I Called My EX Fiancé During Quarantine
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Yes, I Called my Ex Ovan during the Quarantine. In my book The Game of Desire - in chapter 4 I challenge the women to call their Ex's to gain inside on what they may have done wrong in the relationship. With this time being dubbed the Ex Pandemic, I thought it would be a great idea for me participate with my own little spin.
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If you've ever asked yourself these questions:
Should I call my ex
Was I good to my ex
Could me and my ex be friends
FIRST look over these questions to see if there could be value in the answers they may provide THEN think if seeking the answers may cause more damage than good before proceeding to reach out to your ex, especially during quarantine when people are more emotionally vulnerable. Remember we're all in this together and must be good to each other
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Shan "Boody" Boodram is an intimacy and relationship educator who promotes sexual empowerment through information and conversation. She creates content for young adults to make better choices in their intimate lives and romantic relationships. Shan is the bestselling author of The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance and Getting What You Want
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@squishykim 4 жыл бұрын
"When you remember things very positvely , its because you were probably the negative person" WHEWWWW CHILD, I FELT THAT!
@fatimah230 4 жыл бұрын
squishykim THAT 👏🏾 PART 👏🏾
@carolellamuch9571 4 жыл бұрын
100%
@mimicallsit7675 4 жыл бұрын
That was a word
@laurac86 4 жыл бұрын
This is so true it hurts
@EmpressAshe 4 жыл бұрын
No Not necessarily I know what I did & I know what the person did
@themandinkafamily 4 жыл бұрын
I would like to see Jared have a similar conversation with an ex to see how that past failed relationship helped him grow
@shanboody 4 жыл бұрын
omg I WOULD LOVE THIS!! Do you know the Instagram account instagram.com/werenotreallystrangers/ ? I went to an event of theirs and RANDOMLY ran in to Jared's last ex and the two of us ended up sitting and talking for an hour. It was a beautiful, really cool experience. Jared found it weird but I should ask him if he'd be down now after seeing this
@sovereignnorris7469 4 жыл бұрын
@@shanboody do ittt plz
@melissaruiz3768 4 жыл бұрын
Yes
@d.floydd 4 жыл бұрын
@@shanboody girl power! That's awesome ❣️ I would love to see this too! It's so interesting & would give us anew perspective and a deeper view into Jarods life / past relationships, thus learning even more about him. :)
@CottoncanzyAnnchristine 4 жыл бұрын
Shan BOODY that’ll be beautiful to see! Love this video, of how calm and genuine u both are.
@artmariemakes 4 жыл бұрын
I would rather get hit by a bus then talk to any of my exes again but I like seeing exes talking in such a productive way.
@melissaruiz3768 4 жыл бұрын
Marie lol yup
@ola3rd 4 жыл бұрын
Damnnnnnn 😂
@JungleYT 4 жыл бұрын
LMMFAO
@Tanyalasagnaa 4 жыл бұрын
nothing but facts 🤣
@iKidrauhlsWifey 4 жыл бұрын
Then I feel like you should probably consider it more before you get in a relationship with someone. You need to have strong foundations before you make such decisions.
@BriiRosayy 4 жыл бұрын
There’s all these self-help IG people saying DO NOT REACH OUT TO YOUR EX DURING QUARANTINE 😂 Shan:
@shanboody 4 жыл бұрын
in truth you probably shouldn't reach out to any ex unless there's a lot of time between you. This conversation was only able to be productive because the goal was moving forward, we are both well aware there is nothing to go back for. This exercise in general is all about that, reaching out to an ex if you think it can help you move on to being better prepared for the next relationship, it should not be used as an attempt to see if there's a future in the past. I should have really clarified that Trigga thanks for bringing that up
@BriiRosayy 4 жыл бұрын
Shan BOODY Would you still recommend it while in a committed - married - monogamous relationship? (Like what you are currently in). I guess my follow up question is why do you care about the views of your EX now all of a sudden? Bec there’s downtime and it makes for great content? Or bec you genuinely want to see how that person viewed you?
