Boy I needed this. I WAS married 16 years ago. I've basically been celibate and practically dateless for 16 years now. I'm living saved, I'm serving and giving faithfully in ministry. I got ordained in December. I am SO tired!

I'm turning 38 tomorrow, still single, I desire to be in a relationship, but I know I ain't ready.. but this gives me hope for when that day comes.🥰

Happy for you 🥹 there’s still hope but until then I appreciate the time spent with him 😊

Thanks for sharing!!

​@@joseysoseyHappy Birthday 🎉

literally!!!

This!!!!!!

This is so wonderful to hear. May I ask what online dating app you used?

@herro004...What is/has been your approach to healing from the anger and bitterness? I'm 43 and in the same situation you were. I'm particularly frustrated, because I had reached a point of peace and happiness in my single life, just me and God. When I wasn't even looking, 3 different prospects surfaced. Long story short, they all disappeared by the end of the year. Losing those relationships was particularly painful, because I allowed myself to be vulnerable--something I hadn't done in a LONG time. Me: Why Lord!? I wasn't looking for this! I didn't ask for any of it either! I was cool just You and me! Make this make sense! 😡 ...so please share what your healing process has been like, because I could certainly use some tips.

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It’s a lamentation 😢

Amen! 👏🏼👏🏼

Amen🎉

I’m 37. Same here. It is hard.

It’s a choice. You have been given full authority. You either create life or death,it rests on you.

@@MmeMpolokengplease stop

Me too 37 and want to be married

Blessings, have you tried changing up your daily routine to possibly meet new people in your area? Basically, if your only exposed to the same people every day, it limits your exposure to other people. Even pursuing things you love to do in different ways with confidence and intentions to meet new people could give you different results.

A whole WORD!!!!!!

Sooo true! I talk about this with my church family/Christian friends all the time. It's so important to be vulnerable and honest with with one another about how we're feeling/what we're going through. It's common to ask someone "How are you?" "Oh, I'm blessed and highly favored! Living abundantly in the light of the Lord" - but... how *are* you? The question was not answered lol. It's great that we know who we are in Christ, but this earthly life is very human and our emotions need to be revealed so that we can find true healing and not just using the Word to suppress how we truly feel. There's no shame in expressing what God already knows how we're feeling. Such a word that quote was, honestly.

@@oshinofalakoju5749 wheeewww!!! 😮‍💨🙌🏾🙌🏾 yes!! All of this EXACTLY!

Same! I waited on God 8 years. My husband and I will be married 3 years next month.

@ccmediamogul8673 how long did u pray before he showed up and how did u meet him if I can ask

You better go live you are middle aged 😂😂😂

@Ilovebeauty513 😂😂😂😂 oh I started around 35...learned alot to get out the cult...

@@mia8009 oh yes I’m learning in early 20s it’s not even a guarantee that you will get married . No point , I’m not living because you don’t know your future !!!

Same age and church girl too. Blessings zig zagging all around the prayer for marriage lol smh and I’m grateful AND I am frustrated AND God is good AND I want to be married 🙌🏾🙏🏾

Pray fast and go online with prayer put yourself out there more prayerfully God has done it for me at 57yrs

This... Just by curiosity I opened the video ad Watched, waiting to listen a false answer... Tired of those Who speak before God.

Right! I’m tired of Jesus glitter being thrown at me! I just keep it to myself …betwn me & God!

But did he actually answer the question??

Yes, by not answering the question and not giving her the answer she was looking for.. He told her to pretty much keep praying and don’t let that hope go.. Just like so many other Singles out there, we have to come to a point. Saying, to ourselves “ What if God doesn’t send or if I don’t meet someone? Will I be okay and content with it ?“

Righttt, I felt for her 😕

She spoke my heart 🥹

@@NomsLoots A little Jesus "Glitter" Lol. In this, season I have been encouraging myself in the lord By declaring I will prepare my heart for the things God has for me. God has got some things for you, they are tailor-made just for you and no one will/can take them away prevent them, or even block them. So, with the honest sentiment of frustration and impatience delight yourself in the lord and remember that God is who He says He is. Good.

@@dillonhall3344 oh Dillon 🥹. Thank you for this beautiful message! God bless us both ♥️✨

Yes!!! 😭

It so good!✨

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Whew!!!! This!!! 😢😮😮

This!❤❤❤❤

This!!!

