I Made a Costly Decluttering Mistake

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I accidentally got rid of something I needed! How do I move past the guilt and regret of decluttering something I needed? Or letting of a sentimental item I can't replace? Today we'll talk about moving past the guilt and regret that sometimes comes with decluttering your home!
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@TheMinimalMom 11 күн бұрын

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@katiejon17 11 күн бұрын

When I click on your channel now, I always ask what you’ll be selling. This is at odds with your content. Once in awhile is one thing. But maybe it’s too much.

@AyaMorgaine 11 күн бұрын

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@TheMinimalMom 11 күн бұрын

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@ArtingFromScratch 11 күн бұрын

I remember a quote saying "whichever thing you chose, you will have misery... but if you chose what you KNOW, you will at least know what misery you are in for"

@debbiericker8223 11 күн бұрын

I donated a decorative souvenir to our community thrift store about 3 years ago and sort of regretted it thereafter. I liked the item, and it didn't take up much space at all, but it was gone forever... until I was at an estate sale last month. There was my souvenir (complete with my hand written note on the bottom stating where I had originally bought it)! I bought it back for only $1. I may eventually be ready to donate it again, but for now I'm enjoying having it back.

@wendyeskelin8765 11 күн бұрын

Oh wow, how crazy is that ! I guess the universe heard you thinking of wanting it back. ( ha ha ) What are the chances ! I love this story.

@debbiericker8223 11 күн бұрын

@@wendyeskelin8765 I couldn't believe it. I picked it up and excitedly showed it to my friend, saying I used to have one exactly like it and was sorry I had gotten rid of it. I turned it over, and on the bottom was my handwritten note "Bought in Beijing 1987". Yea!

@lisas2538 Күн бұрын

Great story! That’s so crazy.

@lrhudy93 11 күн бұрын

For my 10th wedding anniversary, my husband and I celebrated by wearing our wedding attire and "running" (and walking) a 10K for 10 years. I knew I didn't want my wedding gown in my closet anymore, and my daughter didn't want it, she wants to get her own, and I bought it used anyway so there were no resale shops that would want it either. By doing this for our anniversary, I now have more pictures of me in my wedding gown, with my husband in his suit. Afterwards I felt confident in tossing it because it was used for its purpose - twice - and the memories are amazing to have forever and I don't need the dress for those memories because I have the photos. Also, if I wanted to keep the wedding gown after the 10K race, I could get it cleaned because after my wedding reception it was full of sweat and dirt from the floor anyway, just like after a 10K race. The race watchers were all cheering for my husband and I as well, while we ran together through the race of our marriage. It was a very symbolic celebration! And 10 years was the right race for us because I'm not sure I'd be able to run a marathon in my wedding gown (or even in workout gear!) - but feel free to modify this idea for your marriage memories! 👰🤵‍♂️💒❤

@christinegrelck9131 11 күн бұрын

I love everything about this :)

@sarahko2014 11 күн бұрын

Such a great idea!😊 We just celebrated our 10th anniversary last year...and after moving 5x already since getting married, I decided to get rid of my wedding dress just before our move this spring. Unfortunately I hadn't had it cleaned well after the wedding, and it had a lot of discoloration after 10 years already. So I just trashed it. Was hard to make the decision, but after deciding to let it go I have no regrets. No need to keep stuff that isn't being used.👍

@hzharry 3 күн бұрын

Such a great story!!❤

@JamieM470 11 күн бұрын

Tonight someone called and said they were going to pop over to visit and they would be here in 5 minutes. Before I simplified my home, I would have been in panic mode, rushing around trying to pick up and clean up. A few times I wound up in tears because it was so embarrassing and just awful. Tonight, I looked around, smiled, and started some coffee. A simplified home is SO worth it. Even when family members are not on board. And I truly cannot think of a single thing I regret getting rid of.

@bethheerten1132 11 күн бұрын

Yes! This! Get that coffee ready and visit.

@PARoth2011 10 күн бұрын

Gosh that’s so inspiring, thanks for reminding us that it can actually happen!

@michellebilodeau3882 10 күн бұрын

A big compliment I received was from my sister when she said your house is always company ready.😊

@Rosa-kf6yy 9 күн бұрын

Yes! The first time it "hit me" was because it was our Pastor and his wife "just in the neighborhood". Wow. I said "come on in" and didn't have to apologize for anything. :)

@maggieafr75 7 күн бұрын

These are goals!! 🎉 the only time I was able to have people over without worry, was a 7-week period when our house was on the market. So much stuff was out of the house and we could clean so much quicker.

@beat9903 11 күн бұрын

I don't mean to be too parasocial, but the "you're doing a great job" at the end made my postpartum, tired self burst into tears (in a good way). Thanks for the light you shine, Dawn!

@GlamishMom 11 күн бұрын

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@lynnegordon6749 11 күн бұрын

Sending you a hug💞

@savannah1449 8 күн бұрын

I always stay for the ending.

@eileenlass7748 11 күн бұрын

I've often said "For every hundred things I've gotten rid of, there's usually one thing that shouldn't have gone. But the VALUE of the 99% of the things that NEEDED to go FAR OUTWEIGHS the one thing that I shouldn't have let go!"

@ANDIBO987 11 күн бұрын

If you only knew how much you have changed my life, you’d be SHOCKED. It’s been years simplifying my home. I’m still on it but I’m wiser and I do things with confidence thanks to you and your wonderful content. I’m a 36 year old man who is slowly but surely building a life around life and not things. Thank you from the bottom of my heart

@jxtx10 11 күн бұрын

I decluttered an ice cube tray after we moved to a new house with an ice maker in the freezer. Then my wife wanted to make frozen coffee ice cube. Lo and behold, she used the gingerbread man silicone molds we still have (I make them every Christmas and love them!) to freeze coffee so then we had adorable gingerbread man shaped coffee ice cubes for our summer ice coffee. It reminded me of the snowman in Frozen singing about summer!

