You know what's crazy? I've been using your methods and advice... IT WORKS!!!!!!! LMFAO!!!!! IT FREAKIN WORKS!!!!!!

Rule number 0: Come as you are and if she doesn't like it, then walk away!

So basically: be yourself, do whatever makes you happy, don't change for anyone and stay single - got it!👌🏾

The person that cares less about the relationship, controls the relationship

I like being the nice guy and I like me just the way I am. That’s good enough for me. All I can say is, it’s their loss.

Truth is that women don't know what they want...simple!

1. 2:20 - Say what you want 2. 5:23 - Have goals and put yourself first 3. 7:30 - Stop always seeking approval 4. 8:50 - Face your fears and change your mindset 5. 10:22 - When you're in conversation with a woman, slow down

Just got told I was hot by a girl, asked her out she said I just got out of a relationship I need to get myself back together before I date someone, a week later she’s with someone else. I swear to god I’m done being nice

How can a nice guy not be nice! That’s why he’s nice...he’s not fake!

Simple rules 1.Make your money 2. Love yourself most 3. Don't care too much 4. Be resolve 5. Don't let her know you love her too much even if you do. 6. Women minds are in a state of confusion.

Being single and focusing on yourself the best thing you can do! Rest will follow!😎

Women are more attracted to the idea they have of you than who you are as a person. This is what I’ve learned in my 35 years. The algorithm brought me here ;)

1) Say what you want. This is how this worked for me: First girl - I was making the decisions, I lead the way, I want this, I don’t want that. She later complained that I was too controlling and that I should also let her have some say in things (I thought women liked men who took control) Second girl - After the first, I took it down a notch and let the second girl have her say and let her make some decisions, etc She later complained that I was the man and that I needed to make the decisions and take control. What the hell do you women want? Seriously?

Never ever ask a women . Where do you want to eat. Never do it! I’ve been married 43 years and my wife still can’t answer that.

I will not go out of my way to impress a woman , I am what I am

Be honest, Respect yourself 1st, Know you are never her "only"... Stay on your purpose. ✌🏿️❤️💪🏿

"It doesn't has to be her." one of the most important advices.

The worst thing you can do is try to please a woman. It will never happen.

I said what I wanted on the last 3 women relationship I was in, I told them I wanted honesty, all 3 lied to me within 4 months. Women today are not very honest and play more games than men.

Simple rules: 1. Stop wasting your time on women. 2. Stop giving them free attention. 3. Stop validating women, by complimenting them online or offline. 4. Ignore women, stop looking at them. All they want is that sweet validation. Women never initiate contact and never put any effort. (except if you're a tall and good looking guy) So why would you? It's all one sided, having to jump through all sorts of hoops and even then it's never good enough. Just don't bother.

If a woman wants a man she's gonna be with him . The minute she gets bored of him . She dont care about how much money ,looks or success he has . That goes out the door . FACTS!!

I don’t need to be rich, I don’t need to be powerful, I just need to be me. And I’ve always been proud to be me, and I never regretted being me. And that’s all I ever will be.

I treat her like she's replaceable, while focusing on my life! Its always kept them wanting more and on their best behaviour

*"No woman wants to have a man around that is not secure with himself"* Guess i'll just die alone lolol

I have a lovely relationship that’s falling apart day by day because I lost my confidence and spark ⚡️ due to health and finances, I realized I’m doing all the opposite in the above and it’s making her lose interest and started talking to others, I’m going to start trying these from today and see how best it works. Watching it alone has made me feel better About myself . I will keep you updated

My father died when I was 12 yrs old, he never was able to teach me how to treat a woman and what not to do. I learned the hard way from plenty of mistakes..and dating different women.

It took me years to learn the things she said in this video. I got married at 23; and did a lot of the things Apollonia said you should not do, and she is right. My wife at the time lost respect for me, and I could not understand why. Hard life lessons. As I got older my confidence grew, and I stop looking for the validation of others and women I dated became even more drawn to me. So yes; share your life, but don’t give up all your time to one person, in the long run they won’t appreciate you.

I never had a problem with dating and always had a girlfriend. That doesn’t mean I always knew what I was doing, hahaha. I wish I learned this back in my high school and college days. This is a true life skill that should be taught in high school or college. It’s really plain and simple. A woman wants a man to be a MAN!! A woman wants to look up to her man, not have her man looking up to her always seeking her approval and validation. This is having ALPHA qualities and CONFIDENCE. Great video Apollonia, and keep it REAL. Thank you.

This video just told me everything i was doing. I was the nice guy. The quiet guy. Fit, nurse, passive, and went about my way. Everything said here is true.

This video is a wonderful insight to why millions of women are going to die single.

