I ABANDONED my FAMILY and I am OKAY with it...

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7 ай бұрын

I ABANDONED my FAMILY and I am OKAY with it...
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@thousandyardgavri2785 7 ай бұрын

I've read this story before but without the final update... OP was seriously mentally dmaged from the affair. Im glad he got the help he needed. And Im glad he no longer holds any grudge against his daughter who has nothing to do with it.

@yozarahirvi4750 7 ай бұрын

yeah, the daughter was 13 when he left, that's too young to be fully responsible of her actions, and for 13 years, she grew up seeing her mother ignoring her father, it was kinda the norm for her, she didn't know any better glad he rebuilt his relationship with her.

@dollface2907 7 ай бұрын

is this the same story where the kids helped hide the partners affair or is that a different story, i thought this was the one the dude drank next to the train track

@yozarahirvi4750 7 ай бұрын

@@dollface2907 nope, the dude who was cheated one and his daughter (and MIL) knew and hid it is a different story

@BraveryWing26 5 ай бұрын

His daughter had him arrested, BEATEN and then had the GALL to be offended and berated OP. She's as awful as her mom.

@jakeand9020 5 ай бұрын

@@BraveryWing26This, thank you. Everyone completely ignored these facts. I'm sorry, 13 doesn't give her a pass on that.

@SetariM 7 ай бұрын

God damn. Listening to OP describe being invisible to his family just hurts my heart. I know how it feels. God damn. I know how it feels every damn day.

@michelewalburn4376 7 ай бұрын

Nobody should have to feel that way. Please get help.

@Quantumethan 7 ай бұрын

Get help please, it’s not ok

@notting2640 7 ай бұрын

That’s how it goes for most married men out there 🤷‍♂️ we’re invisible until the family needs the living ATM to cough up his money again.

@jakeand9020 5 ай бұрын

That's pretty standard for how men are treated, they don't notice if you're there or not until they need money or something needs to be fixed. Leave for a few hours and they probably won't notice you're gone. Leave for two minutes when they need something from you and you're evil incarnate. Get over it.

@aksprkl6594 5 ай бұрын

@@jakeand9020 It's most likely a learned behavior. The kids probably want to spend time with dad, but he was always busy and gave them money to make up for it. Now he wants to do stuff, but never took time to foster that relationship and instead plays the victim like he's not a grown adult.

@crazycornishcrafter 7 ай бұрын

My Grandma told me about the tramps from when she was a little girl. Decent, homeless men who would travel around outside pretty much outside of society. The accepted thing was to give them a cup of tea when they asked. You'd also give them bread and butter (and, if you had it, cake). They then go on their way again. How many of these men were like OP? I am in tears reading this. Why enter into a contract of marriage if you're going to cheat?

@Mara_Jade-Skywalker 7 ай бұрын

I understand not wanting to stick to just one partner, but also in that case just like, don't enter a committed monogamous relationship.

@Mara_Jade-Skywalker 6 ай бұрын

@@BK-tp6jf I totally understand and respect people who just want to stay with one partner for life, I mean personally I could never imagine being poly myself, but that's not what I was saying, I was saying that if somebody isn't going to want to remain monogamous, they shouldn't be in a monogamous relationship. If people want to be monogamous, poly, whatever, I don't care, fine by me, but I think what matters is that all parties involved are aware, consent, and, of course, as you pointed out, that std testing is frequently used along with protection.

@justcallmeshorty240 6 ай бұрын

Cheaters need stable lives. They use their partners, then toss them when they can get the most out of the divorce.

@aksprkl6594 5 ай бұрын

Doesn't excuse him being a deadbeat though. You don't get to abandon your kid because you're hurting. OP needed to grow up, and he did.

@kingthe13 4 ай бұрын

@@aksprkl6594he was in no mental state t9 take care of her would you trust a suicidal person with a child I wouldn't incase one shot becomes two or more

@eggree6317 7 ай бұрын

i’m glad i grew up appreciating the smallest things. my boyfriend was surprised everytime i compliment him or appreciate the little things he does for me because his family never appreciates or show him gratitude. i’m glad i’m there for my boyfriend to appreciate, to show gratitude and to show him the love he deserves. everyone in this world deserves to be loved and to feel love.

@stinky_twigs 3 ай бұрын

you're an amazing person. take care of yourself, remember to eat and drink water. have a great rest of your day / night.

@joshfly210 3 ай бұрын

I bet you your boyfriend would do and has tried to do everything for you if you do what you say you do. That’s literally all any man wants a peaceful life with a loving and appreciative partner. That kind of attitude is the wind in the sails for a man.

@juanhaines7295 7 ай бұрын

I heard this one before. Op should have went to the cops about the the brother in laws assault.

