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Massive respect to the guy on stage! But also massive respect to Julien, I’m kinda tearing up right now. He believes in people so much even when they don’t believe in themselves.

I normally don't leave comments on youtube due to the same phobia that this guy has, fear of people judging me, embarrassed about being my authentic self, but after watching this I decided to post this comment becuase Julien has inspired me and given me courage. I can't imagine how I would be if I was on stage in front of those people, but I think sometimes it just takes a bit of courage to be ourselves.

guy that was on the stage, if you are reading this, i feel you man, im rooting for you and thanks a lot for doing it

Massive respect for real! I probably would've shutdown & knew later what I should've said. I hope he can get out of his shell & showcase who he truly is.

I can remember feeling like this man. Ive come a long way and it can be done. I can dance with and talk to anyone and speak in public. But i remember my heart beating out of my chest in school if the teacher called on me or aftaid to raise my hand even if i knew the answer and no one else did. I've definitely experienced trauma and thats probably what started it. But thats in the past now and life goes on. Gotta either sit down and accept the lose or stay up on stage fighting for yourself until you can't fight anymore.

Sometimes people seem to freeze because they are waiting for a “permission” from the outside world. Growth came when J realized that I don’t need permissions.

Am proud of him. Self judging is what eats me up when I feel embarrassed than I sink to self hate and wishing I should not be alive among the beatiful people around me which makes me happier been alone at the corner watching people having fun

This was probably the greatest video about anxiety. We overthink , and we don’t feel our emotions. You cant express without emotion. Go cry. This is also for me as well, I repress emotions/opinions , not this bad but I do . We dont know how to live with who we are shamelessly.

I loved how the audience started engaging him so he felt comfortable opening up. I am learning so much from you. My bar is so high - I need a sledgehammer to lower it!

I wouldve honestly started crying. Feeling ashamed and judged for not being able to articulate or do "whats expected" of me. As someone who was always the new, weird kid (many school changes/moves) i became quiet and introverted. As i got older i learned to come across as confident and tried to showy authenticity but was constantly "validated" that people didnt like that person and would feel judged, critisised and my people pleasing nature would often be taken advantage of. Now im trying to be ok with my authenticity, regardless yet, still have few friends or people that get me. Its so tempting to just retreat back in my shell because it feels I will never make friends no matter whether im masking or authentic. This makes socialising, workplaces etc feel overwhelming - im so used to being judged and found lacking that I cant trust others or their intentions anymore.

Feeling judged is absolute reason why i often being here 😅

Wow that was rough but beautiful at the same time. Massive respect to the teacher, student and the class. You all have so much love and patience. This, while not necessarily was exciting or entertaining, the process was needed to be worked through; not just for the student up in the front. Great work everyone!

Well done i'm so proud of him pullin through, this video probably got recommended on YT i'm also an introvert and so shy for 28 years now. Tnx 4 helping him, being shy can make your life a living hell like you don't belong. I managed to overcome my fear of being shy just by being angry it took me a long time but it change my life drastically. Also i call it: "THE HULK EFFECT"

I’m terrified just watching this

This resonated with me. I really know what that feeling of being blocked is like. I'm grateful for the opportunity to see it from the outside (huge respect and thanks to all participants in the video). And it's just this past year I'm beginning to relearn that you can create good things for yourself in life, better your situations. Instead of waiting, thinking that something outside of you will give permission or provide it for you or that you can "earn" it by suffering (which have been some of my misconceptions). When you listen to yourself, your needs, and care about yourself, the arena of possibilities changes. And also getting open to realizing that you might have been wrong. That the harsh judging voice inside have led you to believe a bunch of things on how the world works. Maybe you don't have to be all these additional things. You are okay. Period. Really. Life isn't meant to be struggle free however. But when you get on your own team, on your side, it can take away a lot of the suffering. Like Julian said with the cold showers. How it's about being okay with the feelings, the uncomfort. And the feelings that arises when we are challenged in other ways in our day to day lives. Knowing that our minds might be unkind to us in those moments. Trying to remember that we are worthy of love anyway, unconditionally.

Call me a cynical bastard but Julian should give these anxious types more room to express themselves when they're on-stage. He quite often interrupts them and touches them; these are kind of demonstrations of Julian's higher status, and the anxious person's lower status. He should try his best to put himself on the same status level as the anxious person on stage. It would help them open up much more.

What you're doing here man is incredible. It's helping so many people like myself. So thank youuuuu.

