How To Tell Stories That Make People Respect You

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How To Get Respect Without Being A Bully - Jordan Peterson
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Jordan Peterson recently expertly handled a debate during an interview with BBC's Channel 4 news (The video was called: Jordan Peterson debate on the gender pay gap, campus protests and postmodernism). And JBP did it without being a bull or being aggressive. So how do we get respect without being a bully? Well, we often think that getting respect and being aggressive go hand in hand. Because unfortunately, it’s often the bully that gets the most respect in the schoolyard and even in the workplace. But Jordan Peterson is an exemplar of a different way to generate massive amount of respect. So in this video we’re going to explore 3 main things he does that force people to respect you WITHOUT being a bully.
Now, we focused a lot on respect in this video but that's actually just one out of four emotions that are going to create an amazing first impression on anyone cross-culturally. Now, if you're curious with the other three emotions that you want to create in that person are to make an amazing first impression, I made a video on that that breaks down what those four emotions are so that you can start using them today to consistently make killer first impressions.
0:30 Jordan Peterson calls it "pacing your reality"
4:50 Jordan Peterson tells stories effectively
6:54 Jordan Peterson uses archetypal stories
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@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын

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@ArronLukeMusic 6 жыл бұрын

Charisma on Command strange how your video just came up. Would love to see you do a dissection of his recent interview with Cathy Newman on channel 4. (Body language etc)

@pluginleah 6 жыл бұрын

Why is it that Peterson's fans are only anti-feminist, anti-trans, anti-"SJW"?

@sdjafhasdkg 6 жыл бұрын

Charisma on Command can you do a video on A$AP Rocky

@uprightkiller394 6 жыл бұрын

Jordan Peperson...

@Sam-ng3of 6 жыл бұрын

I think JP, being a psychologist, would be impressed by your channel if he knew of it!

@lokanoda 5 жыл бұрын

You forgot one of the main reasons Peterson commands respect: his thorough knowledge of the topic, he knows his stuff.

@redhotchilibitch 5 жыл бұрын

lokanoda yea, people quickly sniff out ignorants (lots of words with 0 substance)

@joncoish 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah exactly, he is extremely intelligent and well read. This also raises another point, you probably shouldn't argue about things you know nothing about. People are too willing to do this nowadays and should probably just sit back and listen more rather then arguing and fighting.

@katiest.vincent4283 5 жыл бұрын

Except his continued insistence that "Postmodern Neo Marxism" is a thing when both terms are in direct contradiction of each other.

@humantacos9800 5 жыл бұрын

@@katiest.vincent4283 It is a contradiction, but many of the socialists and Marxists he debates consider themselves postmodern, which is probably why he uses those terms together.

@katiest.vincent4283 5 жыл бұрын

@@humantacos9800 No. He uses them because the term is the new boogeyman to western conservatives. If he truly cared about facts and intellectual integrity he wouldn't repeatedly use it in his writings or his debates. Peterson is the master at using "intellectual" sounding words to talk in circles.

@vxlley_flower5672 5 жыл бұрын

As my Leadership/History/Philosophy teacher once said: "Argue to learn, don't argue to fight".

@johnstorton 4 жыл бұрын

I DO THAT! I've argued with my teachers, and I've argued with various professionals, knowing I was wrong. I find it an efficient way to learn. (It usually becomes apparent to them, especially the teachers, what I'm doing.

@daviesdavies538 3 жыл бұрын

I was always taught by my parents to understand where the opposing side is coming from, even of you don't agree. That way it's a less hostile anf respectful debate

@philiplathrop9250 3 жыл бұрын

Amen

@xentiment6581 3 жыл бұрын

Peterson: "You should argue, but you should argue toward peace"

@joelstephenson8017 2 жыл бұрын

That's what I like to do!

@lynnmcgown2451 Жыл бұрын

My husband son & I went to one of his lectures. It was full of couples, whole families with their young teens girls & boys. Lots of older people both sexes and we were expecting it would be an audience full of young men. It was so diverse races, & genders. What a fantastic thinker for our times.

@vickiehenshaw1890 Жыл бұрын

comma

@annhenry3135 Жыл бұрын

Oh please. You have fallen into the ‘woke’ cesspool. It doesn’t matter who comprised the audience and you evaluated their value. A ‘woke’ tactic that you bought hook, line and sinker. Dr. Peterson would shake his head at your post as he would feel all his talks came to naught.

@found-it0620 Жыл бұрын

Peterson should run for Prime Minister....great thinker.

@michaelboyd959 Жыл бұрын

Yes yes!! All of us together, as we are, Humans!!!❤

@roberti8116 Жыл бұрын

These days he is a total right wing grifter and seems totally nutty. I don't know where he pivoted into insanity, maybe cuz he needed a paycheck? But a Canadian spouting off about American politics and preaching his new mssg on the Daily Wire isn't exactly a great source for critical thinking and societal improvement.

@berthzy537 2 жыл бұрын

One guy parenting millions of adults. Congrats Peterson, love from Norway.

@jeffmoss118 5 жыл бұрын

He also purposely appears weak, then proceeds to cut people down if they come for him. But, he lifts them back up with empathy. One of the most charismatic people of the new millennium.

@justinz9225 4 жыл бұрын

Rope-a-dope, baby.

@markboggs746 4 жыл бұрын

Meh. Like those are new ideas! This dude "Jesus" came up with all that years ago. Jordan is just copying him and passing it all off as his own material!

@Mrhellslayerz 4 жыл бұрын

@@markboggs746 As a devote christian myself, that makes absolutely zero sense. I would love to know what kind of mentality it takes to think Dr.Peterson is copying Jesus, and somehow lying about it as well.

@markboggs746 4 жыл бұрын

@@Mrhellslayerz It was a joke. I'm shocked you don't get it and took it seriously. LOL.

@Mrhellslayerz 4 жыл бұрын

@@markboggs746 1: You'd be surprised how many "Christians" would be serious with that statement. 2: It may have been obvious and/or funny from your perspective, but from from me, an outsider, that joke was rather mediocre. (No offense.) While I apologize for not considering the possibility of it being a joke, you certainly could've written it better.

