I learned how to handle bullies when I was 10. I used to spend summers w my grandparents, since I was 5. Anytime I was out in the yard this kid would come by, take my toy, push me, I’d go running in the house. One day my grandfather was home early from work. This kid came walking in the yard, I went running to the door, and my grandfather closed it on me. Wouldn’t let me in. I was petrified. The kid walked right up to me and shoved me. Then, something snapped in me. I jumped on him and beat the living shit out of him. Screaming and punching him on the ground. My grandfather came out and pulled me off of him. The kid went home crying. My grandfather looked at me and said you don’t know it, but I just saved you a lifetime of living in fear. And he was right. I never looked for trouble, but I never backed down and never have. That kid and I became the best of friends for life. He passed away a few years ago. Don’t baby your kids. Teach them to be peaceful but teach them to defend themselves and stick up for themselves. Up until that point of my fight at 10, I was a meek little kid who let everyone push him around. That fight changed everything. At 18 I joined the military. Became an army Ranger for 8 years. I was a member of the us army welterweight boxing team. If it weren’t for what my grandfather did that day, I never would have had the guts to do any of it. That’s my point. Even if I had lost and the kid had beaten me up, it was still better than cowering in fear all my life. Sometimes it takes tough love with those we love the most. I’m 72 now, and I haven’t lived in fear one day since

“People should know within three seconds of interacting with you that harassing you would be a seriously bad idea.” I need to let that sink in for a while.

My Dad always said "you may not win but make sure the other guy knows he was in a fight". That has served me well.

Just remember, bullies only understand one language. They're speaking it. Make sure you stand your ground and speak back.

The problem is that, if you are being bullied by a bunch of people, it is much harder to stand up.

"Tyrants will push until you push back." Yep, this is why bullies love to target passive victims. Only way to get the bullying to stop is if you respond counter offensively. And kids don't like hearing that because they think it'll escalate the bullying, but it's a necessary evil to remediate the problem.

I was bullied as a child, but wished I would have fought back more often, even if it meant being suspended or kicked off the basketball team. I wouldn’t have struggled with such a lack of confidence and held myself to a higher standard when it came to a career or relationships.

A courageous person dies once, a coward dies a thousand times.

Bullies are naturally drawn to submissive people. Conquering your fear is how you deal with bullies. The way you conquer fear and anxiety is always the same. You must face it. It is never pleasant. You always want to run away and not deal with it. The only way to deal with a bully is to stop being fearful. Standing up to them one time but still being fearful won't work. It's your fear they attack, not you as a person. They use personal attacks, but that's just an excuse. We evolved this behavior to make sure our tribe was strong and not weak. In order to not be weak, you must face your fears.

What he says about getting through six arguments to get to the actual conversation that you needed to have,. I felt that

I've been making this argument for years: you stand up to bullies and evil in order to protect people who can't or won't protect themselves. When you do not or will not stand up against them, you empower them.

I really wish I had known this as a child. Throughout my life, I have been the compliant one letting others run over me, using me, treating me like crap and bullying me. It was how women were supposed to be. Women who stood their ground and didn’t let others run over them were viewed as obnoxious and called names. It took some major upheavals in my life for me to recognize that I was worth something and didn’t have to put up with this bad treatment. Now I am a force to be recorded with.

My life changed when I faced a bully in 9th Grade. There was a guy in 10th grade who liked a girl who liked me. He had a massive body-building friend also in 10th who was not very smart, but was like a puppy to this guy. The body builder was convinced to pick a fight with me. He hit me first and the fight was on. I did my best but he was clearly stronger, and all the kids were cheering him on as they tend to do. But I just refused to give up. He'd knock me down and I'd get back up and charge back in. Over and over getting my own licks in while taking all that punishment. The kids stopped cheering him on and started pleading for me to give up, but I wouldn't. I just kept getting up and coming back at him. They started jeering at the body builder and finally someone got the PE Teacher who stopped the fight. I did not win, BUT I did not lose! No one ever messed with me after that in school. I've never lost a fight in all the years since.

