I wasted my 20s to with mental health problems thanks for showing me that it's not to late to try get it back together again

I identify with this, I'm 37 years old and still going from small job to small job; I did well in school but I wasted too many years in college. I should've started working much earlier and focused on a trade, not getting a useless college degree.

I'll be 35 next month and I'm petrified of the prospect of never being financially successful. Never owning a home. Never being respected as an adult by my family. I'm so scared my entire life will blow by and I'll never amount to anything.

You can't waste life. Life is life. And life goes on, with or without you. When you understand that then nothing is a waste.

I’m glad I saw this, I’m 18 and took on a career in the fire service a little earlier than others. Currently in academy and hearing all the older peoples college stories was making me feel like I was missing out on something. I’ve never been to a party or to college so seeing everyone go and have fun, doesn’t make me feel left out but I feel as if I’m not doing the right thing. This video just reminded me why I followed my dream and went a different route than others. Great story man.

I'm 22 years old and I feel like I'm stuck in some areas of my life while moving in other areas, this video was very insightful. As someone in college, I don't spend my time partying but I struggle with procrastination a lot and that's something I really need to overcome, it's sad to say at my age, really. I had to grow up young so responsibility is all I really know, but now I feel myself slacking and I don't know how to stop being so harsh on myself.

Well atleast you partied. Some spend their twenties with horrible social anxiety making them homebound for weeks to even months on end. Some end up without a girlfriend because of this

Im in my early 30s and losing the 20s label in my age is HARD. Being 30s you are no longer considered "youthful" and this has brought me into severe depression. I already bought enough heart medication for a successful overdose and I am contemplating suicide rather than go any older. Being youthful is part of my identity as a person and becoming middle age is not something I ever imagined for myself.

25 y/o former medical student here ✋🏻 (done to please my family, but quit because it’s not what I want to do). I know exactly what you’re talking about, this vid hits hard. I hope one day I’ll manage to gain control on my life (which I’ve never had) and escape this hellhole. 😞 thanks for your videos.

I’m about to be 21 in a couple months, must of the time I feel so useless, I think I really needed to hear this, thank you

I'm 39. I have wasted both my 20s & 30s. In my 20s it was family problems & spine surgery and in my 30s there is lawsuit, financial problems & health problems. Never had a job in my life since i never was good at studies and upon that people ask me i'm single or married. It's not like a woman would marry the way i'm not. I'm stuck in a loop and unable to get out. Don't have friends as well.

I'm 20 and I thought I messed up on my teenage years but I know now it's not over for me or anyone because sometimes we need to reflect on who are and what we are doing and always be safe and healthy, anyway thanks for vid.

I'm an immigrant that came to the US at the age of 10 and now I'm nearing my mid 20s. I've always harbored this weird mix of love and resentment towards my parents because of the circumstances I've found myself in. The immigration, in and of itself, kind of instilled in me this yearning for greatness, and the ones guiding me were my parents. I followed them blindly, thinking that they will guide me to success but I did not realize that there's always a possibility that they don't know everything going on in the world (yet alone knowing anything about me). I survived and graduated from college without even enjoying any of the process. I was aimless and depressed for so fucking long, and that guilt of like "I shouldn't even be depressed with what kind of privileged position I come from" consumed me from within. I've been feeling really behind compared to my highschool friends, but talking to them recently made me realize most of them are a few mistakes away from ending up where I am right now because they too don't know what they are doing. Listening to them talk about how they don't like their jobs or how their jobs are shaping their lives in a way they don't want encouraged me to learn to take myself out of the equation from time to time to give myself some of the grace I desperately need. I've been reassessing my life up until now and it feels like I never really did anything for myself, but who else is gonna help me other than me at this point? I hope you find enough conviction and courage to keep going man. Thanks for sharing

27 here. I’m in a good spot in life thanks to my mistakes, thanks to therapy and thanks to medication. It is not lost on me that I’m very fortunate to be comfortable at this age. As for aging I used to be so scared of getting older. Now I understand that aging is a privilege not granted to everyone. I try to be mindful of the good things in life and appreciate them the best I can. (PS: anyone who tells you 30 is old is trying to sell you a skincare product)

I was 17 wanted to live where I belong but visa officiers stopped me from living my life , now Im 35 and still waiting to begin my life.

