How To Stop Hating Yourself!

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4 жыл бұрын

Recently Self-Hatred or Self Loathing has a been subject a lot of you have asked about. So today, we're going over ways in which we can stop hating ourselves.
We hear it all the time.. You just have to believe in yourself, or say some positive affirmations each day it will make you feel better. Or one that I mention frequently, you should talk more nicely to yourself because it can improve your mental health. While all of these things are true, and they can in fact help us feel better about ourselves, it can be hard to go from, you are so stupid and lazy! To...You are amazing and so good at everything!
Cause suddenly saying positive things just isn’t going to work. Sure we can say it, but we aren’t going to believe it, so we aren’t going to keep doing it. It can feel like a waste of time and frankly, stupid! Since we know talking more kindly to ourselves is key to fighting anxiety, stress, depression, body dysmorphia and many other mental health issues, how can we change the way we talk to ourselves without feeling like a total fraud? This is where bridge statements come in! They bridge the gap between the negative and sometimes downright nasty thoughts and the positive ones. And here is how they work....
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@kbkoolaid1 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I've been struggling with feeling unlovable and having a low self worth. This video helps so much.

@emmajohnson1744 4 жыл бұрын

Kayla Bear oh honey I feel the same way too. Nobody loves me and I think they have a good reason not to as i am ugly and sometimes they’d say I am stupid too. Yes I admit that I am ugly but I don’t think that I am stupid in the same amount they might think. At the end of it, I know deep within that I need to love myself even though I am ugly and stupid. Because usually even ugly things and stupid ones deserve some love out of compassion with how much they have to deal with. I will love myself and create opportunities for myself even though no one did that for me. Please, love yourself and create good things for yourself. I love you all.❤️❤️❤️

@killertruth186 4 жыл бұрын

I honestly had felt that was true to me as well.

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry you have been having such a hard time.. but I am glad the video helped!!!! xoxo

@kbkoolaid1 4 жыл бұрын

@@Katimorton thank you 💜

@NenaLavonne 4 жыл бұрын

Kayla Bear 🦋 You are enough. You are lovable. You are not alone.

@genn7828 4 жыл бұрын

“I’m so annoying and that’s why no one likes me” “I might not actually be that annoying and unlikable”

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!! xoxo

@ProvavelmenteYasmin 2 жыл бұрын

@Velma Olden Them you should analise yourself, see what you're doing to annoy them, so you can see if they're indeed right and you may do slight changes to stop annoying them.

@bellaandsevy5338 4 жыл бұрын

This video COULD be the start of people’s recovery, just maybe (Edit Holy Crap thank you I did not expect that many likes thank you)

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

It's possible ;) xoxo

@paleobc65 4 жыл бұрын

I’m glad Kati finally took on toxic positivity

@valhalla1240 4 жыл бұрын

true. As an ex-anorexic, I don't think the solution is to start loving everything about your body, but to change your system of self-evaluation. Looks aren't that important. There are more aspects to your body than looks, like health, fitness etc.

@carolineoconnor2461 4 жыл бұрын

@Hi ??? Why ???

@HansBjorgman 4 жыл бұрын

@Hi Bye.

@racheln8563 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that’s about as bad as being constantly told to smile.

@StudlyStudmuffin 3 жыл бұрын

@@valhalla1240 "looks aren't that important"... You can say that because you're not ugly.

@rm.makes.me.smile_ 4 жыл бұрын

Something I've found that helps me is when I think something bad I catch myself and add the word "sometimes" to it. For example: "Oh my god I'm so ugly... sometimes. Not all the time, but sometimes" Or "I make such stupid decisions...sometimes. Sometimes I make stupid decisions, but not all the time. Maybe this time I did, but maybe next time I wont" This may or may not work for others but it's helped me feel a lot more open to the possibility that I'm not as sucky ALL the time as I think I am.

@TheLundraAlliance 4 жыл бұрын

RoseyRoses sometimes is good idea

@wax9007 4 жыл бұрын

Every person is distinguished by aspects of his personality, as each person has a key and a way to overcome his problems. Very good that I have done

@rm.makes.me.smile_ 4 жыл бұрын

@Halberdier You're welcome! Hope its successful for you

@jennifer7648 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!!! I know that will help me for sure😊

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

Love it ♥

@pickledoe212 4 жыл бұрын

“We have to live with the idea that our negative thoughts that could be wrong. Thoughts are not facts, they are not based in research, and they are not unbiased” wow... just wow... that hit home. 🥺🖤

@TheLundraAlliance 4 жыл бұрын

Laci Johnson Facts seem hard to discover at times too. This is a good quote.

