Leave the Black male alone. Stop worrying about who they date. Let them go.

Why would you ever want to date a man who at one point said "I don't date Black Women"? find a man(of whatever colour) who would never say such a stupid thing.

Very hard for me not to give up on my sisters when my own mother was unable to show love or respect to her children. Then, when I started dating them, they were disrespectful and condescending (as my mother was toward me), eye rolling, yelling, hate to listen to sound advice, aggressive, haughty, dismissive, etc. So, I wound up having my daughter (very young) with a Latina woman who treated me like I’ve never been treated before by any sister!! Came back home and married a sister-divorced in 5 years! Have been single for many years now and I’m complemented and engage with other women much easier than my own sisters. I’m trying not to give up on them, but it’s hard when most sisters I meet are just like my mother!

I'm retired from a county government job. While in that job, I was always approached by women black and otherwise. Then once I retired, and became a security guard for extra income black women assumed I was broke, and had no money. Where as other women Asian and Hispanic women still gave me action. So guess what I'm with the women who gave me attention, and it was not my black sisters.

Well, if more BW didn't consider BM computer programmers unattractive, maybe things would be different. We're not all rappers, and ballers you know.

I haven't dated a black woman in almost a decade. And I'll tell you my brothers, my life is much better for it. I work around sisters, I know a lot of them from childhood. But I just don't date them. It's refreshing not having to hear the rhetoric, and experience the behavior.

I HAVE SOME ADVICE FOR THESE LADIES....being desperate is unattractive....very unattractive

I married a black women once.Never again,with one life Iam doing what I want to do date who I want to date period.

Black women want to be in control but the man is the head of the household.

Why do they even need men? They have the government to support them.

room full of simps.lol

putting someones else's hair in your head is self hate..period

@10:30 ... soo... you're saying that I hate myself because I don't like a woman that happens to match my skin color? I hate myself because I don't date ghetto females, which in my personal experience is the majority of the black women I've met or run into? So what you're saying is that I hate myself because I don't want you. You (as a black woman or man) do not define me. NO black woman defines me, so therefore I do not hate myself even if I went so far as to hate YOU. I love other women that aren't YOU. That doesn't mean that some magical arrow is pointing back to me and that means that I hate myself. I don't owe black women ANYTHING. I don't owe you as in NEEDING to get with black women, I don't owe you as only marrying a black woman, and I don't owe you as in standing up for you when you are wrong.

I tend to feel when black women get bashed that it's like being young children again...like when we get our hair pulled or something thrown at us...but deep down, the boys like us and can't express themselves properly...that's how I feel now...u say 'not all' but start off saying 'black women...' and never say anything nice...I want to say much more...even wanted to do videos but when I think about it...it hurts so much all these videos I feel it's a waste of my time...I love black men to the core and I'm just going to remain hopeful...best I can do...ladies u need to NOT bash back and be patient too

"Room full of weaves, not of their texture, and the spoken word girl says "They pay to look like me"! I'm surely in the Twilight Zone SMH." BIONIK DIKK dude i had to quote you.

I don't see why black woman complain about black men dating white women when black women try they best to imitate a white woman.... I'm confused af.

I'm a white male who is married to a South Korean female. I didn't marry my wife because I do not like my own race or any other race, I married my wife because I met her, she is a woman - a very smart, beautiful and amazing women who I fell in love with. That being said, my feelings about our amazing black women go like this. I have known and loved black women my entire life- 56 years. I was raised in a predominately black neighborhood. I joined the Army at age 17 and was assigned to S. Korea- where I met the woman I would be with for the rest of my life. The black women I am acquainted with and work with each and every day are quite educated, clever, down to earth, beautiful, magical and have so much to offer. God bless our black women!

Room full of weaves, not of their texture, and the spoken word girl says "They pay to look like me"! I'm surely in the Twilight Zone SMH.

I'm the black woman's biggest supporter; but it's kinda hard to root for them, when they diss me every chance they get. They say they're strong all the time. News flash: A man doesn't want a woman who's always combative and declaring her strength. We want a woman who is feminine and non-conflictive. It would also help if they didn't wear horse hair in their heads, and had bad attitudes. I am 30 plus years old, and I've been trying to stick with black women all my life. Looks like i'm gonna have to go outside my race or outside of African American in general to find peace when it comes to women.

18:00 "When we get home, I'm going to let you know..." And that's why black men aren't marrying African-American women.

They don't date Black Women? Good, more for me!