I wasted my 18-21 years of life due to laziness

I found your video randomly and i have to say even as a 15 yr old kid I feel like I have wasted my whole life I havnt made my parents proud gotten the best grades I wasnt able to be like the other kids that my parents compare me with watching your channel made me feel I loved watching this video

I am 27 and I achieved nothing. Literary nothing. I have no job experience, I have no partner, I live with my parents, and I am starting to hate this. I want to afford my own things I want to be proud to the things I have done, I want to impress my crush, but I feel that I am already late to the party. I can't go back to school, and landing a job with zero experience is near impossible. I don't know how to achieve big. In school they didn't teach anything about work or how to get a job. My parents also not high achievers. My dad works at a wood factory, earning the bare minimum of wage for 30 years. My mum is a part time cleaner at the local public transport HQ.

I'd love to hear how you picked yourself up and got to a better place after wasting your 20s.

Kudos for the honesty and self-awareness, I wish I'd watched something like this before I hit my late 20s tbh

Im 24, "wasting" my life with video games, books and tv shows while studying what i dont care about And i rly dont care and dont feel bad, i feel great doying what I love, for now...

I “wasted” my twenties traveling by hitchhiking and living a bohemian hippie lifestyle, freelancing, drinking and being irresponsible. I read a lot and created art, photography. met my wife at a festival and we shared the same values and we did it all together but now reality kicked in, she left me and now I am here at 34, no education, no job and a drinking problem, and depression. living with parents. feels like everything is broken and I am at point zero just forced to join the workforce and survive. feels terrible.

I'm 24 and I feel like I've wasted most important years of my life which are from 19-24, I've done nothing, nor did I studied, neither I made friends or enjoyed, I didn't even worked I just sat around at one place whole time, I had mental problems, I can't take a decision and stand by it, I wasted lot and lot of money of my parents. Now I'm at a point right now, I'm highly addicted and can't go back, I'm constantly thinking about is it worth living anymore. As I feel I'm just a scum bag.

I'm 17. I hope both me and you have a great life! Thank you ❤

thanks a lot man as a 19 year old who have done his fair share of dumb shit i really like how you admit to your mistakes and worn us about feeling entitled to fulfill other people's fantasies i hope you are doing great. this video being recommended to me despite you not having many subscribers or me being interested in topics like (much) speaks volumes to the amount of people that also suffered the same or are going through it right now.

Thanks so much for this video, man. It lays some deadly pitfalls which, as a nineteen-year-old college freshman, I have to tiptoe around each day. It's scary sometimes -- trying to be a writer, getting an English degree which so many assume is useless. But I know that, if I don't go all the way for my dreams, even in the wake of global unrest, I would be miserable -- eking out a life as something I don't want to be, escaping at every possible moment to booze and Instagram. The temptation to take the easy road is always there, but if I try to take the easy way and please my parents, I'll be far less useful than I could be honing my true passion. I won't let you down.

Wish you all the best bro, I'm in my late 30s and still stuck in Iran, and wasted my 20s too, but my life is still ahead of me, I have fate in you, bests

Someone literally told me that your 20’s where you find out who you and make the most mistakes. So can’t really say you screwed up your 20’s as to me it sounded like you were a normal and was tryna figure things out as you went. So it’s good to look back and even cringe at your mistakes because that’s how you know you have grown and outgrown that part of yourself.

I feel less alone now, but at the same time it was a learning experience and transformation for me. I realized that working for myself is the best thing I could do verses working in retail. I realized that we shouldn't take the little beautiful things in life for granted. I built stronger friendships. I am glad I didn't take the career path that my parents wanted me to take because I'd be stressed and probably sicker than I am now. Thank you for posting this. It made me feel better about wasting my 20s.

Thanks. I'm 21 and ive been letting myself down. I appreciate your shared experience

Man, partying without purpose. You're not alone man. I wish I could go back and change some things too.

