Hypervigilance and How to Overcome It

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6 жыл бұрын

Hypervigilance is a term psychologists use to refer to those among us who are locked into a state of almost continuous wariness, rumination and compulsive anxiety. By understanding more about the condition, we can take steps to mitigate its worst effects, gradually moving ourselves from hyper to more ordinary varieties of vigilance.
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@sho.me.spring53 6 жыл бұрын

I have PTSD and one of the symptoms is hypervigilance. The best way I could explain it to people is like when you see a spider in your room and then it disappears and you have no idea where it is, so you have that extremely uneasy feeling and are super jumpy and unable to relax/feel safe. Hypervigilance is like that, but all the time over everything.

@hyperspacejester7377 6 жыл бұрын

Have you seen the recent studies using psychedelics to treat PTSD?

@sho.me.spring53 6 жыл бұрын

@@hyperspacejester7377 yeah I've microdosed with mushrooms and LSD many times in the past. I microdose when I'm really triggered and locked up in my trigger. It helps me emotionally unlock a little bit so I can take an objective step back and look at my situation from a more rational standpoint.

@hyperspacejester7377 6 жыл бұрын

Good to hear/read... it's disconcerting to see a lot of people suffering unnecessarily just because of the stigma surrounding psychedelics!

@bulletsfordinner8307 5 жыл бұрын

Sho Yep! So me! 😥

@bulletsfordinner8307 5 жыл бұрын

Hyperspace Jester what about those studies? Are they safe?

@Jesus_is_Lord1515 6 жыл бұрын

"We can worry when we need to, not just because we exist" -School of life

@monishk6561 6 жыл бұрын

This really touched me .. on a deep personal level

@spoobforce 6 жыл бұрын

easier said then done

@DarkMoonDroid 5 жыл бұрын

IKR? 🤔

@greenbird777 5 жыл бұрын

This one thought was a huge revelation for me. It never occurred to me that worry could be a temporary state. Being alive & being afraid all the time seemed like the same thing to me.

@indridcold8433 4 жыл бұрын

The single best way to avoid worrying and stress is very simple. Simply stay away from other people. The single biggest source of stress and worry are other people in your life. Simply delete everyone from your life and you would not believe how little you will worry and how little stress your life will have. I did this in 2000. My life is very stress free and worry free. Yes, there is loneliness but that is a very mild emotion when compared with stress and worry. Also, the emotions humans can inflict upon us can be cripplingly horrible. Loneliness will never cripple you. Loneliness is the lesser of the two evils by far. I have lived socially isolated since 8 August 2000. I have very little stress and worry in my life.

@BethanyHarbaugh 5 жыл бұрын

I have super high hypervigilance, more than my therapist has really seen in a lot of people. It came from having to grow up in a home where I had to think of everyone else before myself. We were a stressed out family due to one child having mental illness early on, and I became the 'good child' to ease the strain. I became hypervigilant in detecting people's emotions and doing whatever possible to prevent hurt and ensure happiness...to the point that I now feel guilt over resting or needing help because of my physical disabilities. I'm working with a therapist to learn how to actually relax, and it's slowly getting there. It'll take a while to undo a lifetime's worth of trauma.

@joseferreira3576 3 жыл бұрын

You got this

@ashleysusanne5044 3 жыл бұрын

I relate to this so much I came from a toxic religion house hold where I was always doing something to ensure no one would get upset yes I have this feeling in my stomach 24/7 like I’m on alert and I don’t know how to relax but I’m getting better I’m in a much healthier household now and I’m forever grateful for my aunt and uncle for helping me

@diamondgarcia9409 2 жыл бұрын

Same

@Kraftartz 2 жыл бұрын

Wow same, to the tea. You're not alone 💖

@annabellacrewe8858 2 жыл бұрын

Thank You for letting us know about how childhood can make us suffer in adulthood - sometimes for the rest of our lives. Fortunately, nowadays it has become much more known to people, that the reason IS childhood conditions for all of us - and that we can do something to stop our suffering, though it takes a lot of time and Hard work....The other side of the coin so to speak, is that it has not become normal like going to the doctors, to go to a psychologist or therapist - because f.ex here in Denmark it STILL cost a lot of money ! Some people in special situations at work.or traumatic accidents and so on, can get up to 10 hours of psychotherpy ! And I know from own experience, it is never quite enough ! It is STILL not to easy to talk about these aspects of human life amongst people. But I am happy for You, that You were able to do something for Yourself.Hoping You are well and present🙏🌻🐦

@AbSeb 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks Dad.

@alineuwiragiye7704 5 жыл бұрын

That the true amen

@SophiesWorld2024 4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@NttainMe 3 жыл бұрын

He does have a relaxing voice.

