I loved this video!! I maybe have a topic suggestion that ties into this: bimbos and bimbofication? People on tiktok have been reclaiming it and putting a positive spin on it.

I assumed “I’m not like other girls” just meant you were a girl and a misfit. Hadn’t thought about it in this way before

Anyone else think this was super white centric?

@@Samuelwozhere it’s cos white girls are usual,y the ones to judge others. it’s privilege

@@Samuelwozhere no. Grow up.

SAY IT LOUDER!

ugh so right i love it

I loved that movie and I still do

And I love how she just took charge over her life what a queen

I used to judge that movie as stupid because the more popular people in my school loved it and I guess I didn't want to " be like them ". But I watched it a few years ago and I fucking love it. And I realized how stupid I was thinking like that. Legally blonde and Legally blonde 2 are fucking masterpieces and will gladly watch them over and over. The " Not like other girls " is a bad trend and can effect the view of awesome stuff like Legally Blonde.

and even better because the less traditionally feminine women will do this to her, stereotype her, and then grow as people after they're exposed to Elle and realize their judgment of her wasn't based on anything actually to do with Elle as a character. Like the best part of the first movie was when she and Vivian became friends and both started shitting on Warner/left him in the dust as they should have from the very beginning

@@madcat9024 and also the fact that she didn’t have to stop being herself to advance in law school. Her knowledge about perms and fashion helped her.

@@bridgetmoran7343 exactly !!! the perm scene is iconic and just goes to show that femininity/knowledge of characteristically feminine things can be a resource

Yes

everything about legally blonde’s messages are fantastic. it’s genuine girl power and doesn’t drag down the preppy girl or the girly girl. honestly it’s probably one of the only chick flicks to have a good message that way

I mean where I Iive women do tend to be more dramatic on a day to day basis when compared with men. I don't know what could be the reason behind it but I just don't like it and so..yeah I don't really have much choice but to avoid making female friends

exactly! like when there's always drama in your female friend groups, maybe you're the problem

​@@wthisgoingon__4300 Was the opposite for me. Boys bullied me severly and caused drama while girls showed me more compassion so I have more female friends. Still the world only seems to see women as the only dramatic ones and constantly ignores the dramatic boys or excuses their behaviour.

Sounds to me that….you’re not like other girls.

@@wthisgoingon__4300same I try to be friends with girls , but they are iffy and they can’t be honest, so I avoid them and the crazy thing is a lot of girls wanna be friends with me because they think I’m a Barbie but I’m like “no, thank you”

i personally feel lara jean song covey and her bestfriend chris from the to all the boy i've loved before series surely had that dynamic

I think the movie booksmart kinda did this and also the show Euphoria balances aesthetics really well and the aesthetics never shape the plot of the show. Just people loving and existing together as you said :)

Even better the girl who wears pink has a lot of masculine interests, and the girl who wears black has a lot of feminine interests.

Check out Kamikaze Girls. You might like it

Haven't you seen Juno? That's literally the film you just described and it was made In The early 2000s hope you like it it's one of my favourite films XX

Because femininity is deemed as inferior 🤦🏽‍♀️

VoidCozy COUGHkalvingarrahCOUGH

Yes. Also i think theres alot of gay men who look for the approval of homophobic straight guys.

yes indeed. there’s no “gay man” other than a man who likes only men. thats it. you dont need any quirks to be a valid gay other than, like the same gender. i wish everyone thought this

I think because we grow up in a heteronormative society, being anything stereotypically gay is seen as a bad thing. Especially being a gay person, internal homophobia is prevalent in the lgbt community. You try to escape those stereotypes bcuz of heteronormativity. I dunno, just a thought.

Very good claps for you 👏👏👏

Aww so sweet

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Yesss

YES

Yup! I’ll go on to list allllll the shit the “other girls” do. “Idk what makes you think that. I’m very girly, I drink, I smoke, I party, I don’t clean, I burn water when trying to boil it, I love pink and my room, bathroom, and hallway is decorated in it, I’m a gold digger, I have sex, and I’m actually into women.” I try to be as anti-pickme as possible when men say that stupid shit to me. It’s funny seeing them scramble for MY approval. “I mean, I don’t mind that you drink! And I actually cook so we don’t have to worry about that, etc etc” 😂😂😂😂

PLSS-

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Yesss😏

SAME

YES THANK YOUUU

Thank you 🥰👏🏼

im pretty sure thats because its normalized to hold up skinny white girls above everybody else ? like i dont think its specifically alt or straight tiktok i think society just teaches people what is and isnt 'attractive' and it reeeeaaaally favors skinny white people

i saw a tweet that said straight vs alt tiktok: racism vs ableism

i think there’s a big difference between the “alt tiktok” that was first really labelled in like may with the deepfried audios, emojis, and mainly performative activism and the actual alternative community on tik tok with the different subcultures and fairly leftist views

Oh yeah definitely. And they’re worshipped by women for the bare minimum. Edit: Ok people are misreading this comment so much. What im meaning to say is that (for a good example) on an app like tiktok, a guy could say “hey haha im a decent person” and girls in the comments of that video will fall at their feet- whether that guy means it or not. I NEVER said all men are bad??? I dont know where people are getting that from. I love and adore men. Im incredibly confused on where that came from. I was just pointing out a specific thing ive noticed.

