I became a cynic and it's the worst thing I ever did - on being young and jaded

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TheCottageFairy

TheCottageFairy

Жыл бұрын

I became a cynic and it's the worst thing I ever did - on being young and jaded
In this video I wanted to chat a bit about the prevalent culture of cynicism online, and how I - myself - used to have this mentality. I find myself to be not only happier, but more empowered and resilient now that I have a different approach and mindset in regards to my life. I was inspired by the worlds of Rainn Wilson in a podcast interview he did in regards to cynicism, I do not agree with him on everything and don't necessarily agree with everything in this podcast (it does not reflect my viewpoints or personal beliefs) - but I did find it inspiring! You can check it out his personal story by looking up Rich Roll Rainn Wilson interview "We need a spiritual revolution" and skip to the time stamp "foster joy and squash cynicism" at 1 hour 24 minutes in.
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@Cspspack
@Cspspack Жыл бұрын
I’m a psychotherapist and most of my younger clients (teens and twenties) have such a negative view of the state of the world. They truly believe they have been born in the worst times the world has ever experienced. I think the apocalyptic tone of the media (especially since the early 2000s/post 9/11) has a lot to do with this and it’s a flame fueled by social media. I find it’s causing many people to feel more doomed and helpless than inspired to make at least a little change. They are simply overwhelmed with negativity and try to find control in unhealthy ways.
@CharlotteUnser
@CharlotteUnser Жыл бұрын
Yes, agree....the media has a great impact on society....Of course we cannot stick our heads in the sand and deny all that surrounds us, BUT....there is much that is good and positive in the world that is not reported....The old adage "Bad news sells' is prominent more now than ever. We have to choose to be aware of the good that is always present and be a source of that goodness individually and collectively. It starts individually with integrity and a mindset that we are all responsible for our actions and our impact on others. A small candle of light can light even the darkest room. (Char)
@olgacvetkova114
@olgacvetkova114 Жыл бұрын
100% agree
@tiffytattoo2450
@tiffytattoo2450 Жыл бұрын
Maybe it's because we can't even afford to live. That, plus the world burning down with climate crisis, wars on our european doorstep, overtechnologization, corruption and horrible crimes in religious institutions, the rise of nationalist, conservative and fascist politics... The world doesn't feel safe.
@Fandoms4Life
@Fandoms4Life Жыл бұрын
That's exactly what I'm going through now 😢
@olgacvetkova114
@olgacvetkova114 Жыл бұрын
@@Fandoms4Life just keep moving forward 🤗🌷🌼🌱🌳
@mscatnipper2359
@mscatnipper2359 Жыл бұрын
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?” The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
@coletteg.4548
@coletteg.4548 Жыл бұрын
Yes ! My favorite ! I heard this years ago and I told my sons this .
@elainegallagher2949
@elainegallagher2949 Жыл бұрын
❤ so true
@RaptorReplays
@RaptorReplays Жыл бұрын
That was absolutely cringe
@doriseguiluz6653
@doriseguiluz6653 Жыл бұрын
Hermoso!!🙏👌
@racerx4152
@racerx4152 Жыл бұрын
this reminds me of romans 7 in the bible. this is written for christians.
@karmenchristensen9845
@karmenchristensen9845 Жыл бұрын
One of my favorite quotes- “ promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate.” ❤
@mayracaceres3813
@mayracaceres3813 Жыл бұрын
muy profundas palabras
@MichelleMuck555
@MichelleMuck555 Жыл бұрын
Admitting that our perspective can be wrong at times shows a certain maturity that requires growth. Compassion is the key element for this growth.
@sonderbain
@sonderbain Жыл бұрын
Ironically trying to be more "mature" when I was in my late teens led me to be more immature. It was only when I looked back to who I was before that I realized the me I had left behind.