@nihilisticbarbie 3 жыл бұрын

I thought you were thanking your dad for making you hypervigilant

@theohuioiesin6519 3 жыл бұрын

ianthia that is the silver lining. If one became a detective as a result...

@joelarama 5 жыл бұрын

I’m crying. It’s me, all about me and now I have answers. I feel hopeful again. Thank you, thank you.

@ripplecatproductions3373 5 жыл бұрын

Please thank the animators that was amazing. It enhanced what was being said beautifully and was so fluid and perpetual. To even come up with a concept to show "worry" visually let alone execute, and for it to look sooo simple. Hats off xxxx

@Outlawsrevenge1020 2 жыл бұрын

I was emotionally abused as a child, by one of my parents. The other parent was extremely kind and loving and made me feel safe. I have PTSD and I still get flashbacks. For me hypervigilence is waking up in a panic from a deep sleep because I heard a loud noise outside, and I can't stop shaking. I'm 35 years old and I don't feel safe ever. I feel like something is always going to come along and pull the rug out from under me and tear my life apart. But I'm beginning to have the confidence that whatever comes along I can handle. Goodluck and sleep well.

@javidking63 Жыл бұрын

hope you doing fine these dayz. :)

@smughal2062 Жыл бұрын

hi its me

@tamsindelaharpe1568 9 ай бұрын

I relate so strongly to this. The feeling that something terrible is about to happen can be crippling. I'm in bed right now sick with fear and nothing has really happened yet.

@roseXevans 2 ай бұрын

I’m sorry that happened to you. You didn’t deserve that, and you still don’t deserve to feel like that. I truly hope one day you can be at peace

@supervincent_ 3 жыл бұрын

Hypervigilance gets the best of me. I live alone in my unit, and whenever I hear a strange noise like a scratch or thump, I feel like someone's gonna murder me. another case is when I hear people laughing or talking loudly, I feel like it's about me being up to no good. Also, I have a compulsive habit of checking the outside of my house from the windows, esp. at night to check if there's a terrorist or something. funny, right? but it's true.

@user-yt2xv1gs7l 2 жыл бұрын

Same about the laughing loudly stuff 🤣,

@kimlec3592 2 жыл бұрын

@ John Vincent : no. not funny. it's traumatic experiences in either your recent ordistant past. it is horrendous. many of us live with this if we have bad friends or family.

@jamielynngallegos9196 Жыл бұрын

OH MY GOSH... THIS IS WHAT I DO...THIS IS HYPERVIGILANCE ? I ALSO DO THIS REGARDING MY SON WHEN I CAN'T REACH HIM RIGHT AWAY ‼️ WOW...I LITERALLY CAN NEVER RELAX ASIDE FROM WHEN I READ MY BIBLE AND TALK TO MY LORD JESUS... OTHERWISE IT'S CONSTANT... EVEN GET NERVOUS BEFORE WORK....GOD BLESS YOU 🙏

@sirdaevyl Жыл бұрын

I have the exact same thing about being murdered or rather a break in happening. I get up atleast 3 times and check downstairs. I can only sleep is I literally just collapse in bed….

@impoppy9145 Жыл бұрын

This you described is it really "hypervigilance"? I think " paranoia " is the right word for such things.

@Luxbecca 5 жыл бұрын

It is so incredible. School of Life always manages to put my deepest feelings into words. I didn't know hypervigilancy even existed, but it sounds so much how I feel. Especially the first part. Waking up terrified, spending the whole day in toned down dread and it being so exhausting you wish for all of it to just be... Over. Thank you, School of Life. Finally I at least have a name. And giving the monster a face helps in the first steps of getting better...

@LaTaeviaTanae 2 жыл бұрын

I literally called my fiancé home from work because I thought someone was breaking in our apartment. I’m 19 and i was abused almost my whole life. I just found this video and it made me cry. Thank you so much for making me feel like I’m not alone.

@Strangerdanger2004 2 жыл бұрын

Fiance at 19😅

@jamielynngallegos9196 Жыл бұрын

GOD LOVES YOU ❤️💯🙏HIS NAME IS JESUS CHRIST THE LORD👑

@julietahernandez9203 Жыл бұрын

U r not alone bb♡♡♡

@yahyaouladaouid2214 2 жыл бұрын

I have lived with hypervigilance for the past five years of my life and I can say that it is both a blessing and a curse, a curse in the sense that my exaggerated awareness helps me be more attentive in my professional domain as I tend to grasp upon every detail of my work, but in the destructive sense, I am in constant evaluation of my behavior and speech, the thing which restrains me from being totally natural. I think that hypervigilance as ptsd is one of the worst traumatic repercussions possible because when nothing feels worse than having your own self and nature repressed!