@@notdolgutz9728 yh exactly. Men really shouldn't put themselves on a pedestal just for being a decent human being and treating other human beings with dignity.

jennnweke exactly, having morale and respecting other people and treating them with decency should already a *given*. it’s so irritating when most of those men complain that they are “being as nice to women as they can” and they deserve to get a girlfriend. it sometimes sounds so disingenuous. it’s like either way women are conquests to both of those types to men, except the “brutes” are explicit about this.

Was about to write this comment- would be interesting to see a vid on ‘ nice guys’

@@michaelamedel2341 Most of those men? Probably easier to miss a lot of the genuinely nice guys because they would not be complaining like that. Who wants to hear that? I got tired of "guys suck" from a woman I knew in school. It seemed like everyday. I finally said people suck, but many of them don't. What are you going to do? It really sucks hearing this from you all the time. I guess I was not being a nice guy. There were other guys hearing this from her to. Shouldn't some one have told her? Maybe the other guys were the nice ones for being quiet. I just could not see how this was helping anyone. Go talk to a friend about the bad behavior you experienced, but this was a bit much.

N°t correct.

It's gone so extreme now with men starting to hate bands just because women started liking them even though those bands originally had a mostly male following. That's why those men rave over the first album but after that diss the band. The first album isn't always the best album. Often it's the second, third or fourth album.

@@lemsip207 nah fr, im literally afraid to tell men i like metallica 😐

@@potatowithgooglyeyes2458 I can assure you that men hate metallica now because they perform sloppy. Lars and kirk have gotten worse overtime.

@@geprekbento7543 I agree.

True, I really hate when the compare girls hanging out is boring but boys are more fan

Fr, women just hate other women (they always have) but when a guy does the same as a pick me girl nobody blinks an eye. It's funny how these women who want to destroy internalized misogyny have it themselves and they never question men's bad behavior but only women's. U can't fight sexism with sexism 🤣

@@ham-sley1308 👏🏼

Obviously men's bad behaviour is called out just as much if not more by ppl talking about internalised misogyny? Especially because it is very often more obvious than pick me culture. She didn't talk about sexist man in this video because it wasn't about them. She talked about it on other videos though.

On videos about women people always have to try their best to make it about men

Meeeee. I know what u mean. Pink was ONLY for October. Now if I don’t wear pink once a week I can’t function

Ikr it usually goes like I don't like pink i like black

Girl, i was this huge "not like other girls" but the only thing i could never do was going around saying that i don't like Pink xdd

SAME OMG

I'm not a big fan of pink just because it's too bright of a colour haha, I like my green and navy blue more XD

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My dad’s work (all grown men between the ages of 30-60) is one of the most dramatic groups of people I’ve ever met. They are so petty.

Ikr. They gossip and bitch too, just using slightly different language and tone but the same outcome.

@@permanentstateofawe6544 Yeees, around the age of 12-13 I've passed my awkward phase and I started to mingle with boys in my class(since I thought they were different from my girls classmates. All there were experiencing the awkward part) and they say horrible things about boys who weren't in the group too, but specially about my girl classmates(who flirt with) . So horrible.

I'm a trans guy so I've hung out with both guys and girls...in my experience, men are more dramatic. Ofc, at the end of the day, this just depends on the person and not the gender, people just tend to generalize based on their subjective experiences.

i agree but i am most definitely guilty of screaming the lyrics to it😭

Yeah lol she’s matured so much though and she was literally a teenager. “What you doing with a girl like that” -Taylor swift then “I want to wear pink and tell you how I feel about politics and those things shouldn’t have to cancel each other out” - Taylor Swift now

@@deplamarijke2555 yep. As a Swifty, I know.I know that she was younger then obviously, and she has matured . I was just saying that the song gave me “not like the other girl vibes” I didn’t throw any shade 😂

@@kendall2738 girl I know lol and you are right You belong with me gave majjooorrr “not like other girls” vibes

also the song hide away by daya

Goddamn, you’re lucky.

A "ragingly feminine feminist"?

⁠@@meljay5660. You can’t be both feminine and want equality at the same time?