@yozarahirvi4750 7 ай бұрын

I'm not sure. I mean, what he did was terrible of course, but beside that specific rage incident, he sound like a good man, and in this specific incident, he hadn't all the informations needed because the wife didn't tell her brother about her cheating. I'm a brother too, if my sister call me telling her SO have been violent (threw a glass at the wall) and left I'd be fuming too and I'd probably punch him hard too, and if my sister did lie to me or hid a part of the true then I'm a douche that hit an innocent, i'll assume my part of responsibility but accept that my sister would be responsible as well because she didn't give me all informations. And beside that, he give money to shelters and help the poors, if this man loses his income, it would have a negative impact on more lives than his own.

@nuriagalve4989 7 ай бұрын

Why tf do you always comment "I've heard this one before" and then proceed to prove that you haven't even read the whole post

@Aether_-iy9bb 7 ай бұрын

@@nuriagalve4989 not trying to be a rude person but it's because of an update, the video have no any kind of indication that there is an update on the story probably because it's the first time that this channel cover this story. but just like the previous person we have heard this story from a different channel.

@WilsonGodoyUmBrindeAEssaPorra 7 ай бұрын

@@yozarahirvi4750nah fam, a cop cant just go around arresting whoever he wants cuz his sister said so, there is due process, he didnt lose control, he kidnaped op like that uk cop that raped and killed sarah eversomething, by using his position as a cop to look for OP and arrest him illegally he acted like a friking gestapo or SS police, this is his behaviour as a cop, he probably do that on a regular basis, probably did even more shady things over the years, i would say that his corporation is probably as crocked as him.

@calebwilliams8306 7 ай бұрын

Right??? I'm losing my mind over this hahaha. Everysingle video has the exact same kind of comment. @@nuriagalve4989

@Catherine.Dorian. 7 ай бұрын

So Bob basically kidnapped him briefly, handcuffing him and taking him to the house… not a man that should be a cop. And yeah, this poor man needs a lot of help because none of this is healthy (Edited to add that this comment was before the story was finished, I commented again within this thread that yes Bob is great and his sister probably lied about what happened to make him react as such)

@queerdeificeeli985 7 ай бұрын

"You're under arrest" FOR F-ING WHAT?

@Catherine.Dorian. 7 ай бұрын

@@queerdeificeeli985 Exactly! Now here’s the one piece we may be missing, what Bobs sister said. Because it may be that she said (using that cup) that he did something violent or threatening to her and the daughter. From what the guy later said, Bob seems like an amazing guy so I’d bet the wife majorly lied to get him to react that way.

@WilsonGodoyUmBrindeAEssaPorra 7 ай бұрын

@@Catherine.Dorian.even if she lied, he cant go arround using his position to do ilegal arrests, he probably do more shady things that what he did to OP, maybe the whole charity thing is a coping mechanism for how much crap he does

@dc-bueno.2262 7 ай бұрын

@@Catherine.Dorian. Yeah very likely to be the case. I mean what would you expect from her? The truth ?😂😂

@nr1fan4all 7 ай бұрын

Also, assault, probably using police department equipment for personal use and detaining without cause. Out of all of those, assault is the worst, even if taunted, knocking a guy in cuffs in his house, jeez

@BoredTAK5000 7 ай бұрын

Is anyone else having a hard time blaming him? His wife cheated on him, he stops talking, no one even asks how he’s doing, then when he calls his wife out, when he leaves for a friends house is dragged back to be berated and beaten by his wife and a police officer. The daughter is innocent in all of this but the rest suck

@mwtds7257 7 ай бұрын

The daughter was also partially at fault. Not only did his wife make him feel like he was invisible, so did his DAUGHTER. Go back and listen to the first post. It took the wife and DAUGHTER over 15 minutes to realize he was gone. Remember, they were speaking at him, not to him. That makes all the difference.

@SusieBlup 7 ай бұрын

@@mwtds7257 Bro the daughter is 13, not 31. You can't blame a kid for that

@morganablackwater2017 6 ай бұрын

@@mwtds7257 dauther was 13 he is still responsible for her as a parent. It blows my mind how men think they can just walk out on children because of what they partner did... Yet they want equal parenting rights at the same time.

@smiley4995 6 ай бұрын

@@mwtds7257 The daughter is a thirteen year old, barely a teenager, she literally tried defending her father and how her mother hurt him, yet OP couldn't see that through his self pity, anger, and depression. OP abandoned his child out of self pity, OP betrayed her when she stood up for him. I feel terrible how he was treated by his wife, but for his child I have all the pity, betrayed by her father and forced to live with someone she hates.

@MacabreAfterparty 5 ай бұрын

@morganablackwater2017 okay so when a woman is overwhelmed and tired it's okay. Got it.

@SusieBlup 7 ай бұрын

When he was talking about other men I thought shit, this guy went down the rabbit hole... Glad he could recover and is doing better now

@ezonplays2260 6 ай бұрын

Yeah, he was about to become the real life joker 💀💀💀

@robertchapman7451 6 ай бұрын

Dude found the only way to win at the game of life fir men...don't play.

@cris4ever70 4 ай бұрын

Man had a huge breakdown. It was pretty worrying to listen to. Living with people is complicated. Living with family whom you’re supposed to love through thick and thin, despite knowing every single little fault they have, is super tough. I’m glad the man found himself again and now has a life he feels comfortable with. People are people. One day you purposely suck and the next you try your hardest to make up for it.