Dude this became so heartwarming to me. Everyone there and the guy at the front and Julien. Damn. All of you. 💯. Respect.

julien your vids changed my life im very thankful

Julien you're so special bro 😂😂 I love you

I am just another person to tell Julien he's doing an amazing job. He is helping so many people. I want to be like him. Not on stages, but with the people around me

Damn Julien hats off to you and to this young gentleman, I hope he finds it within himself to open up and become his true MAR! Your patience and mastery of social cues and psychological thought patterns are something to be grateful for. These seminars spark something this generation is losing due to technological advancements and modern vices, so I thank you! 😛

Thank you! Exactly what i needed, especially today. The high bar was an eye-opener

greatest julien video i ever seen! keep up the good work

i feel for this guy so hard :( I still have this part of me that feels a lot like him (introverted, scared to say the wrong thing, etc) but watching him squirm up there under the horrifying pressure he was put under helped me realize just how much progress I've made in terms of honoring how my inner child feels and wants to express himself. Thank you for the work you do julien your videos help me to feel like I'm on a good track on days when I start to doubt myself!

I suffered from social anxiety. I gave people and their opinion alot of importance. I discovered Julien and finally was able to let go. His videos helped me alot. Thanks a lot Julien ❤ your videos really brought me out of my shell.

I absolutely love the full process of Julien getting the guy to being as comfortable as possible. Focus on it, its crazy.

I have been scared of rejection and what people think of me my whole life. I don’t care anymore I embrace people judging me.

Thank you. This was great

This has been your best video so far

This resonated with me deeply. Thank you for doing what you do. 🙏

Dude- this is Amazing. You are great at what you do

Amazing outfit as usual, you rock it man🔥🔥

Julien coming to NJ/NY anytime soon these videos are amazing I feel like I been under a god dam rock I didn’t know you existed all this time!

Some of us need this pressure. Face your fears people🥳🥳🥳

This is incredible.

Julien really knows what he is doing. Blows my mind.

When will you be back in Seattle?! I'm so disappointed that I missed you! I need this SOOOO much!

Julien, I would a huge amount for these videos. Thank you.

Julien bro, you need to make some crazy ass merch. Let’s gooooooooooooooo

There's spiritual content and then there's this. Its just as important! If you can't be an open book you're never truly alive. Other people become your puppet master. Thanks Julien.

17:30 best bit in your whole channel. Hands DOWN. The way you just screamed at him with passion and anger looks like it's from a movie. I too feel sorry for that guy because you really wanted to help him but he still couldn't really let loose.

Incredibly honest coaching. Julien has turned me into a big fan. This guy struggled. The way Julien wrapped this up at the end was beautiful.

Amazing value in this video

Pheeew! This was hard to watch. I almost couldn't finish this one. I know that "deer in the headlights" look and what feels like the inability to think or speak. For me it came from a whole lot of violence and screaming. Looking back I can see why and when I started going into survival mode (freeze). Now days, trying to shake that response to fear has proven to be the single most difficult thing I've ever worked on. Massive respect to this guy!

This coping exercise is really good, I personally would increase the dose a little, imagine that in the audience there were people who don't like me, or even people who hurt me in the past. I think that imagining that situation would be an addition when it comes to delving deeper into our fears.

You did it once you did it again. That is the perfect mantra to keep in your mind

well, the reason is not "being an introvert" but still true for most of the introverts

Julien keeps it real af

That was awosome actually i really got inspired by this guy massive respect 🤝🏻❤

Haven't watched it yet, but thank you Julien for the 50 minute video!! 😊

I looooove this, just amazing

This more or less was me as a teen. It sucks. I really wish him the best and hope he gets more help.

I can understand where he is coming from. APPLAUSE to you! From my experience back in the day, growing up in an Asian culture, in kindergarten and school Rules: No questions, no free speech. I feared kindergarten, a teacher once locked me in a dark room, because I was talking when I was not supposed to, or I giggled. And said if you are not sensible, crows will pick your eyes out. And other incident, my brother got caned, because he drank water from the fountain, when he wasn't allowed to. Glad we were able to move. Would have been more emotional damage.

That was really good to watch and i really can compare to him!

Watching this made me soo anxious for him.

This is an AMAZING video, it's like he's talking to me

This was really hard to watch, because I've related too much. I've almost closed the video several times I'm used to very fast almost unconscious masking, to put out what I think I supposed to put out. And if there are a lot of strangers who I cannot read in milliseconds I simply shut down. That was very powerful and great. Thank you!