@Those.who.stay.silent.consent 4 жыл бұрын
@@BriiRosayy It showed her, (and by proxy her husband and her ancient lover) how FAR she came. Hearing about 19 y.o Shan had my jaw dropping because a part from being a free soul, they have almost nothing in common (as far as the Shan i know and follow since YEARS now). I did this exercise with my Ex when I turned my big 30 (now 32) We were 10 months away from our civil wedding and we had our Muslim wedding already, when he was 23 and I was 19.. So turning my back from my own decision made out of love, take my shit to go and become a doctor on the opposite side of the world might have been a ballsy moove from former me, and all ended well for me but.. "Now", 30 y.o me had so many questions without answers, and I felt I owed him some too. I wanted to ease his hurt if he had any, answer unanswered questions, take out any doubts, prove him what I said at 19 was the truth and still stands today.. Also as a "gift " for him, and to tell him formerly THANK YOU for making me a badass African lady who travels the world to help others now, that my crazy dream job became a reality and he has something to do with it. I'm today who I'm, greatly because I met him in my formative years. Even if people think they became great on their own, it is never the case. We are the sum of all the love, all the people and all the hurt we accumulated, met and grew , or surmounted, during key parts of our personal evolution. We are who we are because of our lovers, friends, tormentors, hardships, bad decisions , good decisions etc. Shan you are a fucking stellar human being. You evolution made my heart happy
@dlizzy3835 4 жыл бұрын
Trigga did you really expect her to respond to you when you phrased your questions so antagonistically? And didn't she cover all of that in the video. Did this strike a nerve for you?
@BriiRosayy 4 жыл бұрын
D Lizzy She responded the first time lol or did you not look at the comments?
@naijalayday1500 4 жыл бұрын
It's probably most useful to interview your most MATURE ex lol. Some ex's are still bitter af and cant be objective
@naijalayday1500 4 жыл бұрын
also being able to discuss without a party feeling the need to rekindle
@shanboody 4 жыл бұрын
Excellent point
@anbillie 4 жыл бұрын
Bitter as fuck .. or just done? Some people just dont want your recycled bs.
@naijalayday1500 4 жыл бұрын
@@anbillie Bitter as fuck.
@soldaliberdade13 4 жыл бұрын
definitely - someone emotionally mature, who maybe is in a balanced, healthy place ? :)
@nunyabidness380 4 жыл бұрын
Id rather mop the ocean than talk to my ex, but good for you shan for being so mature!!
@Kyethecreator 4 жыл бұрын
Hiooxo28 Streamer 😂
@nunyabidness380 4 жыл бұрын
KYE THE CREATOR i cant even swim 😂😂
@jelisesantana2303 4 жыл бұрын
Hiooxo28 Streamer 😂😂
@Kyethecreator 4 жыл бұрын
@@nunyabidness380 lmao damn, hats deep........Well thank you for pretty much putting into words how my ex probably feels about me.
@BriiRosayy 4 жыл бұрын
Being mature and being a content creator are very different things
@fuzzbuzz6859 4 жыл бұрын
Ovan seems lovely, articulate, handsome and both great communicators!
@queenbronx3153 4 жыл бұрын
My ex is a narcissist so I could never do one of these with him
@Jeannette03 4 жыл бұрын
Same girl! The past is the past
@tayashley3539 4 жыл бұрын
I feel you. Never ever. The thought of it makes my stomach turn flips.
@heyitsjujuu 4 жыл бұрын
Yep. Blame blame. Is a kid. Asks for money, car, and drinks.
@openheartsavagemind6443 4 жыл бұрын
My ex was a narcissist too. It ended with me putting a restraining order against him. It was bad.
@EllePlowPlow 4 жыл бұрын
Gurl, me too! Crazy thing, if my ex wasn’t a Narcissist I would do this just to see what helpful advice might come of it. But not with a Narcissist. Nope, he would make everything out to be my fault and him the angel when in fact he was the abuser and me the victim.