@helenchristopher3412
@helenchristopher3412 Жыл бұрын
I am a little older lady, but believe me, you are such a blessing to watch. I love your honesty and so love your animals and flowers. Thank you so much. I really appreciate you. One great grandmother
@janismarler3945
@janismarler3945 Жыл бұрын
I'm a grandma too. I am mesmerized by Paola's voice and kind words and demeanor, gorgeous scenery and music. Thank you Paolo. God bless you.
@zila626
@zila626 Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤
@Letters2indigo
@Letters2indigo 10 ай бұрын
I love you
@donnacarraway9182
@donnacarraway9182 5 ай бұрын
I’m a little old lady too who lives alone and hopes to become a grandmother someday. I too appreciate Paola and her gentle ways. How fortunate I feel to have found this beautiful channel! 💕
@farinaceaclover
@farinaceaclover Жыл бұрын
This really hit home for me. I have to really try hard not to be so cynical. I feel like it's my default position. It's a daily struggle not to let the negativity out there get to me. Your videos really help. Thank you very much for sharing your experience with us. It really means a lot. The field of yellow flowers was stunning!
@guidedbysunshine333
@guidedbysunshine333 Жыл бұрын
Happens to me too. The inability to control certain situations gets so triggering i spiral down into such negativity
@zila626
@zila626 Жыл бұрын
Me too- you're not alone ❤
@TheCottageFairy
@TheCottageFairy Жыл бұрын
Hello!! I hope you are all well 💖please feel free to share your perspectives down below! I'm only speaking for myself and know there are many other ways of looking at things. To be clear I don’t consider myself a cynical person anymore, I like to instead focus my energy on things that make me feel more fulfilled. Putting time in creativity, familial relationships, and passions puts everything into perspective. I find that if I am ever feeling cynical, I remember that by thinking this way I am willingly participating in a negative cultural mindset, and being part of the very thing that made me cynical in the first place 😂 and I personally want to choose hope and joy and foster resilience in the face of hardships and fears, not a bitter ego (this is all my own experience, I’m not saying this applies to you). At least, applying this has helped me feel healthier and happier and re-train my brain to think differently :) maybe it will provoke some ideas in you! Those tiny portable watercolors I was using were gifted to me by a subscriber!! Thank you so much and I hope you got my thank you letter!!
@HelpMeJesus2
@HelpMeJesus2 Жыл бұрын
Omg that was so cool. I was hoping you'd link to that watercolor kit!!
@khadeejadja
@khadeejadja Жыл бұрын
Hi Paola ! Beautiful video, as always. Searching for meanings in everything in our life and finding meaningful connections are signs of someone with Catalysts/Idealists temperament and I can feel and see that in you. So I'm happily supporting you from afar -upon your quest for meanings and living up a meaningful life.
@palab23
@palab23 Жыл бұрын
God Bless you Paola ❤
@sujathaan7225
@sujathaan7225 Жыл бұрын
That watercolor kit was awesome.hope you make beautiful paintings.😊😘
@ritaking8827
@ritaking8827 Жыл бұрын
The truth is we only have control over what we do. It’s almost impossible to change someone’s mind on anything BUT, we can inspire those who choose to look, ask, seek. That is beautiful, and the very reason not to become a cynic.
@lisadethlefsen4232
@lisadethlefsen4232 Жыл бұрын
I find watching your videos makes me feel like I’m talking with an old friend. Makes me feel more calm and happier. Thank you Paola!
@ritagreene8376
@ritagreene8376 Жыл бұрын
I feel the same
@DaestrumManitz
@DaestrumManitz Жыл бұрын
Being positive is a choice which we make. Exercising it has many benefits. 😊
@HelpMeJesus2
@HelpMeJesus2 Жыл бұрын
What a breath of fresh air, listening and watching: the peace, the quiet, the calm, the reality of what matters. Thank you.
@The-Portland-Daily-Blink
@The-Portland-Daily-Blink Жыл бұрын
Cynicism. Oh, dear, you're not the only one. It seems to be our fate, in one way or another. I'm 57 and can't tell you how jaded I am, how cynical, I've become. But I hope you know how refreshing and hopeful your videos are, and how much people enjoy them. You remind me to appreciate the simple things in life and the importance of protecting innocence. It becomes more difficult as you age and get older. But your perspective helps me...
