man this comments section has become something insane. thank you all for sharing your story, regardless if you agree or disagree. genuinely love reading every single one.

would have been real funny for the video to just end without it being completed

props to the youtube algorithm to actually recommending me this

I lost my happiness and excitement to play games a few years ago, nothing was interesting to me anymore, when new games came out I got it, rushed through it, looked up on yt where to find things, what to do first. I was lead by a string like your video said. It became draining but then I just wanted to explore thing's on my own pace, not care about how fast I can finish a game, get the best gear, items, ect. I just layed back in the evening, played the game however I wanted to without anyone guiding me, at my own comfortable pace and that brought me some joy back and love for gaming. So be yourself, don't listen to others and enjoy the ride

I was talking to my therapist about this exact thing today, how the way I play games mirrors the way I do everything else and that I can't commit to finish things, I don't put a continuous effort in the things I want to do and shit It's 2:56 am where I live and I can't sleep so I decided to open youtube to watch some random things, but then this video was on my front page. What a coincidence, you have the exact same experience as I do and just today I was talking about this thing. Thank you for your video and thank you KZfaq algorithm

Scrolled on the home page for fun, KZfaq decided I needed an intervention instead

I stopped playing video games this year. Got into martial arts, going to the gym, running. It's been one hell of a journey changing my entire life and its been for the better. My mental health has never been better, my relationships, outlook on life. And it started by seeing dark souls 1 all the way through. Embracing the sucky aspects. Embracing the trying and failing. Seeing beauty in the chaotic and dark world i immersed myself in. Strange how our entertainment can shape us. How art truly can move us.

i’ve noticed this for people’s driving IRL. the way they drive, the attitudes, habits, abilities, and reactions line up with their general personality

For as long as I can remember, I’ve started things and didn’t finish. I have a portfolio of unfinished drawings, a hard drive full of unfinished songs, several unfinished playthroughs of games. I have this desire driven by a burst of motivation and ambition that just ends abruptly. What I do in the games I play now is usually just drive around aimlessly to avoid anything, or to search for something exciting. Sometimes I’m driven, and other times I’m burnt out. But regardless, we just keep driving.

You actually made me realize something, I have trouble finishing games because I dont want the excitement to end, just how in life im scared of fully committing to expressing myself because im afraid of people disliking me

i seriously thought this video was a dude with like 100k subs and a million views, props fr bro

Woah, watching this made me realise I have the problem you mentioned but in a weird way. Any game I play, I try to explore the world and talk to every NPC ever, try going through every door in the area, for about like 25 minutes. Then I try to just progress through the story and forget about all the exploring, doing it haphazardly when I do. After a few days, no matter how much I enjoyed the game, I always find it difficult to open my PC and just- launch the game. I can't get myself committed to starting it up again, even if I want to play it. I think to myself that if I start now, I'll just end up playing for the whole day and waste my time. However, I end up just doomscrolling and not achieving anything at the end of the day either. Doing things haphazardly and being afraid to commit to one game shows in other aspects of my life aswell. Getting the urge to study but not wanting to open the book, knowing that I should text my friends back but not wanting to open their messages. Thank you for making this video, it made me think about a lot of things. Maybe I should start by opening a game I've been meaning to play for a long time?

This video made me realize that I don't enjoy gaming like I used to (besides the try hards) is because all of it feels like an assignment to reach some goal. I lose interest when things feel like its an assignment or I have to do it.

Social Media does this to us. It's designed to keep our attention span for a few seconds, and then it's on to the next thing. I try to fight against it, and stop the mindless scrolling.

It took me many years to start emulating my game talents into irl talents, it began a question between friends online of just "... what if i just did this IRL instead" in the realm of: leadership, organization, goals, efficiency, grind, cost analysis, time analysis, mechanical skills, complex problem solving, tutorial creation, community management. Honestly if I never mentioned game anywhere it would just sound like it's an organization/work activities already. Great video, excellent reminder

I really noticed that I kinda rush through games.

this video moved me to tears. i see myself in a lot of what you said. i'm quite literally the same: always rushing to the end, not able to finish things... the sentiment of "how you do anything is how you do everything," and starting small are sentiments I'll always carry with me. i'll not soon forget it. thank you for making this.