@QQueen30 4 жыл бұрын
Her reaction when he asked if she had taken the love languages test!! Wow he really has no idea what she's been up to since college lol
@loria287 4 жыл бұрын
As he should. The only person who has been checking up on him and Even dedicating a passage in their book to him is her. That man clearly respected her and loved her and she was on some other shit. He moved on, is happy doesn’t even check in on her to see what she’s doing and that’s healthy of him. Hopefully Shannon will officially move on after this conversation, because she seems very stuck in the past. He said she was an asshole, doesn’t remember being engaged to her, and didn’t get the proper relationship ending yet she’s still stuck on him. Anddd anddd she was making fun of that man calling him denthead. He doesn’t remember much good just all the negative which says a lot about her. She asked if he remembered their song that man said no but I remember you calling me denthead. She said that was wrong and still didn’t apologize to that man on camera only during the rolling credits. Her other ex said the same thing that she was rude and blunt
@priscilla_4766 4 жыл бұрын
Lori Anne um she said it herself that she was rude and blunt and acknowledges that. she is clearly over him just because she remembers more doesn’t mean anything and yeah she might’ve been the toxic one in the relationship but she is self aware of that. have you not seen her with her husband? i’m pretty sure she is well over this guy...
@loria287 4 жыл бұрын
pri i stated myself that she said those things. I even said what came out of her mouth in regards to her other exs. My statements came directly from her so where are you going with this? nobody said she wasn’t over him romantically. What I stated is she’s living in the past even wrote a passage in her NEWEST book that she shouted him out in and the man didn’t even read the book nor care. She also credited him in her first book and again he wasn’t aware because HE DOES NOT CHECK ON HER. She is stuck on him that does not mean romantically. Hopefully this was what she needed to officially move fwd from this situation.
@shanboody 4 жыл бұрын
Lori Anne it’s bizarre that at this point many of you don’t understand what I do for a living and how I’ve chosen to do it. At my core I’m a writer and storyteller it’s what I first went to College for. My first book LAID in 2009 was a vicarious learners approach to sex Ed. I wrote about my first sexual experience there and since then I’ve gone on to share countless stories, some from others and some my own. Even my latest book 10 years later followed that formula: real people and real, vulnerable stories that people can learn from and see bits of themselves reflected in. I began my work as an educator inspired by fiction books and TV shows that got people invested in the message through characters, and stories but the flaw was that it was fake and often had no real-life takeaway. What I’ve always done is use my experiences and stories to inform and inspire individual growth. This channel is not a diary, I share what I think my audience can see value in, I use my experiences, education, resources and things I’ve learned from others (in most cases my audience) in my work. You’re welcome to interact with my content however you please, I’m grateful honestly either way, but to me it’s a great disservice to yourself to look at my content to try to find me - I’m really not all that exciting. I share what I think could be exciting or inciting for others. If you’re interested in me as a person the best place to look is my Instagram stories.
@OnyxxRose 4 жыл бұрын
She’s an Aries sometime we can come of ass blunt assholes but from our perspective we just being brutally honest kind of like a kid but growth. You live and learn 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@verilettu 4 жыл бұрын
Can you do a video how the heck you've become such a great communicator, you can articulate your feelings in such ease and in a really assertive but warm way!!
@shanboody 4 жыл бұрын
Practice, reading, studying to greats and getting constant feedback from all of you. Plus years of speech therapy!
@juniperpunch7751 4 жыл бұрын
@@shanboody you're an inspiration!!!!😭❤❤❤❤
@SharmyyBarmyy 4 жыл бұрын
@@shanboody I was going to ask why did you have speech therapy, then I realized what I actually wanted to know was can anybody engage with speech therapy? (I'm under the assumption that only those with a specific need can)
@JessicaAkAAdiz 4 жыл бұрын
Did she ever mention why she started speech therapy?
@ceeceelove2387 4 жыл бұрын
This probably sounds weird, but Shan seems like such a great communicator 😩😩
@christinarouse1209 4 жыл бұрын
PurplePoplickle why does that sound weird. Why do people introduce their statements by invalidating what they’re about to say.