@Venusbabe66
@Venusbabe66 10 ай бұрын
I hear you sister! ❤ I too am 57 and have tried, like Paola, to be more mindful and live in the moment. It takes practice but has been worth it.
@kamalm.mounir1212
@kamalm.mounir1212 Жыл бұрын
I don't know exactly why I'm growing addicted to those videos; the scenery, the narrative voice & its rhythm, the background music, the narrative itself & its implied themes... Etc.--a rather exquisite & authentic linguistic experience for non-English speakers. Well-crafted content!
@Krisb292
@Krisb292 Жыл бұрын
Her voice is intoxicating. I feel inspired just listening to her. ❤
@ccco8639
@ccco8639 11 ай бұрын
Im a 57 year old woman, sharing the same corner of the world you are. We live in a uniquely beautiful area. Though you are younger than myself, you're a kindred spirit. I'm going to make a guess that you also love soft breezes & sitting in sunbeams☺️ My ability to see beauty and joy in the simple things around us, has carried me through some hard times. We need more of this, in this chaotic world we live in.
@secretagent86
@secretagent86 Жыл бұрын
It is heartwarming to me that your channel has reached 1.4 ish million subscribers. you exude calmness and bring tranquility in a rushed world. we can all get cynical at times. personally i am my harshest critic... a bad habit
@AdventureswithAmirah
@AdventureswithAmirah Жыл бұрын
I wholeheartedly agree.💕
@MelancholyMoondancer
@MelancholyMoondancer 11 ай бұрын
We are always our own worst critics.
@deloreslowndes762
@deloreslowndes762 Жыл бұрын
At the very end, a message I needed to hear....that I can forgive myself and that I can evolve from what I have been. Thank you.
@AdventureswithAmirah
@AdventureswithAmirah Жыл бұрын
So true. 💜
@arenkai
@arenkai Жыл бұрын
I struggle with that exact sentiment quite often. My automatic reaction to a lot of things is to be cynical and jaded, but whenever I think back on those moments the only thing that comes to mind is "That's not me." It's so hard to deconstruct my defence mechanisms... But step by step I'll get there.
@janinafisher101
@janinafisher101 Жыл бұрын
This piece of art is really lovely. It would make a great surface pattern design - like for wallpaper, or curtains, or a shower curtain! I bet a lot of people would love having some of your art translated into home decor on a larger scale! Very sweet. And welcome to sweet velvety bunny Luna. That field of arnica is absolutely amazing. As someone who loves it for its healing abilities, it is so lovely to see what it looks like. Those lupines were gorgeous too... and oh... to be able to wander with all those beautiful mountains around you! Ahhh...
@FinnyC
@FinnyC Жыл бұрын
I instantly have to click on your videos when I see the notification. Thank you for creating them!
@KozyFaerie
@KozyFaerie Жыл бұрын
I’m at the beginning of a healing process and I was very angry for so long and now I’m just tired and lonely. I had to leave a friend group that I thought had my back and understood me. Now it’s time to heal and it just feels so hard to do so. But it feels good to have channels like your to help guide me through it.
@gracemccoy2874
@gracemccoy2874 Жыл бұрын
Healing can take a long time. Be gentle with yourself and allow all the feelings to come as they will. You will learn so much about yourself while you heal. 💕
@flowergirl7260
@flowergirl7260 Жыл бұрын
It's lovely to see your new art and your bunny-angel, Luna. Thanks for sharing your contemplations on your younger self. Cynicism seems encouraged in university and then you somehow have to find your innocence again. Bunnies must help. Painting flowers, too!
@jcasillas78
@jcasillas78 Жыл бұрын
It is easy to fall into this pattern of thinking and not just for young people, I've found myself feelling old and jaded lately. This is a good reminder that we all have control over how we react to the state of the world or circumstances around us. Thank you for this.