As an older gamer, I've found I run into a weird problem - I fall in love with a game, but I know if I finish it, I won't come back to it to finish all the extra side quests, so I investigate side quests and try to delay beating the game entirely. Except, then what happens is I stop playing the game. I can't even explain why. This happened with Zelda: Tears of the Kingdom. I loved Breath of the Wild, but once I beat it, I didn't go back in to finish the side content. So, with TotK, I've intentionally focused on the side quests. Now, we're more than a year from the game's launch and I've just stopped playing entirely. I haven't beaten it. I just stopped playing it. I'm still not sure why. 🤷‍♂ This was a GREAT video - it really made me think about how I game (as well as how I approach other parts of life).

This video was really touching for me, and I’m sure it was for you too. I’m guessing no one will read this, but I’d like to say it anyways even if it only benefits me. I don’t play video games anymore, but when I did, I would play shooter games. All I could play was multiplayer, and all that brought me excitement was being in the action, flanking the enemy team, and getting massive multi kills with snipers or explosives. I realised part of this translates to my real life. I spent less time with family and taking care of my passions (such as gardening, art, and music), and focused so much on having a good social life and going out all the time. This all or nothing attitude was clear through the way I played games. Instead of being present, enjoying campaigns and small details of the graphics or story, I would fast-forward to the action. In other words, I’m learning to live a more balanced and present life, without rushing and setting huge expectations on the ‘big things’. This video really helped me, I’m even going to tell my therapist about it tomorrow. Thank you 😁

its crazy how oblivious you are to this concept until you hear it. its so true and the bit about not being able to commit in present day really spoke to me as I too spent countless hours wondering Skyrim, collecting random artifacts to the decorate my house and not really stressing the main goal. great video and I'm glad I stumbled upon your channel!

this is what i love about unheard youtube channels, they're the most chill yet the most impactful content out there. its like a small corner with a few people chilling and having a nice chat with each other about life. i'll stay here, mainstream youtubers are not for me.

It's a very strange thing, our brains. We commit to something, and pull all our energy and effort into something we're interested in; and it almost feels like a chore to do it. ... But those moments where we sit back, just relex and dont really have expectations: that's when the joy comes in and thats when we have the most fun with gaming. I say "we", but I really mean just me. I don’t know if anyone else has the same effect, but it feels like the more I want to enjoy something; the less I actually enjoy it. Those moments where I'm not really focusing on the plot, or the characters, or the gameplay; but just "being there" and chilling - those are when my best experiences with games happen.

Just wanted to drop some words of support, you have done amazing with your channel in just a few months! Getting to 10k plus in such a short amoung of time is brilliant and massively well deserved, you're very good at this kind of deep thought philisophical content and I really look forward to seeing more from you man! Well done Doozy

Instantly subscribed . I feel like this honestly something i dont see often. In a sea filled with game reviews or game analysis: there’s something oddly refreshing about hearing someone explain how a game affected them personally. I feel like that adds a sorta authenticity that we rarely see online

The ADHD serial starter is such a real feeling. Edit: Man there are some ignorant and insecure people here. I don’t have the time nor the crayon’s to assist your unwrinkled brains in understanding what ADHD is. And I’m not saying the creator has ADHD but merely sharing a related experience. Ffs.

I have recently felt a disconnected from my younger self. I felt adult life take over and I stopped getting to know my self. This bled into gaming. I started to only grind games, instead of explore. I wanted to complete, instead of learn. After this revelation I have begun to look at pictures of myself from the time I was exploring, learning, being curious, and I feel Im starting to get to know myself again. Shortly after I started enjoying, stopped grinding, started exploring instead of finishing. Great video with a deep topic.

Wow I feel called out. Thanks for this man, I'm the exact same way and I feel my life spiraling sometimes. I'm gonna try this, start out small and see how things go. Stay healthy mate ❤

This is the eleventh video in my playlist of the most important videos I have watched. Watching this inspired a realization in me that this video's thesis is true; I've stuck with some games for a while, but most feel like a checklist (and that mirrors how my life has felt). I've also been a chronic starter. I saw another comment that said they anticipate what they'll do once they get to a point or achieve something, then the feeling dies off when effort is needed (or something to that effect); I've felt that myself, but I'm getting a little better at sticking with things that'll take effort and let me achieve what I want to do.