@salazars.4123 6 жыл бұрын

Many people joke about this, or misunderstand this as "anxiety". Hypervigilance is a bit more dreadful as it is often linked to certain mental disorders and is only a symptom of something far more complex and hard to understand.

@agstinacueva1673 3 жыл бұрын

Anxiety is as well

@orianaterravecchia3333 2 жыл бұрын

I think I have this

@lindaandres5810 2 жыл бұрын

I'm tired of being told "it's just anxiety"

@floweryunicorn8888 Жыл бұрын

People with panic disorder, ocd, cptsd/ptsd, generalized anxiety disorder tend to suffer from this.

@jamescheddar4896 Жыл бұрын

anxiety causes it. anxiety is a symptom of PTSD

@eliskawilliams 5 жыл бұрын

i would love a video about a fear of “growing up.” your target audience is most likely made up of adults, but this would help any teenagers like me. i have intense fears about living a life which i sustain for myself, and giving away my already minimal autonomy in an endless persuit of working until i die.

@tasyavoss1577 2 жыл бұрын

Hell's yeah

@jessicasabatini4904 2 жыл бұрын

That is an excellent suggestion

@ladymuck2 Жыл бұрын

Find a purpose in life. Something you really care about, something that makes you feel valued and that you would be happy doing even if you were not paid. Then channel your energy into doing that to the best of your ability. That way your adult life will have meaning.

@jamescheddar4896 Жыл бұрын

There's no cure for that it just sucks

@unleashingpotential-psycho9433 6 жыл бұрын

Great point about our need to forgive ourselves! I think one of the hardest things to do in life is to forgive ourself and to forgive others for what has been done. The thing though is that we must forgive in order to be able to move on with our own lives.

@grambo4436 6 жыл бұрын

Yes we can forgive ourselves. But I may disagree! Sometimes that there are those who hurt you since childhood that deserve no forgiveness at all. Even at there time of death it's best to express that pain and anger on the many things what this person has done to you. It's like some sort of relief. It's okay to forget but not forgive the one who damaged you.

@MomusFilms 5 жыл бұрын

I think your point is valid and we needn't "forgive" anyone who doesn't deserve it. Yet it's VERY important that we find a way to extinguish the coal we carry in our hearts that burns us fresh daily from the agony of the memory. Letting go of anger doesn't mean forgiveness or forgetting; but it's a crucial part of ending the pain horrible people have left us carrying so long after they themselves have left the scene. It's right to let go of such lingering torment...it's not always easy and we owe ourselves such peace by any therapeutic means necessary.

@SusanHopkinson 5 жыл бұрын

Josaphat Pineda forgiveness is not the same as condoning what happened. Forgiveness is for your own peace of mind. As long as you carry the anger and suffering you are likelier to project it onto another, just like the original person was acting from a place of suffering. The cycle has to end or the suffering continues, and as long as there is no forgiveness you remain a victim of that person or incident, and give your energy and power over to it. I hope you find healing 🙏🏻

@mrmr5208 4 жыл бұрын

@@SusanHopkinson Doesn't this sound good? Now if only someone could disclose the miraculous means through which one can actually do what is being described... Just imagine how many people would benefit if this magical knowledge would be shared by whoever purportedly holds it...yet I keep getting the old trope that the traumatized hypervigilant person is to blame for his/her failure to magically heal, that they actually enjoy suffering (how cruel can people be?), etc.

@UnsterblicheKonig 3 жыл бұрын

@@mandyg9119 I will figure out who wrote that awful comment.

@cynthiajohnson9412 6 жыл бұрын

I guess at some point I just broke. And from that point on I said, fuck it! Come what may it can't be worse than living in perpetual fear. So I just decided, as an experiment, to just give up the fear. Live the way I want to live and deal with whatever comes as best I can. So far so good. As I said, realizing that nothing is worse than constant, gnawing, soul-sucking anxiety is very freeing!

@rosamia4 2 жыл бұрын

"just give up the fear." i will try to do this because im so tired and i cant even rest bc of hypervigilance things. just give up fear and anger about my narcissist mom. yes. i hope i can do is

@tylerslynes599 Жыл бұрын

Please help me with this I’m struggling so bad to beat this 😢

@truth294 Жыл бұрын

I'm tired of living in fear too

@jmc8076 Жыл бұрын

@@tylerslynes599 We’re all diff. You may need more time and diff path. Millions on the path w/you all ages and walks of life. Some just hide it. Baby steps can lead to health. Try mediation (under rated), write out feelings and toss paper or delete file, use bedtime stories for grownups on YT (just search) and hypnosis videos (try Michael Sealy) to fall asleep. Even in sleep words/music still work. Set up playlist. Practice being aware of what you feel as you feel it (curious vs judgement or analysis), sit with it for a bit then find way to change the msg to know your safe incl telling yourself ‘in this moment I’m safe’ with all senses to be present now vs the past. Be patient yourself and say ‘hey I did it’ for sml victories. Going back steps just temp. Hope any of this helps. Never give up on you. Peace and health. ✌️

@moralebooster8437 2 ай бұрын

There is freedom in surrender 💜 very brave

@shaeholden1743 2 жыл бұрын

This was so helpful. I'm learning to be kind to myself after a diagnosis of CPTSD from narcissistic abuse. Thank you for this information.