@infintittie 5 жыл бұрын

"Build your opponent a golden bridge to retreat across"

@Headcasehacker1080 5 жыл бұрын

Manipulating people like this isn't always the best strategy. Usually it's something very clear like: I heard what you said (restate it), however, here's what I need, here's how you can benefit, you do a, b, c very well, it's been 5 minutes, hope [insert childs or spouse name] is doing well... oh... gotta run.

@halcioncocaine2096 5 жыл бұрын

Opponent already dead 💣

@inevitablecraftslab 4 жыл бұрын

@@Headcasehacker1080 i think he means it like in lay them a path where they can change their mind without losing their face

@steffenvergeylen475 4 жыл бұрын

I was the 1000th like. Bet you didn't care

@BlackAdder665 4 жыл бұрын

What about a wooden bridge? With nice carvings and stuff. Does that count? Or does it have to be golden?

@blackbirdpie217 Жыл бұрын

He's a psychologist, and a good one because he thoroughly understands psychological principles in practice. He understands how people communicate and how to listen. Also his vocabulary is amazing, instilling respect for his mind, and it's all natural for him because he is in fact very intelligent.

@Damon369DivineAxiom 6 ай бұрын

He's also intuitively connected out of complete linear construct. His spiritual and physical reality is balanced.

@shmevanriceballz2857 Жыл бұрын

That’s why he’s a 1 in a million talent. Truly a legend in terms of charisma and speech

@KaiserSoze679 6 ай бұрын

Except he's really not. Charisma is literally defined as a compelling attractiveness or charm that inspires devotion in others. When more than half of the people who are aware of your existence hate your guts, and the only people who seem to see that charm or attractiveness in you are the ones that already agreed with your obvious prejudices, clearly there's nothing "compelling" there. You wanna see real charisma? Look to guys like The Rock, Terry Crews, Keanu Reeves, Chris Hemsworth - the kind of guys that next to nobody has a bad word to say about, no matter what walk of life they come from. That's charisma. I guess I'd give you speech in that he has a good vocabularly and speaks with confidence and conviction.... but I mean, so do dictators. So do sociopaths. So do cult leaders (which frankly I'd argue he's verging on himself.) That's not only not always a good thing, but in the wrong person it's a very dangerous quality.

@robbiejelsomeno5679 4 жыл бұрын

2:22 Regular person’s brain: “Jordan peppers in...” My brain: *Jordan Pepperson*

@joshuanickle8187 4 жыл бұрын

RobbieJelsomeno that's what I heard😂😂

@micanikko 4 жыл бұрын

Even the captions heard Pepperson. lmaoo.

@4_times_college_dropout_tr24 4 жыл бұрын

that is one fat comment rant for some white kratom. This stuff is better than coffee and modafinil, on levels replicating some seriously powerful stimulant drugs. Has white kratom brought me a gift to actually have the energy to connect and talk with others? since this is fairly new to me, I need to learn the art of harnessing that power and making a more impactful comment than an essay.

@arrianne311 4 жыл бұрын

Me too man, me too.

@StamperOSRS 4 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad someone else caught that lmaooo

@Atreus21 5 жыл бұрын

People will argue that 2+2=5 if it means disagreeing with someone they dislike.

@MrJmayes23 5 жыл бұрын

Ahaha! TRUE!

@jagman84 5 жыл бұрын

@@MrJmayes23 I see that you have heard the Brexit debate in the UK. A lot of it, currently.

@brandonasif4074 5 жыл бұрын

WRONG - donald trump voice

@1unknowntalent 5 жыл бұрын

Well said!

@pivotmartuX 5 жыл бұрын

But the Big Brother says so.

@nightcall7398 Жыл бұрын

Yeah...I need to work on this. But its hard especially when people are being unreasonable...and in this day and age, RIDICULOUSLY unreasonable! Thank you for the advice! Love you guys!

@danarzechula3769 7 ай бұрын

Yes it is hard so much easier to box their ears and tell them to make sense or shut it😂

@annabellabowes6852 Жыл бұрын

Great clip that summarises most of his work. The bottom line is that he has mastered the art of communication - he moves comfortably around people of different ages, levels of education and level of consciousness / beingness. Thanks for sharing - from South Africa.

@elisa.r.g 4 жыл бұрын

When Jordan said “the nazis asked you to violate your morals a tiny bit at a time” That has affected my life so hard. I think about that quote all the time

@matajadu9521 4 жыл бұрын

Elisa Grace in what sense has it affected your life?

@elisa.r.g 4 жыл бұрын

Mata Jadu it’s made me more aware of what I am comfortable with, and I no longer allow people to take me out of my comfort zone without my full knowledge of the consequences.

@matajadu9521 4 жыл бұрын

Elisa Grace thanks, I like that

@randomuser5443 3 жыл бұрын

Like intersectionalism

@amazingyear9042 3 жыл бұрын

like a frog in a pot of water where the heat is being increased in small increments to the boiling point.

@MDJiang 6 жыл бұрын

I love this. Regardless of whether or not you agree with Dr. Peterson's philosophical/political views, there is much to learn about his ability to deliver compelling arguments, a skill that every aspiring professional should learn to cultivate.

@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын

I very much agree. I don't agree with him on a fair amount of points, but he seems like he'd be a pleasure to speak with

@HxH2011DRA 6 жыл бұрын

This

@fernanditonh5994 6 жыл бұрын

MDJ love your basketball videos! And yeah, Peterson is a master level speaker.

@jeanraspail2979 6 жыл бұрын

I have yet to find something disagreeable in what he says or at least hear a convincing argument against any of his points from those who disagree with him.

@GaryMcCaffrey 6 жыл бұрын

CoC, out of interest, what are some points of his you disagree with?

@psychlos21 2 жыл бұрын

When meeting someone for the first time, I have found it very effective to build rapport and get to know them first and not address their political/religious views out of the gate. Because if you disagree and let them know right away, a wall is built up and there is limited opportunity to move ahead in the conversation.

@KaiserSoze679 6 ай бұрын

....which immediately makes you a better person to use for a lesson like this than Peterson.

@RoamFree1866 Жыл бұрын

Great video. We very often pick up an argument just to win, when actually it should be about helping each other grow, and society at large in the process.

@SargonofAkkad 6 жыл бұрын

What a coincidence, I just got back from Peterson's London lecture. I couldn't recommend him more highly.

@theramblingliberalist6504 6 жыл бұрын

Make Jordan Peterson a liberalist! I'd love to hear you and him have a discussion!

