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Not caring what others think has helped me to not be taken advantage of. I can say NO without an explanation and don't care what their reaction will be

Yes, you. You're probably scrolling through the comments, like I am, reading all these motivational comments. If you are reading this at night, you should get some sleep, and don't stress about everything going on in the world, or what you are going through. Don't dwell on things from the past, don't stress on your future. Just live your life, because you only get one. Do whatever makes you happy, not what other people want from you. For me, I'm going to wake up tomorrow morning, get hit the gym, and cherish life for the amazing blessing that it is. I hope you do the same and have an amazing day as well!

18 yr - worried what others think 40 yr- I don't care 60 yr - they never cared

I grew up with an abusive amount of judgment and criticism from my parents. They were nice to people face to face but brutal about them behind their backs. I thought everyone was like this growing up, so I shut down and put on a persona. The hard part is getting your parents, teachers, coaches critical voice out of your head.

“You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do” is a quote that really changed my perspective in a life changing way

How to not care what other think... 1. Life a life that brings you joy with people who are genuine and enjoy the little things in life (gratitude attitude), 2. Limit social media, 3. Help others how and when you can. 4. Accept that nobody will ever be considered perfect in this world anyway and you can't be everyones cup of tea it's impossible. 5. Enjoy your existence.

Can’t care what others think cause most people don’t have your best interest in mind

Wow this is sent from heaven. A couple of hours ago I was upset because an anonymous review was left on my business profile that was very negative and unjust. I was trying my best to not let that one review affect me so I decided to take a shower and detach. As soon as I open up the KZfaq app and your vid is right at the top. I got goosebumps but... OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH!!

My parents were ashamed of me. For who I am not what I did which was nothing. They took away my emotions I was not allowed to feel anything but gratitude and love for them, and self loathing. They can go to hell. At 71 I am learning to be me. I have had to cut ties with my family because my siblings side with the dead parents. I am happier now then at anytime in my life.

I quit giving a 'F' what people thought about me a long time ago, best thing that ever happened to me. ☺️

Embrace yourself the way it is. Deep down it feels good not to be like everybody else.

I turned 40, went skydiving, months on end I felt invincible & started to really live for me. Nope, never, Nada don’t care wat others think 🙏🏻💕

Those who are terrified about what others think about them are actually terrified about all the shitty things they think about themselves being reflected back at them. -Mark Manson. The Subtle Art of not giving a f*ck

I hit this point in my early 20s when I realized my fear of what other people thought was controlling my every day life. I’m double that age now and it’s the best thing I ever did. I don’t have many friends (matter of fact, I have only one), but she is practically my sister, we’re that close. No one else has ever been able to rattle me and that, I’ve been told, makes me intimidating. I’ll take that any day over keeping people around me who aren’t worth the effort.

Life is a contradiction I understand. If you are trying to be liked, you won't be liked because you want to be liked for your own ego but if you care less about being liked, people like you more because they see you are independent, authentic and you know what's best for you which means that if someone successfully gets on your good side, you will know what's best for them. Survival 101

The timing was just perfect ❤️

I’m a proud introvert… and love it! I have a very low tolerance for the many stupid people in this world!

this comes also with an age and maturity... when you are young you live for acceptance and you gotta be cool to be liked and to have bunch of fake friends... then you grow up, you realize there are not many people around you that you can truly count on,you realize that no matter what someone will always have a problem with you or judge you. when you stop living for acceptance ,that is when you truly start living. i never had that issue, ive always been loner and that comes with not giving a fugge. what someone else think of me,is none of my business, i just live my life, do my own thing and bother no one.

I lived in a toxic marriage for 10 years. I was so broken trying to please an unpleasable person. 8 year later I really could not care less about what ppl think of me at work or others not super close to me. If they have a problem with me it is their problem not mine. 😂 It is so freeing just accepting that not everyone will like me or love me and being a ok with that. 💪🏼👏🏻

I wish I didn’t care what others think of me, but I still kinda do. But old age has helped. The best quote I heard on this, “what others think of me is none of my business”.

