I agree, women have literally been killed because they try to leave abusive guy. Dave made it seem like it was so easy. Safe exit plan like you suggested. She was scared.

She’s doing it for attention and sympathy cuz she wants to play the victim card. THAT is why she called in and said “abusive”. Also, she didn’t actually cry but she wanted to seem like she was going to. She needs acting lessons. My mom pulled the same stunt w/ my dad

@@charlesg7926 So your anecdotal experience means it’s the same way for every woman/relationship? Lol you can’t be this stupid can you?

@@alp.9672 Should've picked a nicer guy, no excuses. Abusers give obvious warning signs in the beginning that they're aren't worth $hit.

@@handleyobusiness Not always c’mon Bob, same for men........she can turn crazy on you after you been together

This is what ‘a manipulative woman who wants to pretend to be scared on a nationally televised phone call so that she can use the call as “evidence” to help her get money, the kids, and the house in divorce court’ sounds like

@@charlesg7926 Who hurt you?

@@stevieb7865he’s probably the abuser in disguise.

It is shame, psychological and physical abuse !

Classic case of trauma bonding. Not only is it emotionally based but also chemically based. It requires a skilled professional (oft times) to assist the trauma bonded to leave.

@@raccuia1 most of the time there is severe financial and psychological/physical abuse that transpires simultanously. I know, because I have experienced it ! Money is weaponized !

You need to look up the clip from one call "you and your son are in danger".

There’s no proof she was abused though. The only “evidence” is a woman purposely saying “I don’t want him to hear me”, which shows she intentionally wants the audience to feel sympathy for her. She’s manipulating the audience to help herself in divorce $$

@@charlesg7926 You need help....

@@sXePunkV2 Nah, I’m happily married to a good woman. This poor guy in this marriage probably does need assistance though!!

Proud of you

Glad you left and it’s the right thing to do! Proud of you 👏.

Proud of you 👏🏽👏🏽

IF your partner is actually abusive, then you wouldn’t talk about leaving, you would just leave. On the other hand, if you’re constantly bashing your partner as being abusive but you’re still staying, then the partner isn’t the problem- your need for attention and sympathy is.

Yes, ma’am! By any means necessary

So proud of you!!! I'm sure some people aren't even brave enough to leave even when things get bad/worse. You should be very proud of yourself...this is beautiful to hear!

Glad you got out. Existing in that kind of fear and stress is no way to live. I know because I've been there too.

I leave with little money in my pocket.she as a good job what is she afraid of.

@@jamaicaninthekitchen4358 her abusive husband has DESTROYED her confidence and she is afraid to do anything to upset him. It's not about the money, sadly. She is very lucky to have a good job, but it doesn't solve the issues cause by emotional and physical abuse.

Am planning to leave. He treats me like a fool in front of my kids and my house helper. Because I depend on him financially. But it's time move out after 9years

There’s no proof anyone was abused though. The only “evidence” is a woman purposely saying “I don’t want him to hear me”, which shows she intentionally wants the audience to feel sympathy for her. She’s manipulating the audience

Based on the fact the woman is manipulating the audience to gain sympathy, I would say it’s very likely that her husband is not abusive at all and she’s just wanting to “use this call as proof” in order to get money, house & custody in court

@@charlesg7926 Dude… Give it a f*cking rest! If YOU can’t choose a good woman to save your LIFE or the only women you’ve EVER BEEN AROUND OR WITNESSED were horrible I’m either sorry for you or sorry that happened to you or whatever… But to go comment to comment spewing your toxic bs rhetoric on everyone who isn’t crucifying this woman shows more of YOUR hatred of women and is a huge red flag 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

I wholeheartedly agree 💯

@@charlesg7926how’d you reckon all that? you’ve sherlock’d the case wide open aye

If I had that, I wouldn’t stick around.

Those abusive women who refuse to leave - but still complain.

@@buffymcmuffin5361 Pretty much. If an adult woman is willing to tolerate being treated badly, willing to tolerate being abused, then there is nothing anyone can do to help until she herself decides she's not going to tolerate it anymore. Same goes for men who dates/marries sh$t women.

Indeed. Her fear has shut down the executive functioning of her brain. Dave is trying to be that rational thinking part for this woman. I hope she is able to accept the help Dave is offering. If not, I hope someone is at least able to take custody of the children to give them a chance to grow up in an abuse-free home!

The hardest thing about these types of calls is seeing all the low IQ people fall for the manipulative tricks of women who want to elicit sympathy by FAKING “fear”, in order to gain financially in divorce proceedings

@@theadvocate3006 Nah you’re low IQ. She’s faking in order to gain financially in the divorce proceedings. If she was really afraid, she would just make the call in her car when she’s going to work or going to get lunch or something

@@charlesg7926 you’re right; Dave is notorious for his low intelligence

@@amde8554 small intelligence doesn't talk like Dave

You deserve better. Proud you realize that. Things will get better. Sending you loads of positivity.

Proud of you good luck ❤️❤️

SO incredibly proud of you!!!! I am saying a prayer for you right now, and I know with all my heart you are going to thrive, as you are obviously SO so so strong...you've invested in yourself and your soul by taking this brave step. Big prayers and virtual hugs! Keep taking good care.