@killertruth186 4 жыл бұрын

What had me the most, is the part that not being loveable and not being happy was just a negative thought.

@jm-gq4oo 4 жыл бұрын

Then the negative actions are the product of the thought .....enough actions and U are in a dark place ....were before they were only thoughts ! Gold comment your right ! Good one !!!!!🌹

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

@melissaharkins22 4 жыл бұрын

I have an issue with the "not based in research" part. When I have a negative thought like, "I'll always be a horrible procrastinator" or "I'll never be consistent with exercise and be fit" it is based on history, therefore based in research. If it's how I've always been, it's a good indicator it's how I always will be. I know that's a completely unhealthy negative mindset and I don't like that it's my response to the comment but that's the mind I'm living in unfortunately. Would love feedback.

@minthint269 4 жыл бұрын

I tried the positive affirmations but it was so stressful because I didn't believe them and it didn't feel like it was doing anything. Thank you so much for mentioning this, it takes the stress off of going from really negative to really positive.

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

I can already see how you succeed in my mind

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

I am so glad this was helpful!!! Yay!! xoxo

@QuranwithRain 3 жыл бұрын

I agree. I just felt like I was lying to myself which made me feel worse

@moonwizz Жыл бұрын

Feelings of unloved and alone.

@louise6119 4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I feel as if I don’t deserve to be kind to myself and I don’t deserve anything that’s happy and that’s hard

@jellyfish5569 4 жыл бұрын

I have that. I try and act tough but i dont want to be weak and i hate myself sm that i dont deserve any happiness in life only misery

@seaofsolace 3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way. I grew up in a very unhappy home and unfortunately, happiness is out of my comfort zone. I am trying very hard to make it my new normal.

@user-nr9lm4ms2r Ай бұрын

I'm with you there.

@sarahjo5570 4 жыл бұрын

My positive affirmation for today is actually along these lines: I believe in the person I dream of becoming.

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

I like the idea You are generating hope via a positive selfimage you desire

@dwayneneckles 4 жыл бұрын

This came right on time. God is trying to tell me not to give up

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

Yes, focus on positive truths "Truth will set you free" - Bible

@_just_TK 4 жыл бұрын

staybalanced you got this! ❤️👍

@bethany-b2pkfilms792 4 жыл бұрын

I believe in you

@ericalexanderson3442 4 жыл бұрын

He is and so are we! We are with you

@Dino_Skull 3 жыл бұрын

Amen💛

@KeifusMathews3 4 жыл бұрын

Self-Hatred is my main cause for my depression so happy you decided to talk about this, get some popcorn folks and enjoy the message, thanks Kati~

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

Of course!! I hope it helped!!! xoxo

@KeifusMathews3 4 жыл бұрын

@@Katimorton Everything you say has helped me and I'm trying because the women I love Tricia Roberts deserves us to make it thru the storms so Thank you from both of us!! Happy holiday's

@liveuser8527 Жыл бұрын

@@Katimorton but whayIF im still a pretty ugly and unattractive male?

@MirageATrois 6 ай бұрын

The main cause of my self hatred is my curse of sudden skill loss, my terrible genetics & terrible luck. Also it’s because everyone else is better than me when they don’t deserve to be better I’ve put in more time I literally should be everyones superior in every way at this point, no reason at all I shouldn’t be. I will not stop comparing myself until i get what i fucking want & stopping comparing myself would mean I’m settling mediocrity which is the same as giving up, why would anyone settle for mediocrity when they could be everyones superior? I sure as hell wouldn’t settle for mediocrity, i bet on that.

@user-eo5lr4pg6f 6 ай бұрын

Me too

@jennifer7648 4 жыл бұрын

I was abused by my dad every single day for 18 years, in every way except sexually just because I am a girl and not a boy like he wanted. Every day I heard from him that I was stupid, dumb, would never amount to anything. For many years now I have been struggling to regain my sense of positive self worth and self-esteem. This is the first time I have ever heard of bridge statements. Thank you tremendously for this!!!!