@avalonmist254 4 жыл бұрын

Being hypervigelant at this time on the planet add society isolating and me being alone constantly. That is a normal stance to take I'm not paranoid I'm cautious. Point: anyone feeling this way don't shame yourself instead managing the potential for danger and attempting to basically fend for yourself with disciplining oneself to at least sleep! Is a worthy goal

@MrMochiDochi 5 жыл бұрын

love it, this speaks to me on a personal level. “we can worry when we need to, not just because we exist”

@frankwess7235 5 жыл бұрын

I had extreme hypervigilance but now it's mild 90% of the time because I've been taking medication. I tried everything from extreme exercise, eatting well sleeping well and nothing worked, but now I'm taking Zoloft. It's melow and I love it.

@dend1 3 жыл бұрын

Pandemic has had me hypervigilant for nearly a year and it's been exhausting

@Thedreamer20015 Жыл бұрын

I just recently developed this and only a week of this makes me just empty and weak now. I barely sleep but this does make me feel a bit better, I just want to start feeling normal again.

@candlesstaylit3964 Жыл бұрын

Hope ur doing ok ive been dealing with this for 3 years now no help or therapy, and it does get worse everyday, you need to get help and maybe medication, i wish i had that now. My life has done an enitre 180, i was always just confused at my differences from everyone else, untill i met my girlfriend 3 years ago. Ever since ive chose to make sure her and i stay together, but thats been way harder than it should be, i live every moment in fear of loosing her and i probably will lose her and the two kids we have together, i have no faith in finding aid. Ive tried so hard to find someone to care and take it serious but no one does, you have time to make that choice still. I sincerely hope you do.

@Brenda-uf8pk 5 жыл бұрын

Something in need to work on. This hypervigilence is exhausting I ever knew I was panicked all the time but now I can least be aware of it. So helpful

@mustacheofgold6846 2 жыл бұрын

After years of PTSD, I ended up on a position where I felt a sense of dread/doom all the time. Going as far as to kill my appreciating for life, making it feel like life is all about surviving with no reward. Luckily, medication made it a lot more bearable and therapy helped. Now, the problem isn't fixed but It's notably improved and I feel genuine hope to get better again.

@Moesie Жыл бұрын

U got 9 months further in life. How are u is it fixed? Because i go true this and tell me what i can expect or should do I got to my first theraphy session

@englahimla Жыл бұрын

@@Moesie I've had therapy for about 3-4 years, and this last year when I finally gave in and decided to try the antidepressants they recommended, life has gotten so much easier! It not only helped ease my depression and take away that constant dark cloud of bad feelings, but also really helped make my anxiety so much less!

@Moesie Жыл бұрын

@@englahimla cpd oil helps with anxiety and panic But i'd be carefull with antidepressent If doesnt fix only shots down temporarly ur feelings Meditation, nature, clean sleep excsrsize diet helps it Reasing qatching comedy yoga Cold shoqer coloring books Plants in ur room

@englahimla Жыл бұрын

@@Moesie Ah, no, the antidepressants help balance out the chemical imbalance in my brain that was a big part of my depression! I don't think we're speaking of the same type of medicine? But absolutely, healthy lifestyle choices and making your surroundings more healthy is great advice!

@Adanosiam Жыл бұрын

@@Moesie thank you so much! Such a natural and possitive way of life.

@IndianaJenkins615 2 жыл бұрын

I was 12yrs old and I just transferred to a new school for 8th grade. I was constantly harrassed and humiliated in public because I didn't act like them. They thought I was too proper, a teacher's pet. Come 9th grade, I still held on to feelings of anger towards those that tormented me, I became anti-social, distrusting and rude towards my tormentors and other new people because I thought they were enemies. I wouldn't realize until I was older that a lot of classmates I was rude towards, we're never trying to hurt me. Its been 8yrs since high school, I often feel ashamed that I ruined many potential friendships and I feel ashamed that I held on to 8th grade grudges for so long. When public humilation is burnt into your mind and flares up at various random moments, it can be hard to let it go.

@alandpal79 5 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy I learned about the School of Life. I can't tell you all how much your articles and videos have helped me. At times your works have given me insight into states of mind I find so mysterious and confounding. Other times they've provided just the slightest bit of solace on a panicky day. You all do great work. I just wish you had a school in the northeastern US. Bless you

@MosesEmmet 6 жыл бұрын

I like what you said about finding others to share our fears and anxieties with in order to reduce the burden of own own hyper vigilance. Now the only question is who do you trust to share your vulnerabilities with?

