“Expect nothing, appreciate everything”

Here's the simple answer - stop looking for validation from others...That's it. You have a dream? Go after it. Be nice to people, but don't hinge your life on their approval. Simple.

My favorite quote: "Darling, sometimes positive change dosent feel positive."

“Know what matters to you, and just as importantly, know what doesn’t”. You have changed my life with this statement. Thank you so much

I imagine Tyler has the courage he does because he's using the narrator's body, playing him like a video game character - he's detached from him yet identifies with him. I try to do that sometimes, imagine that I'm just a video game character and then "play myself", as it were

Tyler Durden has no fear. _That's_ what is impressive. Caring is not a bad thing. It is good. You can only feel when you care. You can only make a difference when you care. You can only succeed when you care. But you will only fear when you care. And this is the problem. Giving a fuck is a double edged sword in this one way. This is why caring intensely about a small number of things is good strategy - it allows you the benefits of both sides of caring. It allows you to feel, learn, and grow where it matters. But it also allows you to free yourself from fear where it does not. I don't believe in fearless men. I believe in men who have chosen very carefully what they fear.

When you dont care people get mad at you lol because they need your reaction but you give none .

1. understand life through experiences 2. be proud of who you are and the things you've been able to do 3. its okay to not be the best at what you do - as long as you're making progress and trying your best to improve, that's the most important part 4. I only care about the opinions of those who i love

"This is your life. And it's ending one minute at a time." Goddamn, I love Fight Club!!

1. Care more about something else. 2. Live your philosophy without forcing others. 3. Articulate that philosophy with conviction when questioned or challenged.

My favorite quote? "It's ok to fall. There is no shame in falling down. There is only shame in falling down, and not having the courage to get back up" -Midorima Shintaro

Never let someone’s perception become an intervention

I was gonna give you a thumbs up by why should I even give a f...k

"If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything" - Malcolm X

1. Dont be a people pleaser, rather be a genuine person who takes care of himself. 2. Dont lie, steal or do anything that will damage your soul and other people around you. Do not stand by and let other people do damage. Do good, so you and everyone will benefit. 3. The world does not revolve around you. 4. Fix yourself before criticizing the world. 5. Look for a meaningful life, rather than a expedient self destructive nihlistst life. 6. You have nothing to loose. Go and tackle your challenges. Struggle. It makes you stronger. 7. Material possession with lead to wanting more. Avoid the hedonistic treadmill and look for happiness within. 8. Rise from the bottom of society. Take responsibility for your circumstances.

_"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."_

My Philosophy -Be not a slave to this ever fleeting world. -Desire little. -There is no such thing as a 'soul mate' YOU ARE ALREADY COMPLETE. -You think people are talking about you behind your back, in reality your not that important. -Everyone who walks this earth is suffering, EVERYONE! So to the best of your ability be kind. -Not everyone on this planet is kind and gentle, some are real barsteds. So keep a good distance between you and them. -More often than not the real reason you hate people is NOT what they have done, but what they reflect in you. You dislike a characteristic in you but instead of dealing with it and taking responsibility you project it onto the other person. Be mindful of this.

I swear Charisma on Command literally has the best fan-base on KZfaq, in terms of being kind-hearted and intelligent.

in the moment I feel like I forget all of this in a matter of seconds.

Life is like a roller coaster, you will have your ups and downs, rises and drops, and loopey-loops, but in the end you will have tons of fun NO MATTER WHAT.

It's about stoping identifying yourself with things

*The First Rule of **__________** is : You Do Not Talk about __________.*

Do you sign my paycheck? No? Then I don't have to make you happy.

I love this video. Explained reallly well. Gives me inspiration to really dive into my philosophy and what matters most to me! Thanks for this!

My life philosophy is to care for yourself so much that you have excess to give to others

First rule of this video?

I think this might be my favorite video on your channel. Feel like I understand why you made this channel and what you want it to stand for. Keep up the great work man.

Your videos affirm what I am trying to do and I appreciate that. I have an ok handle on things but am joining Charisma because you deserve to get paid for this service you provide for free. Props man!

Hell yea Charlie that's the language I'm looking for!

how do we get a life philosophy? i never even thought about that... jesus christ your videos literally are speaking to me man... i have been thinking about quitting my job too...

I like how he says to find your life "philosophy" as opposed to life "purpose," because philosophy is more freeing and less confining as it's a system of thinking and a collection of ideas and thoughts, as opposed to a well-defined purpose - it's easier to understand and digest but harder to obtain because any variances we have if we reach that purpose would more than often feel like settling because it isn't "exactly" what you defined it to be.

My philosophy: "finding the beauty in every moment" Im going to try and live by this by stop thinking negatively, stop living in the past and simply focusing and observing the present always. Because theres always beauty in the present, with talking with people, with being in nature, with eating food, even in those quiet moments whem your doing "nothing", there's always beauty in the present and we just need to search for it and observe it.

He even said it himself "The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide. No fear, no distractions."

My philosophy is simply to relax, enjoy live with friends and family, experience different cultures, and do martial arts.