@Exotixa 4 жыл бұрын
@@christinarouse1209 Exactly!
@Nicreb 4 жыл бұрын
she is a great communicator and it doesn't sound weird 👍🏽
@Venus-pd3ml 4 жыл бұрын
How is that weird
@Iamniko__ 4 жыл бұрын
LOL THIS IS HER JOB.
@thabiisoso 4 жыл бұрын
If HurtBae was more mature, the video would’ve turned out like this ♥️♥️
@DaniielaVergara 4 жыл бұрын
Tabs both parts need to be mature. The guy was just an asshole
@richellec1632 4 жыл бұрын
Hurt bae was too recent for them. It’s been YEAAARS Shannon and her ex
@poutymouf 4 жыл бұрын
Tabs, completely invalid but do you sis! 💕
@henshawosong5469 3 жыл бұрын
It has nothing to do with maturity. Pain and maturity has nothing to do with each other. People develope ptsd from relationships that affect them forever
@joannaw2745 4 жыл бұрын
He’s gorgeous and to now he’s faithful and sensitive makes him more attractive.
@meganmarino2012 3 жыл бұрын
@BlackDrum ...so?
@charliedonescia 4 жыл бұрын
I love Shan’s intelligence & maturity!
@ninag3068 4 жыл бұрын
Hey I was so happy to see you as a coach in TOO HOT TO HANDLE, good work Shan!!
@dolledupdani 4 жыл бұрын
Same my bf was like “do you know her?” I was like yeeaaah kinda 😆
@KtotheB1218 4 жыл бұрын
He’s so sweet and handsome. I mean the sweetest. Such a gentle spirit
@mleekahh 4 жыл бұрын
I CLICKED SO FAST WHEN I SAW THE TITLE. ***this is so therapeutic
@zorriexoxo 4 жыл бұрын
i love that he asked her if she’s ever taken the 5 love languages test 😅
@Srklover17 4 жыл бұрын
z.georgieva men am i right??! She’s a relationship and sex expert but if he asks her is she has ever taken e Quiz. 🤦🏾♀️
@EllePlowPlow 4 жыл бұрын
Such a cringe moment.
@faithfuljohn 4 жыл бұрын
@@EllePlowPlow why is it cringe? He clearly has no idea what she's been doing and that's it. He wasn't talking down to her. He just wanted to make sure she understood why her words meant a lot to him (and to avoid confusion). It was funny, but no one needs to get embarrassed. Now... if he had started to over-explain... that's a different issue
@jessjustreacts 4 жыл бұрын
faithfuljohn 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@misswiggie770 4 жыл бұрын
Series? Yes please! I've learned so much from watching both you and Jared test out this theory of learning from past relationships, by discussing them, because they definitely shape who we are in all relationships moving forward.
@elenastefanova5371 4 жыл бұрын
it's so amazing how you're both able to communicate all those things that went down in your relationship and it's so inspiring that you're able to reflect and be grateful for the experience
@angelsmokee 4 жыл бұрын
Big yes on making it a series! It's so interesting to see what people remember, what hurt them,what they liked about us exc.. because sometimes the other person doesn't even know!
@KhanyiTamana 4 жыл бұрын
Please make this a series, it was so beautiful to see you and your ex just trading memories and being lighthearted and jovial. Continue on with your good work lady. ❤️😘😘
@TheSamanthaEdit 4 жыл бұрын
This was such a beautifully intelligent, adult, powerful conversation! It was really refreshing to watch! Ovan has a really kind spirit. It shined through in this video.
@kennedywhitehead4332 4 жыл бұрын
This would be an amazing series, super interesting. I love seeing people self reflect, I hope this happens!
@nevaehabutler844 4 жыл бұрын
Ovan seems so genuine and kind-hearted!🙌💙
@rebekahrebekah8516 4 жыл бұрын
YES MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS PLEASE! Just watching this inspired me to do this myself someday and I love the open honest communication
@MaiyaJade 4 жыл бұрын
Damn you are such a BOSS!!!! this is so DEEP! the maturity and growth of this conversation is unbelievable!