College trauma and fake friends trauma fucked me up I was so depressed

Hi. Thanks for the video! I'm 24 at the moment and I also feel that I somewhat wasted my younger twenties, but not in the way you described. I was a 'hardcore' nerd. Got to a university, got very good grades. Now what's the problem you might ask? I was (and still am somwhat) socially anxious, a perfectionist, nervous. I never partied, I wasted opportunities with girls, spent most of my free time on school, didn't exercise. In the last two years, I had almost no free time, I was literally sick because of my studies and got a burnout. This ultimately changed my outlook on life, studies are just a minor part of it. Sure, it defines your future career, but family, friends, loved ones and your own health are much more important. Getting a lower grade on an assignment is less important than spending time with people that make you happy or doing something you like. So for the younger people reading this, make sure you never put your work or school above your own mental health :)

why are you soo underrated, I mean good channels on KZfaq are not the most recognised ones, that's really sad....loved your content..!

Damn I'm literally in my early 20's and I'm experiencing your first stage rn. I'm trying to win back their love after abandoning their original plan by desperately trying to succeed fast

Oh my god this video randomly came in my feed and it is soo relatable. I am 20 right now and i am stuck in this field of medicine. Sometimes i feel like i wanna do it but the amount of commitment i have to make for this field is immense. I don't mind working hard but i don't wanna work hard on things that don't satisfy me .i have no idea what i want from life. Wish i could have more time to figure out myself but honestly i don't. I just wish i knew what i want from life, i just wish i knew who i am as a person. Its like i am having mid life crisis in my early 20s . I know that if i wanna survive in this world i have to take responsibilities of my decisions, failures and my life and tbh it is the scary part . Its scary because i can't decide the right thing for myself because i don't know whats the right things. I thought about dropping out and doing a MBA instead but man that 9 to 5 jobs are soul sucker but the good part about is that Atleast i would have more flexibility in it than i have in medicine. I am afraid of my future. I am afraid i might make the wrong choice and end up regretting in my 30s :(

Its normal in life to do mistakes, wasting your life for some time is normal

youtube really knows when to suggest a great youtube video, thank you for sharing your story with us man

Good video. I like that you kept it short and frank. A lot of these videos delve into really particular details on what exactly made them miserable and it always weirds me out. Almost like they're relishing the fact that going through stuff made them worthy of attention. This one sounds like you're genuinely trying to help people avoid similar shortcomings, rather than look at you and think "well at least i'm not having it as bad as him".

regret doesnt help, happiness is about enjoying each day without thinking about the past or future.. both are just concepts in your mind, be present, be mindful and enjoy the things you love.. thats all there is to do

Hey man, thanks for this video. It put some worries I had to rest. I want to say that I don't think time is ever truly wasted. If you spent your twenties partying, and you've now learned that you want something more fulfilling, then that time was still spent learning!

I pleased my parents, they never proud of me at any stages of my life, ruined my dream and mental health. Wasted my life

I feel like on the opposite end. Im 22 and will pursue a masters degree next year. I dedicated a lot of time during my life sofar into studying but honestly neglected maintaining quality friendships. I almost never party and probably should "live" more before I'm too old.

i don't think you wasted your life. but be careful not to waste your life of your 40s by worrying about how you've wasted your life in previous decades, is the thought that comes to me. no one will remember you, no one will remember me

You shouldn’t consider it as wasted if you reach this exact point what you are exposing in this video at some time in your life. I would rather call it experience. You can’t understand the way things work and are when you’re in your 20’s. This turnaround feeling of finally understanding what your parents always were trying to teach/explain to you is the moment you realize how the world and everything around it as is. If you never reach that point or you do and you choose to ignore it and continue to live your life as if your nose is bleeding, then it is a waste indeed.

i'm so lucky to realized i was wasting my life (even not like the most of young people but still wasting, with religion and not seeking my goals). But now i'm just enjoying every every day and i hope when i get the 30 yo i will be able to do a lot of things and with greatness!

This is so good bro! Loved the deep dive into your life! Felt it in my soul.

