How Your Personality Can Sabotage Your Success | Eric Barker on Impact Theory

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Eric Barker is redefining the rules of success. Leaving behind an illustrious career as a screenwriter for Disney and Fox, Eric turned his passion for fact-finding into one of the most popular blogs on the Internet. His insatiable curiosity drives him to question everything and, in turn, publish science-based insights that reveal real and usable secrets to success. He’s spoken on prestigious institutions like West Point, Yale and MIT and his work has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Time magazine, and Business Insider. Watch Eric Barker explain why everything you know about success is (mostly) wrong in this jam-packed episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu.
PULL QUOTES
“Peer pressure affects us our entire lives. We are always influenced by our context and by the people around us. The biggest danger is we don’t realize it.” [15:50]
“It’s so hard to bring up your weaknesses. You see much greater gains by trying to double-down on your strengths.” [19:41]
“Work’s not work if you enjoy it.” [22:56]
“We’ve all had successes; we’ve all had failures. But which ones do we choose to define ourselves by?” [31:57]
“If you have trouble changing your story, first change your behavior.” [36:42]
“The more stuff you quit that isn’t delivering value to your life, the more resources, time, and energy you have to really become good at something.” [39:06]
SHOW NOTES
Eric speaks out about why feeling powerless at work can kill you. [3:55]
Tom and Eric discuss the “prisoner’s dilemma” and whether nice guys still finish last. [7:07]
Eric talks about behavioral strategies and lengthening the shadow of the future. [12:02]
Eric offers advice to those who are givers in every area of life. [15:01]
Eric debunks how bad behaviors can be good in the right context. [18:00]
Tom and Eric go deep on what drives him and how he’s reinvented himself. [22:16]
Eric explains why the Navy’s research shows self-talk was a critical component of their training. [26:21]
Eric speaks on the power of personal narrative and the evolving story of the self. [30:18]
Eric addresses why stories are edited and inaccurate and why your story follows your behavior. [33:53]
Tom and Eric dive into knowing when to quit and how to manifest your dreams. [38:39]
Eric describes how to use little bets to develop passion and asking questions to spark curiosity. [43:22]
Eric reveals three keys to producing great content and uncovers the struggle with happiness. [47:22]
Eric breaks down work-life balance and the four things that everyone needs to consider in life. [52:02]
Eric defines the impact that he wants to have on the world. [54:38]
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
BOOKS
Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong - amzn.to/2wXGjyu [0:57]
Little Bets: How Breakthrough Ideas Emerge from Small Discoveries - amzn.to/2w9CnwX [43:28]
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@lambd01d 4 жыл бұрын

As someone who has bipolar disorder and has great experience of depression I can say that depression leads to pessimism and not the other way around. Depression is the lack of capacity to be optimistic. I tried lots of positive affirmations and positive thinking. Never made me feel better, not one bit. I just had to put up with it until my mood swung round again which could take months. Depression is an illness. It's a complicated illness involving diet, sleep, mitochondrial dysfunction, neurotransmitters, brain rewiring, excitotoxicity, gut microbiome, epigenetics, the immune system, light, circadian rhythms and environmental and interpersonal stressors. Once I discovered what supplements and other techniques helped me, I found my capacity for optimism became much bigger. When you are depressed the specific part of your brain that deals with the expectation of non-reward is overactive and the different part of your brain that deals with the expectation of reward is underactive, so you don't respond to things that are rewarding and you expect good things not to happen. It's not as simple as just having an optimistic attitude. You brain has to have the capacity to be optimistic and that requires it to be in a healthy state first. Then you can rewire it for an optimistic attitude.

@MrTORISSIMO 6 жыл бұрын

My favorite take away: 1- Wish: or paint the picture.. dream, meditate or visualize / 2 - Outcome: How will you measure that this has been achieved in a tangible way / 3 - What are the obstacles, things to tackle or accomplish, the stepping stones (the not so fun part) / 4 - Plan: What's the next step, chunk it down in very small, measurable steps so you can keep focusing on just the next step (and don't forget to celebrate small achievements to keep fueling up) and get to work baby!

@fadius17 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve watched a lot of these interviews but Eric Barker’s has been by far the most helpful and inspirational! He does an amazing job laying out practical steps anyone can take for approaching life’s most important questions.

@anthonypietrobono6178 6 жыл бұрын

God bless these show notes in the description wow. Talk about OVER DELIVERING. Thanks Tom!

@True38 3 жыл бұрын

The market does not care about your passion, so if you are passionate about something, make sure first there's actually a demand for it. Otherwise, just stick to it as a hobby, which is what most people do.

@couragecoachsam 4 жыл бұрын

Identify your strengths, position yourself to use your strengths maximally, strengths and weaknesses improve as a by-product.

@danielreid3447 3 жыл бұрын

Puzzles

@RohitKumar-ku4nh 6 жыл бұрын

One of the best episodes of Impact Theory!!!!! this guy is so fabulous ! <3

@kpsingh1320 4 жыл бұрын

What's with Red nikes!

@nathanielmarshall7637 6 жыл бұрын

Have no idea who this guy is or what he's going to say, but he's wearing an Oswald the Lucky Rabbit shirt so I'm pretty sure he's going to rock.

@bdotdilla 6 жыл бұрын

Amazing interview. I just finished his book and I took TONS of notes because there was just so many nuggets of actionable steps. As always, thanks for having him on & leading me to this guy! He's a beast with his knowledge!

@janesmith167 6 жыл бұрын

Philosophy, Psychology, Inspirational, Insightful, Actionable... all in one interview.

@HG51_ 6 жыл бұрын

Without a doubt makes the top 3 impact theory interviews. Eric is authentic, genuine, intelligent and inspiring. The concepts about happiness leading more often to success than vice versa, and how many so called mysteries are actually puzzles are powerful truths. You’re always setting the bar higher and higher!

@ProfaneEgyptology 6 жыл бұрын

This might be my favourite episode yet. What a deep well of wisdom and insight this man is. From the idea of aligning your context with your key traits and intensifiers, to the notion that stories are the operating system of the brain - Joseph Campbell said something very similar about mythology being the software that we use to interface with the hardware that is the universe. The WOOP acronym is now going on a post-it note on my desktop, along with many other quotes from this damn fine show. Thank you Tom and IT team!

@dronesandnature 5 жыл бұрын

I met a young reservist/soldier the other day who is learning Russian. So empowering to learn new things! And yes, stress at work or in your career that is not GOOD stress will absolutely raise cortisol and insulin and profoundly ages you beyond your years. Plus, it decreases your personal and professional efficacy, and people who you serve...well, they know! And it robs your soul, most of all. People don't take steps to change things a lot of the time due to some perceived pressure that they have to stay in some "respectable" societal role when it no longer makes them feel good. Really good stuff! Thank you!

@jqjq1796 5 жыл бұрын

I watch every interview conducted by Tom. thanks tom for bringing such great people on ur program. by far this Eric barker is one of the best one. I'm in the process of recovery n broke but you give me not just hope but shown me the right path. lots of love from london.

@impwerume 3 жыл бұрын

I always to come back to this interview especially in times when I seem stuck. It is one of the best I have ever watched. So rich with practical wisdom. Thank you, Tom.

@robertoenamoradoakaroberto5654 6 жыл бұрын

Glad I clicked in this...it's one of those videos where you HAVE TO take notes.

@corykong6510 6 жыл бұрын

This is one of my favorites! Really great interview. I've learned a lot from prisonner dilemmas to being nice without being a doormat and delegating time for certain activities. Wow. Bakadesuyo is also absolutely a fantastic blogsite.