I Lost My Mom and Sister (How Do I Grieve?)

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I Lost My Mom and Sister (How Do I Grieve?)

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I Lost My Mom and Sister (How Do I Grieve?)
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@kimberlyyytv6232 Жыл бұрын

This call is so helpful. I lost my dad February 26, 2021 and my mom November 18, 2021. They were both only 62, my dad died after complications from heart bypass surgery and my mom had massive spontaneous multiple brain bleeds (extremely rare). I’m only 31, I shouldn’t be without my mom and dad. My kids should not be without their Nana and Grampa. It’s been the hardest year and a half of my life, one that I never could have imagined. It’s lonely to be a part of the back-to-back major loss club, especially this young. Caller, you aren’t alone. It hurts, it hurts so bad…keep putting one foot in front of the other, I’m walking a similar path and trying to do the same.

@Suzette-gb7uj 2 ай бұрын

@kimberlyyytv6232 I am so sorry for your profound losses. I’m sure you feel like an orphan. My deepest condolences to you.

@lynnebucher6537 Жыл бұрын

Caller is not alone. Lost my mom Sept 2020 and spiraled downward. It was the last straw in a string of stressors and losses. Developed an autoimmune condition, horrible pain and drastic weight loss. Caller needs to place self care at the top of his list. My sympathy is with him.

@maga7579 4 ай бұрын

Bet they were both vaccinated ✔️💯

@lynnebucher6537 Жыл бұрын

John is 100% right about the freeze frame of traumatic final images. Been there.

@mooneyes2833 Жыл бұрын

I lost my mom may 2021, watching myself and my two brothers grieve so differently has been eye opening. Everyone grieves differently and in their own time. My brother actually was offended I wasn't upset enough, but he didn't see my shower crying or drive crying. Be patient with yourself. ❤️

@deb9806 Жыл бұрын

Kudos to John for bringing up the harm conspiracies do. He is one of many mourning and I pray he finds peace. It's so hard.

@dalecummins689 Жыл бұрын

1 year ago Nov 20th I lost my wife of 33+ years during Covid, I was also suffering from Covid and was on O2 and sleeping in the recliner in the living room. The next day I went to check on my wife and found her dead in bed half in half out, like she was trying to get up. I can't get that image out if my mind and feeling thst I wasn't there for her. On top of this my sister a month later went on a vent and was in a coma in ICU two days before Christmas that lasted 3 months + nursing. Thank God she lived, but it was a daily trip to the ICU for me and my mom, waiting for the shoe to drop. Since then I'm just there... smile for family and grandkids. They know and we've had talks, about feelings.....

@traceejohnson290 Жыл бұрын

A few months ago, I suddenly lost my mother who was also my best friend. We were having a conversation as we usually did and then I left the room for 15 or 20 minutes and I came back in the room and she was slumped over not breathing. I am devastated, I miss her so much, it is so hard.

@richlife7476 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for what you do John. I did the exercise your mentioned in this video, and I didn't realize how much I was holding back until I finished my letters. I lost my mom and dad about 5 years ago, and since then I had completely fallen into a deep depression. Right before my mom passed shed given me the role of becoming guardian over my younger sisters. I WAS ONLY 18. I had and still have no idea what I am doing. While doing this exercise, I realized that I was holding so much resentment towards my parents. When I finished it, I felt a huge presence of calmness and love that I haven't felt in a very long time. I finally feel like I am able to breathe. I really love and miss mom and dad so much, but my resentment and grief was holding me back. I feel that writing these letters, finally gave me the permission to move forward and to let go of the burdens I was carrying. I have never felt this free. Thank you so much John. This one conversation impacted me more than you know. Please keep doing what you're doing. It's very much appreciated.

@CassRico 7 ай бұрын

Thank you to this caller for asking the hard questions i haven't been able to. I'm grateful for this episode. ❤

@nancygamez7087 Жыл бұрын

I can't tell anyone how to grieve. Is there something that your mom and sister loved to do? Have a special moment to remember them. Condolences to you 🥲

@starlingswallow Жыл бұрын

Caller, when you're able journal or audio-journal all your memories with your Sister and mom. As they come to you, add them to the journal ❤ It might be hard at times but it helps to remember and laugh at the funny things they did, even if that laughter is through tears. Sending you big hugs!

@WickedWildlife 5 күн бұрын

The point about the last image is exact! My wife recently died of cancer, and the last image I have is her begging for me to help her die, before telling me to go away,

@erismana2105 Жыл бұрын

The first year is the hardest

@YesWithYesse 11 ай бұрын

Wow I’m crying my eyes out, thank you for this episode.

@judithhardin2783 3 ай бұрын

We don’t teach people in our society how to help others grieving. We often say and do things that are far more hurtful than helpful. And then we not only don’t help those with grief, we judge them. And we don’t teach people what grief is, how it’s all different for each person. How they feel is valid. Grief changes you. No shame. People: Learn to be a supportive person to those grieving. And if you are grieving, read about grief, and get support.