@@activitine62 they really havent realised that men were RUINING NATIONS over petty drama

In my experience men have been the dramatic ones, girls are really chill, but almost all the male friends i had were really jealous about me, to the point that when we discussed something and i had a point they got really angry and insulted me, also they usually dragged me down... instead the female friends i had/have always cheerish me and support my decisions..but anyways i want to believe that i only had bad experiences with boys:( haha Sorry if my english is bad :(

Or hell, even here on KZfaq. Look at Jeffree Star, Onision, Shane Dawson, Jake Paul, Logan Paul, Ricegum, Fouseytube, Nikocado Avocado, etc.

the cold war is literal proof of what you just said

@@Lokotee 😂 I love your comment.

I do think a lot of it comes less from the desire for male validation and more from being belittled for interests/fashion that aren’t seen as the norm for girls that age. Girls like this turn their “uniqueness” into a personality trait because of this, but they usually end up tearing other women down for being “girly.” There’s definitely a difference between being “not like the other girls” and just a straight-up “pick me.”

@@miaatkinson1067 I agree omg, I used to be one of them "I'm not like other girls 🤪" people bc I was bullied for being different at school. I didn't wear makeup, not because I didn't want to but because I wasn't allowed, and I wore baggy clothes and didn't really share many interests with girls my age etc etc and all of the teasing made me turn to those "I'm not like other girls" posts for comfort and validation that I wasn't getting elsewhere. it made me feel better knowing I wasn't alone, but thankfully I've grown out of that phase and I'm a lot more comfortable in my own skin now

@@Sarah-me1wf I second this. I was always alienated by the majority of girls\women who'd say I'm weird, bizarre, strange etc, without evet trying to know or understand me. So the whole 'nlog' thing was an escape and a coping mechanism for me really, from all this bullshit I had to endure from my classmates\colleagues.

@Lisa Harper well to add to my comment, I didn't do anything out of the societal norm, I was just kinda quiet, dressed unconventionally, didn't use a whole lot of makeup, and sometimes spoke my mind too harshly perhaps, you know, said things that are expected to be silenced. Still, I don't think that these reasons are enough to call me names and separate me from the group... And in case if you're not sarcastic (sorry, I couldn't tell), yeah, I think I'm okay now. I have a few girlfriends who were despised by the majority too, and we get along just awesome! I don't have as many friends as I'd like to right now, but I'm happy with what I already have 💜 Btw you have a very beautiful surname, I love it!

Okay, my point of view of how I think about this: Being a girly girl is exactly what men like about women. They like women with high heels, that show skin, that post butt pictures on instagram, that are nice, that like makeup, etc etc. Usually guys really are into these kind of girls. I would say that actually being a girly girl could be mysogynystic because you fit exactly in what men want women to be. When you are not this type of girl and you don't fit into the overly feminine standard, you won over misogyny. It's not really about being accepted by guys. No. You'll never gonna see a guy saying he doesn't like a feminine curvy woman with big boobs and big ass... And that he doesn't fap over her butt pics and doesn't send her dick pictures... So usually the "I'm not like other girls" girls don't do it because of the boys. They do it because they don't like feeling like a male satisfaction object... So many girls nowadays look like sex dolls... And they pose like sex dolls and they start being sexual and posting sexual stuff at 13 on Instagram. That's exactly what men like. And they fit into what men like into women... A tomboy girl doesn't fit into men's taste. So basically they're debunking gender roles. So I find them brave and cool and better than many pick me overly feminine women that still put down tomboy girls because they see them as competition. Some women don't like less feminine girls because some of them get along with guys. A lot of really feminine girls would LOVE to be friends with those guys because they want to have a boyfriend and they see those girls as a threat and as competition... So don't lie to yourself. Maybe you're even envious of less feminine women...

I know that you made this comment two years ago, but I wanted to tell you that this is exactly the way I feel as a teenager. Apparently, I'm not the one making fun of their personal life and likings, THEY do that to me.

I never did it for any trend either. I just had my set of differences and needed to find my sort of people who appreciated the same things I did. Plus my parents encouraged me to not be like my peers. (But with my mom "not like other families" was probably a superiority thing.)

This!!! I absolutely hate it when guys say this, to me it seems very misogynistic and I worry what they think of other girls (almost as though I am more worthy of respect than other girls). I find it very degrading

@@saumyasharma3809 a simple "You're smart.", "You're fun to be around.", or "you are down to earth." Sounds a lot better and more meaningful

@@hungoverpuppy3907 exacltyyy like say what you like about me specifically not what you dislike in other people (if that made sense)

yeah, i think the reason it seems so misogynistic is because their idea of “other girls” as a whole, or most women, is negative. the fact that you show positive traits, in his eyes, is atypical for a woman. which is sad, because women are amazing.

@@hungoverpuppy3907 Right, like "You're smart; not like the other girls." So girls are generally stupid?