YT algorith hits hard

Playing through a game like a to-do list just to "finish the story" takes away the appreciation in the moments. Taking in these moments is all that matters. You wouldn't want to rush through life just to "finish the story". So stop living your life like it's a to-do list. Enjoy each quest in this life, even how dull it may seem. appreciate the mundane, going to work/gym/school etc. This video somehow managed to express the thoughts that have been on my mind recently. Thank you❤

I’m a “serial starter” too and I felt everything you said

This video hit hard for me honestly. Whenever I play games, I rarely enjoy it, and I only play them because I like the competition. But just like in games, I struggle to find a lot of enjoyment in my life, and when I focus it's only when there's competition I'm playing against. I'm honestly thinking about why I turned out like this when I used to just be able to enjoy everything in life, but I know the answer already. Thanks for making this video fr, imma try my best to change as well.

To me, this is the definition of having epiphanies, miniature enlightenment. You ever notice how monks talk very simply, but the more you ponder, you realize it was something very deep, just guised on the surface as simple? This is how everything in life really is, and I think we can start to have these deeper experiences by, like you explained eloquently, being in the present moment. This is truth my brother and I think it’s really cool you had this realization through video games.

"Stop and smell the roses." In our hectic lives, it's hard to do this. But I'm going to try to do this in my gameplay as well.

I don’t typically comment on videos, or rather, I don’t do it often at all but honestly man your message is something I’ve been seeing present in my day to day life pretty much everyday for the past few days for me. It’s wild how the universe works, the past is gone and the future isn’t here, stay and enjoy the present. Cheers man, I subbed to see what else you put out next.

This hits on a very personal level. Everything comes in time and we also change as individuals over time. Just remember to manage your time right, it's easy to get lost in a spiral. You're doing great.😊

This is true. I like games with resource management, grinds, and economies and some creativity. I like structure and min/maxing. This translates in my life to financial gain and management, conscientiousness, detailed-oriented, and some perfectionism, but I lack spontaneity. My best friend likes tactical fast-paced action games with quick dopamine hits or soap operas with a lot of character interaction like Mass Effect. He is more sociable, in-the-present and thrill-seeking, but lacks structure, planning, and patience. We're a dynamic duo, but rarely want to play the same games. Great video!

You know what, I like this idea. I'll try to do it, treating everything as a Dark Souls Boss and trying to overcome it through persistence and gradual improvement, after all, I can do it in Dark Souls, so why not in real life.

doozy the goat for this one. everything you said resonated and i’ve been thinking the same thoughts about my gaming habits - but you managed to spin it into positivity and i want to thank you for that!

Goated and relatable video. Put so much thought and ideas into perspective. Got chills when you talked about how you don’t finish games - I tend to not finish games as well.Goosebumps again when you said not finishing these otherworldly task translates to the real world - I tend to sprout new ideas and hobbies but fall short of the end goal due to burnout. Life is not about the destination it’s about the journey. I need to go back to my younger self where I wasn’t living in the past or future but just living. “How you do anything is how you do everything.” Thank you for the video!

I recently started an apprenticeship (I live in Germany) and am working full time for the first time in my life. It's crazy how everything speeds up to the unimaginable. Get up, work, come home, sleep. Now do that again. And my coping was to completely lose myself in it. Rushing things and only trying to aim for results because I was always short on time for everything. I lost the way I usually did things. What really helped me was playing Stray. Anytime I had a little bit of free time I played as a cute cat wandering around. And I started the game with no real goal at all. I just wanted to enjoy the game. I tried to act like a cat would lmao. Doing whatever I wanted in just that moment. Whatever came to my mind and be it for whatever reason. Also I wanted to see and enjoy beauty again so I stopped at every nice view and every cozy place. At first I had to force myself because my mind was still racing but once I found something nice, once I gave in to the view and found beauty in a forgotten city or enjoyed a trickling sound in some quiet place, I started noticing so much more, enjoying lots and lots of other things. And before I knew it my mind was flooded with beautiful things I found and was excited to play some more once I got off from work just like when I was a kid and nothing else mattered. I really enjoyed giving in to that mindset and it helped me remember that there are other ways of doing things in everyday life instead of just aiming for results. And now, after remembering and reliving other ways of life, it is up to me to change my lifestyle and enjoy more things in life. Best of luck to everyone, we're all still growing up. - "Keep your mind wide open"

Dude just made me realize the biggest lesson in my life. I try to take shortcuts to succeed.