@HxH2011DRA 6 жыл бұрын

Sargon of Akkad Woah it's actually Sargon XD!

@SwagMoney420 6 жыл бұрын

Woke Sargon

@diegobotto6245 6 жыл бұрын

Pinochet was evil

@Cemtexify 6 жыл бұрын

Didn't expect to see you here

@barbarabukovssek7062 2 жыл бұрын

To gain real respect from others, there's need to be equipped wit : 1.vast knowledge and experoences 2.mature personality 3.communicational skills 4.empathy

@aynaasif1766 2 жыл бұрын

Also good grammar and spelling skills

@barbarabukovssek7062 2 жыл бұрын

@@aynaasif1766Probably. In your country😊

@boxoffisa 2 жыл бұрын

👍

@abdullahiahmedmohamed3925 2 жыл бұрын

@@barbarabukovssek7062 amazing answr to the guy who's talking about spelling. i almost falling in love with u

@thanosnoctem4473 2 жыл бұрын

@@abdullahiahmedmohamed3925 Bat aare yu taalkng boute? I cn alo pheak ringhlish

@onagoodday5557 2 жыл бұрын

So the idea is to not to want to make people respect you, but to learn to listen and engage with the ideas of others, even if they counter your perspectives, and allow the one with the more compelling ideas to influence the other. Behaving in this manner will foster respect from those around you because you will deserve it.

@jamesbaker8076 Жыл бұрын

To express your differing opinion but leave listener feeling validated is my aim in any discussion where there may be conflict of idea or beliefs or learnings.. And for me to learn.. I do know it can be difficult.. I feel proud after constructive chats like that

@gabymey3964 6 жыл бұрын

basically: to get respect, be respectful

@lucasmaria9730 5 жыл бұрын

thank you!

@DeadlyAlienInvader 5 жыл бұрын

Too bad my mother doesn’t seemed to understand that.

@vinodkumaraug 4 жыл бұрын

Cops need to learn this

@ninjaartist1235 4 жыл бұрын

This means we need to shut down tumblr.

@foliageinfall8387 2 жыл бұрын

That’s not always true.

@devinal6183 5 жыл бұрын

When I'm in an argument I always make sure the other person feels heard and understood. I validate their opinions but what usually happens is they think I'm agreeing with them and they start to act even more smug and be all "see, I'm right you're wrong." And that right there just makes me want to punch their face with a chair

@daddypoker23 5 жыл бұрын

most people just want to hear that their right but continue being you and hopefully little by little it rubs off to some ppl.

@islanderboi89 5 жыл бұрын

Punch away.

@ACTHdan 5 жыл бұрын

A good listener/debater concedes to the other argument. Also ask questions that demand evidence. The goal is not to make them feel stupid but remind them of their burden of proof if they’re debating something.

@gymmouse8153 5 жыл бұрын

U have to explain ur own story the way they will believe you more.

@bryantav6843 5 жыл бұрын

Watch Jordan Peterson in these interviews and watch and imitate. Learn from the best

@af186 5 ай бұрын

"A mind changed against it's will is of the same opinion still" this motto changed my sales closing percentages for the better, avoiding the habit of winning every level of an argument or an objection from a customer does wonders and gives one much better outcomes!

@user-qg5wg9ut2o 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for giving us this opportunity to get to know Jordan Peterson. Knowledge is Power. Now I understand & like him.

@ladywintergreen3780 3 жыл бұрын

Jordan is such a gentleman, without being a pushover in any manner. He’s a complex, brilliant, strong and sensitive man. Absolutely love him as a father figure in psychology and philosophy. He’s constantly growing himself, even at his level. That’s true humility

@kiwiwifi 2 жыл бұрын

When did you get to meet him?

@wiseonwords 2 жыл бұрын

@Lady Wintergreen - Written like a lady! ;)

@fcos9704 2 жыл бұрын

he isn't a father figure at all lol, he is just known by the media that's all.

@williammunny9916 2 жыл бұрын

*_John 3.16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. 17 For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. 18 “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. 21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”_* _Jesus Christ loves you. Only Jesus Christ saves. Repent and be saved. God bless you, and the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you and your family._ -

@bidenpoopants130 2 жыл бұрын

@@fcos9704 not at all he just gives people advice to change and improve their lives or feel better about themselves. You know like a father does. Lol you have head in anus syndrome

@InevitablyCliche 5 жыл бұрын

“It’s very difficult to understand Jung outside of a narrative context. And so I’m going to walk you through The Lion King today.”

@ph0non 4 жыл бұрын

That's a classical JBP... and one thing I like and respect about him 😂

@Chad-bc9vi Жыл бұрын

The first point is what I have learned from many good debate session and I have been using it ever since, it is easier to change people mind that way, by seeing things through others point of view, try to understand their points, looking for a common ground in an argument is very important

@123tanjad 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video, you are truly talented in pulling this together!

@stereofect 2 жыл бұрын

I met Jordan Peterson. It was brief, unexpected and unrehearsed. It was in the middle of the week in the middle of the day in a common area of TGH. I was in a very elevated state of anxiety at the time. My condition would be obvious to someone like him, but for me, from the moment we shook hands I felt the immediate change in my demeaner. An immediate calming down, foot off the gas, take a moment to breath type of change. The type of antidote a guy like Jordan Peterson is very good at administering. It felt real and it felt sincere. Like he took the weight from my shoulders and carried it away. Apparently it was noticeable 'cause when I went back upstairs to my son's room I had quite the glow on. I was asked "why so happy all of a sudden?". I met Jordan Peterson.

@kathrynj.hernandez8425 2 жыл бұрын

stereofect: You are an excellent communicator. Peterson would be impressed.

@katemiller5990 2 жыл бұрын

Love it

@deidrestadler8823 2 жыл бұрын

Where did you meet him? Im jealous!

@rosiemackenzie5976 2 жыл бұрын

Jordan Peterson is one of those rare human beings who actually thinks beyond a surface level and has the wisdom to see what is seen. Lucky you! I would love to speak to him.

@stereofect 2 жыл бұрын

@@deidrestadler8823 Toronto General Hospital (son was in the ICU). I don't know for sure where as there are so many hallways connecting so many buildings. But somehow I ended up rounding a corner going one way and he rounded a corner coming the other way.