Extremely helpful video that came right in time - I work with a group of bitter women in their mid forties who constantly talk behind each others backs but this video taught me that their issue is that they’re mad that the ppl they talk about don’t care abt being liked and this group does - what a miserable way to live

When I pause the video and just walk out, it's a sign that Clark is giving good stuff that I was not prepared to hear, not in a negative way but in a "that's why I've been f***ing up and it's game changing that I'm not prepared for" type of way

Great video.. I needed this pep talk.. Thank you 😊... Im on my healing journey right now, but its a daily work... My dear mother once said..... The more interested you are in other people, the more interesting you are as a person.. Read, learn, take up a new hobby, get out of the house.. talk to strangers in Cafes, on buses, in queues.. see them as opportunities to expand and learn , instead of thinking "Why me".. .. .. actively do different things... If you always do what youve always done, You'll always get what youve always got.... Keep up the good work 🙏

Staying quiet sums up me not caring about what others think.

I've met "life coaches" who were textbook Narcissists, all about them. This guy Curt is for real and is simply offering common sense solutions. "Be interested instead of being interesting". Wisdom.

When I'm authentic, I can be quite mischievous and bold. A bit sociopatic even. But also loving and caring.

Outstanding content Chad 🙏🏻. I am currently moving through a huge transformation at this moment in my life. I recently awoke from a coma and my entire personality changed from being heavily medicated. I have been fully diagnosed with epilepsy and lost the last three years of my memory amount of medication that I take every day is staggering. A large group of my friends that I interacted with judged me based on the way I was acting or how I interacting with them.... Needless to say I feel like I have been casted out of my tribe ( which I cherish ) perhaps watching this video a couple times a day will help me get back on track. My gratitude is 🙏🏻♾💯

I’m exactly this. And this is why I attract the right kind of people who I still have in my life. I don’t hide anything other than personal stuff. People are so afraid to discuss their music, film category, what makes them laugh etc. The truer you are to yourself and people around you, the better your existence will be. Though ….don’t run outside with a welly on your head. There’s limits to how honest you want to be.

Great video!!! The day I spoke up for myself (I was 25) at University instead of slumping back further into my chair was the day I stopped caring. If i could describe myself in one word it would be “random” doing things because I can whether people like it or not. I once drove an hour to IKEA just to buy some of their lollies…why? Why not? And by gaining this mindset brought like minded people into my life and I was happy to remove the toxic people who did not give meaning in my life.

It's amazing how deep, profound and true these words are. Thank you for your service to humanity, you're really helping a lot of people expanding their awareness, awakening and transforming their mindset and their whole lives. Therefore, changing the world, that would be a so much better place with self-aware, mindful and authentic people living their purpose, putting their unique talents in use.

I love this! Thank you!!! 💞 I’m going to play this for my 13-year-old daughter too. 🎉 I’m hoping by telling her these things while she’s young will give her a better go in life. I’ve been telling her to be her true self since she can walk and talk. I’ve also shared with her, people will gravitate towards her because of her authenticity. Just like moths and such are attracted to the light. They can’t help it, just like us!

Holy cow! This is great! I have been in a self-made prison of people pleasing for so long I’m burning out.

I absolutely agree with this. Growing up I used to try and do everything I could to fit in... it wasn't so much about being liked for me it was about fitting in coz I literally felt so isolated... I would try and do anything to feel like I belong somewhere. These days I've embraced who I am and I really couldn't care less about belonging anywhere... I just want peace.

I've gotten to a point in my life where I can walk into a room and nobody knows I'm there; I'm all right with that, by the way. I'm not concerned with others' opinions of me, and it's quite liberating. At work, it's said that my superpower is invisibility. I can literally be within 12 inches of a private conversation, and those who are speaking have no idea I exist. I'm pretty sure there's a vibe given off when the goal is external validation, and people can feel that. I'm no expert, though.