The worst part is that bullies are often or have been bullied themselves. Not an excuse - kick a bullies ass and you've done the world a service.

I was bullied in 6th grade by a highly manipulative girl. My teachers at the time didn't take it serious and if I would have engaged in physical conflict they would have seen me as the bully.

You only have to punch them out ONCE. Never again will they bother you. Learned that in elementary. And yes, bullies have a traumatic background all the time, BUT you have to stand up for yourself, no matter what!

I fought my much larger bully at my first day at a new grade school. I was reprimanded for it as equally as he was. He continued to bully me, my sister and several others for the next three years before I moved away. That right there told me that I couldn't trust the institution. Years later I ran into him. He was genuinely afraid of me because I was tough as nails and had just gotten off a Bering Sea fishing vessel. We ended up smoking a bowl together and he apologized for doing what he did. Bygones be Bygones. Turns out, he had a brutal childhood. I'm profoundly happy with myself for not exacting some sort of silly revenge. He had it rough too. Life is hard, terrifying, brutal... and it's the most beautiful thing we can imagine. I forgave him completely. Happiness is a choice. I sincerely hope you the reader can understand this simple yet amazing concept.

When I started in high school, I was bullied from being very tall at school, I stood out so much being age 12 and 6'7. It was daunting. I was taunted with words, like lanky etc. I was pulled into an unattended classroom and slapped by someone and tried to escape, and I was rushed. When I think back from 12 and now I am 31, NO ONE will touch me now. Bullies are jealous because you have something they don't have, they are angry at their life and they want others to feel angry and hurt as much as they do.

In grade 3 I understood that most of the bullies did nothing, but install fear into others and that's how they got away with it. Mind you I grew up in Turkey and in a very rough neighborhood. I had to beat up a lot of bullies myself who tried to mess with me or my friends. They never messed with anyone from my class up to the end of 5th grade.

This experience scarred me up untill this day, parents protect your kids, when they confide in you don't take it lightly... good people turn evil because of these kind of issues in our society.

I was bullied from I was 10. At age 16 I got a job on a fishing boat where I worked for a year. On the boat I grew big and strong, and my self-confidence grew as well. After my year as fisherman was over, I went back to my hometown and sought out every bully that's been after me. I went for them one by one and made them all my bitches. I do not recommend doing it this way, but man did it feel good.

There was an old film called "The Bells of St. Mary's" where this little boy was being bullied by another. The nun in the school found out, and taught the boy how to box so next time, he was able to punch the bully and knock him down. That's old school method of handling bullies and it worked. I also dealt with a bully who was constantly harassing my sister, and surprised him by giving him a good punch in the face when he started picking on her (oblivious to the fact that I was hiding in the back of the bus, waiting for him to start it). He never bothered her again.

I never had issues with bullies in school or when I was a kid. I knew how to stand my ground and most kids doing bullying actually liked me and wanted to be friends with me. I tried very hard to push them off. however, bullies got to me in my twenties. in university and more so in office spaces. where physicality isn't an option. Women are especially good at this. I'm still learning how to deal with it. They push your boundaries, and if you object then you're an enemy. they wait to see you fall, they wait to see those same boundaries being broken again, without realizing that I'm breaking the boundaries for a friend. They like to pick on you for your talents, or maybe work ethic, whatever Ii is. now I know how to deal with women in a relationships, but office isn't one. you can't ignore them there, you can't leave, and you can't make them leave. it's like they force you to create a hostile environment. or be a punching bag for their jokes. so every time this happens I make a joke back and get viewed as a bad guy. No matter what I do, I'm still at fault. This burned many bridges in my career. I will not take bullying from anyone and it seems like if you don't, then you'll never have a job or any chance at promotion

"Fight back. Sometimes it's physical, but that's not necessarily for the best. Maybe it's through articulation." This is how I dealt with my bully. Older kid in my study hall. Real cheeky type. He started by starting a normal pleasant conversation with me. From there, he went to showing me an explicit picture of an old woman. When I expressed discomfort, the next couple of weeks, he went to trying to tickle me and call me gay for not being into old women. Silence was a rule of the study hall, so the last time he tried to tickle me I loudly said, "Look. I don't like you, and it's obvious you don't like me. So would you please be so kind as to fuck off?" The little worm shriveled into his seat and asked if I was going to hit him. When I simply said I was considering it, the teacher intervened. I accepted the lecture about swearing in class and enjoyed a peaceful study hall the rest of the semester.