@beep-beepwatermelon4203 11 күн бұрын

Hey, I’ve decluttered at least 80% in the past three years. Funny, I was on a mission a few months ago to try to think of ANYTHING I could regret decluttering, and the only thing I could think of was that it would have been handy to have the baby activity center back because one of my twins was starting to put weight on her legs. The following weekend, I went to our local free store… and there it was! IT CAME BACK TO US ❤🎉 Just when we needed it. God is great! He always makes sure we have what we need when we need it. Now I just trust in God that if I make a mistake decluttering, he will provide an answer.

@TheHappySensitive 11 күн бұрын

the true cycle in recycling!

@user-oy8kk4hh4t 11 күн бұрын

God is good 💯

@michellefox7887 10 күн бұрын

Last weekend I recruited by husband to " hold my donation bag " while I decluttered by closet. If I ask him, "should I get rid of...?" He will always say "Yes" (doesn't matter what it is!) and if I have to ask then I probably can let go of it, I just need the reinforcement. I started to say, "If I need it again, I will just have to buy it" and in the bag it goes. I can now see the floor of my walk in closet and I think I am ready for a second pass. I can't see myself repurchasing anything, and I have already has some regrets in the past, but I never had to "go naked" because I purged a piece of clothing. I appreciate your posts, they really keep me motivated. I need it for my sanity! I notice when I don't watch consistently, I fall into a rut. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

@megana5658 11 күн бұрын

The amount of mistakes I’ve made decluttering is still less than the amount of times I would’ve double purchased something because I can’t find it

@daphneferrizone2335 11 күн бұрын

I always misplace my chapstick and then have to rebuy. Asked my frugal sis what she does if she can't find her chapstick and she said she just uses Vaseline temporarily and it always turns up : )

@Iris-gy2mi 11 күн бұрын

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@modfarmgirl5671 5 күн бұрын

Good point! I never thought of it this way.

@karenrich9092 11 күн бұрын

I've made mistakes by accepting things. When my mother and mother-in-law died 3 months apart, we brought home things and my husband said, "Just shove it somewhere. We'll deal with it later." Then there were all his hobbies, work, and assorted stuff that filled the garage, storage building and basement. We quietly left it alone. Now he has passed on 6 years ago. So, there's all this stuff that I have to declutter, I'm by myself, and I'm battling cancer (along with insurance issues). I know what to do with the paper stuff because I'm a history person, so that's easy. The getting started is the hardest.

@mousenation3867 11 күн бұрын

So sorry to hear of your loss. The clutter creeps up when life throws road blocks sometimes, I know mine did. Sending you so much love and healing ❤️‍🩹. Best of luck with your treatment.

@user-fv7jh8pp9l 11 күн бұрын

Sorry you're going through this. I had a young daughter in congestive heart and kidney failure, my husband asked for a divorce, and my mom died (I'm an only child). Had to physically and emotionally put stuff in a corner for quite awhile . Took years to really feel I'd finally dug out but that's ok. Also advise ( if you can) get help. Stuff can weigh you down!

@barqu1636 11 күн бұрын

I got started by using the day the dumpster goes to the street for pickup. My goal was to fill the dumpster every Tuesday. I put the dumpster right outside the back door. I worked one room at a time until I ran out of things to throw away, donate or give away. Then I moved onto another room. It worked for me pretty well. It wasn't too time consuming, and I actually started looking forward to my decluttering day.

@dsmith9796 11 күн бұрын

@@barqu1636 , I did something similar - and for me the day before trash pickup was also a Tuesday!! Every Tuesday I still plan the things I'm going to get rid of - even if I'm just going to trim a bush in the yard and load up the branches in the trash receptacle!!!

@uteme 11 күн бұрын

Praying for you!

@exploringnewhites 11 күн бұрын

I have another suggestion for a place to donate wedding dresses (or any formal Gown)…local community theater. They can remake them into period dresses, and local theater groups are often on a tight budget. I used to do musical theater and it was really helpful 🥰

@christinen.6140 11 күн бұрын

My daughter wore my wedding dress as Buttercup in a school play. I loved it. ❤

@nikan7704 9 күн бұрын

That's such a great idea!

@kdmadrid 8 күн бұрын

Thank you for this idea!!! I have a formal I need to get rid of and I’d rather donate than sell it for next to nothing.

@wende.with.an.e 7 күн бұрын

Love this!

@jeanetteburt379 9 күн бұрын

My piano teacher in college would write “Forgive” on my music if she saw me spending my mental energy on kicking myself over a mistake while I was still playing the piece rather than immersing myself in the music. Another music professor would say to us “you’re worried about the 2 or 3 notes you just played wrong. What about the 4,000 notes you played correctly?”

@devinfarrelly3768 6 күн бұрын

That’s a great thing to keep in mind about parenting. Forgive ourselves for the off notes and remember the countless pretty songs.

@modfarmgirl5671 5 күн бұрын

Wow! That’s powerful!

@kristalnoel9103 11 күн бұрын

Just realized, I remember the regret, but I don't remember the item. That speaks volumes.

@abby5791 11 күн бұрын

My biggest decluttering critic is my mother. Thank you Dawn for the encouragement that I'm doing the right thing for my family! ❤

11 күн бұрын

I have regretted a couple of things but eventually forgot about them. I did re-buy something once, then never used it, and ended up decluttering it again 🤦🏻‍♀️

@susanneh.7652 11 күн бұрын

I did that.. with my juicer 😂 felt so stupid. But I learnt from that. When things are out of my house now, they don’t come back. And I’m perfectly fine with using my blender, so I forgive myself.. 😅

@wendyeskelin8765 11 күн бұрын

We did that with a bread maker. Got rid of it.. and then a few years later my husband wanted to start making bread again. I researched and found a great one, spent a good amount of money on it and he made bread like two times and there it sits.

@mousenation3867 11 күн бұрын

Yup I’ve done that with various items some sooo expensive. Life evolves and sometimes we need to move with what’s important at the time.

@sct4040 11 күн бұрын

I regretted decluttering my slow cooker, bought again then decluttered it again. It takes 3 hrs to cook something that can be done in 1 hr in the Instant Pot, so I never used it again.

@PuzzlesC4M 11 күн бұрын

Same. A Valentine’s Day plate. I guess I’m drawn to them! But when I’m home, I wish it was a plain red plate, so that I could use it during other holidays through the year.