@Road2Med
@Road2Med Жыл бұрын
I was also quite cynical a few years, especially in early university days trying to get into the rat race of medicine. Looking back It's sad to see how I and many people around me viewed the world, but I am glad I am not that same person now. Love these vids:)
@matt_lvl1351
@matt_lvl1351 Жыл бұрын
It’s so hard to see and admit to our own character flaws, and many people never get to this point of self-introspection in their life, continuing to hurt themselves and/or others. You are obviously someone who went through a huge butterfly transformation in your life, and I find that very inspiring as I left a career of many years that was never my field of choice to pursue more artistic, family, and personal aims in life a year ago. For me I just keep hearing the universe tell me to slow down and wait. Take things as they come. Also, I read your book recently! As an aspiring writer, I very much enjoyed it - both your prose and poetry. You are a wonderful painter, but also a talented writer - enjoy!
@olgacvetkova114
@olgacvetkova114 Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much, Paola! I've got a difficult week with lots of pain, anger and despair.. Your words, background piano, flowers and little furry friends reminded me that kindness, beauty and harmony truly exist in this world. Your videos are so calming and healing for many sensitive souls struggling to survive in the flow of negativity, criticism and mutual accusations created and stimulated by media. Thank you 🤗🌱🌿🍀🌳🌷🌾🌼🌻
@harrismaher9888
@harrismaher9888 Жыл бұрын
Its a age of Gog and Magog ( Ashkenazi European one-eyed Jews) and Masons the followers of False Messiah ( Who will be the king of the world for the short period in the coming soon in Jerusalem). This is why everywhere is going through devastated war all over the world led by imposter Antichrist from Washington DC and other national international agencies like UN, EU, CIA, FBI, Pentagon etc. Only one they are safe those who are truly religious because they are protected by God. Your government and media is totally lie to you and your people. Never believe in them. Please read the following Book : " Jerusalem in the Qur'an " "The International Jews by Henry Ford" "The Protocols of the Elders of Zion"
@WildNaturebyElizabeth
@WildNaturebyElizabeth Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your honesty. You help me see faults in myself that I should be aware of and it can help me become a better person. Thank you!❤
@DEPARTMENTOFREDUNDANCYDEPT
@DEPARTMENTOFREDUNDANCYDEPT Жыл бұрын
Paola, you are a reliable source of peace, beauty, calm, and common sense. Thank you for all you do. I am always uplifted by your videos.
@rawlyroo5975
@rawlyroo5975 Жыл бұрын
I adore that the birds singing were your background! This beautiful moment is captured and it is a powerful expression of goodness.
@josephstevens9888
@josephstevens9888 Жыл бұрын
Such an uplifting video.... yes, life goes on despite setbacks and tragedies like forest fires and death. Never give up hope... life always finds a way to survive and the results are often beautiful.
@francescawollaston2227
@francescawollaston2227 Жыл бұрын
Dear Paola, what a beautiful take on life, to wake up to on a Saturday! Congratulations on your gorgeous Luna - she is absolutely beautiful ❤. Your message of being compassionate and loving, especially when others aren’t, is inspiring and so true. We are enough ! Love from Australia xxx
@Englishroserebecca
@Englishroserebecca Жыл бұрын
We need more videos from people like Paola. Social media can be so negative. People so angry and aggressive. I love watching her also Kirsten and Joerg. Makes me so relaxed. ❤
@kelseywagner7828
@kelseywagner7828 Жыл бұрын
Matildas journal and Earth angel gemini are other lovely similar channels 💕💕
@pinkroses135
@pinkroses135 Жыл бұрын
That joy and cynicism thing reminds me of the joy of the Lord is my strength verse. Happiness comes and goes but joy is a choice. One I want to make every day.
@northernu.s.a3995
@northernu.s.a3995 Жыл бұрын
I get it. I've become very (what some call) "red-pilled" about life since 2020. Staying positive can be rough.
@kaytaddeo4522
@kaytaddeo4522 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely enjoy watching your videos they are a piece of art thank you for being yourself!