These old school lectures are still the best. Every so often, we will revisit these for wisdom. Thanks Dr Peterson

This reminds me of what happened in my childhood. A close friend of mine confided in me that he was being bullied. I asked him how long had it been going on, and he said for a very long time. I asked him what he was going to do about it, and he said he was just going to leave it be and maybe the bully will eventually lose interest and leave him alone. He didn't, predictably. The 2nd time my friend came to me. I said I was going to take care of it. I gathered a couple of other friends and beat the hell out of the bully that next day. Probably the greatest feeling I had ever had up to that point of my life. They say violence doesn't solve anything, but sometimes the world demands justice.

What i have learnt is typical bullies(not the psychopathic type who will actually try kill you or try maim you in some terrible way if you stand your ground) will back off if you push back. Also sometimes but not always bullying happens because you dont push back or stand your ground when someone tries to size you up and you in a way empower them to keep pushing you around. Sometimes the fear of potential physical altercations makes us fail to stand our ground which is why i think taking things like boxing classes can help boost your confidence to engage in a verbal face off when someone is trying to bully you, not because of course you plan to beat them up

I was a lone wolf in school much due to my autism. People started giving me a hard time but you know what they say about the quiet kid. Telling the teachers didn't help, telling the principle didn't help, telling my parents didn't help, trying to ignore it and be the "bigger" man didn't help, no one was trying to help me... So I took matters into my own hands, challenged to a fight behind school at lunch break and made sure to not be bothered again. One didn't get the memo at kept at after school, so one day when I was walking home with my 10 year old little sister at the time he cuts us off and started talking shit and saying things I didn't liked my sister hearing and saw this very thorny bush behind him so I punched him in the face, he stumbled backwards and fell into that bush, grabbed her hand and ran home and never had issues with him again. That guy also had the worst type of prick with him too, a loud mouth. Someone so at disadvantage physically he stands behinds you like his shield and yells, but as soon as he's vulnerable he books it, when he see you no longer chansing he stops, turns back around and starts yelling and mocking you again. Never saw him again after seeing his best friend and protection in a bush assaulted by thorns flailing to get up. It's funny how I wanted to be left alone yet never was afraid to stand up for myself, plus pain didn't scare me, like the more hurt I got the more I wanted to hurt back and hurt more. I was crazy in fights back then.

I wish I had ignored my dad and fought the kids that bullied me.

My older brother is a gentle giant. He’s 2 years older than I (a girl) am and he’s 6’10”. He was always picked on because he was so gentle. Then in high school it turned into bullying: pushing, horrible outright verbal abuse, etc. One day I guess he figured he’d had enough - he grabbed the guy by the front of his shirt and threw him into the metal lockers. No one messed with my brother again and he went on being peaceful. The school’s Principal suspended him. BUT, when our mother went in to pick him up and meet with the principal about the incident, he told my mother that anything physical is an automatic suspension, it was out of his hands - and that he was happy to see my brother finally defend himself. Mom took my brother your to eat (which was a rarity!). My brother’s 45 now and he’s figured out that he’s just smarter than everyone else, so he “scares” the bullies by letting them know that he will always make the joke. It’s a thing of beauty to see!

luckily i never had to deal with bullying after school, besides a couple of friends that were used to a little bit of excessive jokes at times. but in school i learned too late that the only way to be left alone is to get pissed off and start swinging. my parents never taught me this, and instead told me to stay put, ignore the bully so that he will get bored and leave me alone eventually. never happened of course. by not reacting i showed them i was weak. it didn't help that i wasn't strong enough to physically react and didn't have any friends that were willing to help me out. so i went with it and endured all of this throughout my school life. meanwhile, years later, my friends were talking one night about how they dealt with bullies while we were in middle school. predictably they grew some balls, punched them in the face and all were left alone. one of them was a bully himself, but instead of bullying weak kids, he bullied the bullies. so yeah, fighting back is the thing you need to do, or face years of misery