Hello everyone, I love black women. My problem is the majority of black women I meet are interested on if I have a car, my financial assets, have an attitude, concern with private size, can't even except a guy walking by & saying hello. They'll keep walking by without a word. Majority will prefer a rough neck/thug or someone I guess they feel who can manipulate them, & most have kids. I'm a truck driver, Navy vet, raised by both of my parents, no kids & what I get all the time it that I'm handsome , why are you alone. I'll like to know is the generations now, the one before & after losing our self control, spirituality, the ability to to hold on worth keeping. I'm at the point where I watch videos such as this one & get emotional because it's sad. I'm from Brooklyn NY, for those who know about NYC know it's crowded & no room for us to grow mentally among others. I won't give up but I'm 40, I'm really tired. When I was in the service my brother & who I thought was my lady had a sexual relationship. I have stories. I won't give up because I think sisters are beautiful in every sense of the word. Check me at deja by open mic experience. Tell me what's wrong with me

Black male here: For all of those people who feel personally insulted by the generalizations made on these type of videos, I'd like to share the greatest piece of advice I ever received courtesy of my late grandmother: "If you care about what someone else says about you, you make them your master." Throughout your life you will be slandered based on your gender, race, sexual orientation, interests, political positions, (put your favorite here). By giving any credence to what any person of any ethnicity says to you, you forgot that only your opinion of yourself is what matters the most. By caring about what 'some (race here)males on youtube' or 'some (gender here) idiots you meet in life' are saying is literally like saying "God, or master said this ... I am giving it credibility. It's of the utmost importance to me. Their silly ass opinions matter." I say fuck em. The mind thinks by association. I'm not even going to respond to someone who has prejudices about me based on their experiences with another black male they've met. I don't need them to love me. I love myself. You are going to find someone that loves every part of you as long as you love yourself and live to your fullest potential. You won't even need them then. It will be like an accessory to the full, loving self image that you have already created for yourSELF. Hurt people HURT people.

A man shouldn't compare himself to woman. Why should a woman's strength take away from a man's strength...if anything a strong man, should want someone that enhances his strength, supports him and even carry him if he needs it. This is not a stand off. Let women (all women) be who they are. Sista love yourselves and never feel bad about being strong. Strength is attractive.

Just one of my thoughts most black women pay top dollar to look European they buy European hair they dye their hair blonde they change their eye color and wonder why men go after European women. only if black women new and understood how beautiful, and how much we need, want, love and appreciate them if they could see the power and beauty that they possess, so much more....

I think if they did a little more listening than talking, they would understand a little better

Dating a black woman is living life in Expert Mode.

I think this title and subject matter is very misleading, the Vast majority of Black men date Black women and we all know and see this everyday, now their maybe a few men that have a racial preference for whatever reason and that's ok, now the true questions is why don't black folks get married any more? Why are we ok with being baby mamas and daddies and that for the most part comes down to our change in priorities and morality. As far as the few Black men who don't date Black women because they have had experiences with Ratchet ones well that's your fault, if you want intelligent educated, healthy Black women then go to College involve your selfish in fitness and you'll meet well educated fit sisters all day.

Not trying to be funny but I've never seen this many black women together and not act belligerent.

I found out early in life that to date bw you have to be a character. 43 years of living now, and they still love clowns.

oh yeah angry black women way to convince me to come back to you

Solution: Dont act a like a man! Youre Welcome

We're still having these same discussions in 2017..... Smh. And every time we have these discussions the elephant in the room is NEVER addressed and that is the fact that A LOT of black women REJECT good decent black men for shallow/superficial/materialistic reasons..... Not enough money, not enough swag, an old car, not tall enough, not enough muscles, to big, to skinny, to dark skinned, to light skinned, etc. Now there are other factors that go into black men not wanting to date black women but I just laid out the main reason here in this comment. Black women REFUSE to address this whenever this same tired lame discussion is brought up and it's getting old. I feel like black people should just date and be with whoever they want IF they can't find a suitable black mate to be with?

It's too late.lady's.we don't want you no more.WE Out.

Good dialog! Respect, authenticity and attitude all key to a person being attractive and datebable.