@sheilavanduynfote5539
@sheilavanduynfote5539 Жыл бұрын
I feel so blessed to have found your channel on KZfaq, your voice is so soothing and gives me such peace. I have introduced you to my daughter in law, my hairdresser and my daughter. We all have our times at being cynical I believe the world we live in makes it difficult to think positive thoughts. I no longer watch the news because of the hype and nonsense that is so negative to me and I would get so depressed. I now enjoy my spare time reading and enjoying nature ❤ I enjoy the nature in your area so please continue filming outdoors.
@roblebby3765
@roblebby3765 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Paola for being so transparent and honest in this and all of your videos. I wish we had more of that today and the ability to accept other's opinions even if you disagree with them. As you said, it is much better to strive to make your corner of the world a better place than it is to complain about how bad everything is!
@user-iz4op3eg4n
@user-iz4op3eg4n Жыл бұрын
This video was much needed today. I found myself extremely cynical and sad/angry toward everyone I encountered. I have made a turnaround, and refuse to not be a light in the dark 💛
@petapendlebury9024
@petapendlebury9024 Жыл бұрын
Here in the UK one our main TV channels used to end their evening news with a lighthearted or uplifting story to send you to bed with a smile..... sadly they no longer do and I wish they'd bring it back. I still remember the squirrel who could complete a really difficult assault course to get to the bird feeder and the kitten rescue!
@debbie7116
@debbie7116 Жыл бұрын
The audio was plenty crisp - it's nice to sit on the porch with you. I think many people go through a cynical stage in their college or early 20s - it's all about finding out how the world really is, studying and learning about it, feeling good about your acquired knowledge, and then - oops - looking harshly at those without it. But then you eventually catch sight of yourself in a mirror, re-evaluate your attitude, and grow into humility and understanding. But most people take at least 5 years longer than you - I know I did!
@felicitygrace5113
@felicitygrace5113 Жыл бұрын
It blows my mind how introspective you are, how much self awareness you have. It is wonderful to hear you because it helps me reflect on myself too. Oh Luna looks so adorable... my heart skipped a beat! ❤
@user-gw6rx1qn7d
@user-gw6rx1qn7d Жыл бұрын
Thank you for allowing us to join you for a walk through the beautiful countryside. The vibrant colors are sooooo refreshing and uplifting and I love it. 🥰 Thank you for being brave to talk on this subject "cynic thinking'. We need to always check our behavior to be sure that we are striving to love and accept, to give the benefit of that person is being "their" best. Thank you for sharing your new addition, Luna. She most certainly is beautiful.
@lynnallen1315
@lynnallen1315 Жыл бұрын
I'm very cynical as well. I think I've lived too long and seen too much of the society's underbelly. We just have to keep working on ourselves. One thing that really gives me peace is music and I love the work of Greg Maroney and Marshall Styler as well as Mozart and Chopin.
@margauxpnw
@margauxpnw Жыл бұрын
I know it’s not classical music, but Greg Brown, the granddaddy of folk music, his songs like “Canned Goods” and “Spring Wind” remind me of what really matters. You might enjoy them as well.
@connydm729
@connydm729 Жыл бұрын
​@@Clau.dia48 Hi, the same here in Belgium, me too i´m more on my own, but with animals.... Think i had to much negative things going on with People.... My whole live i feld better by myself and with animals...,Conny
@literary1
@literary1 Жыл бұрын
The combination of the images and music in the first part of this video literally brought tears to my eyes, as I found them so beautiful. Thank you for sharing a part of your life with us.
@jacquelineireland2273
@jacquelineireland2273 Жыл бұрын
May I say I feel you are one of the most authentic spirit on youtube. You do things that make you happy, you tell things that make you uncomfortable, you share a lifestyle that so many admire. If we look closely we can emulate many of your themes and ideas even if we live in a big city highrise. Love your new Luna. She looks like a rex bunny breed. You are like the best friend I never had. I relate to you. Love. Peace. Blessings. From Pennsylvania.