@toomuchEva 4 жыл бұрын
You’re such a big person to be able to do this. And it’s wonderful to see you give time and space to Ovan to share his experience and thoughts. Actually, both of you are wonderful! It’s so good to watch you discuss sometimes difficult topics.
@ladidodi8912 4 жыл бұрын
This was so heartwarming❤❤❤. Men don't seem to get compliments or thank you's as much as I use to think. He genuinely was grateful.
@Cosmicgrrl 4 жыл бұрын
I saw myself in this relationship, and I now see myself in the you today and I am so glad I found your channel !! Thank you so much for this.
@justSymiah 4 жыл бұрын
Whewww hit hard when she said “ do you feel like there is anything i owe you an apology for” ... that’s deep and so open & vulnerable on both ends . On her end , being vulnerable and open enough ask for criticism and be willing to apologize , and on his end ,being vulnerable enough to share and be honest . Love the open conversation that ultimately helps self reflection and self growth ! This is powerful & revolutionary for love lives Shan !!! Keep it going 💪🏽💪🏽❤️❤️
@ChezzaOuttaNowhere 4 жыл бұрын
I love talking to my exes, I’m pretty detached and aware in retrospect so I appreciate these convos. I loved this video.
@gloryanneromero4076 4 жыл бұрын
Yes to the series!!!!! Let’s encourage maturity and growth for everyone!
@chessc.3407 3 жыл бұрын
“When we can understand our past we can control more of our future” that’s a powerful and true statement that once we get it and apply it, our lives become better in so many levels. I’m SO Loving you and what you continue to bring. I wish/ hope young people are also listening in.
@Cravenn5 4 жыл бұрын
This video truly affirms the love of monogamy❣️True love where it meets the depth of another’s soul.~ without the frequency of others. He’s seems to be an amazing man his wife is a fortunate women!
@kialorraine932 4 жыл бұрын
YYYYYAAAAASSSS girl please make this a series!!!!!!
@aznpridebuhhd 4 жыл бұрын
This was so insightful! I love the honesty and maturity in this conversation. Ever since you first mentioned it, I’ve been considering calling my ex and asking him where my shortcomings were. As I’m now in a long-term relationship with a great partner, of course I want to better myself.
@elikyaa 4 жыл бұрын
Yessss make this a series!!! This was beautiful to see
@alexandriabingham3622 4 жыл бұрын
Yassss make this a series! Also bring back the couple dinners that you had where you asked questions and just had conversation please! ❤️
@ScillaGOHARDX77 4 жыл бұрын
I’m not even fully done with the video but i actually love this videos concept and transparency. It shows the telling of both your right & wrongs coming from a past partner could really help both parties reach the right person by learning from their past wrongs. Thank you for this.
@uwanaibanga9488 3 жыл бұрын
this should definitely be a series!! if anything I'm kind of researching your content to find the words to healthily break ties with my soon to be ex.
@toyatv9130 4 жыл бұрын
I love the transparency, honesty & freeness of this conversation. People are so scared nowadays to look to their past to learn & grow. Thanks for making the abnormal ordinary ❤️ PS: in the middle of reading Game of Desire
@emilylincoln6168 4 жыл бұрын
I'd love a series on this! I'm currently doing all of the individual work of reflecting on a relationship that ended about 2 months ago right around a similar age and place to where Shan was in the story of this video. I'm a very, " keep doors open " kind of person and really find value in seeing my exes as people who I still really like and can have a cordial relationship and with whom we can both say we still have love for each other and took so much from what was shared.