Thank you for informing me in under 4 minutes

But what isn't a waste of time?

take action, stop thinking stop worrying

Not easy admit that out loud. You got balls, man ✊🏻 Hardest part for me is the emptiness and lack of goals. One day at a time, I guess.

Dude, you are alive! 🎉 Cheers 🍻 Sometimes that’s the best thing you can ask for. From one Persian to another, thank you for sharing your insight my man

Thanks man your helping the future generations become better ❤

Omg I’m in the same situation as you. Iranian father who made me go to law school where I was so unhappy. He just wanted to brag about his daughter. Iranians are so narcissistic in that area. I got panic attacks and had to drop out, developed depression but for my father I’m just a lazy person who doesn’t want to work.

Yeah, me too i guess a part of me started to Party hard because i didn't felt enough at that time i didn't felt a fun person to be around, i had a bf who went with me to parties so everything was ok. I didn't liked my job nor i wasn't completely fullfiled with my career so i study because i 'had to' that happened for years. Until... I got pregnant. Me and my boyfriend Split after the kid born and raised him as in different homes. While i started to shape my life it was a process that took like 5 years of bad jobs, no money, being broke and no one cared for me. No soul, no party 'friend' no one knew what i was going for. Barely able to buy food, clothing, crying and feeling depressed day by day... Always pushing and looking for a better life. Eventually the party become my job. I was a middle time DJ or Photographer. But nothing was enough i didn't make that much money for buying equipment. The nightlife started to being repulsive to me, and i had some anxiety while i was on those places. Then the pandemic started and i had the decision of Never come back to that lifestyle. I got myself out of there... I made a plan and stick to it. Today I have a well payed job, and i have enough to live ok, the wound still there. I know i wasted my 20's the coworkers that sourround me that have a sr position or are able to travel, have a car, maybe have a decent partner... They are the daily reminder of how i wasted my 20's. But thats ok. Because it is my life and i gained it back. Thanks for the space. And if someone read this all. Thank you ❤

Negative self-talk. It can be pathological. Wasting your years can make sense if you view it from the perspective of a certain goal you were trying to achieve. But would that also be the perspective you’d look at your life from when you’re on your deathbed? I think a lot of people in their thirties will assess their life in terms of performance whereas in later stages of life love and being there for friends and family are themes that tend to predominate.

If you found the lesson, it was never a waste. Godspeed, brother.

Thanks for sharing. I'm 28, just graduated with master's but don't know what to do for work, lost my girlfriend who I loved dearly owing to my own mistakes. A sense of desperation not to waste my life undergirds my experience constantly.

How did you waste your life? Could the outcomes have really been that different? There are things in my past I regret but I know the outcome could and likely would have been different but not better. Too many other factors lead to outcomes so there is no way to know which outcomes will win over time.

I don’t want to go into detail, but I had a messy life due to moving around a lot with my mom since I was little (after my dad died). I never cared about anything until I turned 29. I was a drug addict and an alcoholic in many periods. Got in trouble with the law several times. I was also never studious, and I worked simple labor jobs. I also could not stick with a job for long. I pretty much wasted at least 10 years of my life. Now, I just graduated university, and I am off to do masters for math at University of Warwick. Although the university is high ranking, I still feel like things haven’t changed much. I have only begun to come off my shitty life. I am 31 now, and of course that’s a young age. But, it’s not that young considering the damage I have done to myself so far. But I have accepted the fact there’s a possibility that I can’t be that great at what I do now. I just need to move forward and control my depression and whatever negative things I have in me.

Dude you look amazing. Whatever you wasted on your 20s you got it back 10x.