@cornwallsharon81 11 күн бұрын

I decluttered all my wedding cards - no regrets there, they were all just “congratulations! Love x and y”. But I realised the card from my gran was in there and that was the last time I saw her before she passed. And yes, when I realised, I was really sad. BUT I reframed it in my mind. If she’d left the card at home and I’d never even received it, would I have loved her any less? Would I have fewer memories of her? Would I remember her less vividly or less fondly? The answer to all those questions is of course no. And that let me come to peace with not having the card. (I would have been sadder had it had a long message of love and advice but luckily it didn’t).

@user-sq3kk3wt8p 11 күн бұрын

As a newly wed couple, my husband's grandmother gave us her old waffle iron. You need to know I love waffles, but this was so dirty and grimy (just from 50 years of regular use), that I donated it (because I didn't have the energy or heart to clean it). That was 40 years ago and it's the only thing I've ever regretted giving away and it haunted me ... until now. Your comment that we sometimes glorify the item as time passes is certainly true of this item. If I really focus on the reason I gave it away, I would probably do the same thing today. Regret gone. Thank you for this reality check perspective !!

@erindixon2877 11 күн бұрын

The wiring in old vintage appliances isn’t the best and if the waffle iron was heavily used, so was the wiring. You may have saved yourself and your husband from a fire emergency by tossing the old waffle maker.

@Itallnew 11 күн бұрын

I started with minimalism many years ago, I have never ever regretted it. What follows minimalism often is simplicity in so many additional forms, ….getting out of debt, living within your means, and just generally simplifying so many life choices. It really has been a huge blessing in my life.

@yzolakitchi 11 күн бұрын

I'm really hoping to shift my decluttering onto my finances, which aren't in a great state. Made a first move today by reducing my broadband costs by switching to a different supplier, and cancelling Paramount+. Lots more to do, but your comment gives me some hope on the financial stuff! 🙂

@marylut6077 11 күн бұрын

Right! When we stop mindlessly consuming we become savers

@marylut6077 11 күн бұрын

Turned in weird CPU on electronic recycle day, later found out old business phones couldn’t be returned without the weird CPU that was really the server…so donated the phones. No harm done

@crterwil 11 күн бұрын

So true. Especially the older I get.

@kathleenhallowell1715 7 күн бұрын

My wedding dress was used to make my twin girls their christening dresses. It was a great use. I still have them 34 years later. My mom made them.

@lizzygrace6322 11 күн бұрын

Wow I’m early to a Minimal Mom video! Dawn, you’ve helped me so much as a 23 year old mother of two. I’m so thankful I’ve learned so much about minimalism so early into my motherhood journey. Thank you for all you do!

@kristine95660 11 күн бұрын

I can't imagine how my life would have been different if I had this kind of education at my fingertips at your age. I'm so glad you have this!

@osnapmama1670 11 күн бұрын

I started 15 months ago after seeing Dawns videos and have purged so much, so many car loads. I still continue to minimize. I am a youngish mom of 4 kiddos. I cannot tell you what I’ve all donated, it’s been so much- and I also have no regrets. I can’t encourage you all enough to let it go, and if you donated something you shouldn’t have, shoot but let it go also! ❤

@rawcurls1 11 күн бұрын

The ones I really regretted decluttering were the ones that were really difficult to repurchase/replace, like old record albums, unique jewelry or a manual grain roller that was difficult to find again. It didn't stop me from decluttering, which I still do on a regular basis, but taught me not to be in haste to declutter unique items without thought. Now, for those unique or more expensive items, I will put them aside or store them away - which I have the room to do it - so it's not a problem.

@lisaintheuk3347 11 күн бұрын

We had to move home last year after living in one place for over ten years, we are in our 50’s and had accumulated so much ‘stuff’! From your videos I started to declutter before the move, we got rid of so much, 2 skips (UK) and donations, gave away, sold and the rest to the tip. It was life changing! I’m still continuing to go through and declutter. I do monthly and then now 3 months, if I haven’t used it, it doesn’t spark joy…it goes! It’s so easy to clean now and we both feel so much better. So thank you so much ❤.

@user-wy7jy7zs3h 11 күн бұрын

20 years ago My Mother-law, Mother and step Mother died within 8 months. My husband inherited ALOT of figurines and tchotchkes. My Mother was a collector of crafts…we’re talking floor to ceiling, wall to wall and my step Mother lived in another state so I flew out and it took a long time to clean so I wound up bringing too much home with me. I was ok getting rid of things by re-homing them but had a hard time throwing out. I was sure my nieces and nephews and brother would like certain things and they did but it cost me hundreds of dollars to send it. My Mothers house took 8 months to clean. I literally had a heart attack because of the enormous stress. My brother left all the stuff in storage and it had to be thrown out. So now I can look back and realize I should have kept 1 item for each person that they wanted (unless they came to get more) and just donated everything. When we moved to our new home I took 70 boxes with me. It’s taken 20 years to go through the stuff….and no one misses a thing…

@wendyeskelin8765 11 күн бұрын

That is such a burden you had to take on. I'm sorry it was so stressful that it caused you some major health issues! Sometimes we try to do and do and do, but it never usually ends up being a good idea in the end.

@maureennevers9039 11 күн бұрын

The me who misses the item is idealizing the situation- I only think I’d use it because it’s gone. If I had it I guarantee I wouldn’t use it (because that’s why I decluttered it!)

@debrawhite5894 11 күн бұрын

Dawn, I’ve simplified my stuff as things have change through my life…kids get older, kids to college, kids moved out, kids marrying, retirement, becoming a grandmother, etc. I’ve never regretted simplifying. It’s always made me relax and have time to breathe in the beauty of life. The only thing that shocks me is how attached I was to the peer pressure then. All the money I spent on clothing, furniture and decor over the decades is mind boggling. Thanks for keeping the value of a simplified life foremost in your videos. 🌸

@jillholmberg1311 9 күн бұрын

When my children were young and I was trying to minimize my inventory I was decluttering my sewing room and got rid of old patterns my mom had given to me. Now that my kids are adults and my mom has passed away I wish I would have kept the vintage patterns for sentimental reasons. However one of the most important things my mom gave me was her patience, time and her talent teaching me how to love sewing. That’s when I feel closest to her - and I’m pretty good at it😉. Thank you for always encouraging people to focus on the importance of moments.