This spoke a lot to me. Sometimes we only crave the destination! This is a reminder to also slow down and enjoy the journey. Thank you doozy 👏🏽

This was a very interesting watch man. I love this thoughtful approach and the idea of everything being connected mentally. Good shit man, keep at it 🫶🏼

I am so appreciative for all of you watching this video and sharing your thoughts. I read every comment. And yes, I will ask my doctor about potentially having ADHD, haha. Thank you again. 🙏

I relate to this as well, and it's awesome that cyberpunk helped you realize this. The best parts of Cyberpunk are when V just sits back and talks to their friends. Sitting around the fire with the Nomads, comforting Judy on the roof, helping Johnny through an existential crisis at the oil fields. In a game where so much of it is spent in a world of sensory overload, ads and sexuality and gore, it is the quiet moments that bring you down to the present. It is also very easy to run through the game at max speed, hammering every encounter that looks like a nail. But the game becomes so much more rewarding when you lean into the builds and rp aspects of being a merc. At the end of the day not *everything* in Night City wants you dead, so it can be nice to just walk around and enjoy the dark future. Look up whenever you're walking down a sidewalk in game and it'll probably be a pretty cool view.

this concept truly makes sense. when playing games i'll try out a whole bunch before settling on one to hyperfixate on and when i do, i'm a completionist trying to finish absolutely everything. irl i'm a pretty committed person-- i dont let anything stop me from achieving my goals! :)

Man, this is the most relatable thing I've heard in awhile. Glad im not the only one. To think, among 8 billion people in this world we share the same struggles or ambitions. Keep up the good content🙌

I'm in a place where I genuinely needed to hear something like this. Appreciate the algorithm for doing something right for a change

This made me realize how i started batman arkam asylum recently and when a difficult level came which is kind of sacry i just stopped playing. I am scared facing my problems and i tend to avoid them until its too late. I used to play alot of pokemon and whenever the game got difficult i just quit or used cheats to finish the game instead of working hard to level up my pokemon and defeat the elite four. So i have to start facing all my problems and issues head on instead of ignoring them and second i need to work hard and not quit when things get hard or try to look for easy way out. Damm this video was something. Thankyou man

imo the reason why this is line of thought is popular is bc we live in a constant state of “go.” the moment we stand still we think we’re losing something. that we lost time that could’ve been spent doing something “better.” that you don’t have enough time in a day to enjoy yourself before the next work day. i don’t know the solution to this, but i know exactly what this video is about.

you've perfectly articulated my experience with games - i've found myself rushing through and struggling to fully appreciate them for the past few years and i'm looking to do that again

A coworker told me I work like if I was in a video game. - collect objectives - run to all locations - complete objectives asap - "collect xp" and get my next objective I work in production. Boss says work comes out the plant the days I'm in

The irony that I get this recommended and I'm playing cyberpunk and I too have heard the quote from my old sales manager, this also makes me feel like that in a way, you are raised right as you want to be happy, thank you *edit* 39k in a few days? Looks like the algorithms are getting better. Hope our content creator doesn't think 39k = a free ticket out of his content haha, all the best.

really impactful, nice video. came to me in a time where it is very relevant. too often people are shamed out of their interests and told that it's a waste and they only need to focus on growth and their careers. i like that you pointed out at the end though, enjoying your hobbies/interests in a way that reflects the type of person you want to be in your career is also important. i'll keep the same mindset on everything now.

Wonderful video! I'm glad I took my time to watch it purposefully. You are going to places in life. Take in every moment as much as you can. Don't forget self care my dude!

its crazy how KZfaq looked into my soul and recommended me the exact thing Ive been wondering about myself, from someone who faces the exact same struggles as me. Good luck on your journey man.

that line bro "How you do anything is how you do everything" Really explains everything in ones life You really make me pause and think its really true Thank you sir you deserve more respect

This video really struck a chord with me as I’ve heard this phrase before. Thinking about it and applying the analogy with video games really put it in perspective. I too get into stuff then don’t finish sometimes and it’s always something I’ve wanted to fix in myself. Thanks for this reminder in growing and for the good content.

