestling a student during his game it was funny but learned such a great lesson. I appreciate you coming to our school today. It was also insane how one kid came up and wasn’t able to continue with the insults, just amazing! Such a great speech, well done! 🎉

I want anti-bullying, social skills, dynamics in conversation and differences in social power to be taught at every level in schools EVERYWHERE. That would be such life skills. This demo is wonderful. More pls!

My 10 yr old tried this approach today and so far it worked! She's jazzed. :)

This is the most important video ever. The entire time i was just thinking "why didn't I learn this sooner???" throughout my entire teen years I was figuring out how to "not care what people think" and THIS was exactly what I needed at that time. Thank you. I am keeping this video forever.

It takes a strong mindset and self confidence to answer just like that but thanks it will help so many people and also kids!

‘You have a face of an angle, sweet cheeks...’😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I wish I'd known this in high school. This is "dominance behavior" and understanding that one true fact really "reframes" the whole issue. VERY helpful.

This has always been my method for dealing with bullies and I don't recall being bullied except maybe once when I was 9 for my hair from some older kid. I don't agree with letting bullies run a muck, but if you can let go of that stupid need to be perfect, is releases a massive weight off your shoulders. It will give you so much free energy to play with. You just have to get comfortable calling yourself silly, stupid, goofy, clumsy, make it cute if you want, just dont take yourself too seriously. Let others take the pressure of being perfect, watch them burn out, set yourself up to be underestimated, know in yourself you can jump in whenever you feel like it, but you choose not too because its just a waste of energy. Save your strength for the real fights in life. Like stopping a bully for bullying someone else.

I learnt this from my youth group and Bible studies and it saved me from bullying in High School. In fact, one girl was actually violent and had punched others many times. Treating her with respect and warmth worked on her too! She never hit me and started calling me a friend. In fact, as far as I remember (this was over 30 years ago) she actually stopped bullying others too!!! The reality is EVERYONE is hurting, especially bullies!!

She was good. Don't think he quite expected that.

I was bullied in school and someone said to me that I stunk. My remark back to them was have you smelled yourself lately? I also said to them. I could smell you a mile away, and there was other people around, and they laughed. After that they left me alone, because I embarrsed them in front of a whole bunch of people

5:37 „i hate blonde people“ Best friend of her: „WHAT U...“😂😂😂

You just have to say: What? And then when they repeat Do it again

My 11 year old used this and he said it was amazing! It’s changed his entire attitude about going to school. When his teacher talked about “bullying” he told her he likes the term “dominance behavior” more.

Another teacher here. I'll add to Sergio Clemente's excellent response to this video. Brooks Gibbs only presents one very limited way of understanding bullying. He summarizes a sociological perspective about dominance. Behavioral scientists have also studied bullying for decades. Their conclusions are this: A person receives a psychological reward when they engage in bullying behavior. They will only stop that behavior when the negative consequences outweigh the positive rewards. Dominance is not the only reward. As Sergio said, social approval is a much more powerful motivator. When one person grows "thick skin," the bully merely moves on to the next victim to torment for the approval of an audience. Don't give them the audience. Having taught children from Kindergarten through fifth grade in public schools, here's what I found works for most (not all--no approach is universal) bullies. Zero tolerance on a social level. Stand with the victim. Publicly shame the bullies. Shun them. Humiliate them. Ostracize them. Make the social consequences so unbearable that the bullying behavior becomes too painful to continue. Then, and only then, do you attempt to invite the bully back into the social group and help change behavior with "nice words." Bullies won't stop until it hurts too much to continue.

I sang "isn't she lovely" to my bully and he beat the shit out of me, thanks Brooks 👍🏼

This is truth. I have been on this journey with a neighbour. I stopped contact. She cannot say anything that will bother me. So much healthier and happier for it. I will show this to my son.

This is how teachers think bullies are lmao

A part of dealing with bullies is to be with friend's that love you for who you are because that way it's easyer to clear the hate/negatively out of your mind and to focus on happiness that you deserve.

What if they said “you’re are a gay” and you remember this video and you would said ‘Yeah sometimes I do gay things’

The best way to deal with bullying is to stand up for yourself. Ignoring doesn’t work. Your bully will get worse.

My son was about 14 or 15 when he was bullied in a situation, then he was away from that situation for about 6 months. When he came back to that group for one evening, BOOM, it started again, only worse than before, and I'm not even sure it was the same person. What he said afterward was very significant. He said, "I could ACT like it didn't bother me, because it DIDN'T bother me, because I'd been a way from it and I knew that I was more than what they thought of me." This is significant. Kids can't just act like it doesn't bother them if they don't know that they are something different than what the other kids are saying about them. (And by the way, he went back to that group twice and simply found that there was nothing there for him, either from the teacher or the kids.)

bully : Watching this video at class Also bully : awkward eye contacts with the whole class and silence for 7 minute

If this is our best answer to bullying in schools its pretty clear why we struggle to deal with bullying. I have been both a bully and a victim of bullying in high school in different environments. The advice presented is all too simplistic and even downward dangerous. Bullying can be terrifying and extremely complex to deal with. Trying to reduce it to simple receipts can get those bullied in more trouble. Even the separation of bullying from physical violence is nonsensical. Physical violence is an integral part of bullying. To face bullying you needs both vigilance and a relentless systemic crack down from school authorities as well as a support system that works and truly protects and empowers the victims .