@SarrahStrange 11 күн бұрын

I decluttered my food processor a few years ago because I only used it for pie crust. Later I came across a recipe I wanted to make (not pie crust) that required a food processor. 😅 I just coarsely chopped the ingredients with my knife and I was absolutely fine.

@candicewaller403 9 күн бұрын

I adore my food processor! But I can totally see how I could get by without it. I feel like most kitchen appliances are more about convenience than necessity. My panini press and ice cream maker are looking a little dusty, though. I'll need to think about whether those deserve their cabinet space.

@JL.506 11 күн бұрын

One of the (many!) reasons I love what you've taught me about decluttering is that I can apply the same strategies to keeping my barns/farm decluttered too! Having a house as well as 2 sheds and 2 barns is a lot of potential inventory to manage and can be very overwhelming so I am so thankful to God that I found you, Dawn! Thank you! :)

@tarateachingmiddleschool2118 11 күн бұрын

Yes!! I have used all I did in my home to declutter and keep my classroom an organized and simplistic uncharted space for me and my students!!!

@beep-beepwatermelon4203 11 күн бұрын

Our home runs so much more efficiently after decluttering, that even if I had a budget of $1000 for things that I accidentally decluttering, we would have already saved that within the first year of living in a highly simplified home. And I have no regrets.

@lauriegb7461 11 күн бұрын

I went through a 'purge all the things' stage a few years ago and gave away or donated nearly all my small mouth canning jars (I can't really get my hand inside to clean and I prefer wide-mouth) and then rediscovered my love of canning. Fortunately the church thrift store I donated to still had plenty of jars to buy back at a insanely low price and a friend that I gave a bunch to gave them back after I shared how much I lamented giving them all up. Then my husband's auntie passed away and I inherited all of her jars. So I was blessed and now have a full pantry too.

@tarateachingmiddleschool2118 11 күн бұрын

The graphic at the end is so spot on!! Messy middle, tipping point and then this all-out declutterring until I was almost sad that I didn’t have another room to go through!!! Maintenance is the place to be where my home takes very little of my time now. Love a simplified life!!

@wisewords3485 11 күн бұрын

Great video, Dawn! This will definitely help me move forward with a new mindset. Example about “using something else”: I ran out of ziplock bags about 2 years ago and decided to pause purchasing them until I needed one. For over a year, I never needed a ziplock bag. Married my new husband last June, and he had a ton of ziplock bags stored up. Now I seem to use them every day, just because they’re available. But I NEVER “needed” a ziplock bag when I didn’t have one. I used glass jars, wax paper, whatever and it was painless. Yes, necessity is the mother of invention and you will find a way. Great point! Thank you for encouraging us all.

@elisabethlasalle3529 11 күн бұрын

Wonder if, with all your gardening /yard work /camping skills -you’ve tossed or donated anything from there, that you regret? Actually miss seeing updates on your garden, camper, and pet life!

@joannbirdsong583 11 күн бұрын

We have already reached the give it away for free here on the west coast. It’s happening because people moving out of state have run out of time and are begging people to come and take away their stuff. When so much stuff is free, it’s hard to actually sell your stuff. I know that personally with a couch that we tried to sell. A very nice couch too. We even set it in the driveway with a big free sign. Finally one night it disappeared. Good thing too, because we would have had to take it to the dump.

@Tricia-xo6fq 11 күн бұрын

Did Dawn get rid of her blender, then repurchased? I’m confused…. I was waiting to see if that subject came up but never did. I have a solution to decluttering remorse. If you can find several ways to use one item then that’s more useful to keep than one single use item.

@mrsstrople 11 күн бұрын

There is always a cost to education. It's all part of learning and growing.

@lisasoto3425 11 күн бұрын

That's an excellent mindset! Thank you

@thehillmillers 2 күн бұрын

This is my third year on the "Dawn train" I still have a ways to go, but the ideas of memory boxes and the "time will tell" bin have really helped me deal with the loved iitems. I have missed a couple of things, but right now I can't even remember what they were!! Having the space is so much better than having the stuff. Thank you Dawn. Also, when I've had a bad day, Diana always makes me feel better. I love you both like friends. I pray you both have continued blessings and laughter. Thirdly, I've been on the Dave Ramsey train also since 1994. He used to be on a radio show, here in Nashville, called "The Money Game'. He kept me out of debt my whole life. He is another blessing.

@gaywells7340 11 күн бұрын

I’ve been married for 55 years, have two sons and two granddaughters who don’t have any interest in most of our “stuff”. Last week I thought of some things I never got to have: a KitchenAid stand mixer, a grandfather clock, etc. All space-hogs. But I got the one huge space-hog we bought for our 20th anniversary - a beautiful ebony 7 foot long grand piano, that has given me pleasure every single day since it was delivered. I am grateful for this thing that most people never get to have, and I’m working on getting over the sadness at not getting the other things…and it’s all just things….

@katied4088 11 күн бұрын

To me a decluttered house is way more valuable than a small item here or there that I might have to replace someday. If I have to spend $15 to rebuy something, it doesn’t even compare to the value of a calm and peaceful home. Great video as always, Dawn. ❤

@karoosten232 11 күн бұрын

I think the challenge with abundance vs the scarcity time being not that long ago is we can still fear that that type of time is so close to us, so what prevents it from happening again? The pandemic and job loss kind of shook us a bit.

@AZHITW 11 күн бұрын

I put my wire whisk into a donation box and away it went. One day I was making cornbread looked for my wire whisk -- GONE! Next time I was close to the battered woman's thrift store I ran in and grabbed a wire whisk 99¢. Another time I put my blender in a donation box, went to the pantry to get my blender and was shocked it wasn't there, but I looked in my donation box and fished it out, it is back in my pantry. Donated four eight-inch nonstick skillets because I wasn't using them, then hubby passed away and now I cook for one and I need my eight-inch skillets. Other than those items I have no regrets about the truck loads of stuff I've decluttered.

@sandradezwart4413 11 күн бұрын

I use the wait and see box for larger more expensive items.