When i was younger, i thought about not dating black females. Here's the thing, they reject good men for bad men. Every time i see a black female she's with some bad boy, then comes back to a good guy crying on him saying i'm sorry will you take me in after she been used up and had kids with the bad guy. While this is true, i did some thinking and i asked a lot of question to my mom and female friends. Females are unstable, their emotions, hair and periods are messing them up. A lot of black females aren't being raise up right. Luckily me i found myself a gf, a fine black young lady. I convince her to stop wearing weaves and all that makeup. She has natural beauty and her hair is perfect. I understand about weaves, my mom cut her dreads and use weaves, and wigs until her hair grew back. Also us guys needs to stop trying to make ourselves seem perfect. Now us guys wants a big booty woman with big breast and a good attitude. Sometimes it's not like that, you have to stop and think about who would make a great wife. Most black females don't have big booty and big breast, some just have a big booty or big breast. We have to stop being immature and picking on these females about their hair. We're not perfect, so that gives us no right to judge females. I understand that SOME black females are bad, but that doesn't mean we have to go picking at them. Trust me if you seen those videos about men gluing hair onto their head, you wouldn't be saying anything. With me i am half Mexican and half black so when i wake up, i really do nothing to my hair because it's curly. Anyway I've seen so many black females reject good men until they realize, good men are rare and sometimes black females will realize they rejected a good guy by getting use up for sex,money or worst by the bad guy. So men stop trying to act perfect cause we're not, and female get it together.

Let the black man go. He's not worth fighting for. The black man does not want the black woman, so let them go....don't sweat it. Good you don't date black women. The black man is perfect girls...stop fighting and accept that fact that he feels superior to you...let him go. Bye Bye. Please stop caring and save yourself time, money and undue stress. Bye bye birdie. Here's your mantra..I don't care...go..go..go!

A lot black women do too much but there are some good black women out here also. I am marrying a black man myself so don't give up on black women. Be strong and realize that there are good women out here. You choosing wrong women is your fault. Work on yourself and that women will come.

It's weird all of those beautiful "intelligent" sisters in the room, trowing innuendos from left to right, not one has pulled out or mentioned a study that supports the subject matter. who told these women, black men don't date black women. Most black men i see are with black women.

Nationalism or Feminism...the black woman must choose.

Any man who would say this is not a real man. And, factually, the percentage of black men who date outside their race is estimated to be less than 20%. So we are talking about a very small demographic of black men who embrace self-hatred. This type of story is very counter-productive and embraces conflict rather than dispelling destructive media memes being employed by the dominant society to divide us.

be respectful submissive and feminine

THE POET IN THE BEGINNING WAS GREAT!!! Real Talk!

42:35 "we have not made it as a race" I am a BM but! Consider this. If you have 4 islands (a) with 100 White women (b) 100 Chinese women (c) 100 Indian women (d) 100 black women, on each island put 100 black men, isolate for 100 years then go back to each island. Island (a, WW will be modern) (b, CW super advanced) (c, IW hard working) (d, BW ghetto). The biggest contributory factor that makes them all different is the way women select partners & treat their men. (Female Seletion) that cultivates BM over generation is one of Natures Laws that BW chose to ignore or don't understand & WW are not going to help BW to understand. Good or bad Wright or wrong I can't judge but, it would be good if I am proven wrong. If Men are responsible for quantity then BW are responsible for the quality of BM in their culture. Have BW dropped the ball? I can only say men push & women steer. BW have got exactly what they have ordered, if BW want to change then BM will have to change & want to date BW.

9:58 Why does a man need to "outman" a woman? why does a man have to be "enough man"? I think that this way of thinking is key issue here.....

I gave up on our race of men a long time ago. I strictly only date outside of my race. Black women were weaves seem to be their only excuse. In the end weaves aren't permanent but surgeries are.

The black female in white at the beginning of the video looks like a super hero.

Where were you beautiful ,perfect ,loving, understanding and supportive black Women in the 35 years of my life of dating you all. I'm 49 and I'm finally happy with my Asian Queen. I love her and found all of the things I wanted in a woman.

There are SO many issues facing the Black community, I cannot believe this conversation about not stereotyping ppl is STILL being had. These are lesson we learn as children. if a grown person watches a reality show and can not recognize the difference between his real life and entertainment, it's very disturbing and sad that we are STILL talking about this very elementary topic. It's embarrassing.

These little discussions aren't deep enough to explore the depth and root of what the core problems are.

I see that one of reoccurring sub topics in this conversation is representation & the stereotypes created by the lack of positive representation of black women. I feel that this an multifaceted issue caused by several things including what I mentioned above. If I had time I'd chime in my two cents but conversations like this should continue, great work!