I have struggled with this my entire life and I have improved greatly, but still struggle with it. The neediness has affected me so many times. Thank you for making this video. It was a great reminder to keep working on it.

Hands down best video on KZfaq! You knocked this one out of the park. This was perfect timing and you nailed the entire video. Thanks for making this video because this is what I am dealing with and have been trying to fix. You have helped me a lot, so thank you!

Love it! Following for some time now and you’ve both sides. The intuitive side going with the flow but also the “hard grinding” side. Also charismatic and very good communicative! We’ve also had many of the same mentors 🙌

Blew my mind when I learned how we're always looking "to get" or "to receive" instead of offering and giving more. It's a great mindset shift to make it more about the other person and what I can offer instead of always asking. Thanks Clark!

Someone once told me... "The more interested you are in others, the more interesting you are as a person"... Im 52 and ive struggled with people pleasing all my adult life and watching this brought tears to my eyes.. as an empath, its easy to fall into "fix everyone" mode.. but it took a narcissisticic friendship and abuse for me tostop and look at my self neglect.. but i will not live the next 40 yrs of my life alone and miserable... Great video.. Thank you Clark 🙏

Being submissive to another person doesn't necessarily make us weak, because there has to be a form of balance. It's like if you had a friend, significant other, or parent. Being too submissive gives away your power, but being too authoritative can push a person away.

I needed to hear this. I have become more and more people pleasing over the past several years that I’ve been neglecting my true self.

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you.

Hey Clark, I discovered your channel recently and I have to say your content paired with your personality, makes it really easy to digest. I recently discovered shadow work, but really had difficulty understanding how to do it. Thanks to you I started integrating it in my daily routine. The first time I did it, it was very intense., but afterwards I went for a walk and caught myself dancing in the streets. That is something that I normally don't do, but I was carefree and happy. A part of me that I had forgotten about was suddenly unlocked. I am forever thankful. 🥰🥰🥰

✨Thanks Clark … It’s good to be reminded of those mental blocks or thinking that can cost you to lose out or delay a goal. I really enjoyed hearing you today! … Ya know, I find myself caring a lot if someone is going to take what I’ve said , written or done, wrongly especially here on social media and beating myself up over it … and then eventually I say, “whatever” … but yeah, I think it’s because I know that the majority here doesn’t really know me and so yeah my wheels start spinning and so much of my time seems to be wasted and getting nowhere by doing so. I always hope in the end that I made progress and say to my higher power , “ Okay … I’ve done my part or what I can do … Now it’s up to you “ ⭐️

Thank you so much for this! Really made me realize how I'm attached to other's opinions of me. And I never was like this until recently and couldn't tell where it was coming from. Thank you!!!

Man, this is spot on! I hit the "F it" phase of life right at the age of 40. It was unbelievably liberating. Politics, work drama, family drama, neighborhood drama, social media, learn to let it go. Complete waste of energy. Focus on your health & hobbies. Ditch the middle class rat race. Live to serve and not to please, especially your spouse and kids!

Yall giving me all the tools I need this morning to do away with negative folks. Thanks KZfaq!

What other people think doesn’t matter What matters is what you think of yourself

Another uplifting video 💪🏽 protect this man AT ALL COST!!! 🤙🏽

You are a mind saver. I love you and I love what you're doing! You have no idea how much you get people or maybe you do. I'm just grateful you share it. Your content is truth!

It has been a work in progress for me. Video was exceptionally informative. Been trying to not listen to what other people think. Especially since, I was going through anorexia in the past. And now eat healthy and nutriously. I am now living a life that is empowering towards myself. Nobody should ever completely ruin a bad day by harping about a bad yesterday. Time does heal everything. Thank you Clark Kegley for this supportive video. G.C. Mesquite, NV.