Absolutely brilliant! Such an intelligent and wonderful person he is…

If we’re talking about schoolyard bullying it is not quite as sophisticated as adult bullying. You need to face up to the school/physical bully. Tell them to F off should do it. They will then hit you, and there is a reason why they chose to bully you, they thought they would win, and they’re probably right. They will kick your ass. This is where it gets interesting. The next day you wait until they bully you again and you repeat the performance. You don’t give in, but you get your ass kicked. The next day and the next day you keep on fighting them. You will lose the fight again and again, but after a few times the bully gets to know something important about you: they can fight you and win physically every single day but you will never give in mentally. You cannot defeat someone who keeps turning up to get his ass kicked. I don’t know what it is about this performance, but bullies will very quickly come to respect you. They will even try to be your friend. Hope this helps, peace.

Profoundly wise and deeply fascinating. I was bullied as a kid through junior and high school, being more academic and not a rugby player in a football-mad country town. I was always taught to turn the other cheek... and so on it went until one day as a scared 16yo, I hit back, breaking all the rules of my engagement up until then. Never happened again. I still hold some sentiment to turning the other cheek but wonder how else I could have dealt with the problem as an insecure and diminuitive little boy. Perhaps I can impart a wiser approach to my own children if they face - God forbid - any such adversarial forces. Many thanks Mr P and regards from Sydney - David

Talk will never stop a bully you have to fight them and hurt them and humiliate them in front of everyone

This was informative up to a point. In the workplace when you come up against a bully that utilizes passive aggressiveness and more subversive means AND happens to be "protected" by upper management who they have a personal relationship (friendship, relative) there is a power dynamic element that either means you need to leave or quietly create difficulties for them that result in their or their ally's dismissal/discipline that cannot be linked to you (which takes a lot of skill, patience and cleverness). Usually, you may just need to leave and in your exit interview report it so others will have a better go of it.

Have the confidence to tell them how you feel abou them and their behaviour, and walk away proud is what I say to those going through it now, bullying will cause you to hate yourself and this is the problem, you have to be strong

I read a good book on communication. We either go to violence or silence. We need to stick to the facts and make it safe to have a dialogue. Better to deal with a situation then let it fester. From what I’ve learned you become vulnerable and one needs to know their audience. This talk was helpful and necessary in my current situation and it helps me grow in my life’s journey.

Great teaching! Amazing gentleman!!! Thanks for another phenomenal lesson!

How I dealt with my bullies, I made sure they knew that this illusion of a social contract we live in is just that, an illusion. You tell them that nothing is off bounds once they start pushing your boundaries, their familiy, their kids, their property, their bodies, all of it. Tell them that you do not reciprocate, you will do to them 100 times what they do to you, you do not fear jail time or any repercussions, your only goal from then on is to make that person a living hell and achieving that will be your life's goal. That's how you do it. Make them know you are more dangerous than they are, an actual psychopath.

I know you have heard so many people thank you already but a huge thank you for the work you have put into the world. I am a female and taught myself to be externally very agreeable but I'm actually fairly disagreeable. It became a big factor in anxiety and depression. I started to work on that and my relationships are much better now. There were some very difficult conversations had. Also, I have had and do have some wonderful men and in my life, thank you for standing up for them.

I have been learning so so much through you Mr J. You are helping me truly see the light and dark of coping... thank you thank you thank you

Confront your bullies and set boundaries. Never get afraid to get your hands dirty, bullies aren’t playing by the same rules.