@riverrock335 11 күн бұрын

I decluttered my kitchen and when my husband looked for his cheese slicer, it was gone. He was not a happy camper and I bought another one. Don’t regret decluttering at all. Less clutter equals peace of mind to me.

@elizaweber4428 11 күн бұрын

So sorry your husband passed away 😢

@bumblebee_mrs 11 күн бұрын

Such lovely and sensitive stories about regrets. I regret nothing out of the thousands of things I donated. Actually, I regret getting to the point of having so much stuff it ruined my life, and not decluttering 10 years earlier.

@sl9906 11 күн бұрын

Dawn, millions of blessings to you and the earth shattering peace/wisdom you provide! In the last few serious years of minimizing, I’ve decluttered thousands of items, cleared out both my parents homes when they transitioned to care, and when I retired from teaching. Of all the identity, fantasy, transitional, sentimental, craft, etc items, I only replaced a French press and a can opener that I decluttered. HOWEVER, my life is simple, low stress, clutter free, easy to clean, and I’ve donated items to people who really need and love the things. I’ve met people in my neighborhood thru the “buy nothing group” and their joy has filled me up and my connection to them as neighbor means waaay more than any “thing”. I’m eternally grateful to you ❤

@thelmakatherine5396 11 күн бұрын

❤❤After years of decluttering my own possessions, my husband finely let me help him with his. It is more about storage solutions for his Butterfly (clutterbug) brain, but I am so thrilled. We are not finished, but I can already feel the difference in the house. My mental health is improving item by item.

@persephonebasilissa5109 11 күн бұрын

Mine is finally doing the same! It started with socks and t-shirts and has moved on to electronic equipment. I'm looking forward to the year he'll be ready to declutter sports magazines from the 1990s!

@d.dorough 11 күн бұрын

My biggest regret and will be my largest for the rest of my life (pretty sure) is getting rid of my 80's collection of 45's. Makes me sick to even write this. 😢 Purely a sentimental regret, I understand but am I still beating myself up for it? Yes! It's VERY "sticky" for me.

@yzolakitchi 11 күн бұрын

I've struggled with getting grid of expensive, useful items in the past. Selling them was too complicated, but I want to make sure that they were appreciated. What I do now, is stick a bit of masking tape on the item with a very brief description, before donating. That way, I feel a thrift store has a better chance of pricing it appropriately and knowing what they have. It means I can hand it over, guilt-free. So much quicker than selling, but gives the item validation for me. An example label might be "Steam cleaner, purchased from new a year ago, barely used, cost £130". Having worked in charity shops here in the UK, I know that items come in and can be puzzling for volunteers in terms of brand or how appealing shoppers may find it. Not knowing what it is, they mark it up for a couple of pounds when in reality, the charity could have generated extra money for their cause if they'd known what they had. So I feel a brief note on the item helps me, and helps the charity too.

@PearlGirl920 11 күн бұрын

Dawn, you mentioned how good it feels to be creative about finding something else to get a job done. You are so right! I was laid off several years ago, and my husband and I decided to live more frugally until I found another job. If something broke, we figured out how to fix it instead of rushing out to buy a replacement. If we needed something that we didn't already own, we borrowed it from friends/family or we found something else to use instead. It felt so good, and it was actually a lot of fun. I'm thankful for that period in our lives because it changed how we think about and handle 12:38 our money and possessions. Thank you for sharing your decluttering journey! I find it so inspiring!

@didid.6667 11 күн бұрын

Your videos have been and still are só helpfull in my decluttering proces. It feels like you’ve become a good friend even though we’ve never met or will meet (I live in the Netherlands). So far no recent regrets, only one from my past. I was fortunate to have known my great grandmother as a kid. When she passed away I was given her beautiful ‘toy’ horse she always had on display. As a 9 year old at the time my passion was horses and I really loved that decoration horse and always played with it when we visited her. When I moved out of my parents house at age 19 my interests had shifted and I got rid of the horse, no longer grieving over my great grandmothers passing. But when I got older I regretted that decision because it was the only tangible object I had of her. And in my memory the horse grew more beautiful every year. But what’s done is done and no 20/20 rule can help me here so I just keep the memory.

@MaineGirlOutdoors 11 күн бұрын

I wish i could get my family on board lol. I totally have the minimalist mindset and feel much more relaxed in decluttered spaces. I literally feel like a weight is lifted from my shoulders when i declutter something. But it never lasts long. 🙁

@TheHappySensitive 11 күн бұрын

Ah - that piece on regret is so helpful. I'm massively decluttering and there are some cool sport-items I barely used that I'm now selling on marketplace. They feel like lost dreams of sorts, BUT, your video made me realize that it's precisely BECAUSE I purchased certain things (like a powerkite) that I discovered there was no place anywhere near my home to fly it. Had I not bought one, I probably would have fantasized about all the powerkiting I could have done in my area... Same for a bunch of other things. Buying them and trying to make them work in my life taught me a lot about the practicalities of my life. So now it's easier to see something that sounds fun and think through the practical ins and outs. Less item-FOMO :)

@wendyeskelin8765 11 күн бұрын

I hear you on the lost dreams feeling, I'm dealing with that now. I think that is a great lesson that you took away from the kite and helpful! Thank you.

@TheHappySensitive 11 күн бұрын

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@user-no4hq4nl3j 10 күн бұрын

Dawn I have been following you for 5 years, you are my favourite youtuber, such an inspiration. I found you when I wanted to change how my house looked messy, I wanted a more minimal life. Whenever I need to do housework I put your videos on and I work. I have changed a lot in this years thanks to you! Greetings from Croatia!

@heatheramador4607 11 күн бұрын

I spent all day yesterday dawn going through my whole downstairs and kids room organized, decluttered theres so much peace mind now! THANK YOU for the encouragement Dawn. As mom of two Littles this helped my stress alot today being able actaully relax with my kids with not looking at stuff I know needs taken care of.

@barbkandel777 11 күн бұрын

Dawn, I love your curls! You message today is amazing! You are so right about regrets, and I love your new take on things we wish we'd done differently. We truly don't know that another way would have turned out better. Great video! ❤

@justmeandmyself3701 11 күн бұрын

I recently decluttered my summer wardrobe. What is hardest for me is letting go of guilt of spennding all that money and be now in a position to throw it away because it does not fit me anymore or it never did or i changed my style.