Great video.. Jealousy is another perfect example… Jealous partners usually end up in the outcome they are trying the hardest to avoid - their partners leaving them. They focus so much on trying to stop it from happening that it actually pushes the partner away.

For me its about having a relationship with yourself. Practicing self love can mean anything you want it to be. Because I didn't have a healthy relationship with me parents, I need to speak to myself like I'm the adult I needed in my life. Speaking to a therapist also helps.

Really amazing video, and great authentic content, thank you for this Clark I needed to hear it today, it's been a roller coaster this past 3 years, I am dealing with this and you helped.

Thank you man.. this is a slap in the face i needed. Really. "Its not about you" These words resonated with the exact problem i have. Thanks again.

This is exactly what I needed to hear at this point of my life. Thanks so much. This is brilliant and put so simply....

When you donot care about what others think you are at your most powerful.

It’s crazy how you’re giving me more insight than my therapist

Awesome! I've had the codependency problem for years...been working on it. You outline the psychology in a way that's easy to "get it".

I’ve always wondered when I would find a content creator from my past. You are officially the first one I’ve found! I’ll never forget you doing that talent show where you played “seek and destroy”. What a great but weird experience it was to watch you for the first time.

Thanks for the content, I often think about what other people think of me. I'm already on my way to success. Trading has been the main source of income, although I hardly do it.

You helped me change my life and find myself… Thank you.

I can't believe how everything he said is everything I've been trying to overcome right now. I needed to come across this video right now, and there it was!! Thank you so much♡

One of the BEST videos I've ever watched. A good guide in reinventing myself. Thank you so much, Clark!

More on attachment theory please, and reframing.....I am in the process of some big changes and these are so so helpful!! Keep up the great work! Also am interested in your coaching program.

It's an inside job where you go beyond 3d trust and safety to 5d certainty and inner conviction. Think in terms of connection rather than attachment. Become that I AM that acts in alignment with your own values and purpose at all times. Thanks Clark, you expressed this concept of self validation very well. 💕

This is spot on! Such good advice I have to say! Been people pleasing all my life and felt like I had to fit in to be liked or as if I am an extra in a movie when really I should be "me" in my own movie. Thanks for posting this! 🙂

This is the 1st video I made it 3 mins into and watched the whole thing. Just wow, ty. This was INCREDIBLY helpful to me

Loved this video Clark. A lot of very true information in here ❤

❤my new mantra thx 🙏🏻 to you is “it’s okay to be your true self “

I love that the video started right away no BS before. This is so helpful to me as a next level people pleaser. I want to not give AF❤

Absolutely! Pour that energy in the right places and to the right people. ❤

You have a great knowledge of self, and your words resinate with me on a deep levle. I'm sure you help people every day. I want you to know you have help me personally in developing my self and building myself up from what I was to who I am now, so thank you for your time and help. My gratitude to you sir

If I remove the negative thoughts there's nothing there. I don't know how to manufacture happiness when no part of me is happy

I had a hover - mother who would pass harsh judgment on me and my friends. It had a profoundly negative effect on my persona, and still to this day it bothers me. Seeing this video helped me realize it wasn't 'all me' at fault for that way I felt about myself, so thank you for posting this.

Wow, that analogy with the phone was so accurate! I can relate to that about the way I conduct myself at a new job. I feel terrified to do the things I know I can do with my eyes shut but the over and importance I put on myself makes it so hard and leads to mistakes.

4 mins in and had to comment. Great content. I never knew the meaning of confidence. You breaking it down like that has helped me delve deeper

I changed my whole demeanour 2 1/2 weeks ago. I truly am my own best friend. I am true to me because I can’t care anymore what others think of me. You either hate me or love me. Idc. I really don’t.

It always comes back to self-acceptance and being comfortable in your own skin. Everything else seems to fall into place when you have that mindset.

Just discovered your videos, couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Thanks for the content 🙏

When you started talking about how we think that everyone is looking only at us & judging us, I immediately thought about how I am sometimes anxious of going to the gym… and then there you are talking about it just the next second! Love the signs😅

I am so glad i found your channel. You are a fantastic speaker and coach.