@@AB-vx8qd i agree!

@@Alex-ez4sq mine was mild, most of the time i love my girl group of friends more than hanging out with guys, and supporting other girls and stuff, but I still had im not like other girls moments lmao it's cringe af

My 10yr old self: **sweats nervously**

Personally, I didn't have that phase but a lot of my friends did and are still in that phase

I had that phase in middle school, and I regret it so much 😔

We are not going into 2024 glorifying abusive creepy boyfriends anymore. 🙅🏼‍♀️

some girls are like that, still don’t like anything feminine but as long as they don’t have a “i’m superior” mindset there’s nothing wrong with it, we all have our interests and we are all gorgeous and unique in our own ways

I used to tell people "I don't read books with pink covers" in sixth grade, and I am so, so ashamed of myself. Eventually that went away when I made friends with some girls who did love feminine stuff, and I happen to like it now. I'm trying to make sense here, I like a lot of things that are considered feminine (make up, shopping, Taylor Swift etc) and a lot of things that aren't associated with women (watching, but not playing, sports, short hair, action movies etc)

Do whatever makes you feel better and happy!!!

i used to be like that mindset "other girls/pick me" because (still) i NEVER knew what the girls could/did talked about, I loved video games, anime and started to talk to the boys more and get their humor and the girls were to "dry" with our humor but i learned that mindset was bad but can still like the same stuff as long as i didn't think like that

same haha

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ISTG two friends of mine said that they only hang out with boys because boys are less drama like BRO WHAT THE HELL, I have more girl-friends than guy-friends and I think it depends on the person you're talking to. I am a girl and istg having supportive girl-friends who have your back is literally the best feeling.

JAJAJWJW LMAOO

Male drama tends to be more direct and overt (actual physical fights and it's done), whilst female drama tends to be much more malicious and sneaky.

IKR, greek mythology is as complicated cuz zeus has no self control what so ever!

I got bullied for stating that we shouldn’t be calling women whores. This was a couple of years ago. It’s disgusting. I was replied with that “I shouldn’t be taking it so seriously” and “it was just a joke”. This was both men and women defending this. It now seems wild to me that this was even a conversation, and also women stating things that are not in their best interest? Why? To me that is the “pick me girl” personified. Agreeing with sexism that is instigated by men in order to appeal to them. Ugh.

@@eceo.1999 GIRL USE TAPE IT MAKES LIFE EASIER! #MAKEUPHACK LOL

Exactly, I never wear makeup bc I suck at it and I don’t even know how to do eyeliner, and everyone else in my school are so damn skilled, like bro their makeup is godly and it always makes me kinda jealous heh. I also want that skill, those girls should get A’s in art

Yesss looking back I think some girls thought I was shitting on them for not knowing how they wore makeup to school or work everyday because I didn't have the energy to put it on in the mornings, but like I literally admired them for it and couldn't fathom how they actually managed it 😂

So stunning so brave

That true but i think people shouldn't do makeup in the first place,natural beauty is the best :) you like someone from what he/she is inside not by outside

Dude that song is still a bop after all these years, but those lines are so cringy. :(

Ah yes, You Belong With Me, the ultimate "I'm not like the other girls" anthem

@@screemingslay5415 girlfriend by avril lavigne is way worse especially with the music video. Also taylor is a really big feminist now so people need to let that go.

@@Alanadellrey oh yes, that as well. Glad, she's changing her views now

@@Alanadellrey I agree. I love Avril Lavigne but I've never understood why people say they like the song or music video. Probably nostalgia. 🤷

Cus targeted ads babe v.v The true puppet masters behind all of this stereotyping,mysogeny, etc : the billionares who stand to lose their power should we cease competeing against each other and recognize whos been pitting us against each other for profit...

oh, the irony

so true

LMAO literally

Whoever created this narrative, is lowkey attention seeker...

really i was taught the complete opposite. and it triggered my “i’m not like other girls” but now i found a middle ground and i’m very happy with myself 🙃.

I feel like I was taught both. Being forced into dresses and frilly stuff that I hated, while also being taught that makeup and sparkles were too girly... such silly distinctions to make.

Yess. I remember when I was younger I really didn't want to be girly cuz it was "basic" or whatever. But now I really embrace both my divine feminine and masculine. I actually love spending time with my feminine side and embracing it and ur right there is so much power in femininity 🌟

The patriarchy is do contradictory, being feminine makes you weak and bad but anyone who's viewed as a girl MUST be feminine. It's dumb

@@EmilyT12345 same tbh, I remembered when my country had the "pabebe" trend where they essentially make fun of women who act feminine and shy (that's the literal definition of the word, kinda sucks) and slut shame women who wear fitted clothing, but expect you to like pink stuff and makeup. :(

No thats just called being an @$$ hole. I should know.