@wispcookie 7 ай бұрын

Remember, a lot of Reddit stories aren't real and there's a lot of flags in this one. This story in specific isn't held in high regards due to "Bob" and overall actions of people around the OP. At most they're generally good thought exercises and seeing people's empathy in the comments is heart warming regardless.

@Why_stop_at_41 7 ай бұрын

Yeah, I take most reddit stories as creative writing prompts or someone venting on what they "should've" done.

@jackchop1576 7 ай бұрын

A lot of them are recycled and gender swapped.

@SusieBlup 7 ай бұрын

@@Why_stop_at_41 Or how they would've liked things to unfold

@SusieBlup 7 ай бұрын

Yeah Bob being such a good person who volunteers to help the homeless and his wife leaving him bc of that was unbeliavable to me, but otherwise it was an interesting story

@PaigeTheFatFeministWitch 6 ай бұрын

Yeah you don’t get your phone or internet access in the psych ward. That’s wild

@horuka_0 5 ай бұрын

He should write a book. I love is story of not caring setting himself free, realizing how little people cared for him.

@BubblegumGirl366 7 ай бұрын

Poor OP's daughter. She didn't do anything and got abandoned by both her parents at the same time. That's going to be something that sticks with her for a long time even if she did forgive them both

@addyaddy614 7 ай бұрын

She didn’t care about him when he confronted his wife. Instead of giving her parents some space she and her mom argued over the breakup. She’s just sad that her ideal life got ruined because of her mom’s infidelity that’s all.

@BubblegumGirl366 7 ай бұрын

@@addyaddy614 She's 13! Of course that's how a child would handle an adult situation. No child should be abandoned like that. It's disgusting people are blaming a child for acting like a child.

@nutrizzlean 7 ай бұрын

@@addyaddy614 mfs on reddit think kids are adults💀💀

@MULTICK111 7 ай бұрын

@@addyaddy614Are you insane? She was a literal child, it's his responsibility to act like a dad and handle it in a way that minimises her trauma. On top of that, if she was an asshole of a 13 yr old, it's his fault for not raising her. But there is nothing in this story that implies anything else than that she is a very average but emotionally mature 13 yr old.

@cameronmiyao2673 7 ай бұрын

nobody is blaming her. But you have completely exonerated her and villified OP. Fix it. Everybody sucks here, and for you to say one party is not guilty by the simple fact she is a child is unacceptable. She was just as responsible as Eve, and as OP. She herself admitted it and apologized to OP for making him feel the way she did, as he did for abandoning her.

@magicalmomo9987 4 ай бұрын

Oh man, I'm so glad the ending was positive because the update about him becoming a recluse and planning to off himself in the future was so depressing. Like no baby, you are not okay. I'm glad he didn't go full recluse and made some friends, one that really truly cared enough to look out for him and get him help. Bless that guy.

@nekomikacross8284 7 ай бұрын

Why did he leave his daughter? She didnt do anything weong besides not engaging with him? Shes a teen. Also still a kid. Why in the world would you abandon her

@pegasustae4443 7 ай бұрын

He was just in a very bad place. I don’t think the daughter blames him too even though he was wrong for this.

@titanemp 7 ай бұрын

Because he broke, and by the end he had only began to get mended after the hunting buddy took his ammo.

@morganablackwater2017 6 ай бұрын

Cause he was a manchild who threw the tantrum and thought he may just walk out. That action alone shows me what kind of person he is.

@ScorchZane 6 ай бұрын

@@morganablackwater2017let me ask you this, how would feel if your family treated like you an accessory let alone your own wife having an affair, that’s bound to break someone

@carolday3381 6 ай бұрын

If you actually listened to everything you would have heard he was later diagnosed for ptsd depression and something else, he had to be admitted into a psychiatric hospital for treatment and that he was on suicide watch. If you heard all that do you really think he was in a position to say ok all that doesn’t matter when it’s my daughter I’ll just keep rational? Seriously, the man was barely able to stay alive, he had suicide thoughts right left and center, he was breaking mentally and your only thought is to guilt trip him with “but why leave the daughter? She didn’t do anything. “This is why mental health isn’t getting treated enough, because people who are supposed to be rational and thinking just don’t think. So here’s the answer to your unthinking and rather self righteous question. A broken mind cant think to coddle other people when it’s trying to justify its own death.

@IvanIsYda_ 7 ай бұрын

Tbh, good on Bob for apologizing. He acted out of impulse and love for his sister, he didn’t know the whole story. Although he still should have listened, what he did was understandable but not righteous

@mikesmith-gk6fy 7 ай бұрын

Now imagine the reverse, you would be FUCKING OUTRAGED if the brother of the cheating husband dragged the cheated on wife back home in handcuffs and beat her unconscious in front of the husband and daughter, examine that

@MULTICK111 7 ай бұрын

@@mikesmith-gk6fyYou are right, the abuse of power that he displayed is unacceptable. But the fact that he was more than willing to take the hit for it, and himself saw the need to be persecuted, shows his capacity for change, which is reason to forgive him. And I know that you agree with me here but there are pretty obvious differences in power dynamic between a woman and a man, social and physical, which would make the situation a lot more threatening to a woman being abducted. It would be more the same as this story if the cop was a sister of the cheater.