Good for you! The only thing is don't go getting with the same type of guy again. Reassess what you are attracted to and why or the cycle repeats.

@Natalie S I believe it means Domestic Violence shelter. Please please Google/look up some in your area, hopefully there should be some 🙏🏼

He's straight forward because he has nothing g invested here.

Nah, because she has kids (on the west coast) and they're both not cheap.

Exactly!!! Girl run like forest gump run those bullies

I left in the early 80's after 10 years of marriage and all my friends, plus the church I was going to kept telling me I had to stay. Glad this lady has someone who is helping her in DR and also that it's a new day and women realize they don't need to live in that abuse. When I left I didn't have a job, but I did have 5000 which was half our saving.

Good for you both! That's incredibly brave of you to make the decision to leave and heal. Much love and hugs! 💕 🤗

You are correct. Especially when you are a child and hear it over and over.

Just because she earns it doesn’t mean she has access to it, financial control is very very common in DV and it’s possible her pay check is getting put into an account that he controls

@@bellamia8867 They should have given her practical advice too - about changing her direct deposit to another account in order to make leaving easier

@@bellamia8867 She can open her own account. It's easy.

We don’t even know how old the kids are, 100k salary is not what it use to be. Washington Isn’t cheap. She feels overwhelmed.

@@jimroscovius if leaving an abusive relationship were as easy as opening a bank account and walking out the door then their wouldn’t be so many women dead due to DV

THIS RIGHT HERE !!!!!!!!! Sooooo true. Ugh ppl r insane

Abusers don't change --at least not with a woman they have been abusing.

@@robertwoodpa6463 respectfully that is why I said want or are capable of doing so in my original post. There are different types of abusers so of course this isn't going to apply to all. Those who truly want to do better, have self awareness to recognize their actions and triggers, the ability to stop blaming others for their problems, take responsibility for their actions, seek professional help, understand how to respect their partner's limits and independence, etc are more likely to be successful. However it's going to be a VERY small percentage compared to the masses. I dealt with narc abuse, they haven't changed and are unaware of their condition. However I see those with the personality disorder that are self aware, seek therapy for their family, talking about why they do the things that they do to a widespread audience to help others. They can't ever necessarily "change" but can choose to make conscious decisions to use what they know and have done to help people understand what takes place and provide closure they probably aren't going to get from their abusers if that makes sense. Regardless I want to make it clear that no one should continue to stay and wait for a person to change. Staying only allows the situation to gives the person the opportunity to potentially harm/kill the victim depending how bad things are.

That’s not entirely true, it takes some preparation, especially if you’re a mom.

But Dave handled the call quite well himself. Now hopefully she will get the help she needs.

She's already a single parent!!

@@ramonaearnest4709 yep..

He is probably so tall and good looking that she tolerates it.

I'm not sure they need permission. She knew this guy was abusive shortly after she met him. Something about her likes the chaos.

@@Originalman144 what ever you reckon !

Sad! Being a single mum is not the worst thing.

What is the price to pay ?!? She is better off alone !

Oh lawd what a psycho...

That is the fear. Is it worth the retaliation ?

Mariposa Violeta, luckily not all "churches" believe the same way about the issue of leaving an abusive relationship. I know of a pastor who told the woman to leave if she was being abused. Too bad your mom's church blamed her for leaving, and I agree that was wrong of them.

@@Sheryl777 yea thankfully not all are like that and we left there and went to a church that understood that it's wrong and submitting as the bible teaches is 100% different than the husband being allowed to abuse his family.

@@mariposavioleta9007 👍

Please leave

Abuse in any relationship

She is leaving!!

@@clarifyingquestions I hope she does

You NEVER have nothing. You ALWAYS have yourself.....

@Natalie S Yes, a relative’s place for a short time then moved far away.

@@i.amsimplyval Natalie S is trolling everybody on Dave Ramsey today.

@Natalie S I understand but staying is not a good decision.

@Natalie S Please go away. If a person truly wanted to leave she/he would.

She doesn't need a shelter and that will further traumatize the kids.

@@COINsimp2024 There are advocates and counselors there that she could talk to. And since she is in a physically abusive relationship, she and her children are in danger. She would be safe there, and get some clarity. It's obvious that you do not understand the cycle of abuse.

@Natalie S Domestic violence is not just about the money. It's about emotional control and her safety while leaving is at great risk. You are very wrong. It is necessary to involve assistance.

@Natalie S And I never said she should stay in a shelter. I said she should reach out to them. They provide advocacy and support that the police do not.

@Natalie S You need to get a grip honey. You clearly don't understand everything they offer. Get off the internet kid.

Guns are not enough to solve problems...and 110 is not enough on the west coast.

True 110 with kids in spokane yeahhhh no

Awareness is half the issue. The other part is trusting your instinct and not excusing it. The reality is if you have to ask the question, you already know the answer. The issue is waiting encase your wrong instead of saying something is not right but It’s not up to me to fix it.

She is NOT smart. HE is NOT the problem...If she were smart, she'd know that she NEEDS TO GET OUT NOW. She is "choosing to be a victim". At the expense of her babies.

@@pattyajones 100% correct but we live in a victim society