@tek87 5 жыл бұрын

One time I saw a kid being bullied by 4 kids so i decided to step in He didn't stand a chance against all 5 of us

@BartholomewSmutz 5 жыл бұрын

Hilarious!

@8bitmagic 5 жыл бұрын

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh "unfortunately, I didn't know they were beating up the next Bruce Lee"

@marvinogah 5 жыл бұрын

@@8bitmagic Plot twist.....

@hriata168 5 жыл бұрын

@@McconneIIRet rinse and repeat

@squeet6831 5 жыл бұрын

Did you steal that from Jimmy Carr?

@timelkin838 Жыл бұрын

You are exactly right. Thus isn't a fight but a way of going into discussion together.

@allamerican3118 2 жыл бұрын

Dr. petersen is a good teacher on many varieties of subjects. It’s true on this too that we need to have the other person speak & have their opinions listened to & respected.

@thesalanian 5 жыл бұрын

Funny how everyone who dislikes Jordan Peterson just accuses him of being fake. Hardly seen a more real person in public discourse.

@radiojet1429 5 жыл бұрын

You don't get out much, do you?

@Bonez0r 5 жыл бұрын

@@radiojet1429 I knew it was you before i opened the comment. When will you clean your room?

@mephybooks7309 5 жыл бұрын

he's a liar and a shill and also a fake

@thesalanian 5 жыл бұрын

@@mephybooks7309 What exactly has he lied about substantially? I'm willing to open this dialogue. Please outline your accusation. In regards to being a shill, who is paying him. Lastly, how do you categorise a fake man? Then we can get somewhere.

@AltCTRLF8 5 жыл бұрын

thesalanian notice that his haters call him a liar and a nazi but can never provide a valid example.

@TheWinterShadow 6 жыл бұрын

One key point is the fact that Jordan Peterson is a highly educated doctor in academia. A lot of people who try to argue their point are not 'that' well educated. Their egos are not controlled by their intellect. Dr. Peterson is in control of his ego. That's power.

@jeffyboyreloaded 5 жыл бұрын

TheWinterShadow this.

@aliciafraser1835 5 жыл бұрын

To be fair, a lot of incredibly intelligent people are still incredibly egotistical. They see that intelligence as putting them far above anyone else, and thus no one elses point matters. I am glad that Doctor Peterson is not one of those people. I don't agree with a lot of the things he has to say, scientifically backed or not, but I will always respect the man for how he handles matters.

@cjpatz 5 жыл бұрын

I believe what helps him is his genuine need to understand life and people.

@TheEternalOuroboros 5 жыл бұрын

TheWinterShadow ~really well said. Just because someone isn’t winning a debate doesn’t mean they don’t know what they are talking about. Emotion can control ones views to the point of them being crippled by the means of communication and confrontation.

@felix64able 5 жыл бұрын

LOLOL your response reminded me of my oldest brother, exmilitary, in charge now of a school districts computer system, well he and his wife were arguing, his wife only has a high school diploma, he was yelling at her say "I can't believe you don't know how a nuclear bomb is contructed" and she responded "can you tell me what ingridients a chile relleno requires?" that shut him up real quick!!!

@11kwright Жыл бұрын

You shouldn’t have to use tricks to con people into respecting you. Respect is earned and Jordan Peters have earned his respect by putting a lot of effort into his craftsmanship.

@dehartfamily3091 Жыл бұрын

these ‘tricks’ seem to me more likely to be proper ways to converse in a debate.

@kathleencook3060 Жыл бұрын

The key is: How to respond in dialogue!

@Mossyrocklove 7 ай бұрын

I was expecting this to be another silly video but it actually made so much sense! And made me realize that when I argue, I really work to explain why the other is wrong, which puts people off and they shut down!

@jacobisPlayR3000 5 жыл бұрын

One of the best, and honestly hardest to implement, pieces of advice I've gotten is to talk to other people as if they have something important they could teach you.

@justinz9225 4 жыл бұрын

Just to be clear, not everyone has something important to teach you. But act that way. People try to pin JP down on that one all the time. "Aren't you supposed to act as if someone has something to teach you?" Sure, but that doesn't mean you're obliged to automatically agree with them. You may never. It's just a concession that you don't know everything.

@americanpatriot7247 2 жыл бұрын

Well, everyone has something, positive, negative, as examples that one can learn from. Every person, no matter their intelligence or education or life's circumstances was made as an individual.... with no one on earth being 100% identical. Every person has value.... maybe some contribute to mankind more than others, but there is a takeaway, large or miniscule from everyone. Hard to remember that sometimes for me as I let other things become more important than people sometimes. I need to be cognizant of that always. Have a good one, friends.

@Roockie117 3 жыл бұрын

I had an English teacher who used to connect the contents he was teaching us to archetypes, using stories like Star Wars and Harry Potter to help us get into it and understand it better. Sadly, he was let go because my school apparently couldn't afford to pay some of the new teachers they hired and I was transferred to a different class. Mr. Lee was awesome.

@colt2274 3 жыл бұрын

I had a History teacher who used Jurassic Park and Star Wars to teach us about US History. He was an amazing person

@Grandmaster_Dragonborn Жыл бұрын

@@colt2274 My gosh! How did he do it?? My history teachers never did that :D

@CLKiang-cm1pn Жыл бұрын

You have to have respect for other people and you have to have respect for yourself. If you are missing either one, other people will not respect you. And believe it or not, those two can coexist.

@nickacelvn 7 ай бұрын

This sort of content is exactly why I'm a subscriber and listen closely to people like yourself and Mr Peterson. Bravo.

@JakeVoorhees 6 жыл бұрын

Such a good topic, thanks so much for adding the part about "..and not being a bully". You can lead with empathy and still command awesome respect!

@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын

Yeah it's truly remarkable how a non-aggressive college professor has captivated the attention of so many people - I love it :-)

@JakeVoorhees 6 жыл бұрын

@Consolous 6 жыл бұрын

My favorite and personal kind of leadership, empathetic leadership

@yogabbagabba2202 6 жыл бұрын

Not lead with empathy but sympathy I think

@Blox117 6 жыл бұрын

non-aggression makes you look weak! it leads dishonest people to try and bully and slander you

@ikm64 2 жыл бұрын

"How to make people respect you?" Why on earth would you care what people think about you?..." I remember what an old guy once said... When I was 20 I was obsessed with what people thought of me... When I was 40 I stopped caring... But it was only when I was 70 that I realized people weren't thinking of me in the first place...