@kerryirving2949 4 жыл бұрын

Jennifer ❤️

@rscott2247 Жыл бұрын

Letting go of my toxic mother has been an important step in reclaiming myself. Only I can claim my identity.

@liveuser8527 Жыл бұрын

Why are you defining yourself based on the opinions of someone who clearly has problems? Not logical

@jennifer7648 Жыл бұрын

@@liveuser8527 Well, no matter how much I really don't want to, the things my own dad said made an enormous impact on me. He's my dad regardless of what he said or did, which means I had to endure it for a large part of my life. When it comes from a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, or someone else you are in contact with every single day, it leaves a very lasting mark on you. Due to being screamed at by him about my grades, I now have anxiety about my current school work come up when I get behind, that I never expected or knew would happen. It isn't something that will go away quickly. It takes a lot of time and healing. Possibly the rest of my life. So please don't make comments like this that are very toxic and dismissive of what a person has gone through.

@Pharagill 11 ай бұрын

@@liveuser8527 What's actually not logical is lecturing others on a topic where you are clearly ignorant.

@macandcheese__ 4 жыл бұрын

"maybe i could, some time in the future, be lovable and happy" is literally the only thought that's helped me live this long.

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

Everybody loves Mac & Cheese

@_just_TK 4 жыл бұрын

Dog's Life true story! 😹

@cathykley7238 4 жыл бұрын

Yep bridge statements are very effective stepping stone. Funny, my husband started me on bridge statements and we didn't even know that was a thing! Lol Now I've been able to switch over to positive statements that I almost half believe! Progress!

@TheLundraAlliance 4 жыл бұрын

Cathy Kley ^_^ yay

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

Yay!!! That's amazing progress!! xoxo

@lastpidigit9 4 жыл бұрын

girl you made me cry at work, please never stop making these videos, you are a ray of sunshine

@MatRoush 4 жыл бұрын

"It's POSSIBLE that" Kati Morton is the greatest person on KZfaq.

@jamesgentry13 3 жыл бұрын

Nah too much toxic positivity

@madipetrowski7712 4 жыл бұрын

I've had countless therapists tell me to talk kindly to myself, but I couldn't just all of a sudden start telling myself I'm amazing cuz I won't believe it. This is what I needed. More therapists need to say this.

@user-nr9lm4ms2r Ай бұрын

You ARE amazing👏

@NowUndefined 4 жыл бұрын

"I don't deserve to be loved or happy" It's like you crawled into my head to pick this one out.

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

Read Rabbi Twerski's books Part of being happy is being a spiritual person Spiritual person is someone who becomes the best he/she can be in the current situation

@annagajda5079 4 жыл бұрын

When it's sometimes hard for me to get up from bed and I think "I can't get up. I'm so tired and scared and paralised and I don't want to do anything" I start to think instead "You are able to move, it's possible for you to take this one leg out of bed, and then another and so on" and I focus only on this task - to get up and do anything. It's something a bit different from what you've talked about, but it's also kind of a bridge statement to the one "I want to get up and do things".

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

Try to exercise in the morning, as soon as you get up It will feel impossible, but its not true Compliment yourself for your self-discipline afterwards Sooner or later you will look forward to do exercises in the morning Exercise spikes your adrenalin and other good stuff in your body Evetually you will sleep easier, which will make you get up easier Setting you up in a postive spiral This technique was useful for me and has a good chance to work for you too

@karengallagher3608 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m feeling this exact way today

@bagelhog4967 4 жыл бұрын

This seems like a more realistic way to combat low self worth. I will try to work on it! Thank you Kati!

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

Success awaits you

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

Yay!! I hope it helps :) xoxo

@hopegold883 4 жыл бұрын

But the first step is becoming aware of when I use negative self-talk, which is almost constantly. Or maybe this is just you just make a blanket statement in the morning and evening? once you identify the put downs. Oh! Worth a try.

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

@@hopegold883 Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Book by David D. Burns I found this book useful

@hellofriend2109 4 жыл бұрын

Do you have advice on getting overwhelmed? I get extremely overwhelmed very quickly and often go into extreme emotional states or rage and I’m paying way too many bills for things I ruin in those states

@cathykley7238 4 жыл бұрын

When I was more healthy, I used to run until I calmed down. Rage, grief, overwhelmed, whatever extreme emotional state I was in. Plus some music that matched my emotional state.