@wendyeskelin8765 11 күн бұрын

Clothes was hardest for me too. I had various sizes and seasons. It's a tough one. I did one overall large sweep.. then I did another large round and now I just toss them to a donation pile when I try it on or I skim past it a bunch of times and never choose it. A few things still had tags so I know what you mean about the guilt.

@ucfhillcollege8296 11 күн бұрын

The money is already gone. Let the guilt go. It does not being the money back! Even if you sell it, you will not get full price and there is the time and effort put into selling it.

@pinkroses135 10 күн бұрын

What's helped me is realizing that clothing depreciates big time and that I find long lasting second hand items for similar or greater value but at a low price. Also taking note of the details that I didn't enjoy so I don't buy things with it again.

@pippas5808 10 күн бұрын

If you sent your clothes to a second-hand shop, it might help to know that people were probably really grateful to get them! Most of my life, I've not been able to afford new clothes, and I've always been so thankful to people who declutter good clothes from their wardrobes and send them to second-hand shops so I can buy them at prices I can afford!

@deniseharwood9521 9 күн бұрын

But it will probably make you more aware of what new clothes you spend money on in the future.

@jamie.8525 8 күн бұрын

I was talking to a friend on the phone for an hour or two. My kids figured out how to unlock the baby lock on the trash can. They tossed a bunch of books and dress up stuff and dollar tree toys. Rather than sorting through it and trying to discipline them, I took out the trash! I should thank them for decluttering for me. But I never would have felt brave enough to say “goodbye” to their belongings like that if I hadn’t been at the “fed-up” stage to simply let go of things like that. Fingers crossed it will be a learning experience for my 2 & 3 year olds.

@jenpisano5954 10 күн бұрын

I have "regretted" a few things that I've decluttered but not enough to make me stop decluttering. Decluttering changed my life! It's given me peace in my home now. And I'm so Thankful for Dawn - finding your channel - I turn you on and you're here with me while I declutter. 😂 Then once I'm done, I step back and seriously marvel at the area 😂😂😂

@vzeimen 10 күн бұрын

We recently stayed in an airbnb house and every drawer that wasn't a dresser was full of stuff others had left, batteries, travel sized lotion, shampoo, tea, sugar, hairdryer box, spices etc. etc. There were probably 150 dvd movies. Quite honestly it was sort of a turnoff to have so much junk that was either obviously left by previous guests or just overboard niceties by the owners.

@devinfarrelly3768 6 күн бұрын

I use rental homes as my example of a streamlined home, but we stayed at one that had everything circa 1960, including the spice collection, blender, dull knives, etc.

@JamieAndrick 11 күн бұрын

I started listening to Dr. Ellen Langer over a month ago.. I absolutely love her! I've heard her in so many interviews. When she spoke about choices.. I immediately applied it to decluttering! Love her way of thinking!

@TD-vs5vy 11 күн бұрын

Always look forward to your new ideas and tips for decluttering! Love from Canada 🇨🇦

@juliekonigskind6434 11 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for yet another great video Dawn. The voices from your community are gold! We've been decluttering for the past three years (ever since our first son was born and I felt like the worst mother on earth, because I couldn't keep up a clean house, find time to do laundry, cook fresh meals every single day and still look as juvenile and fabulous as all the moms on social media) We have come such a long way. Living minimal is the best gift we could have given ourselves. The little bit of house work is easy to handle, I truly enjoy keeping house, cooking and baking with our son or by myself and when guests are coming over, they are always impressed with our peaceful home and want to know all about minimalism and how we manage to keep everything so clean and calm. I still watch every single video from your channel, because I love to keep on track and I am far from being immune to a good commercial for some super practical product we absolutely need to purchase RIGHT NOW (did somebody say kitchenaid?). Of course, there are still corners of our basement I don't totally love, but I know, I will be able to tackle even those harder spaces with the tools learned on this channel. I love you Dawn and I am so glad I found your channel. Thank you so so much for your work!

@susangriner6736 10 күн бұрын

Our minds also play a trick on us. Once something is decluttered, I will often think of ways I _could_ have used it. I never thought of those uses while I had the item, but decluttering it brings on so many instances of " I really could have used that item on this project or that project!" I counter that though by reminding myself that this is just a reflex my brain has, so it is not really a problem that I got rid of the item. Also, since I enjoy making things, I used to come up with so may projects I _could_ use that items for in the future. But the truth is, I don't really want to do that project, my mind is just grasping for reasons to keep things. I have enough projects that i really want to do, I don't need to make up projects just to have a reason to keep more stuff.

@Trwanddon 11 күн бұрын

Some of us are still poor and do without. Not everyone is so wealthy they can throw thousands of dollars away. I see so many younger moms waste so much money over and over.

@margaret1336 11 күн бұрын

But the second part of the decluttering process is to stop buying things we don’t need so that we don’t waste money in the future.

@widow45 11 күн бұрын

Growing up in extreme poverty, I can attest that that exact principles apply to the poor. Typically you are working with an even more restrictive storage and living space. Being super selective and keeping only what u need and only when you need it, is critical for a functional household.

@wendyeskelin8765 11 күн бұрын

That could be a win for you. When they are decluttering/selling/giving away what they over bought, you can get it for pennies on the dollar! But I agree, a lot of people are buying way too much stuff for sake of buying.

@widow45 8 күн бұрын

@@wendyeskelin8765 exactly 👍 play clean up crew and sell off their stuff for good money 💰 it’s a great side hussle

@stamps4fungin 4 күн бұрын

I just gave away a LOT of crafting stuff to 2 people in a "buy nothing" group in my city. They were so happy. It felt good. Taking these types of items to Goodwill or Salvation Army doesn't do that for me, but better than nothing. This has really motivated me to give away more. Motivation is my main mind block.

@martharetallick204 11 күн бұрын

I just put the Vitamix in a cabinet. I like the freed up counter space.

@wendyeskelin8765 11 күн бұрын

I like to do that too! Mainly the toaster and can opener. get put in the cupboard. I do have crocks with cooking utensils out because I use them all the time, and it's easier to find things, and it doesn't take up that much room. We don't have a lot of counter space, but we do have a big island which is a life saver when cooking.