@akritiarora1904 6 жыл бұрын

Moses Emmet nobody..people use your weaknesses and vulnerabilities against you

@josefsvec5236 6 жыл бұрын

someone's been hurt here i see,that's okey,not everyone is like that :) but if you've lived through something like that it's understandable of you to think so

@mjnoon3609 6 жыл бұрын

Your cat

@MosesEmmet 6 жыл бұрын

Your local memeboi indeed I have. I speak from experience a lot on my channel about how to build healthy long term relationships... so making mistakes isn’t all bad as long as you can learn and grow from em.

@MosesEmmet 6 жыл бұрын

Mjnoon 360 I really love cats, but my wife is allergic to em... time to get rid of the wife then?

@CDRClarisse 6 жыл бұрын

CONSTANT VIGILANCE!!!!!! -Mad-Eye Moody

@rea8585 6 жыл бұрын

That is totally happening to me when I am watching movies: I keep on waiting for something bad to happen so I can't even enjoy the film itself. It is sooooo annoying! And since I try to watch movies that are not the predictable Hollywood style, it is even harder to relax and enjoy, I am too anxious for something bad to happen. Anyone else like that out there? :)

@ShivamPandey-nj8pu 6 жыл бұрын

Yeah just can't watch Korean psychological thriller with light off

@just1desi 6 жыл бұрын

I do that with books. Not movies

@yojishinkawa378 2 жыл бұрын

I annoy my wife because I always get so over the top pissed off when movies show cops abusing their power, women being sexually exploited, or children being hurt. So I don't know if it's helpful, but you're not the only one.

@stephlikescats9522 6 жыл бұрын

My anxieties are just that. I have bad sleep, I have horrible digestive issues, and I cannot touch others. Wow.

@soniaflores3233 5 жыл бұрын

stephlikescats same. I’ve spent years like this

@julietabrego7626 5 жыл бұрын

I just got like this because of a co-worker. I'm looking for a different place to work. ~3 hours sleep a night, lost appetite & 7 pounds & everything startles me. I've never experienced this before. I feel like a stranger to my body & mind.

@amv062184 6 жыл бұрын

When you have PTSD, you are always hypervigilant.

@jeanisabelle 6 жыл бұрын

You're right. I wish it was easy to unworry. Even after months of therapy, I'll likely worry myself to death.

@amv062184 6 жыл бұрын

@@jeanisabelle Use your anger to fight the demon. Anger is power, fear is weakness.

@amv062184 6 жыл бұрын

@I'mposs ible actually, it is common.

@abi7183 6 жыл бұрын

I'mposs ible Very common. It's the 'fight' aspect of the fight, flight or freeze response

@jeanisabelle 6 жыл бұрын

It may be. I wouldn't be surprised. I feel the same way too especially when I'm having extreme anxiety attacks. Have you sought counselling? It's helped me a bit, but I realized I won't be completely "cured" if I don't learn to consistently unworry from the inside. It's been quite the challenge.

@mattk6182 3 жыл бұрын

great to hear people open up about a VERY prevalent issue that plagues SO MANY PEOPLE..including myself. we hurt together, we get better together.

@jorrenspit6793 6 жыл бұрын

I've been in this state for almost a year and especially the being awake one at 4 am. It was horrible, i didn't know what to do, at one point I was even afraid to go to bed because I would have a dream about my ex at 4 am and not being able to get back to sleep again. Thankfully the worst is over now and I'm sleeping much better now. And feeling much better about my life. I want to share my story because when i was in this state i desperately wanted a way to handle it and know if other people were having such problems as well. So if your reading this, know that it can be overcome, that you can live with it even if it is only partly. Keep on going in life even if you don't want to. Go to the gym and lift wheigts, using a sleeping mask during sleeping helped me a lot as well. And if you cant bare it anymore, you can use sleeping pils once in a while to have a good nights rest. And talk with people you can trust! Hang in there!

@helloitsmiih7 3 жыл бұрын

This was so specific, i'm crying right now... Thank you, i feel loved

@BijanIzadi Жыл бұрын

Wow, I’ve had hyper-vigilance pretty much always up until fairly recently… thank you for this video

@theschooloflifetv 6 жыл бұрын

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@shutitdown656 6 жыл бұрын

GOOD MORNING!!! I just woke up and now watching this at 4 a.m.