@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723 2 жыл бұрын

LOL 😂 SO Darn True, Love it!

@afterburned06 2 жыл бұрын

The irony is not caring what other people think will earn you more respect than caring ever will. Many pioneers and great minds wouldn't have gotten where they did if they cared what others thought or let others opinions affect them.

@americanpatriot7247 2 жыл бұрын

We are herd animals and relationships are one of the basic "life blood" for humans. That's why we care. And.... that said, the comment about the ages 20, 40, then 70 of how we react to others caring about us is totally accurate! I am the oldest I've ever been (obviously, still alive.... grin) and caring about other's perception of me and respect they give me is down to this in my life..... "Sure I'd prefer people to respect and like me as opposed to not.... but .... if not.... some will, some won't.... and life goes on." Blessings everyone. Have a good one.

@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723 2 жыл бұрын

@@afterburned06 after many years trying to “spin plates”, in an attempt to keep others happy, I have learned my happiness needs to be more important and I spent years fighting the good fight, to keep myself happy! Your comment is helpful, also very true! I am no longer that girl. As my daughter used to say; “check yourself before you wreck yourself!” By George I Think I’ve Got It! 😎🙏

@ikm64 2 жыл бұрын

@@americanpatriot7247 Wise words... Now not too sure about "herd" though... definitely more "pack" man, me. But to be "your brother's keeper"and "caring"...now on that I stand with you 100%. Now standing together or standing alone...I know which I'd prefer. ...and I certainly know which makes me stronger... Like the name by the way us Irish love our American 'bigger brothers'...

@addamhellie8478 5 ай бұрын

Respect breeds respect... actively listening and trying ti understand someone/ their point of view...a respectful action... will ultimately bring respect

@sherrylynn4632 Жыл бұрын

Jordan is such an amazingly, kind and intelligent person. I love to watch his videos and to the narrator for lack of better terms of this video, you too are a very intelligent interesting person as well. For you to be able to interpret, express and explain, wow just amazing! Thank you, 😇♥️

@wheelzwheela 5 жыл бұрын

Peterson will be seen as one of the most influential people of the decade without a doubt.

@Awseswa 5 жыл бұрын

that gave me a good laugh :,D I thank you.

@michaelregis1015 5 жыл бұрын

wheelzwheela what are you talking about? He already is seen like that.

@karthikrangaraju9421 5 жыл бұрын

Nah it’s Kim Kardashian!

@enibeni3783 5 жыл бұрын

wheelzwheela make that century! It’s been 60 years of “group think” thanks to advertising

@mbogucki1 5 жыл бұрын

Peterson will be seen as the charlatan of the decade, without a doubt.

@rhyswilliams6271 6 жыл бұрын

Big respect for JP. His book is out tomorrow, go get it!

@zeldabaws98 6 жыл бұрын

Rhys Williams It comes out next Tuesday the 23rd..... one more week

@rhyswilliams6271 6 жыл бұрын

Martin for me it's tomorrow. I'm in the UK and when I went on amazon US it said 23rd, different release dates maybe?

@zeldabaws98 6 жыл бұрын

Rhys Williams Aww lucky! Yeah I guess in America it releases a week later!

@alphanotmale1847 6 жыл бұрын

What’s the title of the book? I’m interested!!!!

@rhyswilliams6271 6 жыл бұрын

Alpha Notmale 12 rules for life, an antidote to chaos

@themilkman1275 2 жыл бұрын

The objective isn't to win the argument, it's to help the other person become a better person

@dumdum9367 Жыл бұрын

Nah you carry yourself respectfully, you get respect back

@danarzechula3769 7 ай бұрын

And learn to be better yourself

@danarzechula3769 7 ай бұрын

@@dumdum9367you may be confusing fear and loathing with respect

@allenh7835 7 ай бұрын

SHOULD be the objective, but it never is.

@dumdum9367 Жыл бұрын

You give love u get love, you show respect you get respect. The way you carry yourself will take u a long way in life

@jeanholtz579 Жыл бұрын

Unless you are in love with a manipulating narcissist!!!!!

@thelukeewan7602 7 ай бұрын

Unless the person you are speaking with has mental illness on some level

@satanaka2011 4 жыл бұрын

Jordan Peterson's ability to converse with hostile people is a great lesson- I have learned from him.

@Sovereign_Citizen_LEO 2 жыл бұрын

That is truly a gift and an art form, when many of the best of us would eventually give up (on someone perhaps simply to irrational and emotional to tolerate any further [after a while]).

@DELANADINE 2 жыл бұрын

It looks like a background picture.

@juneallan4903 2 жыл бұрын

Ah dear now where was I ??😴😴😴

@williammunny9916 2 жыл бұрын

@tabascofaith 2 жыл бұрын

I always get the impression that he never enjoys it, finds it somewhat exhausting, but despite that, he holds fast to his value of seeing the conversation through as respectfully as possible

@stephenm3874 2 жыл бұрын

It's taken me over two years of watching Jordan to not only understand, but to be able to start incorporating his genuine concern for others while effectively communicating. Genius.

@williammunny9916 2 жыл бұрын

@stephenm3874 2 жыл бұрын

@@williammunny9916 Seriously you shouldn't drink and post. A character from a Clint Eastwood movie mindlessly proselytizing on KZfaq has nothing to offer but their own delusions.

@nicolejegathesan7056 2 жыл бұрын

I know exactly what you mean, Stephen. I see that dear JP is constantly suffering and transforming. He teaches with such coherence because his life goes before his words - he walks to talk. Bless him

@timfrye3586 Жыл бұрын

Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict

@timfrye3586 Жыл бұрын

Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict

@CharlieBrown-nu2zb Жыл бұрын

I always wondered 'how do these simple people become gurus to the masses?'. After watching Dr. Peterson for so long, I must admit he shows the answer again and again. He must've found the jewel in the heart, the source of all knowledge. If so, it wasn't easy, it took hard work to get to the top of his field, and then boom! Illumination. (I'm sure he doesn't have all the answers but the sensible truth flows right out of him).

@karenerivera4127 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for this valuable info!

@miarinnes3134 5 жыл бұрын

His 20 years of Clinical Psychology really paid off.

@spirit9871 5 жыл бұрын

@@himanshunaidu389 He hasn't cleaned his room yet.