Nice straight to the point there's so much truth in what you say. I have got a lot to learn thanks for sharing

Hello there ,this is my first time viewing your content and I have to say that you have great insight into the human condition and how to rectify some social ills .Great job!!!

This is exactly the kind of educational content our younger generation should be learning in schools. I shall share this video with some other younger women I know who will likely use the inspiration. There are always daily challenges in life and this video serves as a daily reminder to continue to persevere. Thank you.😊

Exactly that's my point. Confidence is about influence, self realisation and reinforcement. This process is long and rewires your subconscious brain. Consciously telling yourself I do not care what people think of me will not work. I am impressed, i subscribed.

As someone who suffers from pure o ocd this helped a lot. Put a lot more better thoughts in my head. Makes me wanna find life out instead of ask about life from other people. This video made me reflect hard on myself

Unfortunately, my experience has been that everyone IS very judgey - family, work, 'friends.' Say or do one thing that makes them look at you askance and you're building a case for them to reject you. But yeah, I'd love to not give a f**k.

I wasn't born with the Pleasing People gene. I can tell you, this makes a lot of ppl not like me. Ppl are often jealous of those who are very confident.

Wow thank you! There are a lot of useful things in this video. I'll save it and watch it again to learn deeply.

Love it. Wanted to voice that I disagree with the idea that if you work for free you'll get lots of work (money) coming back to you. I get the sentiment here, but someone with low self esteem (people pleaser) can really undersell their value here and feel bad for charging a healthy rate for their work. Charging money for what you do can coexist with a service mindset. No one should ever feel they have to work for free to make it. If someone has made the decision as a true personal choice that's great. But anyone out there tired of working for free, getting taken advantage of, and not feeling like its coming back, you can stop and start charging. If someone doesn't pay, find a client that will, you are worth it. Much love ♥️

I've lost so many friends because of my attachment/neediness/desperation. You'd think I would have learned already...

I read about Detachment in Bhagwad gita and this is one if the best books one can read in a lifetime .Bhagwad gita teaches you so much about life,it gives answers to all your questions💕🙏. I highly recommend Bhagwad gita to evey one out there.Big Fan Clark sendinglove from India .Jai Hind🇮🇳.Namaste❤🙏.

This video comes in the perfect time! Like you knew that I need it right now. Amazing

This was so good! Also exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

Agree with everything except giving people things for free. I did that for 35 years and only attracted a lot of 'takers'. On the rare occasion that I really needed help, no one gave a damn. I was left with pretty much nothing at the end of it. Now that I focus mostly on myself, I'm making a lot more money (due to not giving my time/work/skills/knowledge away to everyone). I still give to a few people who I know actually appreciate it and charities that I know will use the money/time/work for genuinely good things. But the majority of people I meet are just parasites and there for a free ride at my expense, and I quickly kick them to the curb without feeling guilty. People still try to demand or guilt trip me into paying for or doing stuff for them, and retraining them to stop acting like spoilt brats and leave me the hell alone is taking a while. But I already feel a lot more free. The biggest lesson I've learned in life is that most humans aren't worth the oxygen they use and will stab you in the back without a second's thought if it benefits them. If you are a 'creator/giver/fixer' type, then don't make the mistake of assuming everyone else thinks the same way. You'll just be a walking target and end up burnt out and alone. I no longer care what the majority of people think of me, because I no longer value or respect their opinion. I realise what they are and no longer put everyone else at a higher level.

I watch this every so often and I learn more every time. Such a valuable reference for profound advice and guidance. Wonderful information and perspective. Life changing. For real. Thank you more than you know.

Perfect timing advice about people's opinion. I will practice no caring about positive and negative comment knowing inside myself what i think is all that matters.

As a struggle for being a people pleaser for so long...thank you for this video 😊