@yac2617
@yac2617 Жыл бұрын
What a beautiful, inspiring person you are. You have reminded me of the beauty of this world 💕
@animoon_1
@animoon_1 Жыл бұрын
as a negative person myself too,I also find it that living simple and peaceful life and moving 'slower' makes me less negative and comfortable (that's also why I really love your videos just gives me so much peace and comfort)❤
@mch12311969
@mch12311969 Жыл бұрын
This came at the end of a rather stressful and anxiety inducing week, thank you, Paola!
@pennygrimes8425
@pennygrimes8425 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing such beautiful footage and message, Paola 🙏
@TeacupAndRoses
@TeacupAndRoses 7 ай бұрын
Hola Paola 💗🌿 Te saludo desde el sur de Chile. I am 48 years old and I feel like this. I am HSP (high sensitivity people) and this "social media world" totally overwhelmed my mind and heart. Almost all there in this world is absolutely bad. It is a very crazy Time in our world. I am feeling exhausted many times... 😢... I'm doing my best to make my part in this world. I have an Instagram account and try to inspire others. My hubby and I have changed our lives from 2 years ago, from the capital city from my country to the countryside. My heart and mind become healthy now, day by day ...
@gabyroldan8151
@gabyroldan8151 Жыл бұрын
This was such a beautiful message. I can relate completely. Thank you for all you do 🥰
@Don-ih4st
@Don-ih4st Жыл бұрын
You make me feel so calm. Thank you for all you do.
@aprilcarl5481
@aprilcarl5481 Жыл бұрын
I look forward to your videos every week. Thank you for sharing ❤
@DanielDogeanu
@DanielDogeanu Жыл бұрын
I'm in that stage of my life right now, and it's horrible! This is why I watch your videos! They bring me hope and a sense of calmness that I don't have in my life right now!
@kimmberlie573
@kimmberlie573 Жыл бұрын
Your videos are pure art. So beautifully done. Thank you so much for sharing.
@violetharmon7518
@violetharmon7518 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate and love you very much , Paola!! Thanks for sharing all this 🍓🩷
@rhondabeaman1
@rhondabeaman1 Жыл бұрын
As always, so comforted by your content.
@sparklesnowadvencha
@sparklesnowadvencha Жыл бұрын
This helps me in so many ways. 🙏🏼 bless your heart.
@ginnatcm880
@ginnatcm880 Жыл бұрын
You're brave. I always learn something from you. Thank you for sharing!
@PhoenixKay1011
@PhoenixKay1011 Жыл бұрын
It feels so good to see someone who can relate and articulate everything so wonderfully thank you 🤍
@daedae181
@daedae181 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate you sharing this. I too have a negative mindset, I'm trying to be positive,but I do slip back when talking to certain people. It's a practice, but I'm working everyday to be better.
@jimgilbert9984
@jimgilbert9984 Жыл бұрын
"Life will begin again." --- The Cottage Fairy "Life finds a way." --- Jeff Goldbloom, from "Jurassic Park" Watching you paint put me in mind of James Audubon and his work illustrating and cataloging America's wildlife, both plants and animals. It also reminded me of how much I used to love to paint. Thank you. ❤ I'm afraid that I have grown cynical. I don't know if it comes with age, a collection of bad experiences, or a combination of both of these. The subject came up once in my school's copier room. After a fellow teacher and I heard another colleague complain about having a bad week and how it's hard to remain optimistic in the face of all the bad stuff going on, I turned to my friend and said, "I used to be an optimist." He noted my use of past tense and asked, "What happened?" "I became a teacher," I said with a deadpan delivery. He stared at me in surpriss for a second, and then he started laughing out loud and shaking his head, drawing stares from the office staff through the open door connecting the two spaces. I even went so far as to buy a T-shirt printed with the words: "I used to be a people person. Then people ruined it." Since I was forced to take early retirement (another source of aggravation and cynicism), I've slowed things down, devoted myself to my writing, and I've had less contact with people. Thanks to that, my blood pressure has dropped down into the normal range again, and my cynicism has abated some (but not completely tbh). I even managed to put a liitle bit of optimism into my novels (though some of my comments on some KZfaq videos have been completely cynical because the videos remind me of bad experiences). Your videos have begun to bring me a feeling of peace and an easing of my cynicism. Thank you. ❤ ❤ ❤
@egrace3738
@egrace3738 Жыл бұрын
I was writing a post with similar sentiments. Teaching made me generally not enjoy people. I am comfortable with my own company in nature. 🤓
@jimgilbert9984
@jimgilbert9984 Жыл бұрын
@@egrace3738 ❤👍
@manicantsettleonausername6789
@manicantsettleonausername6789 Жыл бұрын
What a joy to share in the results of all your self reflections and growth, thank you for sharing!