Go Julian Go!

really great job there my guy

I gotta wonder, when did everybody get so quiet and nervous? I mean there’s no way there were this many people so nervous back in the day

You are doing God's work out here bro appreciate you!

Julien you are the best , a master ❤

Keep trying There is no way but to reach ❤

Massive respect

00:00 🗣 Understand the origins of shyness to overcome it effectively. 03:41 🧠 Embrace discomfort to expand your comfort zone and build confidence. 07:56 📣 Practice vocal expression to unleash your true potential. 10:49 🗣 Choose your level of expression, whether quiet or loud, but be authentic. 12:20 🔄 True change happens gradually and becomes a natural part of you. 16:44 💬 Authenticity trumps perfection; express yourself genuinely without overthinking. 20:41 🎨 Tap into your inner child's creativity and expressiveness for authenticity. 25:12 🗣 Surrendering and speaking the truth is crucial to overcome internal resistance. 26:51 🚀 Stepping into your power involves being authentic and expressing yourself genuinely. 30:58 💡 Lowering the bar for yourself allows more genuine expression and confidence. 43:53 🎉 Celebrate personal growth and victories, no matter how small, to maintain motivation. 50:08 👏 Recognize and appreciate your own journey and progress, as it inspires others and creates a positive impact.

I seriously can not wait till the day I can take one of Julian's courses. I absorb everything I can from watching his videos. I appreciate all ive learned coz I definitely have learned some things about myself. I started journeling and I don't do it that often but when I do, do it, I write pages and pages until my hand hurts and I have to stop haha. But I get what things I need to do. Ie. Letting go and so forth. But I'm not sure exactly how to do them. He doesn't really delv into the work of it enough for me to fully..like...get it haha. But I really try on my own but I feel like I take a baby step or two then hit a wall..if that makes sense. So ya...idk... I swear to god I will take at least one of his courses as soon as I'm able to. 🤞🤞😊 I feel for the guy that was called up in this video. He seems absolutely paralized. He's almost robotic. You can just feel how constrained he is. It's actually really palpable. That must have been incredibly difficult for him to go up there and do that. I hope someday, he's able to attain whatever it is he wants to within himself.

oh man. tears...laughter...soul...

I was like this person but i changed now alittle bit although i am still a shy person, and usually when i am with some person i don't feel comfortable with i think alit about what should i say .. i am still on my journey to accept me totally and love me ... Cheer up ❤❤

I've been following your teaching for a while now and they were really helpful and eye opening for a long time. But I started seeking the darkness bad. Seeking the darkness without the intent to shine a light on it is disruptive to say the least. I made the second biggest mistake of my life recently, arguably the biggest. And it was truly evil. It has been my intent to become aware of the darkest parts of myself to attempt to bring them to light. I wanted to be conscious of them so that when faced with situations I could remember the falsehood. But it didn't help. After telling myself things like it's terrible and disgusting eventually the temptation was too much and I acted impulsively, likely for the sake of pleasure. Moral of the story, being aware of your own darkness while you are in a weak state is a dangerous place to be in.. you should talk more about ways to change your identity and what to change it to. I thought acknowledging the darkness was seeking the light. But it was seeking the darkness all along. Sure you can let go of the darkness but it doesnt really matter if you dont replace it with light

I literally want the same for myself and wonder whhy I’m not able to do it but this video gave good pointers thanks

I love you julien

20:19 🤣Julien's smile shows how true that really is

T’es un bon Julien, j’aimerais tellement participer à une sorte de thérapie de groupe comme tu les fais… Je serais incapable de faire comme ce mec mais j’essayerais, je le promets. Cordialement

I think the biggest worry of mine is to come off as evil and unfriendly or selfish. I can be very blunt maybe even a pushover unintentionally and my voice - naturally - is very monotone most of the time. That's why I'm so scared to drop the front because I think I'm a bad person. (I've struggled making friends in Highschool - not so much in elementary school tho but kids always picked offense from me) But it's so exhausting trying to be friendly all the time and it feels fake but then on the other side no one wants to be around mood-killers. I'm just very moody and tired most times but maybe I'm autistic idk.. I went to a therapist when I was a teen because of selective mutism and depression but never got diagnosed for autism. I'm so lost, and I think I'm just an evil person who doesn't really care a lot about others expect for my family. I was very emotional as a child (my mom would say I'm too sensitive) and I would cry for hours very often and I've always had this anger inside of me, hated strangers but I could never figure out why? Can anyone relate?