Nah I think “nice guys” are more like that. Like “I’m not like the other guys I’m a nice guy why don’t you like me”

@@deplamarijke2555 right they think theyre entitled

lmao i think "incels" and "nice guys" (both types that I equally try to avoid) are the male version of "not like other girls". I mean, just seeing one post or video of them is always like "wHy dOnT wOmEn lIkE aN aCtUaL hOt aLpHa dUdE lIkE mE aNd sOmE uGlY bEtA cUcK sImP gAy vIrGin? gIrLs sUck"

@@worstusernameintheworld9871 u mean the "Why women only want guys who treat her like shit"

My mom called me an alien when I don't act girly.

@@snowpearl5908 same, my mom always compared me to my younger self and say things like “when you used to be girly” like.........I’m not into that stuff anymore? 😅

my mom tells me that it’s impossible to be friends with other girls and once said “all you’ll ever be is [your boyfriend’s] girlfriend”. people are insane and i’m proud of others for unlearning it

It's on her. Teach her to be accountable

My mom too

I only say ‘I’m not like other girls’ because I have a disability and I say it as a troll lol

The tables have turned

Exactly lol

true lol

you can either wear a shirt or a skirt. never both

Same

Same for me & that's honestly so sad that even in the 21st century, this is still a thing

hi,,, i thought i was alone

As if girls aren’t sexualizing guys. Everyone sexualizes everyone.

@@PlayfulFruitLPer did I say boys or MEN, grown ass MEN. I've never in my entire live heard from a 13 year old boy that a 30 year old woman called him "sexy" or "hot". Also, unwanted sexual comments are completely different from just looking at someone or thinking about them. Sexualize me in your head all you want but don't tell me about your fantasies, I didn't fucking ask.

Being a tomboy has absolutely nothing to do with this though

​@@Stella-fc9xnShe means that she has the ability from being a tomboy to be feminine, both at the same time.

It’s just a joke

@@Tiger-cm2rp idk which comment you were talking about but in case it was about mine... yeah, it is kinda a joke. i'm glad you got that. idk

Men in question: only capable of being "funny" by oppressing minorities

I used to say that to look cool in elementary school now I’m a feminist

That's me when my favorite character dies

Exactly

YES. As a Millennial, I am so damn ready for Gen Z to take the world by storm

💕💕💕💕💕

It really depends. I work with 14 year olds and some of them say racist/homophobic/sexist things. Depends on what culture/community and home life they have. Hopefully the ignorant stuff will be set straight, if not by the time they graduate high school then maybe in college. They ain’t all woke unfortunately

especially where I'm from (where everyone is late asf, unfortunately) it's still going to take a lot of time before we see a big difference, but there's still some form of improvement

@@smy3486 no worries at all!! im sure many girls/afab people have felt the same. media has engrained in our heads that had female leads had the whole “get the guy” romance story. all of those stories just taught girls that being pretty to get the guy is the only thing that will make you a good person. its something a lot of afab people need to unlearn :)

I’m an AFAB non-binary person and I can relate to this a lot.

@@smy3486 I feel that kind of. I'm afab and for a while I hated being feminine and being seen as "girly". I thought it was weak and shallow. In my case though it was because I am nonbinary, specifically a demiboy, and as soon as I was able to figure that out I stopped feeling that way. Now I wear dresses all the time.

When I was 14 I love skirts and dresses but like people will say "that I was trying to get boys attention " but like I am a lesbian ,so I started dressing literally like a man short short hair big baggy clothes, when I first came as a lesbian to myself I felt empowered cause honestly men don't like pinky stuff but women do, now I dress like myself and is awesome

You should learn how to stop trying to impress anyone, if someone is going to date you because you were pretty, it’s gonna be a rough path for you

Same!

Same

same! and now I'm also someone who doesn't even want to conform to gender, and like whatever I like without bringing others down (still a girl, just doesn't put gender stereotypes into regard) :))

Ikrrr I thought I was a feminist but I also was like “I’m not like other girls” type of bs😭

Me too!

as long as you arent bringing down other girls i see no problem with that keep on being you

@@sp0rkb018 no I'd never do that intentionally, I have plenty of friends who are polar opposites of me and enjoy mainstream culture or really girly things. Hell, one of my best friends is a 1D fan and super into astrology. I have no desire to make someone feel bad about themselves, interests are superficial really :)

Same lol, though it didn’t get much better as an adult. I was still ostracised and picked on by my women managers/bosses when I started working in an office - dying to not be perceived as a pick me but I genuinely do have a hard time getting along with women generally, even family members

So basically she is like other girls

So now the "basic girly girls" are not like other girls if you think about it

"I NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS I umm... KNOW HOW TO READ !!!"