@zerofate9669 7 ай бұрын

What's worst in this is as a cop he should have gotten both sides of the story. Instead he let his feelings for his sister cloud his duty as officer of the law. Get both sides of the story before you act, it's common knowledge to even a fking child.

@IvanIsYda_ 7 ай бұрын

@@mikesmith-gk6fy too true, dude. If it was a woman beat, I would have been outraged

@MrNotBot 7 ай бұрын

@@MULTICK111 When you're dealing with a cop who's an animal, you're in more danger as a guy/criminal. You obviously didn't see guys get broken into half by police or get actually tortured in the holding room.

@RyanBurnsRed 4 ай бұрын

Didn't expect the daughter and Bob to have a redemption arc tbh

@MeyaRoseGirl 4 ай бұрын

Daughter did nothing wrong. She was a child. She's not responsible for her father's emotional well being. He's responsible for hers. But I do think it's a nice ending that HE got the redemption arc as a parent.

@aylanae4797 11 күн бұрын

Yes..like 13 is definitely old enough to be some type of aware.

@Shellieb013 7 ай бұрын

I really wish they would include the link to the actual reddit story in the description

@KJ.... 7 ай бұрын

if you google the title its like the first or second result. all the top comments talk about how fake he made it

@TiberianFiend 7 ай бұрын

What a sad ending. That poor guy ended up right back on the plantation.

@Soapysoaks 5 ай бұрын

When a man loses everything he has nothing to care for

@MaeRose26 7 ай бұрын

i found this on reddit and the comments are roasting him about leaving his child

@morganablackwater2017 6 ай бұрын

As they should its pathetic

@smiley4995 5 ай бұрын

Good

@SilveryBlue1010 Ай бұрын

Even if he stays he probably won't be here anymore, seeing his mental health.

@gazzhumbly5433 Ай бұрын

reddit is full of judgemental assholes

@MathewCR 5 ай бұрын

This Bob guy is putting such a show out of fear for the real consequences. He kidnaped someone using his authority as a cop, handcuffed him and beat the shit out of a defenseless person

@angelsimpson8235 2 ай бұрын

I literally bawled my eyes out at this one, the empathy I feel for that man is indescribable

@crowfather0249 7 ай бұрын

I would've definitely sued the pants off of the brother-in-law. But at least he saw the error of his ways.

@godowskygodowsky1155 7 ай бұрын

I imagine his sister made it seem like OP was being violent. If your sister told you her husband was being violent with her, you'd probably react similarly.

@crowfather0249 7 ай бұрын

@@godowskygodowsky1155 Okay. Still wouldn't stop me from suing. And if that was the case, then why didn't he just beat him up the second he saw him instead of "arresting" him and forcing him back home?

@bangupzzz2403 5 ай бұрын

@@godowskygodowsky1155cops need to be held to that higher standard

@MathewCR 5 ай бұрын

@@godowskygodowsky1155Kinap the guy using your authority as a cop, handcuff him and beat the shit out of him when he is totally defenseless?

@godowskygodowsky1155 5 ай бұрын

@@MathewCR I'm of the opinion that law enforcement is not held accountable as it should be. But I'm also generally forgiving of people who mete out justice for their loved ones, i.e., vigilantism or crimes of passion. If this person wasn't a cop and hadn't done this under the color of law, I imagine the demographic of viewers here would be more accepting.

@hahahehehoho8191 4 ай бұрын

In the end society and it's social norms hooked him on some meds and converted him back to a 'good little boy'

@user-fw7fj3df5r 6 ай бұрын

OP did NOT abandoned his family... they did...way before he left.

@kilIing 4 ай бұрын

he abandoned his daughter and blamed her, a 13 year old girl for not talking to him he abandoned her.

@user-fw7fj3df5r 2 ай бұрын

She and wife looked at him as a paycheck. They talked At him not with him. She is just like her mum. He should have dumped them both at the garage where they belong. 13 yrs old with no matters and no thanks to dad. Daughter needs to leave dad alone

@alorarhodes1568 2 ай бұрын

He blamed his 13 year old child for being a child. 13 year olds are self-obsessed and learning about themselves and in their own world. That's their job.

@BrianNguyenIHASDACANSER 4 ай бұрын

This story is so sad he almost escaped but then they pulled him right back in

@zerofate9669 7 ай бұрын

I still say op should have press charges on the BIL. That was borderline assault, kidnapping, etc. No fking way this man should even be allowed to stay as a cop. I wouldn't even trust this man to save my own life if he's that fragile to snap and attack 1st. I do feel some type of sympathy for him as his ex wife hated he support and helps the homeless as many people wouldn't look twice nor give any care or support to them. (I help give money every now and then, but fear they use it for wrongful reasons.) So I'm glad op is stable and well, his relationship with his daughter is doing well, his ex wife, she can rot in hell.