@smlmathieu0 Жыл бұрын

I think this is what I get when I’m around a women I don’t want to lose. I tried to think back to its roots and I think it’s from being broken up with for the first time. Whenever I’m around that trigger it causes me to be hyper vigilant and super aware to where my brain Fogs up and I can’t really think straight because I’m thinking so much about doing the right thing and what my partners thinking and probably not trying to lose them so I can’t just relax around them. Idk which came first but as soon as I felt anxiety strip me of my abilities it made me be fearful of showing that weakness. Which has brought me down mentally but I feel it’s a combination that sucks in a relationship it’s difficult for me to just chill because I’m always in that state. I can’t be myself because I’m not relaxed and it’s like they aren’t seeing the “real” me so I think about what the “real” me would do and it’s like a loss of identity when I get in this state idk just pray for me idk what I have but it sucks and I’m trying to get out of it because I want to connect the best way I can with my son without being like this. We got this being vulnerable is strong

@jamescheddar4896 Жыл бұрын

keep an eye on yourself. it sounds like you might be prone to stalking or something. this isn't an accusation, just advice

@James-ei3jt Жыл бұрын

We’re in the exact same boat. Overthinking and always blaming myself in relationships with girls. Please let me know how you’re doing and what is helping, if anything.

@nishanabul1427 3 жыл бұрын

This man who is narrating has no idea how soothing his words wisdom and voice are !!

@misstery5942 5 жыл бұрын

I can NEVER relax!. When I had anasthetic I felt rescued and so relieved to drift away I didn't want to wake up again and was so depressed that o woke up... that was the most rest I felt

@tomasfernandes4538 Жыл бұрын

Finally, i get it, the state that haunted me for years to this day ,this life jorney for inner peace seems to look more bearable each day

@daisygirl1217 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for understanding...

@user-ed5ke8mt7s 3 жыл бұрын

I've never felt more understood

@lijmoo 6 жыл бұрын

"We can learn the skill of being calm, not through special teas and slow breathing," ❤️

@miriambucholtz9315 5 жыл бұрын

Interesting. All of those reasons for hypervigilance that you mentioned have happened to me in one way or another. The last one, being institutionalized, was the last straw that actually ended up doing away with my ability to even feel fear for almost twenty years. While some of it finally came back, the anxieties that once plagued me constantly now no longer have any influence on me. I can even get up in front of a crowd of strangers and give a speech off the top of my head, if necessary. If I had any classic anxiety dreams (such as being chased) I came up with solutions during the dream itself and never had it again. I would love to know exactly how I managed to pull plugs on an emotion as primal as fear. As they say, "If you could bottle that, you'd be rich". The important thing is, though, to remember what it's prudent to respect even if you can't feel fear.

@amh1772 5 жыл бұрын

This video came in such a good moment for me. Thank you!

@piggytrombone 5 жыл бұрын

thank you making me feel normal

@fuzzydownham 6 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness... I've never heard anyone explain it. This is the answer i have looked for, for so long. Thank you, again.

@vincentphilippart4669 3 жыл бұрын

Same. 15 therapists and none of them proved as useful as this 5 min video.

@heelty 6 жыл бұрын

I felt so understood by this video, thank you amazing voice fella 💖💖

@aussievapezaussievapez__3320 5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely love this channel 🙏❤️✨✨

@rothko1234 6 жыл бұрын

I totally love the last two lines of this one! ;) this video made so much sense to me. Thank you so much xx stu

@EmsEms81 11 ай бұрын

Fight, flight, freeze. The physiological response to a threat. Hyper-vigilance , the physiological response to anticipating a threat before, during or after an event preparing you to fly, fight or freeze. Trouble is there is no threat so you can’t get past it and wind it down. I never understood trauma until I lived it.

@jocsanschray007 6 ай бұрын

When do u know a threat is real or not? Do u also have that paranoia?

@vincentphilippart4669 3 жыл бұрын

I never understood why I couldn't touch others, especially my parents. This is a big break for me. Thanks a lot

@bodnotbod 5 жыл бұрын

Great video. The only small part I didn't like was the idea that we should accept that our anxieties "might knock us out for a month". For a great many people they have no choice but to endure, especially for employment reasons. Many employers wouldn't give an employee the opportunity to be knocked out for a month. And if you lose your job in the UK now, the resultant anxiety from how the Department of Work and Pensions treats you will likely put into perspective any of the worries you had before you became unemployed. In fact being under the regime of the DWP means that hypervigilance would be justified, because the DWP will victimise you.

@mrmr5208 4 жыл бұрын

So much easier said than done! And of course adults can "escape" bullies - tipically by giving up on something dear/desired. So much for adulthood "power". No wonder the hypervigilance loop keeps getting boosted!

@Dayglodaydreams 5 жыл бұрын

I've actually found slow breathing and calm thinking does wonders.