This is hard but ask Him to be enough over and over and over until your heart/mind catches up with your words. I PROMISE you He won't deny making the feeling of Him being enough happen for you. I may be married now but I did it before marriage and it felt like withdrawal from an addiction.😢 My heart hurt like heck as I was breaking up with the emotional attachment and physical desire to be in a relationship. I cried myself to sleep many nights and then started turning off movies and music that stirred up those desires. It was a lonely place at first but then it turned into a desire for the Lord and his purpose for my life that I couldn't shut off. It became something wonderful! ❤️ So much so that I felt like my husband coming was a distraction to the good thing I had going on with the Lord. Prayers lifted for you daughter of the King. God’s got great plans for your life outside of or in addition to being wife. Either way it's better than you could ever hope for. 🙏🏼✝️

It is not that he not enough for you. You love Him. You just desire to be married and that is a good thing. Be gentle with yourself ❤

Amen This what I've said to people and they think I'm a SLACKER NO YOU HAVE TO WORK AND HAVE SOMEWHERE TO LIVE.....BUT TO BE THANKFUL, HAPPY AND IN HIS GRACE ALL THAT'S FREE.... I'M GONNA CONTINUE TO REMAIN HUMBLE AND HELP ANYONE I CAN GOD BLESS YOU.

You are so right. I had to learn that lesson the hard way as well mad, tired, frustrated, confused, feeling forgotten, overlooked, complaining to God etc. Then God taught me through prayer, bible study and reading the bible he's given me so much already especially what is really important. I couldn't stay in that state of worrying about marriage when being single has definitely been a blessing beyond what I knew. Now I'm mentally and spiritually fine. Praise be to God 51 yrs old single, no kids, love my job, love my home life, love solitude, no health issues. Where I am is where he wants me to be. I'm focused on God and Jesus nothing else matters.❤ Stay encouraged single ladies. God knows what he's doing trust him for he sees all those troubled hearts. Repent, pray and spend time with God, ask him to give your heart contentment, your spirit peace and your soul rest and be grateful for what you already have.

Exactly! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@@alewis4941 Amen

This is truth, recognizing that God is not a genie nor will our “performance of righteousness” guarantee that we will get our desires. I think most of us have to adjust our heart posture and get in alignment with God and His will for our lives.

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I don’t think I’ve ever read Psalm 77 until I watched this segment (not sure why either but), I love how you said that God even provides the language for us to express our frustration. Wow, that’s so powerful. There’s a book by Christian writer Sheila Walsh called “It’s Ok Not To Be Okay”, phenomenal piece of work. Check it out if you’re interested! Blessings 🙏🏿

So true! I just read that again and i immediately felt my shoulders release frustration!

@@michaelfaulkner5839 I like Sheila W. I’ll have to check that book out..

Same! And I’m going to start reading Psalms from the beginning.

Me too sis! Sometimes I wonder if he even exists...

@@jenetrajackson6794 I recommend 2819 church sermon Called & Discrouraged, God exists and He even exists when are prayers aren’t answered and His grace is enough for the specific problems we face. It’s hard when you feel and believe Gods not answering your frustration, but try telling God I’m struggle to believe you exist right now

Let's keep waiting this year is my ninth year I've prayed fasted declared all of it but God is just quite I also won't settle for less I God has my Holy Spirit filled husband his grooming him as well just like His preparing me 😊♥️

Child that part

I’ve been divorced since 1997! (It’s not a typo) I’ve had relationships but God wasn’t at the center. No wonder they didn’t work out! Now, my life is on track, thanks to The Basement and Tim’s anointed, Godly wisdom!! 🙏❤️ I know God has the right man for me and I’m happily waiting on His divine timing! 🤗

Amen! This is what I’m living rn and I trust in God sooooo much! I share the same frustration that our good sister expressed in the video but I won’t settle with just anyone! God won’t let me and I’m trusting Him in that process every step of the way. Frustrated and all!

Amen🙌🏾

!!! This morning I finally accepted I’m avoidant. I need to work on this.

Yesssss🙏🏽

Astilynn girl I am excited for you! Yes the frustration gets REAL and you just want to scream to the top of your lungs! During this walk we really have to depend on God because we definitely can’t do it by ourselves. Girl I am cheering you on. If you have the desire to live for him that desire can happen!

What if the husband never comes? Sometimes it never happens, for whatever reason.

How did you position yourself?