That was so meaningful! You don’t see a lot of content with that much depth these days. Thank you for this 🙏🏽

So a tip i can give you man is, just slow down and catch a breath, before you try something new ask yourself “It’s really worth my time? Am i gonna keep doing it? Or is it just a one time thing?”. ‘Cause ik this feeling too well. Anyway good video and gl :)

The very fact that you're making this video and aware of your patterns and downfalls, shows you won't get stuck in them. (or shouldn't assuming you want to break free of them) Good luck, and great video. P.S. PLLEEASSSEEE see Phantom Liberty through. It's one of the best narratives in the world.

0:02 seconds in the video and i IMMEDIATELY recognised #8 regret from splatoon 2, and cheered i wonder what this says abt me....

Figured I should add my voice to the pile, since I was starting to make these kinds of changes. It helps to hear it put into words in a way that doesn't go after deep weaknesses or how your house was as a kid, just that the outlook has changed over time. After going through a tough semester and a hard breakup, I started the push to get things done. Having moved to a new place recently highlighted how many abandoned projects I have, and how much they're in my way and degrading my ability to believe I can get things done. In two weeks I've already accomplished more than I had in an entire summer, and this was a nice nudge of support to hear as I sit in front of a particularly difficult project debating if I really want to start it today. I hope more people get to see this video when they're in the headspace for it to push them to be better, it's pretty well thought out and presents good points.

Well done dude. You're spot on. And remember to remind yourself you are in the good old days.. you are not as fat, skinny, ugly as you think you are. One day you will look back on yourself and be proud of who you were, and who you turned out to be. Keep it pushing

You're very much right. I don't like challenges, either in games on irl, i like to play from a safe vantage point, with very little drawbacks. Usually i play creative games or games where i can express my creativity one way or another, especially if they involve a character creator (which i often use as a way to visualize my ideal self which i'm working towards). If i'm playing action games, i always choose the safest combat option, like archery, sniper or, since you mention Cyberpunk, a netrunner). it's something i've been aware of for a long time, that the way i play mirrors the way i live and i sort of had to make myself watch this video because hearing that idea reinforced scares me, cause it makes me realize how safe and sometimes lazy i tend to be. I've been working on it through therapy for a while now, and even though the way i run my life has changed, the way i play hasn't much.

Great video, the way you discussed the whole “you are what you do” really hit me like a truck. It makes me hopeful that i can be better.

This hit a lot of notes for me. I am the same way with games. Multiple games that I throughly love I haven't got back to. I do that with life as well. The small but consistent changes is exactly what I need to start. Thanks for the great video.