I got bashed at school every other day from 2 truely wicked girls. I ran into them when I was working in the prison system - they came in on charges and each had a long rap sheet of convicted crimes. They never changed and actually served to strengthen me, so I feel I owe them a depth of gratitude for making me as strong as I am today. Cruelty has its worth although it never feels like it at the time

My son was bullied in the elementary school all the time. He was a very gentle child, he just couldn’t hurt people and the boys took advantage of that. His sister who is two years older had to protect him all the time. So me and my husband we thought it would help him if he took karate lessons and so we sent him to a karate school. But even there he couldn’t be aggressive, he just learned how to defend himself. When he was 20 years old he grew up to be a big boy, 6’2. One day a guy was bullying him on the street and he wouldn’t let go of him. So he turns around and punches him real hard on the face with his foot using his karate skills. The guy falls down and my son kicks him away. The guy and his companions were horrified and ran away. I think they did not expect him to have karate skills and thought he was a weakling since he was not responding to their bullies. Now he is 46 years old. He’s still gentle in nature, he just doesn’t like hurting people in any way, but at least he knows how to defend himself well.

Love your videos sir. I took the root of standing my ground at a young age. No matter who or when. Not always with anger or violence. By confidence in myself.

In the majority of situations bullies are simply people trying to take back power that was taken from them at somepoint through a perceived weaker target. You deal with this in almost every occurrence through the only language they understand - by assertively standing up for yourself or if needs be physical violence (especially the latter in a school setting).

I remember what my old man said to me at school. Hit him on the nose as hard as you can. No matter whether you're at school or work or in a pub, 99% of the time that's the end of it.

I can tell he went through it and wish I could talk to someone who did. It's annoying to knock down so many scarecrows without being able to address whatever is held against you when you know there is no basis, so you can neither own nor refute the accusation that somehow provides any basis for the judgement one recieve regardless of their own life and choices. That should be a telling sign; when one cannot get access to the accusations against them with ppl to whom they've offered open communication. Those purporting themselves as supportive are the only ppl positioned to hurt you repeatedly.

Before taking this advise... *Get training in how to conduct yourself in a physical fight* Times have changed,his advise might work but nowadays if you confront someone even with words it is likely to end in a physical confrontation. People cannot accept anymore the possibility that they are wrong and will attack you for pointing it out.

growing up i would fight my older brothers bullies. lost most times yet i wouldn’t surrender

The red queen quote really hit me. "In my kingdom, you have to run as fast as you can in order to stay in the same place." I feel like that is my life. I can never get ahead and all is futile.

I was told I couldn't defend myself no matter what. "Just walk away. Just tell them to stop. Don't fight." Imagine you can't defend yourself and no one wants to protect you either. I wish I hadn't listened but I was a child. How was I supposed to know? As an adult I've asked my parents why they gave me this useless advice and they didn't know what I was talking about.

In my school, we treated each others as human-beings Never heard of bully things We were never mean about each others looks and belongings… I’m telling for my classmates,…with whom I studied for 7 years in row…thanks God 🙏🏻 💗

I broke a bully girl's leg at school. She was twice my size and had been pursuing me relentlessly. Good. She deserved it

I used to be bullied. Then I punched the biggest kid in the face and broke his nose. Then I was friends with them and joined thier football team. We were mates for 15 or so years after that. Over those 15 years we probably punched each other 100s of times too. I never worked out how to deal with female bullies, its not physical like it is with boys. It's on a psychological level that uses the perspective of others to thier agenda.

Mirror the same energy back at them. Bullies are punk and nothing without their audience. Or you catch them alone and mess them up you'll see how that toughness flees when their entourage isn't there🙂

Deliver one punch to the face and many bullies shrink away. I learned to fight early one and confronted a number of bullies, and when challenged physically and strong-enough most of them withdrew immediately and became. When two true alpha males go at it and neither will back-down, serious physical confrontations often ensue, same goes for dogs.

I tried this in the work force the last few years with my bosses. Suddenly I kept getting fired. Glad this is being taught. It's getting out of hand. Put up and shut up or no electricity, gas, or a roof. Bosses with no humility means you suffer under threat.