@SnerMerNer 6 ай бұрын

Yup. Typical violent pig.

@mattnorton5787 4 ай бұрын

Umm... If this story is true, you both can and should end Bob's career by reporting his actions. Everything he did, from kidnapping you to assaulting you, was illegal. Like insanely illegal, to the point that not even his coworkers could possibly defend him.

@HaydenRegister 2 күн бұрын

This man is a trooper. Props to him for not ending himself after the fact that his former wife cheated in him, I'm glad he stabilized himself and can stay away from society and maintain his emotional trauma low. Glad you got help and your daughter forgave you. We all support you!

@stevetv5739 5 ай бұрын

I'm glad I'm mostly detached from this uncaring world.

@user-gc9ef2np1e 6 ай бұрын

To be honest, I don't blame guy for reacting the way he did. Good on him for recovering.

@morganablackwater2017 6 ай бұрын

You don't blame a guy for abadoning his 13year old daughter cause his ego was hurt? Wow

@nilracg 5 ай бұрын

@@morganablackwater2017That daughter is a kunt anyways, op is better off without the lot.

@jakeand9020 5 ай бұрын

@@morganablackwater2017She watched her uncle beat him half to death because of her mother's lies and blamed him for it. But she's "jUsT a kId, it's noT hEr fAuLt!"

@smiley4995 5 ай бұрын

@@jakeand9020 After he ran out, also what was she going to do? Fight a grown man with a gun?

@ezoez7548 6 ай бұрын

Its always after they cheated that they wanna "try and fix things" like bro ur a fucking adult TALK BROOO

@billcipher3479 4 ай бұрын

the fact how he explain it is to be a man in this society amaze me it really like what they say you either provide or your a loser god damn

@thetest8777 7 ай бұрын

I'm the same boat as this man I a loner and not interested in soicety and looking to buy land so I can get away from people

@BFO_Kote 23 күн бұрын

5:39 Bro started his villain origin story and is now in his villain arc💀

@LightOfMyLife227 7 ай бұрын

I don't blame him

@asheditzz 7 ай бұрын

Yeah Especially his ex wife cheated

@LightOfMyLife227 7 ай бұрын

@@asheditzz Fr

@morganablackwater2017 6 ай бұрын

You don't blame grow up man for being childish and cowardly abadoning his daughter? Fix your priorities

@LightOfMyLife227 6 ай бұрын

@@morganablackwater2017 Dude you clearly don't have yours fixed so don't try to lecture me about mine. His folks can go kick rocks for all I care. Good day.

@ScorchZane 6 ай бұрын

@@LightOfMyLife227I agree

@Levithos 7 ай бұрын

I wouldn't burn that cash. I would donate it to a no-kill animal shelter.

@thefumolover114 7 ай бұрын

At the half of the story I though it was Ted Kazinski story LMFAO

@pikathemimikyu6655 5 ай бұрын

This one always makes me hope my dad knows how much I love and appreciate him.

@jmac5951 4 ай бұрын

OP went through something terrible, but it seems clear that his daughter and father and friend have shown him great love.

@user-zn6hs9qp5i 4 ай бұрын

I was so scared OP was about to khs 😮‍💨 Also the fucking nerve of that woman😤

@megan00b8 4 ай бұрын

Honestly Bob is a good man, he was violent yes, but all he knew was that he's protecting his family, and when he realised the truth he was ready to take responsibility for what he has done.

@MichaelHain. 4 ай бұрын

I like how the Ex wife tries to get him back. She apperantly doesnt understand the pain she put him in. I would have kept my word and put Bob NC and get him dismissed. Police violence is never looked over. Especially if the person is white which i would say he is.

@kpopdisco2330 4 ай бұрын

Funny how he bitched about being an accessory. But then he treated his daughter like an accessory to his wife. He barely talked about her outside of his wife

@daysssssss 7 ай бұрын

you guys pick and choose when kids should be treated like kids. you guys are mad at a 13 year old, like please unclench for a second and take the bitterness out of your hearts.

@levelate 7 ай бұрын

there is a pattern, if you look....but i'm guessing you know that already

@morganablackwater2017 6 ай бұрын

Males think they are the law and that they can decide when they care for children. Its really sickening how everyone think its okay for a grown up man to walk out on his underage daughter cause his ego been hurt...

@jakeand9020 5 ай бұрын

When said kid watches her uncle beat her defenseless father half to death and blames her father for it knowing full well it was her mother's lies? Such a mystery why "she's just a kid" doesn't quite cut it. She's 13 not 3.

@alorarhodes1568 2 ай бұрын

@@jakeand9020Did you literally missed the part where it said she was screaming every time he hit him?? She was worried she didn't want this she is being forcibly dragged into it. Frankly his wife is a child abuser for forcibly dragging their daughter into her mistakes.