You have no idea how many games AND shows I’ve started and haven’t finished within the past 3 years. I still have games in my library that I found interesting and got on sale that I haven’t even pressed play on yet. I start new games all the time, but never fully finish EXCEPT for the very few that pull me in. The ones that I do complete I get 100% completion or pretty close to it because of how much I enjoy the game and how much I love the experience, but I never play it and finish it twice for some reason, even if I say it’s my favorite game of all time. I realize now that this is how my life is as I’m reflecting on this video. The games I’ve started and enjoy, but haven’t finished (and most likely never will) are like these minor hobbies I’ve started in life that I do enjoy, but I don’t stick with it because of bigger things. For example, I like messing around with my guitar and ukulele, but never take real time to actually properly learn fingerings or theory, I just know some chords. However with piano, I took lessons for 8-9 years, went through tons of theory, recitals, performances, an exam with college judges, tests, master classes, etc. I’m off of my piano ride as of recent and am now pursuing basketball to see where it takes me. I’ve played for about 3 almost 4 years, but never actually stuck with training until now. I’ve had countless hobbies that I’ve liked, but never put much time into except for piano and basketball. Sadly I’m a Jack of All Trades but a master of none at the moment. Now, those games that are still waiting to be finished are like my minor hobbies. Fencing, guitar, ukulele, baseball, drawing, whatever it is, just waiting to be picked up again, which I normally do, but I still never put much time into them. They’re more like just party tricks at this point or conversation starters. The main games that I’ve finished and got immersed into are like my main hobbies. Piano, singing, and basketball. I put time and effort into them. I try to make sure I’m exploring and figuring out the best way to learn and execute something. Speaking both from game and hobbies perspective. Yet, I never play and complete the same game twice. I think that might be because I already went through that area once before I find it boring, even if I choose a different path since I already got the one I wanted when I went through the first time. I think that could mean that maybe I don’t like having the same moment happen twice? I’m always exploring and searching for something new rather than dwelling on what I could’ve done? I feel like both apply to me, but I also sometimes think about what I could’ve done differently in real life situations. I’m also kinda spontaneous, so I guess that could stem from me spontaneously playing a new game and then stopping soon after. Anyway, I need to freaking finish Omori, Stay, Artful Escape, Elden Ring, Mind Scanners, Alan Wake, Fallout 4, FNAF: Sister Location, Murdered: Soul Suspect, Watch Dogs, Watch Dogs 2, Watch Dogs: Legion, Red Dead Redemption, Assassin’s Creed: Odyssey, Assassin’s Creed: Unity, Far Cry 5, Dear Esther, Kona (so I can play Kona Brume), and probably more games I’ve forgotten about. Not to include the TV shows I still haven’t finished 😭😭😭 Most of those games are fantastic btw I just haven’t finished them and idk why. ALSO WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT BEING AGGRESSIVE IN SHOOTERS IS SO TRUE. I used to play Fortnite and Rainbow Six a lot with my friends and I would always forget to say I was pushing people because I was so focused on getting kills and “being the best”. I do tend to take more risks in life and expect to get the optimal result even when I don’t tell others my plans. Except thankfully that tactic works better in real life 😅

I hardly cry at all, and I don't know if I have ever watched a KZfaq video and really cried from it- aside from this one. Between the realization of how much we have all changed since we were kids and how your experience of hopping from one thing to the next mirrored mine, you were able to get to me- to pierce right through whatever excuse of a shell I have for an ego and speak straight to me instead of the mask that I pretend to be. The main point is an incredibly worthwhile thing to reflect on, as is trying to think back to how I played games when I was younger- and just back to how I was as a kid in general. Thank you so much for sharing this with the world. I really appreciate all of the time, effort and thought you put into making this. It is amazing and so are you.

Thank you, i really needed this, currently working on reconstructing my whole lifestyle and how to manage things. Huge inspiration and reinforcement.

Quite an insightful and self aware video here. I don’t know if I have found a remedy for inconsistency, but recently what’s been helping me finish games, watch the movies I want to watch, do my work, and just be overall productive has been firstly nutrition and exercise so I’m not brain fogging through these activities, and secondly taking my time with them and not dispersing my focus too much. We have a limited amount of focus every day and when we scroll through social media or give our energy to meaningless arguments, then we deplete our energy, our time, our will, and our focus. I also love seeing your train of thought fully expressed here from its conception to creation.

True. I see all my games out until the end and don’t begin another game until I have completed the one I am currently playing through. My brain would not be able to comprehend starting 5 different games at once and playing them on and off. I have to dedicate myself to one game at a time or two at most. The same is true for the way I watch TV.

I cheat in every single player game eventually (never in multiplayer games don’t worry)… IDK why I do it, I just can’t wait to get to the fun op stuff, I just pull up the console or download a mod. And now I completely understand how I approach stuff, I’m impatient (comes with ADHD), I always start things thinking about what ill do at the end, and once I start I try to find shortcuts and it usually hampers my ability and causes me to quit, until I get obsessed with the cool stuff I want to do with said thing again and the cycle repeats… Something something far cry quote… But jokes aside it gets tiring and no matter what I can’t stop myself from just shooting myself in the foot.