“I LISTENED TO A SONG FROM THE 90S ONCE”

I ONCE LISTENED TO JEFF BUCKLEY

PINK IS UGLY COLOR I LOVE BLACK!

I VALUE BOYFRIENDS

Also autistic. I feel like a lot of autistic girls go through this because of social trauma. I was bullied by a girl i trusted on a holiday because of my special interests, and because I didn't like the stuff they liked (flirting with boys, the janoskians). That experience put me off being friends with girls for a long time. I was also assaulted by a guy when i was 16 for being asexual and I tried to become a trans guy, i think it was trauma related. Since my autism diagnosis i've been a lot more accepting of femininity.

Also autistic. I was never like other girls but I wanted to be. The people at my school did not have my special interests which probably didn’t help lol

This is such a common experience, and it's the quiet part that no-one (including Jordan) is saying out loud. The cultural backlash against high femininity coincides with the funnelling and erasure and pushing underground of girls who are autistics, butches/tomboys or of an alternative subculture. The current zeitgeist--obsessed with marketable, objectifiable high femininity--is trying to corral the latter group under one false identity, while trying to break the esteem and thereby commodify the former (so they can jump on OnlyFans quicker, presumably). The mainstream and covertly misogynistic mainstream politique of now wants hot sexy young beautiful girls to become sex workers (and be proud of it), and wants every other female who doesn't conform to that to either disappear or stop identifying as a woman. It's transparent as a social engineering plan, once you figure it out.

definitely!! all the videos i saw that were related to that topic were kind of bashing on & making fun of the hiii girls & their """excessive""" attention to their appearance/femininity, whereas the bruh girls were always portrayed as more fun, chaotic & "not like the hiii girls!" history just repeats itself lol

in my opinion, bruh girls an hii girls embody different aspects of femininity. hiii girls are girly, bruh girls are womanly.

@@comicallylarge3359 i thought bruh girls were the emotionally challenged girls

@@noemirodriguez1942 that comes with womanhood. as you grow up you experience things that affect you in different ways. even if bruh girls do have difficulty expressing their emotions the way women are typically expected to do, they still stay true to themselves.

What is bruh girls?

i love this comment 🥺

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@Alf DarkDeadly If you're exhausted from having an erection, you need medical help.

frrr

@Alf DarkDeadly you’re a weirdo

True! I used to be a tomboy with my sister as well, when we were girls competing for mother's approval, but as adults we just learned to exist with each other and embrace our feminine side...❤ I don't know why women became judjemental, but one thing I know is that it is not in our favour... We already exist in a patriarchal society which brings us down.

thatshowmafiaworks yeah! Exactly’

I don't wanna be mean but I us, poor /working class girls always have worked. Because when you're poor, everybody works. Yes, even the children. We, of course, were farmers, fishers, solds goods on the markets, also women needed to go to the mine to have some cents... We need to stop looking history through a rich lens. It's not to attack you it's just to explain because even if I am feminist we still need to remember that it was first made by rich white women, that stayed at home all day and only thought about themselves ( Edit : only thought about their life conditions and for example neglected poor women and POC women)

But yes I agree with your comment, that sucks how much we are judged on our appearance. Being a girl is literally an eternal beauty contest.

Miss Issipi yeah that’s a good point, I don’t feel attacked don’t worry ahaha ☺️but it’s also true as the other commenter said, that being a housewife is I think different to working for yourself. You’re still dependent on a male for food right? But you raise a good point to the conversation ☺️

@thatshowmafiaworks I see, I see. That's always very interesting to hear history through different lenses ! I am sorry if I came off as a little bit aggressive. I am socially inept lol ( and where I am from we are known to be considered rude in the way we talk) That's probably a cultural difference . I also understand that being forced to be confined in your house and having your whole existence controlled by your husband is something that really sucks. We are happy that the world starts to see us as actual human beings ! To be honest we worked but women was still property and they didn't have the right to divorce. I am from France personally, my family and I are a bunch of peasants. I know that the culture is very different compared to asian countries for example. I was thinking about Middle Age, Renaissance, and Industrial Revolution era personally. Have a nice day !

Beautiful warriors

you are just like them! you’re strong, intelligent, courageous, brave, and awesome! 💙

:')))

same, i wanna be like the other girls so badly but I put myself down because I feel like im not pretty (i blame my self hate)

@@larae7922 you are pretty don’t believe your ugly I hope this comment made your day I’m sorry if I didn’t say enough but send a lot of love❤️❤️❤️

these make me wanna be a girly girl

u better work

you should be

Random but idk if you can help me lol I wanna start dressing up and wearing more girly stuff but I’m scared of getting judged at school and by people in general :/ so if you have any tips feel free to share them :)

@@ljepotica6073 Girl, wear what you like. If people judge you for what you wear , realize they are just scared of being themselves too. Wear what makes you feel happy,cute, comfy! It all really comes to what looks good to your eye. You got this♥️

That took a crazy turn

this made me laugh a bit (sorry I didn't mean to offend you)

me but adhd lmao

What a Plot twist

This is like a dark joke you'd crack at a stand-up routine XD

I think only wearing dresses and pink, and focusing on being hyper feminine actually can be a signifier of someone being extremely misogynistic to themselves and to other women. Sometimes the women who are the most cruel to others are those subscribing to the extreme standards of beauty the most, and judging other women by them. I mean Regina George, but also Kim Kardashian, women like that, etc.