@Knightwalker727 16 күн бұрын

When OP was talking about feeling nothing and everything sounding muffled, it reminded me of when my dad confessed to us that he was having an affair with a young woman in his hometown. He said her parents were basically selling her to him since he was considered rich there. He even went to hotels with her but he insisted that nothing sexual ever happened, only kissing at most (I never believed this). I remember feeling the same way OP did. Years later, my sister showed me a photo she found from our dad’s phone of him and a younger girl in a towel. The girl looked younger than me. It was a short while after that that my mom revealed to me that she had known he was cheating with multiple college students that he and his charity club were sponsoring. I just find it ironic that he kept bashing his clubmates before about how they’re all cheaters and their wives all like him because he’s the only loyal man there and how he convinced one member to stop cheating. He made it seem like he was changing them, but, in reality, they were changing him. He had always been a misogynist but I didn’t consider him full trash when I was a kid because I thought at least he was loyal, but I have no love left for him ever since my sister showed me that photo.

@danielfiumetto1830 4 ай бұрын

Yo her brother legit kidnapped him and then assaulted him. Dayummmmm

@princessmarlena1359 5 ай бұрын

At least OP didn’t hop a train and join the Benzini Brothers Traveling Circus.

@gabbidurham 4 ай бұрын

He most likely suffered a psychotic break

@gazzhumbly5433 7 ай бұрын

so this is an outer body experience as a result of trauma, i have been through something like this.

@dagoth-ursbeekeeper9119 4 ай бұрын

Damn his daughter caught one hell of a stray

@ImNotaRussianBot 4 ай бұрын

This broke my heart so much. My tears keep leaking so much. Yeah, he overreacted; but I get it. The pain is so bad that your brain disassociates to help you survive.

@lyojeanmorbach 4 ай бұрын

Props to Bob for his quick thinking. You are a real DudeBro

@aksprkl6594 5 ай бұрын

This story isn't believable and reads like an 8th grader trying to gage their writing skills. Especially the rant OP goes on after leaving their family. Right out of an edgelord's notebook. Something out of Fight Club lol. Like they used TV logic to make it "realistic," but they don't really know anyone whose gone through this so they don't know how to make it believable. I can't see an actual grown adult holding a 13-year-olds behavior against them and using it as a way to shirk parental responsibilities. AND be surrounded by other adults who don't hold him accountable.

@211enlightenment 7 ай бұрын

I’ve felt what Op feels - I’m a woman. I’m not depressed but I see behind the curtain - all this is an illusion.

@mymalesecret 4 ай бұрын

Bob doesn’t need to be a cop

@Stefan-vz7op 6 ай бұрын

Dude the father payed the mortgage? What a G

@eddebrock 4 ай бұрын

He lost a wife, but gained freedom...

@GeorgeGiann 7 ай бұрын

I hadn’t read the updates, thanks. 🙏🏼

@MichaelJEngelmann 9 күн бұрын

His wife cheated so he abandoned the family making him the bad guy tho. Call for a divorce and full custody. The wife was in the wrong but now her lying mother has to step up.

@andrewthomasprism9388 5 ай бұрын

God damn, these people gave this guy a villain mentality.

@fridaybrown5320 4 ай бұрын

It’s messed up that OP just lumped his daughter in with his wife as if the kid did anything wrong. She’s just a kid.

@herticate8579 7 ай бұрын

bro is like buddha who realized how meaningless life was and got severe existential problem. His mental health was dragged through the first layer of hell and back.

@brakis18 3 ай бұрын

I dont care how nice of a guy Bob is, that dude doesn't need to be a cop if he can blatantly abuse his authority.

@raphaeld4313 18 күн бұрын

Ikr, like, you can help the homeless with literally any sort of job... Bob's way of solving conflicts, on the other hand, is absolutely incompatible with being a cop

@Kipothefoodie2 3 ай бұрын

Adam… and Eve…? Adam.. and Eve.. Adam. and Eve. ADAM AND EVE

@georgegarvey7338 9 сағат бұрын

I would've called the State Police on Bob.

@VRDejaVu 7 ай бұрын

This... This is trully an horror story.

@MorganMagpie 18 күн бұрын

Happy that he realised the 13-year-old is a 13-year-old. Not going to have adult reactions and are working on their relationship on both sides. Happy that his friend recognised the warning signs before OP did something more permanent. I do not stan Bob. Don't even meh at the ex.

@Thaddius0 3 ай бұрын

lmao Daughter hears that her mom cheated and immediately goes to bat for OP against her mom. OP gets sad and disappears for 6 months intending not to pay child support. bruhhhhh

@randomfabuloushuman34 8 күн бұрын

Not all cops are bad but some people have lived in toxic environments to the point that what they do seems okay, obviously the ex wives brother was super over protective and didn’t understand the whole situation but what he was fed by the ex wife fueled him to do stupid shit and luckily he understood that in the end and apologized and was willing to give up his livelihood simply because he realized his mistake, that takes a good person

@ThePojengsidur 2 ай бұрын

I don’t agree leaving the child, 14 yo girl. And i definitely say it is the parents job to build and keep a good relationship with your child.