Your videos are amazing. Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom with the rest of us. It has been a huge inspiration watching you grow your business, and I feel like you are one of the few people who are actually creating extremely genuine, useful content. I have learned so much from your perspectives, and I can't thank you enough. Keep up the great work.

incredible video man, exactly what i needed to hear today. your thoughtfulness and perspective is amazing, thank you for your service ❤

My life philosophy... to make America great again!

I mastered the "Not giving a fuck" thing in high school. I was really awkward for the first couple of months until I got into a few fights with this one guy. I got away with it by acting like I wasn't bothered. The teachers would have given me way more punishment if I had seemed worried. From then on if I hesitated I just say, "fuck it" Don't hesitate. That's how not to give a fuck. Don't worry about the future, not even the next minute.

This is one of the absolute best videos I have ever watched. Thank you Charlie and Ben. Life changing advice if applied

This video probably just changed my entire life. I told my mother the other day "Its just easier not to care". Now I have some guidance on how to apply this so that I can reach the goals I have for myself.

My philosophy: I aim to destroy the world and re-write it in my image.

Do what you want to do. Don’t try to prove yourself to anyone. As long as you know what you want and what you have done, you don’t have to show anyone anything. Do what you gotta do in the shadows, let your progress and results speak for themselves.

Charlie, I love all of your videos. They have been an inspiration to me. This one took me to a new level. I don't have words to describe. I appreciate your requesting people to care about others, and to pay forward for this incredible video, made a donation to Charity: Water. Thank you for all of these.

I'm so grateful I found you channel. Thank you for setting an awesome example.

Video should be named: "How To Be Tyler Durden"

My philosophy - Life has no meaning. That leaves the whole world as my playground. It's not serious, so I can enjoy it for what it is. Thanks for the great content. I admire what you're doing. Donated.

You hit the nail on the head here. I've been there (since lost it) and it is incredibly powerful. The resiliency you have against external and internal stresses is nearly bullet proof. Still working on getting back to that. EDIT: It may seem confusing, but everything mentioned in these comments about "don't care what other people think" and stuff, are truly just words until you can learn to identify your core ideals/philosophy/beliefs, things that are unique to YOU.

Stay true to yourself and be willing to let everything else flake away. You'll have the satisfaction that you lived on your own terms and did your best. Fantastic video

1 Don’t be on anyone’s side, be on your own. 2 Opinions are just a you thing, what matters is facts. 3 The more you dive in, the closer your goal is.

My life philosophy is to evolve as a person. It doesn't matter how slow your progress is or how often you will fail, the important thing is to keep moving forward. It doesn't matter what you have now, but what you want to archieve and what your dreams are. Competence and Self- improvement gifts freedom.

i love this man! The examples are so helpful and makes every point so clear that we can also think of similar situations we’ve been in and take the lessons out of it! ❤❤❤ keep it up! Appreciate you!

My philosophy: don’t worry about strangers or authority figures who won’t even remember your name in a year. Just be yourself. If people judge, that’s their problem. Let them be bothered by you and offended by what you believe in and how you live your life if they want to be bothered, and keep doing what you want to do and being who you want to be. And if they insult you, laugh it off or agree with them. After a while of doing that, the insults will no longer sting and others will be bothered by the fact that their insult had no affect in you whatsoever.

My philosophy is simple. Live a life that forces you to smile when you think about it. So when you lay on your deathbed, you die with a smile. So live it how you see fit, without stopping others from doing the same

All my life I am pretending to be someone I am not to get friends,to get respect and to feel like I belong and mean something. I have just lately realized while pretending gives you something it is not what it really is. Pretending gives you fake friends fake respect and you will bring yourself even further. My Life philosophy is to embrace myself improve myself in many ways I would like to improve on and do it all for my happiness and success not for other people. Iam not going to care if people don't like me or the things I am doing as long it is not hurting others in a bad way I will keep on doing my own shit and if some people likes to roll with my shit, just being me that's fine too. I will try my best to Improve on my passion: Music to bring joy to myself and other people.

Yooooo. I absolutely love these videos. Definitely will sign up for your program soon. This was the best.

Thank you, I’m in a depressed state atm & I’m a introvert. I’m 20. Relatives & 2 cops said I need to grow balls, it’s time I do. I do have a kind heart. But it’s time I DGAF anymore & break from this shy shell.

I just PISSED OFF A BALCONY

Do something nice for someone who will never give you validation for it, or will never. know you did it. I like to donate money every month to help animals. As far as interacting with people, I usually try to talk about their lives, since I already know most about mine. Should they ask, I'm not afraid to go deep, and that can get good conversations going.

Be selfish, you don't owe anyone anything nor society.

this is one of the best videos I have seen in a very long time!

i wish teenager me watched these videos... if i have kids im definetly going to teach them values like this.

You have no idea how much I needed this video.

"You can lie to everyone But youre cannot lie to yourself," ~Quote by myself

If you follow “instructions” to become tyler durden, are you really doing so?