@andrewgoodwin9385 4 жыл бұрын

You might have ADHD. I had it for years without realizing it. It's real and screws up your Life.

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

I knew this very well Good advice I read and applied: Your mind can only think of one thing at a time, set your mind on positive truths (Read positive books) Breath slowly in and out Give yourself commands: Be calm a relaxed for a few minutes Exercise until it becomes manageable Then attack the route problem in your thinking with counter arguments (I wont be able to 💣 I am able to do....!!!!)

@cathykley7238 4 жыл бұрын

@@andrewgoodwin9385 I figured out that I have/had/improved Childhood Emotional Neglect and Childhood Emotional Abuse. Once my emotional needs were finally being met, (People have emotional needs?? Whaaaaat? Who knew?? Lol, I sure didn't) a large amount of that subsided. I can now identify most of my feelings and can figure out what's going on, if you give me a day or two to think about it.

@killertruth186 4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I do get overwhelmed with some scenarios. But my most recent is marriage and love.

@luckywright7285 4 жыл бұрын

I've always found bridge statements to be extraordinarily helpful! They allow you to feel "not perfect" without everything hurting so much. Healing takes time and for some of us, is constant.

@OhighOSkater 4 жыл бұрын

2 days after starting to give this a shot, I do feel like it’s helping. I could never just tell myself “I’m great” or whatever and believe it, but the bridge thoughts really do help. Thank you for making this video. I appreciate you and I hope you’re doing well

@csewell77 4 жыл бұрын

My therapist and I work on this a lot (it can be really hard to truly innately believe overly positive messages when your brain is so negative to you constantly). You hit the nail on the head that one of the hardest first hoops you have to jump through is even entertaining the possibility that the negative messages could be wrong. Thank you for all that you do Kati.

@berry7590 4 жыл бұрын

What sorcery is this really!!! She’s reading our minds folks . 😂

@TheLundraAlliance 4 жыл бұрын

berry lolololol

@ghostie7790 4 жыл бұрын

I always feel like therapists read minds. Lol I just searched this the other day bc I’ve been feeling like shit lately!

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

😀

@_just_TK 4 жыл бұрын

MAGIC!!!!!

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

hahah!!! It's like I have ESP! lol!! xoxo I hope it was helpful :) xoxo

@admirbarucija2018 4 жыл бұрын

This is something I’ve struggle with for years and need help with, thank you so much for uploading this Kati!! I’m thankful for everything that you do ❤️🥰

@wax9007 4 жыл бұрын

Adapting to reality and contentment is the best treatment for facing life’s problems

@admirbarucija2018 4 жыл бұрын

anas That’s true, though certainly easier said than done :)

@wax9007 4 жыл бұрын

@@admirbarucija2018 I am optimistic and do not worry about something. There is no person on the face of the earth that does not suffer from problems, but the solution is to adapt and coexist with reality.

@admirbarucija2018 4 жыл бұрын

anas I’m glad to hear you don’t tend to worry, and that your approach works for you. Everyone goes through struggles and we react to them in ways that work for us.

@wax9007 4 жыл бұрын

@@admirbarucija2018 I was very pleased to speak with you, I wish you a happy life good bye

@glitttermoon 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve been practicing this method for a while now, though I never really had a name for it. It took a while before it became a solid habit, but it’s been pretty helpful in curbing my negative thoughts

@narutogoldylocks 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this. I had never heard of bridge statements, and I think they'll be very helpful for me. Saying positive affirmations always feels like I'm lying to myself, and since lying is one of the things I loath the most, I can't seem to bring myself to stick to stating positive affirmations.

@crashkamio5819 4 жыл бұрын

Boy this was a needed video. Especially the one about mot deserving happiness. Gonna try this! Thanks Kati, you're awesome.

@stephaniescheiderman7072 4 жыл бұрын

Katie you always open my eyes to new perspectives I have been recovering from an ED for 2 years now and my BIGGEST struggle right now is fixing my internal dialogue I am so thankful for this video I have never heard of bridge statements before and I am going to start with them today!

@storytellerhut3488 4 жыл бұрын

I think this is so helpful. When your inner voice is always mean and nasty we don’t believe it when we try to make it kind and nice. This has helped me in small parts of my life. I can look back now and think, “wow, I never used to be ok with this, now it isn’t so bad!” Or “Last year, I felt like such a failure I didn’t see how I was succeeding here and here.” It has to start small. Thank you Kati, for explaining this so well and showing us how to move out from under those icky voices in our heads!