@dss6209 5 жыл бұрын

Peter Jordanson is everyone's daddy

@thomaspick4123 5 жыл бұрын

Nami Erins. Really? How much money has he earned? Lifetime pension too? Marriage material!

@Daniel_Anthony 5 жыл бұрын

Why does that bother you?

@netflixandkill8364 5 жыл бұрын

it wasn't doing much, so he turned to pandering to fragile schoolboys, aka the nazis of new, with lobster diagrams of manliness to feel some sense of success

@tobylinville182 4 жыл бұрын

I love how you break down Peterson's effectiveness. After losing my temper during a real estate deal, and feeling like a fool after, I googled for insight and found your channel thus discovering the badassness that is Jordan Peterson. Keep up the good work!

@bryanwirthlin4444 4 жыл бұрын

Wow. I'm also Googling "Jordan Peterson communication" after losing my temper in a real estate deal.

@lawdogwales5921 3 жыл бұрын

@@bryanwirthlin4444 Wow! Me too.

@sebbilah 3 жыл бұрын

@@lawdogwales5921 me too!!

@bradharold4000 2 жыл бұрын

Me too 🤦‍♂️

@joetrolo7076 2 жыл бұрын

Good for you, that was your reaction!

@SamJewel Жыл бұрын

you do amazing amount of research and edits for these videos!

@richardbayer5702 8 ай бұрын

To me it sounds like the key is humility. Speak with humility is the best way to make a point. -Richard in U.S.

@RookieN08 6 жыл бұрын

As a non-native English speaker, I have difficulty understanding JP sometimes but when I do understand him, he makes a lot of sense with what he's saying. I love the way he explains philosophical ideas from psychologist perspective.

@Dave_AI 6 жыл бұрын

You write English better than a lot of native English speakers I have encountered.

@malteeaser101 6 жыл бұрын

I think there is some prerequisite information needed for some of the things he says to understand him. He uses a lot of metaphors, too, but they are explained elsewhere, or in his books.

@fullup91 6 жыл бұрын

garrulousglandarius ... exuse me, but my englrsh iz pufect 😋😋😋

@sebastiann7883 3 жыл бұрын

"Clean up your room" means also to start getting your live in order in little steps. It's the idea that if your life is a mess, surely there is always one little part that you can do to make your life a little better. This in the end spirals you upwards. You don't just go out fight the dragon, you first get your armour fixed and think about what exactly you will do, which ultimately raises your chances of killing the dragon.

@timfrye3586 Жыл бұрын

Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict

@timfrye3586 Жыл бұрын

Jordan is a poisoned dwarf and near hopeless drug addict

@ogerpinata1703 Жыл бұрын

Don't mistake respect with fear. Fear can only keep people in line as long as it persists. Respect does not need constant show of force if even at all. That is why those who fear you, will betray you the moment there is nothing more to deter them. Those who respect you, will stay loyal or at least neutral.

@AnAcousticCow Жыл бұрын

Fear and respect do go hand in hand, however it's not as simple as it sounds. Fear(itself) is not respect as it invokes pressure and an uncomfortable, defensive yet cautious mindset into people. When feared, people listen to you indefinitely to avoid confrontation and truthfully lack affection and *Respect* towards you. Respect is when someone projects your worth and has affection for you because they feel you are affectionate towards them yet they *Fear* the absence of your affection for them. I respect God so I hold fear towards him. Fear is the absence of respect. Respect is the absence of hatred.

@Tass1919 Жыл бұрын

@@AnAcousticCow oh yes I agree with ur statements. Love invokes respect and love what is love? I see that love is respect, he first loved us and respected us, now we love and respect (fear) him!!

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@energyhealing11 2 жыл бұрын

Being able to listen to others and not just react is a number one leadership skill 👑

@andrelemelin3787 5 ай бұрын

Trudeau has none of the qualities mentioned here. Narcissists are not leadership material.

@timothywait9457 5 ай бұрын

energyhealing one must react

@PhilippeLarcher 5 жыл бұрын

"Seek to understand before being understood"

@thomasrobertson8109 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your Channel update God bless you

@kellywoodwardcore5360 7 ай бұрын

He is brilliant and a brilliant clinician- a part of that is the training one has to be a therapist or psychologist though. He's completed 10's of thousands of clinical hours and these "verbal tricks" are not tricks but essential pieces of rapport building and effectiveness in therapy and happy to be very effective in communicating with others as well.

@jamesl8640 5 жыл бұрын

"he's extra careful to not make you feel stupid about it" Flashbacks to the "ha gotcha" moment.

@joelblanco3777 4 жыл бұрын

everything has its exception, dude! hehe

@cleitonoliveira932 4 жыл бұрын

She deserved that so much. That interview is historical.

@tiagorodrigues515 4 жыл бұрын

Ahah good point, but even that I think was a gentle move. He couldn't help it, after that woman was agressively trying to turn him into a villain the whole interview. And after getting to know the dude a bit better, I am now absolutely sure that, if he wanted, he could have absolutely humiliated Cathy and end her career on that interview.

@postmanscott767 4 жыл бұрын

Well, she deserved it

@elisa.r.g 4 жыл бұрын

The gotcha was an out for her. Because her job was to dislike him, and without the “gotcha” she would have gotten in trouble in the court of public opinion.

@Valerie-fi9bx 6 жыл бұрын

This is great. To earn respect you must first give respect.

@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын

Exactly :-)

@FrozenFox20 6 жыл бұрын

i read a book about emotional cogntion and it made me realize that respect, just like happiness or sadness is an emotion that is influencial. So if you feel respect towards others or feel happiness towards others, they are very likely to feel that same emotion when they see and recognize it in you.

@elizabethchavez6597 Жыл бұрын

I love this!!!! Especially the fact that you mentioned people trying to downplay their opinions which in reality only keep those agree with you too stay in line with you and doesn't mean your really making any change?

@salvatorethomas9546 Жыл бұрын

Good show. You picked the perfect person to represent your points. Very helpful. Thank you

@Sumiyeco_boutique 2 жыл бұрын

The best 3 things you can do to make people respect you is to 1) listen actively, 2) apologize when you’re wrong, and 3) lead by example, especially during difficult situations.

@thinktankcritic5267 Жыл бұрын

I ve seen pple command respect without doing any of those things. It’s not really what you do or say but HOW.