@Maninawig 5 ай бұрын

My heart goes out to OP.

@smiley4995 5 ай бұрын

Moreso to the daughter, hopefully she grows up to not be like either parent.

@Maninawig 5 ай бұрын

@@smiley4995 As someone who has dealt woth the deeper recesses of depression, I can't so easily ignore the dad. What he described was a complete mental breakdown without guidance. I am from Canada, so I dunno if the mental health facilities are the same, but we do have residences for high functioning people with mental disorders and it is disturbing how many of them are just picked up wandering the streets, unaware of their conditions. And sadly, this affects men disproportionately. Not saying the dad is disabled, but I am saying that depression is a hell of a mindfuck and shouldn't be ignored. Note: I am not discrediting the daughter's plight, just that the man's plight resonated hard with me.

@arcadius3257 5 ай бұрын

@@smiley4995 The guy literally did nothing wrong and you have no right to judge him. I bet you've never had a relationship in your life much less felt the life destroying impact of betrayal by a spouse.

@doubleedge2422 4 ай бұрын

@@arcadius3257 so it’s completely justified to throw away your children when you’re not in a relationship with the other parent got it.

@arcadius3257 4 ай бұрын

@@doubleedge2422 Yeah that's not what happened and its very disingenuous to twist it like that. This man got betrayed, it wasn't a mere ending of a relationship between parents.

@Homiloko2 5 ай бұрын

Bro really dissociated from reality because of the trauma

@MeyaRoseGirl 4 ай бұрын

I don't know if this was an AITA post, but I'd say he wasn't because he obviously wasn't in a place, mentally or emotionally, where he could take care of his daughter. I do think it's a bit sad that it took strangers on the internet for him to understand that his daughter was another victim in this mess, not a part of the cause.

@angerydestroyer 3 ай бұрын

If this is real (comments made me unsure anymore) REPORT BOB

@angerydestroyer 3 ай бұрын

Edit; well done to bob

@ProtonFilms_Mark 7 ай бұрын

This sounds alarmingly enticing.

@anniedeedrix6732 2 ай бұрын

My heart broke for this man .. ptsd without A doubt ..

@Kaziglu1 2 ай бұрын

Sell the house, sell the car, sell the kid I'm never coming back.

@jamian_eg0istique 3 ай бұрын

Bad ending "No ugabuga/return to monke": he took the meds and then turned back from his hermitage.

@nathansteele4358 2 ай бұрын

He was going to kill himself man He said he’s happier now and his daughter had a dad His friend had to take his bullets away before the meds man… Are you feeling okay? Actually concerned

@DeliciousBoi Ай бұрын

@@nathansteele4358 That's just weakness talking when he claims to be happier now. He finally found it in himself to sever the tethers binding him to society and government, he left his family, his house and mortgage, his job, and he Returned to Wild Nature as commanded by Uncle Ted. And then what does he do? He lets a few people on the internet tell him what to do. These people, who are still tethered to the system, tell him to plug back into the Matrix, tell him he's wrong for leaving his daughter behind and they cajole him into taking the blue pill and plugging back in. He could've become something great, he could've become like Uncle Ted, he could've gone beyond and spread Uncle Ted's teachings to those who needed a nudge to walk the path against industrial society and Return to Wild Nature, but instead he became cowardly and returned to the confines of society.

@DeliciousBoi Ай бұрын

@@nathansteele4358That's just weakness talking when he claims to be happier now. He finally found it in himself to sever the tethers binding him to society, he left his family, his house and mortgage, his job, and he Returned to Wild Nature. And then what does he do? He lets a few people on the internet tell him what to do. These people, who are still tethered to the system, tell him to plug back into the Matrix, tell him he's wrong for leaving his daughter behind and they cajole him into taking the blue pill and plugging back in. He could've become something great, he could've spread Uncle Ted's teachings to those who needed a nudge to walk the path against industrial society and Return to Wild Nature, but instead he chose to medicate and return to the confines of society. There is no way he's happier being a good little worker drone that gets no appreciation.

@DeliciousBoi Ай бұрын

@@nathansteele4358That's just weakness talking when he claims to be happier now. He finally found it in himself to sever the tethers binding him to society, he left his family, his house and mortgage, his job, and he Returned to Wild Nature. And then what does he do? He lets a few people on the internet tell him what to do. These people, who are still tethered to the system, tell him to plug back into the Matrix, tell him he's wrong for leaving his daughter behind and they cajole him into taking the blue pill and plugging back in. He could've become something great, he could've spread Ted's teachings to those who needed a nudge to walk the path against industrial society and Return to Wild Nature, but instead he chose to medicate and return to the confines of society. There is no way he's happier being a good little worker drone that gets no appreciation.