@AbdulazizMaiof 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your amazing videos.

@soyyo4154 4 жыл бұрын

ThankYou so much Kati, you have such a great way of communicating complex issues in an easily understandable manner. THANK YOU.

@locke_xp 4 жыл бұрын

Soon I'll be telling myself "begone, thought!"

@elizabethm.4269 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Kati 🙏 I needed to hear this ❤

@bethany-b2pkfilms792 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Kati. I needed this ❤️

@snowwhenson8066 4 жыл бұрын

A perfect video for the holidays! Thanks Kati I needed this!!!

@somethingsomethingsomethin8366 4 жыл бұрын

This is actually such an amazing video. It's all about taking small steps, but that's not so easy if you don't know where to even start.

@picklehari9531 4 жыл бұрын

I have had narcissistic and unavailable parents. Right now, I have had started a company, founded multiple communities and yet I have failed at all of them. I know for a fact that I am just 20 years old. But these constant failures has drained me of any energy and willpower to continue. There is this voice inside somewhere that tells me , that I won’t be loved if I don’t achieve anything significant.

@_just_TK 4 жыл бұрын

Hariraj K Kati has several videos that may help that I’ll link below! kzfaq.info/get/bejne/kMtmjKVizKmoiYU.html kzfaq.info/get/bejne/obKad5qo2KrVY3k.html kzfaq.info/get/bejne/att0f9R9mODcomg.html kzfaq.info/get/bejne/p56gdKqEl7ysY4U.html

@maggied3188 4 жыл бұрын

"just because we have a thought over and over, doesn't make it true" that made me immediately cry. thank you for making this.

@kujmous 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, as always, Kati. This particular one is a battle I have.

@goodandgreen 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! This really struck a chord with me, I have atypical face features and I am diagnosed morbidly obese- it’s hard to get myself to imagine that I may not be as fat or as ugly as I think I am.

@LoreMIpsum-vs6dx 4 жыл бұрын

Wow! This is the most powerful and helpful idea I've encountered in a LONG time. Thank you Kati!

@marencalma13 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Katie, you are a light in this darkness💖

@cagla0239 4 жыл бұрын

Need this right now, thank you!! 😕💖

@NenaLavonne 4 жыл бұрын

Çağla02 ♥️

@wax9007 4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes a person's repeated failures and the repeated shocks to which a person is exposed make him hate himself and pessimistic much of the future

@sirdopaminesjournal3292 4 жыл бұрын

True, but we have to fight against the negativity despite the pattern of negativity we've experienced in the past.

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

True Somehow we manage to overcome that and future us wins

@wordmeaningsforyou 4 жыл бұрын

Kati, you're truly the patron saint of mental wellness. The work you're putting into bringing so much awareness about our mental failings is truly worth applauding. I love your work and it inspires me to be useful to others too! Much love and respect!

@Alex-el7xr 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this video. Ive been seeing a psychologist and an Occupational therapist for a few years for migraines and anxiety, and this is a problem ive talked with them about. Its nice that you talk about bridge statements, as its a journey, not just a flick of a switch

@hebaelwassef 4 жыл бұрын

Wow a smart advice.. I always find it hard to shift 180 degrees from negative to positive and even when I do, I don't believe it and its useless statement. I have never thought of bridge statements but I think they would really help and be more believable. So thank you❤️❤️

@bethany-b2pkfilms792 4 жыл бұрын

0:09 "wel-come!!' Idk why i always love that so much 😂

@nikkihernandez5751 4 жыл бұрын

Your amazing Kati! thank you for all you do.

@thighmaster4000 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for this video, Kati! This is my #1 2020 goal for self growth and improvement.

@shauny8367 4 жыл бұрын

Missed the “Welcome!”, you know, à la Kati 😂

@AxelLRX 4 жыл бұрын

Are you French ?

@shauny8367 4 жыл бұрын

Axel Leroux No, I’m not. But I can speak a little French :)

@gill426 4 жыл бұрын

Me too, I love it! :D

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

hahah!! It will be back.. don't worry ;) haha! xoxo

@AxelLRX 4 жыл бұрын

@@shauny8367 oh, I asked because I am

@serraapple 4 жыл бұрын

This was so amazingly helpful! Thank you so much!