This was refreshing to watch. I think this topic could really be expounded on in more videos. How we as a culture may treat video games as a training ground for our desires and fantasies, but we have to apply them in real life as well. And the topic of finishing what you start. We get a dopamine rush of starting new things, but if they take too long we burn out... and that's why we don't finish. Sometimes it's nice to have checkpoints, or shorter and attainable goals to keep us motivated to carry on.

the clip selection and storytelling is really really good, i'm an experienced video editor myself and i can truly say this video is so simple yet so different just bcz of the clip selection and simple editing.....great work !!

bro you opened my mind, i am too competitive in videogames, and always trying to be the best of the game in the shortest time, but now i started to realize that i do the same in my life, always trying to be the winner, be the best in mentality, in study, in everything, and i will not lie, this took me far, but i dont stay happy with the things that i conquer, but now i will be more grateful for the things that i conquer and start to see fun in small things thank you

This hit close to home because yesterday I was doing another playthrough of Elden Ring and was getting frustrated fighting a boss that was gimmicky knowing three things: the boss was optional, I was doing a “no armor” run, and they dropped nothing of value (runes included). Yet knowing this I kept fighting him until I beat him but got frustrated during the process and this reflects my life to a T. W Video

Don't wanna write too long of a comment, but you really made me relook at how I see the way I do things in life. thank you for sharing such a simple yet meaningful sentiment to us :)

This video is absolutely fantastic! Glad it was recommended. My homepage has been knocking it out of the park recently.

This Video really spoke to me so I'm just going to share some thoughts as someone who falls into almost the same MO and who almost had a full blown identity crisis because of it. Long story short the same habit you talked about with finding a thousand hobbies and topics you're interested in but never for longer than a few weeks really made me question whether I will ever find a career path that suits me and that I'll be passionate about for 40ish years. It also comes with the choice paralysis because you realize that choosing one path will forever shut you out of so many other possible paths that could be your passion one day in the future. I always thought that games would be that passion for me but now that I am in a game dev university major I find myself less and less interested in gaming as well and right now I cant imagine myself ever actually working in the gaming industry or in any one industry for my whole working adult life. However what really helped me was the realization that I actually like all of that about me. I love getting lost in the most random topics, thinking about nothing else and learning as much as I can about it even if it doesn't help me make money in any way. Or getting lost in a game of Stellaris and thinking about nothing but my space empire for 16 straight hours on one day and then not touching it for 6 months after that. Who decided that having a structured lifestyle with consistent habits is the only way to have a fulfilled and successful life? Who decided that a specialist, who dedicated his life to one craft is better then a generalist who can connect any topic to a larger context and who can draw new and creative Ideas from so many, completely unrelated sources. So this Chaotic Brain as I always call it can actually be your greatest strength if you actually see it as a strength and not something to be fixed. Habits work great for some people but they aren't for everyone and that's ok. Sure you're never going to study 30 minutes every day to ace your exams but once your hyperfixation actually tackles the topic you're supposed to learn, you are going to devour months of learning material in a few days. Sure I'm never going to have the same level of productivity every day at my job but on some days I just get really into my project at the time and do 5 days worth of work so who cares If I listen to random podcasts for 4 days after that. One person who really made me feel understood was Elizabeth Filips here on KZfaq who talks a lot about handling life with a chaotic brain and finding little tricks to make yourself productive despite everything. Like you can actually increase the likelihood of your hyperfixation jumping on a topic you actually need to learn by surrounding yourself as much as you can with things relating to that topic because we can only be hyperfixated on things that actually make it onto our 'mental feed'. Society is made for people who thrive with structure. Our whole system is created around structure and timetables. Comparing yourself with those structured people will only make you hate yourself. Like a fish who resents not being able to climb a tree like a monkey despite having his own unique and valuable skills a monkey could never even dream of having. So just get to know yourself and get to know what works for you and know you're not alone in this as every other comment here proves!

Trust me after watching this I felt a sense of closeness. I was just like you as a boy curious, eager to learn, In the games I played I same as you talked to every NPC, visited all places explored, captured moments, etc but now under the burden of society. I feel so worthless, burnt out from life itself I feel like I serve no purpose and living a loop, a bad loop. In recent times I have not played a single game and is just watching KZfaq videos. I want to escape this faith live the life I used to live get a chance to be curious again. I and you feel like the same person.