I love the take! I was surprised that the two women who run it are so informed on gender and ethnicity!

that was an incredible video omg

love that channel! found out about them by watching their takes on friends characters ❤️

the take is the best they have such good perspectives and breakdowns on things i’ve always thought about but never knew were out there being articulated

I love The Take

This made my day 😭

Te doy like por la foto

Hahah omg 😆

Reptilians

I think it's more about the way she ends up shaming *the other girls* on the process of showing how she's different (even if it's unintentional) being a feminist does not mean we can't make mistakes like that, especially when we are young (like she is). It's actually really hard and a long process to notice the internalized sh*t we still have to work on lol

she did often shame her sister for being v feminine n trying to fit the male gaze when many females do want to impress men.

That'd my fav movie

@Alf DarkDeadly bruh

Dude yeah , especially if they dress well

And if they actually care about their hygiene like wtf

@@raine_coat YESSS i don't know why but it's true! Like wtf what does doing skincare have to do with being gay??

As a gay man, agreed. Caring about your hygiene and enjoying looking nice is universal. That said, a lot of straight guys need to chill out. They are operating with a very bad theory about what it means to be gay. Caring about your appearance does not make you gay. Not liking traditionally “masculine” activities does not make you gay. Cooking and cleaning does not make you gay. Enjoying being topped by a woman does not make you gay. If you’re a man and you exclusively like women, you’re straight, and nothing you can ever do or see or hear will change that. Likewise for any other sexuality. It’s also kind of insulting that they’re so hung up on trying to prove they’re not someone like me. As if being gay is some sort of shameful life sentence, or that you have to revoke your “man card” just because of your aesthetic, romantic or sexual preferences. But more than anything I kind of feel sorry for hetero white men. They’re just as shackled by a sexist, racist, homophobic society as women, LGBT+ people, and racial minorities, and unfortunately a lot of them have based their entire self worth on it. It’s just a pity more of them don’t realize that we can (and should) be natural allies. They have more friends in the groups they hate than they realize.

You’re so right, I have not seen many people address sexuality and / or gender identity in regards to this topic!

Ditto! xx

Yup, being in an all girl's school as an nb person, I had a pretty strong rejection of feminity for a while that I'm only unlearning as an adult. Plus I find make up to be a great way to express myself and my transness now :D

THISSS!!! was definitely early sign of my trans ness inside

Yes! I had a massive not like other girls phase- but it also turns out I was never a girl but a queer boy the whole time. It’s weird to try and find the line between what was my own dysphoria and what was internalized misogyny.

Yh exactly no one is like anybody really. We all may have similar interests to the next person but there will always be something a bit different about all of us. So what if someone dresses exactly the same as a whole group of ppl? What's the harm?

Omg I forgot all about hipsters, that was an ERA.

Yes exactly!! Would’ve made my own comment but u have worded it so much better than me haha ! But yes so many people seem to bash other people for displaying ‘not like the other girls’ characteristics but then those exact people are then showing off about how they’re not like thoseeee other girls like really it seems to me that it’s all just a big circle of wanting to be seen as an individual like different musician fanbases seeing themselves as better than the other fanbases !

as someone who had bOtH a hipster and tomboyish "not like other girls" phase, you're definitely right, I can definitely notice it especially now

And you bashing women for that? Uhm,,

nice pfp!c:

period as u should celestia

5yo me: dresses 9yo me: leggings 14yo me: skirts

5yo me: skirts 9yo me: skirts 14yo me: both skirts and pants

Me all time : only.long.skirts It's vert comfortable, when you need to run somewhere very fast

Same omg this is literally me

Ooh interesting is that a film or something? I'd love to know where i can watch it (if it's even a film lol)

Love that but the sexuality aspect on her show was not great, for me at least, it just seems really icky and I just don’t vibe on it

@@Orchidlettux i agree. it’s an amazing show, but the fact the MINORS are subjecting themselves to older men is umm not good. just the fact that euphoria has rly normalized substance abuse is both good & bad. it’s a tough situation.

@@sylviehgl8738 it would have been perfect if it was set in college and not high school.

