Her in-laws are living their retirement plan now.

I too, hide in a closet when my in-laws are over.

Geez newly married and having to hide from your in laws in your own house. This looks so bad

Oh she's literally hiding in a closet. I thought it was a metaphor 😂

‘The problem is not your in-laws, it’s your husband’ ATOMIC TRUTH BOMB.

Sad part is if this guy doesn’t man up against his parents then his marriage will definitely end with divorce!!

She's only 24...um this is too soon to be having in laws in their home. I would get it if they were older but like nahhhhh.

Dave said "Your mother-in-law is a travel agent for Guilt Trips" 🤣🤣🤣

They never intended to get a job and live on their own. They deceived y'all. Grow a spine, kick them out.

It’s time to come out of the closet.

"Travel agent for guilt trips", stealing this.

Dave almost said your husband needs to grow a pair. Nice catch Dave!😅

“Mom, dad, thank you for raising me; but it’s not my job to raise you. It’s my job to raise a family, and I can’t do that with you guys cohabiting here.”

Dave: Your husband needs to grow... Me: A PAIR! Dave: a backbone Me: ohhh 😅 yes. That too.

This is why Dave is the GOAT. Dr John would've sugarcoated the whole thing, Dave is straight to the point and brutally honest. I loooooove itttttt.

Dave, This was SOUND advice. Very common sense, emotionally intelligent, and assertive.

Unfortunately, simply her keeping quiet and letting her husband do the talking is not going to keep her in-laws from blaming her.

I really want a follow up. That's what this show lacks -any connection at all to the callers. After they hang up, they don't exist anymore. WE WANT TO KNOW IF THEY WERE SUCCESSFUL

Dave: sell the closet.

I wish she’d call and update us

I lived in this same situation where my mother-in-law was living with us three months after we bought our own place. I had compassion since we lived with her the first 9months of our marriage while we looked for a house. I gave her the same 9 months and when my wife was unable to convince her it was time to leave, I told her it was time. We have her 30 days and $300. She was upset at first, but months after she thanked me. For the first time in her life, someone told her no. Don't misunderstand, my mother-in-law is fantastic and helped us as we were teenagers when we got married and knew nothing about life. Now 21 years and 5 children later, God has blessed us with a wonderful family and a great mother-in-law. I hope all turned out well for you.

The caller says that her in-laws don’t have a retirement plan. Oh, but they do! And living with you is the cornerstone of that plan. Hope you can get them out of there soon and remember the lesson learned from this misadventure.

Dave: "Sell the husband, buy beans & rice".

I can tell by the sound of her voice that nothing Dave suggested is going to happen.

If the husband won’t do this, I’d tell him either you get them out in 30 days, or I leave in 30 days. Your choice.

Dave: "Your husband needs to grow...." Me: "Some BALLS!" Dave: ... "a backbone!" Me.."Ehhh Dave's too polite!".

This is not a good situation 🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️

"She's a travel agent for guilt trips." 😂

Ultimately she is going to have to move back to her parents home until her husband handles his mess. Once her husband stop receiving some Na Na he will drive his parents to the nearest retirement home immediately.

I've been here. My mother-in-law lived with my family for years because my husband and I didn't want the confrontation. Finally my husband and I had to have a serious discussion and he asked her to move out. It was rough for a while but it was SO worth it. Asking her to move out saved our marriage. I do have to disagree, however, with the daughter-in-law not saying anything. Yes, be quiet this time and let him tell them to leave.... but there may be times in the future when you have to speak up for yourself. My MIL brings my kids home from school since we work and there have been times when she has felt that it was ok to rearrange my furniture and change pictures on the wall because she liked them better the other way. At first I would have my husband tell her not to do that but she didn't take him seriously. Finally I had to speak up. Hasn't happened since.

The in-laws are an issue but the problem with your husband who invited them so it’s his job to get rid of them

Tell your husband he's got the power of "since you're under my roof" and "my house my rules" that the parents probably threw in his face every day before he had the house and wife.