This is pretty cool. This is a discussion on a sensitive subject. BUT no one is being emotional!! Amazing, I love it

Listen I once too at one point in my life gave up on black women. I felt like they were very loud and materialistic and looking for the guy with the fast money. So I changed what I liked and started dating others. Yeah I was treated well but it was still something missing my heart wasn’t full. True story I was on my way to work and I seen this black woman man I thought she was really beautiful and sophisticated out of my league I thought to myself but I remembered what my dad told me.(what’s the worse could happen she say no) long story short we’ve been married for 22yrs. Brothers don’t give up on black women please there are plenty of great ones out there looking for you.

the natural hair comment killed me bc I have seen so many black men be against natural hair....and she was right when she said they go for the fake stuff.....which I'm not opposed to bc what our black fails to realize is that a lot of Blk women's hair is not considered professional and I feel that maybe why a lot of Blk women wear fake hair as well and its can be convenient....

Linda Moore, when I read the introduction, it moved me. The core of the video is to find solutions to a serious CRISIS. Be a part of the solution and not the problem. Even with my interracial spiritual relationship, I'm still a part of the solution. Jana's know everything and I tell her about my disagreement and plight with "black" females. I am open to dialogue with anyone on this issue. My love for Jana's is divine and we are spiritually comparable. Love and let's love be LOVE.

Think that was the most profound thing I heard in this video, coming from a fatherless home myself and my mother having to be both father and mother created a dynamic that is unnatural and is carried on in daughters today.

I am so disappointed with the discussions in this video. Everything they are saying is so superficial. They are not addressing real issues and the root causes of why so many black men say the things they say about black women here in America. I feel that the real problem in this video are the men in this video. They are not saying the same things that hardcore black men say in videos on KZfaq; therefore, it is a boring, lame-duct conversation. I think the men in this video see these beautiful black women face-to-face and are afraid to say the things that they should say. They are afraid of offending these black women in the video for fear of also offending the men in this video who may be their husbands, boyfriends, or friends, etc. It's either that or the men in this video simply do not the real root causes of why black men say the things that they say about black women here in America.

men have told you - you dont and wont listen

Tried to date a black woman, but she went nuts and accused me of stalking her, so I'm back to dating other races. Do not need the drama.

I love this dialogue it is what's really needed in the black community when it talks about black men and black women this is positive communication thank you

It's amazing how toxic the comments are about black women....this is so sad

Women have altered their hair and appearance for millions of years, period. Those with straight hair want curly hair and vice versa. Judging women by their choice of adornment is very suspect. There are many fine black women in the world just as there are fine women of all types. Like attracts like. Blaming one's dating problem on a whole group of people is absurd. You enemies have taught you well.

Interesting conversation x

Great discussion and very informative. Many of the comments below are disheartening and very shocking to read. There's way too much hate for one another. It should not be like this.

Sounds racist. I don't like this type of talk from any race. I don't reject black women. I accept all women. That means I will date any woman who I feel is best qualified to be with me based on my personal prejudice and discrimination based on what I look for in a woman that I feel would best suit my needs as a man in this world. When I accept all races of women I am not rejecting black women. That is a stupid notion.

All that weave in the room. Wonder how many black kids they could send to college if they stopped wearing weave for 18 years.

I honestly fear the modern black women will most likely never understand that beauty will never be found in their hair, clothes, social or financial status, but by possessing genuine grace mixed with submission; Attributes that can't be aquired with money, but only through a strong and genuine relationship with the Lord....

Im a black man and I LOVE BLACK WOMEN!!!

Have to agree with Why Knot Now on this one... the opening poem is very desperate and insecure. Why are all these lovely and desirable Black females running blindly in behind Black males??? Let it go sista soliders...stop solidering for Black men. Get a life of your own (a professional career, financial autonomy, feminine wardrobe, make-up and hair, a social life that includes diverse outings, hobbies)...and the right men of any shade will be knocking the door down. Unbelievable how the Black community has indoctrinated its females!

Interesting talk. I don't feel like I heard enough from the men. There are probably plenty of reasons why Black Men don't date Black Women, but those reasons were not well represented here. I don't blame anyone but the men there for not speaking up much more. However, as usual, women love to talk instead of listen. I couldn't think of a better time for the women in the room to yield more time to listen to what the men have to say. The women were mostly defensive, trying to legitimize dating Black Women while quickly dismissing any negative comments about Black Women. Also, I'm surprised how much time was spent talking about hair. I'm not sure what to make of that... Generally, all I would add is that "I don't date Black Women" is not a problem that Black Men have to fix. I heard these Black Women say many times "Black Men need to do X, Y, and Z." No we don't. We don't have to do shit, actually. It's simply not a problem we are required to solve. Ultimately, Black Men have the freedom to choose, and if Black Women are not the most desirable potential mate on the market, guess what... they're going to be skipped over for someone else, and in today's market, Black Men are not limited to dating within their race. And with the power of the Internet and air travel, Black Men are not geographically limited either. Let me put it this way, the first time I was called a Black Prince was from a white woman, and I'm no stranger to Black Women (up until recently, perhaps).