@TehilaM102 9 күн бұрын

Thank you Dawn for your kindness and the great videos

@Amyjo3800 11 күн бұрын

Heyyyyy been loving your content. Beginner minimalist here ! Love from Iowa!!! ❤❤❤❤❤

@TheMinimalMom 11 күн бұрын

I'm so glad to hear this Amy! We midwesterners have to stick together!!! ;)

@MsJujubee3 10 күн бұрын

I needed to hear this thank you!! I have had some regret lately, but it doesn’t negate the fact that I’ve gotten rid of so many things that we didn’t need and my house is now peaceful!

@cindywiemers9149 11 күн бұрын

Awesome video Dawn!! I had to pause about 3 times and go and put some stuff in a donation bag!! Thank you, love you! Cindy💗🌻

@GraceArellanoPerez 10 күн бұрын

I can't help it! I am loving my routine these past days! I want to declutter and have difficulty on starting. I started 2 days ago, and it feels soooo good to declutter and count each items!! It's like a game everyday and it sooo relieving ❤️❤️ while decluttering, I am watching and make your videos be on my background to keep me moving ❤️❤️❤️ thank you!!!

@ellenwiley9692 11 күн бұрын

just this last week i Declutter my craft stuuf and now i feel so much better and i have declutter a air fryer and now i wish i have keep it but i not going you buy another one i can make do with out it Thanks for all the great help you have given me with all the decluttering i have done you are my helper for all i have done !

@brightpurpleviking 11 күн бұрын

New subbie here. Your “cluttered” bedroom is my current bedroom. I see all my stuff and I literally wander around not knowing where to begin. And everything I have I like…but I don’t USE everything. I need a reasonable friend to come help me! Haha!

@nancyelizabeth8364 11 күн бұрын

If your a newbie you have lots of great videos to watch enjoy

@kmac2482 11 күн бұрын

Start with just one corner. That’s what I do to tackle overwhelming spots. Only do what’s in your vision without turning your head.

@username00009 11 күн бұрын

Have you declutters along with any of Dana K. White’s videos? She’s amazing at getting people through the overwhelming, and Dawn collaborated with her to create a course.

@Mostawesomelisa 11 күн бұрын

I have been a minimalist for years and have had two items I regretted getting rid of. One near the begging of my decluttering and one recently. The one recently I found something else I could use in place of it and the one a long time ago I have forgotten what it was so maybe it really isn’t a regret anymore. 😂

@cynthiashepherd8676 9 күн бұрын

Hi Dawn! I love that you discuss regret. And other concepts like decision fatigue, and inventory. But about regret, I wondered if you had ever heard the quote by FEDERICO FELLINI: "Regret is a waste of time; it is the past crippling you in the present." Ever since I heard that quote, it has blessed my life over and over. As soon as I feel my mind lean towards regret, or feel that familiar clutching feeling of it in my being, I repeat that quote to myself and I'm able to release the regret and just appreciate the learning experience for what it was/is. You, too, have been a blessing to me. Thank you for all you do!

@TigerG16 11 күн бұрын

Your spring time flowers and pillows look so great!

@sherylstretcher1973 11 күн бұрын

This was an excellent video, Dawn. It really gave me some info to keep in mind as I continue to sort through our belongings. We often tend to focus more on the past regret of those few items we wish we had kept, rather than the blessing brought from donating everything else that we rarely used and have since forgotten about. Thank you for the various ways to re-think the donation of those few “later regretted” items.

@AmeliaUnleashed 10 күн бұрын

I love the “Success Path” graph you showed! ✨After like 7-10 years of decluttering coming from a place of scarcity mindset… I feel I’m making quick decluttering progress and I starting some fine-tuning which makes me feel so much better about my progress. I really felt some progress when I started doing some fine-tuning because that’s where you realize… oh this project would have taken me weeks to complete, but I’ve finished reorganizing/decluttering the kitchen during the children’s nap time! 😮😅

@marjiescott2302 11 күн бұрын

I sit down once a week and watch all my favorite youtubers. I want you to know you are such a bright and shinning person your videos always make me feel happy and cheerful. I have no sisters but if i lived in a world where i could have sisters you would be on my "please god let her be my sister" list. Thank you for sharing your world with us.

@mariahwilson6505 6 күн бұрын

Another excellent video Dawn!!!

@Blubes23 11 күн бұрын

Well, I am relatively «new» into this. Couple of years, only this year serious. Despite what I wrote under this, I find decluttering old sentimental things making it easier to feel the moment in my heart. Or the person or memory and these things to be clearer in my heart rather than connected to the item. I managed to declutter a sweater I thought about alot after, bc the fit and color where so good!. Luckily for me, I had just packed it away, and found it in my last years winter wardrobe I had completely forgotten about. (I decluttered probably 50more pieces, everyone except this sweater) bc I already made my four season perfect wardrobe. I also thought I made a mistake by throwing away a new charger, turns out my cat had played with it and pushed it under the couch. Found it a few months later 😹

@AxonFleet 9 күн бұрын

I’ve been a fan of minimal mom for years and this is one of the best videos yet! I love this!!

@laura6796 11 күн бұрын

Such an informative video! I've never thought of regret that way! Very helpful to me. 😊

@livemorewithless7817 11 күн бұрын

That's exactly how I think about every aspect of life too. No regrets has always been my motto since my early teenage years and experiencing failure or things out of my control.

@Szn4ever 11 күн бұрын

Gr8 tips ty ty ty ❤ i am kind a minimalist for 8 months now. And feel amazing my house is almost always tidy and very easy to clean. I sell donate or recycle most of the things i don’t use or like

@thethriftycab5834 8 күн бұрын

Yes I’ve decluttered things that I wish I hadn’t but I truly believe this “ give and it shall be given unto you” so it seems I always come out better in the long run. Live generously and give with a generous heart this is what I try to live by.