@reneedaniel7734 4 жыл бұрын
I love this! I’m a huge fan of learning from past relationships, they happened for a reason right? My exes and I are still on good terms so I can definitely see having this conversation with them. I love when people can evolve and still acknowledge the good and bad in past situations. It’s so beautiful 👏🏼
@loribelpeguero4358 4 жыл бұрын
Yes I would love for this to be a series
@BelanceM 3 жыл бұрын
Aww this video was cute. I seen healing. I feel like it was a pleasant surprise. And im sorry shan looks back and sees it wasnt as peachy as she remembers. So as she added color to his memory of them. He kinda neutralized hers. But im happy he now understands her and that she even felt happy with him. And became THE shannon boodram due to his support. This was really warm
@whisperywind8768 4 жыл бұрын
your hair looks fire Shannon
@kaianb2405 4 жыл бұрын
This should definitely be a series! x
@bronzebabe1950 4 жыл бұрын
This was surprisingly refreshing
@YourGirlSudanny 4 жыл бұрын
This was such a raw, honest conversation of what you've both taken away from the experience ✨
@amaraj98 4 жыл бұрын
Wow, Shan this was so powerful! I feel inspired to reach out with my ex and see what I could've done differently.
@brional5128 4 жыл бұрын
Yes!! Please make this a series. Loved watching this conversation. I don’t think most of my exes are even mature enough to have a convo like this 🙄
@nnanijolie 4 жыл бұрын
I would like to have a constructive conversation with the person I am currently with...
@andaiibori7205 4 жыл бұрын
???
@nnanijolie 4 жыл бұрын
Update, I actually spoke with my Ex (with the same context) and after deep reflection I think my current is afraid of losing and that’s what is losing me.
@loudandiknowit 3 жыл бұрын
:(
@lindahkjsithole4785 3 жыл бұрын
I can relate wt you
@showmethefood 4 жыл бұрын
Love love LOVE this, please make this a series!!!!
@kasiasmith2444 4 жыл бұрын
This video surfaced for me at the perfect time. Thank you for doing the work, being vulnerable, and sharing 🙏
@talkingwithtyvethia7283 4 жыл бұрын
These conversations are so necessary
@annachristine3187 4 жыл бұрын
When you said the relationship with him feels like an award/gift I truly felt that. This feels so similar to my relationship with my ex. He made me feel confident,secure, and we had such a fun time together. Whole relationship felt like honeymoon stage. I would love to sit down and ask him how he felt about me. I love this vid, thanks for sharing Shan!!
@sistersalima6829 4 жыл бұрын
Oww why did you break up if I may ask
@annachristine3187 4 жыл бұрын
Tiffany Serina we broke up bc I really needed to do some work on myself by myself, I was just out of a relationship when we met and I needed time to deal with that breakup. I couldn’t do that and give him everything he needed
@sistersalima6829 4 жыл бұрын
Anna Christine thanks for sharing your story. I guess the right person at the wrong time is still the wrong person. Good luck on your journey, it’s a beautiful road
@ladidodi8912 4 жыл бұрын
This was very interesting. But I must say, this makes me realize how more emotionally intense and jarring it is to speak to an ex best friend. When Shan spoke to hers, my heart was beating super fast and it felt more nerve racking.
@dajag50 4 жыл бұрын
Yes, I met up with an ex bestfriend and it was just a bit awkward and anxiety filled. It was good afterwards but it was just very different.
@ForeverLovingBeauty 4 жыл бұрын
I love this video Shan! I felt like I was experiencing second hand healing just listening to you both. This was also reassuring for me as I am 20 years old and realized that I was the negative person in my 4 year long relationship. It’s been a difficult pill to swallow but hearing your story gives me hope that I’ll learn, grow & have better relationships with people in the future. ❤️
@thanksinadvance. 4 жыл бұрын
I would LOVE to see a series of this. Also, do you ever wonder if someof your actions/behaviours during your early relationships were inspired/caused by your parent's relationship? This is something I would like to find out about myself too...
@theetravelhippie 4 жыл бұрын
Shannnnn!! GIRL ! Your book is DOPE, I’m half way through it and already don’t want it to end. I also want my boyfriend to read it
@shanboody 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you thank you x a million I appreciate you
@nimoalas9989 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much once again Shan for sharing this healthy approach ❤️ this totally should be the norm, i am coming up to my 30th and have been reflecting a lot especially with quarantine.