Great video. Very informative.

don't invite me to these speak easy because I'm going to let it rip!

Just before I discontinue watching this Painful Display of #SelfHate and particularly in front of #whiteFolks....I in no way can take ANY of the presenters / speakers, SERIOUSLY! You would NEVER find an OPEN Discussion about a Racial nor Cultural topic that is posing such a devastating impact on a Group ....#InPublic for the WORLD to See & Hear! #CloseThatBathroomDoor!

I really feel that you can't help whom you fall in love with. I've seen beautiful black women with some beautiful black men. it depends on the situation it's not base on color,your race or ethnicity. how you compromised on each other. 50/50 relationship

I only date black women but it is so challenging. The attitudes and being combative is a recurring theme and who has time for this. The only man in my relationships should be me. I'm more attracted to BW but now thinking about what its like to date other ethnicities of women. I may be forced to date outside of my race.

This is a great discussion

Firstly we discuss things in generalities and patterns. This is how we process information. Ofcourse there are exceptions. Im sorry but when 70% of black women are not married its time for them to do an introspection. Stop deflecting and ignoring the elphant in the room. Behaviour! Black women have no clue what men want. Men want a feminine, kind, & submissive woman and most black women are not. Majority have comabive masculine attitudes, they have musltiple baby daddies. No amout of talking will make black men find this desirable.

basically black men have bought into the hype.

Great discussion. I would like to attend one of the events/groups. When is the next one?

My man Bryson Tiller was in the back going to town on that food @ 3:05 lol

Many chocolate men date and marry chocolate women....the vanilla media puts those stigmas and statistics in our heads to separate and weaken our spirit and love for each other....chocolate love people chocolate love 4ever

I love black women ... and will never give up on y'all

I would love, yes love to have been sitting in this type of up-front meeting, some very good points indeed and thank you posting this, seems too much draft as if there's a door that needs to be closed, but I understand. ps; I'm not against dating out of my race and I love / want an amazing black woman, ps; I'm black ok, yet I've seen a great deal of what's been said about them and I've hated it.

I couldn't make out what they were saying, the audio has a lot of background noise.

This is some messed up sh*t!.

You don't change a persons mind you start by changing there heart, and with the BW stereotype there a DIFFINETY cons and pros STOP ALWAYS TRYNA Be like the next person or race🤦🏽‍♀, I believe there is a time and place for everything and people shouldn't just be 1 particular way you should definitely be VERSATILE, learn to love yourself and in return you will love your people more than ever❤ #MuchLove

New topic. Black men who love to date black women.let's focus on that.

stand with black men and protest the child support system!! let's demand the courts to restructure it's policies to incentivize family Unity..until then we headed separate ways

You don't date black women? So!! I don't like Frosted flakes, I don't like stupid people, I won't date asians (ever again). I don't like white men (I don't see the big deal.. I dated them, they not all that..) I like nerds! This is just my preference! Everyone has a preference!!! Oh well!!

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Amazing great points

I really did enjoy this we need honest more dialouge like this

The only black man that ALL black women respect and will never have an attitude with is a Pastor.

Throughout my tenure in my college, I recalled playing a game with my friends called "who can count the most weave on the campus," and black women will always win on that department, they even dominated in the fake eyelash department as well.

was this filmed in the middle of the freeway? I had to put my speakers real high to hear what they're saying.

However I can't watch the whole video because ReGuardless, I'm a black women who respects all men, from all back grounds, shout out too all our Brothas I Thank God for you, I know sometimes life can beat you down, But you are unique in my eyes, You are Gods Gift, You are stronge even durning your least of moments, Thank you for all your love many of you have showed me, lol not speaking sex, Speaking Real Love, A shoulder to cry on, A hug, Thank you for always giving me that smile and telling me to keep my head up, You are the reason I'm the Good women I am today, Because I was so Blessed to have meet Such Wonderful Brothas. In My life, Thank you for being my friend, My brotha, ...GoD BLESS....

watching the entire video. I have to run away from BM. The behaviour is disgusting!

date who every you want shut the hell up, and move on.

She got me turnin my wheels with that green dress on.

Black man I love you just the way you are, it is most important to me that you are very happy with who you are and happy with what you do. I AM.........