Something even better, just look at them, poker face, and stay silent. When they are done, you can say anything or nothing. Whatever you say, it will be powerful

This is great if you have that kind of personality. When I was a kid being bullied, what worked was fighting back (verbally, though sometimes I had to physically fight back). It's a shame, over 30 years later we're still having these issues. Why haven't we evolved? Bullying is so primitive.

So true. We need to stop lying to the kids by saying, "We have a 0 tolerance bullying policy," because that's impossible. But if we tell the truth and let kids know that somewhere, sometime, people will be nasty to them while giving them these tools, they will be much better prepared to handle it.

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I always come here when i need to

We will never get rid of bullying, but video's like this can ease the situation to some extent. Thumbs up.

I went to school with a kid who had to stop going because he was bullied so bad. He just stopped. Everyone loved him. But there was one person who bullied him, so he left.

This is what I did. I came up with this theory that if I'm not giving what the bullies want then they'll get bored and move on. I also manipulate.. 🙂 for my own safety 👍. I make sure everyone knows when the bullying occurred. And that's how I stop them from targeting me. Note that every bully is different. If the bully likes bullying the weak, I talked back and acted tough. If they enjoyed being provoked, then I don't give them reactions. Also, never isolate yourself. Never leave an opening to the bullying to happen. My most memorable was when I verbally argued with a bully in the middle of the classroom. I kept my distance and didn't use profanity. I simply question her actions towards me to gain classmates' attentions. When the bully was about to lay a hand on me, I shouted that she started physical violence first. That's when the teacher arrived and the bully let it go. Edit: I hope this helps someone after reading.🙏 Always stay positive.

I just want to say... I get too many bullying in my entire life. Until I watch this video, about 4 years ago. I doing what he said, what we should do with bullies. And this turned out to be very successful according to what he said. This had a very good effect on me afterwards. Thanks KZfaq for recommended me back then. Also tyvm for Brooks Gibbs. You're amazing.

This is a life lesson two days later:my teacher showed me this

Ok give her a hand clap she did great. Later: give me a big hand clap I did awesome 👏🏻

Okay but can we just talk about how natural she was with telling mean stuff (almost like she's done it before...) As for me, I even struggle to think petty stuff like that about other people. Idk why but that's how it's been.

An amazing video should be shown in every school

This is what I've been doing for my entire life. I've just went along with the people that bullied me, because I didn't have enough time to deal with them and they were just acting stupid. I do have self confidence for sure.

Teachers spend years trying to figure out how to stop bullying and this guy summed it up in minutes. amazing.

Me: "So bulling is just verbal thing" Bullies: "Always has been"

Fantastic. This concept worked for me 30 years ago in high school. I had trouble fitting in and was bullied in grade school. But once I learnt to just be kind no matter the cost (I didn't know it would work, I fully expected to get punched in the face), in high school after one interaction with one of the biggest bullies in the school, I was never bullied again. And boy did it feel good to stay true to myself and just be me! Now I teach these techniques to my clients.

When you spoke at CAlifornia FFA state conference 2016, you significantly changed my life. Today, I was confronted by someone and I killed them with kindness by doing what you have said. Thank you so much!

When I'm being called a bitch, I'll say a bitch is a dog, a dog barks, a bark is on a tree, tree is a part of nature and nature is beautiful so thx for calling me beautiful

I took this advice from this video a long time ago when I was going through bullying on a daily basis, I was violently beaten multiple times. Don’t listen to him, don’t be a victim.

Thank you so much! This video was absolutely key to my son shut down bullying in 2nd grade. He started middle school this year and I found it to show him again.

When I was at school I got bullied, told the teacher, and she told me I can bring him in and cane him but I bet if I do that it will get worse for you. "When he does it again punch him in the face hard" was her advice, "you might take a beating but he will not pick on you again". Anyway he started on me and I knocked two of his teeth out in front of everyone. She was right he never picked on me again, neither did anyone else. We were friends after that and I found throughout school that the people you stood up to or fought often ended up your mates in the long run.

3:30 is my favorite part.

You are awesome!!!!!!!! Thanks for sharing this 😭 I was bullied by all my cousins when I was younger. Because I was poor and my parents were divorced. It affects my life until I'm adult. It is a nightmare just to go back remember and feeling the pain and hateful. I love them. But they were so evil to me. When I made my boundaries they don't care. They ignored me. Sometimes I feel so alone.

I got shown this at my psychological center and it inspired me

Super helpful. I'm trying to teach my kiddos how to become "bully-proof" people 😊 This was a helpful resource for me as I was thinking about how to make a video for them. So thank you very much.