I used to put her first, love her too much, then noticed I was second or fifth in her list of priorities, most women I met, maybe all. Istopped being the nice guy by experience, by learning how cold most women are, even the "good ones". They swear they are good in their own imagination though. They make you bad, they make you start watching over your shoulder, they make you be careful with them, they make you not be too good to them because at the end they be ungrateful as heck. I hate to say. You have to keep a balance

Well...what most ladies on KZfaq adverts wanna explain only after you have purchased their coaching program, you you have clearly and very well simply explained it...👌...thanks

Everyone needs to listen to Apolloia’s advise. These are jewels of knowledge. And when I say; “everyone” I’m also talking about women too. Because too many women play childish shenanigans. They’re the type of women that watch their potential knight in shining armour walk away, only to be replaced by a loser in aluminium foil

1. express clearly what u want(tricky) 2.dont be always available(for respect and shit) 3.dont seek validation(appears insecure or something) 4.face ur fears( so u appear masculine and mysterious lol) 5.dont talk too much and too fast(I agree with this one)

When I get a girlfriend that’s when all the friend zone girls act interested in me.

I'd rather be single than stop being who i am. (Nice guy)

I like your insights Apollonia, very practical and profound. Everything starts in the mind and most men give away their power to women when they lose their way and forget their true purpose, always remain true to yourself and your ideals.

If a woman limes a bad guy over a nice guy, then they will only learn the hard way If a woman is attracted to negativity then she may have issues that may relate to her childhood or something A true partner will accept u for who u are

I used to be a nice guy years ago. These days, I just simply don't give a rat's ass anymore.

I’m done putting in the work and jumping through hoops and being disappointed. My life, my terms and I’m not compromising anymore.

you saved my relationship twice, I'm the needy nice guy who waits by the phone.... i'v come along way to stay out of friend zone. I say what I want and she responds in kind

It's great to see a woman that actually speaks the truth on this. A lot of times when women give relationship advice it's crap, but Apollonia is good!

A girl I knew in college used to say “nice guy, no butterflies” for the nice guys that got dumped into friend zone

I WATCHED THIS VIDEO 3WEEKS AGO & I FOLLOWED THE ADVICE💘✌ ooooh no i can't believe this it just WORKED perfect thank you Apollonia

I've watched a few of your videos in their entirety and I have to say thank you so much for the great advise. I was questioning myself a lot I've the past week with what's been happening with a girl that I'm dating and didn't know if I should stand up respectfuly or gravel at this point in the relationship because she's starting to play mind games. She didnt play them in the very beginning so it really threw me for a loop that shes starting to play them a month and a half into the relationship. But like I said after watching a few videos which were all great by the way I got my answer. I love that you are straight to the point, are real and no fluff. Keep up the amazing work! 🙂

This is actually decent advice. The problem is trying this with these immature girls out there will get you nowhere. And there's a lot of them out there

Do not make a woman everything in your life. Have a life of your own! See other women ...dont have her be number 1 in your life. Have options. Dont care too much!

I've been all these flaws with the exception of needy. Never was and never will be. But I have been the type to drop what I am doing, focus a bit more on taking her out etc and making plans etc. Try my best to be there etc, Still got dumped after a year and a half together in a freaking pandemic lmao. Why? Most women, not all, are so impatient. Working on stability as usual, but women seem to want full products. Even if some say they don't but you guys mostly do!!!! Lmao Anyways, I appreciate this segment. Taught me a lot to basically do me and put myself first.

I haven't seen any woman who likes the truth they love players

How about we swap roles? I don't do shit, and if the woman likes me, then it's her job to attract me!....Stop chasing women guys, I've been doing it for the past two years and it worked wonders...Of course when you do that you can't choose tail, tail chooses you, but hey, the quality of tails gets better with time as you get more confident

Guys just be a man. Don't be afraid to say no. If you have no drama. Be cool. But just know your not for everybody. And avoid women that aren't reciprocating the same interest. Some women want what they can't have.... Peace

I have never seen a woman so brave and honest in treating a delicate topic with simplicity and efficiency. God bless you apollonia, you are a gem💎💎💎

Thanks for these precious suggestions ..really helpful! We kind of know them but we forget and don't consider reality 😊

I'm from Georgia and it's amazing how many beautiful women in Atlanta choose to be with a thuggish man or someone who disrespects her over someone who would respect her and treat her like a lady. I don't have anything against the thug life, not hatin' at all. It appears that Apollonia is right, their self esteem must be low.