I mean yeah but theres still some problematic elements in it

EXACTLY

Here in Israel we have an old saying "מה ששנאו עליך אל תעשה לחבריך", i guess the closest translation to English would be "whatever crimes of hate were committed against you, don't do the same to other people" it's a very hard saying to translate

GIRLS SHOULD SUPPORT GIRLS OMG

Because those girls have always been mean to girls who don’t like being feminine. It’s super funny how they say alt girls are mean to feminine girls when it’s always historically been the other way

this is what I dislike about alt people as an alt kid myself, sure it's one thing to be mildly defensive if the person themselves is rude, but there's a difference between defending against misinformation and rude people vs. just being an ass, generalizing* and gatekeeping. Isn't the alt community made to be asking for acceptance and equality between everyone regardless if you conform or not? it's ironic. If you know that the other person is "rude" or "immature" for being rude, then it says a lot about you if you have to resort to doing that to them as well.

Same for me! It also came from a lot of bullying from the “other girls” and my own friends. I was made fun of for liking reading, art, learning and not wearing certain things. The “not like other girls” came from the fact that I didn’t feel like I related to them at all and they bullied me for having actual interests other than just crushing on boys. I now have such a different perspective but it was so hard not to feel “different” when people constantly made fun of you for being different!

@@melodymay4888 I share the same experience but then I started to egg it on in 9th grade. It was short lived but 🤷🏾‍♀️.

@@melodymay4888 c. Can

Same

I had the same thing in early secondary school. Turns out I ended up being autistic.

me: breathes oxygen and nitrogen

SAME. Other girls are in so much drama smh🤭😒

Aww Patrick looks so cute

I completely agree, 'alt tiktok' is literally just a bunch of skinny white popular girls trying to assert superiority by being different and I find it disturbing sometimes the things they do to make sure people know they're 'cool and different'

I know it's so annoying being someone who is actually alternative (I'm emo which is very cringy to say srry XD) and then being told I'm a poser and then also being told that I must be depressed and cut myself for the way I dress and music I listen to when I'm neither of those things I just dress this way and listen to music like that because it's how I like to be and how I like to express myself and mainly because it gives me confidence

@@xxstellastarlightxx9284 I hate when people just assume that’s someone’s depressed because of the way they dress, I used to dress emo but got pushed out of it because I didn’t want be a stereotype. I was depressed in that time of my life, but that wasn’t because of how I dressed. I simply found comfort in the emo community.

@@wo-lien6069 I know same and sadly we all judge someone based on their appearance it's just human nature. I hope, most importantly, you're feeling happier now and I'm glad you found comfort in the community. I myself find it comforting as you know no-one will judge you for being yourself. Just remember that you shouldn't change who you are just because someone makes you or says to and remember you're always emo in your heart

@@xxstellastarlightxx9284 thank you for replying, and I am doing so much better now. Thank you so much!! Love you

YES!! I need to find more of those

Absolutely!

"i'm not like other girls, i like other girls" this one is is probably my favorite one!!!

What's wlw? I've seen that 'sign' (i know that isn't the right word) before. But I forgot what it meant.

@@miss_chelles1338 its an acronym for Women Love Women

Yeah totally, it’s the encouragement for “effortless beauty” when in reality, “traditional beauty” usually takes lots of effort to achieve. But if you actually struggle to keep up, you’re too high maintenance.

I agree with your general sentiment, but calorie counting is not necessarily a sign of an eating disorder. It can be a useful tool for overweight or obese people looking to lose weight at a healthy pace, or for those looking to maintain.

counting calories is not a “clear sign” of an eating disorder. for god’s sake.

the fact that Gilmore girls was supposed to be feminist at the time but there are so many little things wrong with it haha. the way they portrayed girls like Shane and Lindsay as dumb blondes while Rory was put on a pedestal for being different. and she felt entitled to both guys because she was somehow better than those girls. and I get that the grossly unhealthy amount of junk food they ate might be to counter diet culture, but they still stay slim while they've fat shamed others

@@kaywho6477 No I know, but I could only fit it in a little comment plus if you've seen the show they used calorie counting as a punchline for the super skinny, stupid popular girls. It was clearly not to show the benefits of a caloric deficit for weightloss if you get my drift.

Not your fault and since you clearly realized and became aware. What matters is that that you see y misogyny pits U against women and pick me culture is something to be mindful of you’re obviously a good person- it’s society and men not u

@@sad-qy7jz thank u sm sad1996

Hi! Your username seemed pretty sad so I hope everything is alright!

@@zoeo2403 me or sad 1996?

@@zoeo2403 I’m a millennial with the emotional stability and memes of a gen z

Same here...😂 I like being a tomboy, but I also like embracing my feminine side...

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Samee lmao

Same lmao

Yes sameee

PERIOD

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