@DeliciousBoi Ай бұрын

@@nathansteele4358That's just weakness talking when he claims to be happier now. He finally found it in himself to sever the tethers binding him to society, he left his family, his house and mortgage, his job, and he Returned to Wild Nature. And then what does he do? He lets a few people on the internet tell him what to do. These people, who are still tethered to the system, tell him to plug back in, tell him he's wrong for leaving his daughter behind and they cajole him into taking the blue pill and plugging back in. He could've become something great, he could've spread The Teachings to those who needed a nudge to walk the path and Return to Wild Nature, but instead he chose to medicate and return to the confines of society. There is no way he's happier being a good little worker drone that gets no appreciation.

@BelgotLeons Ай бұрын

Only non POS in the story is the kid 😅

@wazer85 7 ай бұрын

❤ Thank you brother

@unitcharles8278 7 ай бұрын

This man really went psycho and reach enlightenment

@virtualatheist 4 ай бұрын

OP is *not* a massive piece of shit, he is broken.

@eldarabbas3724 6 ай бұрын

I feel bad for this guy

@warxtravelxanime796 13 күн бұрын

If i was in op's place i would become a poltical leader or something with this stiry 😂

@Goldenmonkey13 4 ай бұрын

Screw bob he has no right to lose control not with the power he hold for being a piggy

@ammazer1229 2 ай бұрын

Honestly shouldn’t have gone to a psych ward. Being a hermit is honestly fine. If someone wants to be alone then let them.

@nathansteele4358 Ай бұрын

Not if suicidal

@matthewbrowatzke6024 3 ай бұрын

His friend saved his life by taking away his bullets or shells

@lotnineaitch8356 7 ай бұрын

The problem with depression is that it makes it really hard to continue a grudge, or stick to your principles. The daughter is better off still having a mother around, and the dude needs to have some happiness rather than living with constant hate, but that's all the more reason to take everything she has and ensure she hits the same absolute lowest a person can be. Give her half to the homeless. Poor is still alive; it's just shitty.

@rand0mn33ss 2 ай бұрын

Man, I hate when my best fried cheats on me with their work college 😔

@uhavemooface 7 ай бұрын

Here I thought she was my best fried. Okay robot.

@goodnightmyprince6734 2 ай бұрын

Poor daughter

@TheSleepyBabyDeer 7 ай бұрын

When you're looking at someone through rose colored glasses you can't see their red flags, cuz they just look like regular flags... 🤷🏻‍♀️ Also, Bob sounds like a wonderful human! Yeah he shouldn't have beat the crap out of OP, But we all make mistakes, otherwise I'm glad OP didn't file the complaint against him. At first I wanted him too, but after finding out more about Bob I'm glad he didn't.

@impishrebel5969 7 ай бұрын

Are you kidding? "Wonderful human beings" don't beat the crap out of people.

@ShiftyMcGoggles 7 ай бұрын

@@impishrebel5969 one bad day my dude. Plus, the POS ex was feeding him lies, as far as he knew, his sister's husband snapped at them and ran off. Not excusing his behaviour, he got his pay cut and suspension for it, plus anger management therapy. End of the day, bad intel leads to bad outcomes.

@SnerMerNer 6 ай бұрын

No, bob is a POS. He abused his authority to kidnap his brother in law, then proceeded to give him a fuckin concussion while OP was still in handcuffs, unable to defend himself. Then, only after OP makes a viral reddit post does he finally step forward and "try to take accountability" to save face.

@NicholasJScott 5 ай бұрын

@@impishrebel5969 ^^ we all make mistakes, I don't get why society today can't admit people make mistakes and must have them punished for lapses of judgement and more.

@MathewCR 5 ай бұрын

@@NicholasJScottThis coward kidnaped someone using his authority as a cop and beat the shit out of a handkuffed person. He could have killed a totally defenseless person.

@Grimeaper 2 ай бұрын

Nothing like being alone in a crowd eh?

@fitemeirlm8069 7 ай бұрын

and then everyone clapped

@tatinamei 4 ай бұрын

this story doesn't look real How could he be the one to apologize to his daughter? He has nothing to apologize for because he was tramatized She is the one who failed him when she didn't noticed spmething was wrong. Also he didn't care for her at all when he abondoned her, didn' think about her and suddenly he is sorry... 🥴

@alexandrekuritza5685 7 ай бұрын

based.

@gigaswardblade7261 5 ай бұрын

7:43 i felt that one in my neck

@simonewarden3269 2 ай бұрын

Is he ok man needs a therapist 😕

@mikehilbert9349 6 ай бұрын

Not sure why OP ended up in a mental hospital, he was living the good life after he left the 💩 show he was living.

@smiley4995 5 ай бұрын

No he wasn't

@jordanwardle11 5 ай бұрын

That's the sort of mentality that gets people killed. a suicidal person suddenly being "normal" is not a good thing. Thats the clearest sign that they will not see the next day

@a.m.5973 5 ай бұрын

Threatening suicide if contacted is a clear sign he wasn't okay. The whole emotional numbness and the constant cognitive distortions he described show he was really unwell. For start, his daughter is a teen and they are undergoing a lot of changes - ask many parents; guy assumed his daughter didn't care, when really she was being a teen. His friends even took his ammo away - clear sign that others saw he was not okay. Guy got institutionalized as needed. He simply shut down.