Took me 10+ years and thousands of dollars lost to figure all this out. My top issues were not putting my priorities first, as much as your girl talks about spending all this time with you, don't get comfortable and leave your friends and personal hobbies and goals to the side. Those are the things that make you interesting and keeps her on her toes. She'll just end up losing respect for you. In your head you're thinking "chick I gave all this up for you" don't do it! The other was putting women on some unearned pedestal. Women are insecure and craving validation just like men, when you stop putting beautiful women on pedestals they'll start dating you. Secret tip to this. Actually make friends with beautiful women (don't try to date them) when you start being around them more you'll realize how Normal they are. You can then use your beautiful friends to be your social proof. You can meet their friends or they will make your dates jealous. Good luck fiyz

First you make the money, then you get the power, then when you get the power, you get the woman.

I'm so glad to have a copy of Dr. Robert Glover's book No More Mr Nice and this book changed my life.

Its easy to not be the "nice" guy. Just don't do ridiculous favors that they ask unless you are in a relationship with them. Be respectful but protect your time and resources. I guarantee that you will find out everything you need to know

_1.Say what you want.(Dont hesitate) 2.Have Goals,Put yourself First always. 3.Not always Seek Approval/Validation 4.Face your Fears/Fix them & confident 5.Slow & steady conversations thanks._

I love your videos. You are clearly better than most of the PUA and others who make this kind of videos.

I couldn't agree more with tip number four."face your fears"..it works just perfect

Anybody else tired of jumping through hoops just because you want someone beautiful in your life?

Hands down the most informative & BEST 12min video i’ve ever seen. I feel like a new man already. You are 100% on point and made me realise, damn, i was doing so much shit wrong

I’m excited for the future, thank you for always giving solid advice!

WOW👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾.....that was fantastic!!....I'm a man at the age of 62, knowing some things and willing to receive others!.... I'm glad GOD has brought your teaching my way.😀👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾......I fill blessed!! I see the ares were I need to grow in, and quite frankly I'll be loving the opertunity to do so!....We men need it lke u share it!!.... Keep up the good wrk ...and I plan to keep listening, thanks again....Danie! P.S. Will be getting some of ur material!!!..☺😊

Yes do not give up fishing, football, computer games, reading, going round your friends. In fact anything you enjoy doing without her. You NEED your own time and space, and that will make you more valuable as an individual. Do not be afraid to say NO!

She thinks we can read her mind. The truth is women always contradict themselvs

I got the message. Stop being nice. So, I saw this woman carrying a bag, and she was struggling. I thought about stopping to help her, and then I realized, that would be nice. It was a great feeling just driving on and having a great day. It's very freeing.

This is not just a video for getting views for money This is really good And btw tip no.4 is genius You are really good . Thanks

This woman is correct. Keep it 100 with all of them. When you are older, you don't have tine to beat around the bush. You gotta do what you gotta do for you and she has to respect that

I'm a woman who dates a woman and got to say WOMEN ARE WORK! I say just be yourself love yourself and let her be added happiness and second to you!

hey thank you so much for this amazing video and it really helps

When I found out that ALL women ( in my opinion), have "Daddy Issues" ( which can be extremely positive experiences or extremely negative experiences with their Father , or somewhere between those two extremes ), it was a huge breakthrough for me. I'm 65, and I am not good looking, I would definitely not be attractive to a woman based on a possible financial benefit to them, etc. I've been told that I have an honest, straight-forward, dominant "vibe" ( and I think a lot of women pride themselves on their intuition, whether it is right or wrong ), I cannot go into public, grocery store, etc. without making a strong connection with a woman, including if my (30 year younger) girlfriend is just 1 aisle over from me when I'm shopping. It is worse when they see you with an attractive young woman...for some reason they think it is open season for hitting on you, and if my girlfriend sees it, it makes me look like a "player", which I am definitely not. I couldn't even offer a date a ride in a nice car ( 20 year old used car ), and I don't own my own home ( primarily from a divorce), I'm on social security, so I really know it's not related to money. A "date" for me is Pizza and then home to TV ( but I am open to a lot of good conversation )..now the problem is, how do I give off the opposite "vibe" without having to say a word to these women that are interested in me ? It is putting a strain on my current relationship. Sometimes to me it boggles my mind about "why" ? are they attracted ???...I have girls attracted to me who are very beautiful, very intelligent, very high IQ, beautiful runway model who was 25, etc. etc...( FYI, these qualities are usually not in the same woman )....I guess it's delusional, but I actually think that if given a little time that there isn't a woman that I couldn't attract, as long as she is single, and it's difficult to get that attitude out of my head... The point of this comment is not to brag about my exploits, but just to offer another opinion, that I have no "game", I have no "pick up lines", etc. etc...to encourage other men to just be yourself as your first priority.