Kind of strange, but I have a friend who is named Tyler that's just like this. Just fearless about all situations and just truly doesn't care what others think about him.

"the things you own end up owning you''.

Great video! Thanks for the thought-provoking essay.

"Things you own end up owning you"

Be IN the moment, not out of it.

My life Philosophy: To be relaxed, to love myself, and share love to my friends and family members

Great video, and I was inspired to donate to Charity Water. The fact that your channel promotes helping others makes this world a better place. Thank you.

One of the best directional videos ever! Focus and direction explained perfectly.

My philosophy is simple, making each day as stress free as possible. Taking care of my self. Not caring about things that effect me negatively.

It's easy if you have Brad Pitt face

Amazing video, love the turnaround and message! 💯

I almost stopped this video halfway, but then I started taking notes, then I got a lot of notes. 1, What matters to me is equal respect, reliability & creating an environment for myself where I can continuously do what I love with those I love. 2, What I want to make not matter to me is the opinion of others that hold no value in or aren't trying to add value in my life. 3, Coach others and stay steadfast towards my goals. 4, To make an impact & difference to those around me. Thanks COC :).

My life's philosophy is to give back faith in humanity and use it to it's full loving, giving, and successeding potential.

Life philosophy: Express whats on your inside! Live from the inside, out. Not outside, in. Which means dont let anything outside of you affect YOU/ your heart or your life. Don't let judgements, expectations perceptions and other peoples opinions affect the raw you. "This is it" meaning be the now moment, dont worry about whats next or what happened. Love and accept you! Embrace and trust you! Add to peoples lives do not take! Give out positive energy and make your genuine presence be felt, when you enter a room full of people think of it as they need me, I will help and make it LIT. Talk to God and trust him and obey him always

this video has really made me reflect on my life like nothing has in a long time.. thank you

this is awesome, you did amazing detailed clear analysis with a practical apply thanks!

My life philosophy is to not get clingy with my own desires. Because when I look back on my life, I have realized that most things that I love are things that I never expected to have. For instance, I am an anti-social who has always wanted to be alone but whenever I think about my family, I can't describe how much they mean to me.

I’ve been watching your videos all day, and the fact that we share the same adoration for Tyler Durden has officially won me over. I love you 😂.

this literally defined my entire life. not being an asshole who didnt care about others. but what really mattered in life. i would cringe at all the stupid shit people around me did, things that made no sense and people who had to be forced by someone else to make their own decisions. but since i knew exactly what my life goals were. that was my only focus achieving my goals. and only did whatever helped me achieve those goals.

Heeere's mine; I felt like i was in a downward spiral because i was forgotten, alone, and afraid. And nobody came to help me. I was an outcast. I felt suicidal every single day. And i will make sure no one else ever feels like that, ever.

My philosophy? Question everything, base my views on experience, evidence and rational thought. I believe in loyalty to my people, kindness and respect to normal people whom I do not know and acting against those that push against the values that I feel are inherently good in the world. This includes playing in the mud with the arseholes who use the system for their own selfish desires. I believe in my mission in life, to get into politics and play in the mud with all those who play the game, in service to eventually be in a position to tear the idiocy and corruption within my government limb from limb and move us towards a future where we can achieve great things together. My philosophy is to always be learning and growing as an individual. It is making decisions based upon rationality not emotion and being so committed to my goal that I know 100% I will not stop till I am done. Family, Humanity, Progress. And being willing to apply machiavellian techniques where needed.

Extremely sneaky video

Besides your awesome ideas on help others to improve themselves, I really appreciate the donation for clean water . You are a good example for many of us . Blessings

I want to have somebody with whom i can have a happy life. I want somebody who i can make happy. I dont want to be anxious, and intimidated by others. I want to stop putting people on pedestal and feel like i am not less than others. Thats all. Thank you.

The only thing that matters to me is freedom.

I believe that the meaning of life is to give meaning to life.

This is a sincerely actionable perspective! Thank you for sharing this message.

This a damn good video, one of your best man

My philosophy is based on gaining knowledge and developing individuality, because I'm sure it can help society in the future. I always try to make my words match the actions and I think, it's very important to keep faith. Bad or not, I'm an atheist, I don't believe in God, it's true, but I DO believe in my own abilities. I am absolutely sure that if man wants to achieve something and he makes efforts for it, he will definitely succeed.I'm not an adult, but I try to build my character in the best way.Actually, Charlie gives me unreal support by his videos, which really inspire me,so I would like to thank him. I'm not sure if anybody is going to read this, but as Charlie has said, please give f*cks about something you really like and fight for your dreams.

It has probably been mentioned before, but I recommend everyone to read "The subtle art of not giving a fuck", it goes into more detail about the ideas presented in this video and makes you reflect on your life quite a bit.

One of the best videos you've ever made👏🏽👏🏽

As always, wonderful video!

I'd share my opinion about Tyler Durnden but I cant talk about it.

I don't give a fuck and give too much of a fuck at the same time. I am depressed though.

Man I really needed to here this 7 years ago. Thanks!

just donated to Charity Water! Thanks for doing such good work!