@gulnar122 2 жыл бұрын

big thanks to my mom and dad

@keyannalee2432 2 жыл бұрын

With a pretty voice and artwork, he is basically saying he doesn't know how to handle it except by talking to someone you trust, remind people if our boundaries and sleep when you can

@glen458 2 жыл бұрын

Wow so much effort has gone into this. Thank you 😊

@ricardodaniel7710 2 жыл бұрын

You guys are the best, I can't describe how good it makes me to watch some of your videos. I am more than grateful always.

@jolandihanekom3226 5 жыл бұрын

Love this channel so much!

@siddsen95 5 жыл бұрын

Life is a comedy for those who think and a tragedy for those who feel. This channel is hope.

@danielesteve8359 3 жыл бұрын

A comedy? I don't think so...

@AlisonRuthless 7 ай бұрын

100% this. This is me to a capital "T" stemming from my childhood experiences & the subsequent trauma that followed. I have essentially been in a "fight or flight" response for decades - literally. The overwhelming emotion is exhaustion/despair/hopelessness in a way & on levels I cannot even describe.

@Thehealthycreative_ 2 жыл бұрын

So amazingly captured in the small amount of time. Thank you

@internetsales7262 5 жыл бұрын

"Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but you get nowhere doing it"

@corinnemuir1542 3 жыл бұрын

The imagery in this installment is great, very beautiful.

@jacklovesalley7925 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for helping me understand myself and my loved ones more ❤️

@75hilmar 3 жыл бұрын

The visual representation in the video is pure amazing artwork

@maxd3028 3 жыл бұрын

Guys you are phenomenal in simplifying the complex psychological issues! ☝🌟💯👏

@LunyMilky 6 жыл бұрын

Having good people around helps at being more confident about all of our insecurities :'1

@DiDi-xr1dd 3 жыл бұрын

I suffer from complex PTSD. the state of constant hipervigilance is absolutely draining. For me it feels like I'm constantly in the presence of highly aggressive person, who throws sh*t around the room and I can't stop but feel like i'm next and my life is in danger.

@lucieni Жыл бұрын

My partner pointed out to me that (I know I’m hypervigilant) that maybe I have some type of PTSD. I literally jump out of my skin at the most stupid things… A butterfly taking off in front of me or something falling onto the floor behind me.. I jump out of my skin at the very most ridiculous sounds. I was assaulted from behind in 2014 and unfortunately it has never left me and in fact recently it has increased anxiety yet I’m not an anxious person.

@Daelaron 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the wonderful videos.

@brandddygains2934 3 жыл бұрын

This was so helpful it helped me understand myself and I showed it to ther people so they can better understand other people with ptsd or cptsd thank you so much❤️

@joelchevalier4317 4 жыл бұрын

Excellent description of the subject. Very cool animation! Well done! :)

@nickquest8228 6 жыл бұрын

God, this helped me feel so much better and understood. Thank you.

@Mr3c2b1a 3 жыл бұрын

Great vid. Amazing how common my special and different problems are!

@ariannsr2263 5 жыл бұрын

Your voice is always very hopeful and soothing Alain. :)))))

@potatopotatoeOG 3 жыл бұрын

It's crazy how hypervigilant I am and how paranoid it made me.. how much panic and stress I had on my shoulders.

@TheDomeDweller 2 жыл бұрын

Are you better now? If so, how did you get better?

@swayp5715 6 жыл бұрын

God bless you guys......

@truckinggamer6254 6 жыл бұрын

And also to you

@danielesteve8359 3 жыл бұрын

God bless you gays...

@christinantzachristou2860 5 жыл бұрын

so illumimating, I cannot describe.. keep it up, thank you... 🇬🇷

@musahyder11 6 жыл бұрын

This video a true masterpiece.... ❤

@sometime.somewhere 6 жыл бұрын

One time i was asked if in alright, because i was,holding my arm realky tense in a stress position, i disnt even notice, but every now i am clenched tense or frowning its worrying. Has anyone found their anxiety of benefit in a situation and what was tge context? Anyone else also often referred to as calm when actually you've just perfected,nasking your emotions? no doubt this makes it worse if you internalise it and also makes me unabke to show genuine emotions very readily. Although a version of it seeping out in gestures tension and irritability. Being kind to yourself is very hard!

@Peacemakerblue 5 жыл бұрын

Why as it blocked my memories I feel like I’m stuck in the present moment with no memories, knowledge or thoughts

@user-ed5ke8mt7s 3 жыл бұрын

Same. Thankfully I have my sister to jog my memories of my childhood and some pictures... Reading has become my absolute vice... perhaps for this reason. At least we can absorb new information

@williamchamberlain2263 6 жыл бұрын

Can't remember the researcher or research group, but there was some good work on the advantages of emotional states to modulate robot behaviours, and also learning the appropriate emotional parameters (within the repeated set of training scenarios). Things roughly like - if things are changing rapidly -> 'fear' -> reduce tendency to explore unknown areas / approach unrecognised objects. Was a few years ago - predates the current neural network/AI surge.