Brotha….. idk if that’s “wasting” your 20s -You got a degree, had fun while doing it (partied) and found out what you didn’t like doing (medicine) -Some people never have the opportunity find out what they don’t like and they end up doing something they hate forever -I’d change your narrative or else you’re gonna “waste” your 30s thinking about how you “wasted” your 20s -The core of why you think you probably wasted it comes from the western downfall of “comparison.” Sure you might not be where other 30s are…. who’s cares though? -Maybe back then you were not ready to do what you want to do now and back then you were living life how it was meant to be at that moment -Much love! I don’t think you wasted it. You learned what you don’t like doing, which is a win in my book

Bro, you did fantastic job on "Lucifer" netflix series what are you talking about

Relatable. Some parents put a lot of pressure on their kids. Grew up with nagging parents that feel their lives are unfulfilling if their children are not successful in life. Still see it happening today parents force their kids to go study and pursue a career in something they are not in the slightest bit interested in making them depressed and unhappy in life. Also at the same time expected to get married, have children and forced to go into debt to purchase an unaffordable home that you will be working for and paying off for most of your life. Then when you are in your mid 60’s you can retire, sell your home and live freely, except you are riddled with all kinds of diseases that comes with ageing and don’t have as much energy anymore and maybe a good 10-15 years more to live if you’re healthy enough. So do what you want in life while you are young because you will never get that time back.

Well put! Thank you for sharing. God’s peace.

Man i wasted my twenties too....i'm 29 now...

Wow, a 4-minute-long video on a 10-year-long life period. That must be enough for a deep analysis.

What choices do you wish you would have made in your 20's? I think that would be a great video.

I feel you and I'm so sorry. I can relate a lot!

thats interesting sounds rough man but you still have a looooooooooot of time man dont worry about it do whats good for you and be happy with yourself :). try letting go of the past it wont do any good to think about it so just.. dont. easier said then done but that's the best solution! also for anyone reading this dont put off things you can do to tomorrow, dont sleep late, and dont want porn. trust me its bad stuff all 3.

Lost my late teens and all of my 20s to severe Depression and anxiety disorder. Nowadays people make fun of me, because with 34 I havent achieved anything, but I see enough potential in myself to turn the odds around, even though it might sound narcisisstic.

ice poseidon?

Happy you are rocking the gray hair!

You might never see this man, but, thanks for the video.

Going in the military was the greatest decision I’ve made for myself because it opened up basically all the opportunities in the world for me. I felt like I could be whatever I wanted to be as long as I put my mind into it. The free college I got was an amazing resource and pushed me to do good. Never have I felt “lucky” about anything because I know I earned what I got. But I do feel an obligation to give back, so once I’m done with college and med school, I am going to commission to give back for the life change the military has provided me. I also want to inform service members that I treat about the vast opportunities they have in and out of service. This is my personal experience though I know everyone has a different point of views based on their own experiences. Hopefully everyone gets where they want to be in life 🙏🏼

Great video💯. I'm watching from Zambia🇿🇲

When I was 19, I lost my mother to cancer and it ruined my early 20's completely. I suffered a lot and I don't drink neither do I party and I don't have a girlfriend. Sometimes I feel that girls don't like me because of my ethnicity because most girls in my country date within their own race. (Canada) Because I'm single sometimes I do feel like a loser whenever I see couples outside. I have no real friends because I was stabbed in the back to many times to count that I don't trust anybody anymore and would rather be alone then be hurt. I'm 27 and I'm suffering with chronic depression, anxiety and loneliness but thankfully I don't take drugs nor drink alcohol. I work out and play sports but that is the only thing that's been keeping me alive for the past 14 years. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has suffered and realize the I'm not missing out just because I don't go out partying and hooking up with random girls. In Canada, life is overcomplicated, spiritually dead and void of anything meaningful or fulfilling. It's all about consumerism, materialism, money worship and constant competition over who drives the nicest car and who owns the largest house. Your video is inspiring and I learned now that it's good to have even an ounce of hope in this life as it can go a long way. Thank you good sir!

I'm 17 right now and I feel like I wanna just focus on my dreams and passions instead of partying and hanging out with everyone I hear that it's okay to do those things at my age but Me personally thats not really how I wanna live my last year of highschool I mean yes for occasions ima party or hangout with people but for now I don't think there's anything wrong with pursuing what I love and I'd rather know that I tried to than to regret that I didn't.