I totally agree with this video since I have tried this technique many times and it has worked for me every time. No primary school teachers have made a difference for me but this technique has

Thank you very much for giving this speech, it will help so many people come out of a problem they could never get out of. It is easy to understand and the message is very clear, and it's impressive that you divided bullying from crime, and from sth that requires high self esteem to be okay with. By regarding it just as a game, it makes it much easier to not make it a big deal

Can we talk about how amazing at bullying she is

How I sealed with my bully when I was on sixth or seventh grade I scared them off with my extremely dirty humor Or annoy them enough to make them back off

I can't imagine this working! Even if you are friendly to the bully, he will get his approval through the others laughing at the insults! And if you are friendly to him, you would still have a lower status then the bully, wouldn't you?

5:41 That's my new ringtone

I’ve been using this technique from him for the past three or four years and just came back to thank you really helped me and for everyone yes it does work

This video helped me. A girl likes to lie, hit, threaten, and make fun of me. Thanks to this video, I have to confidence to stand up to her.

This is really helpful thanks man you helped me I’m going to school tommorow and standing up for myself thanks

School should really teach kids more on how to deal with bullies and depression it’s really important

Thank you for making this video. It saved me and now I am sharing this video to my students to learn how to deal with bullying.

Therapist referred me to this to deal with my own inner critic. Thank you

I find this video very helpful for me to analyse what actually happen and how to react someone bully me.

This is the best seminar I've ever watched

Interesting. Thank you. ) I have an interesting case in my life when I won over a bully in a different way but it still fits the concept. So thanks for the explanation. So the story is that when I was studying in a univercity I was living in a room with 3 more guys and 1 of them was real jerk that was constantly trying to make other people feel bad but at the same time he was trying to make himself look good as if it was not bullying but instead he was doing right thing. It lasted for pretty long time and I couldn't do anything. We even had a fight once, he broke my nose and I was throwing a dumbell into him in a hallway of our campus, then I spent 5 days in a hospital and after that we both had to visit a police department. But it didn't stop him from bullying me. So eventually I've remembered a game that some guys that I know were playing for no reason and without any visible goal. For some time they just stopped talking. It was like one guy is trying not to talk but the other one was trying to make first one say something. Looks a bit funny and pointless. But! I thaught about this: whenever I and that roommate had a conflict it always started from talking even after some bad action that he knew would make me mad, then during talking I would get more and more angry. Usually him too, but not always. So I decided to stop talking to him as well. Because even though he might have done something that would really drive me crazy I was still not that angry as if I would start to talk with him about it. So I would just ignore him and his ugly behaviour. He would do or say something ugly to me - I'm silent and don't even look as if I heard it. After a while he tried to behave normally so that I start talking to him again - I would still ignore him. Less then a week after I started that, he stopped bullying me. I just took away audience from him and his performance became pointless. It was still hard because I really wanted to beat him up, but I didn't really know how to fight back then so I chose that way. And it worked.

I watched another video that was doing this game, and it was exactly the same, and all I saw was HATE comments.

Thank you! The current system is backfiring completely.

I tried his tips and i can stop internet bullying, it works. Lowering self esteem is truly the way to get out of danger sometimes

THANK YOU VERY MUCH !!! GOD BLESS YOU !!! I was looking for help, because once I was harassed in primary school and hence a strong fear of people, and you helped me a lot to understand that we should overcome evil with good, thank you so much

I felt like I was being bullied and I tried this it really works thank you so much 😊

I love how you explain everything. I love how you get me interested and you make me laugh so hard. You also sing very well, i will admit i HAVE used some of your lines, like "you have the face of an angel sweet cheaks". I am bullied fairly often and i am very sensitive, at least now i know to shake it off and stomp it down!

I think everyone can be a bully in many different forms because like he said it is a power struggle to be the alpha or at least improve your position. If you look it at that way then you understand there is many fields of human activity where it is a power struggle not just in teasing. This struggle could be making money, getting physically stronger, looking better, being smarter, better at talking, better education, better history or background, more likes, being taller, being faster, being promoted. I think the truth is there is always someone going to be better than you at something and you are always going to be better than someone else at something. I think the solution to bullying is to create a culture were people help the weaker. So people see that when they are at the top of something or better at something they should use it to lift others instead of making them feel inferior or just ignoring them.

I’ve been bullied all my life mostly by the same girl and she turned all my friends against me🥺

Brooks Gibbs you're amazing thank you for helping me fight bullyng

the 403 dislikes were from the bullys

In the majority of situations bullies are simply people trying to take back power that was taken from them at somepoint through a perceived weaker target. You deal with this in almost every occurrence through the only language they understand - by assertively standing up for yourself or if needs be physical violence (especially the latter in a school setting).

one of the smoothest people I've seen in a long time.

Oh if only it was that easy in the real world.

Thanks for this video! This helped my son a lot from getting bullied!

The problem is most bullying now is a group dynamic. It's all about how many other users give you shows of support. You can ignore one person easily with a bit of training. Ignoring everyone....? That's just ridiculous, u can't do anything in the space if u have to ignore everyone.

This video has inspired me to make a speech about anti bullying and i presented this speech infront of my classmates, they all loved the speech i presented and they were all proud if me. This video was really something for me