@joyceconnolly1065
@joyceconnolly1065 Жыл бұрын
What a beautiful sharing you gifted us with and I thank you, as introspection isn't always easy. And, FYI, your outdoor audio was perfect. ❤️
@CristinaFaline
@CristinaFaline Жыл бұрын
You uploading videos always brightens my day. I hope you’re doing well. Thank you for being a source of calm for me and so many others. 🌸🌿
@jewelsmickey1265
@jewelsmickey1265 Жыл бұрын
Well said! So appreciated!
@peggymurphy6747
@peggymurphy6747 Жыл бұрын
This was a wonderful and wise message you shared. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. And it was great seeing you outside and on the porch. Such incredibly beautiful scenery for us to enjoy!!
@justhereprocrastinating
@justhereprocrastinating Жыл бұрын
For a very long time, I viewed cynicism and even depression, as the only correct and possible responses to this world's problems. To realize that the world will never benefit from that was my own personal revolution. In the words of Wendell Berry's "The mad farmer liberation front": "Be joyful, though you have considered all the facts". Joy, that's the bravest answer against opression.
@erinlee7216
@erinlee7216 Жыл бұрын
Lovely video! I know I’ll watch it again, per usual! I enjoyed this immensely! You are such a delight! Your bunny is gorgeous!
@cathylampshire1140
@cathylampshire1140 Жыл бұрын
Loved the outside setting for the video. The sounds were amazing. Thank you!
@shirleymcmurtrie7853
@shirleymcmurtrie7853 Жыл бұрын
I'm feeling such overwhelming gratitude for all you've included in this, Paola, including your precious Luna.
@NavneetVirkPhotography
@NavneetVirkPhotography Жыл бұрын
I came across your channel recently and watched quite a few video. I love watching them. Thanks for sharing this video🕊️
@MySkillfulmeans
@MySkillfulmeans Жыл бұрын
Watching you helps me be a better version of myself. Thank you. ❤
@shilarangarajan
@shilarangarajan Жыл бұрын
Your videos bring wisdom, perspective and tranquility. Thank you🙏
@leighcline-km4fj
@leighcline-km4fj Жыл бұрын
You have no idea how much this message was needed! Thank you for your lovely words and wisdom --from a current (reluctant) cynic trying to unpack it all
@ankita7766
@ankita7766 Жыл бұрын
The landscape is utterly beautiful in this video. Thank you so much! Hope you and your family are in the best of health. I can tell you I have a very judgemental attitude towards myself and others (I am not at all proud of this) and make sure to remind myself not to always see negativity. I must say what you revealed about your younger self is quite identical to what I went through. Only now am I beginning to realize how foolish I've been. Thank you very much for sharing it with us! Your artwork is beautiful. I hope to learn how to paint soon😊
@sunandstarsgalaxy4801
@sunandstarsgalaxy4801 Жыл бұрын
I have started to really look forward to your videos each week! They make me happy to watch, and I love watching you do all your hobbies ❤️
@cathyphegley7848
@cathyphegley7848 Жыл бұрын
I can hear you very clearly and appreciate your outdoor activities so much! All is well😘
@donsronce7298
@donsronce7298 Жыл бұрын
This channel just popped up on phone it resonated with me. Cant believe I just saw this. Thank you for sharing.