No money, no house, no income. They have no plan except to live off the kids. She never said if they had a sit down chat with them about all this. That is what needs to come first. What has happened here is that she 'assumed' they were coming for a short time then moving out. Then they got comfortable with the situation and "assumed' that the kids would be okay with them staying indefinitely. All the conversations were going on in their heads and none were out loud. Neither party are mind readers. First, she needs to talk to her husband and see if they are, in fact, wanting the same thing. And only then can they as a couple sit down with the parents. Ask them what their long term plans are and why do they think it's okay without discussing it? Or have they discussed it with HIM and he just "forgot' to tell her? I guarantee you that if you sat all these people down at the same table, everyone would have a different story to tell. I wish DR would do follow ups!!

It's crazy, how kids are expected to maintain their parents. I could never put that on my daughter.smh.

This happened with my mom. Luckily it was time for us to move so I had somewhat of an easy out because it was "We love you but our family is growing and we need the space" but it was me that told her this, not my wife. And now my wife and mom still have a great relationship. Heed his advice!

I feel she shouldn't be in the room at all. I would be worried her sitting there silent in front of them would make the in-laws think she is silently pulling the strings to their eviction.

Calls like this make me feel blessed for the in-laws I have!

Been there with my own parents. I literally had to kick them out. They saved literally $0 when they stayed with me for a year.

I would never do this to my kids! Ppl prepare for the future now

“If u can keep your mouth shut.” LoL

I moved from Cal to Tx and got a job the first day. I’m a high school drop out. Paid my house cash. Doing great. Some people just don’t get basic common sense.

I love how Dave incorporates marriage counseling into about 50 percent of his calls. Thank God for that!

Dave absolutely nailed this... firm, clear, direct, calm.

Sounds like both of the parents need jobs, not just the father in law. They are viewing this as an early ticket to retirement!!

She needs to be in the room when her husband tells his parents if not her husband may say the caller wants them gone. As the saying goes the callers husband will throw her under the bus.

Love Dave's straight talk. The problem is not your in-laws - the problem is your husband. "Lovable Slacker" parasites.

“She’s a travel agent for guilt trips” BARS!

Sadly, this is more common than most people know or admit. I know several people my age with parents or in-laws "temporarily" staying with them due to bad finances and never leaving. Most also blow their extra money on nonessential things, which then adds more resentment to the situation since they "can't afford to move" but can afford to finance new cars, go out to eat, etc.

My dad is like that. He actually took a lot of money from me when I was living with him. Then he wanted to get married. So I moved out and separated all of our accounts. He can't take money from me anymore

OMG! What disgusting parents. These guys are married LESS THAN A YEAR and the parents just won’t move out. I can’t believe the hide of some people. 😕

Omg what he says about staying out of the room is so on point. I have a bad tendency to undermine serious conversations by coming in, cutting the tension etc.

Yikes! I feel for this poor girl! Dave is absolutely correct, her husband needs to talk to his parents. She needs to talk with her husband and get him to make it land with his parents.

Option 4: Sell the house, move into a new place, and don't give the in-laws your new address!

This one had good advice. I can’t imagine moving in and living indefinitely with my daughter and her family.

I have been married to my wife for over 13 years. I loved my mother inlaw. She was a fantastic person. She didn't try to control us. She wasn't a backstabber or anything like that. She helped in anyway she could with no strings attached. Sadly she unexpectedly passed away at only 61 ☹️☹️☹️. She was always welcome in our house! Wow, she could cook and was interesting.

I understand how hard this is. This exact thing happened to my husband and I 3 months into our marriage. His father came to live with us and it became one of the most stressful situations I’ve ever had to deal with.

I may sound harsh, but why move halfway across the Country with NO PLAN. There is no reason the Newlyweds must pay the price for the In-law's lack of preparation.

If she can, she should have up a vacation fund and tell her husband she’s doing to stay with her relatives for a while until he can get this figured out.

Always an interesting call when Dave plays Dr. Phil...

2:27 I’m convinced Dave was about to say, “Your husband needs to grow a pair.” (You can hear the pause, and then he changes it to “...grow a backbone.” 😂)

We have been in that situation but it was for the good as we were being abused financially and emotionally , my husband got fed up and gave his 4 family members a 48hour notice to leave our house!!!