@Legbreaker1 Жыл бұрын

Or what you can do is repeat what you thought you heard back to them and say so what I hear is you are telling me this is what you see or what you feel if he say yes now you have a basis to respond in which they’ve agreed to your thoughts on what you heard and are more likely to understanding hear you out

@KibyNykraft Жыл бұрын

@@thinktankcritic5267 Pt 1 depends on the other person. Some are silent ,others are talkative. The majority is inbetween. Within both these groups there are bullies, actors but also gentles. The majority is usually inbetween these. If someone is talkative one has to listen for a while. If the person when done talking suddenly wants to do something else, he or she is either a narcissist or has ADHD disorder. In that case you won't be able to talk rationally to them. If needing to teach them something you must use other approaches.

@spicyirwin5835 10 ай бұрын

Trump gets respect from his cult tho & has zero of these traits.

@JamesCAsphalt8 7 ай бұрын

You forgot the most important one. "Make your commentary about them, not about yourself."

@sapien377 6 жыл бұрын

Dr Peterson is a societal necessity.

@theprevailingorthodoxy7417 6 жыл бұрын

One could say he's an antidote to chaos... roughly speaking

@radiojet1429 5 жыл бұрын

In 1843, slavery in America was considered a social necessity. Mr. Peterson's atavistic views belong to that era.

@ryancarroll2886 4 жыл бұрын

@@radiojet1429 please elaborate

@Tallonest 4 жыл бұрын

Radio Jet I see you’re throwing out baby with the bath water, like communists always do

@rodneyisaacsisaacs6638 7 ай бұрын

its good to be able to present your point and apply your listening skills to the other party opinion

@geraldfitzpatrick9123 7 ай бұрын

Dr Peterson has been studying peoples perspectives and the human condition for a long time. He has done so much research and he never goes out to fight or argue with anyone, but he has a lot of mad dogs that are out to get him. He's a very good honest man and we're lucky to have him around.

@Clepston 5 жыл бұрын

I saw something from Peterson in one of those final clips that I don’t think I’ll ever see his contemporaries, specifically people who specialize in “owning” their opponents (biggest example in my mind being Ben Shapiro), he’s just standing with his hand on his chin, calmly listening to the opinions of the person who’s talking to him. It conveys a deep respect for not just the person, but for their intelligence and right to have an opinion, and I think that’s what gains him respect during and after debates. Unlike people who indulge in shouting matches to feed their ego or widen their echo chamber, he appears to have a deep respect for the other person, which makes it easier for them to respect him in turn. Tl;dr: An easy way to gain respect is by first showing someone else that respect, people are more likely to show you respect if they themselves feel respected.

@marleneg7794 5 жыл бұрын

He is very knowledgeable..so he has confidence which in of itself commands respect.

@SD-fl8zl Жыл бұрын

This man is respectable and he's good people. Hopefully he sticks around and takes care ❤️. Also cool videos!

@RobertHumphries 2 жыл бұрын

This is one of the best observational videos I've ever seen/heard.

@TestingChannel1407 6 жыл бұрын

It looks like Jordan Peterson has a permanent furrowed brow. He's always concentrating fiercely.

@sapien377 6 жыл бұрын

Henry Peter that's his job lol

@Lurch685 6 жыл бұрын

That’s because his mind is always running in overdrive.

@radiojet1429 5 жыл бұрын

No, he furrows his brow because even he can't believe you buy all his crap.

@BangMaster96 5 жыл бұрын

I am an atheist but i watch Peterson's philosophical lectures to gain a better perspective of the world and human life

@idleeidolon 5 жыл бұрын

some would argue that peterson himself is atheist... at least towards the fundamentalist conception of god.

@tbranch74 5 жыл бұрын

This is the 1st time I heard he is religious. Had no idea. Logic can still be gained by those who have an opinion or belief in religion or spirituality. Not everything is based on religion. Truth exist on.many.levels.

@wesbilly 5 жыл бұрын

Tara Holt yes. Very true. I believe every word of Jesus. I don’t believe he actually existed.

@tbranch74 5 жыл бұрын

@@wesbilly Jesus's teachings were basically about being a decent human being. Help others out. And just do good for the sake of doing good. One doesn't need religion to do just that.

@wesbilly 5 жыл бұрын

Tara Holt exactly what I said.

@nicoledeloncrais5940 Жыл бұрын

Jordan Peterson, pays attention and listens very very well. By listening so well, he hears the words being used, then he moves in to gain clarity, understanding and truth. And to top it off, he is genuine and totally invested in assisting others to open their eyes wide open generally with kindness. He is so damn sincere and deeply well informed while being sage in his application for wisdom. Brilliant 👌, fabulous and almost mesmerising. Thank you sir 😊🙏

@JaneEva Жыл бұрын

THANK YOU SO MUCH for not using that manipulative background music (tinkling piano or weird violins) to try and evoke certain emotions... and instead, just narrate your video! I'll be watching a lot more of your videos because of this!

@hankezhou2032 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the breakdown! Learned some great things. To address the first point: Peterson is an avid thinker and I'm not sure if he's consciously doing the "That's a good point" technique. I rather believe that to arrive at a conclusion he really believes in, he has this internal dialogue with himself, where he plays both sides of the argument. That also ties into the "you"s and hypotheticals that he uses, as these are his habits of discussing with himself. It's like a constant training for your brain to switch from perspective to perspective in an argument, which is now ingrained into him. That's how he's able to say "That's a good point" with conviction as it is something he has seriously considered before judging.

@sonias9722 6 жыл бұрын

Han Jou exactly. Plus he is a divergent thinker, which makes him expand an idea to another area.

@valeriejames8356 6 жыл бұрын

Totally agree!

@arguestreet 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, my vote's with you.

@celpa3151 5 жыл бұрын

Han Jou, Well, it's not difficult when you know what you know. But things I heard from Peterson so far (capitalism as a good efficient system, veganism as cult, and he being "a believer") are wrong, I can't believe people change their mind to *that* kind of thinking/ideas/interpretations... He is a good speaker, maybe born maybe learnt, but he is wrong (on the subjects I heard him talk).

@etofok 5 жыл бұрын

this is a great observation

@jamestheredd 6 жыл бұрын

I think it's also nice how Jordan extends empathy to the other persons position in the conversation without ignoring the danger of their position when it is something like the regulation of speech which should not be made light of. In other words he has the capacity to patiently hear their position and strongly criticize it simultaneously.