I used to be this way when I was a kid. Very timid, quiet, meek child and stuff, not always speaking loud, I had this quiet voice tone😅people always admired but found awkward and weird! Yeah 😊🔥🔥

There is definitely the need for a different approach for different kinds of people on the variety of spectrums, I'd say Julien handled this curveball pretty well.

Keep trying. Connect with the aspect of you that still cares. Say no to the, 'no' part of you: worm tongue. There's so much in you that wants to get out (of what's holding it back) - notes of Julien

Practice Practice Practice 😊 😊

Damn I really thought Julien were about to beat him up 17:30 😅

yo the bar shit really fucking resonates

@11:24 when he said "let me out" Immediately after, the song from Liv Sin was playing in my head. 🤣

Heck, Ya, Julien, I frequently scream so loud I wake myself up in my night sleep life.

Hey Julien maybe with these anxious types, you should sit down and coach from a more humble point of view because he’s obviously intimidated by your charisma. He kept looking to you for the answers.

It feels like that I was me when I was in school

Julien mentioned a "filtering mechanism" and shared that there is a bar in our heads. How do you eliminate and get rid of this filtering mechanism/REALLY "lower" the bar?

I used to be like that just ordering pizza over the phone. When are you returning to North America/ Canada, Julien?

TA: Celebrating the wins, Lower the Bar, keep trying, retune with the aspect of you that can

yeah i too filter a lot of things in my mind which i think are not good enough and its not healthy as i am suppressing my emotions and even if i know my full potential i am not able to unlock it...its soooo hard mannnn

Start screaming dude!!!! I'm going out for a reward after i get this.

I have a question... I watched the whole video and it's great I agree with the message and I understand what's happening and the value of it and that that guy also represents a huge part of me. However on the flip side of the coin of his particular persona... Wouldn't it also be valuable to get someone on stage who's maybe outspoken, could possibly be intimidating to address about their character, or who may more adamantly defend their social image? Confidence doesn't equal authenticity and I would venture to say that this guy's qualities are far from negative characteristic traits besides the fact of holding himself back and not living to his fullest potential. There are a boat load of individuals out there in society that are plenty confident in appearance, but they're still selling a disingenuous image and behind the scenes their energy is still garbage, they jump from one personal interaction to another being "the best friend" to ensure the continuity of their high social standing with each person they interact with but then to each person they make sure they devalue or degrade the person they just played "the best friend" with to everyone else. Essentially believing that so long as they play the "better friend" with each individual personally while devaluing anyone else outside the current conversation that they're maintaining the highest social standing they can with everyone. I guess I'm just saying on the opposite end of what's happening here I'd kind of like to see someone who appears to be a "social gladiator" but yet isn't actually a genuine person getting called out. I know that's much harder to "weed out" but I think it's important to make the distinction that exuberant flamboyance doesn't equal genuineness of character and there are plenty out there selling an image that people are eating up because it's "attractive" but it's not real.

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I imagine myself on that very stage shouting my ass off but then I remind myself of times when you’re that scared to speak through the microphone or publicly that it tightens everything in your ass and above that level. And I’m an English teacher and I have this problem when speaking in front of the whole school or at teachers’s meetings. Not so much as when I’m in the class surprisingly. I’m scared that I’ll forget what I say or say something very stupid or not suitable by mistake of if I became “me” me.

Mt. Rainer? This must have been shot in WA

this would be me doing presentations lol

Actually it felt like the audience who finally pierced him through

rewind my life a little bit to my first time ever performing on stage FULL IMPROV with a random PAYING CROWD. The lights are fucking dim, you know the seats are totally filled with expecting strangers paying to get a fucking laugh. I'm side stage, and it's time to fucking go out. That was a defining moment of my life that changed my actual personality, because I went on stage and began doing somersaults, using full expressive physical ridiculous animal impressions, pretending to be a fictional character and literally doing somersaults on the stage. That single first time ever performing for a crowd of people changed me into somebody who fucking knows he can do it. That single pistol on my fucking belt may have been the single thing that allowed me to survive many countless situations and I will never EVER FUCKING FORGET THAT

17:41 i'd pay someone to talk to me like this when i'm nervous in public..

My age is 21 and I'm from India. My father used to scold me on small - small things and compare me with other childrens who are doing great in there studies because of this i suffered a lot in school. Afraid of talking to people especially girls, afraid of people what they think about me, afraid of going to crowded place. Whenever i talk to anyone i speak quietly. I can't say anything in loud. I feel like why I'm different from others and i missed a lot of things.