@susiju9906 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Kati. I struggle so much with self-hate, this video comes just at the right time. It opens the possibility to be kinder with myself, maybe...possibly.

@salonika101 4 жыл бұрын

Thumbs up for Bridge Statements ! I feel like, my mind will actually Believe them. Then I can start liking myself more.

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

It works 😎

@vivianevenancio6502 4 жыл бұрын

That is very good! The fact of admiting new possibilities can do wonders, it's the crack that allows the light to come through and starts to crumble the false concreteness of negative core beliefs.

@TheLundraAlliance 4 жыл бұрын

Viviane Venancio or maybe give light in the darkness we feel maybe hmm

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

Yes, crack that wall open let it crumble The light will shine bright soon

@kasiam9724 4 жыл бұрын

The 4th one really hit close to home for me.. I'll write it down and put it up on a wall to start building that bridge right away! Thank you Kati! Xx

@kerrylarmand6301 4 жыл бұрын

Oh. My. Gawd. How DO you do that?!!??? This is such a hard thing to talk about....even harder when you've thought this of yourself for a VERY long time......Kati, you are so MEANT to be doing what you do....THANK YOU im going to try this " bridge thinking" this week.....

@BronsonBelleza 4 жыл бұрын

I really needed this. Thank you so much, Kati!!

@jcat7553 4 жыл бұрын

Never used or heard of bridge statements. Thank you Kati!! Will try 👍🏼

@passion76pj37 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video it's extremely helpful.

@emilyj.1351 4 жыл бұрын

God bless you, Kati. Your timing is perfect.

@dorianav 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Kati for bringing this subject!

@edhoover42 4 жыл бұрын

Now I'm wondering why none of my therapists suggested this (as those diametrically opposed self-loving phrases do seem so hard to believe)… Thank you for bringing this up!

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

I think people that climbed the ladder themselves will know what work in practice Where others might only know the general theory

@Brandon-dk9sn 4 жыл бұрын

Love this woman. So helpful and understanding.

@michaelcross5289 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this, I really needed to hear this today, it’s hard to go from absolutely hating yourself to truly loving yourself or even just tolerating yourself when you’ve always hated yourself. I have just never heard of a way to change it. Other than positive talk which like you said is very very hard to believe. So thank you for sharing this. I’ll start this and see what happens.

@iordanka22 4 жыл бұрын

thank you for the advice! I love your positive energy 🤗

@kozofit 4 жыл бұрын

Nice to see you nominated for a Streamy! You truly deserve it! I appreciate you!

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

I appreciate you being here!

@alajlan2012 4 жыл бұрын

In other words: give acceptance for your current version of your self, thx for your great content ❤️

@princeofb7383 4 жыл бұрын

Katy thanks so much for explaining this balanced approach. As someone who struggles daily with depression,, addiction, overeating...I have a lot of negative self talk in my head so it was great to learn about bridge statements!

@SirRickyBeez 4 жыл бұрын

I really needed this right now and I really appreciate the comfort in you and your videos. Thank you so much.

@theskipper34 4 жыл бұрын

After having a terrible week due to being stuck in my own head, this was a great topic for me for today. Thanks Kati!

@Katimorton 4 жыл бұрын

Awe I am so glad Jeff!!! xoxo

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

I also make the mistake of sometimes getting stuck in my thoughts Try doing more positive actions It helps alot for me

@ryantrue4844 4 жыл бұрын

Great video, I've had my mums friends say they are so surprised and proud of what I've accomplished and what I've done but I'm just here thinking I'm useless and worthless and hating myself for it

@OhMandy079 4 жыл бұрын

Ryan True same people tell me stuff all the time this stuff and my natural reaction is ugh they are just trying to be nice..why do most of us these days feel this way I don’t understand but even tho I feel the same I’m here to tell you that you are worth a lot in this world and you are wanted here and no matter if people do hate on you there is so much more love from others we need to look more in to 💚

@dogslife4831 4 жыл бұрын

What helped me: Do a lot of positive things and compliment yourself Next time, you have evidence that you can..... Slow and steady process

@Raz337 4 жыл бұрын

Ugh. I can't stop watching your videos because I keep seeing ones pop up that are relevant that I keep obsessing over. it's helpful with trying to trust my first therapist that I'm seeing.

@_just_TK 4 жыл бұрын

Legend71377 so glad ur giving therapy a try!