Bullies are a natural part of life and always have been. This attempt by society to completely do away with bullies has not redounded to our benefit. There is character growth in being bullied, learning to stand up to a bully and being stood up to as the bully. These are, in my view, necessary parts of human development. I would not be the resilient person I am today without the bullying of my younger years. I also learned fairly early that it's better to take a buttkicking than to get continuously bullied. And that bullies will not continue to bully you if they have to beat you up (including getting punched in the face at least once) every time they try. These are valuable lessons that are overlooked in today's society and, I believe, to our detriment.

JP your wisdom and knowledge never cease to amaze me and light up my Neural correlates! The title simply does not do this lecture/video justice! Thank you sir 🙏

At my school the teachers _permitted_ any and all bullying, right in front of them, *unless* the victim stood up for himself and fought back, verbally or physically. Then they would punish both. I can only imagine their reasoning was _something_ like, 'if it becomes a conflict, we'll intervene.' Meaning as long as the kid doesn't stand up for himself, it's not 'conflict,' because it's one-sided. I think the policy was, 'permit anything short of violence; and if violence occurs, punish everyone involved.'

But if people believe after 3 seconds of dealing with you that they should not mess with you then people generally just don't like you.

The worst that could happen is probably not as bad as the worst YOU THINK could happen.

Stand up to them preverably without to much harm to yourself, we had a group of bullys in our school and they were the older boys picking in the younger ones, they would corner you some where and force you to comply with some demands or heccle you or push you around any thing to make you feel small. i was 4.6 and skinny i could not fight back but i would not comply ether and they did hurt me but i was deffiant to the end and they ended up respecting and protecting me. what i learned later in life is that bullys dont respect people that give in to them. i read that in the camps in nazi germany the jews that remained strong ( not an easy task in those conditions) and refused to co operate got treated overall better than the ones that complied a lot better. how do you think some of them are alive today? there is a missconception that the bullys are the problem but its the people that comply that enable them. i realise how difficult it can be to overcome our fear i truly do but it has to be done as bit by bit it will consume you.

Bt God the first 3 minutes into this clip mention the things that I see lacking in humanity on daily basis. I am amazed how easily he is even talking about this let alone recognising it.

I find your videos super, super helpful!

This is true. I was bullied a lot when i was a kid but i always fight them, i even stab a pencil into the other kid when I was in grade school because he's asking for money to all of us even if we don't have those. I learned martial arts to fight those bullies but even in my workplace now, standing up to others when you are right is what i do no matter what, it's also what i teach to my students when I train them. It doesn't matter if you fall as long as you fight

I was being bullied in my adventure ed class when I was a junior. Every day this bully would say things to me and threaten me. After class 1 day he said something to me that caught me off guard, and I pushed him against the wall. He fell down, started crying and ran away I never saw him in that class ever again 😆

This bloody amazing!!!!! God bless him!

Such a gift this man.

“Fat, ugly and in divorce court” *cracks open a coke*

6:14, I don’t actually like to nitpick Dr. Peterson but the Queen of Hearts is the one who says “off with their heads” in Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, The Red Queen says that “you have to run as fast as you can just to stay in the same place” in Through the Looking Glass

At my age 60, We use to stand up to a bully and even beat their ass if we had to. After that the bully never messed with us again

“People should know after 3 seconds of interacting with you that harassing you will be a seriously bad idea.”

I'm struggling with the issue of bullying. I still think that they're the Devil and deserve unlimited punishment, but even so much as standing up to them will make me look like the bully in other eyes. Who is the bully, who is the victim? Either way, I seem to lose, and I have no idea in Hell how to deal with these evil people. Authorities are in cahoots with them!

I was being bullied when I was like 11/12 years. I figured I was tired of it and upon seeing the dude while walking down our apartment stairs I just had a thought to grab him and throw him down the stairs and I did that. Without hesitation. Luckily he was not badly hurt. It felt good to be the one on the giving end of the pain for once. We became friends after that because our mums forced us to play video games together.

Thanks doctor

"Naivety and harmlessness, masquerading as virtue" .. I have seen this before and know exactly what he's talking about.