Good advice honestly. I've been friend zoned one too many times and now I'm just gonna focus on myself, do my thing, and not try to chase after women. One girl I had a crush on even flat out said this to me..."you must not get laid very often...you're a super nice guy". All I thought was wow, that definitely validated the fact that women actually think that. Needless to say I definitely stopped talking to her cuz I learned I had zero chances with her lol But it was definitely an eye opener at the same time. Stop being the Nice Guy!

Confident women don't need assurance. The biggest problem nowadays is women are confused, clueless, We men don't have time for your insecurities.

These are like training tips for your dog. Just be who you are fellas and live your life how you see fit. It’s good being single.

You don’t have to be a douchebag to get the girl. Just approach her with confidence and assume she likes you already. However, putting yourself first is always the best option 🔥

Do you have a question about being the "nice guy"? Ask below...

Rule 1 don't be a sucka

Being honest.. Means a true friend.. Helping her always..

Your channel is much appreciated. I wish this (and the internet, for that matter) was available back when I really needed it more. No one can imagine this, but back through college I did not even have a landline telephone; all I did was work, and there was just no way to have any social life. That's a far cry from every 8 year old now demanding a cellphone. And now for the more important thing I wanted to say: You are truly blessed with one of the most beautiful names (first AND surname) that I have ever heard!

Facing a fear was the best one.

Growing up in Jamaica I never knew it was possible to be too nice.

Dear Appolonia Ponti you rock! I mean you nailed it! I do like the way you've handle this topic because it's a fact. Right now I found many good tips in your video.. I'm your fan from Atlanta Georgia USA. Thank you so much

Love your take on things. I already know most of what you're advising, I just can't stick to it when I should. Been separated 2 1/2 yrs. but always staying true to each other. She blocked me and all that for about the 3rd time shortly after I went to her in the hospital and got her prescriptions for her that she asked me to get. Been acting weird every since but back in touch again with new phone number and seemed like getting back on track. After having breakfast together twice and a lunch at one of our favorite places that I paid for but had to leave before we ate because my father fell and needed me to help him up.(that sucked!) Thought that was really going to be my chance. She wouldn't go out with me or do anything on the weekends so I asked point blank what was up? Just be honest, was there someone else? She said yes that she has been seeing someone. I'm destroyed! I'm lost and dying 💔 and if and when we talk now she talks to me like she hates me and always has to hang up instead of having a serious conversation. She's killing me! Mentally, emotionally and yes...even physically! Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated and thank you in advance. 🤮🙏

Relationships are overrated; nothing but games and Jedi mind tricks. So pleased that I'm content at being single. Any standup man who looks halfway decent, and has above average numbers, will never have an issues with landing various women. Single life certainly works for me; I'm only bothered when I wanna be! Quite frankly, I value money over p*ssy.

Just be yourself. It's crazy how you have to act totally different just to get some woman's attention. Focus on getting money and traveling the world. The right woman will come into your life if she wants to build something with you.

What’s worse we consciously took the word nice and made it something bad, it’s not even like it’s some weird confusion nobody notices it’s right in front of us. People even say “but… but…. nice guys aren’t nice they have expectations!” Yea, that’s why “nice” should stop getting attached to the common descriptor term for that type of man. Yet here we are doing anything but that.

I'm loving this, putting it to work ASAP.

To cut the long story short first learn to love yourself then think about someone else👍

I've never dated and I'm 33, I'm definitely listening tho.

Excellent. You Apollonia make me feel that finally I can understand so much more about women and myself Relationships and life.

Wow thank you so much.I hope I will be a different person from now onwards

So... don't be yourself, jump through hoops, play mind games. Thanks for the advice.

I have a group of friends.. I'm an ass with them, pretty mean, (mean cause im naturally like that not following anyones advice) NONE of the women like me.. meanwhile there is one friend whos extremely nice with them and gets all their attention.. everyone likes a nice guy including women, what this videos dont tell you is that being the asshole technique only works on certain women.. women who are not worth a single second of your attention, youre better off being nice to women and finding a gal who would love the real you and respect you.

Apollonia Ponti is one of my best coach in relationship.

Apollonia: what is that awful weather outside your window all the time? (Laughter)

This has worked well for me because it was true: “I think there is a spark between us, and I want to find out more. I’m thinking X PM, X night, X restaurant.” And if she is hesitant, ask what do we have to lose. If she says no, say “too bad, I thought we could have had something” and walk away. Now some women like to play hard to get, you are on your own on that, I never play that.

I'M GLAD THAT WOMAN CAN SEE THAT I AM WORKING ON MYSELF FOR THEM

Thank You so much Apollonia! Your Wisdom is greatly appreciated😃