@buffplums
@buffplums Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the beautiful mindful peace in your video. Really enjoyed watching this thank you xx
@EnglishCoach3Ts
@EnglishCoach3Ts Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing so authentically ❤
@deborahdedrick8110
@deborahdedrick8110 Жыл бұрын
Another lovely video and loved seeing the spring flowers. I watched the RR podcast with Rainn Wilson as well and really enjoyed it. So much so that I’m now reading his book. Love your videos, messages, and art…….they are the most lovely breath of fresh air 🥰
@ahilaryb
@ahilaryb Жыл бұрын
The outdoor audio is delightful! Love the crickets and birds and wind in the background 😊
@RF1972.
@RF1972. Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your transparency ❤
@all.the.pretty.stories
@all.the.pretty.stories Жыл бұрын
Your videos are always SUCH a breath of fresh air! Thank you!!
@animalnanny8437
@animalnanny8437 Жыл бұрын
how brave to share this with us - thank you ❣
@VagabondWay
@VagabondWay 9 ай бұрын
I love how you share your thoughts and the positive thoughts you express.
@janhhavisarambale7808
@janhhavisarambale7808 Жыл бұрын
Needed to hear this ❤
@marciasimmons9983
@marciasimmons9983 Жыл бұрын
This is a timely post! I’ve been observing the season’s cycles, loving the simplicity of sitting in the woods and moving away from the consistent negative stories in the media world which drain my energy. I love your perspective of promoting more kindness. I share intentions of green woodlands and green pastures full of wild flowers and playful people supporting each other.
@lilyotv9767
@lilyotv9767 Жыл бұрын
Oh Luna is beautiful and I'm heading over to Etsy now - thank you for sharing your amazing life with us!
@YanSAA23
@YanSAA23 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this timely message, I needed to hear it. I also appreciate what you said that tuneup humility is accepting that things go wrong and it’s ok bc it allows for growth to happen. Also btw you’re living my dream life 🤍🧚🏽‍♀️
@sling247
@sling247 19 күн бұрын
A breath of fresh air. Thank you ❤️
@WritingArcadia
@WritingArcadia 9 ай бұрын
"Your soul was made for a kinder world, as were flowers." Your poetry is profoundly beautiful.
@AngelaDeBartolo
@AngelaDeBartolo Жыл бұрын
Awww I love you and Luna! Have a blessed week.
@MiaStayingCreative
@MiaStayingCreative Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your beautiful videos! They seriously make me cry, EVERY time. GOOD tears. Tears of connection. I love what you say about your “character flaw” and how you admit that the negativity mindset was an immature superiority complex. I have many ex-friends who were tainted with the same mindset and I had to separate from them. So happy to hear you (obviously) grew out of it and are now spreading LIGHT for the world. You are a beautiful soul
@K-KidsWatchTimes
@K-KidsWatchTimes Жыл бұрын
Thank You so much for your videos. I am always waiting for your videos.Simple living is most beautiful life anyone can ever have. Your voice and your videos are so peaceful and soothing in all senses... Sending you much love....
@Anupamakiran
@Anupamakiran Жыл бұрын
Beautiful, your videos are so serene. Lovely words of wisdom too💐💐💐💐 good day to you Paola
@tatjana_t
@tatjana_t Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Paola, for sharing this! It is encouraging to know that you also struggled with cynicism and anger...It is an important fight...and it is great to stop being fearful and open your heart! Thank you for this ❤❤❤
@ayemii5729
@ayemii5729 10 ай бұрын
Watching your videos calms my mind and gives me peace ❤️thank you 👑
@user-qh8nh7oe6d
@user-qh8nh7oe6d 3 ай бұрын
Thank you Paola, and bless you. You bring us into a world which is so much better.
@nancymosley708
@nancymosley708 Жыл бұрын
Oh the forest is beautiful with all the flowers. I can only imagine through your videos what it must be like to be there in person. I love the new painting and that travel watercolor tin was neat. Oh your sweet new bunny is adorable. Thank you for sharing your heart.
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