@sevendagod777 4 жыл бұрын
Yes! Please make this a series!
@amandeepsandhu9052 4 жыл бұрын
Awww, this was really nice, I'm glad you two had this conversation. It seemed super productive and when you read him that part from your book I really seemed like he was getting that closure that wasn't there before 💜💜
@streetsh1 4 жыл бұрын
This was so mature and dope!
@bishopsgyal 4 жыл бұрын
YES! I would love to see a series!! This was awesome! Now I just want more!
@queenvee9729 4 жыл бұрын
This is maturity. 👏 for both of you
@LoveAndHeartMatter 4 жыл бұрын
I thoroughly enjoyed watching this. This was a great video and message. It was so authentic. In fact it led me to write in my journal about a time when I was in a past relationship and it brought up a whole lot for me. I love this!
@jaazzybabyy 4 жыл бұрын
I love this so much. Some people might think it’s uncomfortable but I think these conversations are so important to have in order to grow. Not only to grow within our relationships, but for growth within yourself. These are people who know us better than we know ourselves sometimes and have had significant impacts on our lives. So hearing our wrongs and and the positive aspects of ourselves are very enlightening to hear
@LumkaJwara 4 жыл бұрын
Yes please to this being a series ... it was very positive
@Thisguyecm 3 жыл бұрын
Yes this is a dope way to heal traumas or misunderstandings
@fedrickabailey8692 4 жыл бұрын
Yes this should be a series💯
@C2G2 4 жыл бұрын
I’m in love with Shan’s hair 🥰 😍
@savannahk792 4 жыл бұрын
This was so wonderful to watch !!!
@elle.roiproductions 4 жыл бұрын
I love this! and yes to every question that was asked at the end. I've been feeling the urge to go on an apology tour since the year started, this video gave me the templet to know how.
@queenvee9729 4 жыл бұрын
To my ex, I'm sorry... I'm sorry that I met you 😔... I'm sorry that I let you violate my soul.
@babifaceluv 4 жыл бұрын
This is beautiful and everyone should do this! I recently reached out to my exes and it was both positive and negative but I loved it and I think people should do this!
@babifaceluv 4 жыл бұрын
If done respectfully and critically it can lead to healing for millions and millions of people!
@moonkoral1009 4 жыл бұрын
This video made me emotional 🥺 I love you Shannon!!!!!!!
@peacelove1230 4 жыл бұрын
I would love to see a video about staying connected during a long distance relationship!
@user-dr4zd3yd7z 4 жыл бұрын
reminds me so much of High Fidelity and im living for it!
@chandlerfranklin8283 4 жыл бұрын
I don't know if i would be down to do this for myself yet. But maybe one day i'd be okay with it. I think its awesome that you're able to foster these types of conversations
@dimpledarling55 3 жыл бұрын
This is a level of maturity (both on Shan's part and his wife's part) that I PRAY to have one day 😂 Absolutely loved this. Such a good example of what this can look like ❤️
@cwash007 4 жыл бұрын
Love the adult interaction and exchange. Kudos to you both for the growth and vulnerability expressed. It was nice (but unfortunate) seeing the 'it wasn't just you, i am non-monogamous even years later' revelation and the load it provided to him. The 'unfortunate' part being wondering where this aspect has played out in subsequent years in evaluating his worth. Kudos again...
@ta-ku5914 4 жыл бұрын
Big ups my man Ovan, definitely giving him a follow
@shanboody 4 жыл бұрын
That’s super cool of you Taku
@MischiefOwl 4 жыл бұрын
So proud of you Shan 🙏🏾
@CallMeWhenPgzFly 4 жыл бұрын
Yes! More chats please! This was a truly inspiring video!
@NathalieKings 4 жыл бұрын
Wow! It's crazy to watch this video knowing that roughly 3 years ago I did this with my ex-boyfriend, specifically my highschool sweetheart. One afternoon we hung out, strictly as friends and I low-key interviewed him about our relationship. To keep it short, it was such an amazing experience to be able to openly chat it up with a past lover. This video was everything I wanted it to be and more! I love you Shannon!