Hardest thing ever, but the marriage comes first, before all else. As hard as it is, I wouldn't have ever invited my parents to live with us unless we had separate space. I love my parents and have a good relationship with them but I wouldn't offer such a thing, especially if I was newly married

4:50 "Your husband is going to man-up and handle this mess he made." Never have I wanted a "where are they now" episode more than right now.

So refreshing to hear someone who calls it as it is in a country where passive aggressiveness reigns supreme. God bless your heart Dave!

investing requires good experience and knowledge to carry out a good and successful trade, I have lost a lot trying to trade all by myself May I ask which investments are good?

- "Mom, dad... I've been to Narnia, and this is how I feel...."

Good point where he tells her not to say anything nice. It will undermine her husband as he's trying to grow that pair.

Not gonna happen...Sonny boy is gonna give his parents a pass

Well said Papa Ramsey! Thank you for being the “dad adviser”to many in very difficult situations. We all can learn from other people experiences.

A failure to plan on the in-laws' part does not constitute an emergency retirement scheme for this couple. Stand up straight and do the right thing, son. It's tough, but you're the only one who can fix this and save your marriage.

"Hiding in a closet" caught my crime watcher eyes😅

I love the way Dave says it he knows all the right words to say.

"The mother in-law is a travel agent for guilt trips" hahahaha

Ah yes, the vampire parent/relatives. These people will bleed you dry without batting an eye. And once you let them in your home they don't leave. Dave's advice is spot on. This is the job for the husband to do. The caller can be there to emotionally support him and develop a game plan and practice the speech. But the husband has to deliver it.

I’ve lived this nightmare! My heart goes out to you.

There's definitely a time and place for the phrase "man up" and it needs to be used more than ever before.

Uncle Dave you give the best advice you’re a genius

Greetings from the Netherlands,and thank you for what you do!

Dave is amazing. He knows how to handle every situation perfectly.

3 years from now they'll be divorced and she won't have to worry about his in-laws anymore. Hopefully at that time she doesn't have any kids so she's not a single parent. The limitations should have been set prior to them moving in and if they didn't follow it they should have been kicked out already.

Her: My in-laws won’t leave Dave: Sell the in-laws... then sell the car

I just need the "You can Keep your mouth shut" portion in Dave's voice on my phone for when I need to tell someone to mind their business.😂😂😂

About 45 years ago my husband (newly married to me) invited a friend to stay with us, just for "short time". The short time turned into months with no end in sight. I asked my husband to ask him to leave, and he refused, and put it on me to ask him, which I did. Needless to say, the marriage ended, for this and other reasons. Gutlessness in a man is not attractive at all.

I think Dave really enjoys these type of calls it gives him a chance to flex his muscles

Be prepared to legally evict these people if they won’t go.

They will still blame her. Saying she's behind it

Dave hit this head on and delivered firm advice. This is exactly what she needed to hear. I feel bad for her, I sure would not want to be in that situation.

You're the best Dave. This even helped me!

Dr John: This isn’t the real question is it though? You know the real question, and you have the answer. Bye now.

Spot on Dave! Spot on!

Even calling from the closet, so glad she called, has a plan she and her husband can put in action and hopefully will follow through. Dave's advice and action plan are the best. I've had a similar situation with my sister...do it now, don't wait like I did.

"Your husband needs to grow...a backbone". Lol. I expected "a pair" and he probably wanted to say it but is too polite to.

Guilty 🙋🏾‍♂️ I did the same mistake open my mouth and speaking to my brother in law to move out.... 2 years later marriage was over and destroyed by her parents. Stay away from it.

I cannot imagine hiding in a closet where I am paying the mortgage! The big mistake was allowing them to move in--depending on the eviction laws in their state, it could take them several months to get them out of there legally.

Love Dave. Straight forward answer.

I pray I never have to move in with my children. Baby steps all the way

I love Dave’s advice on this. Some parents do take advantage of their kids. And especially in some cultures like middle eastern and Asian they have the idea that kids take care of their parents no matter what. It’s okay to help parents out but in America it’s your responsibility to take care of your own retirement and help yourself out. Not just 100% rely on your kids for everything and they can’t tell you no.

Thank You Dave!

Maaaannnn, this is tough..... blessings to you Katy 🙏🏾

Best case scenario: Everybody Loves Raymond