This is my first time commenting a video, the algorithm brings me here and the name of the video. I played cyberpunk so often but never finished it, the dlc I started 2-3 times, loved the gameplay the story the world, but never finished the game and the dlc…because deep down I don’t want it to end. In some other games I did the same. It’s really funny that you make me think about that..and I think there is something also in real life. Only because of your video, I have a feeling that I must turn back and have to finish that game, and at the same time some real life shit, the thinking you haved here by doing this video..inspired me to think more of what I’m actually doing sometimes and reflecting it for myself, thank you man 🙏🏽

I realized this almost 1 year ago, and I can tell you that this works. And the funny part is that when I started seeing myself progressing, I knew that it would work, and living only in the present makes your brain act more conscious, we still have so much to discover about ourselves.

Thank you for reminding me to enjoy life l just genuinely forgot.

This video and (personally) deferred happiness encapsulates a lot in my life, thanks for sharing. It's always nice to know we are not alone, stay strong amigos :)

I do find I quite often play games in a very meticulous, organized, and civil way, and take my time going through as much content as I can. But lately I've found myself becoming a bit hastier, and continuing to expand my collection of things, whether its Games, cars, or guns. It feels like I'm watching a lot more videos about the disgruntlement with Single Player games than usual as well, which probably signifies a lack of satisfaction with my life despite doing a million different things all the time. Maybe I need to slow down and focus on my real life more. This has been a great eye opening video to me, thank you for making it.

i have no idea what kind of videos you post but just this one got me,never subscribed so fast in my life

Such a relatable piece of growth advice. Now the trick is to remember it in the moment and slow down. I find myself rushing through the main quest of life all the time. You can really min max the fun out of life by grinding too long and not appreciating the journey. Just like when you min max too hard in a video game and lose the magic, I just becomes a numbers game with no joy, I believe we tend to do that to our own lives. I’m working on enjoying the day to day quests without rushing.

This is not only exactly what i needed right now, its also an amazing example of good storytelling in video form. Hits all the resonances with me for the hero's journey

What a fantastic video and view! Keep going man, with motivation and strength we can achieve it!

i dont want to leave a long comment but i do want to say taht this struck a cord with me as i too struggle with consistency. What made me want to comment though was your beautifully soothing voice. Thank you for just making this little bite sized youtube video in the hell of 30 minute video essays ❤

Damn, This video is amazing, I struggle with finding my niche on KZfaq and Find myself "running out of time" when choosing a game to play. Truly Impactful man, Thank you for this video

You weren't always a way, and you won't always be a way. We change, then we change, then we change again, even if it feels like some phases last a bit longer than we'd be happy with. :D Thanks for the video, I completely understand where you're coming from. I'm also a chronic starter. I also realized that I much prefer the anticipation of something I can do, or something I'll get to do, more than I actually like the thing itself. I put things off because I want to keep anticipating them.

Thank you for showing me the importance of that line from John Wick, as I apparently completely missed how meaningful it real is - its encouraging to hold myself accountable to not skip the small things, whether i skip them in life or not is just as impactful in the long run as skipping the big things - by not skipping things you otherwise might have, youre more likely to live a life with less regrets Thank you dude, subbed and liked 👍

This was a really awesome video man, honestly, I can relate. I am very much a 'Serial Starter'. You aren't alone, maybe someday though youll find things you start and finish :) just keep going.

Okay but like that book Atomic Habits is actually soooo good. I've never cared for self-help books but that one is so straight forward and full of knowledge

Thank you for this. How i do anything is how i do everything, and I'll do my best to be aware of it from now on

I am exactly like you, and I feel the same way about a lot of things you said. Including the development and loss of love of finishing games, or things in general, and exploring. I think, in a way, the world really has taught us to remove the fun from our own lives in the name of efficiency. Games, and life in general. I hope you can make that positive change. I hope I can too.

I'm not sure if you'll ever see this, but when this video hit me it kind of made me realize just how weird I am at times, and how I struggle and have fun. When I do video games, most often I struggle to get into a game, but after a week or so of forcing myself to play I suddenly start to be unable to stop, having too much fun trying out new things. Same as in real life, the hardest thing for me is to start successfully, and once I do it turns into something nice. But finally, my main motivation in video games is other people, just like how I do my tasks because I want to be someone you can look up to. Thanks for this video, it really made me look into my life differently.