@shanboody 4 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad it worked out well for you and thanks for the love oxo
@paula_mckl3388 4 жыл бұрын
Hey Shan, that is so important work you are doing! Showing the world that its possible to reconnect to your past to clear things up for all involved and learn from it through contructive communication. Really great! Also I value a lot how you give the space for honest vunerable self-reflection through waving the spotlight on past versions of yourself that had learning to do. And for the end an unrelated side note: normaly I scip the advertisement in youtube videos, though with Jared's pleasant voice doing the voiceover I enjoy hearing about square space every time haha :D All the best to you, Paula
@tamarabarrett5900 4 жыл бұрын
Love this! Make it a series!
@44nk96 3 жыл бұрын
I really like this guy, he seems so genuine 💓
@jannelchavez8551 4 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry but “denthead jingle” killed me 😂😂😂
@CharisMaggieTV 4 жыл бұрын
I was cracking up the whole video. So glad you shared this with us. Thanks Shan
@SmartAlex53190 4 жыл бұрын
My fellow Coppinite We were prob there at the same time its a shocker we never met!!! Im very proud of you and your success!!! Keep up the great work!!!!! I even enjoyed your Yoni coaching session on this netflix series i watched!!!!!
@Vxruxxss 4 жыл бұрын
Wow this is such a nice conversation to see
@majaf4105 4 жыл бұрын
for a minute I thought you were going to have that discussion with your toxic ex Ovan seems like such a nice guy anyway Shan, you inspire me so much thanks for all the work that you’re doing, I understand myself so much better because of you keep up the amazing work
@MsDragontooth 4 жыл бұрын
I love seeing ex's helping each other to grow and move forward instead of blind and misguided resentment. Communication can be such a powerful tool if all people try to be reflective, honest and mature. I also love that you and Jared are so secure in your marriage to allow for this kind of conversations.
@PermanentHigh 4 жыл бұрын
That's stupid. You had all the time in the relationship to do that. You clowns are living backwards. That's the entire purpose of a relationship. You partner up with someone against life and you support each other and help each other grow. Post breakup is not the time for any of these conversations.
@MsDragontooth 4 жыл бұрын
@@PermanentHigh i disagree often people grow after a break up especially if it's a long time ago so they gain new insights and perspectivs. Why should you not try to learn from that and have a conversation when you both are more mature to see your wrongs? Sometimes we're not even aware of what went wrong and use that information to build a new relationship.
@PermanentHigh 4 жыл бұрын
@@MsDragontooth If what you say is true, then use your newfound insight and be a better person for your next partner. That partner you treated like trash in the past, that relationship is over. Move on. Now is not the time for conversation. You gave them your worst and now you just want to talk and tell them how much better you are now, a better you they will never get to experience in an intimate relationship. You had your chance and you fucked it up. You don't deserve any conversation.
@MsDragontooth 4 жыл бұрын
@@PermanentHigh i don't think that every relationship ends that dramatically or is that clean cut on who's the "bad guy". You don't need to do something like this if you don't want to but judging others for wanting to use every opportunity to grow is not it either.
@walterdorme8040 4 жыл бұрын
Hey Shannon, I love your content and insight on various topics. Even though I am late to this party on your sit down with your ex, I love the transparency of all the things you and Ovan discussed. It was refreshing and yes you should definitely open up your platform and have exes do this, and learn about the other person as well themselves in areas they might not have seen at the time they were with that person. Shoutout to Jared & Jasmine, they were honest in their conversation as well.
@4islandbeauty 3 жыл бұрын
Ovan seems like a well rounded and wholesome individual. You're both bold and mature for doing this as well as your respective partners because I could never, especially on a public platform.
@shann74 4 жыл бұрын
I did this because of you and thank you Shan, this was important for my journey.
@Iamniko__ 4 жыл бұрын
I would love to see you bringing together internet famous couples or couples in general to talk like this. I think it would be super interesting, but I know many people aren’t willing to.
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