@vickitucker9930 11 күн бұрын

You are so incredibly gracious Dawn, and you’re teaching me to be kinder to myself. Oh, yes…and how to declutter too. 😉

@ashleyashcraft1754 5 күн бұрын

My home is still super cluttered, but after redoing my kitchen and decluttering it 4 years ago, I can honestly say that my buying habits of what I bring into the kitchen itself is where it started. But now I make more and more conscious choices with my purchasing of items in my whole life and not just my kitchen- I take account of where I would use blank appliance, space in my drawer, etc. So realistically I only buy replacement things for stuff I run out of or damage beyond repair, etc. And I make more trips to the dump than I did before so that even if I'm not doing a big deep clean and declutter, I am getting THAT item or those items out and away from my house so I'm still making my living space better rather than the same or worse. The amount of money I have saved with these decisions has outweighed any other stress or replacing items. I buy food items in bulk to save money and freezer meal prep and small homesteading so it does require equipment and space but I started with keeping the appliances and decluttering pots and pans and Tupperware and recycle bin went the cool whip containers (you're from Minnesota just like me so you get it) and honestly I have since decluttered 3 appliances, replaced 2, and added 1 new one. As far as Tupperware, pans, etc ... I bought 1 additional 9x13 so I now own 2. That whole storing them with lids on has been revolutionary in my kitchen space. It is these little things that really add up over time. Do I live in as simple of a house as I want? No. Far from it. I don't know if I will ever. But, Day by day, month by month, year by year, less stuff comes in, more stuff leaves, and my purchasing power has been so much more effective in my long term financial goals. My youngest LOVES the time will tell bin also and she has since changed her outlook on toys, etc as well (she's currently 12)

@katrinaseavers4938 11 күн бұрын

Such a great video Dawn! 👏🏼 I do get scared of regrets when decluttering, even though I know for certain we have enough. This video me realize I will have so many MORE regrets if I don’t declutter more! Wasted time, more anxiety, and being in a mess! So this whole time I’ve been scared of regrets, I was procrastinating and didn’t even realize I’m now regretting not decluttering more already!! 🤪

@judifuller485 11 күн бұрын

Welcome back, Susie! I am sooooo happy to see you back! I think of you every time I hear Cape Breton mentioned somewhere!

@nanchesca3950 3 күн бұрын

I really like the idea of letting the thrift stores 'hold' my stuff for me, and if I need it again, I pay a little 'rent' and buy it again. For instance, I threw my daughter a baby shower this past weekend, and I had to buy a few platters. A couple at the thrift store, a few at the dollar store. Cost maybe 20 bucks total, and I didn't have that clutter in my house for the past 9 years since I had my last need for such things

@babytexan3038 10 күн бұрын

I wish I could like this video a bunch of times! So many helpful tips. Thanks, Dawn!

@roserose8283 21 сағат бұрын

Whenever I do a big declutter, I always give away *one* thing I want to use again later. So I have just _accepted_ that this will always happen. But the decluttering of all those other things is SO valuable, it is usually worth it. Sometimes when I eventually replace it, I get a *smaller* one!

@leejacobs3620 8 күн бұрын

YOU"RE doing a great job! Thank you for sharing.

@spiritjunkie1913 10 күн бұрын

I loved your graphic on the success path! I’m definitely going to listen to this again. There’s so maybe ways clutter costs us. I definitely have been paralyzed to let go. But now because of the comments of others, I can see letting go has benefits I never considered and that is far more freeing

@Pioneer67 11 күн бұрын

I decluttered my childhood toys and items I collected. I never thought I would need these things….well I now have grandchildren and I am really regretting getting rid of the barbies (including barbie clothes my mom had made), a special stuffed animal and doll house furniture 😢. I try to tell myself that they are being used by someone who needed them more, but it is difficult sometimes.

@JamieM470 11 күн бұрын

I saved my son's action figures for many years, waiting for grandchildren. I had a whole bin full of them. All in great condition (my son loved them and took great care of them) and mostly irreplaceable because they're no longer manufactured. I was blessed with grandsons! When they were more than old enough to enjoy the action figures, I brought out the bin. A couple of them were actually a bit old for action figures, but I waited because I was overly cautious. I thought those toys were so awesome, and my grandsons would treasure them just like my son had. They destroyed most of them. I was so disappointed. I found a few that were still intact and donated them. Sometimes reality is completely different from what we envisioned. I wish I had donated everything to begin with like you did, instead of storing them for years and building up a beautiful scenario in my head, then getting disappointed.

@Smithpolly 11 күн бұрын

@@JamieM470 Except if you have donated them, there's a good chance that you'd be writing a comment now about how you wished you'd kept them. You'd still be under the impression that your grandsons would have treasured the toys.

@JamieM470 11 күн бұрын

@@Smithpolly Yes, that was my point exactly! The OP regrets decluttering special toys. Maybe if she'd saved them, she would regret that like I do. I regret saving them. Maybe if I'd donated them, I'd regret that like she does. Dawn is right. Both of us are wasting mental space on a presumption that the choice not made would have turned out better. It's a presumption. A fantasy. Reality may have been very different.

@Pioneer67 9 күн бұрын

@@JamieM470 The funny thing about what I did, I saved the action figures, hot wheels and legos...guess what the girls and boys both play with 😂

@sparrowt4082 4 күн бұрын

"Negativity Bias" wow, didnt know there was a ord for it. Explains so much. 😅

@user-oy8kk4hh4t 11 күн бұрын

I've gotten to the point that am fine tuning (I think) but I miss when I was tearing through a space and filling up my car...it felt so good 👍. I only made one "mistake" I tossed out my guest parking permit. But it's not a big deal. Thanks for another great video. Regret is like worry, a waste of time and energy....it changes nothing.

@amandataub842 Күн бұрын

I have lots of things that I decluttered that I am very happy that I let go. There are some things that I let go that I do regret. The hardest things to declutter are sentimental items. There are sentimental items that I decluttered that I now regret letting go. I acknowledge that I miss those things and the memories they bring up, but I try not to beat myself up over it. I am privileged enough that it only bugs me a little when I very occasionally re-buy something that I let go. I do remember in my younger days that resources (money) was scarce and not to be wasted. Sometimes, it is the memory of scarce times that we fight when we are decluttering. I tell myself that I am letting go of things so that other people experiencing scarcity can have nice things for a reasonable cost.