@RiverLennon Ай бұрын

I lost my sister (who was my mother figure throughout my life) to cancer 2 years ago. Thank you so much for this video! what brilliant advice and love that Dr John’s rocking a Turnstile shirt 🤘

@candyneal7077 2 ай бұрын

Oh, how I needed this! It’s been 22 months since I lost my son. I finally reached out for therapy and was so let down. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I haven’t been able to work through those lightening bolt moments of regret. Thank you for this strategy. I’ve been listening to Dr. John for years. I’ve said several times that if I could just talk to him, I felt like he could help. My heart knew he would have the answer. I can’t believe I haven’t heard the segment yet. I guess I just need to wait till this point in my healing process to hear it . Thank you !💜

@KathyM1611 5 ай бұрын

I really wish I hadn't clicked this video at work.....after I lost my dad to covid. His birthday is in 2 days. Miss you Dad.

@pattiblount2046 4 ай бұрын

Griefshare is great. It is helping me grieve my brother, sister, and grandson. They have them all over the country.

@kele.w Жыл бұрын

Kudos to Dr. John for calling out how harmful the conspiracy theorist deniers are to the millions of people whose families have been ripped apart by COVID. Terrible enough that we've lost so many, but so many more parents and children and spouses and siblings and friends are trying to move through a world where they have a huge gap left behind, at all the talking heads are saying that it's over and was never that bad. The cognitive dissonance is shattering.

@FrankS111 Жыл бұрын

His sister had special needs with health issues already. Most died WITH Covid…not because of it, champ. My aunt had stage 4 cancer, had pneumonia, contracted Covid resulted in double pneumonia and died. They listed COD of Covid which we knew was a lie. Her health was already in massive decline because of cancer.

@EmpressMermaid Жыл бұрын

Thank you. My sister in law's sister, who had two beautiful little girls, lost her 37 year old husband to covid. You wouldn't believe the conspiracies being spouted off AT THE FUNERAL! We live in a small, conservative southern town, so lots of folks couldn't let go of their rhetoric even with evidence to the contrary right in front of their face. Fortunately, her family managed to shield her from the worst of it but she'll still get snide comments a year later.

@EmpressMermaid Жыл бұрын

@@imveryhungry112 several people at the funeral did.

@samh5218 Жыл бұрын

Kudos to you for even commenting on that piece! I listen to this podcast while running today and thought “oh the KZfaq comments.” I’m glad you and Dr. John both said something. 👏👏👏👏

@EmpressMermaid Жыл бұрын

@@imveryhungry112 I was talking about my relative's funeral. Please read my original comment.

@Suzette-gb7uj 2 ай бұрын

You will grieve the loss of your mother, and your sister, forever. And losing them to Covid amplifies this loss, in my opinion. I lost my mother 18 years ago. I still grieve her loss. I lost my dad in January 2020, and as much as that hurt, I was grateful that he didn’t witness Covid. I still grieve my dad, too. And I will always grieve my parents.

@confusedwhynot 3 ай бұрын

I sympathize with this gentleman about losing his sister and his mom. I know the feeling. I lost my mom and sister within days of each other in 2014. My son was diagnosed with cancer a month before. I have been grieving so much for so long. I have lost so much in my life and grief has just made life a struggle. Life is a test of learning and growing.

@user-nh4uw2ji7o 3 ай бұрын

Gee how sad listening to this poor guy. Grieving is a horrific thing to go through. Losing my two parents close together one by a horrific accident and the other getting Alzheimer’s and going from a 10 to 2 in such a short space of time and so I understand your pain. I don’t think there are any answers. Dr John has given wonderful advice. Prayers for this guy to stay strong. Life is tough. God bless. 🙏

@tomgreaney1 5 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr. John, you got it spot on, time is the only thing to readjust to this new normal, am going through similar at the moment… life is very unfair

@JimmiAlli 5 ай бұрын

This is grief.

@supermodelatlanta1354 Жыл бұрын

Me too. Just cry. Talk to them like there here. Watch pic & let it out

@johnb6546 3 ай бұрын

Loss my mom who was 72 on February 19 2022 due to cancer then my sister just passed away only at the age of 51 April 25th this year suddenly. Both woman that raised me that I was closest to are gone and I feel lost in life. I do have a 4 year old daughter that is the light of my life and gives me hope. However at times my soul feels depleted and life seems meaningless at times. My faith in God and the love for my daughter is what keeps me going but it’s beyond hard….

@ithinkigottalent4047 Жыл бұрын

🙏🏾 Blessings to you

@Shay-yg7nm Жыл бұрын

I hope he finds peace . I pray for him 🙏💜

@UnitedStatesGovt 3 ай бұрын

Lost my mother 02/22/2023. I was 31. My father lost his mother when he was 66. No matter how old you are when you lose a parent, its so hard.

@BelieveAndLive668 2 ай бұрын

The Internet and society wrongfully assume we should be done grieving within some absurd timeline but it doesn't actually work like that and the only people that understand that are people who are in that trench with you

@PatzConstantine 2 күн бұрын

Tomorrow will be 4 yrs my fiancé died….. it takes a very long time… I’m still not sure this is real. Grief sucks the life out of you.

@dhritikapoor2897 Жыл бұрын

😢

@blacktailcreekhomesteader8485 Жыл бұрын

I would love to make an abstract painting for your caller in the favorite color of his mother, the favorite color of his sister and the favorite color of himself. Please contact me if you would like me to make it for him. No charge.