That seems odd that that was their first suggestion right away instead of doing the whole challenging the schema of feeling worthless with increasingly self love and the whole thinking pattern.

“Until 22”?? That’s still very early in life so good for you!!! I never stuck with it and am only really doing the work with a therapist at 39. Idk too many ppl who would’ve have the resources for therapy any earlier than 22. And yes, being rejected doesn’t make you a reject. That just wasn’t the person for you! Blessing to you.

@@user-uu9yb9wb5bI started at 24 and still here at 29! Never too early. Never too late. I was very broke but was willing to go without a few meals in order to speak with someone.

It's great that you were able to identify and seek therapy for your abandonment issues at 22. Building a healthy relationship with oneself is indeed essential for overall well-being. The advice you received about finding ways to be excited to be by yourself can be very valuable. When you learn to appreciate your own company and find joy internally, it reduces dependence on others for validation and happiness. Understanding that a failed relationship doesn't necessarily reflect on your worth as a person is a significant step forward. Recognizing that it wasn't the right relationship for you is a healthy perspective and allows for personal growth and learning from the experience. Remember, therapy is an ongoing process, and it can help you continue to explore and work on your abandonment issues further. Don't hesitate to reach out to a therapist or counselor for continued support and guidance on your journey towards self-improvement and emotional well-being.

Love that!

My new favorite affirmation too 🤩

❤❤❤ Good comment! Thank you for sharing!

Thank You 💜@@SatumainenOlento

I’m finally healing from this yay! ☺️ the last person I dated was very inconsistent with me, I voiced my concerns which were met with indifference so I left! Inconsistency no longer felt right. I’d rather be alone and happy ♥️

Good for you. 💜🫂 That's really emotionally mature of you. You vocalized your concerns, they didn't make adjustments & you left. You're 100% correct, a relationship should make you feel safe and be very consistent. I'll be happily alone until I find a mature, loving, generous man.😊 @@retrogang6326

It's pretty easy for me to know when a romantic partner isn't making me feel seen and celebrated and that it's not just my abandonment issues- the issue for me comes with friendships, I have this fear that if they hang out without me at any time it's because they don't like me, or that my best friend is going to decide she doesn't like me anymore and replace me, I've been replaced by a guy I liked recently and that has put me in a terrible headspace where my abandonment issues are absolutely cracked out.

If you don't mind me asking...what does talking to your inner child look like? How do you know you are speaking to them? Is there a physical ritual that you do? Thanks for the insight

I needed to hear this. Thank you. I love this

@@user-dl8rt4rt6u What I do is just to let my unfiltered feelings through and analyse them. The unfiltered feelings is what you really feel deep down inside, aka your inner child. So for example Diana probably had to respond to the feeling that the person doesnt want to talk to her anymore by calmly explaining to her inner child that they were probably just busy. I hope it helps you.

​@@user-dl8rt4rt6uIt's more of you imagining the hurt part of you which is your inner child. You can say certain things out loud or write a letter as a journal prompt.

This is an incredibly beautiful, and generous act of self love. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

I laughed way to hard at that.

I had to replay that a few times... didn't stop being funny

So we’re just pretending Gentleman Anna was not by far the cutest part? I wanted to give it a hug

And when she develops a southerner accent when hi..he... hisher (g0rl with a moustache) 😂

The peekaboo we didn’t know we needed.

I can't believe bots are coming in form of helpline messages lol

Taking time to work on yourself - as you would a beloved project car - is definitely better than being hit by some 2×4" timber

Another trend self-diagnoser

@@billionairesmeditation they understand themselves and how they relate to others better than you do, it’s a description not “self diagnosis”.

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That is the cutest snail. Where do you get that?

I completely agree. It takes a lot of perseverance, dedication, and small steps over time to make significant changes in life. It's important to acknowledge and appreciate the struggles and challenges that someone goes through to reach their goals. Sometimes, people tend to underestimate the effort and commitment required, and that can lead to unrealistic expectations. By recognizing the journey, we can better understand the importance of persistence and resilience in achieving meaningful transformations.

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if we have to suffer, at least we're in this together🫠

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The power of sharing mems or social media posts. I send friends instagram posts or mention if a song comes on that was the background of their tick tock i say hi this song reminded me of u.

You have to find the right balance and take into consideration their boundaries and limitations.

Depends how old you are if you’re a teen or in your 20s friends are more of a priority it starts to drop once you get older

Im over 30 and I whatsapp friends like once every two weeks lol, maybe see em between 1 and 3 months apart

not really. I have great friends who I don't talk to for weeks or even months, but we love each other and are there for each other if we need each other. We mutually check in but its not necessary. I guess its just a feeling of security that comes from spending time together, building trust and really being vulnerable. There is no expectation, just love.

That’s great to hear, gives me hope and encouragement.

Love this for youu❤,you’ll do well

I'm sorry to hear that you've experienced being abandoned twice this year. It can be incredibly tough to go through such experiences, especially when you invested emotionally in those relationships. However, it's great to hear that you've been working on yourself and starting to feel good about yourself. Taking the time to focus on self-improvement is an excellent way to rebuild and recover from difficult situations. Remember to practice self-care, surround yourself with supportive people, and give yourself time to heal. Keep up the positive mindset, and new opportunities will come your way.

Hye did u manage tu get back?

May I ask how? does the fear of commitment have much to do with fear of abandonment? I guess so but each one has their own coping mechanism so asking to clarify the idea. Thanks

Any tips please and thank you!

Can you share how?

Salud

​@@quyendo292you fear commitment because you fear them abandoning you once you commit

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🤔 Idk about unlearn your issues more like how you view it and how you don't let it affect you the way it does now.

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I read that earlier this year but the intellectual understanding doesn’t help me with the deeply ingrained emotional fear. Idk if it’s just me. Also we can’t stop people from abandoning us.

​@@qazedc3We can't stop people from abandoning us, but we can change how we react to that loss.

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