I’m 22 wasted my early 20s in bed no money no job just bed rotting because I’ve lost it all. Can’t seem to get out of this because I’ve lost my car 😢

18 years old here, and already heading to college and I've been overthinking a lot about my regrets and my future would've been like if I gone through thus route of self-discipline and earning my own money financially without being dependent to begging some money with my parents. Today, is the day I have to take action, no matter how life throws out of me, I still grind and keep continuing towards my goal until I bulit a successful future with my future wife and my future kids. I know I may sound cliche to say all of this stuff but I'm aware it'll won't happen to my future self anytime in around 10 years from now. My goal is to able earn around 200-300k dollars a month, it'll take a while but I know im gonna make this if I put a lot of effort and being smart enough to earn that kind of money, anyways thanks for the words I can able to get my life back on track without any distractions. Kings whatever you do! don't ever stop grinding on those goals that you'll want to achieve in the near future if you put your mind a lot of focus and determination to achieve it.

Great video💯

i’m wasting my 20s rn

A more detailed version would be great

PS....I did the reverse.....By 22 under the cloud of HS Drop Out, I built a house from scratch. Didn't drink so my money went to tools and used cars....you would think the world was mine...........Nope...I have a knack for picking non motivated people. (for all categories) We all have one thing in common, we have this week; there is plenty we can accomplish from this moment forward. tHanks for the video

our time will come i hope

I'm 19 and I don't know what I want in life. I don't want to study in the field I chose and I don't want to work because to be honest I don't really see the value of money anyways so it feels like I'm wasting best years of my life on working meaningless job for meaningless piece of paper called money. There is no future reality in which I see myself happy. But we will see, now I work for the sole intention to save up and buy a forest and so I can build a cabin. So I can live isolated and far from everything and everyone

Man i also feel i lost mi young age because i never really went partying or didnt go out with friends enough. I'm 23 in still young I know but i feel time pases fast and i need to acomplish shit faster before i end being "young"

Life is hard, we're all trying to figure this thing out.

BRO YO SHOULD DEFINITELY BECOME AN ACTOR YOU HAVE THE LOOKS AND SO MUCH CHARISMA AND EXPRESSION! AND ACTING IS LEARNED NOT NECESSARY A TALENT

"We have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one." - Confucius

man you should drop that loud ass music in the background holy hell fam

Im 20 and i feel like im lost in life i still dont know what i wanna do in life and i feel like im wasting my life just by working my normal job 😔 thanks for sharing your story tho ❤

thanks for the video Ray

24 and wasted the first half of my 20s thanks for the vid

I wasted my 29's watching this video

I’m 23 since I been 20 I feel like my life has been downhill. Lots of lack of sleep. Drinking. Wasting money. Wasting time. Feeling like shit all the time. Being broke at time. I was with a girl for a year and she broke up with me think she cheated on me who knows but that shit really fucked me up. All I think about is how can I make things better. I don’t want to be older thinking damn I just wasted my youth. I think about this shit all the time it’s mentally draining.

همین که تو ایران گیر نکردی بزرگترین خوش بیاریه. خیلی نابغه ها توی ایران دارن تلف میشن چه برسه به آدمای معمولی. من بعد از سالها تلاش بالاخره سر 31 سالگی خودمو رسوندم برلین. یک سال و نیم اخیر فقط تجربه کردم شرایط جدید و الان تازه میخام از صفر شروع کنم مسیر زندگیم رو طراحی کنم.

thank you for making this incredible video :)

im 27yo and I appreciate you sharing that

So true!! 3:54 I wasted the years between 18 and 28. Found myself desperately trying to build a life for myself in my 30s but was very aware I was racing against time. I’m not devaluing a man’s experience with this but as a woman with a biological clock ticking going in to your 30s having wasted so much time is terrifying! I was lucky that the opportunities came to me allowing me to settle in to a job I liked and later to meet a great man who married me and we now have a lovely family together. I’m about to enter my 40s and tbh I’m exhausted from squeezing so much life in to so little time but I’m happy and looking forward to my 40s. Every so often though I look back over the past 20 years and wonder how my life could be if I didn’t waste all that time. I’ll be preaching to my children not to water their early years. And to all those people in the comments feeling old in your 30s…. Please enjoy it, 30s is still young and you still have time to change if that’s what you desire.