It's easy to say that you have to be sharp, eloquent and smart enough to quickly decompose complicated problems. How do we learn this? I'm usually coming up with great responses only after we're done talking.

Thanks doc

You have to deal with bullies on the first day they try to bully you..... when i was 12 i made sure the bully was alone and not surrounded by his"friends" then shoulder pushed him so he fell in wet mud, in view of dozens of students.... got followed arround a bit by his much older brothers for a few days but never got bullied in my time at school. If they dont love you, make them fear you.

Everybody gangsta til JP opens up his soda can

Having worked for a bully for the past year while I finish my degree, I have watched this play out with meeker fellow employees that he targets. As someone who is inherently outgoing and possessed of a strong personality, I shut it down early but this superintendent specifically targets those who don't have the temperament to fight back. I grates my nerves and is an ugly, twisted shadow of authority.

I tried listening to Jordan's lectures, but there was just too much in them. I love these clips focused on a single idea.

I was a shy timid very kind or overly naive asian girl who immigrated and went into a school in the West. I thought ppl would be my friend but nope the bullying started with physical emotional and verbal- too early for cyber bullying back then. It got to the point where I left bleeding from my chin chest hands and knees and went home to my pissed parents who marched to the school and giving the principal a fright. They told me, fight out or be bullied more trained me a bit and said they will only have my back once. So when the kids started bullying me again, I made the bullies bleed. I changed schools many times and was still bullied but I stood upright, fought back and made sure no one touches me. To this day as an adult I have scars reminding of how evil kids can be and how to tell anyone wanting to mess with you to piss off.

When all passive strategies fail, you can always do like peterson once said: "hit the other kid with a truck in the head no more than it is absolutely necessary"

Im not saying it never happens, but I have literally never in my life seen a black kid get bullied by people who aren't black.

I truly believe that Jordan is SO GOOD at what he does, he purposely held on to that can of soda, and in turn, held on to our attention. I could actually "taste" that soda... but more importantly, I could "taste" his subject matter. Brilliant!

My biggest problem with public servants that offer advice, is that no matter what happens, they have a definitive safety net waiting on them.

Olivia Wilde has probably never watched old videos like this to see who exactly JP really is. He's not some emerged A. Tate-like social leader seeking attention, he's a man of the science. A true academic that has instructed diverse classes of every demographic that has filled the seats in his classrooms. No partial agenda, no misogynist rhetoric. Pure psychology and social science. Ironically, most of his classes for all his teaching decades were filled with Olivia Wilde type people. She superficially judged him based on a soundbite here or there in his recent interviews, with no real knowledge of who he is or where he comes from or what he's done. I hope she realizes this one day. I hope she's humble enough to apologize for the Wilde conclusion she jumped to.

Some people really are so self loathing they're just looking for a fight. When I look back at the times I turned the other cheek, I actually regret it. Now I'm just concerned that if someone opens their mouth the wrong way, I might kill them.

So good!

Bullies can be a manager at your job. Stand your ground and papertrail any email to HR and BCC yourself!! Don't let these narcissists gaslight you or cross boundaries.

A swift kick in the nuts normally sort out the bullies.

Sometimes you can't afford to NOT be a slave, from a realistic point of view, as a Trainee you gotta put up with a lot of shit.

If there's a gang of them all picking on one, I've found a good thing to say is, " Brave aren't you ...Look there's 6 or 7 of you all picking on 1. Wow . That take real courage . " I've found most of them seem to think about that and back off . When it's a physical confrontation I was taught to say.." Well I can't fight you all at once but I'll fight you one at a time . Starting with you !!" Some , if not all of those bullies will usually do a disappearing act . I think they'll respect you afterwards. Thanks Mr Grace my teacher for giving us this gem of an idea.

Co-worker over defends themselves animatedly over non issues creating lots of drama over some time they become a lazy tyrant ,dictating to their peers yet picking and choosing tasks they would prefer for themselves when not sitting on their backside .

I would love to hear more on the idea that ‘people should know within 3 seconds that harassing you won’t be a good idea’. What does that look like? Especially for conscientious & gentler types.

Amazing, so so good