@gentianviolet2785 4 жыл бұрын

Thankyou so much, you're an angle😇✨ I really needed this♥️✊

@marionoschelmuller1718 4 жыл бұрын

I think those are a really good thing. It feels right to me. I automatically started to use them when I started to release shame.

@Nicole-Gh 4 жыл бұрын

Anyone else pushes these "bridge statements" away whenever you catch yourself thinking a bit more positive than usual? Like sometimes (rarely tho) I look in the mirror and I think that I don't look as ugly as let's say, other days, but then I tell myself that I look the same everyday, same ugly face, and no matter what I do it's not gonna change :( Basically, I dont wanna put my hopes up

@Sleepyembers 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Kati. You're the best!!

@mlisa 4 жыл бұрын

This is such a helpful video. I had never heard of this and it is for sure something I will try out. Thanks Kati!!

@kirsty2187 4 жыл бұрын

This is so helpful, thank you!!

@journeytowellness7096 4 жыл бұрын

This is so incredibly helpful! You absolutely nailed my self talk when it comes to just “tell yourself positive things”. Honestly, I could never get the idea out of my head that I’m just bullshitting myself and knew better. I have ADHD and depression and since my diagnosis and learning about the executive function problems ADHD causes, I’ve definitely been a lot less harsh on myself. One of the things that pissed me off the most was how easily I’d forget something I was JUST thinking about and used to call myself every name under the sun. I mean, how could I be so stupid to forget my coffee mug at work AGAIN!? Once I learned that working memory deficits were extremely common with ADHD, I’ve started to become more able to correct myself when I call myself an idiot as a knee-jerk reaction. I just remind myself that I’m not actually stupid, that I have a memory problem that’s going to cause me to forget things often. However, when it comes to parts of my depression, I have a real hard time adjusting my self talk. I’ve been working with a therapist for a bout 1.5 years now and I don’t remember him teaching me about bridge statements. Thank you so much for this!

@byme6028 4 жыл бұрын

Such a wonderful video! Thanks Kati! ❤️

@tobelstoker9992 4 жыл бұрын

Thankfull you so much Kati. I Love you, you are the most amazing human beeing ever. Have a happy life.

@dontcaretochooseone 4 жыл бұрын

Interesting approach. Thanks. When I feel noone wants me, I then think I probably don't like my self and the thoughts go on in more negative things like body image etc.

@bellaandsevy5338 4 жыл бұрын

Oh my god the start I love it “positive affirmations whatever”

@renak.6370 4 жыл бұрын

This is great! Thanks Kati! I've been making these better 'self-talk' bridge statements to myself for a couple of years, and they've really helped my over all feeling of self-worth.

@gracetrapani1143 4 жыл бұрын

i love these bridge statements, they are a lot more believable. and we can inch closer and closer to the positive stuff

@AnnaG1996 4 жыл бұрын

Katie, maybe I’m just emotional right now but you have no idea how much your psychology lessons have helped me through life. Wanting to cry thinking about the impact you’ve made. Please never leave KZfaq.

@_just_TK 4 жыл бұрын

Anna Gleason you got this! 👍❤️

@rachelwyatt2663 4 жыл бұрын

Kati is the best!!

@wax9007 4 жыл бұрын

Yes it is very beautiful

@_just_TK 4 жыл бұрын

Alyssa Sapp WOOT WOOT!!

@krystler7703 4 жыл бұрын

This video was SO helpful! Every time I've tried positive affirmations I'll try it and immediately thing "yea, right" or "bullshit, shut up idiot" or "see that's why nobody wants to be around you" (I'm so mean to myself inside my head) but this is a great technique to try and get past the hateful voice inside my head!

@cparedes74 Жыл бұрын

God Bless you Kati and thank you for this message. All this time and first time I hear this real down to earth, no fluff approach and I can feel already having a better effect, a new possibility of hope

@ellietozer5016 4 жыл бұрын

Hello. This is a really helpful topic thanks

@kakyoinsfsb 4 жыл бұрын

Kati is the most sweetest bean. Just the way she says "Welcome!" warms my heart so much. ❤

@BlackCat-qr6gy 3 жыл бұрын

I can’t explain how much I am thankful for this video. It brought me to tears, because I feel like I don’t even have control over what thoughts I have anymore. I will definitely try to be nicer to myself, thank you so much.