@thomasrobertson8109 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your Channel update God bless you 🙏

@seanivanhernandez4349 2 жыл бұрын

When arguing don't assume that you are always right, always be open on the possibility that you might be wrong, and constantly criticize or question your own beliefs so that if you enter an argument or a discussion, you'll be more likely to answer any questions against your beliefs as you probably already asked those questions to yourself before.

@himomimfamous 6 жыл бұрын

I have the utmost respect and admiration for Dr. Peterson. I changed my entire life just watching his stuff on KZfaq. Very few people have that kind of power. I hope he continues to inspire and do great work ❤️

@ruthimegi5556 6 жыл бұрын

Hazar Younis same. I have gone to church almost all my life and they have never inspired the same level of change.

@presiqnqnkov8391 6 жыл бұрын

Start thinking for yourself fool

@himomimfamous 6 жыл бұрын

Presiqn Qnkov....and may I ask where you get your ideas from, Mr. I’m-so-original?

@LegoSnakeproductions 6 жыл бұрын

Jordan Peterson, the most respectable man in modern politics/metapolitics, finally a video on the myth, the legend that is Dr. Jordan B. Peterson

@Cascadianwa 6 жыл бұрын

People who believe in religious superstitions are not respectable. Facts over feelings

@radiojet1429 5 жыл бұрын

Hi, I'm Michael J.L. and I get a real big stiffy just drooling over laughable, posturing males like Mr. Peterson. I have no real personality, you see, so I cop one from Jordan..

@Tallonest 4 жыл бұрын

Radio Jet hi I’m radio jet and my biggest contribution to society is leaving sarcastic KZfaq comments

@Tallonest 4 жыл бұрын

Cascadianow who are you?

@shariheiser3470 Жыл бұрын

Fantastic person to use as an example. Dr. Jordan Peterson deserves every bit of credit where its due. And then some. He's defended the rights of everyone tirelessly. He is the epitome of courage in the face of adversity. A true pit bull.

@speeddemontv 10 ай бұрын

I just watched your entire video and thoroughly enjoyed the video subject gives great insight when interactive in positive discussion matters with others.

@AscendedMasculine 6 жыл бұрын

About Damn time!

@seanhenrynewman5181 6 жыл бұрын

Charisma had to clean his room first, don't wanna end up like those bloody marxists who are resentful and bitter.

@Wingedmagician 6 жыл бұрын

Preach

@Wingedmagician 6 жыл бұрын

Takar 109 lol nice

@sylvieis 6 жыл бұрын

Sean Henry Newman wtf? You clearly don't understand Marxism. Peterson is a wonderful speaker and sounds so smart and reasonable he appears to make sense, just think it over a bit, go a little deeper and you'll start to question his subtext. He's really very simple and not all that helpful for most people

@sabretooth9136 6 жыл бұрын

sylvieis agreed. Peterson also often sounds very bitter and angry at colleges - he doesn't come across well at all imo. He has a very rabid cult though who seem to believe he's God and can do or say no wrong.

@ElishaLong 6 жыл бұрын

JP about to drop the hottest book of all time....ALL TIME!

@Ziallow 6 жыл бұрын

Ma boy Elisha

@eli8069 6 жыл бұрын

You need to read the Gulag and repent.

@ElishaLong 6 жыл бұрын

Eli Eli pls

@willbee21 6 жыл бұрын

My boi eli long here 👊

@pixieseyz 6 жыл бұрын

Got it preordered and cannot wait!

@jenamirgholi6004 8 ай бұрын

the few classes that were embarked upon learned a bit about how not to react and it is very hard depending on what code you live in.

@CanadaDan 7 ай бұрын

In a world where most people are trying to "one up" the other person, JP is trying to educate AND better the world around him; he's doing that by making each person to be responsible about their own lives and with time they will improve their families, friends, communities. That by itself could change the world but unfortunately the world is against that type of mentality

@frOODAloops 6 жыл бұрын

Any tips on how to think "faster on the spot"? I consistently feel like my processing speed is slow and am left looking like a deer in the headlights when debating, even over topics I am very knowledgeable on. Thanks.

@Charismaoncommand 6 жыл бұрын

That "down time" you spend thinking in a debate likely seems much longer to you (in your own head) than to anyone else. So don't force yourself to answer immediately - you're better off with a 5 second pause that lets you collect yourself than immediately jumping into a rambling response. If you've ever watched Elliott Hulse speak on camera (we have a video on him) he does an excellent job of allowing these breaks. If done right, without filler words, this time you take to collect your thoughts actually captures more attention because of the pregnant pause

@frOODAloops 6 жыл бұрын

I will watch the video, thanks for the response!

@DrAlchem01 6 жыл бұрын

Embrace the speed of your thought processes. Generally speaking, taking time actually makes for a more well-rounded response that shows you grappled with the topic, and not just saying the first thing off the top. If you pace your delivery (pausing to give people time to digest your words) as well as your thought process, you come across as someone who is knowledgeable as opposed to slow. Because you own the pauses, people will naturally listen more closely and take what you're saying on board. Chances are you're not as slow to respond as you think anyway - just look at the number of commas I used typing this lol

@fahadamin5856 6 жыл бұрын

Dont worry too much about it sometimes its better to take your time and think before just jumping in and not thinking. Obama is a good example hes more deliberate when he talks with lots of pauses

@penelopeghiruto3957 6 жыл бұрын

Fahad Amin Obama was reading off of a teleprompter, he was actually quite bad at speaking off script

@sabastioncarver3743 6 жыл бұрын

Got notified about this video just as I was watching one of Dr. Peterson's lectures. So happy Charisma on Command is finally covering him

@kebman 6 жыл бұрын

You said it. So many people in here are discovering Dr. Peterson because of CoC, however the fact is Peterson has been a man of great importance to the world for a very long time. I think that debate really spurred him into the minds of the muggles, and perhaps we can even build a better world for it.

@secondstring Жыл бұрын

Ton of lessons in this short video. Well done.

@UncompressedWAVmusic 4 ай бұрын

I enjoyed this video, it helped me, entertained me and made me a better person. All in 11 minutes. That is smarter use of my time than watching the endless bad news videos. Thank you.