@cynthiaselene1496 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for posting this. God bless you ❤️

@townbythetown 2 жыл бұрын

I’m 34 and I just realized that I have add. Thought loops, anxiety, focus issues, but also something I can’t describe well. I’d be interested in hearing if anyone feels the same- it’s almost like a very intense claustrophobia feeling but in regards to the place I am. I’ve been moving around my entire adult life. I’ll fell fine for a few weeks then I’ll get the claustrophobia anxiety feeling and only feel alright when I’m in transition again. I can’t describe it too well but it’s honestly a worse feeling than any depression or sadness I’ve ever had. Because the feeling is so frantic and pressing like it’s an emergency that I have to leave. My worst fear is being a wanderer for life but I struggle so badly with this. Any insights would be greatly appreciated

@hazelife7366 Жыл бұрын

Jay you have a lot of "thought energy" that you need to redirect You can take this advice with a pinch of salt if you want... But get yourself a gym membership Go and release that energy in a positive way, it WILL change your life, I promise you.

@alineuwiragiye7704 5 жыл бұрын

I fall in love with a guy that leaded me on for year. I found out all his friend were making fun of me. So my selfesteem is so down. I feel so disappointed in myself. all i think about is all the thing that is wrong with me. Like my skin color, my weight. My height. I wish you can make a video that can help me. I will love you forever mr. Bottom. Thank you.

@godsson956 3 жыл бұрын

Love yourself like u love other accept everything about u ...n fall in love with your self

@jasonayres 3 жыл бұрын

I had an experience like this at a workplace where I thought everyone was like family. Some staff members were spreading false rumours and, worse, a friend I confided in made a fool of me behind my back. I was hypervigilent for a while. I was suspicious of people. It was quite cruel. I was young and gullible. I have learned how to trust again and move on. One of my favourite lyrics of a song, from a few years ago : "Yesterday's a closing door. You don't live there anymore."

@tracesprite6078 3 жыл бұрын

The question is not what is wrong with you but what is wrong with them. That guy and his friends have some serious issues. Try to find some decent, sincere people to hang out with.

@AnonEMoose-mr8jm 5 жыл бұрын

I feel like I might fall into this category. I try to be mindful and evaluate my feelings. It works well for me along with Tibetan singing bowls. I'm not sure what it is about them but the sound makes me feel at peace.

@saiancritic2213 6 жыл бұрын

Never a definite answer with the mind. Only consolation, temporary peace similar to an afternoon nap. Would it be so bad? To have something to take responsibility, take blame and be liable for the emotions, feelings, thoughts of death and defeat. Yes, truly it is comforting to worry less about a self prophesied apocalypse.

@Koeras16 6 жыл бұрын

This has been an issue I have been struggling with for the last 7 years of my life.

@dzikrinasaira3475 5 жыл бұрын

This video came up while I was having conversation about me being a control freak. Ok universe I got it. I gotta chill a litle bit :)

@deeproff1294 6 жыл бұрын

Another great 1. 👏🏻👏🏻💯

@misstery5942 5 жыл бұрын

I feel panicked and alarmed every minute of my existence... it makes me want to die

@tracesprite6078 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Miss Tery, here is a simple exercise. 1 pay attention to your breathing as it comes gently in and out. 2 pay attention to the air around the middle of your body 3 listen to the sounds which are far away. 4 repeat these steps. Gradually your thoughts will calm down. Enjoy gently letting a little calm come to you. Just allow as much calm as is comfortable for you. You may also like the Calm App.

@akashjohun247 3 жыл бұрын

@@tracesprite6078 I need your help dude..please dm me on instagram _the_revolt

@tracesprite6078 3 жыл бұрын

@@akashjohun247 Hi Akash, is it possible for us to talk here. I'm not on Instagram and am not sure I could even put myself on it???

@folasko5120 6 жыл бұрын

Been smoking heavily and did a binge-drinking session the other day. Been smoking weed almost everyday. I just can't handle myself too well. This video is the story of my life.

@natureshorts6657 5 жыл бұрын

Good video. One of the antidotes to hypervigilance is realize you're not a weak child or youth anymore. You're an adult! (Say "I'm not a little kid anymore! I'm an adult!"). And become a capable and competent adult. If you experienced danger or extreme anger, abandonment early in life, that is unfair and not your fault. You should look at it as having to learn a lesson earlier in life than most and see it almost like secret knowledge that you have that most people do not. Suffering is noble. You have seen the darker sides of life. Understand what happened to you and why as completely as you possibly can and then form a plan for how you would deal with it now. Do that, and you'll be much better off. I can promise you that.