Practical advice

Even the men are waiting instead of seeking 😂

@Maggs3 He who finds a Wife, finds a good thing. Do they desire or want to be Married? If yes, go out and seek a Wife. Again, you won't find a scripture that says "wait for Marriage" like you're in a waiting room, waiting for someone to come call you.🤷🏾‍♀️ It is a "Choice" not a commandment. Choose wisely and Marry well.

Thank you. I don’t know when waiting on the Lord like Father Christmas became a thing. A lot of people would do better to find and choose someone and get on with it. Also need to decouple purpose in Christ with purposeful marriage because lots of folk are waiting for b before they think they’re entitled to a.

It isn't. Some people are called to singleness despite having the desire to marry. Not all of our desires are from the lord and not every desire he will fulfill as the word says our hearts are deceitful and wicked. Part of me wants to ask if I'll be married or not and if not I want God to remove the desire.

Yep

God said it not good for a man to be alone Gen 2:18 I believe God planted the desire in us for marriage coz that the only way to multiply His Godly Kingdom Gen 3:16 talks about this desire but the timing belongs to God we need to wait in Him as He teaches us how to handle ourselves in marriage for His purpose not for our selfish reasons...why did He create male and female if it not for marriage....the singleness comes in coz Paul talks about staying as you are bcoz he has seen what was happening some of us can't handle marriage coz we're not Spiritual grown we think it all about me while marriage is about us just like Christ Who came to serve not to be served....

Hey friend, I have been there. Don't give up. When we apply for jobs, we put in applications in and send out resumes. Put yourself out there and pray that God will guide you as you take steps in faith. But take steps...Exhaust every option, whether it's online and in-person. Do both, that's my only regret. I cared more about how I was supposed to meet my husband rather than exhausting every option God has given us. I met my husband online in 2020 during Covid. Your husband is out there.

And doing it Gods way does not guarantee a happy outcome either. But we make it through. That’s life.

@@lollian2782 Gods way surely protects us from a lot of things. I’ve seen it for myself in my own life. Life is filled with of ups and downs and it will never be perfect here on earth.

👏🏾 well said. I’ve lived this out recently

I love this response!

I agree however, if you want biological children marriage is necessary.

​@nappyqueen86 well then now you have to come to terms with maybe kids aren't in the cards for you. Kids or marriage. Those are things we can't control.

@@nappyqueen86 Having kids isnt necessary. So many kids in the foster care system. "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being"

B side app

@@chebet125 Thanks a bunch

It’s a choice. We have been given full authority

Facts!!

Bingo..

God says in His word He gives us the desires of our hearts. He wouldn’t give you that the desire for nothing, especially if it’s in line with the word.

I don’t agree. If you have the desire and the word says it, you will certainly have it. One of the biggest things I had to gain revelation in was my mouth. Words create realms. What are we saying in and out of our prayer closet. ?? The spiritual realm is more alive than this natural what are we speaking? Do you know we could be so close? Yes hope deferred makes the heart sick, but I believe that we can defer to a higher place of faith for what we desire.

Somethings need to be done when led by the Spirit of God, otherwise we waste our times and we will be resentful to God.

Amen woman

@@tlcore007 thank you

@@BreaStevens My pleasure! What's your instagram?

You’re still soooo young! Get out and live life, it’s very short. Travel, see the world, work out and try new activities and clubs/groups! Find your happinesses within yourself.

This is what I’ve learned. Not only pray, but move, and be still and know that He is God at the same time. Don’t expect something to happen right away when you move. Stay planted. Be consistent and Trust the Lord. God is good. He is also sovereign. If He’s not giving it to you now, it’s for a good reason. He’s protecting you, or there is something else for you to learn. But don’t let that stop you from putting yourself out there at the same time. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Repeat that to yourself. He knows the plans He has for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and future. Jeremiah 29:11. Live a righteous and pure life first and foremost. The same God who created sex, created purity. Matthew 6:33. Be pure outside of marriage and pure inside of marriage. It will give you quicker results. Purity is of body and of the heart. You can be physically puree, but have an impure heart. God did not create you with a spirit of fear, but of love, power, and self-control. Have self control in all areas of your life, it will speed up the process. By speed up, I mean you will be on time and not delayed. Don’t get weary in doing good bc at just the right time you will get a harvest. Stay planted. Serve at church consistently, go to small groups, get involved. Meet people and spark small talk to make new friends. Life is about connection. It will heal your heart